Hi everyone, I wanted to give an update because a lot has happened since my last post. Thank you to everyone who commented, especially those who suggested checking the files, metadata, and talking to her calmly. It really helped.

After reading your advice, I decided to have one more conversation with Alexis before making any final decision. I asked if we could go through the photos together on my laptop so I could show her the dates and maybe figure out when the crack happened. I stayed calm and gave her the benefit of the doubt, even though I was still frustrated.

When we looked at the photos, it became pretty obvious that the lens was fine during the first days of her trip. The pictures from the first few days in Mexico were completely clear, and you could tell there wasn't a crack. Around day four or five, there's a noticeable change. The same corner of the lens starts showing the exact kind of blur and light distortion you get from a crack. After that, almost all the photos have that same issue. I also showed her the metadata with the dates and times.

At first she stayed quiet, then she said it could have happened "by accident" while it was in her bag. I told her I understood accidents happen, but I still thought it was fair for her to cover at least part of the repair or replacement since the damage clearly happened while she had it.

She immediately got defensive and said I was being unreasonable. She repeated that she "didn't drop it" and that she "took good care of it." She also said $280 was too much and that I should just get it fixed myself because "it's not that serious" and "it still works."

I reminded her that this is an expensive camera, that the lens was perfectly fine before the trip, and that even if it wasn't intentional, she was still responsible for the damage. I offered to split the cost, which would have been $140 each, because I didn't want to lose her as a friend over money.

She refused and said she wasn't paying anything. Then she started saying I was accusing her and that I "don't trust my friends." She ended the conversation by telling me she felt uncomfortable and needed some space. It's been a few days now and she hasn't responded to my messages.

I'm honestly really disappointed. I've known her for almost ten years and never had an issue like this before. I didn't expect to lose a friend over a camera, but it hurts that she won't even take some responsibility, especially with the evidence.

For now, I'm going to get a quote for the repair and decide if I want to fix it or just replace the lens. I've also learned my lesson and won't be lending expensive things to anyone again.

TL;DR: I showed my friend the dated photos, which clearly showed the lens was fine at the beginning of her trip and got damaged while she had it. She still refuses to pay anything and is now ignoring my messages. I'm disappointed but moving on.

Our son was born 10 days ago via emergency caesarean section and my wife already wants to have sex. Since last weekend she’s been asking, subtly at first, however, today she came right out and explicitly said she wants to have sex. I know this is not normal and I told her we must wait until she is completely healed but she insists she’s okay. Well, there is no way on earth I am accepting to smash until at least 3 months but this is making her very sad. It seems like her hormones are playing a number on her. How can I gently make her understand that it’s not safe…

Edit: We have quite a healthy relationship and as far as I can tell she is not having stress/depression. We talk openly, I assure her she is loved and cherished. Both our families are very supportive (actually we have both our mums over at our house helping out) and the extended family also comes around to help with chores. I take her on walks every evening and I took a month of PTO from work so that I can be available 💯.

I am typing this in my car right now because I just can’t deal with the tension in my apartment. I’m 28, and for the past four years, I’ve been stuck in a miserable, soul-crushing corporate job. I’ve been actively planning to quit for months, and last week, a miracle happened—a competitor company offered me a huge step up. It's a leadership role, way better pay, and exactly the career pivot I’ve been praying for.

The catch? It requires longer hours, a 40-minute commute, and a lot more responsibility.

Instead of being happy for me, my boyfriend (30M) completely shut down. We have been together for three years, and lately, we’ve been arguing constantly about almost everything. But this new job has blown things completely out of proportion.

Here is the underlying issue: I love cooking. It’s my biggest hobby and how I unwind. Because my current job is so easy and mindless, I’m always home by 5 PM. For the last three years, I have cooked a full, fresh dinner from scratch practically every single night. My boyfriend has gotten completely used to this lifestyle. He doesn't cook at all.

When I told him about the job offer, his immediate reaction wasn't "congratulations." It was, "Well, who is going to make dinner? You’re going to be exhausted and stuck in traffic until 7 PM. Our whole routine is going to be ruined."

