tldr: no short way to put all this, i'm sorry... read or don't read...

years ago - my own family worked against me, in the shadows of my awareness, for crimes committed by my ex in my sleep made to look like me as some intense substance abuser that I have never been in my life and still not to this day...

I never got my day in court - because even though police were on scene, the entire matter got scrubbed without a case because the entirety of the evidence actually exonerates me - and everyone involved hates that because it means to look at both the ones involved as well as the ones that allowed matters to escalate behind my awareness and knowledge to get to the points of extreme in which were reached...

I begged for cameras to be put up, and they were, so to prevent any matters from happening to anyone at all - as I felt my kids and I would be safe with my ex under the same roof as my own parents - I was absolutely wrong and nothing has been done about it but to make a scapegoat our of me through mental health and fraudulent people posing as people they actually weren't, including girls posing as grown women... nothing has been off limits to try to frame me in, including my own dogs... even my own doctors from the very first doctor - Dr. Patrick Herd - wrote lies in my reports as my own words that I never said myself, and I found out through a VA doctor that didn't even want to correct any of it with me but wanted to give me another doctor instead... This is why I refuse to seek help anymore from doctors...

My previous dog, Rocco, needed to go to the vet, and I wanted to take her and consistently asked my parents to help me with that before i got on a stable income for PTSD from the previously mentioned traumas as well as VA income (not much more than the average full time employee, I was accepted bare minimum for both) - finally, Rocco was making noises in pain and nobody could talk me out of it anymore to take her to a vet - as it turned out, she was in heavy stages of cancer and would be spending the rest of her life in that veterinary clinic and I lost her that very day...

My current dog, Ruby, needed to go to the vet at some point as well - again, consistently talked out of it by both my parents and the vet staff i asked advice from, even after explaining that Ruby was denying food for two days straight, until I finally sounded off like a hypochondriac to get her into that clinic and still being talked out of testing her, I asked them to test her anyway and it turned out she had a small liver infection - we get home and I tell my parents about it, and after all the gaslighting about her being okay from my Dad, he then says "I TOLD YOU SO!"

I'm also a homebody gamer - I was also told of which gaming communities I would join, and I did join them to verify my suspicions in hearing them say their lines they waited so long to finally say, and likely record our conversation in discord as to manipulate later on to also make me look bad...

And now, Ruby is denying her food, even after medication has been given, she's tired of the fish food her vet doctor suggested, and i'm broke now until the end of the month, and she's also denying her other soft foods left over and her dry foods (she prefers soft foods and I don't mind the extra price by quantity in that)... This is now day 1 of denying her food...

my phone is off now because of bills (rent included, all this time) and unable to pay the phone bill, and also why I can't take Ruby to the vet yet either until the end of the month - because aside from bills, my money went into ways of escaping all this madness like video games and dating app features I thought might help any chances of meeting someone and moving on from everything and everyone (which is absolutely stupid, no woman is going to date someone in my position, no house or car of my own because of PTSD, let alone my situation presuming i'm doomed for that as well before anything even begins between us)...

I don't know what to do... my dad said years ago "damned if you do, damned if you don't" and my first doctor said years ago "it takes a village" before I could explain anything myself from my perspective with less memory than literally everyone else around us from excess substances forced into my body...

my life has been ruined, people have been using fraudulent ways to trick me, people have been gaslighting me, and my dogs have been used to make me look like a neglectful person on top of everything else...

I don't know if there is any possible advice for this or any way out of this frame job longstanding still - and I honestly believe my only way out is ending the game of it all myself by ending it all completely...

I can't even believe that people are even allowed to do all of this... over the course of years, patiently waiting to set me on fire, and nobody is ever going to answer for any of it...

I honestly believe the only way out of all this is just ending it myself...

I need real advice... Please do not say anything else but real advice, police play dumb and doctors play dumb, so really, what real advice is there actually left??

I really mentally struggle with being American, and it feels like a struggle to be motivated for the future.

