r/weddingplanning • • 5h ago

Tough Times Family dynamics and seats

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Feeling really frustrated looking at our seating chart thinking, who is going to get along with who. We are doing a small 50 people ceremony and then having a dinner/drinks reception, nothing crazy just dinner and drinks with our loved ones. You’d think that’d be super simple and chill. But I have essentially 6 parents (steps and non steps), my future family does not speak the same language as my family, and then our friends. Our friends are super easy and chill and I have no doubt they can all get along. It’s our family that I can’t figure out.

I thought this would be easy because it’s not a “real” wedding, but now i’m worried someone is going to draw conclusions based on their seating. I know none of this REALLY matters but i’m about two weeks out and I feel stuck. Maybe everyone can just sit wherever and figure it out.

Thanks for listening to my rant!


r/weddingplanning • • 8h ago

Tough Times Bach overwhelm

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Hi just have to vent and see if anyone else felt the same way on their own bach. I was very overwhelmed at times - everyone wants to talk to you at the same time, there's a lot going on, people are telling you what to do, expectations are high for you to have fun. I hit some low points of frustration, and I'm worried it came across to my friends. Overall, I had a really great time and it all went as planned. But I can't get past feeling like I ruined some moments with this feeling of overwhelm. Did anyone else feel this way?


r/weddingplanning • • 13h ago

Recap/Budget Chill (?!) Dive Bar Wedding recap

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We had our chill-as-possible dive bar ceremony/reception at the end of August. Here's the breakdown:

Summary: ~5 hours on a late summer evening with <20 guests. Very short ceremony and reception all in one place.

Venue: $6300 for a full building buyout. Included a $1000 bar tab, two bartenders, insurance and an easygoing owner who made set up/tear down easy and low pressure.

Additional bar tab + tip: $300 (this was mostly tip)

Catering + tip: $1366.45 (Buffet style with 5 different dishes. Most food was prepared in the on-site kitchen; it was hella good and fresh. Included 2 catering staff who handled everything, flatwear and cake cutting.)

Cake(s): $204 (We got two 'standard' cakes from a local bakery in different flavors. Decorated, but not customized.)

Cameras and film: $194.40 (We opted to not have a professional wedding album, but provided some cameras for guests to take snapshots on. A no-expectation activity, like passing a disposable camera around at a party.)

My outfit: about 5k (this was a planned 'extra' expense)

Her outfit: about 4k (this was an unplanned 'extra' expense; see below)

Pre-wedding grooming (hair, nails, etc): $170

Flowers: $110 (bouquet and boutonniere only; the venue came pre-decorated)

Invites, Save the Dates, hand fans and last minute odds and ends: $407

'Wedding breakfast' w/ parents: $280

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What went well: Nearly everything! Our guests seemed to have had a great time and gave lots of positive feedback.

What could have been better:

  1. My wife ended up having to buy and alter two dresses. She bought a dress last year and made an appointment with a tailor...who then temporarily closed his shop and didn't tell her. She found a bridal alteration service that promised fast turnaround, paid all the fees for fast as possible service...but it became apparent the week of the wedding that the service was not being upfront about the fact the dress would not be ready in time. This was the main point of stress/suffering. We ended up finding a replacement dress the day before, which was altered the day of the wedding. IMHO, the new dress was more beautiful than the 'old' one, but I know this is a painful memory for her. We did finally get the first dress back and she is planning to sell it.
  2. Printing for invites took longer than expected. We also did not set an 'RSVP by' date on the invite, which meant a lot of stress about who/how many people were coming. Less than half of our invites attended, which I expected and my wife was a little hurt by. The amount of people for the space/vibe was actually perfect, but in retrospect, we should have prioritized local friends over out-of-town family.
  3. We could have been less chill about the ceremony part. We had two 'helpers' to manage the guests and cue the music, I came out first to say we were about to begin and outline how the brief little self-solemnizing ceremony was going to go but everyone still ended up talking over the bride's entrance. I know it was also difficult for some folks to hear.

We have a few extra expenses outstanding (i.e. a wedding portrait in lieu of an album, dry cleaning to get cake frosting off the dress lol) but in general, we did good. Excellent, considering the circumstances!

