We met on the teenagers subreddit over 3.5 years ago and started our long distance relationship soon after, my HUSBAND 💗 visited me first in Australia early 2024 then again late 2024, again early 2025 and then I saved up and took my whole family to texas in late 2025 and early 2026 we went again and brought him home <333 we had our beautiful wedding on the 10/10/2026 (I made the date 10/10 as Americans put the month first then the day whereas in aus we do it the opposite way so 10/10/26 was easy for both families lol!

Long distance isn’t for the weak but he made it easy, we both always put in 111% effort and time, the only days we didn’t call were the days we were travelling to each-other, ever since our first message to each other we never stopped talking. He is my everything and I am so forever blessed to have him here with me throughout our happy lives together. 💗💍

I can’t wait to propose to her. I wrote my vows before we even met in person, just because I knew she was special and I wanted to promise her things and share a life in which I can deliver on those promises. Now, we have met, and we agree on a vision for our future. I can’t wait to figure out her ring size and learn what styles she likes.

She is a brilliant and independent and capable person I admire. She has a soft side that I feel lucky to know. She rarely sings or dances, but it’s precious when she does. She’s a nerd – nerdier than me. Encyclopedic knowledge of her special interests. She loves animals and lots of different rock music and she hates it when her nail polish gets chipped. She happens to be incredibly beautiful.

I got laid off from my desk job with health insurance and ran out of money, so I’ve started washing dishes in restaurants just to save up to be ready to propose. She loves and supports me even when I don’t have anything in my bank account, and because of her, I want to get serious about figuring out that bank account. I want to manage my small debts, accrue savings and buy whatever lab-grown diamond she wants. Every plate I scrub is for her.

I’m so happy this girl wants to look at rings together. I’m so touched that she tears up when we talk about it. I’m so ready to prove to her through action that her love is safe with me.

We are looking at rings when she visits this winter so that at a later time, when it makes sense, I can ask her to marry me, and I really cannot wait. She is my heart, forever.

35F. Very recently had a breakup of a LDR. It was the first time for me in a long time feeling like I'd found a fit for me. But it turned out that it was mostly the butterflies and there was no real desire to make it work. I feel betrayed, hurt, heartbroken, everything

We were supposed to meet in a couple of months for the first time. I was excited

And that's the thing. It's a special kind of grief when you lose someone you haven't met in person so you know that from the outside "it wasn't even real" but it was to you. And there's so much more grieving for something that never was than with a normal relationship

I hate it and I'm really hurting. I'll take any words of comfort or advice

My partner and I are going to be closing the distance in less than 2 weeks! We've been long distance for 4 years and 10 months so we are super excited for this!

I’m talking to this girl who I’ve been talking to for over a month now. Her texting and calling has always been kind of shitty but it’s gotten worse and I’ve brought up my concerns and she acknowledged them and for a week it was good. She was definitely trying more. And I appreciated the efforts. To be fair she has pretty much two full time jobs and does a lot of extracurricular activities plus friends life etc.

But this week we’re back at it. I’ll text her in the morning and I’ll hear from her maaaaybe in the afternoon. Or not even at all. And it’s typically short. Like hey so sorry. And then silence again. Calling has also become minimal maybe a ten minute call every other day or so if that. I hear her tell me how she’s gone out with friends or was having a text conversation with her group chat. It makes me second guess myself. She says she likes me a lot. But her communication is garbage. And it seems like she has time to text other people. I obviously can’t confirm that but it sure feels that way. I feel like for an LDR you’d want to communicate as much as possible to stay feeling connected? But it doesn’t feel that way. Am I too needy for an LDR? Am I overthinking it? I’m really into this girl but it’s incredibly frustrating when I get such a lack of response. I’m unsure of what to do. I don’t want to fuck this up.

