Book loving, coffee fueled nerd with glasses, blue/green eyes, a nose piercing, two tattoos (more planned!), and approximately a million questions about how things work. Tell me something interesting and prepare for a 21 question interview! (Ok, definitely less than 21 questions).

I love romance books, cooking and baking (my love languages!), tabletop games, museums, and DIY projects. Tell me about your latest obsession, teach me something new, or recruit me to hold tools while you work on your car. I'll even pretend I know what I'm doing.

I'm married and practice ethical non-monogamy. I'm demisexual/demiromantic, so I prefer starting with friendship and seeing where things go. No pressure or rushing, just genuine connection and a little flirtation.

I'm trying to spend less time on my phone and more time out in the world, so let's make actual plans instead of becoming pen pals who endlessly say, "We should hang out sometime!"

Cuddle season is coming... just saying.

Why wait until winter to find someone to share coffee, cozy conversations, and maybe a blanket with? Let's see if we click over a fun date now. By the time sweater weather arrives, we might already have someone to steal the warm side of the booth from.

Date ideas? Pick your adventure!

- Coffee and bookstore browsing

- Board game cafés or tabletop nights

- Museums and quirky local attractions

- Bowling, mini golf, or archery (teach me your tricks!)

- Cooking classes, food tours, or dessert dates

- Pottery painting or escape rooms

- Fall festivals and farmers markets

- Dog walks and a potential playdate with my furry friend

I'm Albany based but open to traveling a few hours for the right person and a worthwhile adventure.

I'm looking for laughter, curiosity, mutual effort, playful flirting, and the possibility of something meaningful.

So, what's your pick? Coffee before cuddle season, or are you making me wait until sweater weather?

About Me:
Age / Location: 20, Louisiana/CST

What I look like: Brown skin brown eyes, on the slim side, 5’6, my style is casual or street casual

What I do: Teacher, Software Dev Major, Focusing on work, school, and hobbies

Hobbies & Interests: I like cooking, gaming, watching movies, listening to music

What I’m Looking For:
Someone kind, emotionally mature, can be communicative. Someone who enjoys deep chats as well as comfortable silence. A person that’s goal oriented or atleast has a plan. Be fine with the fact that I may not want to text all the time, so while we can communicate sometimes im just not in the mood to text it gets boring for me or I’m either busy and don’t have time. Someone that’s actually ready or wants a relationship, or to atleast date to see if we’re compatible and how it goes. I myself am a loner, I don’t need a relationship right now but I want one.

Open to local people, and online but it has to turn into meeting in person!

If interested in getting to know each other, send me a message! Tell me a bit about yourself and what you’re looking for relationship wise, or what you’re offering as im open to joining an already established relationship. No blank "hey" messages, please get to the point.

I am a straight man looking for my forever's, who enjoy cuddling in bed, watching tv, going on walks, hikes, exploring nature, and playing video games until all hours of the night. I am looking for someone around my age (18 - 22) but I'm definitely willing to stretch it upward if the connection is right :)

About me:

I am 6'2, I'm slim/athletic/skinny in terms of physique, I have brown hair and green eyes, i am thinking about getting tattoos or piercings in the future, i think it looks cool and aesthetically hot lol. I am currently working and attending my local community college so i love the idea of having someone to talk to whilst working on my studies, i am doing the pre requisites or nursing school, and then I'm going to be attending that once i get accepted (i will be in school for quite some time). But i enjoy paddleboarding (i have only done that once so i am very bad at it lmao.) I am interested into getting into more hobbies and activities.

Something about me is that i am extremely clingy and i just want to talk to my people always, all day every day. I want to talk about everything known to man, and i prefer friendship and connection over quick thrills. I want to actually get to know you! I am hypersexual, and i would absolutely adore you if you'd match my freak lol, so keep that in mind as its a very prevalent part of me.

