Me (18F) and my boyfriend (19M) have been together for almost a year now and we used to sleep on the phone together often, we are long distance and can’t see each other as much so I really like sleeping otp because I miss him a lot at night and it’s like his presence is next to me, but lately he hasn’t been wanting to and he’s told me he doesn’t want to at all anymore. He said it’s because if something is happening in the morning (like an argument, etc.) or he needs to call his mom, it annoys him that we are still otp in the morning and that it’s just kinda like another thing to take care of. And also in the past he has said he didn’t want to because of his phone dying and alarms not working but nothing ended up changing. Am I valid for feeling really sad about this? I love sleeping otp it makes me feel a lot closer to him when Im not able to be but now he doesn’t want to at all, he said he doesn’t see a point in it other than it being for me except I remember when he used to like it too and that hurts my feelings even more. Anyways let me know please, if this is weird/not normal or if I’m valid, if he’s valid and maybe if I can see his point of view more. (I do and absolutely understand but it’s still hard to not be sad about it)

Also in the texts he did apologize soon after. It was because he got in a big argument while we were still otp from the night before and he was upset

Friends, I'm 23 years old and he's in his early thirties. I'm Arab, so my culture is conservative, but he's Asian. Also, this is my first experience in a relationship because I was very focused on my university studies. Well, he's a very mature man and respects me a lot. ...and he also shows how much I'm a priority to him and tells me that my love for him is what makes him feel confident (I think this is because he's not very confident in his appearance since I'm a very beautiful girl). Well, he used to send me money and also things... He told me that he will visit me in December and this is our first meeting together. Since he will be coming to my country, this means that he does not know anything about the region and it is up to me to plan (where we will go, the activities we will do, and also what to eat). My family is also very conservative, so I have to be home by 7 or 8 pm... This makes me anxious because he'll be staying in my country for only 3days, and he might be worried because I can't spend more time with him until 10 pm at the latest(This is just between me and my mind) But if we meet, for example, at 10 or 11am and stay together until 6 or 7pm is that enough in your opinion? .So, guys, I need your advice on how to handle it since it's my first date...and also, if you were in my place, what would you do?

Hi, I’ve never posted for advice before and I’m stuck. I’m 24M and my girlfriend is 22F. We’ve been long distance about 200 miles since early August.

We started talking as friends on Snapchat in early July and it turned romantic pretty quickly. She came to my place at the beginning of August for four days and it went really well, so we started officially dating after that. We texted daily and called on our lunch breaks when we could. We both work and have our own lives so I understood some days would be quieter.

In early September we went to a concert in Indianapolis and stayed a few days. The first night was great. The next day she didn’t want to get out of bed at all. I’d never been to Indy and we’d talked about exploring so I got ready and waited. She eventually got up and we walked around downtown and checked out coffee shops, but I started noticing small bursts of anger over minor things. That set off alarm bells because my last relationship was about six years and full of constant fighting and anger, and I’d told myself I wasn’t going through that again.

On the drive home I got really emotional and started second guessing whether I was ready for a relationship. I wanted to talk to her about how the trip made me feel before deciding anything. When I brought it up she got angry and assumed I was breaking up with her without giving her a chance to talk. Looking back I know the way I brought it up and how emotional I was made it come across worse than I intended, and I take responsibility for that. I gave her space that night then reached out the next day. I apologized for how things went after the trip, explained the triggers from my past, and tried to clarify that I wasn’t trying to end things, I just needed to talk. She said she understood, apologized for her reaction, and we decided to keep going.

The first week after that was fine. We even talked about her possibly moving in eventually and making more in person plans. Then pretty suddenly the effort dropped off a cliff. Conversations turned into basic good morning texts, almost no real back and forth, no calls, her being active on social media but not replying to me, and making out of town plans with basically zero discussion. I’ve tried bringing up how this feels a couple times. She usually responds with something like “I’m sorry I made you feel that way,” things improve for a day or two, then it goes right back to minimal contact.

