r/exmuslim • • 1h ago

(Rant) 🤬 Reached the age where my parents are trying to marry me off

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I’m 24F and my parents have recently started bringing up marriage and I genuinely cannot believe we’re even having these conversations. I feel so disrespected that they would even think I’d let them choose who I spend the rest of my life with.

My mom recently showed me a 33M who’s a mechanic. I don’t care what anyone does for work, but when it comes to a partner, I want someone who’s on the same level as me in terms of education, ambition, and goals, or above. I’m getting my master’s this December and applying to med school. Why on earth would marriage even be on my mind right now???

And the worst part is my parents keep saying things like ā€œhe’ll let you finish school.ā€ LET ME???? Wtf do you mean LET ME? I’m going to school regardless of whether I have a husband or not. The fact that they think I need some man’s permission to continue my education is actually insane to me.

I also have absolutely no interest in marrying some Muslim man from my background just because that’s what’s expected of me. No thank you.

I was living two hours away from home during undergrad and honestly I miss having that independence so much. Now that I’m back home, I genuinely cannot stand it. All I hear is marriage this, marriage that. It’s exhausting.

I love my parents, I really do, but they’re toxic and the craziest part is they don’t even know me. I’ve basically been living a double life because they have this idea of who I am that couldn’t be further from reality. They still think I wear the hijab when I don’t, and now they want to find me a husband who thinks he’s marrying some hijabi Muslim girl??? Absolutely not. I don’t even want a husband, let alone one who thinks I’m someone I’m not. It’s honestly pathetic that I even have to live like this.

At this point I’m planning on moving out whether I get into med school or not. I don’t even care if I have to lie about why I’m leaving. I just need to get the hell out of this house. I cannot imagine spending another few years listening to them talk about finding me a husband.

Getting the hell out of here!!!!


r/exmuslim • • 1h ago

(Miscellaneous) 28M | Canada | Miracle, maybe?

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Hey everyone! I’m at that point in life where I’d like to find my person, build a life together, and have someone to annoy with random documentary facts for the rest of our lives.

I’m 28M, South Asian, and agnostic. I have a good corporate job and am hoping to meet someone to share life’s ups and downs with.

A little about me: I love hiking, cooking, and watching documentaries. I’m looking for a relationship that feels like a partnership, where we can be ourselves, support each other, laugh together, and build a future.

I’d say I’m a feminist, and that’s a big part of why I’ve distanced myself from religion. I value equality, independence, and being able to question things without feeling restricted by religious expectations.

I’m open to all ethnicities and backgrounds. Ideally, I’m looking for someone between 22 and 30 who is also interested in settling down. My ideal timeline would be to get married within a year or so if we’re compatible, but I’m also open to seeing where life takes us. I’m not looking for an endless talking stage that goes nowhere, though. I’d rather get to know someone with genuine intentions and see whether we’re right for each other.

I’m also pragmatic about family expectations. If pretending to be religious around your family makes things easier, I’m open to that, provided we’re on the same page privately and it’s something we’re both comfortable with.

Ultimately, I’m hoping to meet someone who wants the same things in life and is ready to put in the effort to make a relationship work.

If you think we might be a good match, feel free to message me with a little introduction about yourself, including where you’re at in life and what you’re looking for. I’d much rather start with a bit about each other than just a ā€œhey.ā€
Looking forward to hearing from you!


r/exmuslim • • 1h ago

(Rant) 🤬 Modern Muslim apologists

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Ive kind of given up watching them since they all repeat the same bs

But my question (for people who watch/used to watch then) is how do they reconcile things in the quran and sunnah like pedophilia, sex slavery, the inheritance error which means allah could not do basic math.

Like there are a ton of hadiths and scholars and anyone so called 'knowledgable in islam' dont even try to reject aisha's age of nine its not even an issue to them, same thing with most moral issues

Like do core parts of the scripture conveniently disappear when they make thier arguments??

Even ibn taymiyya saw the contradiction between a wise god and infinite torture which brings god absolutely nothing since god wouldnt recieve anything from torturing them since he doesent need anything from humans and the disbelievers souls would eventually be purified in hell.

Yet the consensus is that a disbeliever is in hell forever

Like unless allah is a sadistic petty god who derives eternal pleasure from torturing us tiny animals who disbelieved in him (not even kuffar since there is no concrete evidence for islam) this makes no sense.

