Am I crazy for considering swapping my 10-min commute to a 45-min commute to work.

Current job is swing shift and 92k a year. 4 weeks vacation. Current management is making it more stressful than what it needs to be. Moral is low and it’s really declining quickly.

New job would be straight days at $42.30 an hour. Overtime opportunities and quarterly bonuses. It’s a small terminal on the river that really just loads trucks all day. Seems like a really sweet gig to be honest. Only 5-6 employees but everyone just seemed happy.

So theoretically pay should go up with OT opportunities. 401k is very similar, but one perk is that the new company will let you roll OT pay straight into the 401k. Which I also may have misheard them.

I’m not too keen on adding 30-35 mins into my daily commute. Which instead of traveling 3-4 days a week it would turn into 5. But at the same time this job seems like it’s too good to be true.

Just got the prescription today. Went to pick it up and was denied at the pharmacy, they told me I have to fill out an official form from the government stating I went over all the potential risks with my doctor (I'm in France).

It seemed like a mild medication but that turned me to look further into it and everything I've seen online, especially on reddit, has been all doom and gloom.

Just wondering if anyone is taking it with 0 side effects and if those stories I'm seeing about people being depressed for years afterward are completely overblown. I don't have much hair recession anyway so it's not a huge deal to me if I have to avoid.

I know humans are social animals and we need to interact with other humans to be happy, or that's what some would say.

I have noticed that from late fall to winter, I start feeling lonely (I am single), and I wonder why. Yes, less sun and vitamin D do contribute to it. However, I am more interested in the psychological aspect. I am not an unhappy person; I am satisfied with my job and my life, and I have good friends.

I guess what I am hoping for is to hear other men's stories about how they managed to defeat this feeling, because it seems very irrational to me. I have no reason to feel this miserable. There are men who live in complete isolation for weeks and they seem to be fine. Can one learn that skill? Become more independent socially and emotionally, more introverted if you will?

That's probably one of the traits I have been wanting to have for a while - to be alone and completely satisfied and happy about it, not needing companionship.

I'm 31, i'm married, I work a relatively easy, low stress, very flexible, middling pay, office job. I've never really liked my work from pretty much right after i started at 18, but it pays the bills and nowadays it's very cushy too. That leaves me with a very unfulfilling work life though, which i suppose is fair enough, not everyone can be a secret agent.

I feel like the obvious answer to my question of "how do i feel more fulfilled, less stagnant, and less bored" is to fill my non work time with something that ticks those boxes, but so far i've completely failed at doing so. I've tried some social outdoorsy hobbies like sailing & watersports (which i do like & enjoy, but it's come nowhere close to scratching my itch) I've on multiple occasions tried to start some kind of project, be it business or creative, but i find that i always hit a point where all enjoyment for it leaves me and i start to loathe it (again not really scratching my itch).

I suppose if i have kids some time soon that changes things a lot, but i still think i need this other satisfaction in my life too, at least right now

I feel like i'm craving novelty, excitement just something that makes me remember i'm alive and stops time being such a blur. I'm very cognisant of how precious this time is and i feel like i'm squandering it.

I don't really know what to do.. I don't want to blow my life up because i do want to have a stable family life in the near future, but i also feel i'll be seriously miserable if i keep treading water like this.

Any advice would be appreciated, Cheers!

Just turned 34 in August. And I’m stuck in this mind, gymnastics of either throwing my money towards what I want to do, versus paying off debt. I just recently landed the most highest paid job I’ve ever had a month ago, I’m a welder so I work long hours and work seven days every other week, so I don’t see motion don’t have time to do hardly anything.

But to cut to the chase, I’m one of those guys that drunk and wasted all my 20s away and finally didn’t cut the drinking and bs and get my shi together until just last year. I have a car that I owe 15,000 on and 33,000 in student loans. I can pay both of these off within one year but that will only leave me with only $30,000 left total to pay bills and basically live, which is doable because my total expenses comes out to 2300 a month and we’re talking food, Gas, rent, car Insurance the whole 9 yards. But if I were to put this strategy off and throw my money towards investing and saving invest instead, I’d find myself paying off student loans and a vehicle loan well off into my late 30s something I’m not trying to do. but I don’t wanna work a whole Nother year just to do absolutely nothing to pay off debt let alone working 6 to 7 days a week is already depressing as it is. I’ve been hunkering down and living like a rinse and repeat guy since I got sober last year and it’s really depressing.

Or do I do what the old folks say pull myself up by the boot straps, take accountability for drinking and messing around, and hunker down for another couple more years until I get it right??

With that being said All the Welding and long hours of work is catching up to me. So it’s like my margin for error is becoming small, and in say this become I’m definitely not trying to do any of this kind of work by the time I reached the age of 40. I’m definitely looking to either switch into more of an administrative or corporate position in my field.

What I mean is some advice you wish you had when you were younger that could greatly help other young people.

I am 28m and yeah, life is pointless for me. I generally feel okay, even right now when I am writing this I do not feel anything negative or positive. I work, I found new hobbies and socialize with people, but still life has no meaning. Maybe someone may give me an advice here.

Late 30s, been helping out with wrestling now that my son is starting. I wrestled growing up and am a bjj black belt.

Wrestling the really athletic kids is tough when we're on our feet, but a little grit seems to make them lose confidence quickly. I swear some would beat me if they believed in themselves a bit. It's literally impossible to keep up with their pace, but i really don't have to.

Once we are down to the mats, i have way too much experience and can slow them down to my pace. It becomes pretty easy most of the time, i end up pulling off some absolute BS in their eyes. I'm starting to understand when my coaches were my current age and they would tell me i should have just held on or pushed a little longer.

You can feel their confidence waiver.

I went to a lake area to a lake area today. There is a large and beautiful old oak in the area. Today there was a group of young pre-school? children there. All around that one beautiful oak.

I am a middle aged man carrying a lot of camera equipment. So the teachers kept staring at me like hawks. And I wasn't able to get the shoots that I wanted. If it was adults I could just tell them that there is no privacy in public. But I do not want people to think that I record or take pictures of children.

How do you handle spaces with a lot of children around?

i recently posted asking what the general thoughts about going grey are, linked below. but i wanted to ask why people are so against dying their hair grey? there were so many strong opinions. is the process intimidating? is it too much work? is it too expensive? do you know how to do it if you wanted to do? or is it another reason

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May look like a brutal question but always wondered ....

And given the fact that I had brotherly feelings for people around me, specially younger than me

I wonder if guys have that too, because dekhke to lagta nahi

And the number of incidents happening these days with women almost everywhere... I don't know, feels difficult if they ever feel like behaving like a normal human when not surrounded by known people where they have to care about their reputation

Every morning when I wake up, I’m hard. if I’m on my stomach already or I either roll on to my stomach… and I’m still half asleep, I start to grind on or hump my penis into the bed. Sometimes it’s just a few pumps and I’m done and start my day. Sometimes it lasts an hour or so as I wake/sleep/wake and slowly rise up for the day. Im wondering how common this is and if other guys do it a lot. I don’t go on a full on session and ejaculate or anything, (if that happens I would probably roll over and just jerk off like normal) but it usually lasts while I’m still tossing and turning and still half asleep but slightly awake. It just feels really fucking good. It stimulates my boner and hits the right spot. Feel like I’ve been doing it my whole life. Can’t remember a time when I didn’t.

I’m slightly embarrassed by it, but I guess I shouldn’t be ashamed. And waking up aroused means you’re healthy right? I just feel this urge right away in the morning.
I can’t be the only one who does this nearly every morning. Do other men do it too? Do you? Weigh in guys…