r/ExNoContact • u/Still_Ad8027 • 16h ago

Help Getting over a guy

Okay so I blocked an ex for them to chase me or realise I was leaving or to make them stay (if it makes sense). But he never contacted me and moved on with his life. I wanted to step back to see if he would ever initiate or repair the relationship and he never did. It was a long term relationship ( a messy one) but i thought he was committed to me , now in hindsight I realise I was the one carrying the relationship and he was just there for comfort or convience, but he was the one who claimed to want something serious and did a lot of future faking. I never discussed about marriage because i believed in not jinxing things, but i believed his words. I try not to think about why he didn't commit to me or was present to me because he had reasons to , I was exactly his type of a girl and he used to say he got really lucky I ever gave him a chance.

Coming to present day , it's been more than a year of no contact and i don't even want him back but i realise how badly i was discarded, or the lack of urgency and closure from him, so knowing this how do I move on? I am okay on most days but my hormonal cycle ( PMS) and retrogrades especially put in a frenzy again. So for any females reading this if you are going through something similar or grieving over someone, how to actually stop this and focus on moving on ?

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u/Agile-Swimmer-8971 12h ago

Grow up, why would someone chase you if you block them? Lol

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u/IslandofStars 9h ago

Exactly, blocking is a sign you are protecting yourself and don’t want to hear from them. I think of blocking as the final nail in the coffin of a relationship

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u/Wonderful_Bus6880 12h ago

I get you! Its hard to move on, even when you know he is not the best person for you. It hurts to know someone who meant so much to you, doesnt even want to reach out l.
I am currently going through the same, so I’m going to therapy! I advise you do the same, as its good to vent to someone and try to understand some feelings more deeply.
I wish you the best!

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u/doggertan 3h ago

If you want him, maybe uh unblock him rather than expecting him to make alts to contact you? It's weird to expect someone to contact you after you blocked them, that would be a direct breach of boundaries.