We got into a massive argument last night. I told him this is my chance to finally leave the job I hate and actually build a future. He told me I’m being selfish and "prioritizing corporate greed over our relationship." He literally argued that a "supportive partner" wouldn't dismantle their shared home life for a fancier title.

I’m so hurt. I feel like he doesn’t view me as a partner with ambitions; he views me as a live-in chef who happens to have a side job. The constant fighting is draining me, and now I’m second-guessing everything.

Am I crazy for wanting to take this job and put my foot down, even if it means our relationship might end over it?

Throwaway account because people from my floor follow my main.

Okay so I (20F) live in a sophomore dorm in California and the walls here are literally paper thin. Like, I can hear my neighbor clicking her mechanical keyboard. But that’s not the issue. The issue is that the couple in the room next to mine has the most insane, loud, furniture-shaking sex every single night at like 2 AM.

I’m not trying to be a prude or anything, like good for them honestly, but it is genuinely ruining my life. It sounds like a mix between a gymnastics routine and a crime scene. The headboard bangs against the shared wall so hard that my fairy lights fell down last night. MY FAIRY LIGHTS.

I have an 8 AM chemistry lab three days a week and I am running on like 3 hours of sleep. Blasting white noise in my AirPods does absolutely nothing to drown out the screaming.

My roommate moved out a couple of weeks ago so it's just me in here, meaning I can't even bitch about it to someone in the room. I’m just staring at the ceiling in the dark at 3 AM listening to these two statistics majors sound like they're filming an audition tape.

What am I supposed to do?
Do I slip an anonymous note under their door? If so, what do I even write without making it incredibly awkward when I see them in the hallway?
Do I report it to the RA? I feel like reporting someone for being too loud in bed is so petty and the RA is a junior who looks like he hates his life anyway.
Should I just bang on the wall next time they start?

Please give me some realistic options because I’m about to lose it and I have a midterm on Friday.

Hey everyone. I’ve never made a Reddit post before, so sorry if the formatting is off. I 30m live with my girlfriend 27f. She on her time off really enjoys writing a book she’s working on, and playing games on her pc among many other hobbies. One of the games she has been playing a lot of I decided to give a try. It’s a game called prison architect. She’s put a lot of time and effort into making hers perfect and unique. I came home from work and logged onto her laptop as I don’t have my own. I don’t do much that would require one over my smartphone. I saw she was logged into a game, so I hit save. After I saved her game, I hit create new prison. I started my own prison and played for a little bit, then went to save mine, only to notice the horror that was my prison was autosaving over her prison, which was on the same autosave file. I never thought that creating a new game would automatically autosave over the last one. I figured it would make a new autosave. What I’m here to ask is how do I break the news that I messed up? She put so much effort into this game and I accidentally just erased it all. I feel bad and don’t know what I can do.

My husband (22M) and I (22F) have been married since December of last year. He’s the light of my life and I adore him.

I’ve been told all my life that I’m half Russian and half Ashkenazi Jewish. My husband is fully Chinese, or so we thought.

Earlier this Fall, we both took Ancestry DNA tests. I got pretty much what I expected, I’m mostly Eastern European on my mom’s side and Ashkenazi Jewish and German on my dad’s side, with other miscellaneous European ethnicities sprinkled in. I’m 100% European. My husband’s results were also pretty much what he expected, showing almost exclusively Han Chinese ancestry, but to both of our surprise, we learned that he is 6.2% Russian. He had a great-great-grandfather on his mom’s side who was from Russia. This distant ancestor also happened to be from the same region in Russia that my own family originated from.

I think y’all know where this is going.

Over the last few weeks, we’ve dug deeper, and this morning we discovered, in complete shock and horror, that we have THE SAME great-great-grandfather. Obviously this was COMPLETELY out of left field, because we’re not even close to being the same race (I’m aware that there’s only the human race but y’all get my point).

To make a long story short, our great-great-grandfather first had children in Russia (my great grandfather being one of them). His first wife died, and years later, he abandoned his children from his first marriage, went to China, remarried a Chinese woman in the same region of China that my husband’s family is from, and had a daughter with her (my husband’s great grandmother).