She’s dealing with some issues in her living situation right now so I’ve been hesitant to keep bringing this up and making it about me. I know she doesn’t owe me instant replies or constant updates, but going from daily real conversation to basically 2-3 texts outside of a good morning and sometimes a good night feels like a big shift. I still really like her but I’m questioning whether this is worth continuing. I know I handled the conversation after Indy poorly in the moment and I’ve owned that and apologized. At the same time I’m not sure if being honest about how the trip affected me made her pull back, or if my gut reaction after the trip was telling me something. I’ve always been the person who tries to work things out instead of ending things over assumptions or lack of communication. My only previous relationship before my marriage was in high school and ended because she cheated. I don’t know what to do here. Do I stick it out and see if it improves with time, or do I need to see if this needs to be the end?

Any advice is appreciated.

My boyfriend and I started dating a year ago. From the very beginning, I told him that I didn’t want to be in a long-distance relationship because my previous long-distance relationship was a really painful experience. I had only met that person once, and the whole experience left me emotionally hurt. I never wanted to go through something like that again.
When my current boyfriend and I started dating, he said, “We’ll see.” And now, a year later, he has a job in another city, about four hours away by plane, and somehow, I find myself in the exact situation I was so afraid of.
The hardest part is that I don’t really have friends here. I’ve always struggled to make female friends, and my boyfriend has told me that I can make girlfriends, but not guy friends. So, in a way, my social world feels even smaller, and now that he’s far away, I feel incredibly alone.
Sometimes, I feel like ending the relationship, not necessarily because I don’t love him, but because I’m tired of feeling this way. I told him from day one that long distance wasn’t something I wanted, and now I feel like I’m stuck in a situation I never wanted to be in again.
I don’t know what to do anymore. I love him, but I also want to feel happy, independent, and at peace with my life. I don’t want my entire happiness to depend on someone who lives so far away. I want to have my own lifeand things to look forward to. But right now, I just feel lonely, confused, and scared of repeating the same painful experience all over again.

Currently in a long distance relationship with someone from Texas, (I’m from the uk) for about 2 months things are going well, we’ve spent hours on call and she’s even slept on the phone with me. she even sent a long love letter to my address. and I offered to help at the start she declined money and stuff but she recently asked if she could have 100 dollars and I’m currently off sick and said next week when I go to back to work we can sort it and she said that’s ok baby. I don’t want to lose her because I love her. On the plus side she didn’t pressure me into doing it

But how do you know if they don’t want to talk to you or are just busy? I don’t want to ask because I don’t want them to think I’m needy. I think this all the time but the frequency of the situation is getting worse.

What I mean by the frequency is that my partner stops texting for a while I used to be fine with it because I would think they’d at least tell me what they’re doing because they know I overthink. And I try my best not to but I keep trying to read between the line during text and it’s making myself feel worse.

But to get to the point, they leave for hours at a time and don’t really engage or start in meaningful conversations, and it hasn’t happened in a while. When I ask them what they’re doing, it’s just that they’re playing games but when I actually call them it’s “nothing.” I want so badly to think it’s nothing, but what if it’s not nothing? I always try to start conversations but it just ends in two texts and if we do start texting back and forth it’s usually me texting immediately after they do but they’ve already left the chat and I have to wait another 20 to hour until they respond again. For a few days now it’s just been me texting and being on delivered for 2 to nearly 5 hours. They never tell me what’s going on until they remember and even then I have to coax it out.

And then we’re watching a show together and I’m not sure they even like it because they remember nothing! It could be normal.. but it’s like, the show’s characters are very memorable but they can’t even remember the main characters’ names and it just makes me feel like shit because do you even want to watch it? Are you watching it for me or are you watching it for you??? It doesn’t make it better that I’M the one asking, “oh you want to watch so and so later today?” Then they’re like, “Yeah sure.” And I sometimes intentionally act like I lost track of time just to see if they really want to and they never remind me. And they’ve only asked once, “You want to watch so and so?” I was so happy because maybe I was just overthinking, but now it’s like, do you even want to keep talking to me? It sucks and hurts me so badly. Considering that it’s my favorite show and I bombard them with texts every time I get a reel on the show. I don’t even thinking they’re watching, I hear clicking noises in the background when we do watch and I don’t want to ask if they’re playing games and that’s why they don’t remember anything. I don’t want to be aggressive or passive aggressive but it’s just making me so sad mad because like, just tell me you don’t want to talk anymore. I’ll just stop talking and cry or something.