About you:

Open minded, Caring, (being interested in my hobbies is a bonus), i am a sensitive soul so please be nice to me, I want to get really close and just be allowed to take a deep breath and be myself without having to be on guard or walk on eggshells.

I think that is all, anything else we can discuss in private. I look forward to meeting you!

I’m 40, professionally established, and currently in a relationship. My partner doesn’t want children, but starting a family is something that’s important to me.

I’m looking for a woman who’s comfortable with ethical non-monogamy and genuinely wants a nesting partner, marriage, and children.
I’m affectionate, driven, family-oriented, and enjoy everything from quiet nights at home to spontaneous adventures.

Not looking for casual dating. I’m seeking a meaningful, committed relationship built on chemistry, trust, stability, and shared goals.
If you’re in the NYC area and envision building a home and raising a family together, I’d love to connect.

Me: 31, 5'5, plus sized (fat- but not into fat fetishes, sorry), and viciously adorable. I like pastels, squishmallows, video games (switch & PS4, also just got a laptop for gaming!), all animals (I have two cats, a leopard gecko, and two aquariums, plus I have befriended the crows outside my work lol), crafts, smoking weed, cuddling, watching movies, snacks, long car rides with loud music and no real destination, strawberries, good pens, and trap music. Hater of AI and this regime.

You: 27-40, located in New England (ideally somewhere near western MA), funny, compassionate, patient. I love swapping selfies so I need you to be comfy with your cute self!

I like a kitchen table type of poly. Not that everybody needs to be friends, but secrets make my brain itchy. Please be an honest human or leave me alone 🙏🏻

I currently have 1 partner, we're long distance and I'm looking for someone more local to love on. I am not looking for any sort of closed relationship or for couples where it's both or nothing.

If you read all of this and are interested, send me a chat with your favorite emoji 🥰✨

disabled concert hopped looking for some special someone’s. i’m a love able weirdo plus size af,, kind to a fault, medically complex. & autistic.

i’m a wealth of knowledge and chronically alone. my outlook on life is “hope for the best, expect ten worst.”

i have six cats going on eight and a dog named wiggles. i am severely disabled. so i cant drive, but k love to spend time with people.

when im not sick, im making digital art, painting, seeing, quilting, crocheting, and basically anything i can get
my grubby little hands on.

send me a message c:

Hiya! 

Hope you are doing amazing! Enjoy my randomness and reach out if you would like to know more and maybe just BS and we can learn about each other!

About me,

First, I am a girl dad to 1, (2yo), so my time when I have her (Divorced) can be busy and hectic, so an understanding with that would be essential. I happily have her on a 2-2-3 schedule so every week is different.

I am your average looking guy, no six pack, no I don't go to the gym (maybe I should but, ugh I don't wanna), I have that dad bod thing going that I'm sure in time will get taken care of, but can't make me till then lol.

Things I enjoy can be ever changing with some short term memory on what I am wanting to do. I would say I am more of the nerd/dork kinda guy, but I do like sports, and played many before/ and worked in them.

I like to watch shows on science and space, I enjoy playing games when I can (rarely it seems), I also enjoy listening to audiobooks from Dungeon Crawler Carl ( finished book 7, holding off on 8 cause I need to pace myself lol), all the way to some yummy smut haha! yes, a guy who enjoys smut... I know lol. I also enjoy going fishing, cooking, being lazy AF, and doom scrolling when I should be doing something productive. Oh, also I bought a piano at goodwill cause I have always wanted to learn to play piano. (maybe one of those short term hobbies again lol).

What can I give? Hmm, that is hard to say, I am a really good listener, love to chat about anything, hear you out. I am never ever judgemental and will always say you are right in the fight ( well idk about if it was with me lol jk). Just ask me if there is anything you really desire or want in a friendship/connection and will gladly let you know if it is something I can give!

What I hope to find...? That is a good question, I know what I envision, and is that possible? Idk, maybe I am cray cray.

