r/weddingshaming • u/fatpony57 • May 22 '26
Dressed like a Bride Guest in white lace with matching headress
Grooms brothers GF Worn a white lace outfit with matching white lace head peice. Rude!!!!
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u/MonteBurns May 22 '26
You need to get some tea on this, OP.
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u/NurseRobyn May 22 '26
Yes, tea please! I always wonder if the woman doing this is hoping her boyfriend will want to marry her because she looks like a bride, it’s very strange.
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u/echoshatter May 22 '26
From what I've heard, it's basic attention-seeking behavior. The saying "There's no such thing as bad press." comes to mind.
Women know not to wear white to someone else's wedding. Yet I've seen it from young AND old; imagine an aunt who shows up to her nephew's wedding wearing white; it's happened and it's like "Yo, WTF? Why?" and the reason is usually narcissism.
Other reasons I've heard: she's jealous of the bride, or doesn't like the bride and is being petty. Or that she's actually infatuated with the groom and she just wants him to notice her. Yes, this does happen, I've been to a wedding that was the case and it was tacky as hell.
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u/NotMavericksGoose May 22 '26
I once wore a short light pink dress with lace details to a friend's wedding and in the pictures it ended up looking white. It's been ten years but about once a month i still randomly go into my closet and look at that dress to remind myself that it really was pink and i did not wear a white dress to someone's wedding. I can't fathom what goes on in a woman's mind when she does this on purpose.
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u/Girleatingcheezits May 22 '26
My MIL's green silk dress flashed a little white in some pictures at my wedding and I assure you, I did not care at all. It was definitely green in person! My soon-to-be SIL, however, called up my MIL and raked her over the coals, making her promise not to "ruin" HER wedding photos by appearing to wear white. She remains a terrible person.
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u/LonelyMenace101 May 22 '26
Making mental notes to only wear deep colours because I’m paranoid that will happen to me.
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u/DecadentLife May 23 '26
I just had a maid of honor, my lifelong best friend. I had a credit at a big box bridal store, I told her to pick out any bridesmaid dress there, including whatever color she wanted, that I just wanted her to feel beautiful.
She showed up to my wedding wearing a deep red, very, very low-cut dress. She did pick one of the bridesmaid dresses, but then she sized down, by at least two sizes, to make it tighter and even lower cut. (it was also strapless).
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u/peachyspoons May 23 '26
Still best friends?
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u/DecadentLife May 23 '26
No ma’am. She did some things that were not kind and we drifted apart, to an extent. At 40, I found out I had cancer (stomach, I was very sick), I didn’t want to risk her finding out from someone else, if I didn’t make it. I called her and I told her I had cancer. One sentence. She SCREAMED at me, over and over, “FUCK YOU!”
That was the last time we spoke. I will always care for her, if she needs help, and I can provide it, I will. But I don’t want that energy in my life.
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u/the_itsb May 23 '26
I can't imagine what a hurtful shock that must have been. I hope that you are healthy and happy now, and that you got through that terrible time surrounded by a loving and supportive community of care.
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u/CluckCluckChickenNug May 24 '26
Huh? Context?
Why would she just keep yelling that. I had a situation like this where a friend I was actually trying to help kept yelling “fuck you!!” at me repeatedly. Something about this person and situation doesn’t seem right.
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u/Silen8156 May 22 '26
Some fun SIL you will have soon.
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u/Girleatingcheezits May 22 '26
I have her. She is awful. But don't worry, she pretends to be super sweet so it's ok!
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u/og_toe May 22 '26
when i was 13 i wore my white little lace dress to my aunts wedding. i had no idea about attire rules and nobody told me anything. it was a very formal dress.
i still think about it a decade later. i recently apologized for it and thankfully nobody had taken any offense to it but god it grates me. why was i allowed to go like that 😅
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u/Pristine-throwaway-4 May 23 '26
Because you were a child, it's clearly not the same. I promise you can forgive your inner child for not knowing
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u/TwinkleTubs May 23 '26
I did the same to a cousin's when I was 14. My mom still talks about how I wore white, and how horrible I was. She purchased the outfit, made me wear said outfit. I still cringe! Lol
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u/electlady25 May 23 '26
Girl I did the same thing around that age and my mom cared to mention it to me AFTER the reception
Like why didn't you tell me before 😭
But I know In reality no one cared bc I was a child lol
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u/CaitlinAnne21 May 23 '26
lol all I can hear is the exchange between Danielle from Summer House and a mutual friend: “I still have a problem with you wearing white to our friend’s wedding.”