But what really got me to make this post was that I showed my outfit off, and usually I’d get an excited text, but this time it was just so bland. And it kind of made me feel, insecure? I finally started liking how I look because of them, so I fuel myself at the beginning of the day on their compliment, but today, it just rubbed me the wrong way. And I felt less pretty. A lot less pretty.

I might be making it up in my head but I just don’t feel right. It makes me want to cry. I want to tell them, but I don’t know how. I don’t want to be mean but I just want to ask why? But I have the nagging feelings that it’s just that they’re playing a game they like and that’s okay! Just, tell me once in a while. You don’t have to everytime, but every once in a while just update me, or something. Just give me something, anything.

Hey guys, I don’t normally do this, but I see on tiktok and Instagram a bunch of Reddit stories about their lives and asking for advice so I wanted to also try it out. I really really need advice, I need someone to tell me if I did the right or wrong thing. I tried asking my friends, and they don’t really help cuz they all have different point of views, so I’m hoping the internet could help, maybe someone is going through the same thing as me.

So I(20m) a European student, and I did a spring semester in an Asian country for a school exchange. I knew I wasn’t staying there long but when I met my ex girlfriend (20f) I decided to try and date her. And honestly I thought that we’d just go out a few months and then break up on good terms, but we had so much fun together and I really started to not only like her but actually love her. And she loved me too. (This was both our first real relationship)So when I left to go back to my home country (like 12-14 hours away by plane) we continued dating long distance, calling each other all the time, and we had plans for her to come to my city for her exchange and possibly do her masters here. But 2 months into doing long distance we realized how hard it’ll be for her to come, money problems (she’s doing okay but not rich rich, and everything in my country is way more expensive than hers) and the fact that she might have to repeat her year if she comes cuz of dumb school credit system.
Anyways it hurt like hell not being sure when I’ll see her again, and I can’t drop like 1000+ bucks on plane tickets whenever (I have a part time job but it doesn’t pay much and I’m saving up to get my own place) and the feeling of just talking to her through a phone really hurt so much, whenever we ended our calls I’d always curl into a ball and try not to cry. When I talked to her about it she also said it made her sad, so we broke up. What sucks about our break up is that the distance was the problem, we still loved each other.

About 3 months pass(so a few days ago) and she texts me telling me that she got accepted into the exchange program to go study in my country. I was happy for a moment, but then I remembered the money problems, the delayed graduation for her, and most importantly, the fact that later when she’ll eventually have to go to Asia, it’ll be like it was before. The video calls that leads to basically depression. And I didn’t want to have to break up with her again. When I talked to her about it, she said it’s a good opportunity for her, that we can be finally together again and that if there were problems on the way we’d figure it out. (Another small thing is I’m kind of religious, and later in life I always wanted to marry someone that also believes in god, and she doesn’t believe in god at all, so that’s also smt that I thought abt) anyways I told her idk if it’s the best idea for her to come. I told her that if she regrets it she’ll just blame me and always hate me for it, and she said it would be her own decision and if it doesn’t work out at least we tried, risk is better than regret. I told her maybe going NC would be for the best but I’m having 2nd thoughts.

She needs to give her answer soon to the school soon. so please reddit what do I do? Do I tell her to come? I really do love her, no girl compares to her. I’ve thought abt her everyday and I wanna be selfish and tell her to come but I’m also worried about her. What if she hates it here? And I keep on thinking abt her leaving and doing long distance, which was basically torture for us both…

I've never posted in a subreddit like this and I may take this down, idk, but I've been thinking of posting for days here so I'm giving it a shot. I'm open to DMs too, I tried to keep some details vague to help protect identity. Sorry in advance, this is kind of rambly.

For context on distance, I live about a 7 hour drive away from my hometown. It's not crazy, I know a lot of long distance couples make it work over much larger distances. It's definitely a distance to plan for though and flying is in no way (both monetarily or convenience wise) more efficient.