But..... What I picture... Is a woman who is confident, smart, sweet and caring, also loves the things I do and wants to talk about them and also their day and just BS and also give shit and be sarcastic and a smartass and can give and take on it. ( not in a way of to cover being mean, but be fun and snarky in a flirting way, if that makes sense?) I would really prefer a woman around my age, maybe a mom too or at least a fun aunt that understands the time it takes to be a good parent (fixing/healing inner child trauma, we don't judge lol).  I also really love and envision a woman who has that gothic style? The black dresses/clothes, tattoos, pericing, the type of woman that surely would have been burned at the stake lol. Which on that note... I would really like to learn about wicca/witch stuff. Something I have been finding myself drawn too. (blame the smut maybe lol).

I am also curious and wanting to learn, talk about, explore, understand ENM/Poly and throuple type dynamics.

Anyways, I was going to keep this short, but I failed that one I think. Welp sending this to the ether and will see what returns. If you got this far thank you, and I hope you have the most amazing day or night and always be good to yourself!

Hello!

As the title says, I am a thirty-three year old single dad looking to start dating again and I have full custody of my son who just turned three. As much as I love him our conversations are lacking and we can only play blocks so many times! Most of my free time is spent with him but I'd love to have another adult to see from time to time (someone who lives in Minnesota is preferred). I am only just now trying to dip my toes back into the dating pool. Someone I know mentioned trying Reddit, so here I am! I work a good job, go to therapy, and own my own house. I am not looking for a mom to my son but someone for me. I'd like to believe I am emotionally mature, an open and honest communicator, and can admit when I am wrong.

Random fun facts:

• My love languages are physical touch and quality time
• I had my ear cut off (and reattached) when I was four after falling of a stage
• I lived in thirteen states from ages 18-26 for work
• I use humor as a defense mechanism
• I hate being late
• I am a very clean / neat / organized type of person

Me physically:

• 6ft
• 175lbs
• Sandy blond-brown hair
• Hazel eyes
• Lean but muscular/athletic build
• One tattoo but would like to get more

A few interests of mine:

• I love to read (I've read 52 so far this year)
• I enjoy staying active and like working out, running, and spending time outdoors
• Enjoy sports like any guy (specifically Formula 1 and football)
• Stand up comedy
• Reality and trash TV (The Challenge is number one in my heart, but love a good dating show)
• Lists

I am an open book and no question is off limits.

Hope to talk to you soon!

Hey! I'm a partnered polyamorous guy in central California. Not too far from Sequoia/Yosemite NPs. I'm also open to connecting long distance. I'm primarily looking for the right connection, over proximity.

I connect best with others who share some passions of mine! I'm an avid hiker/backpacker, guitarist/keyboardist, I love to cook, and I take care of my body through gym, cardio, and yoga.

I geek out on a wide variety of scientific subjects (mainly trees, geology, and space), but I also began a journey into depth psychology in the last few years. I'm into all things rock, musically, but also EDM. Big fan of science fiction and historical fiction.

I'm progressive, an environmentalist, and agnostic.

If this interests you, and you too are seeking the right connection over proximity or immediacy - please, send me a message with a link to whatever you've been listening to lately or share a photo of what you've been up to. It makes for a great conversation starter!

Looking for a couple that is fine with keeping up appearances as just some good friends when we are out in public but when we are behind closed doors I am treated as your beloved lil pet. I love praise and respond very well to manipulation and kindness lol.

I am looking to start online because my life is chaotic right now but definitely want to meet in person once trust is established!

F31 M43. We are looking for a partner,a sister to join my gorgeous baby girl and I in a closed poly relationship/dynamic. This relationship/dynamic would be just the three of us. Not an open fwb enm dynamic. My baby girl who has been proudly collared by me is a bisexual, service submissive, a playful little brat who is fun and witty. We are looking for a girlfriend who is either a switch dominant for her and enjoys also being a submissive to a Dom or a like minded submissive with her as my baby girls big or little sister . 💜
We’re looking for connection, trust, friendship and chemistry first; with the possibility of developing a meaningful D/s dynamic as things naturally evolve.