i don’t know what to do anymore about this guy i’m in love with. we dated for a year when we were 15, i have never loved anyone like him and i don’t feel in my soul i could ever love anyone the way i love him. i’ve tried since we were 15 to be with other people and forget him but it’s impossible. he is an incredible guy and we connect so well, there are no issues-except that we currently live 5,000 miles apart. that’s not even the worst part, because i go visit him and he came to visit me in august. he wants to move to america and make a lot of money and be with me so that we can travel, then the plan is for me to move to his country with him permanently. we have talked about being together again and wanting to spend our lives together, but he said he can’t commit right now because of the distance and that he isn’t 100% sure about us yet. he said he has only ever been with me, so he can’t be sure that it’s true love if he hasn’t experienced other people (broke my heart to hear but i know he genuinely means the best). he is so kind and thoughtful and my dream man in every way. i’m planning to go visit him in january and we have talked about it, he’s so excited to see me.

the thing is i hardly hear from him. he has always been hard to reach. when he does text me, it’s very sweet, asking about me, the conversation is great. it just happens so rarely. i haven’t heard from him since september 25th. i know we aren’t in a relationship but it’s hard to do everything you could possibly do with someone and then go to not hearing from them for weeks at a time. i know he’s busy, also no he doesn’t have a girlfriend (i know his friends and life well). i just don’t know how to handle not hearing from the man i love so much. everything else in his attitude and actions shows he loves me but we hardly talk. at this rate how will i see him in january? plane tickets have to be bought.

i’m sorry about the rambling- i’m just 20 years old, busy, and i’d kill for some physical touch and affection. i see my friends in love and it feels like i’m in the backseat. i have no desire to date anyone else, but touch would be nice. how do i trust someone enough for that? where do i find someone? what if i hate how that goes if i do it?

people will say he doesn’t care about me and i would think that too. but you have no idea the way we are together and how incredible of a person he is. i see our whole lives and future all the time. i grasp at any crumbs he gives me and it’s just sad

how do i wait for him? i deserve to be happy and get communication, but how do i know what decision is right?

i’m only 20 but i feel like i’m wasting my life away. before i’m old i want a husband and kids and a life. i don’t want to live in limbo for him for 10 years.

tl;dr- how do you feel satisfied not hearing from the love of your life but rarely?

I haven't seen him in person since July, and he's coming to visit me again on Valentine's Day. I know I only have about 4 months left but it hurts being away from him. I especially miss him right now because I have been having dreams about him. How do I stop missing him so much?

How often do you guys feel the need for Sexual intimacy in LDR? How do you guys schedule it? Is it limited to weekends mostly?

I have a 5 hour difference with my partner, they live in the UK and I’m in the US. So they are quite far in another continent :/

Long post sorry but please bare with me

Me (30F) and my (33M) “bf” don’t even know if we still have a relationship left. Start of September he asked for a “pause” not a break, not a breakup (I directly asked what it was and gave him those options, didn’t chose either but that exact word “just a pause).

Context to why is very long but it was personal to him, coming from months of stress, mental health battles that turn into physical health issues. And lead him to not being so communicative on our daily talks or not giving me the “attention” he would want to give me, so the relationship was causing him added stress to his current situation.

He explained all his reasons and said it’s not because of me, he still loved me and believed in us. And he put the boundary that he rather be the one reaching out, he would update me from time to time. We didn’t put a timeline to check in because it isn’t a relationship issue, but personal so how to do put a deadline to healing?

Anyway, he reached out randomly close to a week mark of every last contact, a couple of times, even two days consecutive twice. But this time feels different.

It’s been a month and a week since it started. Last “reach” was Sunday 4 of October. And it wasn’t even a conversation it was a one-time view video of something I commented on the day before when he reached out shortly, to which I reacted. Then on Wednesday I got the courage to send a funny pic of me on one time view too, it was a screenshot of a video someone else took, he didn’t do anything until the next day he reacted with a laughing face.

That’s been it for now. 11 days since he sent that video, not even an actual conversation, and his reaction to my message i wouldn’t count it. Or it does?