So the story goes, last thanksgiving I was staying at my mom's house for thanksgiving and bored after she went to bed, so I jumped on Tinder. I've been on dating apps on and off where I live and not really gotten anywhere, the city I live in is just not a great city for younger singles to find love. I ended up matching with this guy and really hit it off when we met for drinks. Even the bartender remarked at how strong the chemistry was (I should note, this is a bar where he is at regularly enough to know the bartender - it didn't just seem like he was trying to fish for tips or anything).

Months went by, his car broke down, we texted pretty sparsely (neither of us, turns out, are much of texters). But in the summer, I went down for a family member's birthday and he took a whole day off work to see me. Just a couple weeks ago, I came down again after a death in the family, and he again took the day off work to see me. Now, I'm going to be back in town in November. He's recently gotten a new car, so there's talk of him coming up to see me or us meeting in the middle, but like over the span of 10 months here we've effectively gone on 3 dates.

On a side note, I am considering moving out of the city I do live in and have considered moving to a city that's only a couple hours away from my hometown, but I'm really at minimum about 6 months out from making that happen, if not longer. I don't know if I want to bank on this just yet as I'm also considering moving further away, but I have little to no interest in moving back to my hometown if I can help it and I eventually would like to leave this area of the country (SW USA).

I've met a handful of his friends, and he's met one of mine. His friends seem to like me, and my friend even remarked that they thought he was a really good fit for me off a first impression. Not that this stuff matters too much in the long run, but I just feel like it's a good sign.

I feel like when I'm in town in November there may need to be a conversation of where we see this going, but I'm really curious to know if anyone here may have some advice here or made something work in a similar situation, and what you may have done. I feel like if we lived in the same city, we may have already had this conversation months ago of where we see this going, but as of right now we're just at the early stages of dating over a very long time span. Again, I've just never really done this distance thing and want to do what I can to set it up for success.

i'm trying to send an arrangement to my partner in another city, but every site feels like a coin toss once you get to checkout.

when people look for the best flower delivery services online, everyone seems to prioritize completely different things. for some people it is strictly flower freshness and having them last more than three days on a counter. for others it is delivery reliability, arrangement quality, or pricing before surprise service fees get tacked on at the end.

then there is same-day availability when you order last minute. i was looking into teleflora because their model routes orders to local florist networks who hand-arrange and hand-deliver everything in an actual vase rather than stuffing dry stems in a cardboard mailer box, plus they do same-day drop-offs. but then pricing jumps once local delivery gets calculated, and you never quite know if the shop will substitute half the arrangement.

for people who order flowers long distance regularly, what factor do you actually care about most when choosing where to buy? does having it hand-arranged and delivered locally matter more to you than raw pricing or big catalog discounts?

How often do you guys feel the need for Sexual intimacy in LDR? How do you guys schedule it? Is it limited to weekends mostly?

Because I sure wish I could with mine after this 😩

I’m secure attached now but I used to be anxiously attached, reassurance without asking is like a little treasure chest. Before this she told me she wished I could get on a plane tonight and she was wanting to get a dog to keep her company since she was lonely. We had a little conversation about it so I think we’re both feeling a little better. But 14 months is a long time to go before meeting the girl you’re dating, just 4 more to go…whew.

So how long has everyone been gone from a partner? How long did it take to meet the first time? If you want to share a story about your meeting, or even the second one, I love reading haha!

I have a 5 hour difference with my partner, they live in the UK and I’m in the US. So they are quite far in another continent :/

We met on the teenagers subreddit over 3.5 years ago and started our long distance relationship soon after, my HUSBAND 💗 visited me first in Australia early 2024 then again late 2024, again early 2025 and then I saved up and took my whole family to texas in late 2025 and early 2026 we went again and brought him home <333 we had our beautiful wedding on the 10/10/2026 (I made the date 10/10 as Americans put the month first then the day whereas in aus we do it the opposite way so 10/10/26 was easy for both families lol!