This next bit has been written by my Bub

I’m naturally open-minded, curious and friendly, with a cheeky side that tends to come out when I’m comfortable. I enjoy the balance between being cared for, having my bratty moments, and embracing my little side within the dynamic I share with my Daddy.
I’m a supportive and affectionate lover who values communication, honesty, consent and making the people I care about feel safe enough to be themselves. I love being playful, trying new things and keeping an open mind.
Outside of kink, you’ll usually find me curled up with a dark romance book. I have a particular weakness for those deliciously twisted scenes... and I absolutely love the idea of bringing some of that fictional chemistry into real life with the right person. 📚🖤
If you’re kind, curious, communicative, a little mischievous yourself and interested in exploring where a connection could lead, come say hello. 🖤

The next part has been written by myself

We Love the beach, love the bush. We looking for a fun, adventurous submissive. Or a switch to help me contain a fun little brat. We enjoy the indoors and outdoors adventures both kinky and vanilla. Our dynamic is a kink and bondage orientated dynamic. It’s an ever evolving dynamic that is built on trust, learning and mutual goals. I’m a bit of a teddy bear and a care giver. I also a devilish side that could be a little extreme for some and not for everyone. I also really enjoy cuddles and lazy days in, a game of golf or trip to nowhere and random times.

We both enjoy a lady with longer hair. My baby girl enjoys playing and combing it and you can use your imagination on why I like it🤔😉. We are fans of rope play it would be great if you were as well. We are open books. Our interests are vast and we really enjoy learning new things as we go.

If you’d like to know more please ask away.

Update. I had to change my partners user name the numbers were wrong
[u/RoutineLower2245](u/RoutineLower2245)

Hello Houston and surrounding areas. I’m 50, fit, educated, professional, and married with my wife’s knowledge. I’m looking for one woman to build a fun, ongoing FWB connection with. Not interested in one-night stands.
I enjoy deep conversations, good food, laughter, and great chemistry. Privately, I’m dominant, kinky, affectionate, and very attentive to my partner’s pleasure.
My schedule allows for about one night a month, but that night would be entirely ours. Dinner, drinks, intimacy, and no distractions or rushing.
Ideally, you’re mature, discreet, open-minded, and comfortable with this arrangement.
If this sounds like your kind of thing, tell me a little about yourself. Happy to exchange pics and see if we click.

32 F4M from NC looking for a long-term relationship with men who are compatible

Hi, I'm a 32 yr old AA Demisexual/Polyromantic female living in NC. Im seeking people who are compatible with my personality and isn't just looking for physically intimate relationship. I am NOT looking for a fwb or something kink centered.. Personality wise I'm sometimes a brat and sometimes a princess. I have a big sense of humor and a even bigger unfiltered personality. I require transparency and friendship first seeing as though they're a fundamental key to a successful and healthy long-term relationship. Age and race aren't a issue but please no one over 49. If you're interested my inbox is open. And pls remember to be yourself.

Edit: I am not in Northern California, Im in North Carolina.

Hello there, Poly People!

I'm about to turn 32, and life has been... Well. I am a leftist living in a terribly fashy time, so I guess I would say the past decade was rough and the next 2 years seem like they are only going to be better if I can get out of this country. (Fingers crossed)

Anyways, since I'm not sure of how interested you may be in reading a big block of me rambling on and on, I will provide 6 "hooks" and you can roll for it or take your pick. Send me a message with your number and answer if you're interested!

1: What is your favorite TTRPG?

2: What is your dream for what the world could be in 51 years?

3: What is your go-to: order for dinner, pizza topping, karaoke song, comfort cuisine, and alcoholic beverage?

4: What makes you the most interesting person I'll get to talk to today?