It’s scary and hard to believe someone you spend 7 months talking to every day can go so much without a conversation. I understand he asked for the space to heal and think.

But the last serious conversation was at the end of September, he told me he was in a bad place because of something that happened in his family. In the same conversation he tried to reassure me by saying he “never forgets me” and “still cares about me” at the moment it did reassured me, but now i wonder the choice of words, i would’ve said “i still love you” why does it feel like an ex talking to me?

How do i keep believing he loves me and is getting better, and we still have a chance? I’m trying to stay positive because it’s been hell. I have anxious attachment and have been working on it, even if i do better now it still hurts me a lot.

I’m a very empathetic person and I was there for him when all this started, supporting him and giving all the grace in the world because he is a very honest and good caring man, I do not doubt his intentions with this pause or very hard situation.

But how do I put boundaries in how long this would take or to ask for an update to protect myself, while also knowing his situation and not wanting to break his boundaries or put pressure on him to get better or give answers?

I’m so lost, I love him so much. And more than anything, I just miss him like hell.

TL;DR: My (24M) girlfriend (19F) recently started MBBS, and we're in a long-distance relationship. Since she started college, she's made new friends, including male friends, and spends time hanging out and playing cards with them. We don't talk as much as we used to, and I miss the closeness we had. I understand she deserves her own social life, but I feel insecure, jealous, and scared we're growing apart. How do I manage these feelings without becoming controlling, and how can we rebuild our connection?

She's recently started studying MBBS, while I'm in my UPSC preparation phase, and lately, I've been feeling increasingly distant from her. Before she started college, we used to talk a lot more. Initially, when she hadn't made many friends, she'd call me after almost every lecture. It wasn't that I expected her to spend all her free time with me, but those little moments made me feel connected to her.

Now she's made friends including male friends, and spends time hanging out and playing cards with them. I understand that this is a normal part of college life, and I genuinely want her to enjoy it. But I can't deny that it makes me insecure, especially because we're long-distance.i feel bad that we don't communicate like we used to. Earlier she'd call me whenever she had some free time. Now i sometimes feel like I'm no longer the person she instinctively thinks of. A few days ago, I called her while she was in the library, and she didn't pick up, which was unusual for her. I called her out of jealousy and insecurity because she was with her male friends.I start overthinking whether her feelings or priorities are changing.I realise that some of this might be my own anxiety. She's entering a new phase of life, meeting people and building friendships, while I'm in a preparation phase. Sometimes, it feels like her world is expanding while mine is staying the same, and I'm scared we're slowly growing apart.

I've talked to her about how I feel, and I don't want to become controlling or make her feel guilty for having male friends or enjoying college. At the same time, I miss the closeness we had, and I don't know how to deal with these feelings without repeatedly seeking reassurance from her. She also wants to fix this. It was her who started feeling distant first, now she doesn't feel it but I do.

How do you deal with jealousy and insecurity when your partner makes new friends, including male friends? How do you distinguish between your own anxiety and genuine emotional distance from your partner? Is it reasonable to ask for consistent time and effort, and how do we rebuild our connection without making communication feel like an obligation?

I love her, she loves me and want her to enjoy this phase of her life. But I'm feeling neglected and unwanted. I don't want my insecurities to damage our relationship, but I also want to feel connected.

So I 39m have been seeing 45f for a little over a year, we’ve met several times. We’ve had really tough communication issues and conflict resolution is almost non existent. She generally is heavily avoidant and will go do tasks instead of communicate with me in any timely manner, sometimes multiple days and attempts.

I was going to fly out for our 1 year for the weekend. We had talked about it, a little over a week after talking about it, she made plans with her ex husband (share a child) and didn’t tell me til last minute, so I was forced to cancel. She knew for 3 weeks her plans that day, and didn’t tell me.

