Scrolling through the posts, I get the impression that everyone over 40 has at least three fascinating hobbies, two hidden talents, and a collection of adventurous life stories. Some people are hiking mountains, learning new skills, creating beautiful things, or doing things I didn’t even know were hobbies!

Meanwhile, I work in research, which sounds quite impressive until you realise I’m still in the early stages of figuring things out 😕

My hobbies are rather low-key. Nothing particularly impressive. No exciting plot twists!

Sometimes I wonder if I’m the only one here whose list of hobbies wouldn’t make it past the first round of a talent show!

Please tell me I’m not the only ordinary human among all these overachievers!

Life is very busy and no time to go out to find new friends. Always enjoy finding people to talk online. Plus it’s way easier to meet people online. Married with 2 boys. Love coaching baseball, hunting, fishing, and wood working. First time here so let’s see where it goes.

Stop rushing. Stop thinking about everything we still have to do, everything we should have done, and everything waiting for us tomorrow.

Just stop for a moment, look around, and take in the world.

There’s so much beauty in the little moments we often walk right past.

Sometimes I have just that reminder, life isn’t just about getting somewhere. It’s also about appreciating where we are.

When was the last time you stopped and simply enjoyed the view?

Hey everyone! 👋

Life in your 40s is a strange old ride, isn't it?

Some days you've got everything figured out. Other days you're wondering how the hell you got here. 😂

So here's a little experiment...

My DMs are open.

Got something weighing on your mind? Something you're frustrated about? A secret, a regret, a relationship problem, or just something you desperately need to get off your chest?

Send it through.

No judgement. No lectures. No need to explain yourself.

I'm just a regular bloke in his 40s offering a friendly ear to anyone who needs one.

And here's the twist:

If you just want to vent, that's perfectly fine. You don't even need to have a conversation.

But if you'd like me to respond, simply write "REPLY" at the end of your message.

That's it!

Sometimes it's easier to tell a complete stranger what's going on than someone you've known your entire life.

Let's see where this goes. 😊

Please note: I wont share your stories, and I wont judge you. I'm by no means any kind of therapist, just another person navigating this weird decade of life. Please keep things respectful. No explicit sexual messages, threats, or descriptions of illegal activity. Im just here to listen and not judge. Im located in Australia, so if you request a reply please allow time for different time zones.

I hope to hear from you soon.

Hi. 41 M. Looking to chat with new and different people. I am willing to talk about anything. I have a very bad habit of doom scrolling everyday due to my possible AuDHD. I am very non judgmental. I am also honest with people to a fault. If you want to know more please don’t be afraid to message me.

Hello，I am a 43 year old male，I was born in South Korea and adopted by an American couple when I was young，growing up in Michigan，Both my parents are deceased，I have an adult daughter，and my wife passed away in a car accident several years ago，I am currently trying to move on from my grief and start a new life，I am gentle and considerate，and I know how to care for women，I enjoy exploring new foods and traveling，No matter where you are from in the US，if you'd like，let's chat and see how far we can go

Hello everyone! I’m 43m and looking to connect with like-minded people. I have Asperger's, which shapes how I see the world and feeds into my deep appreciation for my hobbies. I like to balance an active lifestyle with plenty of downtime. My routine usually involves jogging and gym sessions to stay fit. For relaxation, I lean heavily into books, music, and Netflix. I have a major soft spot for the true crime genre. I also love the energy of live music and try to hit concerts whenever I can.

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Hello internet.

Ive reached that point in my life where it gets difficult to be social. Old fiends from my youth have moved away or had children- nothing against human larva, they're just not for me. And my remaining group is made up of my industry friends and coworkers. I feel so alone, yet like everyone wants a piece of me.

I just want some fun platonic friends to send memes, bond over hobbies, maybe go to trivia or a hike if you're reasonably local.

Professionally driven, recreationally exhausting. I love my career and work a ton, and I spend my free time running, cycling, and kayaking like I’m trying to escape my thoughts.

Indoors, I am fueled by '90s pop-punk, metal, sci-fi horror, video games, and TTRPGs. (Seriously, give me your Spotify link so we can start building a playlist).

My love language? Penguin pebbling. Expect an influx of silly doodles, sad girl poetry, and an ungodly amount of TikToks. Your only job is to send back whatever is rattling around in your head. Give me highbrow philosophy or lowbrow gaming clips and memes, its all welcome. I have zero filter, and I expect you to have none either.

I am alt leaning, a bleeding heart liberal with tattoos and progressive ideals. I am capable of changing my opinions when given new information. I know! How novel! I also love an intelligent debate.

Tell me your spooky season plans and lets be friends!

Hello all

Andy here, 43 married with 3 kids based in Yorkshire, England. Over the last 10 years or have lost contact with a lot of friends as they've moved away or just drifted out of touch. I realised the other day that my main friendly contact is actually my boss who I have known for 15 years. This does leave me feeling lonely at times, with nobody to just talk to about random things that pop into my head.

