unblocked on instagram 3 months no contact

I called it NC I’ve never gone thru with it it’s been 1 day and I’ve cried myself to sleep for over 3 years idk if I can do this or how to fix it q

So here it goes...

So there was this girl i really really loved, like with my entire soul and always thought that If it'll be anyone, it would be her and only her, So in 10th, I confessed my feelings to her and she just said, "Let me clear NEET First, Then ill think about us", and tbh she was always upfront about her future and i respected that, but coming back to the story, i said "Ok, III wait for you", Then at the end of 10th, we both scored good, 82.4(me) and 94.4(her), we both celebrated....But amongst that celebration, there was one sad reality, She told me that she was changing schools after 10th...I was really so sad because... We have been together as friends for more than 4 years and seeing her go wasn't what i ready for, but well, I got myself together and she left... It was so brutal for the first 3 months not seeing her face, her voice and what not... Well... After some time, Another Disaster, She told me that she was deactivating Insta and everything to focus on her studies more, nd then i was really shattered from the inside, but then i thought ki, "Yaar, We both will succeed Together" nd well, Total Disconnection from her...She did came on any family occasions and festivals but that too...Well, on the last day of her being active of Insta and everywhere, we chatted one last time and well, In the end of our chat she wrote me a paragraph in which in the end it said "Study well all these years and...521", I asked her what 521 meant and she just told me she'll tell me after she clears NEET... Well, After all this of being sad, My real mistake comes... There was this one girl in my class, that really loved talking to me and spending time with me, and well...She made me laugh, we shared our problems and got close in a really short amount of time... And well...She caught feelings for me and well... After not being to communicate with her for so so long, the same feeling changed in me...Little did i knew it w trap...But well, She confessed first and idk why...I accepted...and well, after some time she really did find out because of her accounts and through her friends still in the school... Then when she confronted to me about it, i was so so scared and like got to my senses and really tried fixing everything and saving everything but it was really too late...She was so furious and cursed me so so much and i felt so shit at myself of what and why did i do this, Well, She did block me everywhere and... That Night only...One message popped up and it was her...She told me that i shouldn't have done this, These were her exact words, "I hope you don't see this message but if you do, You shouldn't have done this, I swear, 521 really meant I love you, Goodbye"

I swear my whole world just became so dark, I really tried everything again...but well, that was the end... I'm still am angry at myself...I really want to fix my mistake, I know what i did was so so so bad, it cant be forgiven but i really want to change, I really wanna fix everything, I still love her guys, She's still in my head, she comes in my dreams, randomly appears in my mind, her laugh, her smile, her eyes and what not, She was my everything and i still want her only to be my everything, Even my mom loved her and still does but my one stupid mistake, I really got distracted so easily and I know I cant be trusted again, But I really want just one last chance to fix everything guys... Everything that she loved or didnt love always appear in my mind if I hear or see something about it...I want to fix everything guys... Please Help Me, what should I do... I know I deserve the hate, but I really want to become who I really was before...

Basically I've wanted to text my ex we broke up before i did my exchange year and spoke throughout summer then i left obviously. I dont think they're any hard feelings or anything but I really want to message him to see how hes doing and stuff also because hes not very social and online so I definitely cant stalk. Also idk if its best to just leave him alone lol. HELP LOL

My girlfriend and I just broke up, in a snap. No fights. I don’t know how to process everything right now.
She ended things.

The thing is, this isn’t my first heartbreak. I’ve been through a long-term relationship before, and I know how painful it is to rebuild your life around yourself again. I know the stages, the loneliness, the overthinking, the urge to reach out, and the days when even the simplest things feel exhausting.
But knowing what heartbreak feels like doesn’t make going through it again any easier.
Part of me feels relieved because our relationship has been taking a toll on me. Another part of me is devastated because I still love her. It’s such a confusing feeling to grieve someone while also knowing that the relationship wasn’t making you happy anymore.
I’m trying to accept that she might never come back, never explain things, and never give me the closure I’m looking for.
**For those of you who have gone through a breakup while still being in love with the person, how did you actually get through it?**
How did you stop waiting for them to come back?
What did you do when you wanted to reach out?
How did you deal with the loneliness, especially at night?
How did you rebuild your life and find yourself again?
How did you stop replaying everything in your head and wondering what you could have done differently?
I don’t need to hear that there are plenty of fish in the sea or that I’ll find someone better. I know life goes on. I’m just trying to figure out how to get through the part where it hurts.
I’d really appreciate hearing from people who have been through this, especially those who had to start over after already experiencing a major heartbreak before.