To say that we’re both shocked and appalled would be a severe understatement. I don’t know whether I want to throw up or put the song “Sweet Home Alabama” on our sexy time playlist as a joke. I’m currently in treatment for an eating disorder, so there’s not really much we can do about it until I finish treatment and come home.

I absolutely do not want to divorce him in a million years. Is being married to your third cousin really that bad?? Or can we just wipe this bullshit from our memory, forget this ever happened, and move on? I swear to God this is unfortunately not a shitpost. We REALLY need some advice. Thank you.

Backstory:

I have a close friend of 15+ years who got married around 8 years ago. Him and his wife have 2 children, both which are special needs. They recently were asked to come back into the office 5 days a week so needless to say, life has gotten very hard for them. Around 3 months we all got together including my wife for a hangout. Everything went well and afterwards there was chatter about getting together a week or so later.

My wife messaged his wife and invited her but we got no response from her. Eventually my friend responded and said they couldn't make it. Since then, any time we address his wife in the group chat he answers on her behalf. My wife eventually messaged his wife separately to make sure everything was okay and got no response. It's been a little over 3 months since we've had contact with her. When we asked my friend if something is going on he would reply with "she's got a lot going on with the kids right now" but she's never once texted back, called back, or given us any sign she's okay.

My wife and I were thinking of calling in a wellness check to the non-emergency police but we know if we do my friend will blow up and likely never talk to us again. We get that people are busy, especially moms but a simple "hey sorry I've got my hands tied and can't really talk" would suffice.

We are looking for any advice.

We’ve been dating for about 4 months, and we’ve talked about it and agreed we’re exclusive. Yesterday we spent the night together in another city and this morning I told him I love him.

He said “wow, really?” in kind of an ironic tone. When I said yes, he asked how I know I love him and I’m not just in love with him. I said I just feel it and asked why he's trying to downgrade my feelings. Then he joked, “do you love me more than your cat?” I said well, no, jokingly, and he said “see, you don’t love me.”

After that he went to the bathroom and sent me a meme from there: Marge looking unimpressed while Homer says “Haha, you love me.” I replied with a “guilty as charged” GIF... then nothing regarding that conversation, we checked out and he drove me home. He was kinda affectionate on the way and touched my hand a couple of times.

He just kept it playful. To be clear, I’m not expecting him to say it back if he’s not there yet. That’s completely okay. I just felt it, so I said it. What bothers me is how he reacted. He made jokes, then went to the bathroom and sent a meme instead of actually responding. It felt like he was avoiding the moment. He never said it back, and he also never said something simple like “I’m not there yet.”

I have a flight today and will be away for a week, so I won’t see him for a while and don’t know how to feel. He may come to take me to the airport, so we might get a chance to discuss this before I go, but I'm not sure if I should bring it up again

I (19F) have been with my boyfriend (19M) for almost 3 years. About two weeks ago I went to my doctor for a routine physical in which they asked for a urine sample. My doctor called me a week later and said that chlamydia was found in my urine and asked about my sexual history. My current boyfriend has been my only sexual partner. I know for a fact that I have never cheated or stepped out of the relationship. I literally have never had sexual relations with anyone, gave/received head, kissed, hugged, etc because I'm very paranoid about STD's/STI's. I did not tell my boyfriend about the chlamydia but I vaguely asked if he had been with anyone in any way before he met me or during the last 3 years of our relationship, to which he responded no. I let him know that if he was honest with me we could probably work through it but he was persistent. I was honestly in denial about my results so I requested a retest just to confirm, but I cancelled the appointment after giving the situation more thought. Fast forward to today, I'm waiting for my prescription to be ready and I still have not told him. I have no idea how to bring it up because I have so many things running through my mind. For instance, what if he thinks I gave it to him, or what if he somehow tests negative and thinks I'm the dirty one or stepped out of the relationship. At some point I even considered just leaving him without telling him and letting him figure everything out on his own but I don't have the heart to do that. I'm definitely going to complete treatment because I do plan on leaving. How should I bring it up?

