one day youre feeling loved and cared for, and the next day youre being dumped?

one day theyre all over you, kissing and cuddling. and next thing you know theyve been "thinking about things"

they ended things just like that , no kiss , no i love you, no thank you for everything, no nothing. just "i feel hurt , i cant do this anymore"

Burner account because I don't want this linking back to me.

Me and my ex gf dated for 6 months before she broke up with me. It caught me really off guard because I really thought we were doing so well. But she had so much going on in her personal life and mental health that she couldn't handle a relationship anymore.

I was hurt so hurt because I was so excited for all our plans for the future. She was my first most true and honest love. She told me she wanted to stay friends and I pushed back on it at first because I don't believe in staying friends with an ex. We continued talking for a little bit before we stopped talking for about a month because of something that happened. But once we started talking again it's like we pretended nothing happened and continued being friends.

We've only had one real conversation 3 months after the breakup about where we stood. I told her I still loved and cared about her romantically and she told me not to wait around, that she still loved me but it wasn't the same. She said even if in time her mental health and life were in order she wouldn't love me like she did. I was so deeply hurt hearing that but I keep trying to be the bigger person and be happy that she still wants me in her life.

We talk in our mutal group chat everyday and we even call with our friends frequently. Some days I don't mind having her around but then other days it makes me sick. A part of me still holds onto the idea that we can work it all out in time if I just continue being someone she can be herself around but I feel so pathetic.

I'm probably gonna delte this post in a day or two because I'm a bit paranoid about her findinf this. But do you guys think you can get over someone you truly loved while still being friends?

Im fairly broken up about this even though it was only 3.5 months...

how can he move on with his life so quickly and act like i don’t even exist? why isn’t he curious about how i’m doing or what’s going on in my life? yes, we had a lot of arguments, but there was still so much love between us, even until the very last moment. and then, all of a sudden, he blocked me everywhere and never said another word to me.
what makes me so easily replaceable to him? was i really not that special to him? does he not miss me at all? how can he just carry on with his life as if i was never a part of it, as if the last two years we spent together meant nothing to him?

Pretty recently within the few months since school started I had a really bad fallout with a friend and she completely cut me off, blocked me on everything and ignored me for weeks at school. The initial situation that made us fallout was me being entirely blamed for us deciding to have intercourse and it going wrong one weekend at my house (which didn’t go well nor far) and she refused to see my side of things and everything was about how she felt which I apologized for so many times and she wouldn’t accept it. Im autistic and shes very indirect with me so we never had a proper conversation regarding the situation and it was mostly her just pushing me away and saying it was because of my actions though ive had to do some self reflection to try to empathize with her and even asked if i could get more clarification on what i did wrong so i could be a better friend which she didnt tell me.

Anyways, between the two of us Im definitely suffering the most from the fallout and still am even months after because i had no other friends but her and she has a solid support system and many other friends to talk to so Im assuming shes over it by now. But what confuses me is how she would be completely done with me but randomly will try to talk to me at school and text me after school. I always try to be nice to her and talk, but Im bad at conversating and everytime she speaks to me i can see her getting visibly irritated and shes a lot more snappy and weird towards me now. Last week she texted me and within that message she implied i was desperate and easy for her in a pic she sent which she said “Us”, and she reached out that time asking me to look at her insta story because she looked cute at hoco (which she was gonna ask me to and i planned on going but ended up not because i had nobody to go with) and she unblocked and followed me for that reason only. i dont know what to think anymore, everytime I try to initiate because im of the belief she wants to talk to me now she seems agitated, pulls away and doesnt reply to my texts but I always reply to hers and talk ro her when she talks to me first. Im really sad because we became so close so quickly not too long ago only for everything to go to shit and it wasnt a mutual decision for it to be this way because i still liked her and wanted to try and fix things because I honestly just couldnt understand what went wrong fully. It took me telling my mom about the situation to which she said she probably had a crush on me based of the messages and what we did with eachother and is treating this like a breakup which I dont feel at all. My depression got significantly worse after our fallout and i cry a lot thinking about her and what our friendship couldve been, and I get upset seeing her doing well without me and making plans with other friends while inconsistently talking to me and acting friendly towards everyone else but me. I hate being this fixated on her and I always check her profiles which Im aware isnt healthy, and I even said I agree it would be healthier for us to keep distance but I cave and send her messages first after she gives me the slightest bit of positive attention to which I dont get responses to. I think having no friends is making the feeling worse, and I dont have hobbies or an identity whatsoever to self soothe and this issue makes it harder not to try and not lose myself

