r/ABDLPersonals • • May 16 '26

Welcome to r/ABDLPersonals — Read Before Posting (New Rules In Effect) NSFW

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This sub is for finding personal connections related to ABDL. It is not for selling products or services, nor is it for getting off. As such, the mods have updated the rules. Please do not message the moderators if you post was removed by the automod and you don't like the reason (message us if there's an error though).

Please bear with us as there will be some growing pains as we get things set up to filter out posts that break rules. If you think there was an error, please message us.

New Rule: ABDLs Only

Your post must include some reference to ABDL, diapers, nappies, etc. These need to be genuine; please report any posts that attempt to bypass this as the automod can't catch everything.

An example of a recent post trying to bypass this rule started out with "Hi ABDL people!" and then proceeded to talk about fetishes not related to ABDL. Please report posts like this.

CGL posts without mention of diapers do not belong here. There are other subreddits for CGL personals such as [r/cglpersonals](r/cglpersonals) or r/CGL_Personals. This is to ensure that only ABDLs are posting here; it's frustrating when you are talking to someone only for them to mention that they aren't actually into ABDL after they posted in the ABDL personals subreddit. This rule is to cut down on that behavior.

Don't assume your post is "obvious" if you don't explicitly mention ABDL related things. Most terms related directly to ABDL should be approved (diapers, nappies, padding, ABDL, AB, DL, etc.). Vague terms like "wearing", "24/7", "baby", bodily fluids, etc. can apply to other fetishes too and will result in the removal of your post if nothing else about ABDL is mentioned.

These may seem over the top at first to not include in our filter, but we have had posts for instance of someone wanting to be a "24/7 Sugar Baby" which was a scammer looking to take your money. Or another example would be "I'm wearing lingerie DM me" which has nothing to do with ABDL specifically. So while terms like that can apply to ABDL as well, we have to filter them out to keep this a safe community for ABDLs.

New Rule: Only One Post A Week (Every 7 Days) Allowed

This is to give everyone a chance to see relevant posts to them. When some people make multiple posts a week, others who don't post as frequently have their posts buried. This is to make it more fair to everyone so everyone's ads have a good chance of being seen!

New Rule: Post Flair Required

Flair is now required on all posts. The flair should match your R4R format in your title. For example, if your title says M4F, please use the M4F flair. R4R text is still required in titles in addition to flair.

This is to enable easier search features on the subreddit. There is a navigation bar at the top of the subreddit where you can select post flair to filter by when searching.

R4R Title Text is Still Required!
Formatting your title:
Your title must follow this structure: [Age] [Gender]4[Gender]
Examples: 24 M4F or M4F 24 or 19 NB4A

Missing either your age or your gender/seeking format will result in automatic removal. Adding extra characters such as "{ }" or words in between the age and gender can confuse the automod and result in post removal. Please follow the format listed (including using the "4"). We won't make an exception for any reason for anyone.

Reporting Issues

We have had a lot of reports of things that happened (such as people asking for money) in private messages or on another site. We are unable to verify these things without proof and will not remove posts or ban people without receiving proof. If you have screenshots, please upload them to Imgur and send us a message with the link. Unsubstantiated reports will be ignored.

What belongs here

  • Personal ads looking for genuine connection with other ABDLs
  • Friendship, relationships, dynamic partners, casual or serious
  • Long distance or local or online only

What doesn't belong here

  • Solicitation, paid services, or anything transactional
  • Selling or advertising content of any kind
  • Roleplay requests (try r/abdlroleplay or similar) are no longer allowed
  • Other fetishes without mention of ABDL
  • Posts that appear to be horny posts will be removed.
  • AMA posts, posts requesting upvotes, etc.

If your post was removed

  • Make sure your account isn't brand new and you have recent karma in other communities (we don't know how much you need, messages asking will be ignored)
  • Re-read the rules above and repost

If you still think it was removed in error, message the mods. Please don't post asking why your post was removed, just message us.

