I know humans are social animals and we need to interact with other humans to be happy, or that's what some would say.

I have noticed that from late fall to winter, I start feeling lonely (I am single), and I wonder why. Yes, less sun and vitamin D do contribute to it. However, I am more interested in the psychological aspect. I am not an unhappy person; I am satisfied with my job and my life, and I have good friends.

I guess what I am hoping for is to hear other men's stories about how they managed to defeat this feeling, because it seems very irrational to me. I have no reason to feel this miserable. There are men who live in complete isolation for weeks and they seem to be fine. Can one learn that skill? Become more independent socially and emotionally, more introverted if you will?

That's probably one of the traits I have been wanting to have for a while - to be alone and completely satisfied and happy about it, not needing companionship.

I feel like everyday I’m getting hairier. I’ve noticed more hair on my back although it was super smooth a few years ago

I’m 38. Never married. No kids. Accepted that it won’t happen for me. I have a good job so there’s that. Ive read articles in the press where the body of someone was found in an appartment and the guy had no one. No one knew he was dead for two weeks until his neighbours called the council cause they couldn’t bear the smell of his decaying body. I’ve known since I was 17 that I’ll end up like this. So I just want to be prepared and put all my affairs in order etc.

Something I've noticed in a lot of people, is that generally people become calmer and a bit wiser over time. I know that old people can have a lot of ignorant opinions when it comes to certain topics, but I mean that generally people seem to be less on an emotional rollercoaster as time goes on.

For the people who do therapy or find some kind of philosophy that helps them deal with life, then of course they will improve dramatically. But I think even among average people, they pick up little tips and tricks that make the day go easier.

I remember working with this guy that looked like Ron Jeremy when I worked as an oxygen delivery guy. He was sometimes super angry, but he said to me once "you know, I used to get mad at every little thing, but now I just laugh at it". I bet he was an even angrier and more unstable person when he was younger, but found this little trick that made life go 5% smoother.

I also look at my sibling and my dad and one of my uncles, and all of us seem to have gotten a bit more content and relaxed as we get older. It seems like all of us had more of an "edge" when we were younger that has been softened.

This thought came about because I recently started a job downtown. Last time I worked downtown was 4 years ago (I'm 34 now), and I was generally okay then, but I realized that I'm a lot happier and more relaxed than I used to be. Probably for a lot of reasons: a meditation practice, reading a lot, have some good close friends, etc.

And of course the opposite happens to some people, they just get stuck in a downward spiral and become even more disorganized and unhappy as time goes on. Which is a sad state to be in.

Just turned 34 in August. And I’m stuck in this mind, gymnastics of either throwing my money towards what I want to do, versus paying off debt. I just recently landed the most highest paid job I’ve ever had a month ago, I’m a welder so I work long hours and work seven days every other week, so I don’t see motion don’t have time to do hardly anything.

But to cut to the chase, I’m one of those guys that drunk and wasted all my 20s away and finally didn’t cut the drinking and bs and get my shi together until just last year. I have a car that I owe 15,000 on and 33,000 in student loans. I can pay both of these off within one year but that will only leave me with only $30,000 left total to pay bills and basically live, which is doable because my total expenses comes out to 2300 a month and we’re talking food, Gas, rent, car Insurance the whole 9 yards. But if I were to put this strategy off and throw my money towards investing and saving invest instead, I’d find myself paying off student loans and a vehicle loan well off into my late 30s something I’m not trying to do. but I don’t wanna work a whole Nother year just to do absolutely nothing to pay off debt let alone working 6 to 7 days a week is already depressing as it is. I’ve been hunkering down and living like a rinse and repeat guy since I got sober last year and it’s really depressing.

Or do I do what the old folks say pull myself up by the boot straps, take accountability for drinking and messing around, and hunker down for another couple more years until I get it right??