Edit: I understand that chlamydia is easily treatable and while I'm not happy about it, I'm glad it's not something worse.I do want him to get treated as well because even though I don't plan on continuing the relationship, I want him to be healthy and be careful going forward. I'm just not sure how to bring this up since this is kind of an awkward conversation to have and a small part of me is still holding on to the idea that is is a false positive, I just don't have the time to get retested since my prescription referral was sent today.

I need some outside perspective on something incredibly difficult and personal, and I’m hoping to hear from people who can offer honest, thoughtful advice rather than judgment.

I (28f) am the older sister of a 19-year-old young man who is currently facing court proceedings related to allegations of sexual assault.
This isn’t the first time a woman has accused him of sexual assault, and I’m struggling with how to process that.
The girl that has accused him is an ex girlfriend who has/had an active cocaine addiction. She told him when he broke up with her that she would “do anything to ruin his life.”
The other accusation was a girl from 4 years ago that said he started having sex with her while she was asleep and when she woke up she told him to stop and he did.
I’ve always been very transparent about consent and he even supported me when I survived my own SA/Abuse situation.

I’ve also been told by a different ex-girlfriend that he has a cocaine addiction. I haven’t personally witnessed signs of drug use, and I interact with him consistently. When I’ve spoken to him about these situations, he denies the allegations and maintains that these women are trying to get back at him.
The reality is that I don’t know the full truth. I know what he’s telling me, and I know what other people have told me, but I wasn’t there. I don’t want to assume that someone is guilty based on allegations alone, and I also don’t want to make the mistake of dismissing multiple women’s experiences simply because the person being accused is my little brother.

I love him. He’s my brother, and I want to be someone he can turn to. I want to know how to advise him, how to encourage him to make good decisions, and how to support him through this situation in a way that actually helps him.
But I also need to be honest with myself: What if I’m supporting someone who has genuinely hurt people? What if my desire to believe the best about him is making me overlook something serious? I never want my love for my brother to come at the expense of someone else’s safety or well-being.

I’m not looking for people to tell me that he’s innocent just because he’s family, or that he’s a monster simply because he’s been accused. I’m looking for genuine advice from people who have navigated complicated family situations, dealt with addiction, supported loved ones through criminal proceedings, or have experience with sexual assault allegations.

How do I support my brother without blindly defending him? How do I hold space for the possibility that he may be telling the truth while also remaining open to the possibility that he isn’t? What boundaries should I establish, what questions should I be asking, and how can I encourage accountability without pretending I know what happened?

I want to be a good sister. I want to act with compassion, but I also want to act with integrity. I don’t want to abandon someone I love unfairly, and I don’t want to enable harmful behavior because I’m too afraid to acknowledge what it might mean.
If you’ve been in a similar position, I would genuinely appreciate your perspective. I’m trying to figure out how to navigate this with a clear head, an open mind, and my moral compass intact.

Ok so,

My name is Daniel, I'm 15 years old and I live with my mom since my dad is off to the US, working hard to get us all there.

I can't use my phone, but I was doing homework on my mom's phone and I decided to go on gallery... just to discover she had nudes there, I went on WhatsApp and I found out she is sexting and sending the nudes to some dude i don't know.

Apparently the dude is so dry to her, he's with another woman and my mom said she wants him for her and only her.

My mom only talks to my dad when she needs money...

She also had pictures of dildos, anti-pregnancy drugs and more in her gallery

I'm not traumatized bc I saw nudes of my mom, I just not know what to do, I find it disgusting that she's cheating on my dad, i mean he's working his ass off so me and my sisters can have a comfortable life

I'll be back after I fix my phone

Sorry for my shitty way of typing this, my mom's phone is hella laggy.

i (19M) just gave a mouse a cookie, and now he's asking for milk. great. wtf do i do?? asking for advice

I am genuinely so fucked right now, like talking deep deep fucked. I 23f recently got out of 2 years in mental health treatment. I finally was able to get an apartment with the help of a lovely person I found on Facebook. I am a full-time student since March, and will be graduating with my b.s. psychology by the end of the year. I have had some unexpected expenses come up, and money got taken out of my account before rent could take it. Now, I have no way to get to my job that finally starts tomorrow, and is 2.5 hours away on the bus. on top of that, this job that I got was a last resort, and my body will not physically be able to handle it due to health problems. (warehouse at amazon) I got a dream job, but they require me to have a car, and im afraid they won't hold the position for me until I can figure out how to get approved on a car. (Part of my mental health is that I was manic before I was stabilized in treatment, and messed up my credit in my earlier adult years.)