Modmail is for:

  • Removal disputes
  • Reporting rule violations
  • Urgent issues

Modmail is not for chatting, asking general questions, or requesting exceptions to rules. Please, please do not inundate the modmail because you don't like the rules. You are subject to a ban if you are argumentative because you don't believe the rules apply to you.


r/ABDLPersonals • • May 16 '26

A Guide for Successful Connections NSFW

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Hi there! I'm a new mod here at [r/ABDLPersonals](r/ABDLPersonals) and I am here to make this community better for ABDLs searching for relationships and other connections. I recently implemented the ABDLs Only Rule to help filter out posts that are unrelated. And I plan to make some other changes too over the coming weeks to hopefully make it easier to search for posts.

I have been an ABDL for as long as I can remember, and met my long-term partner and ABDL Caregiver right here on this subreddit a few years ago. Here's what worked for us. I can't promise this will work for everyone, but it's a good place to start to find real connections.

Genuine, Thoughtful Posts

My CG posted an ad with a few paragraphs detailing what they were looking for in and out of a dynamic. How ABDL/diapers would ideally fit into their life. But also talked about their vanilla interests and hobbies too. A post with detail helps the reader understand who you are as a person and why they should be interested in you!

Also, keep it positive! While you may feel frustrated at the lack of responses, putting that into your ad is a turn off for a lot of people. For example, saying things like "I have had no luck here and I don't even know why I keep bothering but here goes" in your post doesn't set the tone that you are actually excited to make connections. It creates an "ick" factor for a lot of people and could actually be the reason why you haven't made any connections!

Give it Time

As frustrating as it is, sometimes you have to post multiple times over the course of a few months/years. My CG posted multiple ads over the course of a few years before we connected. This platform isn't easy to search through, and posts get buried. It's hard sometimes to find those connections if a person who would be a good match doesn't see your post. I have implemented some changes to make it easier to find posts (a minimum 7 day rule between repeat posts and post flair requirement with a flair navigation tool to filter posts by).

Despite these changes, posts may still get buried at times if there's a high volume of submissions. Don't get too discouraged if you have to post a few times before making a connection. Also respond to other posts! I never made a post myself, but responding to other posts is what led me to meeting my CG. And remember, this is the nature of online dating in general; that it takes time to filter through profiles and find genuine connections. It takes patience, but it is possible!

Don't Rush

We all get excited when we think we found a new connection. Spammers rely on this emotion to lure you in. They will ask for money quickly after a few messages or try to get you to move off platform quickly. My CG and I messaged each other on Reddit for months before we moved off platform. These things take time, and if someone is pressuring you to move off this platform too fast, it's probably too good to be true.

Unfortunately we can't catch all of them, so please let us know (by sending us an Imgur link with screenshots) if someone is doing this to you.

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I will continue to edit this post if I think of more tips. I hope this helps for now!

Edit: Please don't message me asking for personal advice. It will be ignored.


r/ABDLPersonals • • 1h ago

F4A 28 [f4a] Ohio looking for an online abdl connection! NSFW

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I’m a dom leaning switch and prefer f/tf but all are welcome :) (please don’t be boring or I won’t respond!)


r/ABDLPersonals • • 4h ago

F4F 25F4F Diapered Mommy Looking For A Little NSFW

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Heya Everyone trying my luck here. I’m Amiya. I’m 25F i’m Bi and i’m looking for a little.

