I feel so weird and stupid. I’ve only met him twice but each time we’ve had very passionate sex to wear when he leaves I start crying. I know that sounds so weird but it’s just so good and he keeps in touch with me through text almost throughout the day, calling me things like his love, mi Vida, princess, he texts me through the day that he adores me and stuff like this.

If anyone has read my pass post, they know I have a really difficult life so he’s been my escape. He brings me so much joy I usually hate my clients and can’t wait till they’re done and get out. But when we had sex we remained eye contact and he hugs me after.

I know this is going to cause a lot of hate, but I’m pregnant now and I told him there’s a chance it’s his but I doubt it is. It’s probably my other dumb clients according to my ovulation. And his response wasn’t really the way I imagined. He just said that he’s not my boyfriend he’s only a client. He was sweet about it but it just made me realize how delusional and retarded I am. I just ended up uninstalling WhatsApp because I am now pregnant and can’t continue this field of work. But now his number is gone. I’ll always wonder about him. I’m crying.

I wish so badly he was the father of my child but according to ovulation it’s the short asshole client of mine. I don’t know if anyone has ever seen the Jeff dahmer series when he started to cry when his friend left. That’s how I feel. It’s not appropriate to cry yet I don’t know him enough to cry. Something is wrong with me..

I will always remember him

1st photo - reference, 2nd - my hair, 3rd - the strand amidst the darker hair had to be toned to my natural color but you can see how well this went, 4th - back view, the split was supposed to be in the middle but migrated to the side

so, there's a hair salon, one big room, where independent hairdressers rent out workstations. i went to one woman there, she did a bad job on my bleaching (undercolor? idk how it's called) - one side was all the way up my temple, the other down to my ear. i noticed only after i came home, and didn't ask for a refund, because it wasn't that visible and that woman was really annoying to deal with. talking to me like i'm a child (i'm 19 and my mother used to be her client, welp), saying i'm copycatting someone (i literally showed her pinterest references. lol. didn't even try to argue).

the second time i'd gone to an appointment with her, i wish i hadn't. i was in a dump mentally, bedridden for most days and really, really didn't have the energy to look for a new hairdresser who might or might not take me. credit where credit is due, her second job was better, but still needs fixing. i'll attach photos if i can.

now, that i'm better, an acquaintance recommended me another hairdresser and i messaged her, mentioning in passing that the previous job needed fixing. she asked to come in tomorrow so she can look at my hair properly. and guess what, this other hairdresser works at THE SAME FUCKING STUDIO as the previous one.

let me clarify, i don't care about what that woman thinks. i need advice on how to not make this awkward. like, i come in and sit in the chair next to where she's working, clearly to fix what she's done wrong. i'm an adult, i can make my own decisions about my own hair. what if she starts belittling me yet again? try to make me look like a needy child? i'll also be going there right after a funeral, so advice will really, really be appreciated.

lmao jerks shove the downvotes up your asses

EDIT: only people who share my political side respond please, I’m looking more for personal experience of people like me!

Edit 2: thanks for the responses from conservatives and centrists, just having this small interaction with you has reminded me that I would kill myself if I had to live in a state with you idiots surrounding me. I’ll stay in my amazing blue state and just try to build more savings.

Hi! I have been thinking of moving, I live in a very expensive blue state and haven’t been able to move out of my parents house(I’m 21) even though I’ve had a full time job and built savings and have been investing (successfully, but still only 7% per year not crazy amounts) since I was very freshly 18. I want to buy a house not waste all my savings on renting when I’ll never get that money. In a lot of red and southern states, the prices are so much better and you only make a little less money than in my state. I would love to live somewhere warm because I love that weather. I have a job that is not super high paying, but it’s about 50% higher than minimum wage here, and I could probably get a similar job in a red/southern state. The problem is I am EXTREMELY left leaning when it comes to politics. I’m in a straight relationship but being queer is a big part of my identity, and my entire past relationships has been queer relationships before my current partner. I just worry that I won’t feel comfortable talking to my coworkers about my life, or making friends. Should I move to another state and risk being unhappy? Should I stay here and just live with my parents till I can save up enough (they love me being here but I hate that I’m leeching off of them like this and they refuse rent)

For context, I have two brothers one is 23 the other is 22 and I’m 25. I graduated with a law degree and I’m now completing my final qualification to become a barrister. My other brother is 23 finished with a business degree and hasn’t really figured out what he wants to do so he’s just working at the moment The youngest brother 22 is an absolute bum.