To sum up: Even though we tried to make it as stress-free as possible, it's impossible not to stress lol


r/weddingplanning • • 5h ago

Vendors/Venue Sobre mesa pricing

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Does anyone have pricing/ packages pdf or deck or anything from sobre mesa in Mexico City. Getting in touch with them has been a challenge.


r/weddingplanning • • 5h ago

Dress/Attire Black Wedding Dress

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I’m thinking I want to wear a black wedding dress but I’m worried about others reactions. I feel like it may look like I’m trying too hard to “be unique” but I genuinely hate white. I’m as pale as they come, I wear self tanner (still pale unfortunately) that satins everything light, and white just highlights all my biggest insecurities. But at the same time I want to fulfill that girl hood dream of being married in a pretty white dress and I KNOW my family is going to voice their opinions loudly on it. I feel like black suits me much better than white ever could- both visually and personality wise. Has anyone regretted going for a black dress? I’m stuck trying to find a happy medium


r/weddingplanning • • 6h ago

Everything Else Help with Vows

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Hey, I'm currently working on my vows and just looking for some guidance. I'm a pretty poor writer at least with emotions.

We've decided 2-3 minutes so I'm not close to done yet but I want to get some critics on what I've started with. Thank you for you help.

Today, I stand before you {NAME}, ready to give you my heart and pledge my love to you. From our earliest dates playing putt-putt and endlessly talking in the car to this very moment, our wedding day, I have known that you are the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. 

I feel so blessed to have found you, to call you my best friend, my girlfriend, and my fiancée. I hope you know how grateful I am for everything you are and for everything you do. You are the most compassionate person I have ever met, and your loyalty to your friends and family is one of the many reasons I admire you. You aren’t afraid to stand up for what you believe in no matter the push back, and you are so protective of the people you love. Anyone would be lucky to call you a friend, and I feel even luckier that I get to call you my wife.

Over the past six and a half years, you have shown me so much about life. You've shown me that no matter where life takes us, what matters most to me is getting to share it with you. Someone who will continually challenge me to think and to strive to become a better version of myself. Someone who will encourage me to step outside of my comfort zone, even when I really don’t want to. Someone who always finds a way to bring excitement to the mundane, and someone whose sense of adventure drives them to try every new experience life has to offer.

I vow to laugh with you on the good days, to give you a reason to smile on the bad, and to remind you that you never have to face life's difficulties alone. I vow to hold myself accountable for my faults, to learn from my mistakes, and to be worthy of the love you have always shown me. I vow to never stop dating you, to never settle, to take you on adventures from traveling abroad to the local movie theater when a new horror movie comes out.

I plan to add more to the vows section, just haven't got there yet.
The second paragraph I feel is repetitive with the loyal to people then protective. Let me know if you also think that.

Some other lines I'll re-word and add when I find a spot:

As long as you are by my side I know nothing else matters. 

I will continue to choose you {NAME}, to love, to adore, and to protect, For and Ever 

For and ever is something we say and Nothing else matters is our song for context


r/weddingplanning • • 6h ago

Relationships/Family Lonely Bride-To-Be, Unsupportive Future In-Laws

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My fiancé and I have been together for 5 years and engaged for almost 2. We chose a long engagement on purpose. He had just finished school and needed time to save money and find a stable job. It’s worked really well for us, and we recently set the date for about 3 years after we got engaged.

The problem is his family. Since the beginning, I’ve gotten snarky comments about why it’s taking so long and offering a lot of judgement that we're not getting married fast enough for their beliefs, even though they understand our reasoning. Instead of being excited when we announced the date, they just asked why so long again. Someone even asked when we were planning on having kids then, which I'm sorry, is just always rude, because I can’t even biologically have them.

Meanwhile, my parents just aren’t wedding people. They aren’t unkind, they’re just not very emotionally involved. I don’t really have any friends right now. The one friend I used to be close with has drifted away as life got busy, and she's been in and out of an abusive relationship, so while I've tried to support her, I don’t feel right asking her to be part of my wedding.

