If I get get kick out right now I'd have not where to go. No car, no friends, and family that's don't even like me. The only things I have that I'm worried about are my two dogs. And can't afford anywhere by myself. My town sucks at have resources for sober people let alone women. Idk when times come on gonna be on the street. At that point does anything gonna matter. 

I have unofficially found out that I need to move. I'm a caregiver for my grandmother who is very elderly and has reached the point she can't stay in her home anymore. Her power of attorney has decided to do something with the house and I now need a new home very soon. I can't afford to pay rent on my own and I don't know what to do. I do have a 40 hour a week job but lots of debt. I'm scared.

Hi everyone 👋 names River. Not homeless yet but I'm trying to be prepared. I'm researching ways to take care of my Cane Corso(big boy), almost 2 years old in the event I ever lost my house and needed to bug out or be on the move. My questions are ..

What are some free resources that could help me feed him ?

What are some tips for getting away from people and getting some camp spots on public/ BLM Land (likely won't have $ to pay to camp) ?

Sorry for asking but anything helps. My mom's health isn't great and I'm trying to prepare for the chance of losing our home or her dying. If she dies Imma have to take the doggo and disappear for a while until I can figure something out.

Lastly...

I don't drive but aiming for a license this year,

I'm on the east Coast.

He's not too fond of other dogs. I'm trying to train him. Slowly improving but he's almost 2 years old so no guarantees. His previous owner never socialized him. But he's a wonderful buddy.

Title. I'm 22.

To put a long story short, I'm trapped with my emotionally and often physically abusive mother in a transit desert in central NJ. Absolutely no transit, going even to the local store would cost $15+ each way in Lyfts, and I have no license or vehicle. No working phone, so I can't call 211. I cannot recieve mail at this address, though I do have my grandparent's across the state to use as a legal address (no, I can't stay there).

No recourse really other than a few patchy tech contracts that aren't paying enough (a few hundred here and there, which usually disappears quickly on debt and other issues)

I'm in severe mental collapse with a number of huge mental health issues ranging from being trans (legally female and identify as such, but this makes me extremely reluctant to use shelters or other services as available in NYC), severe anxiety (I've been to the ER about 6 times in the last 8 months with severe panic attacks every time), and really bad depression, among other things (maybe untreated ADHD or bipolar). On top of some actual mystery heart issues (really bad recurring PACs and PVCs, like, up to 15,000+ a day). I have no heath insurance and have struggled to even get on Medicaid because of my mailing situation (if they send documents, it's to my grandparent's place, as that is my legal address - which i cannot actually access due to the distance and cost of travel).

I'm kind of at a loss for what to do at this point. I don't know how to fix this. Even if I get a crappy job throwing boxes for UPS or Amazon, the commute alone will cost $60+ a day in Lyfts to any nearby warehouses. The noise in this house is constant (I also have a mentally challenged [medically, not just me being crass] sibling who loops brainrot YouTube shorts all day on multiple devices), and my mother has begun hitting me regularly.

I'm just totally lost. Shouting into the void on Reddit because nobody else gives a shit. If I was normal, I'd just join the military for an escape but of course given recent political events I am patently ineligible for this... also have blood sugar issues, so that's pretty much entirely out. Have tried coolworks, nothing but rejections. Have tried to stay in tech, nothing but rejections. Not willing to involve DV orgs / the cops due to extenuating circumstances with said parent.

Any ideas?

hey reddit, im going to have to go to a homeless shelter in 2 weeks, and its my first time.

what can i expect? if anyone has any advice please share, id be so grateful

i heard stories abt stealin from friends and i was wondering if i should leave a couple things with a friend, for example i have an Ipad and im not sure if i should take it with me to the homeless shelter. Im not sure what to do.

I’m 19 living in Serbia and I’m desperately trying to find a way out of an unsafe household.

I live with my grandmother and her husband. His behavior has made me feel physically and mentally unsafe, and the situation at home is seriously affecting me. I’ve been extremely stressed every day. I’m scared that things could get worse, but my family isn’t taking my concerns seriously. He has hit us before, threatens to kill us all the time and other things. Recently he pushed me into a glass door bcs i told him to lower his music so i can talk on a call that was work related.

I’ve tried to find somewhere else to stay. I considered staying with my mom but her husband won’t let me stay. I don’t have friends I can stay with, I don’t currently have enough money to rent my own place and I don’t have any support from my family.