I hate to speak ill of a sibling but this is genuinely how I see him. He has no ambition. He plays video games from morning to night he skips lectures. He can’t even keep a job refuses to work and completely lives off my parents. It’s not only that he lacks from an academic aspect but he lacks in life.
he has poor hygiene he doesn’t look after himself doesn’t barely get his hair done. My parents have to basically force him to get his hair done if my parents don’t ask he basically won’t shower. He stinks, even when he does shower because he wears the same clothes again and again doesn’t know how to do his own laundry so he just wears the same sweaty clothes constantly. Can’t cook, wash up properly, leaves pee on the toilet seat, hair all over the bathroom. He uses everything up in the house, if i buy something like chocolate spread it’s gone in 3 days and he’ll leave it there..empty?? My other brother and I have to hide stuff if we want it to last or i cover it up with tinfoil so he can’t see what it is. It’s exhausting.

It’s frustrating because my parents are not lazy they’re immigrant parents from Nigeria they worked really hard, we all went to private school. We had a great life growing up great quality education. There’s no reason really why he shouldn’t even be trying.

He can’t take correction, gets extremely defensive. Although, my parents definitely play a role in his incapacity to function outside of video games, my mum especially coddles him. My dad speaks to him regularly but it doesn’t stick in his brain i guess. I also think my mum feels some kind of guilt for his inadequacies because he was unplanned and therefore they put more energy into myself and the 23 yr old brother.

At first i thought he had mental health issues but then i realised it’s just pure laziness. He’s on his 4th year of college and only in 2nd year of his degree, keeps failing. My parents pay for his college fees, my parents make a lot but there is one grant that his applicable for…but he never applies. They ask me to help him and I did before but now I refuse. I’m also angry for my parents, that he doesn’t see the value in how they pay regardless of how many times he fails and he can’t even go to his fucking lectures or take care of himself or keep a job.

He’s never travelled, barely goes out with friends, poor hygiene, questionable social skills. I worry he’ll look back at his life and regret his choices. My dad constantly reminds his that this world is not kind to unsuccessful men but he doesn’t listen.

I know not everyone in life has to be successful or an academic weapon but he can’t even look after himself or keep a job, it’s concerning. Sadly i’m embarrassed to have him as a sibling, it’s getting to the point where he disgusts me, we really don’t talk and his presence genuinely agitates me. I’m trying to have grace but it’s impossible.

sorry for any typos, any advice?

wanted to add im not on a ‘high horse’, i worked hard and im not going to undermine my accomplishments to make anyone feel better about themselves. i suffer with depression and i’ve attempted to take my own life several times, i worked hard to get to a more stable mindset. i’m frustrated and concerned for my brother and don’t want him to come out on the opposite end. everyone has ‘loser’ stages in life, i defo have. who u are today doesn’t define tomorrow

TL;DR: We have 5 months together and have never been intimate (we are long distance) he has said twice "i'm going to ripte you" which i've taken like he's joking, but right now i'm understanding that he might be doing it to avoid legal liability in case I accuse him someday.

He is finishing law school, btw, but he has said this twice: "I'm going to gripe you." Literally, those exact words. Both times, I've responded by laughing or saying something like, "I also want to have sex with you." But now that I've reflected on this behavior, I'm wondering if he's trying to build a case in his favor in case I ever accuse him of assault. That's pretty scary because what if he actually does it someday and no one believes me because of how I've responded before?

Another thing is that he has a fetish with pregnancy. If you read my previous post you'll get more context. But yeah, I'm not sure what to think about this.

My husband and I met online. He accused me of cheating, and pressured me to be sexual, disregarding my reasons why I didn’t want to be which included trauma. He convinced me all of the issues we had were my fault, and I made him treat me as he did. That didn’t stop me from getting fed up, however, and I broke up with him and stopped talking to him for periods of time. He met and was with his ex, who he told me he didn’t intend to get into a relationship with, but that she threw herself at him, and he didn’t want to reject her. He said he wasn’t fully attracted to her, but slept with her to avoid hurting her feelings, and claimed he struggled during it. He told me he broke up with her because he wasn’t over me, and claimed she slandered him as a result.

He called her crazy and said she had self harm scars on her arms. He met his former friend after that online, and then in person, sending me screenshots of her calling her cute and claiming she made advances on him which he said he turned down, because he still had feelings for me. He stopped talking to her and called her self absorbed. He told me online he wanted to help me out of the bad situation I was in. He sent me money I tried to send back. I was overweight, which he said he didn’t mind. I lost weight before we met. We met, and he rejected me, and shamed me for trying to be sexual. He said he told me online he wouldn’t be the same way in person.

He refused to hold hands in public and said he disliked PDA because of how he felt about himself. I lost more weight and he came onto me, but it felt forced. He helped me, as he said he would, but eventually complained and held a lot of what he did over my head, including things he insisted on buying me just days after we met, and the money he sent online. He called me ungrateful constantly. He started to sleep all day, spend less time with me, and told me to wake him to get food but would then cuss me out when I did. I noticed he was hypocritical in that he could do something to hurt me, and justify it, but if I did anything to him he’d demand an apology. I spoke to his ex, and she told me he said he’d two time. He said she was lying to make him look bad.

