r/Needafriend • • Jun 30 '23

Weekly "meta" thread for casual discussion, complaints, suggestions, etc.

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This is a weekly meta thread for casual discussion and posts about the subreddit.

Seperate metaposts are not allowed since they crowd out posts that are looking for friends


r/Needafriend • • 4d ago

Weekly Discord Server Advertisement Thread

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Hi all, from now on, this thread will be stickied and posted once per week. Please use this post for all discord server advertisements and posts. All other discord-related posts will be removed.

You are free to leave your discord invite link public in this post. However, please do so at your own risk, especially if your server caters to a younger demographic or is susceptible to spam.


r/Needafriend • • 1h ago

23F | Anyone down to give me their honest opinion on something?

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Heyy! I’m looking for a few people who wouldn’t mind giving me their honest, unbiased opinion on something. I could really use an outside perspective lol. Preferably people who aren’t afraid to be straightforward. If you’re down, feel free to DM me! :)


r/Needafriend • • 4h ago

24 f can we be friends?

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I don’t know how to make friends so I’m looking for a genuine friendship that will last a long time . im free all the time so I reply fast . I’m looking for just one or two friends . Idc if we don’t have the same interests:) im an introvert but ill try my best to keep conversation going if u also try 💀 only message me if u read all of this and are looking for the same thing.
\\- I don’t show my face if that’s a problem I understand
\\- if your looking more than a friendship don’t message please


r/Needafriend • • 7h ago

23F, adult life is lonelier than anyone told me it would be

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Graduated, got the job, got the apartment, and somehow forgot to get any friends in the process. I like cooking elaborate meals for one, going to the gym at odd hours, and rewatching the same three sitcoms. Looking for people to build actual friendships with, not just surface level stuff.


r/Needafriend • • 2h ago

29F, six months into a big life shift and finding out who I am

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It's beautiful and exhausting. I have more time and a lot of feelings to sit with. I love bouldering, reading, and making bad pottery. Want a friend for the ordinary in-between moments, not just the milestones.


r/Needafriend • • 1h ago

21F I would appreciate some close deep friendships

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r/Needafriend • • 4h ago

21F need someone to help get over infatuations

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So relationships has been always made my life worst for some reason yet I still find myself trying find "the one" in EVERYONE I meet. I am in a journey to be satisfied with myself and completely stop finding the "potential partner" in people.
I have AuDHD with a PDA profile which basically means I crave my autonomy like oxygen. And relationships are all about sacrifices. Sacrificing your schedule, your goals, your hobbies, your time, your sanity. During every relationship, my life just gets more and more volatile, no matter how the other person it.
Subconsciously in my head I always believe I have to perform for them and they don't like me. No amount of positive self talk works. And because of how I am, it's hard for other humans to handle me. But I always find whenever I am by myself, my life becomes super functional. Until that urge for "human connection" comes around. It's all fun in games but than my anxious attachment self doesn't allow me to have anyone who can't stay with me long term because in my head, why should I waste time on a short term fling.
Now the issue isn't "help me fix myself so I can enjoy normal humans relationships"
I am neurodivergent/ high masking autistic. I do the best when I am left alone. Also I am 22 right now, 1 really wanna focus on my personal life rather than find relationships. Again due to my profile, I don't have any friends either. I do have a lot of hobbies and projects that I look towards. But I always have this urge "I need to show my work to someone to make it worth it".
I hate it. I just hate that I subconsciously look for someone for validation. Thats the only reason I want anyone at all. For validation. I am so happy on my own functionally. So this post is basically what do you do?
All my life I have been told to consider others, to see the potential in others. I don't wanna do that anymore.
The only potential I wanna see is in me. The only help I wanna do is my help.


r/Needafriend • • 1h ago

29F, my only close friend moved cross-country and I'm floundering

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We text but it's not the same and the loneliness hit harder than I expected. I love bouldering, reading, and cooking. Want a text friend who might slowly become close, no pressure but real intention.


r/Needafriend • • 2h ago

24F introverted and looking for a daily chat buddy to build a deep platonic connection with

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If you wanna have someone to talk to daily without anything sexual and weird hit me up! Im open to talk about anything, and I would love to build a platonic deep connection with someone online


r/Needafriend • • 28m ago

29F, three months into a big life change and rebuilding from scratch

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Most of my old friendships were built around habits I've outgrown and I'm learning who I am without them. It's slow. I'm knitting a lot, walking a lot, journaling badly. Would love a friend who's patient and doesn't need me to be inspiring. Just normal chat about normal things.