to keep this as short as possible, this is not something i would have ever expected from him, like at all. it was a very heartbreaking but mutual breakup, as there was a lot of things he wasn’t doing that i needed in terms of my boundaries and romantic gestures. but whenever we argued, he’d say that if we broke up he’d never be able to move on, i changed his life and i mean too much to him, yada yada. he’s been on dating apps before, but he always said how much he hated them, and he deleted them to be loyal for me the night we met (i didn’t find that out till later). fast forward to now, it’s been two weeks since we officially ended things and stopped talking. we had the notion that we would try again in a year and see if things could change and work. then one of my friends approached me on campus today and asked if i was single, because she had seen my ex on tinder a few days ago. I asked her his name and she knew it without me saying it, and when i showed her the picture of him she frowned and nodded. it just sucks because he really made me feel like he’d never do something like that to me, especially because he made such a big point that i should stay single for a while. it just shows how many double standards he has. i just feel like i don’t even know the man that i dated for almost two years. and we both even acknowledged that we still love each other, but it just wasn’t healthy. So was the love a lie too? i feel like i don’t deserve real love at this point, and i just don’t understand what it is that makes even good people walk all over me. i suppose my ask is why do guys do these things? is he really moving on already? did i mean that little to him? and like, how can i get over the idea that he moved on faster than me, when he always preached about how significant i was to him? i just don’t want to sit here and think about all the terrible things. thanks so much, anything is helpful :) this semester has already been so rough and i’m not equipped to get through this on my own, especially since my ex was also my very best friend.

Ya lo eliminé, eliminé su contacto y desgraciadamente me se su número de memoria, eliminé mis redes sociales, no tiene manera de comunicarse conmigo, está fuera de la ciudad y eso es bueno, al menos por el momento no va a buscarme, me duele la ruptura, ¿Cómo mantener mi mente ocupada?

Acabo de tener una recaída, no eh dejado de tener un nudo en la garganta, la piel se me eriza cada 6 minutos mientras los ojos se me llenan de lágrimas, es un reflejo de lo mucho que te ame, tanto que ya no tengo amor para mi, me siento triste, decepcionando, confundido, pero sobre todo feliz de que ya no estés conmigo, feliz porque se que estarás mucho mejor sin mi, te bloquee de todas las redes sociales y estoy luchando por ser fuerte y mantener el contacto cero durante el mayor tiempo posible.

I met someone on Reddit and we got really close over time. We used to talk for hours about literally everything. It felt like we had a genuine connection, and I got attached to him without really realising how much.

During this time, he was diagnosed with a terminal illness, and I tried to be there for him as much as I could. I listened to him, supported him, worried about his health and genuinely wanted him to be okay. Obviously, I could only do so much from behind a screen, but I tried.

The thing is, I never really understood what we were to each other. We only spoke on Telegram. He never gave me his number or added me on Instagram, so there was always this part of his life that I wasn't really a part of, despite how close our conversations felt.

At one point, he disappeared for a few months. I have severe anxiety, and I kept wondering if he just didn't want to talk to me anymore. I continued messaging him occasionally because I was worried about him, but eventually, I started focusing on myself and trying to move on. I also wanted a real relationship, and I knew I couldn't keep holding on to something that had no clear direction.

He eventually messaged me again in August. We spoke, and I told him I had been going on dates because I wanted to find a relationship. He said we could talk and figure things out. But after thinking about it, I told him that since we didn't seem to see a future together, maybe we should let each other go and focus on our own lives.