He asked me to go back to the UK with him, and told me he’d support me after I said I didn’t have enough to support myself. I had severe social anxiety, and wore a mask and hoodie because of it in public. I avoided social interactions. All of which he said he accepted online. Yet, he tried to push me to talk to his family, getting upset when I struggled. He told me his mother was often in a bad mood, and swore at him randomly. He said she was at the door listening during arguments and disagreements. All of this put me off interacting with her. He argued with me over needing the pill once, how he didn’t want to buy it, and how he had spent enough on me already. He used his ex against me, saying she bought her own stuff and he got along better or was happier with her.

He started to ignore me whenever I was upset and said it was because it was always about him. He told me he had ocd about not finding me attractive, and started meds he claimed killed his libido. I lost more weight and he showed more interest in me, telling me if I looked that way when we met he would’ve been all over me, and doing PDA. However, he was blaming me for everything wrong, talking about breaking up, and accusing me of ruining his life. I spoke to my mother about how he was treating me, and he reacted badly, accusing me of slander. He said he had low libido and I caught him looking at porn, which he denied, and then said was to test himself. I started to suspect he was cheating. I questioned him and he called me paranoid and crazy.

He said I was the type to cheat, and that I’d do so thinking he had. He was snooping on my phone but slapped my hand away from his. We were in another country at the time and he repeatedly ditched me during arguements in public. He threatened to break up constantly and told me he didn’t love me. He used my traumas and vulnerabilities against me. He was randomly cruel towards me and justified it by saying we were not getting along, when I was trying to. He threatened me with calling his family during arguments, lied about doing so, and fabricated things they said. Then reassured me he’d never speak badly of me to anyone. He acted weird around younger girls, and children, and I noticed it shortly after we met.

He would go silent around them, or walk off if they came near us. He told me he had once dealt with POCD, the OCD based fear that he was a pedophile, but that he was no longer dealing with it. I questioned why he was acting that way if he wasn’t. He tried to debate me on whether pedophiles deserved to go to hell, to which I said yes, and he was bothered by that. He said no one, not even Hitler, deserves to go to hell for an eternity. He asked me what about non-offending pedophiles, and I said still yes, and he got angry with me over that. At the same time, he was telling me it was normal to mistake girls as young as 15 for being older, and finding them attractive, due to their development, and became defensive and irritated if I disagreed.

He told me he had no libido due to meds sometimes but I’d catch him ogling other women, some of whom appeared to be teenagers, and he denied it. He pulled away once, going off to another room for weeks, claiming to be struggling with his mental health. I found searches for normal images of 12yo girls in his search history. He said he was doing a behaviour called checking. That was after he said 13yo girls can look a lot older than they are, and I challenged him on that. He denied being a pedophile but said some very questionable things, like asking why I thought teen porn was so popular, after I said I believed it was disgusting and abnormal that so many men are so interested in teenage girls.

He criticised my anxiety, and my looking to help from him in social situations, and said it made me look stupid and people were judging. I pushed myself to talk to someone, and he told me the woman frowned at me. I started interacting more socially but he would comment any time I’d make a mistake, and say that it was awkward or I was given bad looks. He threatened to kick me out during arguments. He went off to other rooms to ignore me for hours to days. He started to call his mother, lying to her and making me look bad in arguments he started, and she appeared to side with him, and started to intervene in arguments assuming I was the instigator. He started to do the same with my family. He called my mother and told her I was crazy.

I tried to get family to help and he called my aunt and she went back on helping me. He started telling me that my mother said things, like how I’m the instigator, which she denied saying. I still suspected he was cheating. Any time he was acting shady, he’d question me and snoop on my phone, but would call me controlling and abusive if I did the same. I started to post about the cheating suspicious and I used chatGPT, both of which angered him. He said chatGPT agreed with everyone, and that people were wrong on here. During the darkest times of my life, I never felt supported by him, including during a time I had an abortion when he gave little support, and gave he gave me a disgusted look while I was crying, blaming me for why he did later on.

He mocked me over my eating disorder in argument’s. He challenged me any time I thought I needed the doctor, for any reason. He seemed more empathetic towards strangers, and even his younger brother’s ex gf, worrying issues they were having would affect her A-Levels, and defending caring about that by saying he was allowed to care for other people, and that he was going to study to become a counsellor so that would be his job. I never took him seriously about that until he did a course. He told me his teacher praised him and said he didn’t seem to have BPD, when he does, but was accusing me of having it for years. I wanted to leave because the idea of him being a counsellor made me uncomfortable.

He said he wouldn’t do it if I didn’t want him to. I regained weight and he started to put me down over it during arguments, after showing less interest and blaming meds, and saying it had nothing to do with my weight. He said I let myself go and called me fat and ugly. He said he didn’t mean it and only said it to hurt me. He acknowledged he has BPD a few years ago. He was in another course of counselling. He said he’d go to therapy to work on his issues and better the relationship. But he became hot and cold again, doing the same things as before, in no time, telling me he wanted me gone, after he begged me not to stay home when I wanted to, promising things would change. He started therapy but used his therapist against me.

