Happy to share we officially “graduated” on 10/11/26. It was truly a magical day and I still feel over the moon looking back at it. I feel our connection deepened even more through our wedding and it feels wonderful having an incredible husband and being his wife.

We live in a VHCOL area and had a 134 guests say yes (6 last minute drops, I don’t think any true no shows).

I wanted to share some after the fact thoughts of what we really loved and what we may have done differently in case it helps anyone. These are only my opinions and it’s fine if you feel different. Genuinely - even with the hiccups the day still felt perfect because I was so over the moon marrying my husband. Easier said than done but try to lean on that during the hecticness of wedding planning.

I will say - anyone you can find organically - do! Our florist was someone we stopped by after getting coffee cause the outside of their business looked so so beautiful. Then we found out they’re eco friendly, local sourcing and no foam etc. plus we loved their aesthetic. Our baker was someone we found as a stand before we even got engaged! It made it so much easier to trust them and their vision/inputs as they meld with your ideas. Vibes really matter quite a bit.

I’m going to preface by saying the two high impact factors (besides who you marry obviously!)

1.) I wish we did a Saturday wedding. We planned to - but our venue was booked except for Halloween and we didn’t want a Halloween anniversary. In hindsight we should’ve looked at other venues to get what we wanted. We decided since 10/11 was a “3 day weekend” it would be fine. Our venue also charges Saturday pricing for holiday weekends so we didn’t even save any money. Unfortunately I only realized this past week or two that many people (including now myself at my new job) do not get indigenous peoples day off anymore even though it’s a federal holiday… I was honestly shocked by how early some of our friends left. It was a bummer to have spent so much time and energy planning just to have some people leave right after dinner. Thankfully there were still plenty of people and we had a great time but we did get pulled away for a bit saying bye to some people.

2.) This is said again and again but the DJ is everything. We ended up finding a DJ who opened at a concert and he was so incredible I asked if he’d be willing to do my wedding and so glad he said yes. He is not a wedding DJ. It was a hard decision because he truly blew our budget out of the water and I had to pick up extra shifts but I’m telling you not a moment where I regretted it. He is what made the wedding fun and memorable at the end of the day. The dance floor was packed and we had so much fun. It was money well spent.

General things I’m happy we did:

First Look:
I am so glad we did this. After seeing him my heart immediately felt calm and truly felt like nothing else mattered. I hate rain beyond normal tbh and felt really upset because 10/10 (ie saturday) had perfect weather. I actually complained for months after booking our venue that I wished we stuck to Saturday so it raining essentially our entire wedding Sunday (also hilariously perfect weather Monday too) was not great…we managed our first look outside and then it started pouring until the end of our wedding lol. But at that point I was so over the moon and smitten that I genuinely didn’t care about anything else the rest of the night. The feeling of marrying my person kept me so grounded and present. The only thing that mattered was the warmth…and even though it wasn’t the plan having the ceremony inside made it feel all the more intimate and heart warming rather than a show or performance. I was happy we were able to get our photos done before the ceremony and could spent the rest of the day just present with each other.

Favors: not popular - I know. I think generic favors or nonedible are whatever but if you can do a unique one at a reasonable price it felt worth it. We have two very different cultures and did a small packed dessert from each of our heritages. I was happy to be able to support small business from my community too. Zero left over.

Cocktail hour: we planned to have 10-15 minutes alone and join cocktail hour but we ended up spending the whole time mostly alone with small moments with our wedding party that was very special. Our coordinator brought us lots of apps and drinks so we got to enjoy that in peace.

Coffee cart: We both love coffee / matcha dates and cafes. We had a little last minute wiggle room and added this on. It was a lot of fun, kept people energized and we got to print some of my husbands art work on the lattes (including our dog) which was super cute!

Photobooth:
We did a KRUU photobooth. It was a hit and I think biggest reason was we rented a really cool flower wall with signage that attracted a lot of folk, plus the kids had a blast and we had great photos. I think the backdrop added a lot to its popularity. We were able to find a $300 rental that included set up and pick up. I will likely print out some of these pics to include in thank you cards!

