r/polyamoryR4R • • 1h ago

USA 30 [f4MF] #florida Looking for a gentle dom couple to outwardly look like just my good friends while yall actually use me as your toy

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Looking for a couple that is fine with keeping up appearances as just some good friends when we are out in public but when we are behind closed doors I am treated as your beloved lil pet. I love praise and respond very well to manipulation and kindness lol.

I am looking to start online because my life is chaotic right now but definitely want to meet in person once trust is established!


r/polyamoryR4R • • 1h ago

27 [NB4R] Georgia

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disabled concert hopped looking for some special someone’s. i’m a love able weirdo plus size af,, kind to a fault, medically complex. & autistic.

i’m a wealth of knowledge and chronically alone. my outlook on life is “hope for the best, expect ten worst.”

i have six cats going on eight and a dog named wiggles. i am severely disabled. so i cant drive, but k love to spend time with people.

when im not sick, im making digital art, painting, seeing, quilting, crocheting, and basically anything i can get
my grubby little hands on.

send me a message c:


r/polyamoryR4R • • 2h ago

USA 36 [M4F] #PR, #Online, EST - Are you also an over thinking people pleaser too... Bonus if you are also questioning who you are too... Lol

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Hiya! 

Hope you are doing amazing! Enjoy my randomness and reach out if you would like to know more and maybe just BS and we can learn about each other!

About me,

First, I am a girl dad to 1, (2yo), so my time when I have her (Divorced) can be busy and hectic, so an understanding with that would be essential. I happily have her on a 2-2-3 schedule so every week is different.

I am your average looking guy, no six pack, no I don't go to the gym (maybe I should but, ugh I don't wanna), I have that dad bod thing going that I'm sure in time will get taken care of, but can't make me till then lol.

Things I enjoy can be ever changing with some short term memory on what I am wanting to do. I would say I am more of the nerd/dork kinda guy, but I do like sports, and played many before/ and worked in them.

I like to watch shows on science and space, I enjoy playing games when I can (rarely it seems), I also enjoy listening to audiobooks from Dungeon Crawler Carl ( finished book 7, holding off on 8 cause I need to pace myself lol), all the way to some yummy smut haha! yes, a guy who enjoys smut... I know lol. I also enjoy going fishing, cooking, being lazy AF, and doom scrolling when I should be doing something productive. Oh, also I bought a piano at goodwill cause I have always wanted to learn to play piano. (maybe one of those short term hobbies again lol).

What can I give? Hmm, that is hard to say, I am a really good listener, love to chat about anything, hear you out. I am never ever judgemental and will always say you are right in the fight ( well idk about if it was with me lol jk). Just ask me if there is anything you really desire or want in a friendship/connection and will gladly let you know if it is something I can give!

What I hope to find...? That is a good question, I know what I envision, and is that possible? Idk, maybe I am cray cray.

But..... What I picture... Is a woman who is confident, smart, sweet and caring, also loves the things I do and wants to talk about them and also their day and just BS and also give shit and be sarcastic and a smartass and can give and take on it. ( not in a way of to cover being mean, but be fun and snarky in a flirting way, if that makes sense?) I would really prefer a woman around my age, maybe a mom too or at least a fun aunt that understands the time it takes to be a good parent (fixing/healing inner child trauma, we don't judge lol).  I also really love and envision a woman who has that gothic style? The black dresses/clothes, tattoos, pericing, the type of woman that surely would have been burned at the stake lol. Which on that note... I would really like to learn about wicca/witch stuff. Something I have been finding myself drawn too. (blame the smut maybe lol).

I am also curious and wanting to learn, talk about, explore, understand ENM/Poly and throuple type dynamics.