I’m looking for work because I want to become financially independent and move out as soon as possible. Its been very difficult to find a job beacause of how small the city is.

I’m posting because I genuinely don’t know what to do. Ive been looking for a hotel to stay at for at least a few days but idk how smart of a decision that is.

Reporting him won’t do anything since abusers here only get about 2 days to rarely a month away from the victim.

Hey everyone.
I’m not really sure how to write this, but I figured I’d give it a shot.
I’m a single mom living in Montenegro with my 9y/o daughter. I’m also a rapper, songwriter, and graffiti artist. Music has always been a big part of my life, and I still write and rap. My daughter loves music too, but as much as I’d love to make a living from art, bills don’t pay themselves, so I’ve spent the last 7-8 years working as a waitress to support us.
I had my daughter when I was 25, and I ended up raising her on my own pretty soon after. At the time, my rap career was picking up. People were booking me for shows, and things were finally moving forward, but I had a kid to take care of, so I put most of that aside and focused on making sure we were okay.
Last winter, I was unemployed for four months and fell behind on rent. I got a job at a restaurant in March, but my salary was only about twice the monthly rent. I’d pay the rent, cover our living expenses, and start all over again the next month. I never managed to pay off those four months I owed.
My landlord has actually been really understanding. He knows how hard I work and that I’ve always tried to pay my rent and bills on time. He hasn’t tried to kick us out, even though I owe him money, and I’m genuinely grateful for that, but the debt is still there, and I hate being in this position.
Yesterday, I quit my job after the restaurant owner, who had been bullying me for a while because he likes his staff attractive, called me “fat trash.” I got a job there through a friend because of my experience, I speak 4 languages and guests love me, but that wasn’t enough for this guy. The final straw was him telling me I couldn’t bring my daughter to work anymore, even though I always paid full price for everything she ate and drank there.
I walked out. Maybe not the smartest financial decision when you’re already struggling, but I’d had enough.
I’m not taking legal action because he’s a very influential person in our small town, and I’m genuinely worried about the consequences.
So now I’m unemployed again, still behind on rent, and trying to figure out what to do next. The truth is, I don’t have family I can turn to or anyone who can catch me if I fall. It’s just me and my daughter. She’s my whole family, and I have to find a way to make things work for both of us.
I’m posting here because I’m looking for any kind of opportunity that could help us get back on our feet. I can do graphic design, marketing, writing, and music-related work. I’m open to remote jobs, freelance gigs, or pretty much any honest work I can do from Montenegro. If anyone has leads or knows someone who needs these kinds of services, I’d really appreciate it.

I’m not looking for anyone to fix my life. I just need a chance to get out of this hole, find work, and give my daughter and myself some stability again.
Thanks for reading and I will update the post whatever the outcome.
Ellie

TW: self harm ideations.

Edit: please don’t DM me to flirt with me wtf

Early 20s female looking for ways to work without a car and no bus route. I truthfully was trying to rehome my dog so I can just waste away, but I want to try. I’m tired of writing long vulnerable posts. But I’ve concerned some loved ones.

I even tried to figure out how to get access to some things I’m not sure I can speak about here.

I got fired from my dream job due to budget cuts now I do gig work. I need about $3000 to repair my car and get back on my feet. (Not seeking, just venting)

I’ve been trying Babel audio but it’s so hard to get pre screening to accept my settings. And it’s so frustrating. I’ll try for HOURS. If someone can help me even try to figure out these setting so I could make at least SOME money that would help immensely. I do not have a studio. I was so proud of my job and I’ve been doing so many odd jobs to scrap by but I’m so far behind.

Truthfully I’m afraid to go to a shelter because of s*xual abuse but I have until November 9th in my Airbnb and no where to go after that. I’ve asked my parents and they said no. My mom repeatedly tells me I’m a waste of a daughter and I ruined her life when she’s beaten me, choked me, publicly humiliated me and even dragged me by my hair outside.

I have found a foundation that will foster my dog until I get back on my feet. So that was actually the ONLY thing that stopped me from giving up.

I’m devastated. I got kicked out at 18 and no guidance, I feel like an absolute failure. I need guidance. I need help. I want to go to a psychiatric treatment facility but I fear it all will be worse once I get out. I’ve had people reach out to me to talk but truthfully I need help figuring out what even my next step is.