Actually let me rant about 'kuffar'

Do they not think that the word of god would be more convincing? Like even just stating probability if the truth was as obvious as they say and since the quran is obvious proof (even in translation) and it is widely available especially with dawah missionaries no way 6 billion people (obviously not all 6 billion recieved the idea of islam but admitting this just means allah is not capable of that and god forbid) would turn away in arrogance even after recieving the truth and knowing 100% allah exists and will send them to hell

This is such a ridiculous idea that a person who knows with no doubt they will be tortured for eternity would turn away

The whole concept of kufr is stupid

I think islam kind of presupposes your belief in the pagan allah/allahs existence since the arabs did at the time.


r/exmuslim • • 2h ago

(Meetup) Let’s get to know eachother !

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Hey everyone , I wish you all are great . It’s been a while since I didn’t share anything on this sub , but recently I got an idea , nothing new cuz people before me did it which is having a gc so we can talk and share things , make calls , connections and so on . I know that non religious people in Algeria exist but we are few , I like to talk to people who aren’t religious and see the way they think and know the reasons they left Islam .
I’ve talked to people from many countries : atheists , agnostics , anti-theists … etc but tbh there wasn’t a chemistry , you struggle to explain things in english or in french , but as algerians Ig we can understand eachother easily ane besides this we all live in a country where it’s hard for us to survive as non muslims .
Am from Algiers and I do have friends from so many wilayas who aren’t religious and we do have an ig gc , if anyone’s interested just lemme know so I can add you .
PS: if u’re not algerian that’s not a big deal u’re welcome , we can talk and try to understand eachother using english and make a cultural exchange


r/exmuslim • • 2h ago

(Miscellaneous) Please check out and comment on my videos I posted on the other subreddit about Hadiths

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And the one asking if there's any truth in that Asmaa Bint Umay’s story. Since the other exmuslim subreddit is less strict about when you post TikTok videos. In the other subreddit I posted a video of Maryam Amir saying the Hadith about the angels cursing is misunderstood, she's claiming the verse is about consent. When it obviously doesn't say so. There's a part 2 of it that I did also post. I have posted her content on here before as well. Here are links to what I posted on the other subreddit.

https://www.reddit.com/r/exmuslim2/comments/1x72tsh/is_there_any_truth_in_this_asmaa_bint_umays_story/

https://www.reddit.com/r/exmuslim2/comments/1x72q5e/look_what_shes_saying_about_verse_3333/

https://www.reddit.com/r/exmuslim2/comments/1x72oho/this_is_part_2_of_her_claims_that_the_hadith_is/

https://www.reddit.com/r/exmuslim2/comments/1x72mwe/claiming_the_hadith_is_misunderstood/

https://www.reddit.com/r/exmuslim2/comments/1x7399c/its_a_pity_this_video_apparently_has_no_sound/


r/exmuslim • • 2h ago

(Question/Discussion) This is only speculation on how the name Allah(Islam God) and Iblis (Islam Devil) came to be. It maybe true or maybe not.

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In ancient Egypt, there are 3 moon gods which are Khonsu, Thoth and Iah. Thoth is also known as Ibis because its head is the Ibis bird head. The people who create the Islam religion must borrowed the name Iah and Ibis from the ancient Egyptian religion. They took the name Iah and change to Lah, and if combined with Al turned into Allah, the Islam God. They took the name Ibis and turned into Iblis, the Islam Devil.


r/exmuslim • • 3h ago

(Quran / Hadith) Even if the Quran was perfectly preserved, it doesn't really mean anything

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Muslims loves to boast about how their scripture was preserved by being memorized by thousands of people from previous generations during the early Islamic era, but I'm not really amused by it and I feel like it isn't really a good evidence that Islam was true, because anyone could do the same thing with other scriptures or fictional books and make a religion based on it. If there's a group of people that's dedicated to preserving the Harry Potter novels by memorizing every single letter of it, does it make what's being said in the book is true?


r/exmuslim • • 3h ago

(Fun@Fundies) šŸ’© Religion of Ps (āš”ļøpiece, the šŸ˜‡profit & šŸ‘pats-riarchy) or Cs (šŸŒcuts, the 🌘calif & child šŸ‘¶merry-age) or 🤔Zafar? I can't decide!