5: What are you making/what is your latest project?

6: What is the first thing you want to know about me and think I should know about you?

I'll provide my answer to the same one you pick when you send your introduction. Hope you've been having fun and a great day!

Hey there, thanks for reading this! It would be a pleasure to make your acquaintance. I'm a quirky, geeky, kind hearted married man looking out here today for new friends and connections who have a familiarity with this lifestyle. Could you be looking for something similar?

I'm British, based in Liverpool, but am originally from Southern England. I have been married to my wife for 3 years, together for 13, and we opened up fully on both sides earlier this year. The marriage and a potential future family will naturally always be my priority but I am good at putting effort into all my connections (and am more or less chronically on Reddit). I'm open to connections from all over the world, and to IRL connections if we both feel comfortable and are within reasonable travelling distance. But rushing something is absolutely not my style.

I'm kind, stoic, curious and non-judgemental. Also unapologetically geeky with plenty of nerdy obsessions, sometimes a little bit funny, and definitely a little bit weird. I work a highly responsible job in a shift work pattern, which means you'll sometimes find me available at unusual hours. People would say I am assertive and self-confident, but underneath it all I still feel a bit shy. An introvert masquerading as an extrovert, I would say.

In the NSFW area of life, I am switchy with a leaning towards submissive, but I tend to go off the energy I get from my partner. I have a wide variety of kinks and a handful of limits - to discover more you'd have to enquire within. I also appreciate the vanilla stuff. I like to think of myself as a freak in the sheets and a geek in the streets, but I would definitely prioritise a friendship and connection before getting to that stuff, and letting it happen naturally.

Appearance wise I'm no gym rat - just a normal man, slender with a lil dad bod, and long hair like a rock star (pretty much exactly like my avatar). But I would say I am attractive to the right sort of person, and I'm comfortable in my body and my personal style.

Please be interesting, and actually invested in having a conversation. If you ghost me, I'm not going to chase you - I have too much self-respect for that.

Lastly I am the owner of two dumb cats and am happy to send their pictures if it sweetens the deal. Oh, and I hate fascists.

If you think we could get along then please reach out and introduce yourself by answering the question: if Gordon Ramsay was coming to your house for dinner, what would you cook him and why?

Hello Fellas. I'm 24, a writer, and someone who enjoys gaming in my free time. I enjoy good conversations, random late night talks, and getting to know someone beyond the usual small talk.

I'm here to meet someone I can genuinely connect with. Someone I can laugh with, tease a little, talk about absolutely anything with, and slowly get comfortable around. I'm not expecting anything to happen overnight.. I'd just like to meet someone who's willing to put in the same energy and see where things go.

I appreciate honesty, a good sense of humor, and people who can be themselves without feeling the need to pretend.

If you're into writing, gaming, or just enjoy having conversations that go beyond the usual "hey, wyd?", feel free to message me. Tell me a little about yourself, or what game you've been playing lately. :)

Been searching for some time now for a bbw pillow princess. No reciprocation needed yes I prefer bbws but not picky. An ongoing thing would be nice but open to one time hookups at this point. Please be clean and willing to have a conversation before meeting up. Let me know you are a pillow princess in the first message to weed out the spam. Hope to hear from someone soon.

My name's Ken and I'm looking for a second lover to add to our poly relationship.

We date separately I have one partner .

I have a house a car and a dog and a lot of free time . I want a second partner and if you are interested you can message me .

If I don't hear from you for a week or two I will consider it null and void and move on .

If you wanna know more you can message me .

Let's chat and see where it goes .

If you’ve messaged me before, I may have lost the message. Please don’t hesitate to reach back out. I just have bad ADHD and bad focus sometimes.

I’m a 23-year-old femme enby looking for genuine friendships or romantic relationships. I go by they/them pronouns, but gender be confusing. At this point I like being a pretty princess or a pretty prince. I am pansexual, poly and partnered, seasoned with some neurospicy-ness (For reference, I’m a little girl/boy sub with bratty tendencies).

