I don’t know if it’s because I’m a lesbian, and I know there’s no way I’d speak to women the way men generally do… but sometimes I’m so put off and annoyed by the way clients talk to us. I do wonder though if I’m overly sensitive and if I should just take it as part of the territory with this line of work? But then again I have plenty of wonderful, respectful clients who don’t talk in this way.

I had a client today arrive he’d booked for a 30 minute massage/ hand job. He walks in and before I’ve even had the chance to say “hey how are you” he looks me up and down and says “fuck me you’re hot aren’t you.”

We get into the bedroom and I ask for the money. He again looks me up and down and says “how much to fuck you darl?” I looked at him for a few seconds and said “so if you want to upgrade to full service it’s $***”. Ofc he didn’t have that amount and tried to haggle which I refused.

All through the massage he kept making remarks about how badly he wants to fuck me, he didn’t expect me to me so fucking hot etc etc. I wasn’t replying to him but the final straw was “how do you like to be fucked?” I said to him “sorry but you’ve booked for a massage and a handjob happy ending which is my cheapest service. Dirty talk is not included and I don’t appreciate how many times you’ve spoken about ‘fucking me’” he seemed genuinely surprised as if he just assumed I’d be fine with it ?

I rolled him over and got him done before his time was up but I wanted him out. He clearly wasn’t happy when he left as he slammed the door hard behind him 😂😂 does anyone else hate those kind of clients? As I say idk if it’s partially to do with being gay and knowing id never talk to a woman like that unless it was someone I had very strong chemistry with and it was part of dirty talk. But a stranger ??

I shared an Airbnb with another worker once and while she was in the bathroom her phone pinged. She asked me to check the message for her and I told her to ignore him he sounds like a gross time waster. She asked me to read the message out and it was something like “hi baby u look so fuckin sexy how much to come bounce on my cock for an hour?” To me that would be an instant block but she was totally fine with it and I think went ahead and confirmed a booking with him. So I understand it’s different for everyone. But anytime I get a client who speaks in that way I just wanna punch them and kick them out 😂

I’m genuinely getting concerned about the selective moderation in some of the sugar dating subs. A lot of young women go there looking for advice about what’s normal and what they should expect, but everything seems incredibly skewed toward the “sugar daddies,” if you can even call some of them that, and what benefits them.

I’ve been fairly successful sugar dating and like giving advice because some of the scraps, genuinely unsafe situations, and poor treatment I see women being encouraged to accept are mind boggling to me.

Recently I’ve had posts removed for rules that didn’t really apply and now I’ve been banned with no explanation, meanwhile men openly rage baiting women are apparently fine.

It honestly just concerns me for the inexperienced women going there thinking they’re getting unbiased advice. I guess you can’t save them all, but yeesh.

I don't know what to do. I put on about 15 lb with a new job that I got where I pretty much sit all day at a desk and for 8 hours I just sit. this has destroyed my body, and even though I'm happy that I have another job and it's 9:00 to 5:00, and I don't have to worry so much about them or making money off of them..

people are talking about me online. the hobbyist they're talking about me being fat or gaining weight or not being a slender as I am in my pics, and I'm thinking right now that I'm pretty much fkd.

I don't know if I should just address it or take different pics I guess I should? I think I'm probably going to just take some other pictures and I'm not sure how to address it with the people that are online like the hobbyists etc. I have a strict no review policy and they've all been reviewing me. I don't Google my name a whole lot because I get really upset when I do.

but tonight I did and it's a really bad habit and I promised myself I wouldn't Google myself a whole lot but tonight I did and I'm in the process of realizing that I'm probably going to have to quit because there are a couple people that are talking about how I'm heavier than my pictures.

15 lb is not really all that much and on my frame I guess it is because I'm quite petite. I think I went from 125 to 135 .

has anybody had this happen where you fluctuate with your weight?

I'm also in the process of going through the change of life that women go through and so I don't have periods anymore and I think estrogen or lack thereof is creating this situation on top of everything else.

