r/R4R30Plus • • Jun 24 '24

ANNOUNCEMENT: Technical Issues

70 Upvotes

POSTING IS ONCE AGAIN OPEN.

The auto moderation system has been somewhat wonky the last few days. We think we have corrected the issue. It has been sending posts to the spam system incorrectly and en masse. That should no longer occur, or at the very least be infrequent. IF your post does not appear, do not delete it. Message us via the mod mail system and we can check on it. If you do delete it manually, we are unable to diagnose the problem. Hopefully this is the last fix we need to do, but we may have to suspend posting again if this happens so we can get it sorted. PLEASE do not message us asking for access during these times, as it bogs down our mail system and increases downtime. The requests will not be granted. We ask for patience while we work on these issues.

Thank you for your time and understanding. Have a good day.


r/R4R30Plus • • 4h ago

34 [F4M] #Thailand #Anywhere

9 Upvotes

Im here looking for good conversations, genuine connections, and hopefully a meaningful relationship.

If you are looking for the same things, feel free to DM me. Please be between 28 and 45 years old.


r/R4R30Plus • • 4h ago

36 [F4R] FindingDory

5 Upvotes

Trying to find my online bestie whom I can talk to about literally anything. Someone who could be as clingy as me.

About me: asian, into fitness and gardening. Have two dog, 5 cats and a husband. I used to work in Customer Service then Pandemic happen, bought a land in the province and made it into a Campsite.

My time is flexible hence I started to watch those AI short dramas. I need somebody to save me before I think that could be a lost heir of a Mafia or Conglomerate family. 😅


r/R4R30Plus • • 57m ago

31 [M4F]

• Upvotes

Hey recently divorced caught her cheating after being tg for 12 years. Haven’t been with anyone else but her since I was 19. Just looking to see what’s out there dm me if you’re interested in chatting.


r/R4R30Plus • • 3h ago

31 [M4F] UK/Online - Tall Man looking for nerd queen

3 Upvotes

Hello wonderful people!

Just as an aside, I have this as NSFW but I am happy with SFW chats! Happy with both.

About me:

Just moved to a new city and looking for penpals and friends to talk to online! I’m a big nerd, currently building my Ultramarines army (and painting it!) learning how to draw alongside reading and slowly finishing my large steam collection. I enjoy most nerd activities, and always wanting to learn about new things!

Appearance: I’m 6’5” and I’m an active individual. No six pack, but I do keep myself fit. Always happy to send pictures after we get to know each other, so don’t worry.

About you: honestly, just provide good conservation! Tell me about your hobbies, or your life. 18+ though please!

Speak soon, hopefully!


r/R4R30Plus • • 10h ago

35 [M4F] Sydney,Australia — Looking for besties, not ghosties 😂

10 Upvotes

Going through a bit of a rough patch, have way too much free time on my hands, and my brain has decided to be an absolute pest. So I’m looking for someone to yap with regularly and distract me from my own thoughts for a bit. A win-win, really.

I’m after the kind of friendship where we can talk pretty much every day, share absolutely random nonsense, rant about our lives, overshare without filing a formal apology, and be completely unfiltered without wondering if we’ve said too much. Basically, someone I can call a bestie without having to check if they’re still alive every three business days. 😂

I’ve got mates already, but there’s something nice about connecting with someone new, having a laugh, and building a friendship where things just feel easy. No need to make everything a complicated situation. Sometimes a good conversation and a bit of harmless chaos are all you need.

A bit about me: I work in tech, go to the gym, play cricket, occasionally swim, and enjoy F1, gaming, travelling, scenic drives, beaches, mountains, and the outdoors. I’m into thrillers, mysteries, horror and action, and I’m always up for random questions and unnecessarily passionate debates.

Also, I’m a dad to a sassy daughter who seems to have been born with the authority of a Supreme Court judge and the attitude of someone who pays the mortgage. I’m basically middle management in my own household. 😂

One flaw : I barely listen to music unless I’m driving, so if you’ve got a playlist for every emotion known to humanity, I’m clearly a lost cause.

Ideally, I’m looking for that something happened and you’re the first person I want to tell kind of friendship. Good banter, mutual effort, the occasional deep chat, and absolutely no need to pretend to be a well-adjusted adult 24/7.

