I've tried a lot of soulslikes. Basically any game where the primary advice is to "get good" is a game I cannot play.
I once spent a week trying to beat a tutorial boss. It was either Dark Souls 1 or 2. He finally glitched into a wall and got stuck and I killed him.
Then the game started and I died repeatedly to the first monster out there, I think it was some kind of skeleton.
If the game requires me to dodge, I can't play the game. I will miss every dodge. If the game requires me to block, I can't play the game. I will miss every block.
In Expedition 33, I missed every single button press reaction. Every single one. That game let me adjust the difficulty so I managed to finish it.
In Silksong, I got pretty far by sheer grit and determination. My college age son is a huge fan of Hollow Knight, Silksong, and metroidvanias. I played it so I could have something to talk to him about. Some of the bosses took me over 100 tries, some I lost track after 150. I managed to get to Act 3 before finally hitting a wall, I couldn't even get to a boss in Act 3, the regular mobs were too hard. The thing is, I don't honestly think I got any better. I try my hardest each time, and I think after over a hundred tries I just happen to win by sheer random chance. I never felt like I knew what I was doing, or was getting better. The boss fights were always frustrating, not a single one was ever fun.
If there is some kind of currency you lose when you die, even if you can get it back again by reaching your corpse, I just don't get to have that currency. In Silksong I never had shards for my tools. I had tools I didn't even know what they did because I never had the shards to practice with them. I never had the rosaries to unlock things, unless I went back to the starter zone and farmed specifically for that purpose. It might take an hour or so for each thing I wanted to unlock or buy.
I just tried Valor Mortis because it hit Game Pass. I'm assuming there are bosses in that game but I couldn't reach any. I died to the regular mobs and got too frustrated to continue. I was doing kind of all right against the first kind of mobs, where you could block their attacks by holding down block until they attacked, and then respond. I usually had to drink a healing potion after each fight but I got past them. But then I started hitting enemies who turned red and you had to dodge their attacks and... I just couldn't get past them. I couldn't time the dodges. They hit me with every single one of their attacks. I'd burn through all my potions, and then just die.
I understand these games are supposed to be hard. But I don't think they're supposed to be this hard. The problem is me, and all the "get goods" in the world aren't helping me get good.
Watching youtube videos is just frustrating. They say things like "this boss was pretty fun, it took me three tries to beat him. Here is my strategy..." and the strategy will be the most obvious thing in the world. Like "dodge his attacks and then use your tool when he's staggered" or something. And that's great. The strategy is the easy part. I know exactly how to beat the boss. That's not my problem. My problem is execution. I can never make the character on the screen match my vision for what is supposed to happen. The video says to jump over the monster, I try that and instead the monster hits me before I can jump. Or I jump into the monster. Or I land too far away to attack. Or I land in lava. Or the monster's projectile bounces off the wall and kills me. Over and over. Ten tries, fifty tries, a hundred tries, and I'm still making the exact same mistakes, still missing the exact same timings.
I'll watch people playing these games and it's just like magic. I have never had the experience they have. It feels like they're playing a different game. The dodges just work. The enemies deal no damage to them. They're hitting every attack. They're chatting about the strategy they're going to use for the upcoming boss, like they're not even doing anything interesting or special.
I hear people talking about how good some of these games are, like Elden Ring. I feel like I'm missing out on some really good gaming experiences. I just wish I could figure out how to play these sorts of games. At this point I am starting to think I have some kind of mental disability.