With that in mind I thought I would reach out into the void of Reddit and see if there was anyone that wanted to connect, make friends, have a natter about life, the universe and everything.

I'm a bit of a geek, I enjoy gaming, photography, films, history but I am happy to chat about anything really. I have a healthy dark sense of humour so don't be afraid to throw your jokes at me

I've had mixed success so far, chatted to some nice people, but I thought I would put out a post anyway on the off chance it piques someone's interest.

Age/gender/sexuality unimportant, more about common interests and ideally able to hold a conversation and have a laugh together.

Anyway have a great day

Andy

Hey everyone, I'm 43F. Life's been a bit of a mess lately, and I guess I just wanted to put this out there.

The first half of this year was actually pretty good. Things were going well with my relationship, family, work, and investments. I felt like I was finally in a good place for once.

Then the last few months happened, and things just started falling apart. My relationship has been having some serious issues, and my investments have taken a hit too. It's been hard dealing with both at the same time.

Honestly, I don't even know what to do right now. It's weird how things can change so much in just a few months. I was feeling pretty good about life earlier this year, and now I'm just trying to make sense of everything.

I guess I could use someone to talk to. Maybe some new friends who understand what it's like to go through a rough patch as an adult.

Has anyone else been through something similar? I could really use some advice, or even just a chat. Sometimes it's nice knowing you're not the only one going through a hard time

Hi everyone,

I’m Emily, 40F. I’m currently at a new stage of life and would love to meet some genuine people to share conversations and experiences with.

I’m semi-retired and run my own business, which gives me more flexibility with my time. I enjoy traveling, cooking, reading, exploring new places, and learning about different cultures. I also enjoy simple conversations about everyday life, personal experiences, and the things that make life interesting.

Over the years, I’ve learned that meaningful friendships don’t have to come from seeing someone every day. Sometimes a thoughtful conversation, sharing stories, or checking in from time to time can create a real connection.

I’d love to meet people from different backgrounds and learn about your experiences, your hometown, your hobbies, and the things you enjoy doing in life.

If you’re also looking for a genuine friendship, feel free to introduce yourself. I’d love to hear a little about you and what you enjoy doing in your free time.

Looking forward to meeting some interesting people and having good conversations.

Happy Friday Eve

Any plans for the up coming weekend, I’ll go 1st :-
My current plans (weather dependent) will be to take the bike 🏍️ for what may be the last ride of the year for me. Oh and at some point there’ll be a beer or 3.

Hello Reddit. The title says it. I left the oilfield a couple years ago, I took a role as a teacher, and ondoacovered that oilfield friends are fickle. Or maybe they weren't really friends, just drinking buddies.

So new job, new me I guess. My hobbies include working on my constantly broken truck. Chasing my kids to preform normal human tasks. Mowing my lawn and bragging to neighbours that my lines are more consistent. A super exciting lifestyle.

I'm not really sure what I hope to gain here, maybe some new jokes of nothing else. I do love a lame joke. So let's hear those awful one liners.

Hey how's it going everyone! So where to start i guess a little about me I have been extremely introverted for a long time now. I have pretty much shut everyone out of my life pretty much and have zero friends cause of it because I kinda gave up on people because of things in my life that have happened. I also feel like my social skills have all but left me and feel very awkward when it comes to socializing and its something I need to work on for sure which is kinda why im here. Ive been feeling very down lately cause im going thru an extremely tough break up which failed due to me cause I developed a Marijuana addiction about 2 years ago due to stress and anxiety i was having in my life.Which I am currently trying to overcome but has been very hard with no support system. I would really like to beat this and become a more sociable person again. So here I am on reddit hoping to find someone who wants to be my friend maybe with a little support lol.

Now with all that serious stuff out of the way prolly over shared but I just wanted to be upfront lol. Onto the semi interesting things about me I still listen to the same music I did in high school which is emo music we call ourselves elder emos now lol. Ive been playing my guitar more again now and trying to improve I missed it played a lot when I was younger but dropped it for a long time because I got super into gaming and hyper focused on that for way to long not to brag but i know way more about video games then ur average person lol. Also massive movie buff know way to much about that also haha

I guess onto what im looking for ideally it would be someone else who might relate or has alot of free time because I would like someone i can talk to daily to try and help my social skills and also with a support system for what I talked about before. It would be cool to game together I play a lot of different games here ate just a few of many that i play monster hunter wilds, runescape dragonwilds, street fighter 6, dead by daylight, valorant, grounded 2, elden ring nightreign, really love most survival games or anything with good melee combat and a lot of competitive games. Also It would be cool to find someone that likes to watch stuff together I really like documentaries, all kinds of movies and shows like I said massive movie buff. Jaws is my favorite of all time! So yeah i think I covered mostly everything if u made it all the way down here thanks for reading this is by far the longest post I have ever made "maximum effort" but I would reallt like to make friends and beat this slump im in right now so I hope u all have a wonderful day!!