I'm pre-approved for a loan, but i have no cosigner.

The only saving grace I had was a Wednesday art market I do every week. my business partner and best friend has been nowhere to be seen today or yesterday, and he has all of my art stuff in his car, almost an hour drive away from me.

I have no idea what to do and am totally freaking out because I have nowhere to go if I get kicked out of my apartment, and get relatively no support from family. please help in anyway.

I grew up together with my little cousin brother who has special needs but he’s extremely smart and behaves well. He doesn’t interact with other people but I’m an exception along with his mom and dad. He’s really comfortable with me and sometime’s when I’m babysitting him, he asks me about my day and about life and things he doesn’t understand and I feel like its a big improvement.

His parents tried getting him a babysitter but he hates all of them so they stopped finding him one. Sometimes when they’re busy to pick him up at school, he goes home with me back to our house after school and my family helps watch over him until his dad picks him up. I have a nintendo switch in my room so I just let him play on it.

Yesterday I was babysitting him in my room, he got really angry over something, I’m not sure what triggered it but I was on my bed and on my phone and he ran over to me, got on top and started choking me out. He’s 14 but he’s really huge and strong, I have no way to fight him, I thought I was going to pass out and die. I think me hitting him back so he would release me made him more angry because he started biting me as well but luckily he got back to his senses and got off me and started apologising.

I got really scared so I ran off and he chased me while apologising. I was home alone that time and I didn’t want to be alone with him so I got into my parents’ room and locked him out. It was like a horror movie because I left my phone inside my room when I ran off so I just waited for my parents to come home while he was banging at the door.

When my parents got home I told them everything and they were really worried. I didn’t notice but the side of my neck was bleeding rly bad when he bit me. They called my uncle over and they had a long talk. I was crying in my room so I don’t know what they were saying. It was such a scary experience for me, I grew up with him and he’s never been a violent person. But I don’t think I can be alone with him again and I sincerely hope the best for him because I know he has a good heart. I had to go to hospital afterwards to check up on the bite and I had to take some injections and pills in case the bite get infected.

I keep thinking back if I should have let him properly apologise to me and if I should have told him that I forgive him and it’s ok because I think he’s also so sad now. But I’m also still in shock because I could’ve really died back then.

I’m in college and I met my roommate on Instagram, she seemed cool when we were texting and we agreed to be roommates, but as soon as I moved in the didn’t say a single word to me for like three days. I said hey to her and asked her if she wanted to go to a fast food place and hang out or go shopping or something and she just shook her head. It’s been a couple months now and I can’t get along with this girl, she goes to sleep at 6:00 and gets pissed at me if I’m up later than that, and then texts our mutual friends about how inconsiderate and loud I am. I admit, my table was pretty messy one time, mostly empty coffees and schoolwork.And the first thing she did was complain about that to our friends rather than just ask me to clean it. I lost my key one night and asked her to not lock the door so I could get in if she’s sleeping, and she said fine. But then when I got there it was locked, I knocked for like 30 minutes and she didn’t answer, so i assumed she was gone and asked the RA to let me in, and once we finally got inside my roommate was just sitting on her bed on her phone. (I could hear the volume so I know her headphones weren’t in).
it’s so many little, passive aggressive things she does rather than just speak to me, and when I bring it up she says that I’m ableist because she has suspected autism (not diagnosed with anything). I asked for a single room but the residence email never did anything about it, I have to sleep in the basement couches sometimes because when I get there the room is locked and she’s already sleeping. What do I do??

I’m 19 and have a 15 year old sister!

So basically I relapsed with an ed recently and been loosing weight. A few people keep brining it up like my family and I hate when they do it infront of my sister.

