I just got married to my Hinge match from a little over 2 years ago. Sometimes it works!

30M and back on Hinge again over these past 3 weeks — one thing I’ve noticed is how normal it is for people to unmatch after the first few messages, or even after days of back and forth conversation. It especially sucks when you’ve matched with someone and begin to make plans, or have some sort of conversation before an expected meet up, only to be unmatched out of the blue..

I’d like to think I’m pretty conversational and I’ve had success being myself in terms of being communicative. Don’t know if it’s something I’m doing so I don’t want to take away from that idea that I might be coming off strong or am the problem in these situations.. at the same time, I feel like there are so many people on these apps with zero interest/intention of dating. One of the dates I’ve had this past month felt like the person had no interest/experience with dating when we met in person, so I wasn’t surprised to see I was unmatched shortly after we met up.

I’m starting to feel convinced that it’s better to keep all convos to a bare minimum on the apps, until there’s a chance to meet up?

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Basically zero response on this profile. I'm dutch and living in Valencia. Tried multiple different photo's and prompts. Even got hingeX, because of a discount, but with zero effect. Curious if my account is messed up or my profile just doesn't work here. I did delete and redo my account about 2 weeks ago. I'm a bit clueless. It doesn't really match my real life experience.

Oh yeah, and I'm aware that my neckbeard can use some extra shaving. Already got that tip before. But doubt if that fully justifies the current Hinge experience.

New to this, been on and off the apps over the past year. Have gotten a handful of matches in that time but nothing significant. As well unsure how to go about displaying some other sections of my life (newly at the gym, volunteering, enjoy games etc).

Any help would be appreciated 🙂

Getting back into dating, looking for feedback/review

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Hey, I really need advice if I 30F should keep seeing this 50M man. I’ve been dating a guy I met for about a month. He plans nice dates, stays in contact, and has respected the fact that I don’t like to text. Things seemed to be going well and I was starting to feel more comfortable with him.
I noticed recently that his profile was no longer showing up in my matches, so I asked him about it .
He said something along the lines of, “The app is expensive so I shut it down. It’s limited in the parameters I can use, and the amount I was paying was high. It doesn’t do what I need it to do, like filtering out people I don’t want to match with.”
The thing is, his name is still showing under my previous matches on Hinge. From what I understand, that means he unmatched me rather than deleting his account.
We haven’t discussed exclusivity, and I’m not expecting that at this stage. We’re still getting to know each other. However, his explanation left me confused because it doesn’t line up with what I’m seeing on the app.
Aside from this, he’s been consistent about planning dates and communicating with me.
Am I interpreting this correctly, or is there something about how Hinge works that I might be missing? Would you consider this a red flag, or am I reading too much into it? I’d appreciate honest perspectives, especially from people who have experienced something similar.

Hi dear fellow Hinge users! I‘m using the app in a big German city and my biggest problem is that straight men keep liking my profile. So every time I’m excited about going through my likes I am bummed because I won’t match with anyone. I won’t date straight men because I identify as nonbinary. I know I have a feminine look. But do men using the app really not scroll past the pictures or read the prompts? I even included a picture of a performance I did in a queer nightclub where one can see I had top surgery. I mesh the best with fellow bisexual and genderqueer people and I don’t know why my profile is even shown to straight men if I have set the nonbinary gender label. So what do you think, should I exchange some of the pictures to more androgynous-style ones? Maybe the first picture is already too female-looking?(I picked it because I’m not wearing makeup and felt like myself🫣) Okay, thank you!! Appreciate your help.