Anyways, I was going to keep this short, but I failed that one I think. Welp sending this to the ether and will see what returns. If you got this far thank you, and I hope you have the most amazing day or night and always be good to yourself!


r/polyamoryR4R • • 3h ago

USA 50 [M4F] – Houston – Looking for a consistent FWB, once a month

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Hello Houston and surrounding areas. I’m 50, fit, educated, professional, and married with my wife’s knowledge. I’m looking for one woman to build a fun, ongoing FWB connection with. Not interested in one-night stands.
I enjoy deep conversations, good food, laughter, and great chemistry. Privately, I’m dominant, kinky, affectionate, and very attentive to my partner’s pleasure.
My schedule allows for about one night a month, but that night would be entirely ours. Dinner, drinks, intimacy, and no distractions or rushing.
Ideally, you’re mature, discreet, open-minded, and comfortable with this arrangement.
If this sounds like your kind of thing, tell me a little about yourself. Happy to exchange pics and see if we click.


r/polyamoryR4R • • 3h ago

USA 31 [M4F] #Online to start/#TN, USA, My birthday is next week, and I want new friends not presents!

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Hello there, Poly People!

I'm about to turn 32, and life has been... Well. I am a leftist living in a terribly fashy time, so I guess I would say the past decade was rough and the next 2 years seem like they are only going to be better if I can get out of this country. (Fingers crossed)

Anyways, since I'm not sure of how interested you may be in reading a big block of me rambling on and on, I will provide 6 "hooks" and you can roll for it or take your pick. Send me a message with your number and answer if you're interested!

1: What is your favorite TTRPG?

2: What is your dream for what the world could be in 51 years?

3: What is your go-to: order for dinner, pizza topping, karaoke song, comfort cuisine, and alcoholic beverage?

4: What makes you the most interesting person I'll get to talk to today?

5: What are you making/what is your latest project?

6: What is the first thing you want to know about me and think I should know about you?

I'll provide my answer to the same one you pick when you send your introduction. Hope you've been having fun and a great day!


r/polyamoryR4R • • 4h ago

Europe 31 [M4F] #UK #Online - Geeky, cheeky guy seeks connections to see where they go

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Hey there, thanks for reading this! It would be a pleasure to make your acquaintance. I'm a quirky, geeky, kind hearted married man looking out here today for new friends and connections who have a familiarity with this lifestyle. Could you be looking for something similar?

I'm British, based in Liverpool, but am originally from Southern England. I have been married to my wife for 3 years, together for 13, and we opened up fully on both sides earlier this year. The marriage and a potential future family will naturally always be my priority but I am good at putting effort into all my connections (and am more or less chronically on Reddit). I'm open to connections from all over the world, and to IRL connections if we both feel comfortable and are within reasonable travelling distance. But rushing something is absolutely not my style.

I'm kind, stoic, curious and non-judgemental. Also unapologetically geeky with plenty of nerdy obsessions, sometimes a little bit funny, and definitely a little bit weird. I work a highly responsible job in a shift work pattern, which means you'll sometimes find me available at unusual hours. People would say I am assertive and self-confident, but underneath it all I still feel a bit shy. An introvert masquerading as an extrovert, I would say.

In the NSFW area of life, I am switchy with a leaning towards submissive, but I tend to go off the energy I get from my partner. I have a wide variety of kinks and a handful of limits - to discover more you'd have to enquire within. I also appreciate the vanilla stuff. I like to think of myself as a freak in the sheets and a geek in the streets, but I would definitely prioritise a friendship and connection before getting to that stuff, and letting it happen naturally.

Appearance wise I'm no gym rat - just a normal man, slender with a lil dad bod, and long hair like a rock star (pretty much exactly like my avatar). But I would say I am attractive to the right sort of person, and I'm comfortable in my body and my personal style.

Please be interesting, and actually invested in having a conversation. If you ghost me, I'm not going to chase you - I have too much self-respect for that.

Lastly I am the owner of two dumb cats and am happy to send their pictures if it sweetens the deal. Oh, and I hate fascists.