With that being said All the Welding and long hours of work is catching up to me. So it’s like my margin for error is becoming small, and in say this become I’m definitely not trying to do any of this kind of work by the time I reached the age of 40. I’m definitely looking to either switch into more of an administrative or corporate position in my field.

I really wish I could share my feelings with friend but I don't have any so I came here to find someone like going through some kind rough so we can share our feelings with each other, if someone needs to talk I am available we can help each other.

Here is some point in my life

1. I have brain fog it makes me crazy I don't remember

2. recently I resigned from my job

3. Mont ego I am going through my life's toughest time like anxiety depression overthinking suffocation many more

4. currently I am searching for a job it's been 1 month

5. financial problems

6. my med works properly but when I am off med it's become hell like tremors, overthinking, stiffness etc

7. I know it's hard but i never give up.

8. I tried many things like blogging, reading, youtube, freelancing but nothing works.

9. I have faith that makes me alive, one god will help me.

feeling lonely and wanting to talk to someone just text me I am open to chat because I would love to interact with an unknown person.

HMO.

Looking for inspiration as I set my 2027 goals and finish out 2026, what are your goals for the year ahead?

i recently posted asking what the general thoughts about going grey are, linked below. but i wanted to ask why people are so against dying their hair grey? there were so many strong opinions. is the process intimidating? is it too much work? is it too expensive? do you know how to do it if you wanted to do? or is it another reason

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What I mean is some advice you wish you had when you were younger that could greatly help other young people.

I went to a lake area to a lake area today. There is a large and beautiful old oak in the area. Today there was a group of young pre-school? children there. All around that one beautiful oak.

I am a middle aged man carrying a lot of camera equipment. So the teachers kept staring at me like hawks. And I wasn't able to get the shoots that I wanted. If it was adults I could just tell them that there is no privacy in public. But I do not want people to think that I record or take pictures of children.

How do you handle spaces with a lot of children around?

Pretty much the title, how differently would you have lived your teenage years and 20s when you reflect back on it whilst being in your 30s

In india no one can understand what I am going through. People don't get it. What is parkinson in my prime era? It's become my hell. I don't know how to start or how to survive; God knows.

in my middle class family i have two brothes i am the middle one i dont have job recentley fire because of this disease i will watching my future to geting dark i did to much to motivate like gita, ramayan, too much motivate content watched on youtube, also yoga, meditaion i thing nothing remains what i not did but still my life is going down now its not in my hand i give it all in god shivas hands whatever he want to do.

My symptoms ---- brain fog making me forget things day to day or month whatever

anxiety, depression, my learning skill almost on 0 how hard i try not geting any of skill i did a lot of try like youtube website and much more

Now I think I am begging for prayer; I hope something works for me

hey, Ive been having coffee before the gym and it helps, but I'm wondering if I'm overdoing it. Some days it's coffee in the morning, then a pre workout in the afternoon, and another energy drink if I'm dragging

Is caffeine before a workout actually good for you or is it just making me feel like I'm working harder? Also are pre workouts any different from just drinking coffee?

Not trying to cut it completely, just want to know what's a reasonable amount. thanks.

Every tutorials on how to assert yourself seems to assume the other party is at least somewhat receptive to reason and empathy.

Does anybody have any advice on how you assert yourself around people who could very well physically hurt for doing so? I’m thinking of criminals, gang members or domestic abusers. I can’t imagine a dangerous drug dealer appreciating that his own needs are being seen and heard in a dispute.

EDIT: My earlier post referenced being approached by a gang trying to steal your phone. This was just an example and I’m not looking for specific advice on that particular, unique situation. Just more general advice for dealing with similar types of people. I’ve seen non intimidating people do it, so it’s possible. I’d like to know what they are.

For months now, I’ve had a mild dull ache at the top of my R testicle and inguinal groin area, about 3-4” diagonal down from belly button on same side. Dr wanted to check for a hernia. Got a scrotum and groin ultrasound that was negative for any pathology on both assessments except for a bilateral mild hydrocele. I don’t really think it’s that, my balls are normal sized, no swelling at all, not tender to touch, and bilateral might mean pain on the other side as well.