Our landlord sprung on us today that he wants us out within a week. My partner and I have been living here since July after we were evicted from our last place after I lost my job. Our last landlord was overcharging us to the point where only my spouses part time income was not enough. Our current landlord was kind enough to allow us to stay while we got on our feet again, then about a month ago offered to let us stay long term. Then today he randomly sprang this all on us. He didn't even give us a good reason, he said our animals are a problem (when his animals are the real issue, his dogs attacking my dogs and he never cleans his cats litter box and blames the smell on us). So now we have a week to find somewhere to live or move into my car, which is not a good option because it's almost winter in the upper Midwest. The high was 45⁰ today and it barely reached that. My spouse is working more hours now and may be getting a promotion soon, but I have a pending disability case and cannot work due to severe chronic pain and pots. My disability case is going to be going to hearing in the next 6-9 months but I don't know how we will survive until then. My partner makes just above minimum wage in our state, and we receive government assistance for food and medical insurance. We live in an area where the cost of living is fairly ok, but quickly rising.

I just don't know how we are going to make it through this. We don't even have a savings account with anything in it because of me not working. We were barely scraping by here, now having to figure out a deposit and first months rent in a week has me so stressed I want to puke.

We had just pulled out some money to give him because that was our agreement, we pay when we can and we will be ok to stay as long as we need. He literally pulled a 180 on us within the last two hours.

I'm supposed to have surgery before the end of the year too, and they won't even schedule it until I have a safe place to recover in. It's the one surgery I've been needing for years to control my pain and make it so I could hopefully go back to work so we could afford to live on our own. Now I may have to wait even longer.

As if all the daily stress wasn't enough, now we have to find our own way out of this. There's no shelters near us or anything either, as we live in a very rural area.

If anyone has any advice or wisdom on how to make it through this, please feel free to comment. Anything is welcome 💖

I've been watching people sleep on our streets with nowhere safe to go, and it's breaking my heart. One man I know wanders constantly—no clean clothes, struggling with mental health, barely eating, exposed to brutal weather. He's just one of many. Right now, being homeless in our city means being criminalized just for existing. People get arrested for loitering. They're pushed around instead of getting help. That's not acceptable. I started a petition asking our city to build a real shelter—one with beds, hygiene facilities, meals, and mental health support. It actually works. Cities like Salt Lake City and Albuquerque have cut homelessness significantly with this approach. It costs less in the long run too, because stable shelter means fewer emergency room visits and less jail time. This is about basic dignity. Everyone deserves a safe place to sleep and a shot at getting back on their feet. If this resonates with you—if you've seen homelessness in our city and felt like something has to change—consider signing and sharing. What would you want for your family if they were in that situation?

My Muslim conservative family found out i’m gay & atheist and now i’m thinking about leaving for good

I'm 22, living in an Arab country in Africa, and I'm trying to figure out how to safely become independent from my family.
For some background, my family recently found out that I'm gay and atheist. They come from a very conservative religious background, and since finding out, things at home have become significantly worse. I've experienced abuse and controlling behavior, and I no longer feel comfortable being myself or making my own decisions around them. My movements are restricted, I feel like I'm constantly being monitored, and I don't feel that I can trust the situation to improve anytime soon.
I've reached a point where I genuinely want to leave home and start building a life of my own. I want to be able to work, support myself, have friends, make my own choices, and eventually live somewhere I don't have to hide who I am out of fear.
The problem is that I have very little money saved. I do have friends who might be able to help me find a job relatively quickly, so I'm considering moving out, finding work, renting a modest place, and gradually saving enough money to leave the country.
However, my long-term goal isn't to stay in this country. I want to leave permanently if I can find a realistic and legal way to do so.
One of my siblings supports me leaving, but believes that moving out only to remain in the same country might not be worth it. Their concern is that my family could eventually find me or continue interfering in my life because they're still nearby. They think I should focus on getting out of the country entirely, rather than struggling to establish an independent life here first.
I'm also registered with UNHCR as a refugee. My family has told me that if I approach UNHCR for help, I could be deported to my country of origin. I don't know how much truth there is to this, whether it's intended to frighten me, or what risks I should actually consider before seeking help. I don't want to make a decision without understanding the possible consequences for my safety and legal status.
I'm torn between leaving home as soon as I can and trying to build financial stability first, versus focusing on finding a way to leave the country altogether.
I know that moving abroad can take a long time, and I'm not expecting an easy solution. I just don't want to spend another year living in an environment where I feel unsafe, controlled, and unable to be myself.
I'd really appreciate advice from anyone who's been through something similar, particularly LGBTQ+ people from conservative families, survivors of family abuse, or refugees who have had to start over somewhere new. I'm not asking anyone to decide my life for me. I want honest, practical advice from people who understand what it's like to choose between staying somewhere familiar but harmful and taking a risk to become independent.
I want a future where I can feel safe, be myself, and actually look forward to the person I'm becoming.