She always liked when I’d sing. She told me I had a beautiful voice and I was always to shy to sing in front of her. But the few times I did, she looked at me like I was her favorite artist and she had front row seats. What I’d give to sing to you one more time L. I miss you

Im (30M) and she was (25F) I think I’m anxious avoidant. I have a hard time communicating and get scared to get too close. I’m currently having a hard time getting over an ex and keep blaming my self for the mistakes I made.

In the relationship, I felt like I tried my best despite being depressed (I’m getting treated for it). I did the best I could to support her, I would pick her and drop her off (1hr drive one way), always paid for her food, always tried to uplift her, made romantic gestures, took her on dates, I would confront her about things I didn’t like (she’d be late 30-45min when picking her up and freeze up when I confront her about it and not say anything), she didn’t really make effort to get to know me, I would buy her gifts, but she wouldn’t plan any dates for us, I’d always be the one to plan dates, I would show her a lot of support if anything happens.

On the other hand, I was depressed and she couldn’t support me or say anything supportive, except just say “do something about it”. I wanted passion, emotionally mature person to help me grow, be supportive and also do their part in relationship. Or does girls just want someone happy all the time? I think this was one of the reasons she left me and got over me quick.

I understand every relationship is different but what are some key criteria to focus on ? I got treated for depression, and improved but is it that hard to support someone depressed for valid reasons ?

Hey guys, just wanted to share this visual and audio clip I made. It’s about that stage where you just wish the relationship never even existed because it hurts too much. I hope it connects with anyone going through it right now.

I dated this guy for only one month this past summer.

I simply cannot stop thinking about him.
Mind you I had to cut him off(and I regret it so much).

I still, cannooot stop thinking about him yo. Idk what is going on is this normal? Why does it happen? Do I confess to him?!

we have been broken up just over a month and a week or so. she met another guy maybe two weeks after the relationship and is now with him. to the point he is in her profile picture and bio on instagram. im blocked but of course i looked on an alt account. me and her were pretty on and off but the love between us always pulled us back. and this time, she really ended it i guess. the relationship wasn’t unhealthy, it was just bumpy and we had alot of things to figure out. when i first found out about the guy, i practically begged for her back and she said she’s not in love with me anymore and that most of the moments in our relationship were bad. it shocked me to my core and the pain still hurts.

i would do anything for her to somehow magically return. and i know waiting for the rebound relationship won’t do me any good but my love for that girl stops me from doing anything else. no matter what i focus on. so i guess i’m asking for advice on what you see this situation as or at least what i can do to feel better.

Broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years two days ago. M19 F18 Just finished talking to her for the last time last night and saying our goodbyes and the guy she followed as soon as we broke up blocked me right after we said goodbye and wished each other luck. She was literally talking to him as she was saying goodbye to me and saying she never regretted us or meeting me.

There’s a lot of context to how it ended up like this so i’ll leave a TL;DR at the bottom to save some of you time.

When I met her she was just a girl in class with tourette’s that was always shouting cuss words and everyone was laughing at her. But I always thought it was cool how she kept her composure through the states and awkward silence. I didn’t even have a crush on her but I did want to get to know her. I sometimes looked over to see if she was looking at me in class and I never caught her looking but once. One day she left her pastel pink marker on my desk to see if I would bring it to her and say hi and I did before the bell rang and then from that day of school on we started talking more and then holding hands and then I met her family and everything was perfect we did everything together.