Florist:
I spent months trying to figure out how to DIY flowers and looking to do fake flowers because I knew I couldn’t handle last minute putting flower arrangements together and transport. I kept finding it not only stressful but I find DIY flowers quite disappointing (for bouquets and centerpieces). Even getting the expensive high quality ones wasn’t impressive. I got a ton of florists quotes and many were barely more money than the fake flowers. There was wide variety of pricing. If you’re not going to get real flowers- the only ones I ever found worth it were something borrowed blooms. But I’ll say it again- if you’re having a big wedding the amount you need to rent is similar to some florist pricing. We did use something borrowed blooms for our rehearsal since we only had 7 tables.
I’ll admit I wish we simplified our florals slightly (we added a flower curtain for hanging effect that I don’t think did much) but I definitely am very happy we got the florist. Also having a flower arch made a big difference after we got forced indoors. I can’t imagine having the stress of flower arrangements to worry about on my wedding day. There was already so much to manage!

DIY Temp Tattoo bar:
Seriously a hit. I thought we had too many tattoos and didn’t use up all we had and let me tell you it was an empty bin at the end of the night. My now husband is an artist and made some custom ones, but we didn’t get that many because they were quite expensive. We got some other customized ones from Etsy and a mix of generic ones from Amazon. I was surprised how many ppl liked the dragon ones (I love my dragon themed romantasies). It made for some hilarious pictures.

A minimoon before a larger honeymoon:
I personally wouldn’t have had the bandwidth or energy to plan a large honeymoon immediately after the wedding. We instead went to a cute cabin about 2 hours away and are having a more relaxing chill time. We were both so tired and have enjoyed being able to just relax together!

Kid friendly wedding / leaning towards inclusivity (within reason lol):
It made it possible for guests to be there and we all had a blast together. We contemplated no kids wedding briefly because of costs but I’m glad we didn’t go that direction. We will likely be a childfree couple but regardless, these kiddos are our family and I wanted to include them since we could. The kids had some of the funniest dance moves too 😂

I’m happy we did QR codes for invites and text reminders for RSVP but wish we sent a follow up a few days before deadline of let us know if your plans changed! We had to pay to add someone last minute and then someone dropped the next day but they knew they had to drop the day before. The deadline snuck up on us so I thought it was too last minute to send anything else.

I’m happy we got two photographers who really vibed with us:
We happened to get a photography married couple (so cute)! My friend recommended we have two and I’m glad we listened.
One took photos of my husband and his pals
While the other was with me. It allowed them to help each other so we could get all our
Formal photos done quickly and get more candids. All of my family all day kept saying how great my photographers are because they just meshed with us, made it fun and truly kept the day moving and timely.

I’m happy we were extremely organized:
Every vendor complemented how organized we were. We put a separate bin for every table with everything that table needed on it and the seating layout taped onto the front. We had a master timeline and my coordinator had a separate guide for the “extras” for each part of the days. It made the rapid need to switch indoors more smooth.

I’m happy we got a venue with a good day of coordinator:
The coordinators had a lot of complements on the reviews. I asked if I should get a separate coordinator cause some people kept going “oh, they’re for the venue not for you!”. They told me most people don’t and that I don’t need to so I didn’t. She made sure we had food and that the day went smoothly. An extra coordinator wouldn’t have been worth thousands of dollars.

Happy we skipped:
Live wedding music - maybe because we had a wonderful DJ but this was an added cost that I don’t think adds much (have been to many weddings where they have live music either at ceremony and / or reception). I did want a harp player but we decided against it because our DJ already cooked our budget lol. If I had an unlimited budget it’d be cool but otherwise it’s too one dimensional and costly without major benefit.