We had a really amicable goodbye. There was no fight or bitterness. We wished each other well, and there was a lot of affection in that conversation. I genuinely thought we had ended things on good terms.

A few weeks later, I found out he had blocked me on Telegram and changed his username.

I honestly don't know what to make of it.

I understand that he doesn't owe me anything, and maybe he had his own reasons for doing this. Given his illness, I don't want to make assumptions about what he might be going through. But I can't help feeling confused about how we went from having such a loving goodbye to this.

I think the hardest part is that I still care about him. For so long, I was worried about his health, and I think I started associating him with that feeling of wanting to take care of someone. Even when I accepted that we probably weren't going to have a future together, I couldn't just switch off that concern.

And now I don't even know how to process it. I keep wondering whether I misunderstood our connection, whether I got attached to the idea of him, or whether two people can genuinely care about each other and still end up as complete strangers.

Part of me feels silly for being this affected by someone I never even met. Another part of me knows that the conversations were real, the feelings were real, and I genuinely cared about what happened to him.

I'm not looking for a reason to hate him or blame him. I just want to stop thinking about it so much and make peace with the fact that I might never know what happened or what I meant to him.

Has anyone been through something similar? How did you move on? How do you stop questioning the entire connection just because of how it ended? And how do you let go of someone you still care about when you don't really have a proper ending to hold on to?

Used AI to refine sentences

Okay so I blocked an ex for them to chase me or realise I was leaving or to make them stay (if it makes sense). But he never contacted me and moved on with his life. I wanted to step back to see if he would ever initiate or repair the relationship and he never did. It was a long term relationship ( a messy one) but i thought he was committed to me , now in hindsight I realise I was the one carrying the relationship and he was just there for comfort or convience, but he was the one who claimed to want something serious and did a lot of future faking. I never discussed about marriage because i believed in not jinxing things, but i believed his words. I try not to think about why he didn't commit to me or was present to me because he had reasons to , I was exactly his type of a girl and he used to say he got really lucky I ever gave him a chance.

Coming to present day , it's been more than a year of no contact and i don't even want him back but i realise how badly i was discarded, or the lack of urgency and closure from him, so knowing this how do I move on? I am okay on most days but my hormonal cycle ( PMS) and retrogrades especially put in a frenzy again. So for any females reading this if you are going through something similar or grieving over someone, how to actually stop this and focus on moving on ?

So before I get into how we started talking again, I just wanna summarize our relationship, how it ended, and how I felt about the situation.

Okay, so I was with this guy for around 2 years, we got together my sophomore year and his junior year of Highschool. Near the end of my junior year, he cheated on me with a freshman and almost caught a case because of the alarming age difference. He confessed what had happened in a rather frivolous manner and decided to compare him cheating on me to a lesson in the bible. So naturally, I broke up with him the same day after a couple hours to think everything over.

Now I’m not gonna act like our relationship was completely flawless before the incident, I definitely had reasons to break up with him before what had happened, but I wasn’t brave enough to do so. He was very controlling over what I listened to, what media I consumed, my opinions on literally anything, and would also coerce me into engaging with him sexually despite repeatedly stating that I wasn’t interested in doing that.

While we got into many fights about the previously mentioned issues, the worst of the issues always came back to how often I’d engage with him intimately. Like I said before, I hated being intimate with him, it always made me feel uncomfortable and sick to my stomach when it was done with. And the week leading up to him cheating on me, I had been abstaining myself from doing anything I’d deem intimate, obviously excluding cuddling and kissing and stuff of that sort. He agreed that it was for the best of our relationship and that was that. He never expressed any feelings of disagreement leading up to what had happened, so I figured that there were no issues with our then current arrangement. Although I’d later find out that he had been keeping his true feelings about the arrangement from me.