Long distance isn’t for the weak but he made it easy, we both always put in 111% effort and time, the only days we didn’t call were the days we were travelling to each-other, ever since our first message to each other we never stopped talking. He is my everything and I am so forever blessed to have him here with me throughout our happy lives together. 💗💍

Me (f20) and boyfriend (m21) have been together for 3 years, tomorrow. He's my best friend and I do love him, but this last year has been so difficult, and I feel like my needs haven't been met for a long time now.

He came to me for last Thanksgiving, and we agreed that he'd stop by and stay with me for a bit on his way back to the school (i am on the east coast, of the US, he lives in Portugal, but studies on the west coast of the US)

He leaves, and I get a text in December that that plan would not be happening (not even on a phone call, it was so casual for him). We knew I'd be studying abroad in the Spring, so this meant the next possible time for that would be spring break. I asked/reminded him to look at options maybe 2 or 3 times, and nothing ever happened. I ended up spending my spring break alone in Switzerland, and had a complete blast, and I actually felt glad our meeting hadn't worked out.

Next, he wasn't able to tell me if we could meet up until less than a month before it actually happened... because of that, I had to book a flight ticket (because of Trump's war in Iran) before knowing, and we only got a week together. He couldn't come to the US this last summer, so I actually went back to spend time with him for about 2 weeks.

Both of these things were because of his Visa situation, which is the origin of a lot of our issues in planning and logistics... I understand that I'm more privileged than him in this way, because I have a powerful passport and am not a citizen of a country actively drafting people to go die. That doesn't change the reality of our relationship though, and he is not at risk for being deported back to his country of origin.

Fast forward, it's October, and we also agreed he'd come stay with me for a while this fall, since he's taking a semester off. That has and will not happen, and he never communicated it, I just kind of mentioned it in conversation, and he confirmed it with a tinge of guilt in his voice.

Now, I have utterly no desire to be the one planning our meetings and proposing ideas from now on. I feel like he takes me for granted, he never communicates in a timely way despite that fact that I've told him how important the communication is to me several times. I told myself in the spring that I wasn't going to do another 5+ month distance, and that's what's going to happen now.

I can see a future with this guy, and we're good friends, and get along super well, but he's clearly not in a space to give me what I need, and I feel like he hasn't been trying.

Even before this last year, it's been clear that he's not in a place to prioritize me in the way I deserve... even before we went long distance, I was going to join him and his brother for skiing, then the family changed their mind and I was stuck at home after turning down my best friend for a weekend in NYC together.

I could go see him this thanksgiving or during winter break, but I'd genuinely rather be with my family and ski (i live in a ski state).

Today, my life is genuinely so fulfilling, I'm successful and happy with the professional and academic challenges I'm overcoming every day, but I'm increasingly beginning to understand that this fulfillment isn't coming from my relationship. I often feel I would rather go for bike rides and work on art, than call with my boyfriend..

What should I do?

Content warning: Traumatic breakup, emotional loneliness, depression, and a difficult past relationship.

I'm 30F, and I feel like I'm trying to rebuild my life after losing so many years of it.

I spent my entire youth with a man who eventually left me in a deeply traumatic way. Our relationship wasn't healthy, but I was young and alone, and I didn't have the perspective or experience to fully understand what was happening.

I missed out on many life experiences: friendships, studying, exploring my sexuality, and different work opportunities.

When he left me, it was traumatic, and I found myself completely alone.

Since then, I've started working a physically and emotionally exhausting job. I barely have any free time or energy left for myself, and making friends has been difficult because I struggle socially and rarely have the opportunity to meet new people.

Then I met another man.

He has some avoidant traits, an intense interest in women, and certain quirks that make him difficult for me to understand. Despite all of that, I fell in love with him.

I've known him for almost a year now. At some point, I asked him to decide whether he genuinely wanted me in his life as a romantic partner or not.

He told me he wanted me, and since then, he's been more present in my life.

We live very far apart.

I've even suggested different possibilities, including an open relationship, a sexual relationship without commitment, or simply being friends. But he doesn't want those alternatives. He wants to keep the possibility of a relationship with me.

We're going to see each other a few more times, and I would eventually like to move closer to him. But I'm afraid I'll never really know whether he wants to build a future with me.

I'm very much in love with him, and I don't want to give up on something that feels meaningful to me.