I’m a 42 and a stay at home mom in California… although the kid is in school all day now. I’m also a full time college student (online), I’m just taking business, it’s uninspiring but I’m good at it I guess. I’m workin on opening a little sticker shop. I sleep when everyone is is at work and school.

I enjoy all things animation and doodle cartoony stuff sometimes for funsies. I love when people share really cool art with me.

I like… liked gaming. I used to play a lot of varied games and now I just play Fortnite with my partner every night. I’m not good at it.

I’m always planning trips to Japan it seems. I’ve been twice solo in the past few years, I’m trying to get my family to tag along. I’m currently planning another trip for New Years… probably solo. I’m more about exploring, culture, and temples than attractions but I’ll still pop in an arcade or buy some silly anime or cute themed food. I’m weak to cute things.

Uhhh… I’m pretty laidback. I don’t have a huge online presence anymore and don’t have any social media where I post things instead of just follow stuff. I prefer text chat. I always have.

Whatever has been left unsaid can be asked in chat. I’ve already rambled an embarrassing amount.

42M | Collector of forgotten things. Vinyl, cassettes, obscure bands, vintage magazines, cult films, and cheesy '70s horror. Fascinated by music history, counterculture, and the wonderfully weird. Open-minded, a little nostalgic, and always up for good conversation. Physical media is king.

Looking for online friends to chat with.

Hello world!

About 10 years ago, I laughed that my kid learned to crawl by chasing a robot (the vacuum). Now here I am trying to make friends via a post. Wild times.

40M from the East Coast of Canada. Married with kids, and between family, running a business and life in general, I've realized I haven't really maintained or made many friendships outside of all that. Figured I'd give this a shot!

I'm into a bit of everything. Fishing, hunting, camping, soccer, cooking (and eating!), home projects, exploring new places, travelling, finding funky little spots, and pretty much anything outdoors. I also have dogs, chickens and a cat.

Fitness is another interest of mine, or at least the thought of getting back into it consistently lol.

I'm pretty easygoing, enjoy a good conversation, some laughs, and I'm always up for trying something new, other then dancing (lol).

Not looking for anything complicated, just hoping to meet some genuine people to chat with, share interests, memes, and maybe hang out with eventually (if close, not a requirement). Male or female, married or single, doesn't matter to me. Just lookin' to "shoot da shit" one would say.

Ideally looking for people around Atlantic Canada/East Coast but anywhere in the world works!

Anyway, if you're in a similar boat or just feel like chatting, say hello!

I need help learning how to lean into this stage of life gracefully. I'm not ok with people calling me "sir" automatically just yet. 41M

Hey, like it says, looking for a few friends, something to talk about, whether it's a few times a week, or just occasionally.

Nerdy, ADHD, Veteran. Have a lady and some grandchildren now. Let's start with something fun, like your favorite Fandom.

I usually have something on many random and strange topics.

Anyways, let's talk and see what happens.

I've spent too much money curating one hell of a comic book shelf to let it just gather dust without somebody else being impressed by my taste.

I'm North of Columbia, East of Jackson, South of Clarksville, and West of Nashville. Say hey.

Ideally you also have comics but I am generous.

(Hellboy, Grendel, Mage, Astro City, Strangers in Paradise, Concrete, Mouse Guard, Queen & Country, Blacksad, Usagi Yojimbo, the Spirit, the Rocketeer, Criminal, all of this over Marvel and DC, but yes of course a bunch of Marvel and DC.)

hey how’s it going redditverse!

here I am looking for friends! lots of cool new things coming our way, new castlevania, wow forever, gta 6, pot remake its like a gamers wundedland.

that’s being said it’s pretty obvious I’m in to gaMing. I would love to get in to content creation but I haven’t found the hook that appeals to me the most.

im also very creative I love painting and drawing and I freaking love music so im always down for suggestions

im just looking for cool people to talk to, whether that’s girls or guys. so hit me up

Ok so let’s see here….I love elite charcuterie boards, always order fried pickles as an appetizer, and have a Spotify playlist of like a bazillion hours filled with pop, punk, emo and a lil country.

I’m 44, married, working the corporate gig, and raising a couple of kiddos When I’m not active, playing hockey, or getting outdoors, I’m usually on the patio watching my golden retriever tear around the backyard doing high-speed zoomies.

My mornings strictly begin with creamy coffee in my office before the day gets away from me. Weekends are a fine art of surviving the madness at Costco followed by an amazing skill of carrying all the groceries inside in just 1 trip.

Once fall hits, I’m all about crisp air, and latenight hot cocoa. I’m also guilty of staying up way past my bedtime long after the house goes quiet, dabbling in a spicy audio book then falling asleep to some….fun dreams.

Anywho…hoping all you fantastic people are having an amazing week!