So I've recently got together with my gf and everything is honestly going great, but when it came to physical intimacy, there were some issues. Before me, she only dated guys (she outed herself as bi to me), so I'm her first lesbian relatiomship. Whenever we would get intimate, she seemed insecure. We talked about it, and after a lot of pushing her she admitted she was probably straight in the sexual sense, but biromantic still. She only realised this while dating me. On the other hand, she did say she enjoyed fingering me and all the other stuff leading up to it (making out, me touching other parts of her than genitals). I love her so much and I want ti make this work but I just don't know how to go about this or if its worth even continuing (in my head it definitely is just because I cant fathom to lose her but am I hurting myself here?). Any advice is appreciated.

Hey, is it weird to be attracted to women who can communicate well? Like, I know it's important for relationships but for me it's like hot in the same way a short dress is.. I'm so into self-confident, loud women they're driving me crazy.

I'm an introvert, will I ever find someone who likes that lol. Like I love going out and meeting people but I'm not someone who talks all the time and am unfortunately attracted to people who do

Do extroverted lesbians usually look for similiar people?

I’m so fucking disturbed. I was working out and this visibly masc lesbian came up to me, telling me “has anyone ever told you, you look like krysten ritter?” I had one of my airpods in but, I think I was speaking at normal volume like how I usually do. She fucking proceeded to tell me word for word “lower your voice” I couldn’t control my face, I was DISTURBED. Then she was said “I was just joking” heh yeah! Anyway she continued to talk to me and ask me a bunch of personal questions like, “how long have you been training?”, “what’s your name?”, “how old are you?”, “what’s ur family name? (I’m middle eastern, it’s a normal question to ask)”. Anyway I was playing along cause frankly this is the most action I’ve gotten in a while. But now after thinking about it, I’m disgusted. Because what do you mean you come hit on me and then PROCEED to tell me to lower my voice. Ew wtf!! Am I overreacting?

I can’t get stuck in a last minute plan where i’m a witch. Gimme some niche and creative suggestions

Hi lesbians, I'm a 29 years old lesbian and I never had a girlfriend, I met a feel nice girls during college but after I returned to my town I never met anyone who would match me and that's not a problem to me, I feel lonely sometimes but it's cool. The thing is, I was scrolling through twitter/x and I saw a girl saying that she would never date a woman +23 years old who never had a relationship because that means they're so unbearable and toxic, and if nobody ever wanted them it's because they're trouble, and a lot of other lesbians agreed. Do you guys agree with that? I mean, everyone is allowed to like whatever they want but put everyone inside of the same box is kinda problematic in my opinion.

So my girlfriend and I are both 22 and have been together for about 3 years now. Our whole relationship, our sex life has been lacking. In my eyes, or at least in my opinion, I want a relationship where we’re at least trying to have sex multiple times a week. We had that at the beginning of our relationship, but now it just seems like we’re not having any sex at all. We’ve gone as long as 6 months.

First, it started out as her thinking she was asexual. Then it changed, and she said she preferred if she was prepared for sexual activity, i.e. me asking instead of springing it on her so she can be in the mood. Now it’s turned into, “Let’s have more foreplay,” and all of those things, which I was fine with.

However, we came to a point where we did open the relationship because I wanted to have more sexual experiences, seeing that I am young and that’s the life I want to live. I personally don’t want to be so young and have a sexless life in which I can’t experience what I want. But she also, at the same time, wanted to explore men, which I had to be okay with even though any woman leaving me for a man is my worst fear. But I wanted to be fair in this situation because I wanted to explore as well. The relationship today is technically still open, but I haven’t talked to any women for months because I was having terrible experiences left and right and she as well has stopped talking to men.

I’m usually a top, so I do most of the eating, if you catch my drift. For the past month or so, I’ve been asking her to trim so she can be prepared, because she wants to trim down there as her hair gets very long, and it does become a little hard for me to work because it gives me, like, mouth carpet burn, if that makes any sense. She’s been telling me that she will, she will, and she hasn’t. Obviously I don’t want to pressure her so I just let it go.

But I genuinely ask her, does she even like me or feel sexually attracted to me? Because I’ve consistently felt this way throughout our whole relationship, and she consistently handles her urges herself when it’s something I’ve been wanting to do for her forever as I love to please it’s my favorite thing to do, as I’ve told her multiple times.

