Hey,

Loving this new (to me) emergence of male audio where they're talking dirty and moaning/grunting/whatever buuuuut I'd prefer a Black man. I searched erotic ASMR "African American" and got a lot of non-erotic stuff. are there other search terms I should try or does anyone know of some creators I can start with?

Independence is so overrated. I want to depend on someone lol. But maybe not how you’re thinking. I want to count on someone to take me out and pay for it 😭🤣 Im so tired of paying for everything myself. I don’t want a relationship(until someone makes me want one) I just wanna date for the perks that matter.

Like when you come pick me up take my garbage out too.
Please help me help you put this dining server cabinet thing together.
I want to not open that lil portfolio the check be coming in 🥺
I just did some goofy shit and the paint on my wall gotta small bubble, come fix this shit king ding a ling.

Im so tired of myself doing all this shit 😩 and all the testicle havers want to put me to work asking if I can cook or know how to give a massage 😒 no no uno reverse i dont cook shortie and I’m just trying to figure out what kinda carpentry skills you got i can exploit. At least 15 years ago they kinda did shit worth doing while being worthless.

Is this a rant? Is it a plea? Do I need bubble bath, blunt and bed? IDK this the internet and what I am is bored of being the only one dating me lol

I am genuinely curious as to why older black women in office setting gatekeep or "act" hostile towards younger black women in the workforce. I don't expect us to be friends but I expect us to be respectful and show humility towards one another since we are coworkers and spend 40 hours a week together.

I find myself time and time again in different office settings when I try to befriend older black women at work or try to get information from them (they are usually the ones who have been at the job the longest) its met with attitude, jealousy or this idea i am trying to take thier job.

One recent incident, an old black woman I work with was nice to me the first month of me being hired. We would eat lunch together, she shared her files (without me asking) and we made "inside blk ppl jokes" playful nothing serious. I was under the impression we were cool then all of a sudden about 2 months in, it felt like a switch went off in her head. She stop saying good morning to me, she distanced herself from our conversations and purposely did not introduce me to a vendor (she introduced everyone else in the department who is either White or Hispanic). I done nothing to this woman as our work barely overlap one another.

I am genuinely confused, I've been in a manger positions and been one of the longest employees at a company before and my mindset is to pass on knowledge so if I leave or not in the office no one would be lost. If there is another person of color (specifically women) in a office I want to give her all the tools she needs. In my eyes if she succeeds, I succeeded especially in office settings that are usually predominantly white.

Its usually (not for nothing) black boomers who are like this. Why?

Hi! In the past I had color 30 braids for two years straight, looked great on me! I recently went back to black but have now been wanting color again. I want to try a 27/30 color mix but am unsure of how it will look. I see different videos on tiktok and they all look like completely different shades. Some of them look absolutely gorgeous and some look too yellow for my liking. If anyone has done any braids with the xpression M27/30 pre mix specifically photos would be appreciated 😅 I’m just worried it’ll look to yellow like some of the tiktoks I’ve seen, and want a better idea before I commit. Here’s the braiding hair I got and my inspo!

I am a black woman. I was walking to the bus stop when a black man in front of me turned his head to look at me and spit on the grounding my direction. I was disgusted but not surprised

My grandmother taught me how to press, we rollerset, perm/relaxer, and color my hair. Been doing my hair since high school. About 5 years ago I was introduced to a keratin treatment by a white stylist. She didn’t rinse it out and I loved it. Lasted over a year because I have 3c. Found a black stylist and she applied a keratin but her method was rinsing it out and more passes with the flat iron. In this economy I need to go back to doing my own hair.
I would like any recommendations on brands for me. 3c hair type. I typically wear the “wet look” in summer and straight (diligent durag wrapper in the winter as to not leave the house with a wet head). Can anyone recommend the keratin treatment brand…I have the appropriate shampoo and conditioner for maintenance. All feedback is welcomed. Thanks

I work in an office space where there are only 2 of us that are black. I change my hair sometimes (not that often but might be often in the context of non-black people). Sometimes when I change my hair, especially when I take out braids and wear my shorter afro, I will loudly get compliments from my coworkers about it. And my office is very quiet so everybody hears it. Though I know they are complimenting me, it makes me so uncomfortable because I feel like a spectacle. I just wanna be able to change and do my hair as I please but now the thought behind every style is “how big of a change is this from the last one”. I hate that my brain now thinks twice about my coworkers perceiving a new hairstyle rather than the kind of freeness I felt before I started working in an office space. Like, I’m just wearing the hair that grows out of my scalp and I don’t want it to be a big deal!

Hey yall🙋🏽‍♀️

I know GLP is somewhat of a controversial topic but I’d really like to know if anyone has ordered GLP-1 through services like Ro, HERS, or a medical spa?