A bit about me:
I’m Amiya, I’m a nurse. I’ve done nursing for 4 years now excluding studying. I working in ED and often have very busy days/weeks with odd timed shifts and a lot of working hours. I love to diaper up when I have free time at home and will wet till my diaper can’t hold no more! I got into diapers about 12-11 Years ago, with my first experience sneaking a diaper from my younger cousin to wear before bed (no I wasn’t caught but at 13-14 this was a thrill. I used to wet them then get anxious where I’d hide or dispose of them. Oh how I miss the thrill of it all. I currently live alone Just east of London.🇬🇧 My favourite Disney princess would have to be Jasmine from Aladdin, she’s so elegant 😌

About my experience as a Mommy:
I became a Mommy 4 years ago at the end of my schooling. Reason being I didn’t have the chance to wear very often (still my reasoning for now) but I love to express my care and nurture to others. I’ve only had female littles in the past and their and my own experiences have been great! Being said this has all been online. I can help with meal plans, changing, diaper picking, issues regarding chafing or any issues down there from diapers (thanks to my experience from nursing), nap times, company, a safe environment and almost anything else you could think of?? In the past I’ve had experiences regarding NSFW mommy-ing.

If you’re interested feel free to PM me or comment below and i’ll be happy to respond! I don’t bite 😊

When Messaging me start off with a bit about yourself e.g. Age, Gender, What you’re interested in, and other things that come to your mind!🫶

TLDR: I’m Amiya, I’ve been into diapers for 12 years. I am A nurse and I have 4+ Years of Mommy and NSFW Mommy experience.


r/ABDLPersonals • • 2h ago

M4F [25M4F] DL looking for friends/play partners/hookups/romance/anything! NSFW

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Hey all you DLs!! I’m a DL pilot and racing driver from Minnesota. I loooove thai and italian food, and my favorite band rn is LCD Soundsystem!

I would be over the moon to chat with and hopefully meet a DL woman, in whatever capacity that ends up being (as the title suggests). If it’s important to you or you just want an idea in your head, I’m white, above average height, thin, and kinda muscular. I’m not personally too picky with looks. This kink just is something I’m really hopeful I can experience with someone else :)

I'm just a DL and underwear messer, no ageplay involved, and no extreme scat play. I just love the act of messing and wetting myself, the freedom and taboo of it gives me such a rush.

If we eventually were to meet up, I’d love to watch each other mess and hang out in our messed diapers/pants (online or in person), make out and mess together as we grab each other's loads, cuddle with loads, possibly some kind of sex with loads, or even maybe discrete public wetting/messing :) I live in the twin cities metro, for irl reference.

I'm not just seeking instant gratification in a reddit chat, I'd really like to make a connection here. Just to be transparent, if dating is on the table for you too, I am polyam and I have a primary partner who is wholly supportive of me seeking this kind of connection. We date separately, so just me here. However, I’m not exclusively looking to date, any kind of connection would make me happy :)

Please DM me or leave a comment if I sound like someone you'd like to get to know <3 excited to hear from you!!


r/ABDLPersonals • • 27m ago

M4A 23M4A spending the night diapers and looking to spend it with a padded friend :D NSFW

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haiii i’m jay i’m a dl and im looking for more diapered friends and im hoping to meet some nice people that are very down to earth and chill!! so please feel free to pm me ill be on all night :D


r/ABDLPersonals • • 57m ago

M4A 18[M4A]#Waco tx Looking for a mommy, or caretaker or femswitch NSFW

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Hiii, Im a baby puppy boi looking for a mommy or caregiver, Ill be real when it comes to mommys its a rare breed at least in my experiences of searching, ive tried dating sites galore most turn out to be bots or behind a paywall so hence the caretaker bit im ok with a daddy orr a big bro but i would like to expirecene a mommy yk anyways things about me I love the idea of wearing collars and leashes sleeping in a crib or a dog bed wagging a tail and getting diaper squishes!~ in an ideal world i find someone near my age who is willing to give me a shot and be there diaper pup um also ik im in waco and most people arent but please if ur someone what close still msg me as I can maybe maybe find a way to come visit ^W^

i feel like im rambling and left things out, but anyways if u dm me Ill tell u more about me ^W^ <3 <3 I promise im not weird


r/ABDLPersonals • • 1h ago

M4F 38 [M4F] Daddy in Ohio looking for his padded princess NSFW

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Good evening! 38 year old daddy in Ohio looking for his babygirl :3 obviously 18+, and I'd prefer in-person but I'm ok with long distance as long as youre willing to move in the future. I am a highly affectionate daddy, and I am here for both the sfw and nsfw aspects for youre only here to be wholesome unfortunately I'm not for you. But if youve read all of this I really hope youll reach out :) cant wait to hear from you!