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r/exmuslim • • 4h ago

(Advice/Help) Want to move somewhere that’s muslim and Arab free zone

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I’m traumatize i dont want anything that reminds me of this religion or language. Does such a place exist?


r/exmuslim • • 4h ago

(Question/Discussion) A QUESTION FOR ALLAH AND HIS FOLLOWERS: CAN YOU REJECT WESTERN CULTURE WHILE BENEFITING FROM IT EVERY DAY—AND ISN’T IT TIME TO START QUESTIONING ISLAM?

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American and broader Western cultural influence reaches virtually all 198 countries we are discussing, including Muslim-majority nations.

From technology, medicine, education, banking, transportation, entertainment, fashion, and business to the English language and modern communications, Western influence is everywhere.

Many presidents, prime ministers, kings, and other leaders from Muslim-majority countries have received their education in American and European universities.

Here is my question:

If some Muslims believe Western civilization and its values are corrupt, why do they continue to embrace so many of its products, institutions, technologies, educational opportunities, and economic benefits?

Why do some seek opportunities to live, study, work, and raise families in Western countries while simultaneously condemning the cultures and freedoms that attract them?

And what about those who march through the streets shouting ā€œDeath to America!ā€ and ā€œDeath to Israel!ā€ while benefiting from American technology, Western innovations, modern transportation, and international economic systems?

Rejecting Israel while benefiting from Israeli innovations presents another contradiction worth examining. Israel has made significant contributions to cybersecurity, medicine, agricultural technology, water management, computer science, and other fields.

Israeli-developed technologies and research contribute to products and systems used internationally, including in countries that refuse to recognize Israel.

Can you actually live without the very civilizations you are condemning? If you reject Western technological achievements, are you prepared to give up modern airplanes and take a night journey on a camel rather than flying in an aircraft? Islamic tradition describes Muhammad’s Night Journey as taking place on the Buraq, not an ordinary camel.

And isn’t it remarkable when people who defend Somalia’s political system or authoritarian practices attempt to lecture Western democracies on how democracy should work?

Somalia has experienced decades of political instability, insecurity, and difficulties establishing democratic institutions. Shouldn’t those who criticize Western democracy also be prepared to explain how their preferred political systems protect individual freedoms, religious liberty, and accountable government?

If Western societies allow Muslims to build mosques, wear Islamic clothing, practice their religion, and participate in public life, why shouldn’t Muslim-majority countries guarantee Christians, Jews, and others those same freedoms?

AND HERE IS AN EVEN BIGGER QUESTION: ISN’T IT TIME TO START QUESTIONING ISLAM?

Isn’t it time to critically examine Islamic teachings, religious interpretations, and political ideologies that some use to justify hostility toward non-Muslims, restrict religious freedom, discourage independent thinking, or oppose the very liberties they enjoy in Western societies?

Shouldn’t Muslims be free to question the Qur’an, Hadith, Muhammad’s teachings, and the authority of religious scholars without fearing intimidation, punishment, family rejection, or accusations of apostasy?

If Islam is presented as the ultimate guidance for humanity, shouldn’t its teachings and their practical consequences withstand open examination, historical scrutiny, and honest questioning?

Here is the ultimate question: How can you shout ā€œDeath to Americaā€ and ā€œDeath to Israelā€ while benefiting from American and Israeli innovations, enjoy Western freedoms while opposing those freedoms for others, and condemn societies whose achievements you continue to use every single day?

Criticizing the policies of America or Israel is one thing. Calling for their destruction while benefiting from their contributions is another.

Isn’t it reasonable to expect those who benefit from religious freedom, cultural tolerance, technological innovation, and economic opportunity to support those same principles for others?

And if religious teachings or interpretations are being used to justify these contradictions, isn’t it time to question them rather than defend them without examination?

Faith should not be afraid of questions. If something is true, it should withstand scrutiny.


r/exmuslim • • 5h ago

(Question/Discussion) It irks me the most when Muslims look down at others and think they are better.

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My colleague recently was trash talking about the Westerns, saying how they lead sinful lives. Drinking. Living together out of wedlock. Women wearing revealing clothes.

I told her what if they live like that? They are still living a good life. Good society, better education, social security, low crime rate and so on...