Anyways, tracking everything back to present day, we’ve been broken up for about 2 years now, and we had met at an event for our old Highschool. We got some polite conversation in, there was no bad blood between us because our break up had been very clean despite the reason for the separation. There wasn’t any negative tension even though it felt awkward to talk with him after everything. He asked if I had found a boyfriend yet and I told him that I wasn’t “in the dating pool” and I had asked the same thing because the conversation seemed to flow in that direction. He told me that he wasn’t dating either and the conversation trailed off into a less relevant path, (what I’ve been up to and what he’s been up to.) Anyways, after random conversation here and there, the event ended and I left swiftly, I didn’t properly say goodbye or anything, just left to go home.

I didn’t think too much about our interaction until I received a text from him a couple days later asking if we could meet up to talk or get food. I had replied politely like anyone would, and said that I might be able to arrange that. He kept asking if we could meet up and once he offered to pay for a meal I eventually agreed to meet up, kinda shallow I’m not proud. Anyways, we meet up at some restaurant, not fancy but not fast food, and just talk. He tells me something important about his family that he wanted to tell me in person, I share my opinion on it, and then we start talking about our past relationship. I didn’t want to get into this territory considering how difficult the whole experience was for me, but the conversation flowed surprisingly well.

After the meal, we went to the store to burn some time and talk some more, and we got into some deeper topics. He told me more about how he felt the week leading up to him cheating on me, and I got a better perspective on what really happened. Back then he told me that he “blacked out” and then cheated, but he surprisingly confessed that it was premeditated which I had always suspected. We share our feelings on our past relationship, good and bad, and we are both feeling very relieved since there was a lot to air out. Anyways, I’m gonna bring up something that isn’t flattering at all, but after he cheated on me, his best friend was super sweet and caring, and I ended up temporarily crushing on him. Not my proudest moment at all, and I still feel guilty about it even though the relationship was over, but it was such a messy situation even before my ex found out. He finally brought it up, I told him my feelings on the whole situation. His bestfriend left out a lot of details about our peculiar dynamic that developed after I broke up with my ex, but I’ve got no hard feelings at all.

Anyways to just summarize how we got back into touch, we talked a lot about our relationship, got a lot of stuff off our chests, and have an entirely new level of clarity in our current situation, (I’m not gonna call it a relationship at all), than we ever had.

Now the reason I’m going to Reddit, he called me and wanted to talk about whatever we have going on right now, and where I see it going. I was very honest and straightforward, I told him that in the most flattering light, I see us being friends. And I could tell that this troubled him a bit, and he confessed that he was looking to get back with me, but was glad that I was blunt with where I see this reconnection going. Now he keeps going on about how God is working through our relationship and trying to do something with us, and that he feels no stress or pressure because he knows it’ll work out somehow. But I feel the complete opposite. I’m confused, I’m anxious, and I’m just plain pitiful.

I have no idea what to do, because while speaking with him does feel right in a certain way, it just feels so so wrong in other ways. And I’m not sure how to explain it. I would like to be friends with him again, but with how things ended between us, all of my friends and family absolutely despise him, while I’ve decided to forgive him because I wanted to heal. But now that he’s sort of back, it feels like I’m regressing, and that all of the work I put into moving on is for nothing. And the fact that I care more about how others think about me talking to my ex rather than how I feel about it is really disappointing. I hate the idea of people thinking that I’m taking him back, and I hate the idea that people may think I’m weak because I’m talking with him again. I just wish that their opinions of me didn’t matter so that I could make this decision without the weight of other’s perception. I’m not sure if I’m articulating this in the best way because I kinda came on here in a panic, but I just don’t know how to should deal with this.

Some bonus context: He got baptized and is claiming to be “born anew” and not the same person he was before, I attended this. His best friend that I had crushed on has allegedly been reporting my activity on my socials to my ex, he brought it up during our conversation at dinner. While I was crushing on the best friend, they were not talking simply because the friend claimed that he didn’t wanna associate with my ex after what happened, so in my delusion I guess I figured it meant he liked me? Idk I was dumb. Anyways I know for sure that he wants to get back with me and that I don’t wanna date anyone at all right now, much less an old flame.