I don't know what to say here but I do feel like I'm kind of running out of options and maybe I should just quit at this point.

it really was a lot of money that was coming in and helping me with my business being on the side while I still worked but I don't know what I'm going to do now, I'm getting fat.

The title says it all. I'm very confused by all the tax stuff. I have another PAYG Job in addition to the escorting . I'd rather someone who knows the escorting business rather than just a regular accountant.

for the context I am a trans woman that fully transitionned and live my life as a woman since 2-3 years now. I feel like ever since i started to pass as a woman, sex work was calling me more and more.

First, finding a "normal" job as a woman is so hard. and to add that, i'm diagnosed with autism so it doesn't help.

Second, people keep treating me like a slut because i like being hot in everyday life, it keeps me away from my dysphoria. So you know if people, men and women, already treats me like one then what can I be scared of?

My own safety. That was the only thing that was holding me back from becoming a sex worker. It's so scary.

Ever since I started dating men, they usually treats like shit and fuck me for free. They are liars and manipulative. I started to lose interest and faith in serious relationships. I feel like it's just not an option for me and for who I am.

But i was seeing this guy, we were in love but weren't even in a serious relationship cause he was scared of me being a trans woman. One day we had an argument and came to my house and beat me. Broke my 400euros phone despite knowing i'm very poor. He threatened to come back and kill me. I had to go to the police.
This moment changed me.

the last thread holding me back had snapped. Cause even if you are not a hooker, they will try to kill me, they will punch me in the face, they will try to r*pe me. So why would i not do that? In any case, as a woman, i will always be exposed to violence from men.

I opened an onlyfans. Don't make a lot of money, 200-300 euros per month but for me it's a lot. And i am very happy about it. Now they treat me like shit but at least i'm getting paid !

I plan to do sw irl now. I'm a bit anxious about it, I'm trying to get organized and learn as much as possible before I start. if anyone has any advice, i'm from France.

Thanks for reading ♥

Finally got around to sorting through our Sxhibition photos.

I was working the BFX booth across the weekend, so I didn’t get to see absolutely everything, but there were definitely some funny, random and chaotic moments along the way.

For anyone else who went, what did you think overall?

What was your favourite part? Funniest moment? Anything you thought was genuinely worth seeing, or anything you’d change if you went again next year?

Would also be funny to know if we unknowingly crossed paths with anyone from here.

I made the fucked up decision to tell my parents what I do crying on opioids I had been prescribed for an injury. They love me unconditionally, but I feel like it really damaged our relationship. I live with them now and I have an opportunity to pretend that I’m not going to do it anymore at least. I feel so selfish because I told them. I inflicted so much unnecessary pain. And now how do I handle it best? I think just avoid the subject and eventually have them convinced it’s a part of my life I’ve fully left behind and that now I’m reformed lol. Is anyone here in a similar situation? I know it’s obviously pretty uncommon to be this stupid and careless.

P.S. I know there’s not anything necessarily stupid or careless about doing SW, specifically my problem with my own behavior is that I told my folks lmao

I'm just exhausted with the current situation of this street I'm working at,it's empty as fuck compared to other places where SW is done at,the issue is I don't know how to find any other place to work at and how to find one

and another issue is where I work is a trans SWer only area so it also makes me wonder if working at a mostly cis girl area would work out for me and if I will feel comfortable in a cis girl area

I'm only into Sexting & PSO but for now sexting. Talk To Me kicked me off but says I have to sign something if I want back on with them but I'm not supporting that cheap ass company. Fansly has been slow for me even with offering of audio clips. I don't do nude content. Arousr support hasn't been responding back to me yet. I'm starting again on I Want Phone. I tried dating apps before but obviously get kicked off after some time. I want to use the dating apps as backup when I start dancing so not now. I'm outta options so I might fuck with one dating app to get motion. Does anyone have success using Facebook? I read you get possible hits on FB dating?? I tried Sweet Sext but read it's scammy so I'm not comfortable using it BUT I got interests there but you get flagged on it for talk of offsites. I read Tryst is possible for sext but thought it was for escorting mainly. I used Craigslist before but no hits. I'm not Sext Panther worthy yet, (low following). Niteflirt is slow for me as well & it's been a while. Helpful comments only.