Wish we did:

On other coin of the photography, I wish we got a second shooter for video.
This is kind of dual purpose because I am SO glad we got videographer. I understand why some people think it’s a budget cut item, but to me it was nonnegotiable. Yes you look at photos more but videos is where the memories are much more vivid. Even now it’s hard to fully remember speeches and other fun parts of the night. I realized while he was shooting how angles and moments are missed even more with just it all on one person. There’s also a wide range of budgets for video and if you can’t get a videographer get a content creator - just something for video. It’s truly special to look back on and even now I like the videos my friends are posting more than the pics! We didn’t get a content creator but I do really wish we got something extra for video coverage.

A bridal suite:
Do not compromise on this IMO! I said I wouldn’t and alas I did lol. They own a hotel nearby that has a space they use as a bridal suite but it honestly would’ve been better to just already be at the wedding space and also would’ve given us real opportunities for outdoor pics cause we wasted time at the hotel and transporting. I also kept having family staying at the hotel trying to pop in while I was getting ready.

Paid more attention to what’s going on in the area:
It was a more remote-ish location. Not terribly- larger city 30 min away but in the immediate vicinity there were less options for larger gatherings and not as many hotel choices.

Asked venue about the table layout:
They sent us the floor plan layout and it listed how many people can fit at each table. I didn’t realize they had some people sitting at the edges / head of the table because it didn’t show the seat layout.

I wish we picked a roomier venue:
The dance floor was packed and there is something fun in that and also wish we had more dance floor space. Additionally because we had to move the ceremony inside there was less variety in spaces to take photos.

I wish we picked a one story venue:
Again we liked our venue so much we didn’t think about it at the time. It ended up being fine, we had a bar on both floors. We had to pay a little extra to have two bars but it was worth it and I think stopped it from feeling as separate/ encouraged people to use the bar. I think people appreciated having a space that was a little less rowdy to go to. That being said making the seating chart was a nightmare lol.

Overall it was an incredible day even with some things I wish we did a little different. I think you can choose to focus on what went wrong or right and we had an absolute blast. Wish you luck on your wedding planning journey!

I just got so down recently because I realised nobody will throw me a bachelorette, nobody will even think of it or ask. I have a MOH, bridesmaid and bridesman but they don't know eachother. My MOH is my cousin and the other two are a couple and my housemates. They are all extremely busy and besides wearing an outfit I buy for them and standing up the front with me I won't be getting them to do anything else.

It's 4 months until my wedding and I overheard my fiancee talking to his best man and his best man is talking about a bachelor party and getting all the guys together and I just felt this gross jealousy. I wish i had friends like that but I don't I barely even managed to put a bridal party together at all. I feel so sad.

This isn't the first thing to go wrong, my immediate family refuse to attend my wedding so my mum, siblings and nana, my dad wants to but can't without ruining his marriage. So I will be walking down the isle alone, and the people I was once closer to than anyone else in the world won't be there with me. I always wanted my brothers in my bridal party but i will never get to have that now.

I know my negativity is rubbing off on my fiance and it's really affecting him and I feel really bad about that but I don't have anyone else to talk to about it and I don't know how to keep all of these feelings to myself. I just feel so sad.

Why can't I have what others do, why does my situation have to feel so bleak

I have 1 person who’d be on my side and that’s my best and only friend and maybe my sister as my maid of honor. My fiancé has so many close friends. Off the top of my head, she’d probably have 6-7 people on her side. Anyone on here have an uneven wedding party? How big of a difference was it? I’m just nervous that it’s going to look odd and people are gonna pitty me. lol. 😭

Just found out I’m pregnant and I’ll be 29 weeks pregnant for my wedding.
I have such conflicting feelings because yes, I’m so excited that our family will start sooner, but I’m also a bit sad because of the vision I had for my wedding.
I had expectations of losing weight and looking a certain way for the day, having an extravagant first dance (I’m a former dancer), and just partying and having the energy to celebrate with my family.
Now all that is kinda taken away-I will most likely have a noticeable bump that even my ball gown won’t be able to cover; we may have to replace the lifts in our dance and maybe make the moves simpler bc of how pregnant I’ll be; and I might not even have the energy and kinda worried that I’ll just be miserable the whole day because I would be so tired.
I’m not wishing for things to be any other way because I would absolutely be devastated if anything happened-so for the brides that were pregnant on their day, how did you feel? Am I alone in feeling this way? How did you cope with these conflicting feelings? Did it even make a difference?