I’m 20-something, American, and trans. I’m currently studying in university with the hopes of working for the Library of Congress when older. The current political issues make me feel deeply demotivated and ashamed of my country, and make me feel deeply indecisive about if working for government or the civil service is the morally right thing to do. I want to improve my country, but I might not have any morals to stand on if I stay in America and don’t work for a different nation. Yeah, the grass isn’t always greener, but it feels like it sometimes.

I am aware that most people seem to express disdain for American government, and not the population, but in my short time working in the library system I’ve been called a fed, a tool of the state and a whole lot of other unfortunate things. It makes me feel so guilty, and I want to try and put on a pleasant and polite face when I eventually travel and work overseas in European nations, but I feel as if the “stain” of the Americans and their actions won’t be easily forgotten.

It makes me feel like we (the Americans in general) don’t really have a future, and that we deserve what we got. And I don’t know what to do about it—mentally, socially, whatever. I volunteer and try to not check the news all the time, but it’s rough. What do I do? Is there anything I can do?

I 21 recently left a 2 year relationship, mainly due to long term comparability issues, we both remain on good terms and I'm greatfull for that.

Very quickly after I've developed very strong feelings for another person I met recently, and I'm basically obsessed, unfortunately when I look at the situation objectively I don't think it would be healthy for either of us, we are both very similar people that put our own issues aside to help others, and that becomes even more the case in a relationship, to add to it, it would also end up being long distance, we have met in person already and it's not that we wouldn't be able to meet up monthly or so, I just fear the added issues and complications long distance brings due to experiences in the past.

I just don't know what to do with my feelings for them and how I should navigate things moving fowards.

Basically what the title says. Incredibly good, safe friend to me, and i gotta say that because I think some people imagine a dangerous individual selling out their loved ones for a needle whenever they hear shit like this, but she's an ordinary, corporate girl with just horrible mental health who is looking for uppers to function.

She's already on meds for her bipolar, but they don't have as much of an effect as needed because this is clearly a hypomanic episode (a thing she herself said)

Now, she has a married coworker that is constantly hitting on her, and has previous offered they do coke together, and she feels absolutely zero attraction towards him but she recently told me she might do something with him to get plug connections. Sex is like a high-five for her so the no attraction isn't an issue, but god, I don't think i can look at her the same if she willingly sleeps with a married man.

She says it's his job to stay faithful, and he already fucks around constantly, but in these situations I just cannot think about anyone but his poor wife. I don't know that lady, hell she might be having affairs too, but the whole situation just makes me sick to my stomach.

Dropping said friend is not an option so don't even bother, because other than this she's genuinely my twin flame and we both make each other's lives 10x better by being in them. I would sacrifice most other less problematic friends for this girl, I just don't want her doing stupid bullshit but I'm also scared to bring it up because she has BPD and mix that with a manic episode and criticism can and will only make everything so much worse.

I'm an ex Muslim, born and raised in a Muslim country and still there

Lately I've got out of that religion completely and I'm still mentally not over the trauma it gave me my life .

Mom was arguing with me why I did not pray and I snapped in her face telling her to leave me alone that I'm not gonna ever pray , the things get worse and I said I'm going to remove my hijab next summer

She threatened me with multiple techniques , saying I'm gonna get killed or they're gonna lock me up , she's gonna starve me since I can't go outside and be independent

It wasn't the first time and I told her that if she's gonna make anything come true of these scenarios, I'll make sure that their lives are gonna be in lower point and they'll have no reputation

Then she switched to that I want to make her health bad and everything, I told her I don't care

I did repeat to her try to physically attack me or do anything and you're gonna lose more than me , if I'm gonna be miserable because of your oppression you're gonna be miserable too

I'm not gonna wait to be financially independent or shit because I want to live my life and if drama is gonna give it to me I'm open to it

The problem is that my mom will tell me to die or leave the house but the second I do it she loses her mind

Please no one came to me to say to cut them off and be financially independent because even if i want to i can't , and nobody came to advise me about islam or trying to convince me to get back to it

So what is your advice for those situations?