She stopped talking for a while. I thought that was the end of discussion. Then, after half an hour, she came to me and said, "They might live a better life on earth, but what about the afterlife? They will be punished later. And we will be rewarded."

I was bamboozled by her logic. I had nothing else to say. How can you argue with someone who thinks they are better than others just because they follow a weird cultish religion?

The sad thing is, she leads a secular life herself. She wears jeans, works with men, doesn’t cover her hair and very educated.

She wouldn’t live so independently if she were in her own country. Yet she fails to see the problem with her religion and its followers.

These people are delulu....


r/exmuslim • • 5h ago

(Question/Discussion) IF MUSLIMS, CHRISTIANS, AND JEWS WORSHIP THE SAME GOD, WHY ARE CHRISTIANS AND JEWS RESTRICTED IN SAUDI ARABIA WHILE ISLAMIC PRACTICES AND RITUALS TELL A DIFFERENT STORY?

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Here is where the claims of Islam and its actual religious practices raise serious questions. Muslims claim to worship one God—the same God worshipped by Jews and Christians—yet certain Islamic practices, rituals, and restrictions appear to tell a different story.

This is where Islamic teachings claim one thing, while religious practices and restrictions seem to demonstrate another.

If the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob is truly the same God Muslims worship, why are Christians and Jews prohibited from entering Mecca, including the sacred precinct surrounding the Kaaba? Why are Christian churches prohibited in Saudi Arabia, and why is public Christian worship restricted?

While Muslims throughout much of North America and Europe are generally free to wear their traditional Islamic clothing, including hijabs and niqabs, build mosques, preach Islam, and openly practice their religion, Christians do not enjoy comparable freedoms in Saudi Arabia. Muslims may occasionally receive disapproving looks, experience discrimination, or encounter restrictions on face coverings in certain Western countries, but they generally enjoy extensive religious freedoms.

Meanwhile, Christians cannot establish churches or conduct public Christian worship in Saudi Arabia. Non-Muslims are prohibited from entering Mecca and face restrictions at certain sacred sites in Medina. Jesus, Moses, Abraham would be restricted too.

And this is precisely where the contradiction becomes difficult to ignore.

Islam claims that Jews, Christians, and Muslims worship the same God, yet its religious rules distinguish sharply between those who accept Muhammad and those who do not. If Christians worship the same God, why are they excluded from Islam’s holiest sanctuary? If Jews worship the same God, why are they excluded as well?

Interestingly, the Qur’an itself states in Qur’an 29:46 that the God of Muslims and the People of the Book is one. If that is true, why does acknowledging the same God not translate into equal religious freedom, especially in Saudi Arabia, the birthplace of Islam?

Christians should be allowed to enter Mecca, wear their crosses openly, establish churches, and worship freely in Saudi Arabia, just as Muslims are generally allowed to establish mosques, wear Islamic clothing, and practice their religion throughout much of the Western world.

You cannot continually claim that we worship the same God while defending a system that denies Christians the freedom to openly worship that God in your country.

There is also a deeper theological question concerning Islamic monotheism. If Islam teaches the worship of one God alone, how should Muslims explain the central role of the Kaaba, the ritual of circling it, and the reverence shown to the Black Stone?

Muslims explain these practices as obedience to God rather than worship of the stone itself. However, these practices deserve examination, particularly considering the Kaaba’s pre-Islamic history and its association with Arabian religious traditions.

The question becomes even more interesting when considering that Muhammad rejected the worship of multiple gods and removed idols from the Kaaba while retaining the Black Stone as part of Islamic ritual practice.

Why was the Black Stone retained when the other objects associated with pre-Islamic worship were removed? What makes reverence toward the Black Stone fundamentally different from the religious practices Islam rejected?

The issue is not simply whether Muslims verbally profess belief in one God. It is whether their religious teachings, practices, rituals, and treatment of other monotheistic faiths consistently support their claim of worshipping the same God as Jews and Christians.
And religious freedom should work both ways.

If Muslims expect their religious beliefs, clothing, mosques, and practices to be respected in Western societies, they should be equally willing to defend those same freedoms for Christians and Jews in Muslim-majority countries, particularly Saudi Arabia.

THE FINAL QUESTIONS:

If Jews, Christians, and Muslims truly worship the same God, why are Jews and Christians prohibited from entering Mecca and the sacred precinct surrounding the Kaaba?