I'm getting married in about a week. My dress fit well at my last fitting two weeks ago, but it's strapless so its fitted pretty snuggly. I've been having this constant anxiety since then that its not going to fit on my actual wedding day and that it'll be too tight to zip.

Has anyone actually had this happen to them? How'd you fix it?

We got married on 10/10. Some backstory- We’ve been friends for a decade and were never single at the same time until December 2025. Found out I was pregnant the end of February/early March 2026 and through hell and high water I was determined to keep the baby as I have never been pregnant before. Since we were still an early couple, things weren’t perfect but we realized no matter what we would come together to raise our little best friend on the way with all the love we have. At first there was some pressure from family to get married as soon as possible and that gave him cold feet. We spent weeks talking it through and that we could be a couple, and enjoy eachothers’ company and focus on having fun/building a better relationship. We’re both lucky to have family that supports us as people and supportive of the baby, and have committed to helping us with anything.

I found out a month ago my insurance was terminating tomorrow, 10/15, a month before my due date. I made arrangements as best I could to find new doctors and mental health professionals that could accept Medicaid in the chance he still wasn’t ready, I would be covered. After my final therapy session with a therapist I connected with over the last 2 years, I was in tears. I told him honestly, losing my doctors I have a relationship with, some 10+ years with was very hard on me emotionally. He told me he would once again consider marriage so I could be covered. I kept him updated on the health of our baby and myself throughout my whole pregnancy and we both committed early on to being kind and patient with eachother. And one day, it clicked for him, that life would just be harder for everyone involved and he trusted that I love him for who he is and that he loves me for me, not just because of the baby.

We decided 10/2 we would get married. No rings, no reception, no guest list, no DJ, no cake, no bach parties. Immediate family only with my uncle who is a pastor, and like my second father, officiating the wedding. I had just had a big baby shower where zero of my friends attended and it felt good to not stress about who would attend my wedding ceremony.

$28 at the local registrar for the marriage license. Since I’m 8 months pregnant there was no way I was finding a dress I wanted in short notice so my only option was Amazon - $35 on a prime day deal and I was gambling on it fitting since I’m also 4’11” with no alterations.
His suit - $106 at H&M that he bought for a previous wedding of a friends 4 weeks prior.

I’m lucky to have an older sister who treated me the day before to getting my nails done, bought my shoes from a Clark’s outlet for $30, and we made my bouquet at wegmans for $60.

The venue cost us nothing. We got married at Cooper River Park in Cherry Hill, NJ where you don’t need a permit. Our original plan was to get married under a gazebo close to the sculpture park but the day of my uncle texts me that this section of the park is closed to a big event. My dad and I arrived 5 minutes later to see the cops blocking off the road. Looked it up and it was a 5k race for a charity event that would last all day. I quickly scrambled onto Google Maps to see if I could find another gazebo/pavilion that was still in the confines of the town. I knew crossing the bridge meant we would be in Collingswood. Push come to shove- I was ready to get married under a nice tree if it came down to it.

But I was lucky again, and found a pavilion “Subaru Pavilion” only 1000 feet away from the skatepark and still within the town that we put on the marriage license. Since it was 10:30 am, we were lucky there wasn’t many people at the park. I sent the location to the pastor, my sister/mom, him, and his mom. Within 10 minutes we were all gathered and ready to go. I cried pretty much the entire time we said our vows from happiness.

Photographer was my sister using my DSLR camera and her 1 photography class knowledge from high school came in handy.