Then I started to fuck things up a little. I began drinking around the halfway mark of the relationship, hiding it, knowing she would’ve hated to even think that because her family has a history of it. I did it because a buddy of mine were hanging out and smoking which she didn’t even care about it was just she thought drinking was gross and pathetic based off what she’s seen with her own family. So me and my friend smoked whenever we hung out and he got a bottle of vodka one day and we smashed it and I got so drunk I could barely walk up the stairs and actually fell asleep I think like halfway up the stairs to go piss. Sounds fucking miserable, but I actually enjoyed it and started to sneak it a little more at home off of my parents. Then around a month before graduation, halfway into our relationship, I bought my first bottle and it was downhill from there I was still very functional and never appeared hungover and honestly didn’t feel it but I was spending $60 a week on vodka for a long time. Anyways, this also made me less present with people including my girlfriend, I was still there and pretty much the same trust me, but I would call her less and skip some nights to say goodnight because I was drinking and was doing it to cover up that it the relationship began feeling stale so instead in a way I cheated on her with alcohol. I could be sitting on the couch next to her and still be in my own little world.

Obviously this was a catalyst, on top of the fact that 2 months ago I moved to florida. The first month was fine but she seemed to hate the distance and complained about it constantly whilst still managing to be loving and wondering about my day. But she was already checking out. I think when she realized this was real and she wasn’t gonna be able to see me again and I was already neglecting her sometimes and showing less interest, she began to grieve and accept it just wasn’t going to work for her, although I managed it very well and we even had a trip for thanksgiving planned so she could see my new house for a few days.

We hung out once two weeks ago and I never noticed anything at all until now but she seemed more reclusive and instead of running to hug me she just wrapped her arms around me and kissed me. Which is weird because when we don’t see each other for a while she’s been the type to be very excited. It was a grueling 10 hour drive I made for her. She seemed to really value the time we were having but there was just this small part of her that felt like it had changed somehow.

She asked for a break a week ago and it was for a few days and I was confused and she said it was because she hated begging for me to tell her about my day and all we said is “i miss you” and “i love you” and it wasn’t just that like we had actual conversations about what we were doing she just seemed to miss the way I used to be always checking up on her at least like every hour instead of every six hours, like I would do some days. She admitted she had been getting tired of that for months and she was “getting exhausted”, And that I “only wanted to truly change because she was at her wits end”. It hurt so bad because I felt that when I stopped showing her much attention or interest, maybe another guy came into the picture and she was already getting tired of the staleness and exhaustion of waiting for me to change? I don’t know.

We had our breakup two days ago where we stayed “friends” to see if one last time I could show the attention to her she needed. Well that didn’t work, it seemed to be okay at first but she ignored me and didn’t want to call me because her “throat hurts”. I felt absolutely played. She let a guy follow her the day we broke up that she even admitted was someone who had been trying to follow her for a long time. I told her last night basically, “listen this isn’t gonna work, i can’t sit here and be an option to you while you do what you’re doing, i’ve been more than willing to change for a while and you don’t value it and you obviously met someone so i’m not gonna wait around for you any longer” or that’s what I said in so many words. Immediately the gravity of the situation hit her and she instantly said they’re just friends and “hell, he hasn’t even reached out to me”. We still break it off at midnight because I told her I’m blocking her at that time period. She said “Goodbye, I’m never gonna regret us and maybe we’ll meet again someday”. Five minutes later, the guy she’s following blocks me. The sweet, patient, caring, funny, loud, girl I once knew is talking to another guy, and honestly probably has been for a little while now even if it just turned into something.

I feel disgust and pity when I look at her pictures, not because I feel like I wasn’t good enough, but she’s just trying to fill a void and distract herself from the fact that my old clothes are in her closet, she still has the promise ring I gave her, and our pictures are still up on her wall. It’s funny that the guy she’s talking to looks like an absolute loser too and is probably telling her he was waiting for so long to finally talk to her. It makes me sick. Her family just saw me two weeks ago and they now have to forget me too. This is a swift punch in the stomach and I hate that 3 beautiful years of my life are gone.

TL;DR— Perfect relationship for 3 years, saw changes at the end, went long distance, got emotionally cheated on I guess

Sorry for the rant, advice would be appreciated

I'm 21 and started interning at a company in Gurgaon on September 28. Today is October 16, so it's only been 18 days, but somehow I've grown attached to having this guy around.

We sat together every day, and he was one of the few people who made the office feel lighter. He was funny, joked around, and made boring or stressful days more bearable. My manager had shouted at him a few times, and I think we bonded a little over the work environment. I can't fully explain it, but I genuinely enjoyed his presence.