Just tried a male escort recently and had a great experience. He was so kind and attentive. I wasn't sure if he actually was attracted to me though, he didn't finish but did tell me he wanted me to reach out for him again in the future.

1. Thank you for your work.
2. Is it normal to not cum?
3. How can I tell if he actually found me attractive? He said I was cute and mentioned the reaching out for him again, but I feel bad if I'm forcing him to have sex with someone he isn't attracted to.

Edit: Thanks for the responses guys, good perspectives! I wasn't sure if I should actually reach out for him again, but probably will now.

For the people asking why I hired him = It was safer, cleaner, and much more enjoyable than a casual hookup. I actually wanted to get off (surprising, I know). It was great to be with someone who actually knows what to do with a woman's body and focused on my pleasure.

Hi everyone!

I just started creating adult content and building a small fanbase. After chatting with some of my subscribers, a few of them have offered to send me some money in exchange for chats, video calls, etc.

My platform is faceless so I have managed to keep my identity hidden and prefer to keep it that way, so this is where my dilemma is....

When it comes to sending money (especially internationally) - what are the safest and easiest ways to send and receive money with as little personal information shared as possible?

On PayPal I can hide the phone number attached to the account, but my full name is still visible, so if you have any tips for receiving money as anonymously as possible, I would really appreciate it!

Thanks in advance!

A guy called me to spend the whole weekend with him (Friday, saturday and Sunday) and I charged him 2500. But I dont know If thats a good price its the first time I get a deal like this can someone pls tell me If is good price or no?

So, i would just resume "Violeta" as this "young pretty inexperienced hypersexual girl " because i'm in my 20s, pretty and the whole quirky, flirtatious "girlfriend" experience makes the clients fly towards me lol

also, the inexperience thing saves me because im new at sex work and when i do something akward or strange they just associate that as what its listed on my page and then they aren't directly expecting perfection from me.

Obviously, this differs from who i am in reality, and i only activate this mode when im being payed.

Hey all, I have noticed that this one SW in my neighbourhood has red curtains in one of the rooms facing street. After this I noticed a few more windows with red curtains or lights even in days condos.
Does that means that SWorkers usually keep red curtains to make them identified in the area that sw happens here?

So a agency reached out to me and the manager flew out to my area to meet me. He claims to have over 10 years of experience but he was so unprofessional he didn’t even try to take professional pictures of me and just told me to take some selfies and I just had enough and gave him some professional photos of mine. He said he will get a 30% cut and I have to book the hotels, is that normal? And then he told me he uses mostly privatedelights to advertise his girls and he kept interrogating me. I asked why would people work with him when they can just do it themselves and he does so minimal work, he got super defensive and said I can’t get on any of these sites without him and now that he has uploaded me (he used a old acc to get me on pd and apparently they don’t accept people anymore) if I sign up myself I’ll get banned wtf

For example, a photo of myself with a dildo, with the offer to give it a titjob while saying their name. Then if they message me I can create the video for them with any other requests. Something like that.

I’m new please be kind!

Hey everyone! I’ve been selling non-face nudes on Reddit for a while now, and I’ve recently started hearing that some people might be taking my content and try to resell them as their own AND leak some of it on another platform.

I’m wondering if anyone else has dealt with this and what you did about it ? Just trying to figure out the best way to handle it. Any advice would be appreciated!

I (27M) put up my ad and started escorting about 3 months ago targeted towards women and couples. I've had succesful bookings, but while i can get by from it the money isn't that great. Most of the people that contact me are men pretending to be a woman fishing for content or sexting for free. There has even been 3 times that i went to a persons place and it turns out they're male. Like do you think i magically turn gay for you and happily accept your booking after you lied to me and let me travel for nothing? (Screening and deposits aren't a thing in my country btw)