My mom was 290lbs however she is doing the journey with her PCP & is on Zepound. She’s slowly decreasing & moving off of it bc she’s near her goal weight now. She didn’t have any crazy negative symptoms. Just some nausea and low energy the first couple months.

My insurance is shit and the pure, medical grade brands like Zepound or WeGovy are expensive. The compounded semaglutide however is cheaper - I know it won’t work as great but I’ve seen some comments on IG saying it helped.

Anyway I’m just looking for real experiences if u don’t mind sharing. Symptoms? Effective weight loss? Did it affect your Mental health? How long were you on it?
I don’t trust reviews on IG or TikTok anymore

Hey yall 👋🏾. so I am a single black female. I’m independent & live on my own. I’ve lived in a couple places, & have had some good experiences & some not. As I get older i realize what I want as far as a forever home/community. but it is hard to find something that fits our demographic. I wana feel safe but also included. I live in an area that caters to a different democraphic. and tbh I miss being around my people. I miss that inclusivity that I felt. I’m looking into moving abroad for a little bit. (Asia to be exact) just for a bit. But I’m open to anything that’s a good fit. traveling abroad just for personal reasons. But I was born n raised in the U.S. I’d like to find somewhere that feels safe. somewhere that feels like community

Also some lightly trans colored outfits. My mom braided my hair🥰

And when they say this it’s their way of subtly saying i look like a man (some outrightly say it). had guys ask me if i’ve had “the surgery” and when did i start transitioning (assuming i am mtf). these are the same guys who say they can always tell when someone is trans btw.

i don’t see it as an insult whenever a guy thinks i’m a trans woman but it’s funny when they see an obviously feminine person and assume they are a man because they don’t possess eurocentric features. Before, this really hurt my self esteem and made me question myself and gender, but my confidence has gotten better. i know i took after my dad look wise, and know my jawline and face shape gives off a masculine look, but i like to believe i look more fem than masc.

editing this to say i appreciate the kind words, but as i grow up i am beginning to accept my androgynous appearance and the fact that i am nonbinary and don’t feel the need to perform femininity all the time. this was mainly an issue when i thought i was a binary cis woman. now that i know i’m more genderqueer it‘s not as concerning to me anymore.

i just turned 26 and felt like showing off a lil 🤩😆🤩

did some wand curls and voila ✨

Going to Japan for B-day for 10 days. Any recommendations or advice? If you been how was your experience?

Hello, I’m a woman in my thirties. I’ve lived a fulfilling life and done many things I love, such as travelling, starting an organisation, and studying abroad. I’m grateful for these experiences.

However, 10 years ago, I was previously in a horrible relationship where my consent wasn’t respected, and I haven’t dated since. I also grew up in a family where my mum had relationships with men who treated her terribly.

I’ve been in and out of therapy since I was 20, and I feel like I’m finally ready to date. However, the thought of dating feels overwhelming. I tend to approach everything as a plan, and I’m panicking because I don’t know what to do, how to behave, or what to expect.

It feels strange to be in this position, and I would really appreciate advice from women who have been through something similar.

Hey everyone,

I work as a caregiver and I love my job how ever, has anyone liked a client but they have posters, said something, or did something to threw you off? My client is a very nice person and showed me around his apartment. Until I seen a donald trump hat and button and he was watching fox news. I'm like oh great. I'm like why do you have to be kind and treat me with respect but also be a trump supporter

Excited to see where the rest of my 20’s go 🤠

Hi DMV ladies, I live in Montgomery County, MD. but willing to travel. I have a super hard cut off of getting my hair done before 1pm today because I have to coach a high school team at 3:30pm. My birthday plans are tonight and my hairstylist just canceled. I’m getting a traditional sew in. Do you know of any hair stylists or walk in salons that’d take me last minute? Thanks.

Hi

How do you cope/ tolerante with classmates, coworkers, in-laws (basically people you have to see and interact with) being mean towards you? Honestly … like I will put myself in a bad position if I behave towards them as they are towards me, do you guys have any advice?

Take this question any direction you please. Id love to hear about how you thought about something when you were younger, how your thoughts changed and what prompted that change.

What do you do when you have a close friend who is constantly putting herself in terrible situations? Whether it’s relationships, friendships, work, etc. If you warn this friend that you don’t think they’re making the right decision but they do it anyways, and every time you see them and talk to them they’re complaining, is it okay for you to be selfish and tell her that you can’t deal with these situations anymore. It makes me feel like a selfish friend but when the only connection you have to the friend has turned into her talking about the self destructing decisions she is making then what do you do? As a black woman we carry so much of our own issues, those around us. But I’m starting to question whether I should have to carry someone’s issues who willing walked into a burning house.