Not enough orgasms

Arousal is low etc

I (19F) feel a bit stupid asking this, but I'm having trouble penetrating my vigina when I masturbate.

I have been masturbating for ages, but I only ever stimulated my clitoris and never really gone inside. I have been trying to give it more of a recently but I can get a little bit of my fingers in.

Does anyone have any advice on how I could penetrate myself more?

My husband and I are in a dead bedroom (the lack of intimacy is on his end, not mine). Because of this, my "sexy" lingerie is just sitting in a drawer. He doesn't care about it, and honestly, looking at it just reminds me of the rejection.

Part of me wants to throw it all away. Another part wonders if I can reclaim it.

Is it weird to wear lingerie if it’s definitely not leading to sex? Its empowering but I just don't know if I can just feel sexy. For anyone who has been through this, how did you start wearing it purely for your own confidence and self-care? I’d love to hear how you protect your selfworth when your partner has checked out. Thanks.

To preface:

its not a huge problem in our relationship and if i verbally ask him to make me finish he likely would the majority of the time so its not a matter of needing a solution, but i just wonder if this is okay complain about like im confused on what counts as pushing a boundary or a reasonable request.

I would say he makes me finish like 10-20% of the time me and my bf are intimate. Its worth mentioning that I can only finish from him using his hand and it can take 15 minutes up to over hour…so I absolutely understand not wanting to do it all the time. He’s very patient when he does do it, and I enjoy penetrative sex a lot even when I don’t finish, it just kind of bothers me that often when he doesnt make me finish, its when we have sex and he finishes quick and then obviously his drive is gone and I don’t want to make him do anything he doesnt want to.

I guess the part that bothers me is just that once he loses his drive, its seems like he doesn’t want to JUST because it makes me feel good like once hes satisfied hes done. I totally understand the feeling like theres a stark before and after but i just feel like if it was quick, and you’re not tired, and you got me all riled up for 5 minutes of sex then..it can be a little sexually frustrating. I just wish he would dedicate a little more time just to my pleasure.

Holaaaa, acabo de cumplir la mayoría de edad y estoy lista para explorar mi sexualidad pero nunca tuve la confianza de preguntarle a alguien, qué se hace? Como empiezo? Jaja
Para empezar, existe algún tutorial para prepararte antes? El aseo, la depilación, etc? Mil gracias 🫶🏼

20f and I'm realizing i enjoy my own company and solo orgasm as they are, i never grew up boy crazy and i just don't bother to put myself out there, im really lazy and passive and when i get hit on i lie about having a bf even when the guy is actually good looking.

i rejected 2 of my friends (girl and boy) after they confessed, at best i felt nothing and maybe slightly irritated. my friends think i just don't put myself out there and can't believe it's by choice...but aren't people draining? it's a long process to find anyone worth knowing. especially i feel my generation genz is weird.

i just don't have that fascination and drive for other humans especially sexually, it just feels clinical, i do consume nsfw audios and videos though, mostly art of my favorite ships...anyone can enlighten me if this is normal lol, anyone relates or lives like this?

Never in my 30 years of life have I ever heard anything like this.i was staying at a hotel in Connecticut when I heard a woman screaming from the next room. I was genuinely concernern. My fiancé casually told me that they were having sex. Naturally, I took my investigations to tiktok. A lot of women confessed that when it's great you can'thelp but to scream. Now I'm questioning my sex life.

Hello ladies.. ❤️ I’ve been trying to understand how the actual mechanics and vibration profiles differ between a smaller bullet-style vibe and a full-sized toy or wand. For anyone who has both compact options and heavier full-sized devices, how do u compare them in terms of sensation, noise level, and control during use??

i've read beginner guides suggest starting small with a compact bullet vibe to figure out what feels good without feeling overwhelmed by heavy motors or complex attachments. And I dont know if its the case for everybody here.

So I'm very young (not exposing my age) and I just got my first dildo, I was really excited when it came in and I got all situated and stuff, I got really aroused with my other toys so I thought it was time to try it so I put my fingers in and it felt like literally nothing (any advice for that too?) and so I tried the dildo, I got one that is really recommended for beginners and started putting it in, it hurt so bad I had to take it out almost immediately!!!! I googled and found forums and everyone is just saying get lube I HAVE LUBE!!!!!!! I really don't wanna have wasted my money but I've tried it twice and it hurt both times. Everyone always raves about getting your first dildo I swear but it just hurts and is really uncomfortable 😔😔

How many would you ideally like to have ?