If you think we could get along then please reach out and introduce yourself by answering the question: if Gordon Ramsay was coming to your house for dinner, what would you cook him and why?


r/polyamoryR4R • • 4h ago

24 [M4F] Online — Writer, gamer, looking to meet someone genuine

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Hello Fellas. I'm 24, a writer, and someone who enjoys gaming in my free time. I enjoy good conversations, random late night talks, and getting to know someone beyond the usual small talk.

I'm here to meet someone I can genuinely connect with. Someone I can laugh with, tease a little, talk about absolutely anything with, and slowly get comfortable around. I'm not expecting anything to happen overnight.. I'd just like to meet someone who's willing to put in the same energy and see where things go.

I appreciate honesty, a good sense of humor, and people who can be themselves without feeling the need to pretend.

If you're into writing, gaming, or just enjoy having conversations that go beyond the usual "hey, wyd?", feel free to message me. Tell me a little about yourself, or what game you've been playing lately. :)


r/polyamoryR4R • • 5h ago

41 [M4F] #New Britain, Connecticut - seeking a bbw pillow princess

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Been searching for some time now for a bbw pillow princess. No reciprocation needed yes I prefer bbws but not picky. An ongoing thing would be nice but open to one time hookups at this point. Please be clean and willing to have a conversation before meeting up. Let me know you are a pillow princess in the first message to weed out the spam. Hope to hear from someone soon.


r/polyamoryR4R • • 5h ago

31[F4M] New England Cutie looking for Same

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Me: 31, 5'5, plus sized (fat- but not into fat fetishes, sorry), and viciously adorable. I like pastels, squishmallows, video games (switch & PS4, also just got a laptop for gaming!), all animals (I have two cats, a leopard gecko, and two aquariums, plus I have befriended the crows outside my work lol), crafts, smoking weed, cuddling, watching movies, snacks, long car rides with loud music and no real destination, strawberries, good pens, and trap music. Hater of AI and this regime.

You: 27-40, located in New England (ideally somewhere near western MA), funny, compassionate, patient. I love swapping selfies so I need you to be comfy with your cute self!

I like a kitchen table type of poly. Not that everybody needs to be friends, but secrets make my brain itchy. Please be an honest human or leave me alone 🙏🏻

I currently have 1 partner, we're long distance and I'm looking for someone more local to love on. I am not looking for any sort of closed relationship or for couples where it's both or nothing.

If you read all of this and are interested, send me a chat with your favorite emoji 🥰✨


r/polyamoryR4R • • 6h ago

33 [M4F] Single dad in #Minneapolis

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Hello!

As the title says, I am a thirty-three year old single dad looking to start dating again and I have full custody of my son who just turned three. As much as I love him our conversations are lacking and we can only play blocks so many times! Most of my free time is spent with him but I'd love to have another adult to see from time to time (someone who lives in Minnesota is preferred). I am only just now trying to dip my toes back into the dating pool. Someone I know mentioned trying Reddit, so here I am! I work a good job, go to therapy, and own my own house. I am not looking for a mom to my son but someone for me. I'd like to believe I am emotionally mature, an open and honest communicator, and can admit when I am wrong.

Random fun facts:

  • My love languages are physical touch and quality time
  • I had my ear cut off (and reattached) when I was four after falling of a stage
  • I lived in thirteen states from ages 18-26 for work
  • I use humor as a defense mechanism
  • I hate being late
  • I am a very clean / neat / organized type of person

Me physically:

  • 6ft
  • 175lbs
  • Sandy blond-brown hair
  • Hazel eyes
  • Lean but muscular/athletic build
  • One tattoo but would like to get more

A few interests of mine:

  • I love to read (I've read 52 so far this year)
  • I enjoy staying active and like working out, running, and spending time outdoors
  • Enjoy sports like any guy (specifically Formula 1 and football)
  • Stand up comedy
  • Reality and trash TV (The Challenge is number one in my heart, but love a good dating show)
  • Lists

I am an open book and no question is off limits.