If you can hold a conversation, match a bit of chaos, and don’t disappear after two decent chats, come say hi.

Besties, not ghosties. I’m begging the universe to get this one right. 😂


r/R4R30Plus • • 2h ago

34 [F4M] #The U.S. hopes to find sincere friends

2 Upvotes

I'm 34 and single, and I'm hoping to find someone sincere to chat with and make friends! I enjoy traveling, working out, outdoor activities, and camping. If you share these interests, feel free to say hi so we can get to know each other!


r/R4R30Plus • • 14h ago

35 [F4M] Should I try here?

15 Upvotes

Is it just me, or is it hard to find someone who’s emotionally available and in a good place mentally?

I’d love to meet someone who’s emotionally healthy, self-aware and ready for a peaceful, healthy connection. I’ve noticed a pattern of getting involved with men who end up using their personal/mental struggles as an excuse to mistreat me and honestly, I’m tired of repeating that cycle. I know I need to protect my own peace, too.

No judgment toward anyone going through a difficult time. I just want something healthy, mutual and drama-free for a change.

I’m dating with intention. I’m looking for long-term love, a peaceful partnership and someone I can eventually marry and build a family with. Someday, I’d love to have two kids, a boy and a girl. ❤️ I’m not looking for perfection, just someone emotionally responsible, kind, consistent and genuinely ready to build a life together.

I enjoy reading, going for walks (like looooong walks), taking care of my cat and playing paddle sports on weekends. Pretty simple, grounded and happy with the little things.

If you’re in a good place in life and just want to connect with someone on the same wavelength, feel free to message me. 😊🇵🇭

P.S.
Age requirement: 30-40 years old

PLEASE. If you don’t know what you want or can’t give a clear answer let's say to the “What are we?” question, please don’t ask to chat with me.

I’m dating with intention. I want a committed relationship that could lead to marriage and a family, not an endless talking stage with someone who’s still unsure.

Just imagine if we both spent that time getting to know someone who genuinely wanted the same things we did. We could save each other so much time, energy and emotional investment.

It’s okay if you’re still figuring things out but I’m at a point in my life where I value clarity, consistency and intentional effort. I’m not asking you to promise me forever on day one. I’m simply asking you to know whether a committed relationship is something you genuinely want.

If we’re not looking for the same thing, that’s okay. 😊


r/R4R30Plus • • 15m ago

32years old [M4F] Don't mind anyone around the world but preferably Europe because of time difference !🫡

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Hellou hellouuu!

Im 32 year old guy from Slovenia, super chill on earth guy, looking for consistent daily chat😁!

People describe me as a emotionally mature, highly emphatic and caring person 😄

Im a 186cm, stronger build, ex pro handball player and now youth coach for under 12 team! I have been vice champion with girls under12 team and now decided to swap to boys team and replicate the success!
Always been in sports even with my congenital heart defect (It has its own sad but happy end story which i dont mind telling).

Love to game on off nights, watch movies/animes (atm i don't have one to watch), take care of my family animals, go out on walks, i'm finding allot of interest in golf lately and my "childhood" love for Pokemon cards(freakin expensive hobby nowadays) 😂

I am really good cook, love to make all type of food especially Balkan and Italian food 😅 I do love too do BBQ outside with family and friends !

We got quite few animals, horses, cats,

Names of horses 🐎🐎 (Anika, Taivas).

Names of 🐈🐈🐈 🐈(Shadow, Fiona, Snowfie, Josie).

Plus i dont mind sending selfie later in chat ! 🫡

Dm's are open and i hope to find some meaningful people to chat with!🤗


r/R4R30Plus • • 32m ago

31F [F4M],Not great at these posts, just looking for some new friends

• Upvotes

Hey everyone. Not great at these posts, so I’ll just keep it simple. I’m 31F, pretty laid back, a little sarcastic, and way better at one-on-one conversations than big group stuff. Just looking for some genuine people to talk to. Not looking for anything weird, rushed, or super intense. Just people who actually want to talk, laugh, and get to know each other over time. If that sounds like you, feel free to message me.