My fiance and I are pretty introverted and want something small and intimate, maybe a tea and cakes reception after a short ceremony. But now I’m second-guessing even that, because I’m worried his family will judge the small guest list or the food or make comments about who wasn’t invited. I don’t want to spend money feeding people who don’t support us.

I guess I just want someone to be excited for me, but I don't have a big social circle so I don't feel like a bridal shower or bachelorette party or any of that stuff is in the cards for me, and it feels kinda lonely.

If you had a small wedding, or dealt with unsupportive family, how did you handle it? And how did you deal with feeling like you have no friends and nobody in your corner?


r/weddingplanning • • 13h ago

Vendors/Venue Don’t use WithJoy registry

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It’s a scam. Withjoy allows guests to purchase gifts that are out of stock without notifying them and then gives you a credit that can only be used at their shop. So you can’t get the item you want and also can’t withdraw the cash value or make gift card purchases. This happened 5 times before I caught on to what was happening and immediately removed everything from WithJoy and linked to an external registry, which was much better.

Everything is marked up 30+% higher than what you’d pay for the same item elsewhere so you aren’t able to get the true value of the store credit. Very frustrating.


r/weddingplanning • • 7h ago

Everything Else Wedding this Sat, Outdoor Letdown

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Wedding is saturday. Its an outdoor ceremony (with tent now) and outdoor reception.

Reception area will have a fire pit, heaters, a covered pavilion with optional sides that come down, a covered bar also with optional sides and a partially minimally covered dance floor surrounded by a rock wall.

The weather every single day around (before and after) the wedding day is beautiful. Low to Mid 70s to highest low 80s. My day is a high of 58 and low of 38. Im in the south.

Ive bought blankets for folks, a week ago I texted people to tell them the weather could go cold or wet and its outdoor. Im asking the venue if there is anyway for us to serve hot drinks to folks, but not expecting a yes this late.

I know this is super not logical.....but ive planned this entire wedding and it all feels like a failure because I grabbed an outdoor only venue. It is a themed place that we really wanted and is special, but boy do I feel like a fuckin failure host and planner. The guilt im feeling is immense and im so concerned my guests will get sick or leave early or resent me for this decision.

Does anyone have the magic words to help me stop feeling like this? My therapy appt isnt until post wedding for a couple weeks >.< anyone had this happen with no inside alternative?

Edit: 3:30pm ceremony, 3:45-9pm cocktail hour and reception.


r/weddingplanning • • 8h ago

Hair/Makeup Feeling like I picked the wrong hair style. Help?

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So I’m torn on how to wear my hair. Intuitively it seems like a low chignon with a couple pieces in front would be the best looks, but my mom and stylist didn’t love that idea because you won’t see the pretty styling of the bun at all from the front. I do agree that it might be nice to look more feminine with my hair flowing a bit in the front, but I also think it might mess with the look of this dress, covering the high neck detail.

What do you think? We ended up trialing out my hair pinned to the side, and I like it…but I don’t know if I love it


r/weddingplanning • • 12h ago

Everything Else Wedding timeline

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Hi!

How does my timeline look?

Some things to consider:

- I only have a photographer for 6 hours 14:30-20:30,

- I have no bridal party. But my friends are getting their hair and makeup done for fun!

- Our dog will be with us at the AirBNB

- Ceremony is on the restaurant patio. Dinner inside the restaurant. AirBNB is 2 houses away from the restaurant.