You may need context but I met this dude around 7 months ago on discord...we hit it off and he sent me some pictures of himself, I unfortunately dont have screenshots of the pictures he sent so I won't be able to show but I can describe them a fat middle aged man with a beer belly...he said he was 16 F... I blocked him earlier...but im still scared he'll do something...he even said he had a shrine dedicated to me... what should I do? Call the cops? Or? Im 16 F

So there’s this guy I’ve been seeing, and prior to this incident, I’ve genuinely never had any issues with him. I’ve always been really nice to him, to the point where he’s even told me I’m too nice to him and should call him ugly instead of glazing him.

We were chilling comfortably and he just randomly said let’s fight and i was like no atleast three times, then i agreed and i asked how? and he said just don’t hit my balls and face and then i started full on punching him and didn’t even realise how much force I was using in the moment.

From my perspective, I didn’t think I was going that hard, but then I realized I needed to stop and he restrained me and I lowkey kept going cos i genuinely thought he was serious because I know he boxes.

After he restrain me, He literally ran away without even putting his shoes on.

I’ve been replaying everything in my head because I genuinely didn’t intend to frighten or hurt him. But looking back, I’m starting to wonder whether he experienced the situation completely differently from how I did.

I’m not trying to excuse my actions. I understand that my intentions don’t necessarily change how someone else experiences something.

I just want some outside perspectives. How would you interpret his reaction? I genuinely feel so horrible i’ve apologised loads and he blocked me.

For medical reasons, I can no longer drink alcohol. I’ve been drinking with my friends for years, and now that I can’t anymore, I honestly don’t know what to do.

Almost all our plans involve alcohol, and I’ve started to feel like they don’t like the fact that I don’t drink like everyone else. The last time we hung out, I didn’t drink, and they told me they didn’t understand why. I could tell they were a little annoyed by it. I also later found out that they’d made plans to hang out again and I wasn’t invited, which made me wonder if it had something to do with me not drinking.

I haven’t told them there’s a medical reason because I feel uncomfortable explaining myself. It’s quite personal, and I don’t really want to go into detail about my health.

What should I do? I don’t want to lose my friends, but I’m starting to feel like they don’t want to spend time with me if I’m not drinking, especially since all our usual plans revolve around alcohol. At the same time, I’m not willing to put my health at risk just to fit in.

Do you think explaining the medical reason would make a difference, or should my friends respect my decision not to drink without needing an explanation?

Hi Reddit, I just wanted to ask whether it would be stupid to tell this to someone, i haven’t told this to any of my friends.

For starters im 17F and i feel like telling to anyone this would be very risky? Even if it’s my best friend? I feel so so sad.
My father went to jail because of the debts of the family company, something to do with them not complying with the new legal structures i have no idea (but supposedly so it has to do with externalities: collapse of the Soviet Union, thus the company has to pay workers, needs to change things ext). Anyways, I will give context. My family is very conservative, I rarely see my father, even before he went to jail I saw him twice a year. I don’t have much of a relationship with anyone in my family except my sister 29F but even she is now having, what I consider, very conservative views/traditional which I’m not a huge fan of.
I’m so sorry I don’t know why I’m writing this so badly but I’m just sad and could not care less.
Reason for sadness? Welp, because of my father being in jail, my brother risks going to jail, as he is also the owner of the company. Therefore, because there is this risk of my brother going to jail (he also provides for us), I can’t choose specifically what uni course I wanted to as it is very expensive.
I forgot to mention that I live with my mother, whilst my siblings and father live in an another country, it has always been like this.

The question that I intended on asking is whether I should continue to keep this to myself or tell a friend. Sorry again for the horrible writing, I can’t bother.

There's this girl in my class that is absolutely gorgeous. I have no idea if shes gay or not.

We are both in college, but I'm 17 (graduated early). Idk how old she is; I also don't know anything about her besides her name. Only time we've talked is when I complimented her locs😭

I dress pretty feminine, and I'm closeted so it's not obvious I'm a lesbian. I'm rly nervous to talk to her

Any tips from anyone? Like what should I say?

Next week I'm starting at a new company in a new industry. I worked in my previous industry for over 10 years and was with my last company for 7 years.

I left as a senior level go to knowing the ins and outs of not only the company and industry but I worked closely with the same people for almost my entire tenure.