r/ABDLPersonals • • 1h ago

M4A 20 M4A diapered sissy looking to talk☺️ NSFW

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DMs open. I’m 5’0 110, love diapers, super submissive, and love all things girly and feminine🥰


r/ABDLPersonals • • 10h ago

M4A 28 M4A - Online or Minnesota- Looking to be a care giver NSFW

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I'm still fairly new to abdl relationships, but I'd likebto be someone's care giver. I'd like to care for them, give gentle support, and let them be who they are without judgment. I promise to do my best with someone and will make you feel valued and cared for.


r/ABDLPersonals • • 8h ago

M4A M24 M4A Massachusetts Diaper Lovers NSFW

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Im looking to make some friends and maybe friends w benefits w the right lady, im into cars, music, art, and video games. Im really just looking to see who else is around and into diapers and would wanna hangout irl. Im super easy going and open minded, clean, fit, respectful maybe you could start w telling me your favorite brand of diapers!!! I look forward to hearing from some of you!!!

Kinks include:

Diapers

Im a switch

Watersports

Pumping

Prostate play


r/ABDLPersonals • • 2h ago

NB4F 25 NB4F Australian looking for mommy NSFW

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hiii my name is rohan !!

my big age is 25 and my little ages fluctuates

i am an afab androgynous little, so i like masc descriptors but love being called daughter by a mommy

ive never had a mommy before but been in this space for ages. ive dated women before too ! (am bisexual)

i am new to the abdl scene and wearing diapers and plan to get them when i move

i have a daddy already and he knows about my search for a mommy, so don't worry about that! he is also inexperienced with abdl stuff so i would love a woman who is experienced

i also am a puppy regressor too and have a pup mask and also have fluffy puppy ears coming

really wanting someone to comfort me and play with, i really love rp and online play :33 would be open to diaper checks when i eventually start wearing !

i have many other kinks too so pls feel free to ask (also use fetlife hehe !!)

outside of kink, i love f1, spongebob and family guy, video games and vtubers !! i also have a lot of tattoos and coloured hair (i am alt)

pls feel free to message me ♡♡♡♡


r/ABDLPersonals • • 6h ago

M4M 33 M4M in Central/NW Ohio NSFW

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Hello, everyone!

I am a 33M "factory installed" ABDL located in Ohio. I have spent most of my adult life in a relationship where I could not be my true self... and honestly, I don't know exactly where I fall on the ABDL spectrum. I'd very much like to find out who I am and what all I like and would love to be able to explore that with someone else!

I am into lots of things (both kink and non-kink) and am looking for someone to get to know and explore everything with. I have never been a "casual" guy, and would REALLY like to find something ongoing or even long-term.

Feel free to DM me if you'd like to know more!


r/ABDLPersonals • • 2h ago

M4F 29 M4F VA/East coast NSFW

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Hey! My name is Patrick, im 29 and live in Richmond, VA. After dating a few people not into the same interests sexually, I thought it might be a good idea to put myself out there and try to find someone who is. I would ideally like to find a long term/monogamous partner, and i'm totally fine with taking things slow.

A little about me: I consider myself highly driven and intelligent. I currently work in the Medical field, and am working towards my third college degree. I love to spend time with friends and family, travel, go on adventures, and live life to the fullest. I crave high-adrenaline activities

My hobbies include: Scuba Diving, Skiing, Volunteering, Gaming, Camping, Shooting, Hiking, Travel, Music Festivals/Concerts, Gardening, Cooking/Baking, etc.

