Im an ISFJ, and i look very generic - no tattoos (though i hope to get some soon), no piercings really (though i do have two open holes in each earlobe, I just dont wear earrings at all anymore). My clothing style is all over the place, some days i look a little emo and some days i look "conventional" i guess, but i just wear what i like and put a lot of effort into coordinating my outfits so they match.

Although i went through the phase where i dyed my hair crazy colors years ago, im over it now, im back to my natural hair color, and I wear my hair in a very basic manner. (The frequent bleaching and hair dying phase didn't really feel like me though, if im being honest.. and it fried my hair too, so due to the hair frying i dont recommend it)

However, in spite of all this, I love what i guess would fall under hard/alt rock and metalcore music... but when I divulge this fact about me to other people, they usually say that I dont "look" like I listen to that type of music at all. I dont branch out very much and i tend to listen to the same stuff over and over, because the familiarity soothes my Dom Si, and even though the music may sound heavy and angry, it actually calms me down most of the time.

So yeah, i just want to know if anyone can relate.

My bestie told me recently that she hates asking questions at work cuz she’s afraid she’s “burdening people with her confusion.” (Her words.) At the same time, she faces the consequences of not seeking clarification early on when situations drag on or escalate, which is also a stressor for her. And people will just end up telling her, “why didn’t you ask me earlier?”

Asking questions for clarification has actually been a strength of mine since I was a kid, so I can’t really relate. ISFJs, please advise! 🙂