I love all kinds of cozy games (Animal Crossing, Disney Dreamlight) and story games (Life is Strange, What Remains of Edith Finch), although I would love a co-op gamer sometimes. Other than games, I love reading, writing, coloring or journaling. As a little, I love anything and everything cutesy and Disney, I love strawberries, dolls, and cute plushies. If ever lost, I may have just wandered off to the toy aisle. I love shopping and thrifting for all kinds of things.

We’ll get along well if you:
• are a natural leader and caregiver
• are looking for something genuine
• are queer- and trans-friendly
• love spending quality time and affection
• love relaxing at home, going to the park, or a day trip to the zoo or aquarium
• are patient and understanding (as I have ADHD)

Despite anything I’ve really said, I am looking forward to chatting with anyone who is truly kind, supportive, and respectful. If you think we’d get along well, feel free to message! I’d love to get to know you.

I’m 47, European, bisexual, curious by nature, and rather fond of good conversation, dry humor and people who are comfortable being themselves.

I’d like to meet a couple who genuinely enjoy each other and have room for a little mischief, flirting and connection with someone new. Your ages matter less to me than your personalities and the dynamic you share.

I like things that develop naturally. A good conversation, an unexpected laugh, that moment when three people realize they’ve been talking for hours without noticing.

Tell me about the two of you. I’m curious what you’re like when nobody else is watching.

Hi all! I’m happily married, I have two kids, and I’m looking for that someone special to talk with that could lead to a long term relationship. My husband and I have been ENM for over a year now and we enjoy it. This would be something just for me.

A bit about me - I have a talent for laughing at inappropriate times, I’m very affectionate, and I’m a hopeless romantic at heart. I love creepy crawly things (I keep tarantulas), rewatching my favorite shows, gaming, and enjoying the outdoors from inside. I’d consider myself an alt girlie or elder emo. I’m Hispanic/Asian, 5’3”, petite, tattooed, and I have piercings. I’m an open book and tend to over share so be prepared for that.

I am attracted to nerdy guys with tattoos. They’re just my weakness. Talk to me about your passions, what game you’re playing, or the song you have on repeat. I would very much prefer to find someone close to my age and I’m also up for exchanging pics to see if the attraction is there.

Hi you lovely people 😁

I'm married with 2 kids, I've been poly for the last 6 years, so I know how to communicate and deal with difficult emotions.

**ABOUT ME:**

I'm an active guy who loves to be adventurous both outside and inside the bedroom 😏 (feel free to ask any questions, I'm completely open about this)

I'm demisexual and sapiosexual, so I value your mind and personality more than how you look, and intimacy is emotional to me.

I play cricket and love fishing. I love the outdoors but also love to watch movies and play games as well.

I have to warn anyone who is interested I love to message.

There is much more to me than this, but putting it all here would mean less to chat about later 😁

I'm more than happy to send pictures once I know you aren't a scammer or something 😂

**WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR:**

Any kind of connection from friendship to a relationship, as long as it's clear from the start what you want and need, knowing boundaries and being able to negotiate when things need to change. (Not interested in ONS or non emotional intimacy)

I'd prefere someone who is also poly and partnered or someone who can be okay with me being married. (I've recently been hurt by someone after 3 years wanting to be monogamous and leaving my life)

I'd love someone who likes to improve themselves and I will take great pleasure in holding you to your word when you say you're going to go for some exercise 😉

Distance isn't an issue for me if you are worth it and you are willing to put in the effort needed to maintain a close relationship or friendship.

If you've read this far then send me a message and you never know what the future holds 🥰

About me:

I'm a 47-year-old man in San Francisco with a successful career in tech and a full, balanced life. In my free time I enjoy live music, good cocktails, F1 weekends, and Warriors games. Fitness is my anchor: lifting, Pilates, boxing, and long walks around the city. On quieter nights you'll find me at home with my tiny senior Pomeranian, reading or watching a good show.