Anyways thanks for reading, if you have any advice to give me that would be awesome sauce, even if it’s really minuscule. THANKS FOR LISTENING TO MY DUMB ISSUES🎉

My ex of 4.5 -5 years, which we been broken up for a couple of years, he is in another relationship of course, we both moved on. Today I was at work, minding my business when his mom calls me and starts telling me all that happened (his mom and I were always close, she was there for me when I had no family) I felt like my heart sank to my feet. She first texted “he got into a bike accident, and they took him unconscious to the hospital” but apparently this happened Friday, which is so weird because I was feeling on edge that Friday being so stressed, anxious, with a horrible headache (idk what I m even saying, I just think is a coincidence maybe) but anyways, he is okay and alive took her 10 min to tell me I call her as soon as I got off of work, I almost fainted at work. We ended (him and I ) now in good terms but idk guys, she keeps saying he wants another bike and I think he will die if he does, I m just worried and hoping someone changes his mind, am I stupid for worrying or crazy? Haha help.

My ex and I recently broke up, and he blocked me because his new girlfriend asked him to. For a long time, I was also blocked by her, so I ended up blocking both of them. However, my ex used to reach out to me from another fake account to check if I was okay—that was pretty weak, but that's a story for another day. Today, she unblocked me. I'm wondering why she decided to do that now. A few months ago, when I reacted to his post, she came and sent me a message calling me a bitch and telling me to stay away, among other things. So, why now? My ex told me that she’s been stalking both of our accounts and feels like she’s caught in the middle of us. Honestly, I haven't fully recovered mentally; I'm going through a tough time because of these two.

do you guys talk with your ex because both of you are wanting a retry or are you guys talking (again or not) because yall wanted to stay as friends. in my case he wants another try but i dont and i just want us to be friends. is it a bad thing? like am i keeping him there or something? i did tell him that im not looking for a relationship and that im focused on myself.

To the kind souls who take the time to read this and reply to this post, i dont know how to pay you back but trust me i appreciate the hell out of it. Had to break up with my girlfriend of 7 years, of which she may have actually been loyal to me for the past 4. Im 29m shes 25f. Had to leave her because she would just never come clean about the cheating she did in the past. BUT she did a complete 180 (I THINK) and was semi honest, loyal, paid for our living space and always cleaned and even did my laundry. She would fold my clothes for work. But it ate me from the inside whenever i was gone on trips as a pilot. But she would only trickle truth. Maybe it shouldnt have mattered by that point, shes a young and hot girl, but how could i marry a girl i couldnt completely trust. Anyways i packed all of my stuff and left her september 1st. By the 6th, she was on a boat with a fat old 40 year old getting plowed. A friend of her dads by the way haha. Disgusting. Anyways why does she still try to reach out at this point even after she admitted herself that its over and swears she regrets ever cheating or trickletruthing me? Yet ive always had to play detective and obtain information myself or distance myself from the relationship and she would only trickle truth me just enough to keep me from finally leaving her.

By the way, she still says to this day that “i know everything”. I believe shes still being deceptive. Been hearing that for years yet theres always something new coming out.

Since leaving her ive done nothing but level up. Big calorie deficit, ripping the gym daily, back into jiu jitsu, and got a new flying job that starts at $175k a year. I was going to help her out and put her on my health insurance for a year, but i didnt want to reopen any contact with her. I cant figure out her intentions and it pisses me off. Because of that ive been absolutely no contact. She makes phone numbers to text me and call me. I dont reply.

so the actual relationship lasted 6 months, the following year and a half i spent trying to break up with him but it felt more like negotiating terms. i loved him so it was difficult but the more it went on, i fell out of love and saw many things i couldnt live with. he was a great and affectionate boyfriend but his actions showed he only cared about how he felt with me and didn’t care about how i felt. Did not respect my boundaries and made my “No“ feel worthless, as though i had to say it more firmly. often guilt tripped me too. Im too nice i know. anyway i broke up w him (again) 5month ago and left for vacation, i told him i wanted no contact. every few weeks he broke it. i would leave him on delivered for weeks and then firmly say I wanna continue no contact. i came back and he begged me to meet up to just get some things off his chest. he basically complained about things he wasnt happy with during the relationship. I only met with him to have a civil conversation and be awkward if we ever bump into each other. Then he asked to meet again “for fun” i said no, he kept insisting, i never answered. Now a month later he texts me and calls me. i dont answer but he keeps calling. i asked why he was calling and he kept insisting to meet and says that hes struggling with something and wants to talk.