Why are Christian churches prohibited in Saudi Arabia while mosques are generally permitted throughout North America and Europe?

Why should Muslims enjoy religious freedoms in predominantly Christian countries that Christians are denied in Saudi Arabia?

And if Islam claims strict monotheism, how do its rituals involving the Kaaba and Black Stone demonstrate that claim rather than simply preserving elements of pre-Islamic religious tradition?

IF IT IS THE SAME GOD, WHY IS ONE GROUP GENERALLY FREE TO WORSHIP HIM OPENLY IN THE WEST WHILE THE OTHER IS RESTRICTED FROM WORSHIPPING HIM OPENLY IN SAUDI ARABIA?

The claim is that we worship the same God. The question is whether the religious practices, restrictions, and treatment of other faiths are consistent with that claim. Religious freedom should not be a one-way street.


r/exmuslim • • 5h ago

(Question/Discussion) I want to take off the hijab and idk what to do

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Ok so for context, im a teenager and i live in a very conservative Muslim country so my decision to wear hijab at 12 years old was because of others pressuring me indirectly and seeing a lot of hijabis around me. Unfortunately, muslims being illogical nobody saw how weird it is for a literal child to hide their body and believe their body shouldnt be seen so nobody talked me out of it. Now im a bit older and have a bigger understanding of the religion and have officially left it for atheism a few months ago and it feels great to be more aware of how misogynistic and weird islam was. Reality obviously hit that i wear hijab and i cant take it off because of my society and community. I have come to a decision that i will indeed someday take it off and i have planned for next year before the next school year but the thought of people’s reactions to my freeing sounds scaring. I do not care for anyone’s opinion but im just a normal human being influenced by others around me. How do people react when they see a girl they know take her hijab off? Especially teens?


r/exmuslim • • 5h ago

(Advice/Help) Came out to my husband and trying to navigate this

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Hello. Just for abit of context, I'm 27F and Pakistani from the UK. I've always had doubts regarding religion, but it's not something I've really had to face until I got married to my husband who was raised and is more practicing than I was. I've been married 4 years and we have been together 7. Within the 4 years I realised religion played much more of a role in his everyday life, which of-course it would because he's a practicing Muslim. Topics surrounding how we would make a will, how to pray, how to dress, fasting and Ramadan together came up. And throughout those conversations I'd find myself not believing in any of it, so there's been many instances I would say I don't think I believe in this and I was met with that this would end our marriage if what I'm trying to say is that I'm not Muslim, so I'd immediately take it back. I've been on a journey of trying to figure all the 'problems' I had or 'questions' I had out, Aisha's age, sex slavery, hijab, verses surrounding hitting women, just all of it, learning about Islam from the beginning to end. And at the end of it I was trying to convince myself with apologist arguments, so I felt better. But at the end I just didn't believe in it all anymore. Felt man made and made up. I finally came out to him and told him I'm no longer Muslim, don't believe in it and that's the truth. It was hard, I thought our marriage was over. After many conversation, he has said he doesn't care and wants to stay married to me, despite that our marriage maybe being nullified, or him committing a sin in Islam. Now the topic of children has come up. Thing is, I could never come out to my family. I'd always have to live as a closeted ex muslim. So I'm really struggling with that, but then wanting to be authentic will my own kids. He wants to raise the kids as Muslim, I don't. I'd want it be a choice. He wants to send them to mosque at an early age. I said no, maybe 10-11 years old. He isn't comfortable about giving them a choice to be Muslim or not. He wants to raise them Muslim. There's also the issue of, what if our kids told our families 'mum isn't Muslim'. So I'd be asking my kids to keep a secret? I don't know, the unknown the future is scary for me and for him. We're abit lost. I see myself as somewhat a strict mum, no dating until you're older, no drinking/partying til you're older. Focus on your education and hobbies and friends, so even without religion, it's some what similar on how we'd want to raise them. I don't know, now I feel like I've forgotten all the scenarios that may come up about having children together and the only thing that we seem to be fixated on is whether they'll be going to mosque or not. We can sit and talk about rules all I day, but I guess, the bigger questions is how he'd react to them choosing not to be Muslim, and how I'd react to them choosing to be Muslim. I think it makes us both feel insecure because you inevitably want your kids to think how you think, which isn't always the way it turns out (I'm a prime example). Has anyone had to deal with this? Very practicing muslim partner with an agnostic combo? How are you dealing with it? We love each other a lot, our relationship is good, we're best friends. It just shit to throw this away on something like this. Any advice would be great.


r/exmuslim • • 6h ago

(Question/Discussion) Moral Arguments Against Islam Are a Dead End

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Attempting to debunk Islam through moral arguments is often a dead end, especially with Muslims who have strong convictions in their faith.