Hope to talk to you soon!


r/polyamoryR4R • • 6h ago

USA 37 [F4M] [Albany, NY] Nerdy bookworm seeking a partner in crime

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Book loving, coffee fueled nerd with glasses, blue/green eyes, a nose piercing, two tattoos (more planned!), and approximately a million questions about how things work. Tell me something interesting and prepare for a 21 question interview! (Ok, definitely less than 21 questions).

I love romance books, cooking and baking (my love languages!), tabletop games, museums, and DIY projects. Tell me about your latest obsession, teach me something new, or recruit me to hold tools while you work on your car. I'll even pretend I know what I'm doing.

I'm married and practice ethical non-monogamy. I'm demisexual/demiromantic, so I prefer starting with friendship and seeing where things go. No pressure or rushing, just genuine connection and a little flirtation.

I'm trying to spend less time on my phone and more time out in the world, so let's make actual plans instead of becoming pen pals who endlessly say, "We should hang out sometime!"

Cuddle season is coming... just saying.

Why wait until winter to find someone to share coffee, cozy conversations, and maybe a blanket with? Let's see if we click over a fun date now. By the time sweater weather arrives, we might already have someone to steal the warm side of the booth from.

Date ideas? Pick your adventure!

- Coffee and bookstore browsing

- Board game cafés or tabletop nights

- Museums and quirky local attractions

- Bowling, mini golf, or archery (teach me your tricks!)

- Cooking classes, food tours, or dessert dates

- Pottery painting or escape rooms

- Fall festivals and farmers markets

- Dog walks and a potential playdate with my furry friend

I'm Albany based but open to traveling a few hours for the right person and a worthwhile adventure.

I'm looking for laughter, curiosity, mutual effort, playful flirting, and the possibility of something meaningful.

So, what's your pick? Coffee before cuddle season, or are you making me wait until sweater weather?


r/polyamoryR4R • • 6h ago

37 [M4F] California/online - Seeking outdoorsy creatives for a slow burn

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Hey! I'm a partnered polyamorous guy in central California. Not too far from Sequoia/Yosemite NPs. I'm also open to connecting long distance. I'm primarily looking for the right connection, over proximity.

I connect best with others who share some passions of mine! I'm an avid hiker/backpacker, guitarist/keyboardist, I love to cook, and I take care of my body through gym, cardio, and yoga.

I geek out on a wide variety of scientific subjects (mainly trees, geology, and space), but I also began a journey into depth psychology in the last few years. I'm into all things rock, musically, but also EDM. Big fan of science fiction and historical fiction.

I'm progressive, an environmentalist, and agnostic.

If this interests you, and you too are seeking the right connection over proximity or immediacy - please, send me a message with a link to whatever you've been listening to lately or share a photo of what you've been up to. It makes for a great conversation starter!


r/polyamoryR4R • • 7h ago

32 [F4M] from NC looking for LTR

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32 F4M from NC looking for a long-term relationship with men who are compatible

Hi, I'm a 32 yr old AA Demisexual/Polyromantic female living in NC. Im seeking people who are compatible with my personality and isn't just looking for physically intimate relationship. I am NOT looking for a fwb or something kink centered.. Personality wise I'm sometimes a brat and sometimes a princess. I have a big sense of humor and a even bigger unfiltered personality. I require transparency and friendship first seeing as though they're a fundamental key to a successful and healthy long-term relationship. Age and race aren't a issue but please no one over 49. If you're interested my inbox is open. And pls remember to be yourself.

Edit: I am not in Northern California, Im in North Carolina.


r/polyamoryR4R • • 9h ago

USA 34[M4F]SW Ohio

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My name's Ken and I'm looking for a second lover to add to our poly relationship.

We date separately I have one partner .

I have a house a car and a dog and a lot of free time . I want a second partner and if you are interested you can message me .