At the same time, I'm incredibly lonely.

Lately, my depression has been becoming more present in my life again. I'm usually a positive person, but I feel as though I've had to leave my old self and my entire former life behind.

I feel like I'm starting from scratch, without a support system, without close friends, and without much time or energy to build a new life.

Sometimes everything looks bleak, and I find myself pushing my worries aside just to get through the day.

I've also wondered whether I should try to open myself up to other people, have sex, and experience things I missed out on when I was younger.

But the truth is that the people I meet don't interest me romantically or sexually. I don't want to force myself into experiences that don't feel right just because I'm lonely.

I want to live my life, but I also want to be with him.

I'm afraid of waiting for someone who might never be ready to build a life with me. After everything I've already been through, I'm terrified of losing more years of my life to uncertainty.

But I also don't want to give up on a relationship that could genuinely become something beautiful.

What would you do in my situation?

Would you continue exploring the relationship, giving it time to develop, while working on rebuilding your own life? How do you know when you're being patient with someone you love and when you're putting your life on hold for a future that may never happen?

I'd really appreciate thoughtful advice, especially from people who have experienced long-distance relationships or have had to rebuild their lives after a traumatic breakup.

hello kind people, me (20m) and my partner (20f) have been together for almost a year now. I feel like a douchebag for saying this and perhaps I am but going into this relationship i kind of knew that we are gonna be long distance and perhaps not be able to meet for the foreseeable future but the bond I have with her kind of made this an afterthought until actual career prospects started coming up and made me reconsider things.

for one, she is from the US and I will not disclose where I am from, but it’s far away. And actually living in the US is gonna be a struggle to say the least. thats not the end of the practical problems, she is in uni right now and so am i, and my major requires me a little over 6 years while hers is 5 (gap year) so we match in this, buttt its still something to consider. i feel like in long distance relationships quality time is ALL you have, and I feel rather guilty because I am not going to be able to provide the same level of output that she requires. I dont really need a lot of affection generally but she does.

also, her parents are an interesting case, i guess a solution for this situation would be to typically save up money, find a middle ground, or live where i wanna go, but she doesnt wanna leave her family, and shes tied to them kind of. her older sister has a fiancé and they cant even spend the night together because her parents get all pissy about it, so imagine the reaction of her parents when she goes abroad to meet some guy “online”. shes reluctant to tell them and i get it, but her reliance on them makes it so hard. it feels like im at a crossroad.

seems like with how she is and where we are both at right now its not feasible for us to meet up, and even long term, how are we gonna even manage that? thats like 8 years in the primes of our youth. shes willing to wait but it feels like all the pressure is on me, and like i hate to say this but i just feel hopeless? i dont want this to feel like an online relationship rather than like a long distance one, yes we love each other very much and we video call, send each other gifts but like.. whats truly the outcome of this?

what would you guys do in my situation or if you were in my shoes what would yall do? i apologize if there aren’t enough details or if this seems unorganized, im just in a bad mental state, its been weighing heavy on me.

also edit because i rushed: I have communicated with her early on that my end goal with her is to be together within the next few years, but the feasibility of that just seems improbable, especially with her not truly moving the needle forward. If I had to simplify the crux of the matter, I think the issue truly stems from her being content with keeping the relationship long distance while I am not, and I am trying to break out of that, yk?

So I’m from Australia and the girl I’m talking to is from the US. We like each other and have been getting closer but the problem is I wanna stay in Australia because of my family, and she wants to stay in the US for her career.
She said moving would be hard for her and she can’t move right now. I can’t move either.

I really like her and wanna keep getting to know her, but I keep thinking about how this would work in the future if neither of us can move. I don’t want either of us to give up our goals, but I also don’t wanna get too attached if this isn’t gonna work out.

Should I just keep going and see where things go, or is this something I should be worried about now? Has anyone been in a similar situation?

I want to propose a long engagement to my Partner. We have discussed marriage I want to make it official. Marriage not a big deal in Sweden . She’s in Sweden I’m from Texas we have been together about two years have met in person a lot. Thoughts anybody had a long engagement before bridging the gap ?