r/BlackHair • • 3d ago

Weekly Free-for-all Discussion- October 12, 2026

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Please use this thread to discuss anything and everything about black hair. Ask for product recommendations, advice, identify your curl pattern, whatever.

Please also see /r/naturalhair if your hair is not chemically treated and /r/blackladies.


r/BlackHair • • Dec 29 '25

Black hair culture…

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Yesterday, I was reminded about the beauty of black hair culture.

I 26F invited two friends for a sleepover yesterday. Taylor 26F who is black, and Miya 26F who is Malaysian.

I met Taylor in high school when I was 14 and Miya in undergrad when I was 22. Miya is a third year law student at the school I went to for my masters and Taylor was an incoming first year law student this year. Over the summer, I introduced the two of them and they hit it off and formed their own friendship.

I stayed in the same city after grad school last year and got a really nice apartment downtown. This was my first time hosting so I wanted both of them to come. Miya has been having a rough time; her kitten died at 9 weeks from FIV and her grandma passed three weeks ago. All of this happened during law school finals.

When I asked Miya if she could still make it, she said no. She was really embarrassed because stress and depression lead to her not washing her hair for almost and month. She said her hair was matted and dirty and she had a flight to catch to Malaysia in 3 days and she was overwhelmed with the idea of washing and detangling.

In the group chat, Taylor and I told her to still come to the sleepover and that we’d wash and detangle her hair. She said no a few times and we eventually convinced her.

We did a pre pop and started on the detangle process. Washed her hair over the kitchen sink. I had a hair mask, olaplex and a sit under dryer for deep conditioning. We blow dried her hair (type 2 but THICK and wavy) with my pattern blow dryer. Taylor trimmed her ends.

Almost 2/3rds of the way through, Miya broke down crying. Like sobbing at the fact that we would do this for her. She likened it to a salon treatment and said she didn’t deserve this and had ‘dreamt of friends like this’. She was also sooooo grateful that we didn’t ’judge her about her hair being dirty’.

We told her that this was normal for us! Washing hair, detangling while watching movies. Having friends braid each others hair while hanging out when we were younger. We reminisced about the time Taylor helped me detangle 3 months worth of old box braids with caked on gel and lint.

This experience reminded me of the beauty of black hair culture. Seeing the acts of care, bonding and sister hood from an outside perspective rewired my brain and filled me with a deep sense of pride and warmness :)


r/BlackHair • • 5h ago

Just Venting Why so much hypocrisy?

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259 Upvotes

I'm a mixed-race Black man from Brazil, and when I posted a picture of my hair, many people attacked me harshly.

And just now, I saw comments praising a girl who is almost as fair-skinned as me And she had hair very similar to mine.

When it was my turn, few people praised me; most only attacked me.


r/BlackHair • • 6h ago

New Style Good hair day

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308 Upvotes

One of the very rare times my hair routine actually works. Lmao


r/BlackHair • • 11h ago

Progress Pic 1 year hair growth Journey!!

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217 Upvotes

Finally made it to a year! Not too far off my hair goals now (chin length, currently bottom of the nose)
1st photo was 12 months ago and the last photo was a couple weeks ago.


r/BlackHair • • 1d ago

Advice Needed Just got done detangling my hair

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Hello, y'all! I just got done detangling my hair and this is how much hair I lost from doing that. It was 2 and half weeks of no detangling and barely/minimum maintenance which I know isn't good but life has doing its thing lately lol. Is this a lot of hair to lose or am I good? I've been growing my hair for 2 and half years so I'm still learning haha


r/BlackHair • • 17h ago

Progress Pic Just wanted to share my natural hair photo

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r/BlackHair • • 1h ago

Advice Needed Lifelong Breakage

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I’ve been dealing with breakage since I was a kid. My hair breaks off SO easily. If I rake my fingers through it, hair will come out. I chopped off a lot of it because I thought it was due to extreme split ends. The breakage decreased but still happens a bit and my hair feels more brittle now! Any advice is so appreciated. I feel like I keep my hair put away and also out a healthy amount of time.


r/BlackHair • • 8h ago

Receding Side Help

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My side hairlines have been aggressively receding back last couple months and it’s scaring me. I’ve just started minoxidil this week but is there something I could do to stop it going back anymore? For reference: no one in my family has had this issue or in my bloodline so I’m super scared.


r/BlackHair • • 1h ago

Advice Needed Need suggestions on what to do with my hair

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r/BlackHair • • 4h ago

New Style Combing out my locs

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I have had my high top locs for about almost 3 years and I have decided to comb them out and just rock a pony tail( yes I know the conditioner is all over my shirt) I am not done yet I still have a way to go I want to have my ponytail like suga free has his


r/BlackHair • • 7h ago

Advice Needed can rock this look ?

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First photo is a reference and the 2nd photo is my hair right now. I wanted to achieve this look and I was told that it’s some sort of perm/texturizer. I know you don’t know how you’ll look for sure until you do it so I’m on the edge because I don’t want to look ridiculous. The looser curls would also help with the management too. What do yall think? I think I have the length to pull it off


r/BlackHair • • 15h ago

New Style I cut the tips of my extensions a little and I loved them! What do you think Jsjsjsjs

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Today I went to the salon to adjust my extensions and the girl suggested I cut the tips a little and it was the best I loved them 😭


r/BlackHair • • 2h ago

Advice Needed Where are the ladies finding GOOD & AFFORDABLE human hair bundles?