He is now a student counsellor. He told me one his clients said he feels the best he’s ever felt. He has little patience for my feelings. He’s done several things back to back which have hurt me, and further damaged my trust. He recently confessed to lying about something for 8 years but tried to minimise it, and turn it around on me. He calls me abusive for treating him the same way he treats me. I worry about him working with women, particularly about sexual matters and sexual trauma, since he never took mine seriously and has w*ore shamed me over things before. I told him this, and said what he doesn’t believe women, and he said that they’re trained to tell if a person is lying.

He tried to deny he said the truth, and claimed he said they can tell by their emotions. He said clients can manipulate. He said women, mostly those with BPD, make false allegations. He talks about transference, but only the romantic kind, which he says every counsellor experiences. He had a supervisor, who was his teacher before, and the guy made inappropriate comments and jokes about the female students and clients, and told him that he had a drop dead gorgeous female client. He is talking about working with young people, which he said he didn’t want to do before knowing I wasn’t comfortable with that. It’s a course not many people are doing, and doesn’t have much benefit, but he says he can earn some extra money, even though the fuel alone would cancel that out.

When I said that it wouldn’t be worth it, he agreed, and said he wouldn’t yesterday. But he seems to be pondering on it, and wanting to do it, and keeps coming to me about it. He said he wants to do it today and it just rubbed me the wrong way. Like he was trying to act like he didn’t want to do it, to throw me off. He was very enthusiastic about it, too.

I don't want to seem disrespectful or a pervert but I'm genuinely interested in much older women. I'm 22 and want women in their late 30's to 50's. I can't generalize but they are very wise, easy to talk to, funny, etc. Are there any unique tips compared to women my age?

Found this moving into our new apartment today, do we smoke it?

Im gonna start this off by saying this is not a joke im not lying. For a couple months I've been seeing tinted cars drive past with the driver staring at me I'll only leave my house if its needed and I've been getting calls from unknown numbers this is just to much and nobody's taking me seriously what do I do

Its safe to say we are wealthy, not filthy rich or millionaires. But thank to my husband who has always been a career driven man we live in a very expensive city and in a very good neighbourhood.

His mother wasn't even high school aged when she had him after years of SA (he told me she was an institutionalised child, so a vulnerable one clearly). she would often run in the streets and spend days on the street before being found by cops.

She had literally put him near trash cans when he was born, in the freezing winter. He was raised by fosters that treated him horribly and absed him every way.

she had multiple attempts to end her life in that period. So I understand she was a traumatised young girl and I do not blame her. SHe was failed.

However my husband is now in his 40s, made a great life for himself. He makes great amounts of money, has hundreds people who report to him and we have welcomed out first born baby boy in 2025. He found his mother and tried to reconnect with her while she kept rejecting him while he was in his 20s. He suffered a lot. Now he makes money, now he has a big house and a nice career and she suddenly wants to be part of our life. Great. she comes to our life, asks him for money, he gives her enough to be able to buy a smaller house in a rural area so to speak, she then vanishes. He has huge anger issues because of this dynamic and takes it all on me or at work. This woman is hurting him and disrespecting him. How do I tell him to just stop giving her money? All these money are made by him, I am a stay at home so I can't really tell him to stop helping her. Its not about me. My lifestyle is not affected at all, but he is angry all the time, irritable and in obvious pain. as soon as she has money she blocks him on everything and is gone for another 3, 4 months. She is an addict. instead of worrying she is playing with his feelings, he keeps wondering if she is safe.

Unsure if this is the right sub, also unsure of what to do? My boyfriend and I moved into a lovely row home last summer that has a large shared yard with the basement tenant. When we moved into the yard was repaved with stone tiles (there is no grass). We furnished the space with furniture and spent \~$1500 on furniture. We have a 3 year lease and love this home, we’ve even talked about purchasing it.
A new girl moved into the basement unit a few weeks ago. She is the only other tenant besides us. She has a sweet dog that she lets run free in the back. I suspect she does not really walk the dog, she definitely uses the yard as the dogs bathroom. The first week or so she was not cleaning up the poop after the dog, and we had to pick it up 2-3 times. I texted her twice about it - both times she was apologetic and to be fair it hasn’t happened since (it’s only been 3 days since the second text).
I was out there today, enjoying a coffee and working, and it smelled like pee badly. Her dog is peeing in one spot on the ground not far from the couch. Regardless, I don’t love that the shared space has become a doggy bathroom.
We also have a dog, but we never let him out unsupervised and walk him a ton so he rarely goes potty out back.
What would you do?? Am I being unreasonable with the peeing? I’ve already given our building manager a heads up, but told her not to intervene unless it continues to be a problem. We otherwise like the new neighbor and would like to maintain a positive relationship with her.