- ”IT WAS PINK!”
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u/classy-mother-pupper May 22 '26
Yeah. That’s how it goes. My SIL showed up in a “cream” colored dress for my daughter’s wedding. And also announced her daughter’s engagement to practically every person the entire evening. There was 200 people. We didn’t let the bride know about that. The bride and groom were the highlight of the night. And my sil is a horrible person.
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u/TimeComposer1059 May 22 '26
Confession time: I didn’t know wearing white to a wedding that wasn’t yours was unacceptable until my 20’s…. I’m 29.
Let me tell you why.
I grew up in a strict, fundamentalist household. Wearing white was almost mandatory for most ladies to wear as guests in the religion. Dark colors like black or red were viewed as “evil” or “of the devil”.
Even though I’ve been non-religious for over a decade, I had never heard conversations about white not being appropriate to wear as a guest until years later. Found out online.
Never. Again!!
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u/nettster May 22 '26
To be fair on that apparently qearing red means you've slept with thw groom in some areas
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u/clarabear10123 May 22 '26
And wearing all black is bad luck, too
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u/exobiologickitten May 22 '26
Well, my closet only has black and red in it, so I guess no matter what I’m pissing somebody off
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u/twothirtysevenam May 23 '26
I was raised not to wear white, black, nor red to weddings. White is reserved for the bride. Black is for funerals. Red draws undeserved attention. Basically if anybody noticed what you wear, you screwed up.
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u/ChelleInSand May 22 '26
I still don’t understand why anyone would do it though. I mean I completely understand people with pettiness and narcissism but this is literally just making YOU look bad. Everyone there is seeing your terrible behavior on display, it doesn’t make you look good.
The only way it makes sense to me is if your level of hate for the person is much higher than any desire to preserve your own reputation and piss off people who will now take it out on you, so it would only make sense to me if you REALLY hated them. But I guess there are mental gymnastics here I just don’t get.
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u/_Solani_ May 23 '26
Narcissists have a really distorted understanding of the way others perceive them. They're notorious for being able to lie to themselves about their behaviour so what you and I see is people giving them dirty looks for being an attention whore they perceive as envy.
Sure everyone was giving them the side eye and making snarky comments about their dress but that's obviously just because they looked amazing and everyone was jealous. 🤷
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u/PuppyJakeKhakiCollar May 22 '26
That was my guess. She is not-so-subtly hinting she wants to be next. It's nice of her to give him such a obvious signal to run for his life.
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u/fatpony57 May 22 '26
I have no tea that would justify her dressing like this a tue wedding. She has only met the Bride a few times.
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u/Usual_Confection6091 May 22 '26
How did people react??
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u/fatpony57 May 22 '26
She wasn't sent home or attacked with wine. Just ignored her.
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u/ponte92 May 23 '26
Honestly that might be the best responds. These sorts of people thrive on attention even bad attention. By ignoring her you took away her control.
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u/SomeKindoflove27 May 22 '26
There was an emergency!
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u/beardingmesoftly May 22 '26
You could have stopped at inappropriate
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u/SomeKindoflove27 May 22 '26
Well, i hope you're still commited. Because im pregnant!!
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u/Alittlespill May 22 '26
I really wish I was at a wedding where someone was like this. I want to talk to them and just make them feel really bad about their own personal decisions to ruin someone’s special day…
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u/Heat_H May 23 '26
My (half)brother’s stepmom wore white to his wedding. She also kept picking up my baby daughter and saying she was her grandmother. We are not related. Right before the ceremony she picked up my daughter again and my little one barfed on stepmom’s white dress.
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u/chicken-nanban May 23 '26
Your daughters going places.
As she gets older, teach her to casually spill crap juice and then red wine on people like that at weddings.
Hell, if she’s good enough at it, I’m sure there’s a career there. For the bride who just knows that cousin is gonna show up in white but can’t not invite them because “faaaaaamily.” I’m sure they’d pay someone to casually dump a glass on them and act all apologetic and help them “get cleaned up” (aka away from everyone).
Edit: I MEANT GRAPE JUICE not crap juice but autocorrect apparently knows me too well. “She’d never type grape, must have meant crap.”
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u/xray_anonymous May 22 '26
“Omg your outfit! So like… what made you decide to wear…. That?”
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u/ooZBizarreAdventure May 22 '26
Homegirl is giving nun pirate
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u/NtMagpie May 22 '26
Holy shit... next halloween costume!
