r/weddingplanning • u/Alternative_Story454 • 20h ago
Everything Else Help with Vows
Hey, I'm currently working on my vows and just looking for some guidance. I'm a pretty poor writer at least with emotions.
We've decided 2-3 minutes so I'm not close to done yet but I want to get some critics on what I've started with. Thank you for you help.
Today, I stand before you {NAME}, ready to give you my heart and pledge my love to you. From our earliest dates playing putt-putt and endlessly talking in the car to this very moment, our wedding day, I have known that you are the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.
I feel so blessed to have found you, to call you my best friend, my girlfriend, and my fiancée. I hope you know how grateful I am for everything you are and for everything you do. You are the most compassionate person I have ever met, and your loyalty to your friends and family is one of the many reasons I admire you. You aren’t afraid to stand up for what you believe in no matter the push back, and you are so protective of the people you love. Anyone would be lucky to call you a friend, and I feel even luckier that I get to call you my wife.
Over the past six and a half years, you have shown me so much about life. You've shown me that no matter where life takes us, what matters most to me is getting to share it with you. Someone who will continually challenge me to think and to strive to become a better version of myself. Someone who will encourage me to step outside of my comfort zone, even when I really don’t want to. Someone who always finds a way to bring excitement to the mundane, and someone whose sense of adventure drives them to try every new experience life has to offer.
I vow to laugh with you on the good days, to give you a reason to smile on the bad, and to remind you that you never have to face life's difficulties alone. I vow to hold myself accountable for my faults, to learn from my mistakes, and to be worthy of the love you have always shown me. I vow to never stop dating you, to never settle, to take you on adventures from traveling abroad to the local movie theater when a new horror movie comes out.
I plan to add more to the vows section, just haven't got there yet.
The second paragraph I feel is repetitive with the loyal to people then protective. Let me know if you also think that.
Some other lines I'll re-word and add when I find a spot:
As long as you are by my side I know nothing else matters.
I will continue to choose you {NAME}, to love, to adore, and to protect, For and Ever
For and ever is something we say and Nothing else matters is our song for context
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u/PMMeGoodAdvice Married! Seattle // 9.2.18 18h ago
I think these are a great start! Your ideas for edits make sense. My general advice is to make sure it’s in your voice - avoid cliches or sounding overly flowery. One thing I think you could add to the first couple paragraphs is a story (or stories). You say what you love about her but I think show vs. tell is always better. Is there an example that springs to mind for any of the qualities you call out?