7:00 Wake up + Breakfast
7:30 Set up AirBNB for people to arrive
7:45 Bride's friends and family arrive
8:00 HMAU begin
* HMAU Timeline -
*Groom watches dog
11:00 Groom's friends/family arrive
12:30 Groom's mom sets up the Sofreh aghd + Groom gets ready
1:30 Bride finishes hair/makeup
1:45 Bride moves upstairs into first look room - gets into dress
2:00 Rest of bride's family arrives; dog sitter/photographer arrives.
2:15 Bride + Groom Finish getting ready for first look.
2:30-3:30 First look + Romantic portraits
2:30-2:45 First look + Vow (15min)
2:45-3 Going downstairs and seeing family friends
3-3:30 Romantic photos (30 min)
3:30-4:00 Friends and immediate family (<12 combos)
4:00 Harpist arrives and starts getting ready + Brother prepares to greet guests.
4:15-5:00 Bride tucks away + Last touch-ups + Brother takes Rings
4:30 Guests start arriving and friends leave the AirBNB - Harpist plays prelude music
4:45 * Dries bouquet*
5:00-5:30 Ceremony
*Officant - Welcome and remind phones away
Processional music Groom -
Groom with mom
Processional music Bride - Constant as the stars
Bride + Dad
English Ceremony - Tell people to sit, vows, rings (bride 1st), first kiss, pronounced husband and wife. HOLD HANDS/LOOK AT EACH OTHER WHOLE TIME.
*Sister Fluff dress and take Bouquet
Persian ceremony music - Tchaikovsky's "Pas de Deux"
Persian Ceremony - Tell people we are now going to do the traditional Persian sugar ceremony, which represents blessings of sweetness and joy for the marriage. Then the honey ceremony, which symbolizes that they will feed each other sweetness and sustenance throughout their lives together.
After Ceremony - Sign the marriage license. Then you stand up. and you go back to the front. Officiant introduces married couple. Exit aisle.
Recessional music - Married Life UP
5:30-6:30 Cocktail Hour
*Officiant to introduce Cocktail Hour *Sister to bustle
* Brother brings most cards to Airbnb and basket gets moved inside
Harpist and officiant leave
Cocktail music playlist -
Quick family top-ups + Candids
Groom + grandparents, Groom + Aunts/uncles/cousion, Entire family
Bride + Grandparents, Bride + aunts/uncles/cousions, Entire family
Bride & groom & Extended family x2 + Friends x2
6:30-6:45 Get seated
6:45-7:00 Toast
7:00-8:30 Dinner * Golden hour photos at 715
*Fuji camera photos
8:00-8:30 Cake Cutting * Photographer leaves
9:30 Finish the night.

r/weddingplanning • • 5h ago

Dress/Attire Is this dress too close to white for the MOB? (am i being dramatic)

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hopefully a link is okay, i have been struggling with this for awhile now and not sure if its too white. My sister is saying its more of a butter yellow but my partner and MOH say its too close to white. My initial response was kinda a sad “what the heck” moment but also my mom seemed so excited about it. A little time has passed, when she showed it to me she said she hadnt ordered it yet, but with time passing i am wondering if i am being dramatic. a lot of people around me say its too close but im so unsure (and of unsure what to do)

edit: just for reference she told me at first she wanted to get a dress that matched the colours of the wedding (purple out of the purple and green colours we are doing) i thought thats what was going on until we facetimed last week after my first wedding planning app for her to be so excited about the dress she found.

i dont really know how to address it, i have already asked about why she switched up and she said that this colour just matches her skin tone and hair much better. she is really sensitive and sometimes i feel like i cant be honest with her because i dont want to hurt her feelings lol.


r/weddingplanning • • 16h ago

Wedding/Engagement Photos Wedding photographers: is this normal for a contract?

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My fiancé and I are reviewing our wedding photography contract and there’s really just one thing we’re a little unsure about.

The contract states that our $1,130 deposit would NOT be refunded if:
1) The photographer couldn’t photograph our wedding and also couldn’t provide a replacement.
2) ALL of our wedding photos were somehow lost/corrupted and no gallery was delivered.

We’ve already done our engagement session, which was valued at $300, so I completely understand that portion of services provided being non-refundable.

Her reasoning is that the deposit also covers holding our date, planning, communication, engagement session work, etc., and that even if the wedding photos were lost, she still would have spent the day photographing it.

I understand that, but it still feels a little odd that if the wedding photography service/photos were ultimately not delivered due to these extreme circumstances, we wouldn’t receive at least part of the deposit back? In those cases we’d either have to hire another last minute photographer on our own or would have literally zero photos delivered 😅

I know these circumstances are HIGHLY unlikely, but just want the contract to protect us too. She has been very reasonable and agreed to revise some other clauses we raised concern with, sooo I’m genuinely just curious:

Is this standard in wedding photography contracts? Or is it reasonable to expect the deposit to be partially refunded in such extreme circumstances (not at all getting the services/photos), minus the value of services already provided (like engagement session)?


r/weddingplanning • • 6h ago

Vendors/Venue Bay Area Wedding florist

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My best friend is getting married in San Jose next year. What should she plan ti spend in a sweetheart table like this in California plus centerpieces for a 100-120 people wedding?