I'm very nervous about starting somewhere new and am desperate for advice! What are somethings I can do to show up as a good employee and coworker in a new space?

Hello, I came here as I'm a bit unsure of what to do. I would like to preface with the fact that I do not believe that my friend would ever try anything on me. Most of my friends tend to be older than me irl and online (17-20), and this message was from my 20F online friend. Whilst having a discussion she gave me some very mildly intimate details about something that happened with her boyfriend. It didn't make me uncomfortable (likely due to the fact that I am overexposed to sex stuff online and have been sexually abused before so I think it's a little too normalized for me). I still recognize that its weird, since I know for a fact that she knows I'm a minor and I'm almost a hundered percent sure that she knows I am fifteen. We've been friends for a while now and she means a lot to me, but I'm not quite sure what to do. Do I just tell her I'm uncomfortable and to drop it or do I try and terminate the friendship or just leave it be?

I (20F) have a cousin (18F). We've known each other our entire lives because our mothers are sisters, and we used to get along well before she moved in with my parents and me after her mother passed away.

Her mother's husband isn't her biological father, so my mom took her in.

At first, we got along really well. I liked her, and since she didn't have many clothes, I even gave her some of mine. I genuinely cared about her, and I never imagined that we would end up in this situation.

Things started changing when it was time for her to go to school. She told us she had studied up to the equivalent of 8th grade, but she didn't have her report cards because her house had burned down and most of her belongings had been destroyed. We believed her. Some members of our family own a school, so they managed to enroll her in 8th grade without the documents.

However, once she started attending classes, it became obvious that she didn't understand much of what was being taught. She struggled with basic writing and didn't speak French very well. Eventually, we found out that she had barely attended school before coming to live with us and had lied about her education.

One of my aunts, who works at the school and lives nearby, told us that my cousin was pretending to be sick and staying home instead of going to class. Apparently, she would even hit herself to create bruises so that she could avoid going to school. Meanwhile, we all believed she was attending classes.

My mom eventually got tired of trying to force her to go, so she stopped paying her school fees.

Something similar happened when my mom paid for her to attend French classes at Alliance Française. My cousin would pretend to go to class but would actually go somewhere else with a friend. My mom eventually stopped paying for those classes too. It was a lot of money for her at the time, and my mom was genuinely trying to give my cousin opportunities to improve her life.

There were other things that really damaged my trust in her.

She would take my underwear without asking and wear the same pairs for weeks until they became brown and dirty. Instead of washing them, she would sometimes throw them away or leave them lying around in the shower. I found this really disgusting and disrespectful because they were my personal belongings.

She also stole money from my mom. Every time my mom counted her money at night, she would notice that 50,000 FMG was missing. Eventually, we discovered that my cousin was taking the money and giving it to her boyfriend, who was around 21M at the time, while she was only 16F.

Whenever my mom confronted her about things she had done, my cousin would sometimes act as if she couldn't hear her or simply ignore what was being said to her.

Over time, I started resenting her more and more. I couldn't understand how someone could lie about so many things, steal from the person who had taken her in, and keep doing these things when my mom was trying so hard to provide a good life for us.

At some point, I started staring at her intensely whenever I saw her. It wasn't just a quick look. I would sometimes stop wherever I was and stare directly at her without blinking until my eyes started watering and hurting. She would see me and avoid eye contact, but I would keep staring.

I know this sounds strange, and honestly, I don't even know how to explain why I did it. I think I was angry and wanted her to understand how I felt about her, but I never actually told her what was going through my mind.

Eventually, one night, she had enough. We stood facing each other, staring into each other's eyes with our phone flashlights pointed at one another. Things escalated, we pushed each other, and we almost got into a physical fight. My little brother had to intervene to stop us.

My mom was extremely angry that night. She scolded both of us and told me she was disappointed in me. That hurt, and since then, I have almost completely stopped looking at my cousin. When we cross paths, I act as if she isn't there. I don't talk to her anymore, and honestly, I don't intend to start anytime soon.