Anyway.. i'd like to earn more money and am considering taking men on as clients because despite me being clear on only providing for women and couples they still reach out to me the most. I think i can make significantly more this way, but its quite a hurdle for me. Since doing this i'm used to sleeping with women that i'm not attracted to, (oldest client was a 72yo woman and i have no problems with it), but doing gay things while straight is another thing. Never took anything up my ass so i feel like that is not an option, but maybe i could get okay with me fucking them and preform oral both ways. I'm also thinking i can charge more for men

Just looking for some people with experience with this for some advice. How do you cope with it? Or maybe after a while you don't care anymore? Being chronically depressed has stopped me from holding normal jobs, i feel like my looks are the only thing i have. Otherwise i would just get a regular job and do this on the side for women and couples

Thnx

Lately, I’ve been feeling so lost and stuck in this industry. For months, I’ve been trying to figure everything out on my own, but I’m honestly at my breaking point. I don’t have any friends in the industry to talk to, so I’m finally putting my pride aside and asking you guys for advice.

For some background, I’ve been doing SW since I was 18 (2020). I started stripping in ATL and did that for about 4 years before transitioning into FSSW around 2 years ago. When I first started, things were AMAZING. Money was coming in consistently, I was able to buy a car, support myself, and enjoy the lifestyle. Unfortunately, I went through a pretty bad period of depression, lost my momentum, and financially fell off.

For context, I’m a slim Black woman, early 20s. I have my own website, maintain my socials, regularly update my ads, and understand the basics of marketing myself. I’m not new to this.

I recently relocated from ATL (the fast urban lifestyle) to Southwest Florida, and the market here has been painfully slow for me. I’m literally down to my last $5. Most of my inquiries have been time-wasters, people who refuse deposits, or conversations that never turn into legitimate bookings. I can’t afford to rent a room for incalls right now, and outcalls haven't been bringing in consistent income either.

I’ve even been doing Instacart to keep some money coming in, but that’s been slow too. I’ve never worked the blade, but I’d be lying if I said the thought hasn’t crossed my mind out of desperation. Even then, the more active areas are in other cities.

At this point, I keep asking myself: Is my hustle broken, or am I just burnt out? 😭

I’ve been in difficult financial situations before and managed to bounce back, but this time feels different. It’s like I have some kind of Sex Worker writer’s block, lol. I know what I’m capable of, but for some reason, I feel completely stuck.

And I’ll admit, seeing all the 304 content on TikTok hasn’t helped. I KNOW social media is a highlight reel and people exaggerate, but when you’re already struggling, watching everyone else seemingly make money so effortlessly can really mess with your confidence. Watching the girls showing themselves on the blade, outcalls and even in the clubs motivate me and discourage me at the same time.

For months, I’ve been searching through SW subreddits, reading old discussions, researching markets, and trying to find something that will help me regain my momentum. I feel like I’ve been going in circles.

The frustrating part is that I genuinely enjoy SW. I don’t want to leave the industry. I just want to figure out how to get back on my feet, rebuild my confidence, and start making consistent money again.

So I’d really appreciate hearing from other experienced SWers, especially anyone who has dealt with burnout, relocating to a slower market, or having to rebuild their business from the ground up.

How did you get out of your slump? Did you change markets, diversify your income, take a break, switch up your marketing, or completely restructure how you worked?

I’m open to constructive criticism, practical advice, and hearing about your experiences. I’m not looking for a magic solution, just some genuine guidance from people who understand this lifestyle.

Sorry for the long post, and thank you to anyone who takes the time to respond. 💕

I’m an immigrant with no papers. I came here to work during a couple of years, buy properties and go back home. I came sooner than I thought and as I couldn’t miss the opportunity I didn’t plan well the part of sending money or organizing with an accountant.

I would like to send money, we are talking about 15k or monthly, to my account in Colombia but I don’t know the best way for me. I just don’t wanna have problems here for passing the limit and maybe getting blocked from platforms like my Bank of America account, wise, western union…

I don’t know if someone knows about this or has a similar situation. Should I talk with an accountant? Or maybe my situation doesn’t have solution.

I’ve done it in Missouri before, just curious. Pre-op. Not interested in stealthing or told about safety too much just anyone with possible experience in it.