should i block him…

My ex partner who completely betrayed me and played the hell out of me and wasted my life (but I still care about him being alive), asked to see me and that he’s not doing well, so I say yes. But then he goes MIA. He has, for awhile, been trying to “win” me back for awhile, be emotional with me, and I guess lure me back. I have kept in contact a little, I have told him many times that I don’t want him anymore, im done, im tired, and have turned him down many times.
The next day he told me he hurt himself, he’s in the hospital and he’s not okay. He didn’t tell me anything else. That night he said he was discharged and would talk to me later. He didn’t answer or anything for 2 and a half days.
The next time he did say anything, he texted me saying “I’m tired of living”. I texted him asking, why are you saying that, are you okay, please don’t give up…. And then nothing else.
the next day still no response, and honestly I was really concerned and worried, I was afraid he was really going to do something, he already said he hurt himself. I was afraid of not doing anything and him doing something to himself. So I reached out to his sister, who I’m cool with. I told her the gist of everything, what he said and that I’m worried. I asked her not to tell him. She said ok and she’ll check on him. Later on he finally said he’s alive just recovering. I ask “are you okay?”. He said physically he broke a couple knuckles and his neck hurts but he should be fine, and nothing else. I asked what happened. No response. It has been 11 days now, it’s odd of him, despite everything.
My question is, was I wrong to go to his sister and tell her my concerns and what he said?
I’m afraid his sister mentioned I told her, and he’s pissed at me. I know I shouldn’t care because of what he did and what happened to us, but I’m worried about that

I ended it, he basically cried but we parted ways amicably.
We were only together for 4 months, never said I love you’s, he was still pretty guarded with me until we broke up, the tears surprised me.

He tried to be friendly with me in the beginning after the breakup; seemed happy whenever we ran into each other the first few times (mutual friends) but I could tell something was off, cause he would stare at me so much.

After he sent me a ‘can I have another kiss’ text. I turned him down kindly, and it’s been no contact. I’ve run into him once after and he didn’t even look my way.

We have each other on social media still, because we wanted to remain cordial with each other. I noticed he’s been posting angry music.
Music about going to the ‘dark side’ ‘losing humanity’ type songs.
The lyrics are alarming bc it’s like ‘I don’t care anymore’.

He’s had a rough life, so I am worried. I’m not trying to get him back, I care about him.
Should I reach out, or would that just do more damage?

My ex and I broke up about 3 months ago. We were serious, talked about marriage and kids, and I still love her.
In July, she kept saying she was done but secretly told my mom she wanted me to fight for us. We eventually spent 9 hours together talking about reconciliation. She cried and wanted me back, but I wasn’t sure at the time. We argued the next day and stayed broken up.
In August, she randomly reached out after I posted something emotional on Instagram, then later got upset and blocked me again.
Throughout our breakup, she’s been watching my Instagram Stories through two burner accounts. One even followed me, liked old posts and commented on my Reel.
Last week, she angrily messaged me about a Reel that reminded her of issues in our relationship. A few hours later, she called me.
This Monday, I reached out and told her I still loved her and wanted to marry her. She got upset and said, “What gives you the audacity to say that after almost 3 months of not speaking?”
She said it was too late, told me she had a boyfriend, and asked me not to contact her.
Here’s what confuses me. During our relationship, she was extremely firm about never entertaining or keeping tabs on exes while dating someone. Yet she’s continued watching my Stories through her burner accounts, even after our last conversation.
She’s also said she was completely done before, only to later admit she wanted reconciliation.
I’m respecting her request for no contact, but I’m struggling to make sense of everything.
Do you think she genuinely has a boyfriend, or could she still be hurt and emotionally attached? Am I just holding onto hope?
Would appreciate honest opinions, especially from women who’ve experienced something similar

Hace tres meses q termine con mi novio y aun no lo supero, pero el ya tiene novia y se ven muy felices, pero lo q pasa es q menos lo voy a poder superar porq está en el mismo curso que yo y como q me siento muy incómoda en el mismo lugar q el, y eh pensado en cambiarme de escuela pero no quiero dejar a mis amigas y es como q le daría el gusto a el y eso yo no quiero.