I know I wasn't completely innocent in what happened. Staring at someone like that was not a healthy way to handle my anger, and I could have dealt with the situation differently. But I also feel that if she hadn't repeatedly lied, stolen my mom's money, taken my underwear without permission, and disrespected our belongings, things probably wouldn't have reached this point.

I don't like the person she has become, and I feel like I have the right not to like someone because of their behavior. I don't think that automatically makes me a bad person.

However, recently, I've started feeling conflicted about the whole situation.

My cousin lost her mother, and I sometimes imagine what it must feel like to lose your mom, move into another family's home, and then have someone you used to get along with start treating you as if you don't exist. I imagine she might feel lonely, unwanted, or unloved.

Two days ago, it was her birthday. My mom prepared a birthday party for her, and apparently, my cousin started crying when she realized my mom had organized it. I felt sad when I heard that because I wondered whether she had thought my mom didn't love her as much as she loves me and my brother, or whether she had expected nobody to celebrate her birthday.

I don't know if that's actually what she was thinking. I'm only guessing, but the possibility made me feel sad for her.

Another thing is that she's now learning how to sew, and she doesn't dare ask me for help. I used to like her and help her with things, so seeing how distant we've become makes me feel weird.

But at the same time, I still remember everything that happened. Feeling sorry for her doesn't suddenly make me forget the lies, the theft, or the way she treated my belongings. I don't want to talk to her just because I feel guilty or because I feel sorry for her.

I also don't know whether I'm being completely honest with myself about the staring incident. I hate bullying, and I would never want to be someone who bullies or harasses another person. But I keep wondering whether what I did could be considered harassment or intimidation.

I wasn't constantly insulting her, threatening her, or physically attacking her. I was staring at her, sometimes for a long time, but I realize that it could have made her uncomfortable or afraid, especially since I deliberately kept doing it even when she avoided looking at me. And things eventually escalated to the point where we pushed each other.

I don't want to pretend that I did nothing wrong. I know I have my own faults in this situation. But I also don't want to take responsibility for everything that happened between us.

I don't hate the fact that my mom took her in, and I don't think she deserves to be treated badly just because she lost her mother. I just don't like the relationship we've developed or the choices she has made.

I can feel sorry for her and still not want a relationship with her. I can understand that she might be hurting and still believe that her actions were wrong.

How can I distinguish between setting a boundary with someone who has repeatedly broken my trust and letting my resentment turn into behavior that hurts them? How do I find peace with the guilt I feel over my own behavior while maintaining my distance from my cousin and acknowledging the hurt on both sides without forcing a reconciliation?

I'm genuinely looking for outside perspectives, including criticism of my own behavior. I don't want people to automatically take my side just because I'm the one telling the story.

TL;DR: My cousin [18F] repeatedly lied to my family, stole from my mom, and violated my boundaries. I [20F] grew resentful and deliberately stared at her to intimidate her, which eventually led to a physical confrontation. I now keep my distance, but seeing her cry at her birthday party has made me question my behavior. I want to take responsibility for my actions without feeling obligated to reconcile.

I honestly don’t even know where to start. I graduated with my bachelor’s degree in psychology, and I’m just now dealing with the reality of trying to transfer my credits to another institution.

I received a response saying that the college I attended is not a regionally accredited institution, which is a requirement for them to accept transfer credits.

How was I supposed to know this was going to be an issue? I knew my school was a small HBCU, but I genuinely didn’t understand that its accreditation status could affect my ability to transfer credits to another college or continue my education elsewhere.

Now I’m sitting here wondering what this means for my degree, my future educational plans, and all the time and money I invested into this school.
I feel like these are things students should be clearly informed about BEFORE enrolling, especially when they’re young and trusting that the institution they choose is going to prepare them for the future. I shouldn’t have to find out after graduating that another school may not accept my credits because of an accreditation requirement I didn’t fully understand.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? Were you able to transfer your credits to another college, or did you have to start over?