Bonus points if you know of any wedding florist you recommend!


r/weddingplanning • • 10h ago

Everything Else Small bridal/grooms party

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Does anyone have any experience with having a small wedding party? My fiancé only has two groomsmen (possibly 3 max) which is also including his best man.
I’m afraid if I have two as well it will look silly. If I had four bridesmaids (which includes my MOH) would it look weird and lopsided?


r/weddingplanning • • 1d ago

Everything Else Thoughts on a true "all-day" wedding (10am-10pm)?

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TLDR: I plan to have a 12hr wedding celebration. If you think that's whack and a bad idea, please tell me why.

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I've just begun wedding planning and after jotting down a schedule (10am-10pm), I was surprised to find online that most weddings run afternoon-evening.

My thought process: If I have everyone I love in one place, most of whom have traveled to get here...half a day feels so...short.

When I have large friend / family get-togethers, they usually last 3-6 days. The time is filled with constant activity, including chatting, eating, group games, etc. I don't see why this would be any different. If anything, this seems like the perfect time to do all the fun stuff I like doing with my loved ones.

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Here's the initial schedule

10am - Ceremony (30 min)

  • Ceremony, then photos

11am - Festival time

  • Appetizers + drinks
  • Idea is to have a mix of ambient activities, along with a few larger scheduled group games (still optional).
  • Badminton tournament, tug-of-war, etc
  • Crafting booths, art exchange
  • Lounge areas for catching up
  • Anyone uninterested can explore the little town nearby

4 pm - Dinner

  • Lotta food, drinks, toasts

5 pm - Dancing begins

  • Music begins, dance floor "officially" opens
  • Big party dance time

6 pm - Desert

  • Cake cutting, desert, coffee
  • Short-form board games

7pm - Festivities continue

  • Dancing continues
  • Silly marriage-themed games
  • More food

10 pm - Wind down music and go to sleep

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Why I feel like this could work

  • No one is invited alone. Most everyone has a group of ~4-20 people that they know and can have fun / catch up with
  • Fiancé and I already have our lives well entwined. Both of us know every guest (~100 people) so no introductions needed
  • Will be held on relative's property (no time constraint). Guests will either camp on property or stay ~5min away

Everything online seems to indicate a different schedule, so please help me by putting in your 2 cents.


r/weddingplanning • • 12h ago

Dress/Attire Recommendations for bridal ateliers (I’m based in Europe)

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Hi all, I’m considering having my bridal dress custom made but I have no idea where and what to look for, and also what to avoid. I have asked for a quote at Lovine Bridal for a fair price but the shipping to Europe from Vietnam is a very expensive (200-300€). I found some other ateliers in Ukraine on Etsy, but one of them has really fancy reference images while the review pictures show an inferior level of craftsmanship.

Do you have any recommendations? Or which ones to avoid?

For reference, my dream dress is a mix between this dress https://evalendel.com/de/produkt/illume/ and this dress https://damacouture.de/products/brautkleid-thetis keeping the colour of the second one (not so white as the first one)

I really appreciate your help! 🥰


r/weddingplanning • • 12h ago

Decor/DIY Sola Wood flowers

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Sola Wood Flowers: Where are the values you advertise to brides when we actually need your help?

I wanted to share my disappointing experience with Sola Wood Flowers, especially for other brides considering ordering from them.

I purchased flowers for my October 3 wedding. Unfortunately, I overlooked the 22-business-day production timeframe, and I fully acknowledge that this was my mistake.

However, what has been incredibly disappointing is how the company has handled everything since.

Sola Wood Flowers markets itself as a company that understands the challenges brides face. They emphasize affordability, taking the stress out of wedding planning, and being dedicated to customer satisfaction.

But what happens when a bride actually needs that understanding?

Planning a wedding is already stressful and expensive. Brides are juggling countless details, deadlines, vendors, and financial decisions. Companies like Sola Wood Flowers specifically appeal to brides by promising to make this process easier and more affordable.