I really don't know where or how to ask this, but I struggling with climaxing while being intimate with people and it has gotten worse. I want to know I'm not alone.

Basic information is I have never been able to climax without high levels of vibration, I'm on zero medications, I am not an anxious performer, I haven't had a traumatic experience with anyone, I only engage with people I'm in committed relationships with and none of them have ever caused me to finish.

I think while being intimate in the past I have been able to climax using other things less times than I can count on my hands, and after a while it either gets more challenging or all together I physically can't. These past few months my issue has gotten worse where I rarely can on my own.

I can still feel good during intimacy however it ends up feeling like I get that build up further and further but then never that peak, which means I also never come down from it. I never lose my energy or get tired cause I can't come down and occasionally if trying for too long I kind of reach that stage where things feel less pleasurable and more painful?

I talked to my therapist and GYNO briefly about this issue yet I'm still struggling. I can't express the mental drag and jealousy I feel because of my issue.

I want to know if anyone else has had this issue? If there is anything I can do?

I tried giving my boyfriend head not too long ago, I found that I was quite good at it however I had also found I have no gag reflex but very weak sucking power. I was still able to make him cum but I found my sucking was really weak. I tried a lot, my breathing was fine, I wasn't gaging, my tongue work was fine, the only issue I had was actually sucking I suppose "hard" enough.

Does anybody else experince this or maybe they have before? If so what exactly did you do or could I do to "pick up" my game.

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How do you store bigger sex toys when you have kids?

I’m a single mom. I really happily keep single for a while and I dont want to date right now. But I still have needs lol.

I felt my regular vibrator isn’t really doing it for me anymore. I wanted more penetration and movement, something that screams POWER so I started looking at sex machines.

But I have two kids. My kids are always opening drawers and looking for things, so I can’t just leave it in my nightstand. I need to be able to put it away quickly after using it, without spending forever taking it apart and hiding all the pieces.

For those of you with kids, where do you keep your bigger toys? Lockbox? Suitcase? Some kind of case in the closet? And are there any smaller thrusting toys that still feel powerful?

Sooo .. I'm not a big fan of squirting out of concern that it might ick out my husband.. but more importantly that I'd go through hell cleaning the pee off the bed the next day ..

I was on my back with legs up on his shoulders today when I felt the urge to pee and just let it go .. beyond embarrassing looking at the disbelief on his face but it just feels so freeing 😭

If you could take one penis size forever what would it be?

I'm someone who has had very little sexual interaction with the opposite sex. However, I get aroused and masturbate very often, and I was wondering if that points to a high libido. But I have heard that you can't really know when your outlet is masturbation and not partnered sex.

As I'm getting back into dating, is it also something to discuss with potential partners? I feel like in my last relationship, our difference in sexual urges played a huge role in why we drifted apart.

My wife having her birthday this week so i want to arrange special movie night at home so i am planing to watch some lesbian porn but i do not know what lesbian porn will best fit i tink its not hardcore

Girls in here i need your help and u can comment some good once links

Well my wife is got intrested on this but we never watched it togather she also talk about with me but as women i think she has some little bit of shame because i might judge her so i need ur help she want me to inciate it but i am also do knot know what kind of lesbian she prefer can u give me couple beat one that couples can watch

Please send me some direct links i have less time to search and select this week her birthday

Hi,

Sorry, I guess this is kind of just venting, but I (19 [almost 20] f) am really struggling. I’ve always had sexual dysfunction issues, and I don’t know if I’ve always been like this, or if they were caused by the SSRIs I was on when I was younger, or what, but it’s just really weighing on me lately.

Title says it all, I guess, but I can’t orgasm and sometimes I can’t even feel all that much. I have a high libido, I like having sex, I have a (long distance) girlfriend whom I love and has been my biggest supporter about this for years, but recently I’ve just been so disheartened by the fact that I can’t orgasm no matter what I do.