He was hoping to get converted to a full-time employee, but it didn't happen after he messed up a presentation to the CEO. I feel bad because he'd been given hope about the conversion and didn't really apply elsewhere. His internship was ending anyway, and he's decided to return to his hometown around Diwali. He's already stopped coming to the office. I even suggested extending his internship, but he said no. I don't know if he's embarrassed, disappointed, or simply ready to move on.

I think I only realised I liked him when it was almost over. He never really asked much about my personal life, and our conversations were mostly about work and jokes, so I don't know if I'm reading too much into things. We occasionally exchange reels, but he mostly reacts rather than continuing the conversation. I once invited him to a dandiya event, but he said he was shy and had never been to one. I still don't know whether that was a polite no or genuine awkwardness.

Honestly, I think I'll miss him more than I expected. There are only three of us girls in HR, including me, and the other two are seniors. One of them is quite toxic, so having someone around who could make me laugh made a difference. Now the thought of going to work without him feels a little sad.

I know it's only been 18 days, and maybe this sounds vague or silly because we weren't even that close outside work. But I felt something, even if I can't put it into words properly. Maybe it's a crush, maybe it's the comfort of having someone who made my days better. I just know I wish he were staying.

I want him to do well, and I know I can't ask him to stay just because I'll miss him. But I keep thinking about sending him a message saying I'd like to stay in touch, maybe even admitting that I liked him.

Would you tell him or let it go? And if you did message him, what would you say without making things awkward or putting pressure on him?

And I don’t even feel hate, just love and overwhelming feeling of loss

I (26F)am currently living with my partner (24M). I guess my question is am I actually being toxic or being the problem in my relationship? I met my partner online through a video game and tbh we started getting along pretty quick. We share common interests and were pretty much alike in most aspects. We started talking 5 months before we actually met in person. By the time we decided to meet each other we were practically already in a committed relationship.. he told me i was his and he was mine. We always went to sleep together on the phone.. showered, ate… pretty much we lived talking on the phone til we met up. I found out once I moved in that he was with another girl 3 days before i was suppose to meet up with him… i remember that night he told me he was just going out to a car meet and i even had his location.. and that night i went to sleep trusting that he was were he said. I went through his best friend’s messages and thats where the harsh reality hit. He wasn’t there. He was with some other girl. I confronted him about it and lied about it and instead tried to turn things on me about a past relationship i told him about..

2nd thing, i asked him about yet ANOTHER female… i saw their messages everything they did .. and i felt sick to my stomach as it was within the 2 months we were talking.. and til today he continues to lie about it and once again when i bring it up he turns stuff on me. Ive been pretty open and honest about my past relationships whether it’s been ugly or pretty. Anyways i come to find out she lives next door to us.. and what was even more wild.. she called him at 6am. I tried to grab his phone to answer and he proceeded to push me and say to leave it alone. I then text her through my phone and ask her what she wants why is she calling… she proceeded to ask if she can stay in OUR HOME til someone opened the door cause she was locked out of her apartment!!! Like what world did she think that was okay???? She KNOWS ABOUT ME!!! I proceeded to block her from his phone and my phone. Later on i eventually found out he had unblocked her. Once again i confronted him and he gives me the “ youre crazy and toxic “ lines.

3rd… this goes back to me reading the texts messages between him and his best friend. I also find out that he was fucking strippers left and right. I was genuinely shocked and very disgusted. I was disgusted that i let him touch me. I never wouldve if i knew that from the start. I asked him about it and til this day he denies it even tho ive shown the screenshots and told him i know and continues to lie.

4th.. one night we had a Intense and very heated argument.. i went to work the next day feeling terrible and i called him. He kept getting mad and frustrated until he eventually put me on dnd. I come to find out he was getting mad cause i was interrupting his porn video. I was feeling terrible and guilty.. while he was fine watching porn. A week before Christmas.

Theres alot more but my conclusion is that hes been telling me im toxic and very selfish for not trusting him.. do i have all the right to feel this way.. or am i actually being toxic

I don't think I need to explain. It's been 2 years since we broke up and it still fucking hurts.

So long story short, 2 days ago I (M17) confessed my feelings to my best friend of 10 months (F19) (started developing feelings around 2 months ago which really went crazy when I got into a motorcycle accident 3 weeks ago and she was in the Hospital every other day) after she directly asked me about it in person the day before and I just gave a joking reply.