r/R4R30Plus • • 1h ago

[M4F] #46 Switzerland #Anywhere - Live music, good vibes & a little chemistry

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Hi! I’m a 46-year-old French-Swiss guy living in Switzerland.
I’m easygoing, curious, and love enjoying life! Live music, concerts, festivals, spontaneous trips, good food, wine, and a good laugh are definitely my kind of things.
I’m also into mountain biking, travelling, cinema, and discovering new places.
I’d love to meet a fun, open-minded woman around my age who enjoys adventures, good conversations, and doesn’t take herself too seriously.
No pressure, no expectations. Just getting to know each other, sharing some laughs, maybe a little flirting, and seeing where things go. Chemistry matters more than distance!
I’m happy to connect with someone from anywhere, and improving my English along the way would be a nice bonus.
If this sounds like you, come say hi!


r/R4R30Plus • • 1h ago

32[F4M] #Singapore Finding someone to go through life with!

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still holding on to hope that I can find someone to settle down with and if it’s long distance? Both of us are willing to put in efforts into the process towards a relationship and marriage.

Preferably looking for someone of same age or older, preferably likes to read books but not a deal breaker if you don’t, has his own hobbies, and comfortable doing things together or being on his own or doing separate things together in the same space.

I’m a ISFJ, though I think I’m pretty good at most social events where I have to be a little ‘extrovert’. I would describe myself as full time cat lover and someone who hopes to make a teeny tiny difference on this planet through her work (I work in the social service sector)

I love matcha, sunset/sunrise, skies, ice cream, zombie apocalypse movies, ticking off my travel list, reading/buying books, animals, nature, hiking, and buying/building lego.

Intention is to find someone who wants to go through life with me, and if we do match from different time zones, we make plans to connect through video calls and voice calls while concreting meet ups.

Currently want to stay in Singapore, at least for a few more years due to wanting to build career a little bit more and to rebuild savings. Definitely open to LDR and possible moving in the long future but would love if you would want to stay in Singapore too

I’m a Muslim, and strictly would love to talk to a Muslim (born and reverts) or someone who plans to revert.

[if you do dm me, please do write an intro about yourself]


r/R4R30Plus • • 1h ago

32[M4R] keep me company today?

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Just looking for a good conversation and cool people. Have a bunch of different hobbies. Happy to learn about yours. I’ll keep it simple. If you wanna learn more about me send me a message! https://imgur.com/a/EuIuP6w


r/R4R30Plus • • 1h ago

38 [M4F] Ohio/Anywhere - Bearded, tattooed elder emo looking to meet someone similar and interesting.

• Upvotes

Dating around NE Ohio is a nightmare. At least for me. I have tried the apps, and the bar scene and I really haven’t found anyone that seems to be for me long term.

I figured I’d try out Reddit and see if someone cool would want to chat ! Super into music, stand up comedy, gaming, and most other nerdy things. Definitely feel free to say hey in my DMs. As long as this post is up I am still looking! Hope to chat with someone soon.


r/R4R30Plus • • 5h ago

40 [M4F] KY, do your worst

2 Upvotes

Really don't tho, crazy internet people frighten me. You know, the kind of get upset at response times...or drop L bombs on you after a week crazy? Don't do that. Actually, I'm just fucking bored, and let's be realistic, it'll probably fizzle inside of a month anyway. That said, we can still swap songs or some shit. Dunno what your prerequisite are, but here's a few things about me if it matters: I'm not horrible looking, like good music, have good hobbies, and a good brain. It gets gooder the more interesting you are. Wouldn't mind someone who doesn't take shit too seriously either. Lastly, I ain't your therapist and I really don't want to be treated like one. Only good vibes, yeah? Yeah.


r/R4R30Plus • • 11h ago

37[F4M] #anywhere/world, anyone want to give me some company?

6 Upvotes

Work seems slow and boring today so naturally i'm turning to internet strangers for help!

Located in the GMT+5 timezone. I'd love to talk books, movies, or get spammed with your pet pics. I enjoy back and forth and banter and if speak sarcasm too, we'll get along fine too.