I keep asking her if she is sexually attracted to me, and she just tells me that she’s too scared to trim with scissors, she won’t buy a trimmer, and I won’t let her use mine. That’s just like sharing a toothbrush to me. I love her, but lol, that’s just a boundary I have.

And I’m genuinely considering redownloading dating apps again to talk to people because, in reality, I feel really lonely and alone in this relationship, and obviously the apps aren’t forbidden.

Personally, I don’t know what to do anymore about this situation since I’ve been feeling this way for 3 years, and I’ve told her sexual intimacy is important for me in a relationship. I just feel like a burden myself for wanting this, and consistently communicating so I’m just lost.

I wasn't sure if this would count as NSFW so I just marked it that way to be safe.

So yesterday my girlfriend came over and we were having sex and my nail sort of scratched her and we stopped and i just started crying and saying I was sorry over and over again. I'm not sure if it was because of how vulnerable I felt or because I hurt her or something else entirely but I'm genuinely so embarrassed. If anyone has any other ideas as to why I might have done that please let me know but I mostly just wanted to tell someone about it.

I'm a butch lesbian and hate how other masc lesbians can be so misogynistic. Was watching a TV show where a non-binary lesbian and they made a joke "that's why I have a wife so they can wrap for me" in a way that was clearly disparaging towards women. It makes me so sad and angry how it's a feature in our community but not much discussed

i’m crying bro wtf

Anyone wants to hang out tonight?

EDIT : guys i live in SOUTHERN va.. ig i should’ve specified mb!! but all the tips and helpful and i appreciate them <3 it’s just that it’s difficult when all the gay areas are north it seems 🫩

It’s SO difficult to find lesbians in virginia, if there are any lesbians from virginia lmk, from what i’ve seen most of them live in NYC or Florida. i dont see any lesbians over here and im sooooo tired of it!!

I’m genuinely confused by something I’ve noticed since moving to Seattle. I see posts FREQUENTLY from Seattle lesbians saying they’re lonely and want friends, but actually trying to make those connections feels so difficult.

I’ve personally reached out to Seattle sapphics who seemed interested in making friends, only for things to go cold or for the conversations to go nowhere. And it’s frustrating because I really do want to build a social circle here.

I don’t have family nearby, or friends or a partner, and I want actual in-person connections with people I can hang out with, talk to, and do things with. I’m not a party or nightlife person, so I’m not looking for that kind of social scene.

What I don’t understand is why it seems like there are so many lesbians in Seattle who want friends, but so many of us still struggle to find people who actually stick around.
Obviously, not everyone is going to click, and I understand that people have their own lives and things going on. But when you reach out to someone who says they want friends and they end up getting distant, it makes you wonder what the disconnect is.

Do people get nervous when it comes to actually meeting up? Is it hard for introverts to take that next step? Do people want friends but not realize how much effort it takes to build and maintain those relationships??
I’m not expecting everyone to become best friends overnight. I just want to understand why finding people who genuinely want to connect and consistently make an effort seems so difficult when there are so many people looking for the same thing.

Has anyone else experienced this with Seattle lesbians? I’d genuinely like to hear other people’s experiences and understand why this keeps happening.

I live near a lesbian bar ( Henrietta Hudson in NYC ) and I am really curious but I have never been with women I am just a bit nervous... any tips for getting to know people. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you!

Hi everyone i'm making this post because i have noone to share this with and so i thought maybe i could do it here. Disclaimer english is not my first language.

So i (22F) started talking with this girl (22F) on a dating app. We have been texting for a few days and i felt some really good vibes from our converstations so we agreed to have a date on saturday. I'm kind of a hopless romantic delusional person so i had my hopes high up i felt really positive about it i never felt this positive about another girl on a dating app. I even considered to buy a flower or a fortune cookie for the date so i was really hyped up i even planned my outfit.... Until i got a message from her in which she told me that things started to get serious with another woman and she cancelled the date and whished me the best.

I'm glad she didn't ghosted me but i feel heartbroken, i was super excited and for what?

I know that i have problems when it comes to getting attached to people and imagine future scenarios but still it hurts. It came out of nowhere and i don't think it should hurt this much.

I just want to have a girlfriend who i can share all my firsts with and have a deep connection where we can communicate without using words and you know what i'm talking about...

I also have another date with this other woman and i'm exctied about that as well i guess i'll see how it goes

Thank you for reading my nonsense and fail in the online dating world

Also i'm living in budapest so if you're also living here feel free to connect cause i'm lacking queer friendships as well. I would love to join a queer firendship or community.