r/Needafriend • • 1h ago

Looking for a friend

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Hello I’m looking someone to talk with I’m autistic I am a girl and I’m 21 years old from France and I wanna have a friend to speak with, and not people who leave after 2 days and blocking me, I do Trainspotting, I chill on my gaming pc and I go outside too, I am extremely kind but I don’t trust people if you have any questions my DMs are open


r/Needafriend • • 1h ago

Lets exchange the last 3 pics from our galery and have a convo

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Stealing the game from another user The game is simple : we exchange our 3 last pictures in the gallery and see if it brings conversation ! Only the pictures you took or that has been taken and sent to you (excluding screenshots and download pics !)


r/Needafriend • • 1h ago

26F, healing anxiety and slowly reentering the world

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I lost most of my 20s to it. I'm finally getting somewhere and I want friendship on the other side. I love watercolor, ceramics, and rereading old favorites. Want a friend who'll grow with me slowly.


r/Needafriend • • 5h ago

25/F Slow week

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Hello there, I hope your week is going good. Just about alright for me so can't complain much. Just relaxing all to myself in the house. About me, I'm 25, I like swimming, hiking, watching tv shows like Southpark, etc, relaxing. A fun fact about me is that I once worked in a short film that my religious and conservative family was not thrilled about, haha. Feel free to message me if you wanna talk as well


r/Needafriend • • 1h ago

19 M, just a boring dude who trying his best to form connection

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Hi guys as I said I'm just a boring dude, trying to get a connection that is real. I never felt anything like that before


r/Needafriend • • 5h ago

21F lost everyone and wanna make friends

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i just left uni and basically lost contact with all my friends. just wanna make friends with ppl who dont judge me and we can hang out, play video games and stuff


r/Needafriend • • 7h ago

18f looking to make genuine friends

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Hii!! <3 I’m 18F from India, looking to make new friends and find people I can talk to regularly!
I love psychology, poetry, writing, journalling, reading and baking. I’m a fan of deep conversations, random late-night talks, silly rants, and sharing little life updates.
I’d love to meet people who are kind, genuine, and interested in building actual friendships rather than just talking once and disappearing haha.
If we have similar vibes let’s connect!


r/Needafriend • • 7h ago

33f sad and deep conversations anyone?

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r/Needafriend • • 9h ago

27F i am looking for someone to chat with and make friends!

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I like to play video games

I love reading books to drawing / painting

I am very lonely and bored. i am down for some chat. if you are one of a kind like me . lets do dm,

Please be male and single.


r/Needafriend • • 2h ago

39F, empty nester alternative — I don't have kids but my friends do and they're busy

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I love them but they're deep in the toddler years and I'm here alone with my books. I'm not bitter, just under-friended. I like hiking, oil painting, and old movies. Would love another woman without kids or with grown ones.


r/Needafriend • • 3h ago

I want to make a friend anonymously

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Hi! I’m 23. I have the same routine every day: school, gym, home. And honestly I don’t really have a personality. I’m not particularly passionate about anything.
I read, but I wouldn’t call myself a bookworm. I like traveling but I’m not the kind of person who would take a gap year or travel for weeks at a time. I enjoy being in nature, but only occasionally. I love good food, but I’m always thinking about calories. I like outdoor activities, but rarely have enough time for them. Oh and i listen to music but don’t have favorite artists.
If you ever feel like talking about something on your mind but are afraid of being judged, or if you just want someone to share the little things in life with, feel free to DM me


r/Needafriend • • 3h ago

21F, just moved to be near a partner and now I realize I have no friends of my own here

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Not looking for dating advice, just want my own people in this city too. I'm into cooking, photography, and journaling. Looking for genuine friends.


r/Needafriend • • 0m ago

28F, tired of small talk in a way that feels a bit desperate

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I want to talk about what someone believes and what scared them as a kid and what they're actually reading. I can't do 'how was your weekend' one more time. I like philosophy, hiking, and folk music. Please be a real person.


r/Needafriend • • 6h ago

24f want to make some friends or just chat away

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pretty much the title. NOT looking for anything nsfw so if you have that in mind, don't message me. i don't really have any particular interests, we can talk about anything. tell me all about you. you can yap or vent or whatever. i just want to talk to people. please no nsfw or minors.