We had talked about her moving and I would fly out to help her with it all. Hence the weekend visit plan since I was coming back shortly to help for a longer time. The following day after snubbing our plans she asked if her ex husband could stand in my place instead, devaluing and disregarding my efforts I offered many times.

I got upset. I told her to download a dating app or get with her ex husband if I’m going to be pushed aside constantly. She’s weaponized him against me many times and brought our relationship issues to him. But won’t sit with me and resolve anything.

She also randomly goes over to his house and says nothing before hand or really anything, acts sneaky and distant.

Issue: she downloaded hinge to upset me, but deleted it and told me. We laughed since I egged it on but I was still upset at the events of being set aside especially in place of him. I finally hooked my flight to help her move 2.5 weeks out. Upon showing up. A few days in, she slips up about having a dating app. Pictures dated a few weeks out from when she said she made the first one. Exclusive pics only meant for me as her main pics. Fully filled out looking for a long term partner. Folder full of likes. Despite the profile being on “pause”.

I was bothered, she made it sound like a joke but I saw it all and it made no sense to have all those likes in a few weeks if it was “paused”. The way it came out sounded like a slip. She said she wanted to delete it in front of me and waited to show me. She deleted it by deleting the app and pretending she didn’t know to remove the profile itself, after “deleting” it once before.

She apologized and tried to say everything to make it right but I don’t even know what to feel, she said she did it out anger but this is a second round, hidden, for weeks, knowing I was on my way up... Considering our communication is horrendous, she won’t open up to me anymore, hides from our issues, weaponized dating apps and him, disregarded our plans in favor of him several times. I don’t think I can trust her. How would you feel?

I am a few months away from moving 1200 miles starting a whole new life with her. I met her son (5) and her family. I just don’t understand all this.

Me (18F) and my boyfriend (19M) have been together for almost a year now and we used to sleep on the phone together often, we are long distance and can’t see each other as much so I really like sleeping otp because I miss him a lot at night and it’s like his presence is next to me, but lately he hasn’t been wanting to and he’s told me he doesn’t want to at all anymore. He said it’s because if something is happening in the morning (like an argument, etc.) or he needs to call his mom, it annoys him that we are still otp in the morning and that it’s just kinda like another thing to take care of. And also in the past he has said he didn’t want to because of his phone dying and alarms not working but nothing ended up changing. Am I valid for feeling really sad about this? I love sleeping otp it makes me feel a lot closer to him when Im not able to be but now he doesn’t want to at all, he said he doesn’t see a point in it other than it being for me except I remember when he used to like it too and that hurts my feelings even more. Anyways let me know please, if this is weird/not normal or if I’m valid, if he’s valid and maybe if I can see his point of view more. (I do and absolutely understand but it’s still hard to not be sad about it)

Also in the texts he did apologize soon after. It was because he got in a big argument while we were still otp from the night before and he was upset

Hey everyone,

I’m posting because I’ve been struggling a lot with relationship anxiety lately, and I’m trying to figure out how to untangle my past from my current life.

To give some background, I was in a long-term relationship in the past where my ex cheated on me. I forgave her and stayed, but the trust was completely broken, and the last year of that relationship became awful—she became entirely avoidant, we went without physical intimacy for a long time, and the stress and anxiety from it were so bad I was literally having panic attacks at work. After that ended, I made the mistake of jumping into another relationship too quickly before finally getting into a healthy, genuinely great relationship a couple of months later.

My current partner is amazing. But I’ve realized that my nervous system is still wired for the worst-case scenario. Even though I have no logical reason not to trust her, my brain treats every little trigger like a warning sign because of what I went through before.

It manifests in really exhausting ways:

• The micro-triggers: When she takes longer than usual to text back, or her energy feels a little low, my brain immediately flashes back to old patterns. Even though I know she isn't my ex, my anxiety starts whispering that she's pulling away or losing interest.
• The distance amplifier: Being long-distance makes it so much harder. When I can't physically see her face or read her body language, that empty space gets filled with doubt, and everyday habits or slow communication trigger my insecurities.
• The emotional whiplash: We can have an amazing conversation or call, but the second we hang up, my overthinking kicks in, and I hate feeling like my emotional state is tied to how fast my phone buzzes.