for context, this is my first ever relationship but its not my partner's first relationship and we have been together for 2 months and had been talking for almost 3 or 4 months before that. A few weeks ago he asked me if i could send him some provocative pictures of me, in the moment i felt uncomfortable and told him i didn't feel comfortable doing so and we moved on from that, he never brought that up again i told him no and he was fine with that but for some reason i just couldn't get it out of my head that he wanted provocative pictures of me and i don't know why it made me as uneasy as it did, a few days later i tried opening up about some of my interests to him (kpop, webtoons and mangas) that i do sometimes get judged over a bit by people which makes me hide them from people in the first place and also got a kind of weird reaction from him about that like he also thought that my interests were weird cuz he didn't understand at the moment why it means so much to me and why i like to collect photocards of kpop guys, we talked about that entire thing and like we got over that as well and like he apologized to me and we moved on from that, but for some reason i started thinking after that day that maybe he just likes me cuz he thinks i am attractive and not because who i am as a person and that thought just kept lingering in the back of my head, i started feeling uneasy when he would compliment me or tell me if he thought i looked hot or pretty, and i don't know why i just told him that today, that it felt like he didn't love me for me but cuz he found me attractive or something he obviously didn't take it well, he told me he felt hurt that i would think that way because he does so much for me and has been putting in alot of effort for this to work and that he doesn't just want me cuz he finds me attractive and it hit me after i had said what i had said that i should've kept that in and not said that and it actually hurt him but i don't know how to fix this he hasn't broken up with me but our relationship has gotten really awkward how do i fix this i want things to go back to how they were before i don't want to lose him

My husband (33M) and I (31F) have been together for 10 years, married for one, and have a child together. I recently found out he cheated on me for months after I gave birth, and he lied repeatedly about the details. I also found a receipt showing he bought condoms halfway through our marriage, but he claims he never used them and that the purchase was connected to gambling and wanting a rush. Since everything came out, he has also been questioning his sexuality and has come out as bisexual. I’m struggling to process everything at once, especially because I sometimes feel like the focus has shifted to his emotions rather than the hurt he caused me. I still crave affection sometimes, but other times I feel detached or uncomfortable after intimacy. I’m full of resentment and questioning whether I even want to save this marriage. I feel guilty considering leaving after 10 years together and with a child involved, but I’m also afraid of being judged if I stay. For those who’ve experienced infidelity in a long-term relationship, how did you know whether to stay and rebuild or walk away?

Update: I have been tested, everything has been negative (THANKFULLY). Any moment we have a conversation he is so quick to say “I’m a bad person, you should leave me”. Always so quick to deflect and move the focus on him. I’ll say, I am scared to leave because we just bought our house 2 years ago and I’m afraid of how my daughter will respond to the separation.

I also believe that he is wanting to explore his bi side, he has been watching more corn on it. Im not sure exactly how to feel about it either, I can’t change who he is attracted to. But since coming to terms with that he has been projecting his insecurities onto me and the type of guys I’m physically attracted to. I don’t know why he’s doing this when all I have ever done is support him.