Once the ceremony was over, we all headed to a local restaurant for brunch. They normally don’t take reservations but worked with us to seat all 17 people and keep our table even though we ran a little late.
Our dads split the $315 brunch bill.

We agreed to write vows for eachother and read them privately and we did that the next day when we were both alone with eachother.

Marriage certificate and extra copies came out to $45 cash.
While there is some things I wish we could’ve done differently (like have a Chinese tea ceremony), I’m still grateful and over the moon happy with how we chose for our very simple, low-budget, intimate wedding so we can give our baby a better life. We agreed maybe someday we will have a bigger reception down the line with my giant family and more of his family to celebrate our marriage but for now, buying a house and raising our son is our top priority.

One of my absolute favorite movies is Best in Show. I’ve joked with my fiancé and some of my friends since before we were engaged that my wedding vows were just going to be Jennifer Coolidge’s opening monologue (“We both love soup…and snow peas…” etc). I’m obviously not going to do that, but I do think it would be funny to slide a line from it into my vows. I’d say at least 50% of our guests have seen the movie and would know what I’m referencing, but probably only a few people would really know the joke and why I’m incorporating those lines. I think it would be a funny little thing between my fiancé and I (and our few friends) but I also don’t want it to be weird or off putting to guests to feel like they’re not in on the joke.

Thoughts?

Just got engaged!

So exciting! Just got engaged in NYC. We’re thinking of doing our wedding out in Montauk. I’m 32M and she’s 31F.

I proposed to her in Central Park after 5 years of dating. We’re both VPs at large tech companies so our schedule is going to be pretty hectic as we try and plan this thing.

I’m doing an engagement party next month at The Plaza which I’m super excited about. It’s going to run us back like $20k cuz of all the guests and it being the Plaza but you only get married once!!!!

Literally the title.
I have tons of other great music planned. Some typical wedding/club music that gets everyone moving.
I’ve been told I have a great sense of music taste.
One of my guilty pleasures is $B lol.
My fiance & I actually bonded over it when we first started dating. I put on Carrollton in the car like a week into meeting him to be funny & see his reaction & I was shocked that we both broke out singing the whole thing together. 😂
We have old Snapchat videos of us singing them while driving so it just feels so us, along with some old emo kid songs.
All of my friends would obviously turn up for them. I even am thinking we do our grand entrance as one of their songs.
When I listen to some of my favorites I’m like WOW I never realized the lyrics are that insane because now I’m scanning on behalf of my grandparents LOL.
I’m not planning on playing a bunch btw I’m talking maybe like grand entrance to come in super hype & then maybe 1 more for the regular dance floor.
I just am really worried my fam is gonna be mad about it.
& before anyone says who cares it’s your day, I value my family heavily. We’re close & not to brag but I am the favorite grandchild which is the biggest flex. 😂🖤

So does anyone have experience with this at all? Was it not as big of a deal as I’m thinking? They literally have NO safe songs I feel like.

Any recommendations on what guests actually ate and didn't eat at your cocktail hour? Wondering whether to keep or skip basic things like the veggie and fruit displays or at least limit the amount so a bunch doesn't go to waste. Thanks!

Hello this is more of a rant post than anything else but with all this planning going on I just want to be able to complain a little. My fiancé and I are planning to get married in a year and recently I tried on wedding dresses. I actually was able to find a super beautiful wedding gown at my local thrift store. I love it and although it’s not the most fancy it fits me and i really think it looks good on me. Now a couple weeks ago my stepmom who has been in my life since I was 5 has offered to take me dress shopping or to give me her wedding dress when she married my dad. I loved this idea but I was really upfront. I already bought a dress that i really like but I am open to trying something else. I told her that we can go dress shopping but I don’t want to buy a new gown. It would be just to try on. She agreed and one weekend she came over for me to try on her dress. It is a very beautiful dress but it is not my style. I also think it looks good on me but I can barely move in it. It’s very fitted. The whole experience went really well and she kept telling me that I can choose whatever I want. That she wouldn’t be offended by whichever dress I ended up wearing. However after my stepmom and dad left my dad sent me a huge paragraph essentially trying to get me to choose my stepmoms dress. I don’t think he meant for it to come off rude or anything. But to tell me in person that I’m allowed to choose whatever I want and then an hour later send me a message trying to guilt me into a family dress just doesn’t sit right with me. I like both dresses but now I feel like I don’t actually have a choice anymore. I am going to talk to my parents about the message and make sure I’m very upfront about my plans but I just wanted to express my annoyance somewhere else so I’m not rude later.