It’s reassuring to rule out the scary stuff but the ache remains. No idea what to do now other than an MRI I guess? I do have a same side lower back dull ache around the belt line or SI joint area 2-3” off center as well. Maybe a disc issue but would that radiant to my ball too?

My mom is a very sweet lady and has good intentions, but she's insisting on using a personalized AI-generated song for our dance together at my wedding, even after I gave her several classic suggestions. She included my name, and my fiance's and siblings names in the song lyrics, and there's something very clearly "off" about the composition and sound that give it away as AI.

I feel bad for shooting it down because I don't want to offend her. It was sweet and thoughtful, but totally misses the mark and feels inauthentic and cheap. How should I frame the conversation?

Edit: To clarify, this is about how to frame the conversation to lessen the blow rather than if I’ll confront her about it or not.

As someone who's been travelling since 18 for both work and leisure, I noticed I am steadily losing interest.

Would I still like to go on holidays? Sure.

But I'm not as adventurous as I used to be.

I feel quite content having a travel agency prepare my itinerary and book packaged tour.

Even so, I'm not as inclined to see a new country like I used to and would rather revisit places I already visited and liked.

Dunno why but I seem more content staying in my country and being a homebody nowadays.

I don’t flair out. I don’t show off. I keep my head down and work because I was told that working hard builds a better future. Boy, do I feel duped. I was told to go to college, didn’t, and now see everyone my age that went to college struggling financially. Boy, I’m sure they feel duped. What’s the point of this post, you ask? I guess I’ve made it to 32 with no objective or guidance. Someone point me in a direction or something.

May look like a brutal question but always wondered ....

And given the fact that I had brotherly feelings for people around me, specially younger than me

I wonder if guys have that too, because dekhke to lagta nahi

And the number of incidents happening these days with women almost everywhere... I don't know, feels difficult if they ever feel like behaving like a normal human when not surrounded by known people where they have to care about their reputation

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Does anyone else have dreams about dying?

For the week or so, I been having similar style dreams, where I get into an accident or something and die. But before I die and the dream ends I'm just left sitting there like, well this is my life now, best get to work.

It's not a nightmare, I'm perfectly calm. For instance, the first one, I was working on my Subaru, under the car, and the jack stands fell out. Dreams are kind a blurry, so the next part I remember is looking down at my torso that ends at my waist line, see my entrails dragging, and thought, I'm gonna need new pants now, and started crawling towards the house.

Or a bear mawls me, and I have no arm, and as I'm being mawld I just think welp, gonna have a scar from this one.

Repeat, 7 or 8 nights in a row. I wake up fine, don't feel like I missed any sleep, but the dreams stay with me. So much so I called my 2 best friends and said, dudes, I love you, just in case something happens, I didn't want you to guess how I felt. Even told my half asleep wife about my life insurance policy at 6.30am.

I don't believe dreams are some fortune teller or any of that whimsical shenanigans. But it's obvious my brain is working through something.

WTF.

What surprising (or perhaps not-so-surprising) discovery has made the biggest difference to your mental clarity and memory?

Why did we stopped having sleepovers after growing up? Don’t you all think we should reconsider having occasional sleepovers with bros?

He went in for a routine procedure today and they found a 90% blockage of his heart and are preparing a surgeon to meet with for a triple bypass open-heart surgery.

I’m his only child and he has no one else. His 60th birthday is in 2 days and my 30th was a few days ago.

I have extremely bad mental health problems and I’m the one that everyone is turning to for what to do and I’m scared and crying and alone and if there’s anyone here that could help me with what the process is for this and what it’s going to look like and what questions to ask or demands to make then I would greatly appreciate it.

I’ve never been in this world without him and his help. Thank you.