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I am on the hunt for GOOOOD affordable human hair bundles emphasis on the good! I find that whenever I buy bundles they last me like 3 installs max, even when I spent $5-600! I don’t have a problem paying more for good hair but the hair has to actually be good! True to length with minimal shed & tangling is that too much to ask for? Please drop the sites that offer good bundles for a good price too! At the same time i don’t wanna pay 900-1000 for some fucking hair that’s insane! I’ve been speaking with a vendor on whatsapp called KBL hair and the invoice is pretty expensive which has me nervous bc I’ve never seen/used this hair before! Please help 😫😫

Im looking for 4 bundles 24, 26, 28 & 30 inch!
Thanks


r/BlackHair • • 3h ago

My hair is causing me emotional distress!

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I am 50 years old. Biracial. I’m already dealing with enough as a woman at my age. Since I was 11, I had relaxers put on my hair. My well meaning aunts, said “you’ll have hair like Oprah”, which was very exciting to me. Because my Mom would always have my hair cut short like my brothers. I did not have hair like Oprah. And grew up with people wanting to touch my hair, call it poofy, and just make me as uncomfortable as heck.

Last year, I decided I did not want to deal with DIY relaxers,so I stopped. I kept it pulled back, and then last month I carefully trimmed away the straight “straw” from my ends. Leaving me with a giant Afro. Since then it’s been a daily, expensive, fight! I’ve tried so many leave-in conditioners, gels and creams. By noon, my hair is always a weird solid wall.

I’m sensitive to things like tightness. Braids will not work. Hair on or near my eyes and face will drive me nuts. I just feel like a hair failure, and I will likely resort to relaxing it again. All I wanted was my defined curls to stay soft and curly. Not whatever the hell happens midday, every day. I swear my hair actively rejects moisture. I’m at a loss, and overwhelmed.

Sorry for this long rant. I just finished detangling and cried.


r/BlackHair • • 3h ago

Advice Needed Does my hair look healthy?

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I put in leave in and hair oil today, and I’m pretty sure I have 4c hair


r/BlackHair • • 4h ago

Advice Needed I need scalp/hair hydration product recommendations

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I have in box braids but my scalp after about 3 days becomes dry and itchy and I don’t know what products are good, and need some recommendations. Thank youuu 🖤


r/BlackHair • • 13h ago

Advice please

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Soooo, I was introduced to a hair vender today and their prices are pretty high but I’m banking on quality wish me luck. They sell the bundles and then they make the wig. I can install my own wig I’m scared to cut it so I may go to a professional to style it. This is the look I am going for . What type of hair and length layers should I buy and what do you even ask for at the salon?


r/BlackHair • • 18h ago

Just Venting TIGHT Braids

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Protective hairstyles are meant to protect our hair, so why do some braiders damage it in the process of creating one?

I recently got my hair braided by an African woman, and I was afraid to speak up as she repeatedly pulled out strands of my hair while using a rat-tail comb to make each part for the knotless braids I’d requested). Mind you I had blow-dried my hair before leaving home, and then she straightened it with a steam straightener. As the appointment went on, my hair sometimes got tangled—not because of its texture, but because she started pulling from the roots to the ends with a RAT TAIL COMB. That made her handle my hair roughly to make it easier to braid. 🧍🏽‍♀️

I’m tired of this. I know I could have spoken up, offered suggestions, and shown her how to work from the ends up to the roots. But she did this with every part, and I kept thinking that the fate of getting decent-looking parts was in her hands. I’m not saying every African braider is like this. It’s just exhausting that we don’t treat our 4-type hair and others with 4-type hair with gentleness, patience, and respect.


r/BlackHair • • 7h ago

Advice Needed Should I trim my split ends

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I just did my braids I am looking to get my splits ends removed do yall think I need a trim the only reason my hair looks this good because I did a protein treatment and I steam combed it


r/BlackHair • • 17h ago

Advice Needed 4C edges not blending in with the rest of my keratin treated hair?

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This is 4 weeks after getting keratin treatment. As you can see at the front and sides of my hair the 4C is not blending in with the rest of my hair. I've used a blow dryer and flat iron straighteners. How do I fix this?


r/BlackHair • • 8h ago

Bow Wow Twist King

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I only use the brush when my hair is damp and I use product, but I am concerned about my hair breaking. Is daily use of the brush not a good idea if my hair goal is growth? I have tight 4c hair, and like a defined look. If the twist king brush is not suitable for long term use because of breakage, what are folks doing to define their curls


r/BlackHair • • 1d ago

Blade 1998 Hairstyle... Research Completed

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75 Upvotes

So this hairstyle is from the (ikoyi) Ejagham People from southern nigeria


r/BlackHair • • 1d ago

Went to my first internship for the government. Mom and younger sis were adamant on my hair not being suited for work. Turned out just fine.

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Was self-conscious at first but decided to go to work like this anyways because I felt my most confident. Had no issues and my friends complimented my hairstyle. First time having undid comb coils like this.


r/BlackHair • • 12h ago

Where to buy bundles

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Help! Where can I buy good quality bundles (24,26,28) color 2 for around $150? Doesn’t have to be all 100% human hair but mostly and good quality