I live in shitty conditions, and no I’m not saying this because I want my room decorated or I’m spoiled. I live in a disgusting environment, and I’m coming on here for some advice. To start, I live around a lot of mold, not your regular mold, it’s black mold, so it’s pretty harmful and it’s been behind my wardrobe for a while and in the bathroom, those are the 2 places I use in the house. I honestly think this might be the cause of some of my health problems, I get hairfall often, mood swings, and headaches just from being in there, and i don’t know if this is related but I don’t gradually fall asleep I just close my eyes and then snap in asleep, it’s pretty hard to wake up in the morning also. Okay, moving on from the mold, my room is pretty small, and that would be an issue if it was properly decorated but it isn’t, I have poorly made second hand furniture, nothing matches, I’d say my room is about 2m by 4m being generous. Essentially there is no floor space and it isn’t sustainable to live in, now what makes this worse? Well I also have a cat, yes cats are lovely to be around, but do you know what isn’t? Cat litter, I’m nose blind to it, and I get shouted at when the room smells and they say they can’t believe me when I say I can’t smell it,(by they I mean my parents) they also won’t remove the litter from my room because they don’t want it around the other kids in the house so they shove it in my room which isn’t big. If you don’t know cat litter produces ammonia, and if a room is too small and poorly ventilated, (my mum tapped over my ventilation cause it was causing a draft apparently) it can irritate eyes, lungs, nose. Nausea, headaches, and with high exposure in my case, life threatening, so I could die in my sleep. Moving in from that, my parents get mad at me when I try and put healthy stuff into the trolley in shops, but they don’t get mad when I put unhealthy things, it’s either my mum is trying to keep me fat and ugly or, she’s greedy and likes to eat the unhealthy stuff I eat, it’s lowk both though, she also refuses to buy me water unless the other kids want it too, she only wants to buy me fizzy pop, do you know why that is? Because when she’s being greedy and she drinks all hers she can drink all of mine so I have nothing to drink left. Not to mention I get verbally abused everyday, and I get neglected a lot. For visualisation I’m going to map out a floor plan of my room so you can get a decent idea of the space I’m talking about. I’m embarrassed to bring my freind to my house because there is mold and my room is disgusting i have no motivation to clean it because Ben when it is ‘clean’ it still looks ugly, the walls aren’t painted and none of the furniture match so I’m also scared people will make fun of me, not to mention we don’t even have a real floor in the kitchen, it’s made out of those jigsaw foam peices people use in their gardens, I’ll also tag a picture of those if I can. So that is honestly embarrassing, and I have really bad mental health, I just have no motivation to do anything, they only thing saving me from people at college from knowing how I really am is my face, I’d say I’m quite decent looking, so I thought people would be nicer to me because I used to get bullied because I was ugly and recently it’s been paying off. but now it isn’t anymore I keep getting s3sual harassed by boys at my college, it isn’t as some would consider serious, it’s words and a couple gestures. But it hurts my feelings a lot. some of them are nice, some just hate me because I’m there but a lot of them are weird with me and I don’t like it. I liked when they smiled at me at first because I thought they were being nice to me and kind, but after a couple weeks I don’t like it anymore because I know what they really want it makes me feel horrible inside, I picked quite a male dominated course, engineering if I’m honest I really enjoy it’s fun but it’s ruined it for me. I’m also ND (diagnosed) so this really doesn’t help with my shitty conditions, I experience hallucinations and things that aren’t there but im not ready to tell anyone about the hallucinations yet but they’re getting worse which is scaring me, it doesn’t help that they play with my head also, (my parents are manipulators). I wished I could go out and make money to improve my life, but even then there’s only so much I can do, because I’d be on minimum wage, and I do have savings but I spent it all on buying decent food and and clothes, (not even nice one, Primark) and of course I spent money things I wanted because I like distracting myself from home but I’ve hit rock bottom, I have pennies to my name and no escape. I asked for money from my parents for new clothes but they said nobody is looking at you anyways, but they don’t understand, everybody is looking at me. I’m not even just saying that, I could just be walking down the hallway and get stared at like I’ve got no head, I felt pretty at first but I don’t like it anymore I feel dirty. They only useful thing I have in my life is my face and my brain, also I just realised I’ve gone way of track of the topic. Ok I’m cutting to the chase now, should I go report my parents to the police? Should I try get a job, please comment any ideas that you have. Also I just realised I can’t add images so if you really want to know the floor plan of my room just pm. Honestly I might be under selling my whole situation because living in this house is a lot harder than it seems on text.

i have been going to this once-a-month group dinner for almost a year now. the people are fine, nothing terrible happens, but i leave feeling tired and kind of empty. every time the calendar reminder pops up i think about canceling, then talk myself into it because it feels like the polite thing to do. i already tried asking a couple of friends if they feel the same, and the conversation never really goes anywhere. i keep wondering if it's just me being antisocial or if there's a normal way to back out without making things weird. has anyone figured out how to drop something like this without turning it into a big deal?