If I don't hear from you for a week or two I will consider it null and void and move on .

If you wanna know more you can message me .

Let's chat and see where it goes .


r/polyamoryR4R • • 9h ago

USA 23 [NB4A] #Online #MD - Neurospicy Enby Princess Here to Cause Chaos

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If you’ve messaged me before, I may have lost the message. Please don’t hesitate to reach back out. I just have bad ADHD and bad focus sometimes.

I’m a 23-year-old femme enby looking for genuine friendships or romantic relationships. I go by they/them pronouns, but gender be confusing. At this point I like being a pretty princess or a pretty prince. I am pansexual, poly and partnered, seasoned with some neurospicy-ness (For reference, I’m a little girl/boy sub with bratty tendencies).

I love all kinds of cozy games (Animal Crossing, Disney Dreamlight) and story games (Life is Strange, What Remains of Edith Finch), although I would love a co-op gamer sometimes. Other than games, I love reading, writing, coloring or journaling. As a little, I love anything and everything cutesy and Disney, I love strawberries, dolls, and cute plushies. If ever lost, I may have just wandered off to the toy aisle. I love shopping and thrifting for all kinds of things.

We’ll get along well if you:
• are a natural leader and caregiver
• are looking for something genuine
• are queer- and trans-friendly
• love spending quality time and affection
• love relaxing at home, going to the park, or a day trip to the zoo or aquarium
• are patient and understanding (as I have ADHD)

Despite anything I’ve really said, I am looking forward to chatting with anyone who is truly kind, supportive, and respectful. If you think we’d get along well, feel free to message! I’d love to get to know you.


r/polyamoryR4R • • 11h ago

47 [M4F] Bisexual from Europe, seeking a lovely couple to connect with and build a sensual poly triad.

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I’m 47, European, bisexual, curious by nature, and rather fond of good conversation, dry humor and people who are comfortable being themselves.

I’d like to meet a couple who genuinely enjoy each other and have room for a little mischief, flirting and connection with someone new. Your ages matter less to me than your personalities and the dynamic you share.

I like things that develop naturally. A good conversation, an unexpected laugh, that moment when three people realize they’ve been talking for hours without noticing.

Tell me about the two of you. I’m curious what you’re like when nobody else is watching.


r/polyamoryR4R • • 12h ago

46 [M4F] #UK #Dorset #Online Looking for someone to have fun, friendship, love or all 3 😁

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Hi you lovely people 😁

I'm married with 2 kids, I've been poly for the last 6 years, so I know how to communicate and deal with difficult emotions.

**ABOUT ME:**

I'm an active guy who loves to be adventurous both outside and inside the bedroom 😏 (feel free to ask any questions, I'm completely open about this)

I'm demisexual and sapiosexual, so I value your mind and personality more than how you look, and intimacy is emotional to me.

I play cricket and love fishing. I love the outdoors but also love to watch movies and play games as well.

I have to warn anyone who is interested I love to message.

There is much more to me than this, but putting it all here would mean less to chat about later 😁

I'm more than happy to send pictures once I know you aren't a scammer or something 😂

**WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR:**

Any kind of connection from friendship to a relationship, as long as it's clear from the start what you want and need, knowing boundaries and being able to negotiate when things need to change. (Not interested in ONS or non emotional intimacy)

I'd prefere someone who is also poly and partnered or someone who can be okay with me being married. (I've recently been hurt by someone after 3 years wanting to be monogamous and leaving my life)

I'd love someone who likes to improve themselves and I will take great pleasure in holding you to your word when you say you're going to go for some exercise 😉

Distance isn't an issue for me if you are worth it and you are willing to put in the effort needed to maintain a close relationship or friendship.