Things went as they they were bound to happen, she shut me down. We'll meet friday and talk about it in person, I'm not sure what to tell her after all of this or what to even do with myself either. Apart from drowning everything in Alcohol ontop of the Painkillers obviously, that always worked.

Anyways, what do I do? I still like her but It‘d probably eat me alive if she brought another guy right now, although Im not really sure if I could do any worse whatsoever.

I'll attach her text for anyone interested.

Hey, thank you for being so open with me. You’re very important to me as one of my best friends, and I don’t want anything to change about that. I really like and appreciate you as a good friend. You and (Mutual friend of ours) are like little brothers to me, and that just makes me happy. With you guys, I can be myself without having to worry about anything. We just get along really well, have fun, and can tease each other without hurting the other person, and I love that. I don’t want to change any of that.

I don’t want to give you false hope, and I hope you understand that. The reason I brought it up on Sunday was simply a gut feeling I had and because I was unsure. That’s why I had already been subtly trying to give you hints beforehand that we’re just friends and nothing more. Subtly, because I wasn’t 100% sure whether you might see things differently. I was afraid of hurting you, and I’m glad you’ve now brought it up so openly and that we can clear things up.

I hope you’re okay with that, and as I said, I hope we stay close friends. If there’s anything that doesn’t work for you because it’s too much, please feel free to tell me. I really want things to stay the way they are and for nothing to come between us. Your friendship means a lot to me.

We can also talk about it in person again if you’d like, so things don’t become weird or uncomfortable between us. Just tell me what you think about it

So it’s been a year since we last spoke. It wasn’t a relationship but it was a long situation in which I realised he had to be removed in order for me to move on, us being friends was never an option and every time I tried to explain that to him, he never got it. I truly thought he’d get it when I cried in front of him telling him how much I’m gonna miss him and thought I’d be left alone but I guess not, but it was my fault for removing him 4 months after that happened I should’ve cut him off from the moment he wasn’t going to be serious. But thankfully I had the strength to do it and I didn’t look back. But recently I’ve been remembering him in random little places and ways, I guess when you truly loved someone it’s not easy to forget them, I thought I did, but remembering just him in general doesn’t upset me anymore, I just smile to myself and move on with my day. Part of me wishes I could speak to him one last time and get the closure I feel like I need, but I know deep down I can never get closure from it. It’s just an excuse to constantly find a way to speak to him and there’s no need for it.

To anyone that plans to get in a relationship

LOVE YOURSELF FIRST

If you want a healthy,lasting relationship,love yourself first

If not, you might be prone to toxic relationships

You are worthy of love

You deserve respect and peace

Don’t chase

You’re better than that

Go slow

Start as friends

Don’t rush anything

Communicate

I never planned on meeting you.

I never got to…

Say “I do”.

Dance with you to “Save the Best for Last” at our wedding.

See your body change as our children developed in you.

Feel our baby kick.

Share your pain of childbirth.

See you nursing our children.

Do mundane things together.

Argue about the chores.

Have you pick things out of my takeout that I hate, and me pick things out of yours.

Do your brakes on a fall day as you made dinner for us.

Make you soup when you were sick.

Hold hands walking across the Costco parking lot.

Spoon you on a cool fall night while trains sound their crossing horns in the distance.

Comfort one another when our parents passed.

Tell you “I love you” before I passed on my deathbed.

I never expected to be mourning you after decades.

LAYWBL DJM LMK

I opened up, became vulnerable, shared how I grew up with unavailable parents and my loneliness and he called me annoying. I have been crying for the past 3 hours while he abandoned me and fell asleep.

I'm 15m and Ive been irretrievably in love with 16f for ten years (since kindergarten). I've been working up the corage to ask her out at a concert of hers (something adjacent to school of rock) except she wasnt there... That night i asked her over text and she said that she tried to kill herself and had just gotten out of the mental hospital. We had spoken over text a little until the next day when i jokingly (not jokingly) said "you know its funny, i was going to ask you out last night". She has a boyfriend. i dont know much about him except that they've been dating since september (i found out about him oct/10) and apparently he's really hot, and doesnt really talk to his sister. I still want to be her friend unless its not the best idea?? Idk what to do... please help I'm in so much pain