I'm a big stresser,like to the point where if I'm scared of something I'm just gone. My body doesn't listen to me st all and my mind is useless. I don't fear many things do it doesn't happen often but when it does it's bad. I noticed my reactions to some things are getting worse tho. Like I was never really a crier before I met my boyfriend and even when something shitty happened. Now I cry like a baby. I cried like once a year even at younger ages and even that was like for getting hurt badly. Now I feel like crying even for insults from others or my mum that I heard hundret of times. I feel like I'm trying to satisfy older women in my life. I want to make them proud and to feel like they want me around. My mentality for grades is also bad. I feel disappointed in myself the moment it's a grade worse than a B. It's not even bad and I'm aware of that but I'm just disappointed telling my self I could have done better,I should have done better. I want to be a better person,I want to study more and lose weightI want so many things but I'm so lazy. I have so much school also. I'm tired.

i babysit for a family a few days a week after work, for what’s only supposed to be about 2 hours (3pm to 5pm) as specified by the woman i work for, who i’ll just call Mom for the sake of storytelling. mom is late almost EVERY time, coming home anywhere from 5:30 to 6:30 often with no notice or heads up about her lateness. sure, it’s an extra hour of pay, but it’s also an extra hour of work. i go DIRECTLY from work to babysitting, and some days it’s difficult. i love her kids and mom has been really good to me; buying me gifts, taking me out for dinner, etc., but my plans/my night often get disrupted by her lateness. we’ve become something of friends at this point, and i can’t think of any way to kindly tell her i can’t put up with the lateness anymore 😭 it would be one thing if it was one or two times, but it’s really almost EVERY time. how do i do this gently without coming off as rude or ungrateful ?

Me and my boyfriend have been together since January and everything has been good, of course little arguments here and there but thats all couples. He is also a very caring and genuine boyfriend who makes me feel loved, he also has never given me a reason to not trust him. I don’t know much about his past and past relationships though, whenever I do wonder about his past his responses are very vague but I can tell that he’s not trying to hide anything (I usually don’t question him a lot because I don’t want to come off as this crazy obsessed girlfriend) which is upsetting because he knows everything about me and my past (given he’s my brothers best friend.)

So the thing that’s really throwing me off is I just found out he has a spam account on Instagram (he’s never told me about it) and he has recently been active, the last post being from last month(it was a photo dump of pictures from 2023) and his previous posts being from 2025 and below. He only follows 4 people, and 2 of those 4 is the same girl. He’s told me he had an ex in the past but I don’t know anything about her so I’m wondering if it’s her. FYI on his main account he follows majority girls.

The worst part is she liked the recent post. She’s allowed to see his past but im not???? Is it wrong for me to be so upset about this and how should I go about this.

So I (F20) agreed to do a photo shoot for a swimwear company bc they offered me $400! However, after seeing them come out I don’t really want people seeing them. I know it’s my fault and I’m dumb but is there any advice on what to do. If I offer to give the money back will that work or will they just ignore me?

I've been trying to get control over my life back. Been losing weight, working out, reevaluating my friendships, talking to healthcare professionals. I'm 9 days sober, but today has been a really shitty day. I'm about to take benzos (i have a prescription) and get some mcdonald's to make myself feel better. But I'm fighting for mental clarity which is why I decided to cut off all substances and cheap sources of dopamine. It would just make me terribly ashamed to do it. How do you cope with nights like this? I have nobody to talk to.

Hi I'm trying to eat healthier but it still gain weight. It's a lot of healthy stuff but no matter how much I eat, I still feel hungry. So even when it's mostly vegetable I still eat too much. How do you actually fix that? Even when I'm tracking my kcal, I felt in the evening wayyy too hungry and ended up eating something wgain

Just want to see if there is ANYONE out there who can maybe give some advice or can relate… so I’m 23 for my entire life as I know it I’ve known my mother to not clean. Or just be a clean person. She will do a “deep clean” once a year if that. I hated her habits so bad I moved into her mother’s house(my grandmother). Fast forward Gran passed and I moved back into my mother’s. Since being back it’s been me to initiate cleaning and everything. Growing up it was my FATHER who would clean till I was 13 and they broke up. I’m not sure where her unhygienic tendencies come from but it really does make me sick. I don’t see her shower, brush her teeth, wash her hands, clean the house. She doesn’t want to do anything!! But the problem is my elder brother has 5 children that stay round her house. And she can’t seem to fathom these young children DO NOT need to be around this filth. I already struggle with my mental health and the state of the house genuinely makes me want to end it all. It’s so humiliating and debilitating