If you've read this far then send me a message and you never know what the future holds 🥰


r/polyamoryR4R • • 16h ago

USA 47 [M4F] #SanFrancisco: Seeking a primary/nesting partnership built on trust and chemistry

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About me:

I'm a 47-year-old man in San Francisco with a successful career in tech and a full, balanced life. In my free time I enjoy live music, good cocktails, F1 weekends, and Warriors games. Fitness is my anchor: lifting, Pilates, boxing, and long walks around the city. On quieter nights you'll find me at home with my tiny senior Pomeranian, reading or watching a good show.

Physically, I am 5’9”, 160lbs, and in good shape. Brown eyes, short brown hair with a bit of salt and pepper. Happy to share pics.

I like making the woman I'm with feel wanted, appreciated, and cared for. I'm affectionate, playful, and happy to take the lead—I plan dates and follow through. There's a calm dominant side to me, and I'd enjoy a consensual D/s dynamic if it's something we both want. Physical touch is central to how I connect, so I'm looking for someone with a strong appetite for a passionate physical relationship who's comfortable talking openly about desires and boundaries.

I'm happily child-free and have had a vasectomy, so I'm looking for someone who wants the same.

What I'm hoping to build

I'm relatively new to non-monogamy, but I'm taking it seriously. I'm currently reading The Ethical Sl-t, thinking hard about how to do this well, and I'm ready for it. Right now I have one long-distance partner who has a primary partner of her own, so I'm looking for someone local to be a real part of my day-to-day life.

By "primary," I mean the relationship that gets first call on our time, energy, and shared life, while leaving real room for other connections. We'd each have the freedom to date others, and I'd want us to talk openly and often about what that looks like and what feels good for both of us. I have a particular interest in exploring together, whether that's swinging or threesomes. Down the line, I'd be open to the partnership growing from two people to three, if the right person came along and it felt right for everyone

Beyond that, I want the everyday stuff: cooking together, catching live music, good conversations over drinks, and pulling each other close at the end of the night.

We’ll get along well if...

You're warm, affectionate, curious, and playful. You communicate directly, take care of yourself, and enjoy your own femininity. I'm attracted to women who are slim and fit, and who enjoy an active life. You have room in your life for a committed partnership and the independence to be yourself. Ideally you're in San Francisco or close enough that seeing each other regularly is easy.

If this resonates tell me about yourself: your age, location, a bit about how you look, your current relationship situation, how you feel about exploring with others together, and the best live show you've seen in the last year.


r/polyamoryR4R • • 20h ago

37 [M4F] Toronto - Let’s see if we get along :)

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Based in Toronto.
Partnered and non-monogamous. Dating and living solo.
Looking for my people, community, and fun as an act of defiance in dark times. Open to any kind of relationship including comets.

I love deep conversations as much as being silly, or binge-watching a show (or Jurassic Park 🦖 🦕 )

I’m being selective with my time, which means that I’m not available 24/7 but I’ll make room for people who I bond with and make room for me. Some weeks I have all the bandwidth in the world. Other weeks, I need 3 days to hibernate. I guess co-owning a business has its perks but can also be draining 🥲

I’m also looking for groups to join that align with my values where I can feel safe and communal, places to explore my queerness, places where I can thrive.

I value companionship, friendship, care, and having my people’s backs. Like, don’t MIA for 3 weeks. Relationships take care, interest, and intention.

Being queer taught me that anyone can be a friend, friends can become lovers, and lovers can become friends.

Let’s see what the future looks like.


r/polyamoryR4R • • 23h ago

31 [M4MF] Looking for a couple to join as a third

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Hey all :)

I am a single male looking to join a throuple, specifically one where the M is bi like myself. I love the dynamic of a MMF threeway relationship, and am hoping there’s a couple out there that’s looking for someone like myself to join. I should clarify I’m not at all interested in a kind of dynamic where there’s a power imbalance between the M’s, but one of equality between all three people. If you’re interested, shoot me a DM :)


r/polyamoryR4R • • 1d ago

28 [M4F] #Iowa #Online Nerd looking for a real connection

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Hello, im 28, married dad of two, and in an open marriage (my wife knows and we’re good). I’m looking for someone I can actually talk to and get close with. I like real conversations, not just surface-level stuff, and I tend to form pretty deep connections once I click with someone.