Appreciate if you are around my age group and single, because, hey, if there is a spark there might be some friendly flirting! Not looking for anything nsfw though. Please share your age and timezone in the dms and maybe your fav movies?


r/R4R30Plus • • 6h ago

32M India [M4F] – Looking for Friends or More

2 Upvotes

looking to connect with interesting people for friendship, fun conversations, playful flirting, and potentially something meaningful if we genuinely click.

someone who is beyond the usual small talk.

I'm open-minded, friendly, and believe that the best connections start naturally when two people feel comfortable being themselves

I'd love to meet someone who is confident, caring, honest, open-minded, and has a good sense of humor. Someone who enjoys a little flirting, appreciates attention and affection, and isn't afraid to express what they're looking for.

I'm open to different possibilities — whether it's finding a genuine friend, having someone to chat with regularly, enjoying some playful chemistry, or building a serious, long-term relationship if the feelings are mutual.

Age and distance aren't major barriers for me. What matters most is mutual respect, honesty, good communication, and a connection that feels natural for both people.

So, if you're looking for a new friend, someone to flirt with, or perhaps a special person to share life's little moments with, feel free to DM me.

Let's start with a simple hello, have a good conversation, and see where things take us.


r/R4R30Plus • • 2h ago

37 [F4M]-year-old divorced woman; she often feels lonely when not working and hopes to meet mature, like-minded friends

1 Upvotes

I am a 37-year-old German who has been living in the U.S. for many years and has a job, but I often feel bored in the evenings and on weekends; I would like to meet some close friends of a similar age


r/R4R30Plus • • 2h ago

42 [M4F] east coast USA - let’s open each others baggage

1 Upvotes

-42 divorced dad of 2
-healthcare professional in stressful environment
-loves music, concerts, culture, travel
-iso friends and new experiences , different opinions and attitudes
-hobbies; animals, sports, golf, exercise, philosophy
-active and handsome
-will share pics
-in search of meeting new people, not necessarily love (does it exist?)


r/R4R30Plus • • 22h ago

33 [F4M] Canada - it’s so lonely out here

39 Upvotes

Hi. Im currently looking for someone to talk to these days. I mostly work from home and feel like my mental health is declining rapidly fast because of isolation.

Anyways, I’ve been watching a bunch of series lately. I don’t mind taking shows or movie recommendations. As much as I’d like to enjoy the outdoors, it sucks to go out and wander alone. At least for me. I also like playing games, mostly cozy ones as I don’t like being stressed out in a game.

I’m an introvert, which means I recharge by being alone, but apparently too much of that isn’t great either. So here I am, outsourcing my social life to Reddit like a responsible adult.

Send me a message if you’re interested in chatting. Have a good day.


r/R4R30Plus • • 15h ago

37 [F4M] #Canada #USA looking for a grounded compassionate individual saving himself

9 Upvotes

I live a fairly grounded life,meaningful work during the week, music or long-form podcasts in the evenings. Care for animals and basic human decency aren’t “extras” to me; they’re baseline values. I work in tech industry, completed two masters and based in Canada but travel to USA.

I’m professionally established and well educated, and I’m grateful for the stability I’ve built. I’m not here to casually pass time.I’m here because I believe it should be intentional, structured, and entered with clarity.My friends say I look younger than my age.

I’m looking for a man of preferably 37 or younger who is similarly established, secular in outlook, open for diverse background , never wedded, and who has also been saving himself That last point isn’t symbolic and it’s non-negotiable for me. I don’t need judgement on this as everyone has values important to them and it varies with culture and personal stance. I am open for LDR initially till we mutually work on closure the distance.

I spend my free time in volunteering, watching podcasts and listening songs on YouTube. I like traveling too if given right opportunity at the right time.

I prefer men of who are respectful clear and have their life together with well established career and professional education. I appreciate men who see women as their equal peer and companion rather than a trophy to brag about because of youth ( a number) and beauty.

I am not interested in endless, directionless messaging. If you reach out, be prepared for real-time sync to confirm we are both genuine before we discuss any details.
If you are a genuine person ready to move forward, state your explicit pragmatic plans and steps.