Physically, I am 5’9”, 160lbs, and in good shape. Brown eyes, short brown hair with a bit of salt and pepper. Happy to share pics.

I like making the woman I'm with feel wanted, appreciated, and cared for. I'm affectionate, playful, and happy to take the lead—I plan dates and follow through. There's a calm dominant side to me, and I'd enjoy a consensual D/s dynamic if it's something we both want. Physical touch is central to how I connect, so I'm looking for someone with a strong appetite for a passionate physical relationship who's comfortable talking openly about desires and boundaries.

I'm happily child-free and have had a vasectomy, so I'm looking for someone who wants the same.

What I'm hoping to build

I'm relatively new to non-monogamy, but I'm taking it seriously. I'm currently reading The Ethical Sl-t, thinking hard about how to do this well, and I'm ready for it. Right now I have one long-distance partner who has a primary partner of her own, so I'm looking for someone local to be a real part of my day-to-day life.

By "primary," I mean the relationship that gets first call on our time, energy, and shared life, while leaving real room for other connections. We'd each have the freedom to date others, and I'd want us to talk openly and often about what that looks like and what feels good for both of us. I have a particular interest in exploring together, whether that's swinging or threesomes. Down the line, I'd be open to the partnership growing from two people to three, if the right person came along and it felt right for everyone

Beyond that, I want the everyday stuff: cooking together, catching live music, good conversations over drinks, and pulling each other close at the end of the night.

We’ll get along well if...

You're warm, affectionate, curious, and playful. You communicate directly, take care of yourself, and enjoy your own femininity. I'm attracted to women who are slim and fit, and who enjoy an active life. You have room in your life for a committed partnership and the independence to be yourself. Ideally you're in San Francisco or close enough that seeing each other regularly is easy.

If this resonates tell me about yourself: your age, location, a bit about how you look, your current relationship situation, how you feel about exploring with others together, and the best live show you've seen in the last year.

Kicking my life out of survival gear and moving into thriving. I’m solo-poly going through an amicable divorce. I’m crafty and handy, independent and introverted. I love to read, fiction mostly, am always down for a good book rec.

I’ve started back into bicycling, I have an e-bike that I love, and a walking pad for when I can’t get outdoors. I’ve owned a hobby farm, I’ve traveled quite a lot and always enjoy a good road trip!

You have a sense of humor, and can hold an intelligent conversation. Have a passion for something in your life, and are looking for someone to get to know, hopefully for a start that could turn into something with depth and connection. Kink is always a bonus. MAGA need not apply. With all my heart FDT.

Hello, im 28, married dad of two, and in an open marriage (my wife knows and we’re good). I’m looking for someone I can actually talk to and get close with. I like real conversations, not just surface-level stuff, and I tend to form pretty deep connections once I click with someone.

I’m open to friendship, FWB, or something more if it develops. Online/long distance is fine, and I’m also okay with local if you’re in or near Iowa.

A bit about me:

I’m a big video game nerd (recently been playing Conan Exiles and Two Worlds). I also like board games and card games. Not super into competitive multiplayer because I don’t have the time to get good at them.

I’ve been working on myself a lot. Down 60 lbs in the last 8 months and still going. I’ve been learning progressive overload and actually enjoying the gym.

I like to read when I can focus (ADHD is hard sometimes). Currently reading through Red Rising series. I’m into fantasy, sci-fi, dark romance, and most things in between.

I’m pretty soft Dom leaning. I like taking care of people and checking in, but I don’t want things to start sexual. I’d rather get to know someone first.

I’m usually best matched with people roughly 20–35, but if you’re outside that and still think we’d get along, feel free to message me.

If this sounds like your vibe, send me a message and tell me a little about yourself. Doesn’t have to be long.