I don’t like involving law enforcement in things that don’t need to involve them. I don’t have any particular reason to be afraid for my safety, but I don’t want to be the reason they get involved and someone else becomes unsafe. I am in a conservative area, and have seen body cam footage of my city’s cops shooting a POC.

A parked vehicle was actively leaking gasoline onto the pavement. If it’s relevant, the parking lot is for a park and is owned and maintained by the city. There is a storm drain in the parking lot, which drains directly into the nearby lake.

My state does not have mandatory vehicle safety inspections.

My dad is married to my Mom. Ever since I was 6 or 8 (I can't remember when was the first time) I've noticed my dad just sitting on the couch scrolling pictures of women in lingerie or leather straps. Sometimes he'll also have YouTube on in the background with waterpark POV videos, which he signs out to watch. When he hears me coming up to ask a question he puts away his phone. But I still see it every time. It really bothers me but I honestly don't know if it's a problem, or if I'm overreacting.
Our house is laid out so the dining room is directly behind the living room couch. So while I'm eating breakfast I'm facing him and his phone, (the living room is sunk in), he's just scrolling majority naked women. The first time I saw him do this was when I was eight, I had a nightmare and I came to lay down with my parents, and I saw my dad looking at these lewd photos.
For additional context, he told me about Sex Trafficking at 7 years old. He literally came in while I was playing with My little pony dolls and told me how women would be kidnapped and sold off. It was so uncomfortable. And when I was 15 I wanted to buy a crop top because I wear high rise jeans, and I have a short torso so most shirts look really long on me. He offhandedly said that 'it's the summer so you wouldn't really be a wh-' before he trailed off.

It just makes me really uncomfortable that he doesn't put his phone away when he hears me come downstairs (very loud creaking stairs by the way), or that he does it so obviously. Full brightness, he doesn't even try to hold his phone close to make it harder to see.

He randomly throughout the year will do it for a week or two straight then fizzle out.

He is unemployed because of injuries, and I started online schooling almost two years ago. So we are the only people home.

I'm not sure what to do because he's been doing this every morning while I'm trying to eat breakfast. It makes me really uncomfortable but I don't know if I should say something. Or if I should just let it go.

Thanks for any help.

Edit: Just to clarify something, this isn't like on any social media app, he's just scrolling through images on Google. And these women don't usually have any important parts covered. It's full breasts and crotches out

I F(18) and my boyfriend M(19) have known eachother for about 5 months, and have been dating for going on 4 months. Our whole relationship has been great, we’re both in it for the long run and we both have agreed to make this work no matter what. We’ve had a few small arguments. Nothing too serious. We also honestly practically live together. When I work, he comes and stays at my house for usually 3 days, then when I’m off I’ll go up to his house for usually 2-4 days. So we’re spending more than majority of the week together.

I’d consider myself a huge homebody. If I’m not at work, I’m always at home. I don’t have very many friends. 2 irl close friends and 1 online friend. I talk to them all almost daily. He knows them all pretty well and gets along with them very well. (Not so much my online friend but he doesn’t really know her, and she cheated on her ex situationship and I had confided in him about it about how I thought it was wrong and how I was considering not being friends with her). There have been many instances where I feel he should grasp how I wouldn’t cheat on him. Like our conversations we’ve had.. and just some other experiences.

My boyfriend and I do a lot of joking around and teasing. But, I always see him joking about me cheating. There had even been nights where he has joked and I “blew” up on him saying that it’s not my character and I would genuinely never do that to him. I remember telling him that I was always so grateful to always be the one getting hurt in relationships cause I truly couldn’t live with myself if I had hurt others like that on purpose. Anyways, I got one of his reposts on my TikTok about how every girl he’s with cheats on him. It just makes me feel so upset because in a way I feel he doesn’t trust me. Like obviously, I know there’s trust. But I feel like he’s putting on this expectation of me because of his past when I have never done anything wrong. He’s always on my phone, I have absolutely nothing to hide. He’s been on my phone while asleep, or when I leave, etc etc.

Now I should preface. Him and I both have rough pasts. Every relationship I’ve been in has been toxic, and just never treated me right. And he got cheated on in his 2 year relationship, which when he told me I had even cried and kept apologizing to him because he truly never deserved that.

When he was over at my house, he started texting my friend from my phone (he always does this) and started saying that I got a flower from this guy and asked if “I” should tell him. Of course I watched him type it and I told him I didn’t care if he sent it. Because like I said, I have nothing to hide. Which then lead to me and my friend talking about it on call while he sat away and listened. My boyfriend and I were both laughing at this “loyalty” test and if my friends would think I would cheat. All my friends told me not to do it. To tell my boyfriend. Not be with this other man. Saying it’s not like me and I would never do that etc. etc. So yes, I passed the “loyalty” test and so did my friends. But he literally heard my friends say it’s not like me etc.

