I bought one of those tiny folding bag hooks for about $8 because I was tired of putting my purse on gross bathroom floors or balancing it on my lap at cafes. I honestly expected it to become another little object that lived at the bottom of my bag forever, but I use the stupid thing constantly. It hooks over the edge of a table or counter and my bag just hangs there instead of taking up a chair, falling over, or sitting in whatever mysterious substance is on the floor. Extremely unglamorous purchase, weirdly satisfying improvement.
It made me think about how some of my favorite purchases aren't the expensive "life changing" things people recommend online, they're cheap objects that remove one tiny annoyance I used to experience every single day. A decent lint roller that actually lives by the front door. A second phone charger permanently next to the couch. A little container in my bag for earrings when I get sick of wearing them halfway through the day. None of these things are exciting, but every time I use one I'm like... oh right, Past Me actually did something useful for once.
So I'm curious about the boring cheap purchases that genuinely earned their place in your life. Ideally under $20-ish and something you still use regularly, not a gadget that felt brilliant for three days and then disappeared into a drawer. What's yours?

The title already sums it all up…

What do you do with your vision board? Do you simply look at it? I’ve also seen people say you shouldn’t look at it… Do you look at it, close your eyes and visualize…. What do you do with it? How do you actually manifest it?

Just shaved the kitty cat for the first time yesterday, safe to say I'm addicted now. Never thought I'd be a bald pussy girl, but here we are. Now I'm wondering tho, if you shave your vulva, how often do you go in with that razor and give her a shave?

Just for reference, I haven't gotten any ingrown hairs on her (yet, fingers crossed) and I've never had any ingrowns anywhere else on my body. I shave the armpits every two days (sometimes less, depending on my motivation), arms and legs once a week, sometimes less cause I wear long sleeves all year long anyways. But I always love the feeling of freshly shaved body parts, if that makes sense? I also love just the act of shaving in general, there's something therapeutic about it for me (is that weird? 😭).

So how often do you shave your best girl there, if you also like her bald? Can I do once a week or would you say less often if she's too sensitive or more often if she's not acting up?

(Sorry for any mistakes, English is not my first language)

I 19F have a friend 19F who is getting married next month.

I have never been in a relationship. I closed myself off to the thought of being in a relationship for so long that i don't know what it is like to find love. I've told myself that I don't have to worry about this for the mean time and it will just play its course. But it has really come to a head when I got found out that my good friend was engaged. I would joke that I knew that this existential crisis was going to hit but i didn't think it would be so soon. How do I mentally prepare for this?

More practical questions

What is a normal amount to gift, I don't have much

What colors should I avoid.

What should I expect

Any other tips would be appreciated :)

Hey guys!

I genuinely need some advice because I'm not sure what to do anymore.
I work in customer service, and I've had multiple issues with my salary. We don't receive payslips, and the amount I get paid varies. I understand that we have different bonuses, but my position has a specific bonus as I mainly handle difficult cases and other unpleasant situations.

I constantly have to contact HR because I believe my salary is wrong. For example, I received 3,000 (I don’t have dollars) payment units in August and 2,983 in September, despite getting a promotion that should increase my salary by another 100 units. Whenever I ask HR about it, they give me vague explanations about bonuses from previous months without properly explaining how the amounts are calculated.(Today including the new promotion bonus I got 2943 and I can’t wrap my head around it )

I'm planning to contact them again to request a proper salary breakdown, but I also want to negotiate a raise. My supervisor recently quit, and the colleague who did essentially the same job as me also left, so I'm now handling a lot of the workload alone. I accepted my latest promotion partly because I expected my supervisor to stay, as she was amazing at her job and made things manageable. Now I'm feeling increasingly burned out.

My idea was to explain the situation, ask for a raise, and give them until the 25th to respond because I need to decide what to do next. The problem is that I was considering telling them I have another job offer and need to decide whether to accept it, even though I don't actually have an offer.

I've been considering leaving anyway, and I have enough savings to support myself for around six months, so quitting is a realistic option. Still, I feel guilty about lying to HR to put pressure on them, but I'm also exhausted from constantly questioning my salary and taking on more responsibilities without feeling properly compensated.

What would you do in my situation? Would you use the supposed job offer as leverage, or be honest about considering leaving and risk them not taking the request seriously? I'd really appreciate any advice!

I'm 29 and I've been single for eight and a half years. I never thought I'd be waiting this long. It's hard watching everyone around me seem to find love so fast, like it's easy for them and I'm just stuck here.I'm a college student with no job right now, I live with my family, and I don't really have friends to hang out with. So waiting is basically most of what I do. I like to read, but even that's been getting to me lately because every book has someone. Everyone has someone.I hate complaining about being single to my family because I feel like other people don't have this problem. I know I'm not entitled to a relationship and I worry I'm being bratty about it. I wish I was one of those people who just didn't care and lived their life.How do you deal with this? How do you stop making it the whole thing?

I gained some weight (currently losing it hopefully it lasts) so my arms press up against my body trapping sweat and everything. I’m tired of having to wear a shirt only once and toss it in the wash or stink it up after like 1 hour of wear. Jackets and cardigans also smell. I’m so tired of it, I’ve tried anti perspirants but I’m guessing I’m not using it right. I shower daily and often wash up when I realize I’ve sweated a lot. Is there anything that can easily remove sweat smell from clothes. I’m scared too much washing will ruin them

What are we all using to track our reading? I’m currently using Goodreads but would like to transition to something that I can access on my Kindle.