Whether it's slavery, concubinage, child marriage, or Muhammad's personal conduct, almost everything can be justified through divine authority, historical norms, or claims of wisdom beyond human understanding. If someone already believes Allah is the ultimate source of morality and Muhammad is the perfect example for humanity, then any moral objection can simply be dismissed.

Challenging the actual foundations of Islamic belief is far more productive.

Most Muslims don't believe Islam is true because Muhammad married Aisha at six or had multiple wives. They believe because they consider the Quran divine, preserved, and miraculous.

So challenge them on what they consider the strongest evidence for their faith. The preservation of the Quran, even if established, does not prove divine authorship. Claims of scientific miracles often rely on retrofitting modern discoveries into ambiguous verses, knowledge already available at the time, or interpretations that are simply scientifically incorrect. None of these necessarily establishes divine knowledge.

There are also historical and theological questions worth examining. Where is the original, uncorrupted Injil as described in Islamic theology? What exactly is the historical basis for the Quran's claim concerning Uzair? How should we reconcile the inheritance calculations that sometimes require awl to distribute shares?

These aren't moral objections. They raise questions about Islam's historical and theological claims, rather than whether its teachings align with an external moral standard.

Rather than endlessly debating morality, question what actually makes Islam so unshakable to them. What evidence establishes its divine origin beyond the beliefs they inherited through religious upbringing?


r/exmuslim • • 6h ago

(Video) Islamists in Japan

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r/exmuslim • • 6h ago

(Question/Discussion) When the hell did the Western left just collectively lose its mind on Islam?

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Even 15 years ago, things were not this crazy. I distinctly remember, maybe around 2009-2011, reading National Geographic Magazine. You could read passages by pro-immigrant leftists celebrating that there were young Arab women in bikinis at a French beach. This was the "progressive", left-wing, pro-immigration perspective. Not a lecture about how conservative Muslim women in hijabs are actually "just as French" as everybody else and how we all need to celebrate their ass-backwards religious values as part of multicultural liberalism and diversity and tolerance or whatever.

What the hell happened to this perspective, amongst Western leftists? Why is it considered offensive now to even say that immigrants should actually make an effort to assimilate into the culture of the countries that they move into? How have we gotten to the point where outright Muslim Brotherhood Islamists like Abdul El-Sayed are being nominated for the US Senate? Where conservative Muslim women like Ilhan Omar, Linda Sarsour, Hoda Katebi, Dalia Mogahed, etc., are somehow at the forefront of leftist progressive feminism, or whatever?


r/exmuslim • • 7h ago

Art/Poetry (OC) A dialogue with myself on prayer

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I let them pray in my home.

I let them venerate and praise those who called for my death and destruction.

I let them.

I let them quietly offer their salutations and blessings to the prophet. The same prophet that calls for the death penalty to be imposed upon me and my wife (Sahih Muslim and Bukhari).

I let them pray.

It seems wrong to not let them pray, surely.

It seems wrong to not let them pray in your home. Why would you not let them pray?

Why would you not let them pray for you? Perhaps you could be saved.

No thanks. I don't need to be saved from understanding and pursuing the truth. I do want to be saved from their beliefs and practises.

It's simply a simple difference in beliefs then. You could just let them pray in your home. What difference does it make?

Would you ask Jews to allow people into their homes to quietly praise Hitler and the Nazis?

Come on now. It would not be such a big impost. It would be easier, more peaceful, to let them pray. You could let them pray and it would be done with.

I could let them pray but I would have to pretend like they didn't just pray to a god that says all my deeds have become worthless and that I will become a companion of the hellfire (al baraqahĀ  2:217).

Just shrug it off and let them pray. Just let them pray for God's sake.

It seems wrong to not let them pray. Society demands that you let them pray whenever and wherever they wish..