I’m open to friendship, FWB, or something more if it develops. Online/long distance is fine, and I’m also okay with local if you’re in or near Iowa.

A bit about me:

I’m a big video game nerd (recently been playing Conan Exiles and Two Worlds). I also like board games and card games. Not super into competitive multiplayer because I don’t have the time to get good at them.

I’ve been working on myself a lot. Down 60 lbs in the last 8 months and still going. I’ve been learning progressive overload and actually enjoying the gym.

I like to read when I can focus (ADHD is hard sometimes). Currently reading through Red Rising series. I’m into fantasy, sci-fi, dark romance, and most things in between.

I’m pretty soft Dom leaning. I like taking care of people and checking in, but I don’t want things to start sexual. I’d rather get to know someone first.

I’m usually best matched with people roughly 20–35, but if you’re outside that and still think we’d get along, feel free to message me.

If this sounds like your vibe, send me a message and tell me a little about yourself. Doesn’t have to be long.


r/polyamoryR4R • • 1d ago

34[M4F] #Texas/Anywhere Shy, nerdy guy seeking companion

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Hello users of Reddit!!!

I find myself in need of some new people in my life, and figured I'd give it a shot here! Friends at the very base level, but ideally I'd love to find someone to build something amazing with. Hey, a guy can dream can't he?

Who am I? Well, on the surface, I seem like a normal, New England transplant in Michigan, and now a Michigan transplant in Texas trying to make his way in the world. I won my own car and house, work full time, come home, take care of the kitty. I absolutely LOVE to cook, often times you'll find me tinkering with a new recipe. I love music and moves, bit of a gamer, and definitely a huge nerd. Want a surefire way to my heart? Pick a song out for me, and I'll gladly do the same. I'm also very witchy, have been pagan for a few years now, and would love to connect with someone on that page.

I am divorced from my ex wife of three years, and we have a daughter we share custody of. Currently, I am in a long distance relationship with my soon to be nesting partner.

Deep down however, I crave something more..deep..dark. Tagged NSFW for this reason. I'd love to meet someone in the kink lifestyle. I've been..into this scene for quite sometime, and would love to build upon that with someone. Petplay is a huge thing for me. I love that clingy, obsessive, needy aspect. I also tend to fall into a dd/LG, and caretaker side. I have a kink list a mile wide that I'm happy to discuss in messages, and am very open minded. There is nothing I won't try twice, and even then it's very hard to get me to say no. Again, we can discuss all this in our messages!

I am also open to joining another couple if it's romantic l, and not just sexual. I don't do casual hookups. I am also a switch, but it's very picky who I switch for. A lot of bad experiences.

Hopefully, someone out there feels like me. Don't be shy, reach out, say hi, and tell me your all time favorite movie. The one that no.matter what, you'll always sit and watch. I will not answer without it! Lets me know you read my post Read again!! Low effort messages, and messages without reading all the way through won't be answered!

P.S..tagged online, but I'm very open, and honestly hoping I find someone close. If this progresses into something, I'd like to be able to see the person.

P.PS. I hate that I have to include this, but if you're not feeling it, or something comes up, please communicate, don't just ghost. This also goes for when we swap pictures. Looks are the last thing I look for, but I understand that to some people, looks take first priority. If theres no attraction, just be honest. We're all adults here.


r/polyamoryR4R • • 1d ago

USA 39 [T4F] Bangor, Maine - Polyam goth woman looking for a local woman to actually connect with

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Hey, I’m Foxy. I’m a 39 year old polyam trans woman in the Bangor/Brewer area, dating independently and hoping to find a local cis woman where there’s actual mutual attraction, chemistry, affection, and the potential for something romantic and physical if we click.