Algún consejo?

Its so weird that after everything hes done to me I hated him for a while and now I miss him again I want to reply to the messages he sent which I didn’t reply to, hes been all over my mind for the past week although If hed kiss my feet for me to be with him I would say no, any explanation for why this is happening to me?!!

My ex cheated on me and we broke up almost two years ago. After we crossed paths this summer, I wrote her a message apologizing for my part in how it all ended. She replied kindly, said she holds no grudge, and later added that she'd get back to me about maybe having a conversation. I told her to just reach out whenever she feels like it, and she liked that message. Since then I haven't heard a single thing. She's in a happy relationship now and I know I have no claim on her time. Is it realistic to still expect a message, or is the silence my answer?

My ex and I were together for six years before he broke up with me, kicked me out, and said he wanted to date other people. I begged him to stay, but he still left. Later, he came back, gave me mixed signals, and we eventually got back together. It’s only been two weeks, and he’s already being inconsistent, barely communicating, and treating me badly again. Why come back just to treat me the same way? Do you think he genuinely wants me, or does he just not want to lose me?

Now, here’s where it gets interesting. He also dated another woman for about three months. He was her first boyfriend and took her virginity. He introduced her to his family and wanted to meet hers, but eventually broke up with her, saying she deserved better.
After the breakup, she blocked him, but he created a fake account to contact her, invited her to a family dinner, and asked her to be his girlfriend again. They tried again, but he became inconsistent, so she ended things. They later became friends with benefits.
this girl doesn’t seem to chase him. She appears happy living her life, didn’t wish him a happy birthday, and mostly posts about enjoying herself. He still follows her but doesn’t like her posts. I don’t know if they’re still in contact.

And they both follow each other . Will he try to go back to her . Is he waiting for her . Why does he still follow her

This will be a bit long to give full context of our relationship and breakup, but I’d really appreciate some insight.

My ex and I were together for 3 years. We had a very deep and connecting relationship, I definitely felt like he was my person. We knew each other as kids and went to school together until 7th grade, and reconnected in 2023 as adults. He made comments all the time about how I was the best relationship he has ever had, I was his dream girl, exactly his type, not like other girls, etc. I truly felt that through most of our relationship.

Our relationship wasn’t perfect, however. Over time, I realized he was very insecure. He would ask me questions that most people wouldn’t want an answer to and I’m a very honest person. He wanted words of affirmation a lot. I would try my best to pick up the slack but of course real life happens and I don’t constantly think about how I can compliment him every day. I also have anxiety and can be a bit critical, nitpicky, and negative due to that.

He also has a now 6 year old, and I didn’t bond with him right away because it felt like he rushed me into that connection with him and overanalyzed my anxiety about him having a kid. I noticed behavioral issues and parenting issues and pointed them out and tried to help. He took a lot of what I had to say, whether about his kid or not, as an attack and became very defensive. This year though, I got very close with him and spent a lot of 1:1 time with him, which has made this breakup all the more difficult.

While I may have struggled with the above and words of affirmation, I showed my love through a lot of other ways. I remembered the small things, I tried to make his life easier by doing small tasks for him and buying groceries and making/buying dinner when I would come over, getting him and his son very special gifts for holidays, etc. I was also very affectionate.

A month before we were supposed to move in, he pointed out that I was being too anxious about the move in. I was anxious because I’m about to live full time with him and his kid and that’s a big change. However, I was doing everything I could to make the move in happen behind the scenes. I wasn’t hesitating. The straw that broke the camels back was one morning I was on the phone with him and made a comment about how I didn’t want him to shave his facial hair because I found him more attractive with it and he looked too young without it. He almost always had facial hair while we were together. He went off on me about how I make him feel unattractive and put a pause on the move in talk. A week later, he broke up with me. He said he’s tired of the cycle of asking me to make him feel wanted/attractive/appreciated and only doing so when things are dire, then the cycle repeats. He felt “emotionally exhausted” and “eroded” and said once his feelings are gone, they don’t come back.