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u/stayingsafeusa May 22 '26
Nun pirate, but make it sexy
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u/NtMagpie May 22 '26
ON IT! (as sexy as a 54 yo portly nun-pirate can possibly be, anyway)
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u/The_Nice_Marmot May 22 '26
Wedding aside, this looks goofy as hell.
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u/Dry_Complaint6528 May 22 '26 edited May 22 '26
Ya like it's not even a good outfit to use as a lame ass excuse. It's like she got jealous as she was getting ready for the event and grab whatever she could find including the credenza doily.
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u/bubblebath_ofentropy May 22 '26 edited May 22 '26
It’s like whenever a cartoon character runs through laundry on a clothesline and comes out dressed ridiculously
Edit: thanks for the award kind stranger, I’m donning the ceremonial Head Doily in your honor <3
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u/LadyV21454 May 22 '26
I upvoted you just for using "credenza" and "doily" in the same sentence.
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u/The_RoyalPee May 22 '26
She looks like she's in a yoga cult.
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u/broketothebone May 22 '26
Yeah this is exactly how those Kundalini frauds dress.
It’s fake yoga for rich white women who don’t have a real sense of identity outside of a trendy one that’s been handed to them. They would absolutely be so self-absorbed that they’d show up in a white dress to a wedding, then claim they’re being persecuted for their religious beliefs if anyone took issue with it.
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u/Willothewisp2303 May 22 '26
I love that everyone wearing white to weddings looks like this. None are actually showing up the bride, they just look like a dramafloat in a parade.
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u/Ill-Squirrel-9418 May 22 '26
EXACTLY. If I were the bride, I wouldn’t even be upset. I’d probably just do a spit take and go, yeah, OKAY. The only person this human doily is embarrassing is herself. What a truly strange outfit.
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u/selftaughtgenius May 22 '26
Yeah anyone who is dressing like this for a wedding, regardless of colour choices, is probably not one to follow etiquette in general. What a weird outfit for a formal event.
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u/Beautiful_Camel_17 May 22 '26
Right? The headpiece is stupid. It’s just some lace that’s poorly pinned together just so she would stand out cuz main character syndrome.
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u/doinglightresearch May 22 '26
Did it come with a veil?!
No! It came with a headdress!
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u/theatermouse May 22 '26
A white...tulle....headdress...
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u/MartinisnMurder May 22 '26
At least Alexis always looked chic even when inappropriate… this is just yikes.
https://giphy.com/gifs/fQoIDlLW6A6BAhyev851
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u/Familiar_Sink7506 May 22 '26
What in the actual fuck? WHAT? At what point are you like yes let me stick a mini tablecloth on my head?
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u/BeefyTacoBaby May 22 '26
It's called fashun /s
Yeah it looks weird AF lol.
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u/possumcounty May 22 '26
Headscarves can be really cute! This is an insult to them.
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u/Unusual-Helicopter15 May 22 '26
Yeah, it looks like she got drunk and thought it would be funny to tie the table runner around her head. So weird. There’s a whole world of beautiful head scarves and this manages to not even be on the planet with them.
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u/Adepte May 22 '26
It was important to her to make a point that she could be a bride and deserves attention too. Even if it means relocating her grandma's plants for a day.
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u/ambergresian May 22 '26
they wanted to wear a veil but conceded that a straight up veil would be too obvious so thought this was a smart workaround
it was not
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u/destiny_kane48 May 22 '26
Agreed!. It really looks like she took a wedding tablecloth and plopped it on her head.
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u/kenda1l May 22 '26
Ah yes, the new mARRRiage line from the designer Captain Jack Sparrow. It was all the rage on the runways this year.
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u/Aggravating_Yam2501 May 22 '26
Reminded me of David in Schitt's Creek!!
David: "Did it Come with a veil?"
Alexis: "No, it came with a matching headdress..."
David: "a...wHat?!"
Alexis: "It came with a matching...tulle...headdress..."
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u/tiara_thee_pony May 22 '26
At least Alexis seemed to have genuinely not been thinking. Plus it was black and white themed wedding!😂
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u/jinx_lbc May 22 '26
"I need something that mimics a veil but with plausible deniability. Something like... "It's fashion!""
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u/jlvscr May 22 '26
Reminds me of the toilet paper wedding dress game from the bridal shower. Maybe she liked it so much she wore it to the wedding?