Again, today they pointed it out. I’m still healthy and stuff idk what the issue is but my sister was looking at my body and I’m so scared. I was her age and thought a diet was a good idea and it ruined my life. I’m so scared it’ll do the same. Is it easy to develop an ed this way? I really need help on how to help her.. I always have positive body positivity with her around and constantly buy whatever she wants to eat and try my best to eat with her but I’m struggling.

Also no one knows I struggle w an ed, to them it’s just weight loss.. I hope.

How can I make sure she doesn’t or already hasn’t developed one

2 girls i used to be friends with (i blocked them 2 weeks ago for disrespecting me in my apartment) showed up to my apartment about 2 hours ago.

They shook the door handle repeatedly

Banged on the door

Continuously knocked

Laughed behind the door

This lasted for 10-15 minutes.

If the door was unlocked, they would have come in.

All at 9AM while my autistic son was sleeping. For context, they are aggressive females, we are in our mid 20s and they are a lot bigger than me, so i was afraid to even open the door or say “go away”. I’m sure they wanted to talk things out, but the execution was nothing short of absolutely insane. I have no idea how to proceed with this.

I (21M) have a girlfriend (28F) who rarely has me feeling wanted romantically. We have been dating for a year now, and i am deeply in love with her. I have been since about 2 months in and never had to question if that's how i felt. She used to tell me every day she didn't love me and correct anyone who said we were in love like her life depended on it. That hurt a lot, obviously, but i didn't expect her to love me. I just wish she didn't have to make it seem like she hated the idea of it. She gets annoyed with me all the time for stuff im not doing because she assumes i am the same as her ex, even though i have proven otherwise many times. She complains about things she doesn't like about me but never says much about what she does like. She tells me all of these problems with me.

TOO YOUNG

TOO INEXPERIENCED

TOO SHORT

TOO SOBER

TOO SENSITIVE (her complaint every time she makes me sad)

TOO CALM

TOO BORING

UNFUNNY

UNTOXIC (Yes, she said that's a bad thing)

UNTATTED (She loves tattoos, but i just haven't gotten any yet because im saving to get a house)

NOT MUSCULAR ENOUGH (she wants a six-pack)

I wish i could stop trying to hold this relationship together because i know she is going to keep hurting me until im broken.

I just end up giving her the benefits of the doubt.

What if she really does love me, and i never find out because i leave her.

She talks to me about other guys all the time

Says they are tattooed and tall and skinny and hot and have nice eyes then she tries to find out if they are legal age.

Oh but she says she wont cheat on me or leave me for them.

She ran into a guy online and thought his voice was hot so she stopped talking to me for 2 days to spend time with him until she got the ick and came back to me.

She then sat there talking about how hot he sounded and how good he is at games and questioned what he was up to every 5 seconds while texting him on call in front of me. She ignored me but seemed real exited for him. Oh but im supposed to trust her and love her and im supposed to be happy not sensitive and sad.

My Stupid ex leaked my nudes after I broke up with her. I'm embarrassed and don't know what to do.

I'm a 27-year-old male, and my ex recently leaked my nudes after I broke up with her.

The reason I broke up with her was simple. I just didn't love her anymore. I told her I didn't want to be in a relationship and that I wanted to be alone for a while to focus on myself.

Well, she didn't take that too well.

She got really upset and decided to leak private pictures I had sent her while we were together. And when I say private pictures, I mean everything.

I'm honestly embarrassed because I'm not exactly blessed down there, if you know what I mean. Now I'm worried about people seeing those pictures and laughing at me or making jokes about my size.

I know some people are probably going to say I shouldn't have sent those pictures in the first place, and maybe they're right. But I trusted her when we were together. I never thought she would do something like this just because I didn't want to be with her anymore.

I honestly feel used, ashamed, and violated. But at the same time, I'm a guy, and I feel like people aren't going to take me seriously. If anything, they'll probably just laugh about it.

Part of me wants to do something about it, but another part of me feels like I should just let it go and accept that this is the price I have to pay for sending nudes.

I don't know what to do anymore.