Within a week, I find out he’s talking to his coworker. She had a boyfriend at the time too. His friends told me this isn’t unusual, as he cannot stay single once he’s out of a relationship. I eventually find out she’s 9-10 years younger than we are (we are 31, and she is 21-22).

We have been broken up for 4 months. Over time, I’ve slowly been removed off of all social media. For the first month or so, I did the usual begging and pleading and wanting him to give me a chance to make improvements. He was very hot and cold. I eventually stopped. Since then, he has been the one to reach out. The longest we have gone without talking is 2 weeks. At first, I was holding out hope that this meant he would eventually want to reconcile, but as time has gone on, I’ve started losing hope. He would casually check in, tell me something that happened at work, flirt, tell me he was thinking of me, and we have been intimate at times as well. He claims he doesn’t have those romantic feelings for me, it’s more nostalgic and comfortable. When he’s come over, sometimes we have just cuddled and kissed and it feels exactly like how we were when we were together. It hasn’t always led to sex.

He told me he remembered my Reddit account (where I posted about the breakup) so he saw me discussing my feelings about everything there and that’s how he found out I knew who this other girl was. I don’t understand why he’s checking if he’s truly moved on? I privated that account so now I’m posting here.

I found out last week that at some point he made things official with this girl. I don’t ask questions because the details would upset me. I do know she looks nothing like me. He still claims I am “10000% his type” and he’s still drawn to me despite being with her. However, he’s not seeming to want to reconcile. He said he’s never been in this situation before and it’s very confusing for him why he keeps wanting to reach out to me even though he is with someone else. Last time I talked to him, I told him he really needs to think about all of this and what it means, that was 5 days ago. When I asked him before what he thinks it means about his current situation, he said he avoids it because he feels like a terrible person. So maybe some avoidant tendencies?

I don’t know what to do. I obviously want this (what I assume to be a rebound) to fail, but they’ve been talking for 4 months and at some point have made things official). I think what we had was very special, but if he thought so, he wouldn’t have dumped me to look for better. I was there for him when he had hardly any income, a not so great car, and was struggling with a rambunctious toddler. Now that he has taken some of my parenting advice, has a better job, more money, and a new car, this other girl gets the best parts of him and doesn’t have to choose to stay through the hard parts like I did. I truly did love him.

Questions: Is it too late to try and enforce no contact if I do want him to regret his decision? I feel like he hasn’t even had the chance to truly miss me yet because like I said, we have only gone 2 weeks without talking. However, we at most only talk like 1-2 times a week and it’s usually when he is at work or between work. Why does he keep reaching out if he has another person? I’d like to think his burnout and resentment buried his true feelings for me by the time things ended, but maybe that’s wishful thinking.
Has anyone else ever been in a similar situation? I’ve had a really hard time ignoring him because I do still love and care about him even though his decisions lately have been reckless and not typical for him. I’ll take any opinions on this whole mess too.

it's been paining a lot , like why the hell I even trusted that ugly boy who don't have looks , smartness or anything I gave him direction and he gave me trauma . It's really difficult to move on , I jus left him unblocked whole night and expecting for a msg which didn't came yesterday also I did the same , is it so simple for a boy to chase a girl for 2 years and once they get u , they loose all their interest from you , you try to handle things for two years like kse bhi chal jaaye but at last samne se msg aata hai ki jus bcoz of ur cursing , abusing I don't wnna make things work out , am I mad or something that I'll abuse or curse him without any reason no vhaii u did the things which hurted me a lot , why don't u see that . So we had our final break up on 6th of October. Will he ever feel like how wrong he did to me ???? I never wanted to come in relationship and he forced me to come and then when I came in relationship he completely changed.😭😭