Ok so due to a ton of shit hitting the proverbial fan this year with my wedding (venue cancelled 6 months from my date, new venue hunt to keep vendors who’d been booked, family emergencies, injuries, etc etc etc) I’m super late getting my invites out (getting married on 11/21 😬)

I’ve printed my invites and I am wondering what the fastest way I could get invites into people’s hands is. I’m even considering just cramming the whole suite into a priority mailer at this point to make sure people get them ASAP but wanted to see if anyone here had any ideas before I blow $13 per invitation.

for context, my fiancé and i will be getting married after 3 years of dating and 2 years of living together. As a hispanic woman it’s normally not traditional to live with a man if you’re not married so you can see why my parents were not happy. after constant pressure and long conversations about marriage ny family finally stepped back from trying to pressure us into marriage…now my fiancé and i feel ready to tie the knot but no here’s where the issues start, my fiance and i conversed to christianity after leaving the Catholic Church, my mom was NOT happy about that but that brings one of the wedding issues up, she wants us to have a catholic ceremony, we do not as that is not our faith

she kept saying that my family wouldn’t want to participate if our ceremony is christian, and saying that we probably wouldn’t receive a lot of help financially from any family members since it won’t be a catholic wedding…after a lot of mental manipulation we folded and started looking into the catholic wedding process we began it but now realized this is not want we wanted at all not to mention they literally made you jump thru hoops to have a catholic wedding

another issue is we wanted a smaller wedding 200 guest max, yes i know 200 seems like a lot but for a mexican wedding it’s not much… but my mom decided to take the reigns and start to plan a 400 person wedding at some fancy ranch venue…first of all she’s expecting us to pay for the venue…the venue is close to 10K and that not something we were planning to do let alone spend, like i said small but nice wedding. how do i even begin to tell her she killed all my excitement for this wedding that turned huge. this is not what we wanted at all and now feel obligated to invite everyone to our wedding and spend more then we expected. and these are not the only issues arising :/

sorry if this was all over the place but I just feel since it’s gonna be our wedding we should be the ones being catered to and not us catering to everyone else. does anything by think i’m maybe not being considerate, my family will be helping us pay for the wedding but they are a lot more financially stable then we are and have a bigger budget and we do not hence why we were opting for a smaller wedding. any advice is welcome and appreciated:) and please delete is this is the wrong forum for this story

All stamp cancellations done by USPS in the month of October have a big “Dog Bite Awareness” logo on them. We have had several people text us after receiving StDs and ask us why we went with the dog bite awareness thing 😂😂 Not a big deal, but if the aesthetic matters to you, either bring them in for hand-cancelation or wait until Nov 1!

Just wondering if anyone has experience with getting ordained through them. I’m in California so I know online ordinations are legal, just have never heard of this specific site

Hi everyone so I’m getting married March 2027. I had picked my MOH and bridesmaid back in 2025 when I first got engaged. My MOH is my childhood best friend from highschool. The last few months I have been feeling stressed/anxious and having her as MOH. She struggles financially and I made it clear from the start if it was something she couldn’t handle I would completely understand. I’m paying everything for her (as I should) apart from wedding night accommodation. Every conversation we have weather that be about the wedding or just life in general is always negative. Any time I have a problem or vent to her she always turns the conversation around to be about her every single time. I don’t know if she realises she does it or if she’s jealous I’m having a wedding (she’s been engaged for 10 years). She also has a partner coming and made a massive big deal about him not staying the pre wedding night with everyone as she was worried about him being alone for a night.. (he’s not part of the wedding party nor one of the girls so why would I want him to?!) am I wrong for feeling like I just don’t want her to be my MOH anymore? I love her but I just feel like now I won’t be supported properly by her on my big day or she will be too focused on her partner.. (he’s a grown ass man!) I’m so lost as to what I should do and need some advice please.