I know communication is key, but I feel like no matter how many times I tell him. I won’t cheat, the jokes are still persistent. Whether they are jokes or not, it’s starting to not feel like a joke anymore and more like he just doesn’t trust me. I overthink a lot, especially with my depression and anxiety. But I know what’s real and what’s not, I know when my mind is trying to get me down. I just want to make him feel secure because I AM sure about him. I know I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I just know peoples pasts can be hard to overcome. Someone help!!

So just recently I made a friend he is around my age and he like robots just as me but he is quite sad since he believes its impossible for a blind person to make a robot, How do i help him make one?

No ss since its doxxing apparently
I (21)female was friends with a girl we will call viv(22) .she was someone i thought would be there for everything. I started talking to a guy i went to school with and she was was also friends with him. We all got along and no issues came. Throughout school i slowly started to hear viv was always talking about me so i cut her off . The guy i was talking to was also talking to another girl we will call her Nia(around the same age). We had our issues but eventually we got over it and went on with out lives. Viv knew everything we talked about because she was also friends with nia . She would talk bad about me to nia and bad to me about nia . I randomly started getting fake number messaging me and acting like another girl i knew . Then viv would start texting me from fake instagram accounts . It got to a point where i texted nia and asked if it was her .it wasnt .but she also thought it was me .it wasnt .I didnt know that she was being messaged also until she said something . So eventually we start name people we both knew and only a few came up. Around this time its end 2023 start of 2024. We graduated and started to work . I start getting fake accounts and number blowing up my phone talking about how nia was talking mess about me . So i had replied to the account saying that i dont even talk to nia . This sparked something in viv . She then started texting nia the same thing about me to nia . So i sent nia a message asking about the account and she showed me that it was the same on her side . So eventually in start of 2025 this person started saying only things viv would know on but mine and nias side . So i brought up who i thought it was and she said she agree because we both know how viv is . Me and nia slowly started to catch her slip up . I sent her a message saying i knew it was and if she were to message me again i will make a report and press charges for harassment .i called her by name and she apologized and said shell stop . I still made the report and they kept it in the system. Well now 2026 me and nia are still getting spam calls and text and viv seems to be making fake accounts of my pictures texting nia . And you would think well its probably a scammer . Me and viv dont have each other on social media so how would a scammer know to text only nia . I cant change my number due to other personal issues . Its been since 2022 . I dont really know how someone can sit here and be so miserable to text to people who have moved on from something that happened about 4 years ago. And viv was not even in the drama she just instigated us to hate each other and all she did was make us friends.**
What do i do because honestly inthink she needs so help

I (22F) have been with my boyfriend (22M) for about five years, and this is something that has been bothering me for a while. I genuinely want some outside opinions because he seems to think I’m being completely unreasonable.

For context, I understand that farting is a normal bodily function. I’m not expecting my boyfriend to never fart around me, and obviously, I do it too. That’s not really the issue.

The issue is that he seems to find it hilarious to fart during moments that I consider intimate, romantic, or just genuinely sweet.

For example, we’ll be cuddling in bed, having a cute moment together, and he’ll suddenly fart and start laughing. Or we’ll be showering together, and he’ll do the same thing. It happens ALL the time, and I feel like it completely ruins the moment.

There have even been instances where I’ve been bending down to pick up my shoes, and he’s deliberately farted right by my head. Naturally, I got pissed off because I found it gross and disrespectful.
Whenever I express that I’m annoyed or ask him to stop, he acts like I’m the problem. He’ll tell me I’m being dramatic, that it’s just a fart, or that he doesn’t get upset when I fart around him.

But to me, there’s a pretty big difference between accidentally farting around your partner and deliberately doing it because you think upsetting them is funny.

I think part of what bothers me is that I’ve communicated multiple times that I don’t find it funny. I actually find it disrespectful, especially when we’re having a romantic moment. Instead of acknowledging that, he seems to dismiss my feelings and make me feel ridiculous for even bringing it up.

I know couples are supposed to be comfortable around each other, and I absolutely agree with that. But I also think there’s a difference between being comfortable and completely disregarding what your partner finds unpleasant.

I don’t expect him to be perfectly mannered 24/7. I just wish he’d read the room sometimes and respect the fact that I don’t find this particular joke funny.

So I’m curious: Am I being overly sensitive about this? Is this just normal behaviour in long-term relationships that I need to lighten up about? Or is it reasonable to expect your partner to stop deliberately doing something you’ve repeatedly told them bothers you?

I’d especially love to hear from people in long-term relationships. Where do you draw the line between being comfortable with your partner and maintaining some romance and respect?