I’m a plus size trans woman with an alt/goth style, piercings and tattoos. I’m femme at heart, affectionate, kinky and switchy. I’m into metal, gaming, dark humor, Heathen/Norse stuff, cuddling, flirting, power exchange, and conversations that can bounce from completely ridiculous to deeply personal without warning.

I’m partnered, but I am not looking for someone to join an existing relationship. You’d be dating me, not my partners.

I’m shy and awkward in person at first, so I need to get comfortable talking online before meeting. I’m not looking for months of pen pal limbo though. If we’re enjoying each other and there’s attraction, I’d rather meet for coffee somewhere public and see whether the chemistry survives leaving the internet.

I’m primarily looking around Bangor/Brewer because I don’t drive and long distance is not what I need right now. I’m looking for a woman who actually wants to flirt, initiate sometimes, be affectionate, and see where things can go instead of endlessly exchanging “hey, how are you?” messages.

I’m not looking for men, and I’m not looking for someone to complete a couple. I’m looking for a woman who is genuinely interested in me as her own person and comfortable with the fact that I’m polyam and dating independently.

If you’re local, polyam or genuinely comfortable dating someone who is, and any of this made you think “hmm, cute fox lady,” send me a message and tell me a little about yourself. A selfie is appreciated too. 🖤🦊


r/polyamoryR4R • • 1d ago

USA 30 [F4M] #TX - Looking for something long term

13 Upvotes

Hi all! I’m happily married, I have two kids, and I’m looking for that someone special to talk with that could lead to a long term relationship. My husband and I have been ENM for over a year now and we enjoy it. This would be something just for me.

A bit about me - I have a talent for laughing at inappropriate times, I’m very affectionate, and I’m a hopeless romantic at heart. I love creepy crawly things (I keep tarantulas), rewatching my favorite shows, gaming, and enjoying the outdoors from inside. I’d consider myself an alt girlie or elder emo. I’m Hispanic/Asian, 5’3”, petite, tattooed, and I have piercings. I’m an open book and tend to over share so be prepared for that.

I am attracted to nerdy guys with tattoos. They’re just my weakness. Talk to me about your passions, what game you’re playing, or the song you have on repeat. I would very much prefer to find someone close to my age and I’m also up for exchanging pics to see if the attraction is there.


r/polyamoryR4R • • 1d ago

22 [M4M] Philippines 🇵🇭 — Looking for a genuine connection

1 Upvotes

Hey! I'm 22, male/bi, from the Philippines, and I'm here hoping to meet a guy I can genuinely connect with.

I'm open-minded and curious about meeting new people, sharing stories, and seeing where things go. I'm not expecting anything to happen overnight. I'd rather get to know someone naturally and let things develop at their own pace.

I'm looking for someone I can talk to about pretty much anything — random thoughts, how our day went, personal experiences, deep conversations, or even the most unserious things imaginable. I enjoy getting to know what makes someone who they are, what they care about, and what makes them happy.

I'd love to find someone affectionate, respectful, playful, and emotionally mature. Someone who knows how to communicate, can make me laugh, and is comfortable being themselves. Physical attraction matters, of course, but I think the best connections happen when there's chemistry beyond appearances, too.

I'm open to friendship, flirting, dating, or something more if we genuinely click. I'm not really into forcing things or rushing into anything. Let's start with a conversation and see if we vibe.

A little about me: I'm a chill guy who enjoys good conversations and getting to know different kinds of people. I'm happy to exchange stories, talk about life, share a few laughs, and discover things we might have in common.

Since I'm from the Philippines, I'm open to meeting fellow Filipinos or people from other countries. Distance isn't necessarily a dealbreaker if we both make an effort to stay connected.

If any of this sounds like your kind of thing, feel free to message me. Tell me a little about yourself, where you're from, or just say hi. You don't need a perfect opening line.

Let's see where a simple conversation takes us. ❤️