Am I overreacting? Should I just let it go, or is this something I should actually take action against?

my boyfriend has a problem with searching up other females online. For context i have been pregnant and i recently had my baby so we havent had a lot of sex . I have told him several times i dont mind him letting one out to porn….but he saves the girls names in his notes under notes titled something completely different almost as he is hiding it. He downloads screenshots to his icloud (and backs the file up). He also puts the screenshots in hidden photos. He does not use instagram but i have recently discovered he is only using it to look at these women. I am 6 weeks postpartum and have made it clear doing this makes me feel very closed off to intimacy since i look nothing like these girls. He has asked me to send him photos of me which i have but he still continues to do the same thing. Im not sure what to do here . He told me to suck it up when we had a conversation about it and i dont think i can. He said being with me was like cutting his throat ….is he just not into me after having a baby or something? He makes me feel really bad but he continues to do this and im on the verge of leaving him. I feel so disconnected from him, like im only here to raise his son and thats it. Everyday its an argument. He is constantly telling me im difficult to deal with ever since ive gotten pregnant and now being postpartum. Im not sure what to do anymore . I think he is done with our relationship and is only in it for our son. I keep getting told im being selfish.

I was cooking 2 days after i had given birth because he was complaining about all the money we were spending on fast food. I dont have a job because he would rather me stay home and do the housework . He holds this over my head . Do i leave or am i being selfish?

I’ll keep this short!
My parents make too much money for me to qualify for federal student loans and won’t / cant pay for my college. The only option I see are private loans that seem intimidating and predatory.

I’m going into nursing and I finished all my pre-requisites so once I finish my schooling I should have a stable career. Is there any advice from past college students on what I should do next?

I checked Sallie Mae and College Ave student loans but the consensus of the advice I’ve read online is that these companies are going to strangle all the money out of me.

Edit:
I read every comment! Thanks for the advice , I know most people won’t read this but I’ll update after I act on all the advice I got!

So my friend and i got pulled over and he ended up with a possession charge. The way this started out me and my friend work together and he doesn't have a car so i had been taking him home after work for a long time and he had asked me if i had any weed i could spare him, i didn't mind to so we stopped by my place and grabbed some. (side note this is in kentucky and the car is technically in my dads name, he tends to keep up with all of the maintenance and whatnot. Also i had been allowing my friend to drive the car because he preferred to and didn't like the way i drove. This wasn't a huge deal to me since i trusted him pretty well.) Anyway after picking that up and starting to head over to his house, he was on his phone driving and we got pulled over, the registration on the car was expired by a month and the officer said the car smelt like weed and asked if he could search and i told him he could. Well ended up finding a pipe and a small amount of weed in my friends bag and then ofc found what i had brought for my friend (under 5g) i had admitted to the cop it was my weed. The cop said since my friend was driving he would be the one getting charged for possession and there would be court and just gave him a ticket and let us go. Now court is next week and im legally not obliged to go, but my friend is and he wants me to go and admit it was my weed which i already have but he is trying to pin the charge onto me, he has previous charges and i have a clean record. In my opinion he should have claimed the weed since he asked me to get it. Also this friend in the past few months has quit his job and has been asking me for money and bumming off me and its really there for me when i need him. So morally im at a loss if i should go to court and admit it or not show up honestly, but i know if i dont the friendship is over. (also should be noted my bday is a few days after this and he is supposed to come with and i have already paid for tickets for him to come) Extra note im F 19 and he is M 27

so, I’m cabin crew (22f) and I met another crew (40m) during a layover in june and we went out with everyone and it was really nice and I got along with him and I thought we had a chemistry… but I think I was wrong, cause when I was very clear to him that I was trying to go out with him he said that “Haha, I definitely noticed eventually 😅 I'm flattered. I think you're cool, but I also don't want to give you the wrong idea. I'd still happily hang out sometime though”
and that was it, but we’d still chat and he thinks i’m very funny and blah blah blah, we do get along and have nice chats.
I hadn’t texted him since the end of august, I hadn’t replied to one of his texts and he texted me almost a month later saying “hey, still telling jokes”, and basically saying that someone had told a joke that reminded him of me.
we’ve been texting ever since but I have no idea what this man wants, I would go out with him as a friend bc he’s very nice and we have nice chats but do you guys think that a guy who’s 40yo would be texting me just because he feels like just talking to me and nothing else? why did he texted me back after I just disappeared?