I’ve been to the doctor twice. once was a woman who told me at 17 “you’re not a man, so there’s not much we can do”, which embarrassed me so much I didn’t try to seek help again until two years later. The second woman I saw was much kinder, but she suggested therapy and I was just in such a weird point in my life I kept putting off until I forgot about, and suddenly it’s been almost a year and I never reached out to anyone.

I’ve been to therapy before, I’ve had so many therapists for so many things, and it’s helped with nothing. I don’t see how another therapist would help me when at least part of my issue is I barely have any feeling. I don’t usually care, so I don’t know why it’s making me so upset lately, but it’s reached a point where I just don’t want to even try, it just feels so pointless.

I guess I just want to know, like… is there hope? Can I get on medication? Can I enjoy myself without feeling like a burden? Is therapy really helpful? I’m scared that this is going to be the rest of my life, and I don’t know that I can deal with that, LOL

Edit: never had an orgasm, but it’s only started REALLY bothering me recently

I don't know if this is exactly allowed but honestly don't know where else to go.

Im a young man(22m) who is new to sex as a whole and im a little insecure about my performance, I won't lie im average and I feel like it's not enough.

I have heard that clitoral stimulation and fingering the g-spot can help with helping women achieve orgasm.

I am however seeing some mixed views on it with some women saying they don't get the hype.

So I come here hoping that maybe I could get some advice on these things. Such as how to properly perform both methods or some sort of book or media that can offer some advice?

Okay, this is a little embarrassing to post, but I genuinely want to figure out what’s going on with me lol. I’m 25F, married, and I have an amazing husband who I’m VERY attracted to. He’s hot af, treats me well, and I love him. So before anyone suggests that I’m just not attracted to my husband, I promise that’s not the issue 😂
The problem is that I barely ever feel horny anymore. I used to have a much higher sex drive, but somewhere along the way it just disappeared, and I honestly can’t pinpoint when.
Even when my husband touches me sexually, I can physically feel everything, but it just doesn’t feel particularly exciting. It’s almost like my brain doesn’t register it as something sexual or pleasurable enough to get me going.
Here’s the weird part: when I smoke weed, things change. Touch feels better, I can actually get aroused, and sex becomes much more enjoyable. I don’t want to feel like I NEED to smoke just to access that part of myself, though.
For additional context, I have ADHD and PCOS(but i have done labs and my hormones are “fine” ) so I’ve been wondering whether either could be contributing. I’ve also been researching treatments for low libido, including PT-141 (bremelanotide), Addyi, and possible hormonal causes.
I’m not looking for a miracle cure or medical diagnosis from Reddit. I’d just really like to hear from women who’ve experienced something similar and what works for them, before there’s no coming back
Has anyone dealt with this and actually managed to get their sex drive back? Was it hormones, ADHD, medication, stress, or something else? Has anyone tried medical treatments for it?
I genuinely miss WANTING sex, not just enjoying it when it happens and sometimes not even that is exhausting and i feel bad for my husband.
Any experiences or advice would be appreciated.

Yesterday was the first time my boyfriend and I had sexual contact (not sure how to word it) with each other. We did a range of things but during most I felt.. Well, empty. I enjoyed spending time with him and he said I was good at everything we had done but to me I felt unfulfilled, and I mad me upset that I was so unfulfilled sexually with someone I love so much
I suppose I'm just asking for advice? We did a range of things which I'd be able to list later on..

It feels like something is wrong with me, and I'm not sure what to do.. My body enjoyed the experience but my mind didn't.

A nice voice can absolutely do it for me, but the second a guy starts doing that aggressively deep “hello, little one” thing, my brain clocks out. Sir, why do you sound like you’re narrating a truck commercial 😭 A normal voice with a little teasing and decent chemistry is way hotter to me than nonstop growling.

Any app recs for a girl who wants some buildup and believable dialogue? Bonus points if you can pick different voices or interact with the character. I’m curious about the AI ones too, but does the conversation actually flow? I want butterflies and a little spice, not secondhand embarrassment. Free trials would be nice before I commit to another subscription lol.

I’ve had 2 sexual partners before this one and I’ve had no problem getting wet, now I’m on my 3rd one and I can’t get wet. I’m turned on and I want to have sex but I just can’t get wet. I think it may be bc my ph is off but any tips? Advice?