It makes me feel so frustrated with myself because my current partner doesn't deserve to carry the baggage of what someone else did to me. I want to be fully present and secure for her, but my brain's defense mechanisms are stuck on high alert.

If you’ve ever dealt with relationship anxiety rooted in past cheating or trauma—especially while managing the hurdles of distance—how did you heal that part of yourself? What do you tell yourself when the old fears try to convince you history is repeating itself? Any advice or perspective would mean a lot.

I met a woman from Canada a couple months ago on FB dating and we really hit it off. She is from a Japan, but moved to Canada a couple years ago for school and work. She’s recently ran into issues with her work and may have to move back home (for something that is out of her control).

Recently she wanted to come visit me in the US for a week in my hometown before her potential move back to Japan (she’s trying to stay in Canada though), which was quite surprising and caught me off guard to see her make plans for that. I was a bit hesitant about it at first, but ultimately agreed to it and requested off for work while she filled out her travel visa form, paying the application fee. We also had an exclusivity talk and moved towards making our relationship more official. I was quite appreciative of this effort as well as usually the guy visits first. We both just requested off work and got approved, but neither of us have paid for tickets/itinerary stuff yet.

We were talking about our day today and she mentioned she went to a restaurant with her friend and commented that the waiter was “really nice and super handsome”, which was pretty off-putting to hear and made me a bit upset. I suggested that she “should have gotten his number then” (I know, sounds jealous/petty/insecure but i was kind of upset) and that statement made me feel uncomfortable, and that it was strange and inconsiderate to bring that up. I also told her that while I understand that it’s normal to find other people attractive in a relationship, I don’t want to hear that from someone who I’m still getting to know and will be spending an entire week with pretty soon.

I’m now unsure about going forward with our trip next month and thinking about cancelling my time off request. She’s been trying to reassure me that she would never act on it, and that she wants to be in a relationship with me only and that she wouldn’t fly to see me if she wasn’t serious about us. Based on what I know about her, she doesn’t seem like a promiscuous type or somebody who would cheat that easily, but I still am a bit hurt by that statement, even if it was a mistake.

Ultimately I’ve been feeling a bit uneasy about this visit, even before this comment today. I was ultimately down for it but worried that the trip might not go well being with what is almost a stranger for a week and all, and after hearing this little remark I am now leaning towards calling it off, even if it does sound kind of extreme and insecure. I know everyone is different and everyone expresses themselves differently, but I feel quite odd about this situation at large.

TLDR: met GF online a couple months ago, she’s flying to see me for a week next month, tells me that a waiter she met today was “really nice and really handsome”, which upset me. Unsure if I want to spend a week with her now, left determining whether to commit to seeing her still or cancel

hey everyone, it’s my first ever post on reddit and possibly last.
me and my partner, 18m and 19f
so we’ve been dating for a year and couple months, and pretty recently, like a week ago, i noticed myself i’ve been falling into the “i feel numb to them” pit. at first i thought it just stress, its just my anxiety disorder and depression mixed up and getting flared up due to season and that i quit meds like five months ago. but now my thoughts are spiraling more and more to the point where i want to gen unalive myself. like i mean i don’t think it’s physically possible for me to loose every feeling for them in literally week span, yet now i catch myself thinking that i need to just let them go finally. almost every single day they say that they love me or any romantic thing, my thoughts just want to stop them and when i try to say i love you back, even unintentionally, it feels like im faking it.
to be fair, i’ve been feeling extremely derealized and depersonalized for couple of months atp.. and now it gets to the point where i don’t understand what’s going on around me at all.
they’re such a sweetheart, i cherish them dearly just now im so scared and confused i don’t want to hurt them… it feels like the distance just ate every bit of affection that i got for them (had been doing ldr our whole relationship) because every single time i yearned for their touch, they never showed up due to distance… i don’t want to loose them i really don’t and even while writing this post, my anxiety and heavy chest is hurting me so badly.
is there a way to catch feelings back if i did lost them? i can’t lost something that ive built for so long and so passionately, i can’t just wrapped my head around the fact that its even happening..
his words sometimes feels so plastic like im talking to ai bot rather than human.
to be fair again, i don’t feel anything makes me happy anymore, everything is so dull, even my family and one close friend just frustrates me. i don’t see my future and i can’t really imagine what’s gonna happen to me tomorrow.