TL;DR: I found what I thought was a perfect wedding planner for a multicultural wedding only to be given the runaround, asked for money, and sent seemingly AI-generated emails. Has anyone used Statuesque Events or Wedded Details before and have proof that they are real? If not, does anyone have other recommendations for multicultural wedding planners who work in the DMV?

I’m at the very beginning of wedding planning and I’m looking for a planner just for 1 day of a traditional Nigerian ceremony as part of a Nigerian-American fusion wedding. I thought I’d found the perfect wedding planner (Statuesque Events/Wedded Details) and was scheduled to have a call with the planning team earlier this week but it was abruptly cancelled 5 minutes before the intro call with a cursory excuse given about an emergency. The cancellation, while annoying and a bit unprofessional, seemed legit.

When they cancelled, I was directed to a look at a subsidiary company of theirs that deals with lower budget (<$50k) weddings, given that I’d mentioned my budget in an intake form. I go to fill out the form for this sister company and within minutes I’m provided with a “proposal” and a contract asking for $1500 in order to move forward. At no point was there an invitation to have a call first — just a generic contract and generic online booklet of their services. I was later able to find a link to book a 15 minute (the other call was going to be an hour) session with the team for later this week.

This afternoon, they sent a pre-meeting email that seems detailed and acknowledged the prior appointment cancellation. On closer inspection, however, it just regurgitates almost word for word information I’ve provided just in a different order, includes overly flowery language, and has a weird on and off again bolding that looks like it was taken directly from ChatGPT. My alarm bells are ringing because of the ask for money (which I did not pay) and a feeling that if they are so lazy that they use ChatGPT to respond to emails, will that reflect in how the wedding is run? But also maybe this is just what large planning firms do and it turns out okay? Idk, not sure what to think. Any advice folks could give would be great!

Its almost a month before my wedding and my MOH never knew what to do about a bachelorette party, and kept asking me if I thought about what I wanted to do. She doesn't have any PTO to take a day off so it would have to be a weekend but the schedule is tight if we were to travel. I just settled and said let's iust do something small here and mentioned what I want to do like a spa day and a movie or something. Im planning the day and where now, and paying for myself. Is this normal? If its not normal should I just go do these things by myself? I mentioned i wanted a surprise but she never knew what to surprise me with

I ordered a wedding dress from Clarice’s Bridal in STL back in June that I adored. The dress bodice was see through, but they assured me that it could just be lined! We put a white insert under the dress while I tried it on to see what it would look like, and it was perfect (pictured). The second picture is what I picked up this past weekend - the bodice is totally different! They covered the boning and stiffened it, now making it look wider and far less detailed. I’ve reached out to Clarice’s but they haven’t responded yet, and I know the bottom of their order receipts says “no returns or exchanges, no exceptions.” My wedding isn’t until June so I have a bit of time. What do I do??

All week I've been calling, and I would choose "Call me back." Wait literally all day, then another day, and still no call back. Then I start the process over. I'm currently just sitting on hold this time (at 25 minutes), but saw someone was on hold for 4.5+ hours. Has anyone actually got a call back recently?

My fiancé and I have been engaged for a little over a year and we are just under one year until our wedding! We have a decent amount already planned and booked at this point.

I’ve always dreamed of a “traditional” wedding: ceremony, reception, father daughter dance, first dance, speeches, dancing the night away, etc. My fiancé didn’t really care if we had a “big” wedding, but wanted to do it since it’s something I’ve wanted for a while.