Hi,

So there’s a guy in my class that is literally so cute/handsome. Sometimes I’m okay but then I see him in class (he sits next to me and sometimes our prof makes us discuss coursework/homework/a reading together) and I’m just reminded of how cute he is😭

I’ve always been on the more chubbier side all my life (except when I had an ed as a teen) so I’ve accepted that no matter how strict my diet is, I’ll always carry a bit of extra weight. I’m still coming to terms with this but I try to eat healthy and I walk over 10,000 steps a day so I think I’m healthy. But I’ve always felt self conscious about my body and how others, specially crushes, perceive me and my body. Even though I’ve had situationships I never fully 100% believe that I can be attractive to others.

I know that beauty is subjective and in the eye of the beholder and that “you never know”, but I think I know💔 like I’m so afraid of even just asking for his Instagram (cause I’m okay if it doesn’t lead anywhere) because what if he says no and rejects me publicly? Not to mention, I wouldn’t want to make him uncomfortable or make him feel obligated to me, if that makes sense.

I’m just wondering: how do I stop the judgy voice inside of my head that tells me everyone is judging my body? How do I make peace that I feel attraction towards someone and that my body/fatness shouldn’t have to be a problem in that? I also looked this up on tiktok and it seems to be a universal experience

I’m all over the place but I hope this makes sense

My question is on weekends where you have no plans, are you getting ready everyday? Like putting on makeup, getting dressed, doing your hair? Or are you staying in your pjs all day?

I know it maybe situational a bit, but on average?
I recently realized I’m more of a pjs and messy bun all day type of girl. I also wear contacts so they can get irritated with makeup and being on my eyes for hours.

Feel like I can’t trust social media about this so thought I’d ask. Would love to know what everyone is doing!? Thinking of putting more effort into my appearance. Idk. Tia!!

This might be common sense to literally everyone else, but in case anyone like me is on here I thought I’d share. Chances are your hair dryer has vents at the end. You need to clean the lint out. Turns out when you do that, drying your hair takes half the time and the room stops smelling like burnt toast after.

Hope this helps someone else😭

Hi everyone!

I'm really excited about an upcoming trip with my friend I haven't seen in a long time. I'm 20 and she's 18 and I want to have lots of fun girls' nights! We're going to spend 2 weeks together in Korea right after she finishes writing her college entrance examination (Korean CSAT). I've been to a few girls' nights that my friends have planned but it will be my first time planning and I would love to know if anyone has any ideas as to what we should do!

I've already been to all of the main sightseeing attractions in Korea because my parents are Korean (although I live in America). So I'm not interested in sight seeing per say.

I'd love to exchange ideas with other girls who enjoy giving ideas for these kinds of things! What are some girls nights that you've done that have gone well? What suggestions would you give? 💗

I need a podcast that sounds like I’m listening to a FaceTime call from one of the girls!!

I drive most of the day so I’m tired of listening to the radio in my car 😭

Any recommendations?

Long post, sorry in advance. This is a very specific and bizarre issue and I honestly have no idea what the best sub to post something like this would be, and it got removed from some of the therapy/psychology subreddits, so I apologize in advance if this doesn't fit here and would appreciate recommendations for a better sub to post this in. Long story short, I grew up socially awkward, excluded, and bullied, with parents who taught me weird social rules. I felt like I lacked the innate skills other kids had. In high school, I made friends who gave me a massive confidence boost, and my social skills completely transformed. Now at 22, I am normally confident, make friends easily, feel like I'm overall well-liked, and am completely comfortable with natural silences.

The problem is that ever since, I keep having recurring "flare-ups" lasting a few weeks to months. Out of nowhere, triggered by a minor awkward interaction or literally NO reason at all, my brain will randomly start doubting my social skills, which causes me to lose confidence, get anxious, become hyper-aware of silences, and act stiff and awkward. I lose my ability to joke around, relax, and make friends like I normally do. It's infuriating because logically, I know 100% that it's all in my head and this fear has zero rhyme or reason whatsoever. It literally makes no sense: I can literally just continue being who I am and it would be fine, but instead it's like a double-whammy where I not only become anxious and unconfident in my social skills (again, for absolutely no good reason), but also become this super awkward and inauthentic version of myself and end up just having awkward hangouts. It's so frustrating trying to make friends during these flare-ups because I know I could easily talk to them otherwise, but I keep shooting myself in the foot against my will.

Eventually, these resolve on their own and I’m fine for a while, but no matter how well I'm doing, another flare-up can strike out of nowhere and completely crumble my foundation. I’m sure this stems from childhood scars, bullying, and a fragile sense of self-worth, but regardless it's an ongoing issue. What is going on, how can I stop letting it impact me, is this constant cycling something I'll have to live with forever, and can therapy or anything else significantly help? If I'm not in a position to be able to easily afford therapy right now, does anyone have advice on what I can do?

I have been going through a very rough time (unemployment) and i woke up this morning and started crying. I went to bed crying. Once I start crying, i physically cannot stop until i either get a headache or have trouble breathing. I just don’t wanna feel this way so intensely. Even when I am with people, I feel like i am on the verge of crying if I start overthinking or if they say something which is triggering. How to make it stop?

I am 22 and I know i’m young but as of recently I am scared I don’t have my life together. I recently got broken up and that crushed me and i’m scared that that was my only chance of finding love. I am currently in grad school as well and I work so hard to do well but I keep messing up and it makes me insecure. I look at my friends in relationships and doing well in school and their careers and can’t help but feel i’m behind. I have been trying to build confidence and not compare myself but I just feel like I’m not where I should be and scared that I’m not worth the effort.