Instead, I found myself spending additional money on replacement flowers, repeatedly emailing customer service, and trying to find any reasonable compromise while preparing for one of the biggest days of my life.

I offered to pay for expedited production. When that wasn't possible, I requested cancellation. When that was declined, I offered to pay for any work already completed.

I even suggested they resell or repurpose the arrangements. I didn't request custom colors. I selected Silver Sage, one of their standard color options. If the arrangements haven't shipped yet, why couldn't they potentially be held for another customer who selects the same design and color?

I understand that there may be operational limitations, but I would have appreciated a genuine effort to explore alternatives rather than repeatedly being told what their policy doesn't allow.

I work in Customer Success myself. I understand policies, production timelines, and the importance of managing customer expectations. I also understand that customer satisfaction isn't just about enforcing policies when everything goes according to plan. It's about how you treat customers when something goes wrong.

I have taken responsibility for my mistake from the beginning. I wasn't asking Sola to take that responsibility away from me. I was asking them to consider a one-time exception and meet me halfway.

My wedding has now passed. My flowers still haven't shipped, and despite multiple requests for management escalation, I have yet to receive confirmation that someone with the authority to make an exception has personally reviewed my situation.

What makes this particularly disappointing is that the very things Sola Wood Flowers advertises—less stress, affordability, understanding brides, and customer satisfaction—are the things I feel were missing from my experience.

Instead of saving money, I spent more. Instead of reducing stress, this added to it. Instead of feeling supported as a bride, I felt like I was talking to a policy rather than a person.

I recognize that I made the original ordering mistake. But I also believe companies have opportunities to demonstrate their values through the way they respond to situations like this.

I wish Sola Wood Flowers had chosen to approach mine differently.

For any brides considering ordering, please pay very close attention to their production timelines and cancellation policies. I genuinely hope your experience is better than mine.


r/weddingplanning • • 1d ago

Vendors/Venue We did not hire a DJ for our wedding and it went incredibly well

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From the beginning of our wedding planning process, I was pretty determined that we could pull off the music without a DJ, but everywhere I looked (including here, wedding planning websites, and our friends and family) people were saying it was a bad idea for any variety of reasons. My wife and I went through with it anyways though because we had a really clear vision for what we wanted and how to execute it, and now that the wedding has happened, I'm so happy we went with this plan.

This post is not for bashing Wedding DJs or anything like that, I just wanted to share what we did and how successful it was for other couples who may be thinking of doing the same things we did.

I did come in with a little bit of knowledge about setting up PA equipment and mixing music because my dad plays a little bit of live music (think a guy playing guitar at a brewery), but nothing close to a professional level and nothing that you couldn't learn on the internet. Also, my wife and I are super into music, so the time and effort it took to make and mix playlists was actually enjoyable rather than a chore.

We got a ton of compliments on our dancing playlist. The dance floor was packed all night, the venue's coordinator actually told us that was the most consistently packed she's ever seen the dance floor (we did have 160 people attend, to be fair). Several people asked for a link to the playlist after the wedding and told us it was the best music of any wedding they've been to.

Of course, that could've all just been our guests placating us since it was our wedding. Like what were they gonna say, the music sucked? But the most important thing is that WE had an amazing time. We did not leave the dance floor for the full 3 hours, and it was packed all night. It went pretty much exactly as we hoped.

I won't elongate the post with the specific details that most people probably don't care about, but if anyone is considering doing their wedding music on their own, I'd be happy to share what we did to make it happen. Like I said, I'm not trying to say everyone should do their own music, but after our experience of seeing so much negativity towards skipping a DJ, I wanted to offer the other side of that.


r/weddingplanning • • 12h ago

Vendors/Venue Hiring wedding planner before finding venue?

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Hi! I'd love help finding a venue in my budget (all in $90-100k) that fit a certain experience we're looking for. I'm also very open to different aesthetics - I want to prioritize a seamless experience for guests + me.

Would love to hear if you booked a wedding planner before finding a venue and if it was helpful for you.


r/weddingplanning • • 12h ago

Everything Else Registry options?