Sounds dumb. Need advice. Please take this semi seriously 😭😭

So basically. I (14) have been talking to this guy, Gabe (15) for about a month. We started dating last week. We talk almost all hours of the day and have grown very close, as teenagers seem to do. At first, I didn’t want to get into a relationship because my mental health is very unstable and I’ve been throwing myself into school and work as a means to stay busy. I just didn’t see myself having the capacity. He is so understanding and patient with me. I just thought, “hey this guy likes me and he’s pretty cool, so let’s take it slow and if it works then yay.”

Small backstory: When I was 13, I was dating this guy for almost a year. He ended up sexually assaulting me by forcing his fingers inside of me and covering my mouth and trapping me with his legs while I was trying to tell him to stop and push him off. When I told him that I was uncomfortable after that, he told me he would end his own life if we broke up. So, I didn’t break up with him at the time. He ended up breaking up with me because he felt so guilty and could no longer feel aroused in my presence. Whatever.

Anyway, me and Gabe have been planning a little hangout because we don’t really get to see each other during school and we just wanna hang out. He said I could come to his place and watch a movie since my parents are strict and would probably not let him into my room. Sure. Gabe and I have had some sexyish conversations in the past, no pics exchanged because I don’t feel comfortable. He knows what happened with my ex and has said he would never make me do something I don’t want to do. I have told him that I don’t really feel aroused that much. Idk why, but I always end up shutting down the freaky conversations down by either changing the subject or “accidentally” forgetting to reply and waiting until he’s not horny anymore. Back to the hangout part. He told me last night that his mom was going to buy him condoms and I could spend the night if I wanted. That’s the big deal. I don’t know if I want to have sex. I know that I like him and he’s attractive to me and I have felt aroused by him before. I know he likes me a lot and he’s very open about wanting to have sex with me. I’m just not sure. I don’t want to turn him down because he doesn’t deserve it. Help?

For context, I am in highschool and am in an advanced math class. There's this guy, I'll call him K, is in the math class and is one year older than me. I used to consider him a friend. Just someone I got along with. He asked for my number and I didn't think much of it and I had a pretty good idea of who he was. A few weeks later, he made a group chat with some of our math peers and called the gc a name which had the n word in it (he's not black). Not only that, he would send me voice messages where he would cut himself off when he was obviously going to say the n word. I thought this was wrong and it made me feel uncomfortable. I also heard him say it in front of me once.

I would stop hanging out with him, if he wasn't in my class. Not only that, he talks all the time and tells everyone about everything and I don't want him to tell people rumors or whatever. I am very paranoid when it comes to cutting people off because I think they're going to fight me or they're going to get me in trouble in some way shape or form.

Not only that, recently I have been constantly busy all the time outside of school and come back home at 8 - 11 PM. I'm constantly going somewhere and I am around people all the time. School is the only place where I can get alone time and be relaxed (I only have this alone time during lunch and nuitrition break). I do like hanging out with friends and do hang out with them during lunch every once and a while, It's just a bit more exhausting lately since my social battery is very drained. But K's friend group broke up recently. K has a lot of friends outside of his friend group, but he insists to hang out with only me. He follows me outside of class on minimum days, he calls me and texts me constantly to ask where I'm at, he has found every single spot where I hang out when I want to be alone or do work, and whenever I'm with other friends, he tries to insert himself in. It gets annoying because, not only do I not like him, he keeps inserting himself into my life when I just want to be alone.

I want to tell him to stop but I don't want drama since he's in my class and tells everyone everything but it's getting to the point where I'm just mentally exhausted. I don't know how to deal with this. Not only that, I'm doubting myself and thinking "am I an asshole for this?" I know I'm not, or atleast think I'm not, but something in the back of my mind is telling me I am. Any help /advice is appreciated ^_^

So I moved into this new place and recently have discovered an attic I want to make useable. Issue is it needs new flooring and a lot of vacuuming. I’m attaching a video of the space. I’m using a ten gallon shop-vac off fb marketplace, i gesture towards it in the video but is the vacuum missing pieces?

Any direction or advice on next steps would be greatly appreciated!

EDIT: I AM A CHILD NOT AN ADULT

So… yeah, my mom willingly chose to become a Discord moderator.

She plays this one popular indie game (I do not want to name) with her friends and started their own server with a very wide and fun mod (what I have heard) with some good drama involved.

So besides my mom looking like the female version of a Discord moderator, why is this an issue?

Well, since I moved out from home she has stopped wanting me to come visit her more often. Besides her studying and working on the side, she is really busy managing her own business and now she spends all her nights moderating manually and playing the game.

What this has lead to is her not wanting me to come on weekends to spend time with her because she “needs to mod” (😭).

When eventually she finds time for me to come, she has this urge to go play and mod all night and ask me “is it okay if I go play a bit more?” And then she plays with her wife until 5am (not joking).

We even had this theatre we were supposed to go and after we had fun time there, she asked if I could leave immediately with train to go home, because SHE WANTS TO PLAY AND MOD.

