r/weddingshaming • u/fatpony57 • May 22 '26

Dressed like a Bride Guest in white lace with matching headress

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Grooms brothers GF Worn a white lace outfit with matching white lace head peice. Rude!!!!

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u/NurseRobyn May 22 '26

Yes, tea please! I always wonder if the woman doing this is hoping her boyfriend will want to marry her because she looks like a bride, it’s very strange.

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u/echoshatter May 22 '26

From what I've heard, it's basic attention-seeking behavior. The saying "There's no such thing as bad press." comes to mind.

Women know not to wear white to someone else's wedding. Yet I've seen it from young AND old; imagine an aunt who shows up to her nephew's wedding wearing white; it's happened and it's like "Yo, WTF? Why?" and the reason is usually narcissism.

Other reasons I've heard: she's jealous of the bride, or doesn't like the bride and is being petty. Or that she's actually infatuated with the groom and she just wants him to notice her. Yes, this does happen, I've been to a wedding that was the case and it was tacky as hell.

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u/ChelleInSand May 22 '26

I still don’t understand why anyone would do it though. I mean I completely understand people with pettiness and narcissism but this is literally just making YOU look bad. Everyone there is seeing your terrible behavior on display, it doesn’t make you look good.

The only way it makes sense to me is if your level of hate for the person is much higher than any desire to preserve your own reputation and piss off people who will now take it out on you, so it would only make sense to me if you REALLY hated them. But I guess there are mental gymnastics here I just don’t get.

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u/_Solani_ May 23 '26

Narcissists have a really distorted understanding of the way others perceive them. They're notorious for being able to lie to themselves about their behaviour so what you and I see is people giving them dirty looks for being an attention whore they perceive as envy.

Sure everyone was giving them the side eye and making snarky comments about their dress but that's obviously just because they looked amazing and everyone was jealous. 🤷