Since we’re having a long engagement, financially we are in a pretty good spot. Saving for the wedding and making payments as we save up. We are getting help from both of our parents also.

With that, my MIL and FIL are covering the venue and the bar tab. They mentioned having an open bar all night, and we pumped the brakes on that. Now, on the year out anniversary, my MIL tried to have a conversation with my fiancé and I about it again. She made some good points and I was considering everything she said but still said I was unsure if this is something I wanted. She kept drilling into me and trying to pressure me to change my mind and give her an answer then. Things got a little out of control and my fiancé stepped in and said something along the lines of it’s our wedding and our choice and we just kind of abruptly ended the conversation.

Fast forward and there was a phone call and it did not make the situation better. She basically said “sorry if I came off that way” and was not taking accountability at all for blowing this out of proportion.

Now my fiancé and I are considering just doing a ceremony at our church with our already selected bridal party, immediate family, and aunts/uncles/cousins. After the ceremony we are playing with the idea of just having cupcakes and basically a social hour and then leaving for a private dinner and then meet up with the bridal party later.

I’m really struggling with coming to terms on not doing the “whole” thing. I know it’s not needed, and the most important part is we’re married in the eyes of God and proclaim our love and vows, but I can’t help but grieve the loss of the “party”.

This whole dynamic is also tricky because the venue is my MIL and FIL’s and we all work in their family business together. The last few days have been extremely awkward and I’m having terrible anxiety everyday. No one is talking about it and my MIL and I have barely talked at all.

Would love any advice and wisdom - just really struggling mentally with everything.

So I have no contact with half my family, the only two I talk to is my sister and brother. My mom was hoping I was never getting married and my father is in prison. Because my siblings had work I don't have them at my wedding today, witch I was fine with they told me in advance they wouldn't make it and I understood completely. Now because I was never aloud to leave much around my mom ( she was stealing my disability money and was afraid if I was gone to long id never come back) so I don't have any friends other then one. I met her because she was dating my mom's friend at the time and she saw through her bs fast. Well I told her I was getting married and since I wasn't expecting anyone to come for my side I told her it wasn't a worry I was just letting her know. She is a struggling single mom, and she scrapped up enough money to drive 12 hours and come to my wedding. I told her she didn't have to and she said " ik but I ain't having u get married without someone there for u".

Hi everyone,

I was hoping to get some feedback. Me and my Fiancé just got our sneak peak back from our engagement photographer.

When I sent my inspo I did send photos that were more soft/candid. I am attaching a reference photo of what I got back. I am really disappointed as I feel they are more portrait style/harsh. In this photo the beach/sky almost looks fake.

Am I being picky? I have not messaged them yet about my concerns.

Thank you all!

Sorry, didn't know how to title this.

My fiance and I are looking at booking a boutique hotel an hour and a half from where we live that can sleep 32 people for a wedding weekend and having the ceremony and reception on the premises. My parents are paying, but the hotel gives us the option of offsetting the cost by setting a room rate for guests, the hotel will handle the booking. We're inviting close family and friends only, about 40-45 people. My friends will all be coming from our city whereas his will be coming from some very far distances.

I guess I'm just feeling anxious about how to handle the logistics if everyone RSVPs yes and am looking for reassurance or guidance. We aren't allowed to have more than 32 people overnight, but are allowed to have up to 60 guests for the event. The area has plenty of other accommodations, but then I'd feel the need to provide shuttles as well. Not sure how to make the assignments fair for all involved, have everyone pay a rate including the people staying in the hotel? Have only family in the hotel and have friends pay their own way? Prioritize housing his friends because they are travelling from so far away? Suggest he cover the accommodations for his friends travelling? Cheat the system and have extra people stay the night? No staff will be present for the duration of the weekend to notice the extra guests.

Help?

I live on the east coast of the US if that is relevant