All she talks about in our texts and irl is modding and the drama surrounding the development of the mod for the game and even made me help creating the moderation bot… Today I send her funny pictures of us and she had to mention how their discord has grown to 42 members????

She had multiple times chosen her server over spending time with me and gets upset when she can’t play and begs me to let her go to her computer. Even when we were supposed to go eat lunch, we had to wait for her to stop modding for an hour…

(EDIT: I kinda forgot to mention all the trauma, kicking me out at 16 and forgetting to feed me. This also started back when I was 14, not letting me sleep at nights and so on so on…

Sorry guys, I am new to this, so for more context just scroll few of my explanations in the comments :D)

PLEASE WHAT CAN I EVEN DO?? I am feeling desperate and I feel so ashamed to have my mom as a discord mod… I don’t want to hear her yap about her servers anymore and I want her old self back😭😭

25M recently single after long term relationship came to an end a few months back. I recently started getting back out there, on apps and meeting people organically. I found someone who’s as kinky as I am-providing anal play, likes it rough, a big screamer. I have to use protection (which I usually do anyway) since they’re poly and I obviously want to be safe. Now there’s no chance of a romantic relationship developing on my end.

On the other hand, i recently met someone else and slept with them. After we did the deed, they mentioned they don’t do non monogamy (or want their sexual partners doing it). She wants to see me again but sex was kinda difficult, despite hitting it raw, it was pretty vanilla and she experienced pain that made it pretty short (not entirely new given my size, 6.5x6) I see a possibility of short relationship but there’s still some life stage misalignment. I have some dates set up this week and unsure if I should disclose or not at this point or how to basically say “I get it, I still want to see you though).

I came to blr today I’m staying in a far relative room for a day , they were 2 person one is know to me other person was he’s roommate , after evening his roommate friend arrived I was sitting in a bed they were only 3 of us they were talking each other also he started asking me what you do where you from all etc questions i replied , in return I asked what you do what’s you qualification how did you got into a good salary job (because he was flexing his salary by saying to he friend he’s getting paid 2.5lakh per month as software engineer , also he’s 29 years old) I stared asking how did worked and all basically taking guide , he’s friend left the room after getting a call only we both were there he stated touching my legs and told I like people who has face shape like you It would be nice if you were girl (my relative brother was not in the room he was outside talking in a call ), I step back he’s friend came , my brother came , later that person called his mom and told I won’t come today I’ll sleep here in my friends room , since they had only a single bed , we decided to sleep on floor , he slept beside me , after about a hour I felt someone is touching my private part , I. Opened my eye and saw he was rubbing my dih , I suddenly took off he’s hand he didnt even opened his eyes , later after a few mins again he kept his hands on my dih this time he tried to put his hand inside my clothes and started doing the same , I took a blanket and covered myself , again he kept his hands doing same , i took my phone made a video this time including he’s face , now he has stoped , honestly idk what to do , I’m feeling really uncomfortable this is my first happening to me I’m 20 years old

I don’t what to do next should I keep this as a trauma
And get suffer or should I need to talk someone
Honestly I’m not getting sleep I feel he will touch again , I need advise help me out 🙏🏼

He’s still touching me my heartbeat is hit up idk what to do he’s not stopping doing again and again

It’s 2.57am

QUICK EDIT:GUYS ITS NOT MOLDY IT JUST LOOKS MOLDY😭😭🙏I did couple of taste test with many people and everyone couldn't tell the difference.I know i look weird for posting a "moldy" icebreaker online but i am SICK of always buying them and they turn green before finishing and I don't want to toss out perfectly fine(except for how it looks)icebreaker into trash every time

My icebreaker starts getting all greenish after a while,and I'm so confused why.I'm pretty sure its not moldy cause it taste fine,but it sure as hell looks moldy.I'm not sure if it's suppose to be like this because the normal icebreaker i get do not get this greenish look(the one in picture is the duo kind)

I place them in my bag all the time in room temp,am i suppose to put them in the fridge?!

Please help me out,I'm sick of explaining to people I'm not some kind of weirdo who is eating moldy icebreaker

So I'm (freshly) part of management and hiring of the company I work for. We have recently been holding interviews but haven't had much luck with what we're looking for.

A middle aged woman applies and on paper, she's got everything we want so I went ahead an scheduled an interview with her.

She turns up to this interview and she reeks. In the most honest way, she smelt like cigarettes, damp and piss. She was well dressed, had her hair done and acted very professionally but the smell was hard to get over.

After she left, other workers in the the vicinity asked who she was and didn't hold back telling me she had a certain aroma.

NOW I know people's situations and private lives are absolutely none of my business, not everyone is in the same position but now I'm stuck with this problem. Do I hire her and just buy more air fresheners or turn her down, it feels as though its not my place to tell her BUT if someone turned up to the interview dressed too casual or "bad" they wouldn't be hired. Does the same apply here? What do I do?