It's family. Let them pray. It seems so peaceful.spiritual. it's just a prayer.

So initially, I let them pray.

But I knew inside my bones it was wrong.

I felt I shouldn't. Should never let them pray inside my home.

They can pray anywhere else without my permission. But I don't let them pray there, inside my home. My sanctuary. My safe space. Never let them pray there.

For it is one thing to stop praying myself, but it is another to facilitate others in praying to a vengeful god.

A spiteful, hateful god.

A prophet who is intolerant of my lack of belief is not someone I will allow to be venerated inside my home.

I don't let them wish him peace inside my home, when he calls for my death. I don't allow accommodations that come at the expense of my dignity and self respect.

I don't let them pray inside my home. It seems such a strange thing to say. Don't let them pray. It feels odd, for it is a just a prayer, no matter how odious.

It feels odd to not accept such a common, ordinary thing - prayer.

But I won't reject the uncomfortabillity of self respect and exchange it forĀ the uncomfortability of pleasing people who venerate those who seek my death.

Don't let them pray. It is absurd to let them pray. So will you let them pray?

No, I won't let them pray.

Relief.

It is as if an unspoken, unknowable, distant prayer has been answered. Not Salah. But another prayer calling for protection from that prayer. Just a wish, a thought.

Do not let them pray.

I will not let them pray. Not here, not inside my home.

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My heart goes out to everyone that can't make this decision in their life, for whatever reason.


r/exmuslim • • 8h ago

(Meetup) 21F | Pakistani | Liberal Feminist & Capitalist | Seeking Ex-Muslim Atheists Under 40 (PK/West)

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21yo Pakistani ex-muslim atheist woman looking to connect with like minded ex-muslim men under 40 based in Pakistan or the West. Open to age gaps.

Politically, I'm a liberal feminist and firmly capitalist.

If you share similar values and want to chat, feel free to send a DM. I ignore dry "hi/hello" DMs so plz introduce yourself.


r/exmuslim • • 8h ago

(Question/Discussion) What do you guys think about thinkmuslims 33 reasons why Islam is true video.

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Do any of his claims hold any weight? Can anyone debunk them?


r/exmuslim • • 8h ago

(Question/Discussion) okay i need answers on this—

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my family keep telling me that god said women cannot look like men and men cannot look like women,,,

but is it true??? i mean, where does it say that?? 🤨
never was interested in religion so i never really bothered to look it up as i genuinely think it’s bullshit, real or not, but i wanted to know at least where they got this idea from. in the quran? in the hadiths??

basically we were talking about my hair and how i wanted it to be very short (like a pixie cut) but then she told me it had to be below my ear and not above, because one gender cannot physically look like the opposite gender šŸ’€

the more i hear stuff like that the more i hate this religion and keep coming to the same conclusion: it is definitely not for me šŸ’ƒšŸ»


r/exmuslim • • 8h ago

(Rant) 🤬 Seen some people do this, wanted to join!

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I'm based in the UK but still ✌

Also, don't mind the flair, I didn't know what to use.


r/exmuslim • • 8h ago

Art/Poetry (OC) Islamic privileges that privilege the privileged at the top šŸ˜’

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Haram Doodles 😘


r/exmuslim • • 8h ago

(Video) Never let the Islamic republic and their supporters whitewash their inhumane crimes on Iranian women! The clip below shows a few cases of the thousands that have been brutally arrested over the mandatory hijab rule!

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62 Upvotes

God knows what they do behind the public eye / cameras… (over the last few years since Mahsa Amini’s death the IR regime due to political and economic pressure has eased on the mandatory hijab rule but unfortunately there are still a few cases here and there about oppression/arrests of women!)


r/exmuslim • • 8h ago

(Rant) 🤬 I hate Islam's homophobia

13 Upvotes

I just got yelled at for listening to g-idle's song 'Mono'. There's a lyric that says "whether straight or gay" (the song is basically jst saying it doesn't matter ur sexuality, gender, where you are from or anything, you are still worthy of love)

I love g-idle and this song jst gives me sm confort. I got caught listening to it and lectured on how it's haram blah blah blah.

I'm a closeted bi so that pissed me off so bad. one of the things on my bucket list is to attend a pride festival once im out of here ✌

(go support g-idle, they're songs r so inclusive, welcoming and positive!)