So it's been around a year since I posted about being sexually harassed in the shelter.

I came back and I was reading the comments , and I think I wanna give some advice of my own.

The first being understanding your right are vital as a homeless person.

A lot of the people were saying that if I had spent the night sleeping in the cold in central park would give me the attitude adjustment that I need and my beggars can't be choosers , and that I don't have experience living in these environments.

All of which aren't true..... a but about me i started my honelessness journey in tyler texas hitchicking down the highway sleeping outaide with socks on my habds. Ive been homeless in texas, hawaii, NYC, Milwaukee (in the winter BTW) and i've hitch hiked down the west coast. There were times where I have been injured , and the only safe place to sleep was the ER I've slept on the side of the highway before i've been in towns and cities that are hostile actively hostile towards homeless people

And I also have a background in case management working for homeless shelter. My job was to advocate for the people in the shelter and enforce the rules and that meant kicking people out for certain behaviors.

I noticed in my post.There was a lot of sentiment about beggars can't be chooser, which to a certain degree is true. My only pushback and the reason im making this post.

you're one hundred percent valid in advocating for your rights and should always do so. It's not a privilege to advocate for yourself.It's a right

Every shelter is different when I was in Dallas.I tried to go into this place called Dallas life nd it was very Christian themes and not in a good way. For an organization claiming to be Christ, like they charged people $15 a day to stay there and also require them to abandon their belongings in order to come in.And while they were staying there, they would be subject to weird rules to orevent "tempation" as a queer person , I found this very weird and off putting. So I made the decision that I was gonna sleep outside in the cold instead.

I went to nyc with the very limited money I had i landed and JFK airport saturday night in the wintertime , I walked around jamaica , queens all night and wandered untill I made my way to the intake building. And then I spent the next year in the shelter system in new york city. Fast forward to last year.I found myself back in the nyc shelter system and I encountered those issues that I posted about who see it on my profile.

Long story short

advocating for my rights got me housing faster.

A lot of people were telling me that the issue is me and that beggars can't be choosers , and that I should just do when I need to do to get along in those environments....

No that's not how that works.

If you can be openly, racist openly homophobic, and threaten people, and sexually harass people without getting kicked out of the shelter system , if that behavior is okay within that system , there's nothing wrong with advocating for yourself and demanding better treatment. that's absurd to think otherwise. Read the fine print in your rights as a recipient of services.They're not just rules that you have to follow.Those are rules that the facility has to follow too.

And a lot of you guys were right that they weren't going to enforce the rules. they didn't want to, but they couldn't ignore the complaints and they couldn't just dismiss me legally, because they have their own legal obligations and instead of solving the problem, they housed me faster. Always stand up for your rights. I've been in my apartment since february. And I never gave up on myself and neither should you.

And I hope somebody's struggling with that exact same issue reads both of the posts and the comments underneath them and is inspired to advocate for themselves. I had that director putting up pride posters on every floor and he got in trouble for denying me a grievance form when I asked for it because he didn't wanna deal with the paperwork that he could not ignore. We got very aquainted with each other and in the end because I stood up for myself , the fastest way for me to get out of his hair was him to put me in housing. His limited mechanisims to address discrimination in the shelter are his problem and not mine, no tolerating abuse isint valid.

Long story short, moved across the U.S to go to rehab. Los Angeles, Ca. Well I need help. Come to find out I been brokered. Rehab didn’t give a shit about my recovery at all. I have no where to go. Don’t know anyone. Have nothing to go back to. And they said my insurance won’t pay any longer so I’m out soon. I’ve been here since July. I have not gotten a job. There was no time or rides available to go. They have no given me any resources for anything. I’m panicked, scared and need advice or any info available. All I’ve been picturing is Slid Row! Helpful advice and some encouragement.