**Do not waste time for reaching out to me for pics , sexual messages etc. I am not here for all this.**
**If you message, include your age, location, career, culture, religious background, and your preferences too and confirm you meet the non negotiable . If you don’t meet them, I genuinely wish you well but please don’t reach out.**

**I’m looking For something real, calm, and well considered unambiguous or experimental.**

Everyone has unique values shaped by their culture and personal journey; I ask for mutual respect and a strict \\\\\\\*\\\\\\\*no-judgment policy\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\* regarding my boundaries, as I genuinely wish the same peace for yours.


r/R4R30Plus • • 3h ago

39 [M4F] #Kentucky looking for a new connection

1 Upvotes

39M looking for new friends in the Reddit-sphere

WANTED: Friends with humor & good music taste.

Southeastern US here, looking to meet some cool people & make genuine friendships.

I'm into punk rock, metal, working out, cooking, traveling, photography, true crime, cryptids, & comedy & horror movies.

Questions for the fellow weirdos out there:

What's your favorite music? Favorite bands or the album you could listen to on repeat.

What's your escape from reality? Music, traveling, gaming, getting lost in nature, cooking, or disappearing into the woods to avoid society for a bit? What's your refuge when life gets overwhelming?

Pretend that you wake up tomorrow & find out you're living in a horror movie. Are you choosing a slasher, a haunted house, a zombie apocalypse, or something supernatural?

What's your favorite snacks?

Pick any of the questions above.

Come say hey!


r/R4R30Plus • • 16h ago

39 [M4F] Ohio looking for a long term relationship

11 Upvotes

I work from home and it is just me and my cats. I can work from anywhere in the US and have no issues moving when I find the right person. I am very liberal so not looking for people with a conservative background unwilling to change. I have no kids, I love traveling along side having a large array of hobbies. I dont specialize in those and will dip into many different things at any time.

I want to find someone that is looking for a long term relationship and has a positive outlook. I dont need you to be able to start a conversation with anyone but you should probably be able to talk to anyone because people walk up and talk to me all the time. I also love to make friends at any new place I am. I do spend a decent amount of time alone and understand if that is normal for you too.

I am just looking for someone to be a partner and try new things with each other. I have not been married, have no kids, but also am not against those things. Life just hasn't taken me in that way yet. Please feel free to message me if you are over 32 and not older than 44. Look forward to meeting new people!


r/R4R30Plus • • 15h ago

38 [F4M] I hate good morning texts

9 Upvotes

Tell me you commandeered the moon to make haste so you could see dappled sunlight dance on my skin.

Sending me a good morning riddle. Send me on a quest with a Reese's cup at the end.

Tell me how in your dreams you were the sole operator of a lighthouse at the end of the world that was swarmed with mermaid ghosts, shrieking krill and were-walruses, oh my!

Because if you tell me "hi" "good morning" "hru", I'll pour chlorine in my eyes for the last time I promise. Good/good thx bye.

I think we crave these quiet moments of long-term connections without the practice, some cases the knowledge, of how to build an intentional relationship. I don't want your deepest darkest secrets, those are earned. Brick by brick baby. That's how friends and more are made. That's how lovers are forged. Where is the reward in instant?

I want to know why you still care about the world. I want to know why you still believe in the future of humanity despite disorder screaming otherwise. I want to know how many times you listened to mmm bop by Hansom on repeat so far this October.

Um I don't care what you do for work. I don't care how much or little money you have. I care to know why we must still write love poetry in a burning world.

No marrieds. No three word conservationists. No former pogo stick world champions. Huzzah!


r/R4R30Plus • • 18h ago

[m4f] Brett 43 from VA

17 Upvotes

One of my biggest recent commitments has been to put myself out there more. Spent a lot of time doing the solo introverted thing. Now, like a lot of y’all, it’s time to find myself some awkward situations to put myself into to grow from and maybe meet some new people.

Simple dude, I like to workout and eat (too much) and I’m trying to quit eating lol. Got carried away..

I don’t mind not seeing eye to eye on every topic and get along fine with most people even if we disagree. People are deeper than opinions-you can always change your opinions, I’m more worried about who you are on the day to day. If you can’t disagree on something and be cool I’m not your dude.

I’m flirting with Christianity, but not sure of anything and at this point what I am most importantly looking for is: depth and connection.

I’ll share a couple photos of myself below so you can vet me and feel free to reach out and do the same if you’d like, or talk etc.

No big deal either way, I know it’s tough out there and gets lonely so good luck to all y’all