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I need a good registry suggestion. I keep seeing bad things about all of them and I've moved our registry like 3 times and now I'm just torn and indecisive.

I don't want to use The Knot because I'm not using their website and I don't see any way to use ONLY their registry, plus I've seen people talking about them adding a gift card to their site to your registry without warning you.

Honeyfund tries to prompt users to donate extra money I guess and there's fees to withdraw the money?

I've now seen like two people post THIS WEEK to not use WithJoy which was my most recent choice...

Not doing Amazon because if you try to do a fund of any sort you just get Amazon gift cards that you can't use to pay for anything except items on amazon, which kind of defeats the purpose of a fund.

Help me, I'm losing my mind!

edit: I think y'all sold me on just doing a Venmo QR code or something. I know most people are probably going to give money in a card or something.. my fiance and I have just lived together for a couple years already so we've got a lot of home stuff already.

Thank you <3


r/weddingplanning • • 13h ago

Vendors/Venue Dc wedding venues

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What are really good wedding venues in/ near the dc area? I’m not a fan of woodsy/ outdoors in a field/ vineyard vibes.


r/weddingplanning • • 1d ago

Everything Else Post Wedding Blues

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Well, here we are. We just had our wedding and I’m stuck in the blues.

I just spent the last hour reading through others posts of feeling the same way hoping it’d help me feel better, but alas… Does anyone have advice dealing with the post wedding blues? I’m left feeling so disappointed and bitter.

The day moved along fine, nothing went wrong except a few minor hiccups which is to be expected, and everyone I’ve chatted with after expressed they had a great time. But, I don’t know… it all just ended and I feel like I wasn’t a part of it and just on the sidelines. Which feels silly to say since I was the bride.

The whole day, I felt like I wasn’t able to stay present or really enjoy the wedding because all the last minute decision making for setup and coordination kept falling to me, I felt stuck waiting in a room before the wedding started and then stuck again during photos, and just kept getting pulled in different directions. From the beginning of planning, the things that were most important to me was being able to enjoy the food, drink, and space we spent the past year planning and being able to mingle and chat with some of the people I love most. And this felt like the opposite of that. I’m especially disappointed since we had a hybrid coordinator/planner.

However, my partner seemed to have a different experience which is also making me feel bitter. I love them but I’m also upset all of this kept falling to me. Granted, they were mostly the same level as stuck as myself but after the dance they were able to mostly enjoy the wedding. Not to tit for tat, but their biggest complaint was not being able to try everything. Mine was not being able to even finish one drink 😭

So idk, a couple days in and I’m feeling this disappointment and bitterness. I keep hearing about things that I missed because I was running around. And my pragmatic brain is starting to feel cages and doom wonder if this is what the rest of our life together will look like?!


r/weddingplanning • • 14h ago

Relationships/Family Both my bridesmaids can’t attend, and I’m losing excitement for my wedding.

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Just need to vent and maybe get some advice because I’m feeling really defeated about my wedding.

My MOH is pregnant and can’t attend, and now another bridesmaid is pregnant and won’t be able to make it either. Of course I’m happy for them, but I’m honestly heartbroken.

Our guest list is already heavily skewed toward my fiancé’s friends and family. He’s lived in the same city for years, while I’ve moved three times in the past six years. I have a small family and a smaller circle of friends, most of whom would have to fly to Charleston, where flights are around $1,000. Meanwhile, most of his guests can drive. I’m starting to worry that barely anyone from my side will even be there.

To make it harder, the wedding is turning into a $90–100k event. My parents generously contributed $30k, and I’ve personally already put down about $20k in deposits. Most of the financial burden is falling on me.

I feel like I’m spending an insane amount of money on a wedding where I might barely have anyone there for me. It’s making me question whether I even want the wedding anymore, which is heartbreaking because I was so excited about it.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? Did you downsize, cancel, or just push through? I’m genuinely at a loss and would love some perspective 😞

Also would smaller weddings be okay? I invited 138 but looking like 80


r/weddingplanning • • 14h ago

Wedding/Engagement Photos online is cheaper

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Local print shops are usually way cheaper than ordering signs online. Foam board at 18×24 looks great and you don't need an expensive frame.