Hey everyone,

My girlfriend and I have been together for around 8 months now, and we're in a long-distance relationship. I love her more than I can really put into words, and recently I've been feeling quite worried about where things are heading.

She's verbally told me that she's feeling bored at the moment, and from some of what she's said, I'm worried that she might be slowly losing interest in our relationship. Obviously, I don't want to jump to conclusions, but it's something that's been weighing on my mind.

I think part of the problem is that we've fallen into a bit of a routine. We've spent a lot of time gaming together, watching shows and movies, doing quizzes, and trying different things online. While we've had a lot of fun doing those things, I feel like we've gradually run out of things to do, and now we often find ourselves sitting on call together without really doing anything. I love spending time with her regardless, but I can understand how doing the same things repeatedly might start to feel stale.

I've been thinking that perhaps we need to be more intentional with our time together instead of just calling every day and hoping we'll find something to do. Maybe we could plan little date nights, try new activities together, have things to look forward to, or even find ways to make our time together feel a bit more special rather than just being on call out of habit.

The problem is that I'm not entirely sure how receptive she'll be to that. When I ask if she wants to do something specific, whether it's a game, a show, or another activity, the answer is generally no. I don't blame her for not wanting to do things she isn't interested in, and I don't want to pressure her into anything. But it does leave me feeling a little lost because I want to make things more exciting for us, and I'm not sure what to do when the suggestions I make aren't appealing to her.

I know that being in a long-distance relationship means we can't do all the things that couples who live near each other can do. We can't spontaneously go out for dinner, go on walks together, or just spend a day doing random things in person. So I want to make the most of the time we do have together and find ways to keep building our connection despite the distance.

I also recognise that a relationship shouldn't be about constantly entertaining each other, and I don't expect us to have some amazing activity planned every time we call. I'm just worried that we've reached a point where we're spending time together out of routine rather than genuinely enjoying that time, and I don't want us to become disconnected.

I care about her so much, and honestly, I'm scared of losing what we have. Part of me worries that I haven't been doing enough to keep things fun or that I haven't been putting enough thought into how we spend our time together. I want to put in the effort and work through this together, but I also know that I can't fix things on my own if we're both not actively involved in finding a solution.

For those of you who have been in long-distance relationships for a while, I'd really appreciate some advice:

• Have you ever gone through a phase where one or both of you started feeling bored or disconnected? How did you get through it?
• What are some genuinely fun or meaningful things you do together online that aren't just gaming or watching something?
• How do you bring back excitement and intentionality without making the relationship feel like you constantly have to plan activities?
• How do you approach this conversation with your partner without making them feel pressured or making things seem more serious than they need to be?
• And, honestly, how do you deal with the fear that your partner might be losing interest, especially when you love them so much and really want things to work?

I don't expect every day to be exciting, and I'm not looking for a magic fix. I just want to find ways for us to enjoy each other, grow together, and keep our relationship feeling alive despite the distance.

I'd really appreciate hearing about your experiences, what has worked for you, and even what hasn't.

Thank you.

I liked a girl who lives in a different city and things are going pretty well but she told me that she has a problem with LDR , i dont actually know what should i do i like her and she likes me but I can’t move there yet i have strict parents and it’s actually either running away and meet her or doing nothing

what shall i do guys?