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u/PaintedLady1 May 22 '26
She looks like a little kid playing dress up at grandma’s 👗
The brother is foul for letting her show up like that 💀
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u/StillDouble2427 May 22 '26
She is trying to hint hard to the bf.
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u/Usual-Lavishness8393 May 22 '26
It's not hard to drop heavy hints at a wedding to a SO without offending the Bride/Groom. It's the easiest place to do so, and why people are sometimes careful or not careful enough about their +1
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u/Limp_Insurance_2812 May 22 '26
This! Why isn't this up higher? My first thought was that homegirl is trying to manifest that shit in her boyfriend's mind.
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u/tiredlyexisting May 22 '26
Thats the most goddammed ugly outfit ive laid eyes on and I am pretty old 🤮. What's with the babushka headscarf? Why is the lace giving table cloth? Why is she trying to be the main character but failing so bad?
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u/LieutenantLilywhite May 22 '26 edited May 22 '26
Uhmm… thats traditional Moldovan wedding attire for women. Its considered respectful.
Jk lmao she looks like shes about to pull out a deck of tarot cards 😭
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u/tiredlyexisting May 22 '26
Not going to lie you had me feeling like an arse in the first half 😂😂😂
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u/broketothebone May 22 '26
As someone with a tarot deck in her bag at all times, I feel personally attacked. 😂
There’s being weird and then there’s acting weird because you’re a dick. This is definitely the latter lol
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u/BodyBy711 May 22 '26
I have questions. The first being what the fuck? and the second being who the fuck do you think you are?
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u/Njbelle-1029 May 22 '26
Rude and to be honest, that headdress looks stupid no matter what the event. As if a white dress at a wedding doesn’t already scream “look at me” in the worst way possible.
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u/Nutcrackrx May 22 '26
Is that the bride in the back or another white interloper?!
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u/Morella_xx May 22 '26
That looks like it may be butter yellow and the lighting is making it appear whiter.
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u/PiperPants2018 May 22 '26
I agree that it's probably butter yellow. Controversial, but I think butter yellow is trashy at weddings, too. It's giving: "I'm not touching you, I'm not touching you!!“
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u/ncocca May 22 '26
Lol, i just think it's a shit color for a dress, but I appreciate your whimsy
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u/NooOfTheNah May 22 '26
Hey.... She's got my granny's net curtains on her head! Give them back!!!!! My poor granny loved her net curtains 😭
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u/missgirlipop May 22 '26
i don’t understand wanting negative attention for wearing a hideous white outfit when you could just get positive, socially acceptable attention for wearing a lovely, non bridal themed dress lol.
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u/pizzathym3 May 22 '26
I would've been like girl did you not notice the giant tablecloth on your head
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u/moleculariant May 22 '26
My Mom used to have headdresses like this one draped over the end tables in our living room.
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u/USAF_Retired2017 May 22 '26
Who goes to a store and buys this thinking it looks good? Who wears white to a wedding thinking they’re going to show up the bride when all they do is look like a pick me jerk? This lady looks ridiculous. If I were the bride I would be laughing my ass off and if I were this turd burger guests boyfriend, I’d have taken one look at her and said “No, you’re not going in that. Either change or I’m leaving.” His brother was just as big of an asshole for bringing her as she was for wearing that.
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u/neverseen_neverhear May 22 '26 edited May 22 '26
The girlfriend is fishing hard for a proposal of her own from the groom’s brother. I’m guessing she didn’t get it.
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u/Hedgehogahog May 22 '26
If I had to guess, the headdress began its life in this outfit as a shawl. Then the weather called for Not A Shawl and she couldn’t just not use it, so here we are. 🙄
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u/SgtPeanutButtersMom May 22 '26
Bet the groom’s brother and this lady have been together much longer than the bride and groom. It’s a real statement piece.
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u/Loose-Coach3970 May 22 '26
So, I wore something similar as a 6 yr old playing dress up as a bride…I used my mom’s lace curtains & a white dress from her closet. Wobbled down a pretend aisle in my mom’s white pumps. I even practiced throwing my bouquet with dandelions.
Can’t believe I’m seeing this same look out in the wild😂
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u/chatela_ May 22 '26
The real question is why wouldn’t the brother stop her 😭 like
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u/exoticturboslutgasm May 22 '26
there must always be a guest willing to spill wine
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u/anniearrow May 22 '26
The dress is bad enough, but what the heck is with that ridiculous headdress?
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u/ComfyInDots May 22 '26
If it's any small consolation the whole outfit is hideous and she looks ridiculous.