I have no pets, no kids, have never been married, and I have nothing limiting me as far as relocation if I found the right person. My life is slightly busy between school and work, but would love to find the right person to dedicate my free time to. I am happy to share pictures of myself upon request :)

If you made it this far thanks for checking out my post!


r/ABDLPersonals • • 14h ago

F4M 36 [F4M] Denver/ Palm Beach ABDL little looking for her older daddy. NSFW

9 Upvotes

Me: I'm Zoe, 35 im currently working in healthcare (night shift girlie), plan on pursuing my education, love to travel and have decided to make Denver my new home base. In my free time you can find me at concerts. ( Im an EDM girlie.) PLUR. I teach yoga, outside spending time In nature, ooh and im a snack expert. I'm best friends with Mary Jane. You don't have to love her just respect my choice. I also speak Spanish & French and that's a big part of ms also.

Little me: Im An ABDL little who's is wanting to explore that side more. My ultimate dream is to have my own nursery. I enjoy wearing onesies and all the little gear. I love decorating pacifiers. Plus im finally in a huge ABDL city so that's extra exciting.

You: 30 +, Have goals/ career going, in Denver or comes visits often, Has some similar interests as me, likes ABDL girls, is looking for someone to connect with & Can balance kink with regular life.

Thanks so much for reading if you got this far. If my.post caught your attention please dont hesitate to shoot me a message. Mention to me your Harry Potter House or Fave movie so I know you saw this.

Looking forward to the good times ahead .


r/ABDLPersonals • • 3h ago

M4F 25 [M4F] #FL #South Florida, CG looking for his little princess NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hi!

Writing this post to see if I can find my little.
I’ve been into this for about 5 years and have had 1 little long term, realistically looking for someone I can care for, help throughout the day, be there for anything they might need. This is including, issues throughout the day, needing someone to talk to, texting, calling, and getting you throughout the day with someone being there.

Me:

I’m 5’9, brown hair, green eyes, white skin. I moved down to Florida for work a few months ago and definitely see myself staying here for a few years. I like to run, cook, hike, camping, and being outside with nature. I work in the hospitality business, it’s what I studied in school and have a really good career going.

You:

Someone that loves to talk, near me, would like to have fun plans, active lifestyle, has a fun personality, and would like to take trips (I get really cool benefits with this job).

Cg/little:

Would really want someone to take care of, change, do an amazing bubble bath for, put cartoons on, brush their hair, give you the best little time you can think of, take on all these trips centered on you, and congratulate you on everything you accomplish throughout the day.

If this seems like something that can work please DM me! I would love to talk to you!


r/ABDLPersonals • • 7h ago

M4F 22M4F? looking for a mommy/cg NSFW

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take down if not allowed

After so many unsuccessful attempts at finding a cg, i want to try again.. 22, M, I go by H, little age is less than 2 (circumstantial), from Ohio. preferred online, calls during work or when driving, voice messages (i absolutely love and will play multiple times), willing to be okay with delayed messaging while i'm with family

about me:

i used to be a semi driver, now im a warehouse employee restarting a business of mine, scrapping metal. i have an ESA for some metal health problems, but dont let it fool you, im very friendly and outgoing! i have my days, but generally im smiling and laughing and joking around. I DO NOT SEND SEXUAL IMAGES, i am not comfortable doing that, and i will explain if you choose to message me.

if you see this:

if you read to this part, please tell me a little about you, so i can get to know you, feel free to ask about me, but please respect my boundaries. please don't call me baby right away or make me call you mommy. i have that title reserved as "momma" holds a special place for me, and is given with utmost respect.


r/ABDLPersonals • • 20h ago

M4A 34m/27f4A - 24/7 diapered couple - Philadelphia, PA NSFW

19 Upvotes

24/7 authentic diaper couple - friendship - Philly for the weekend.

34m and 27f diapered couple looking for ABDL friends in the Philly area for this weekend. We reside in Schuylkill County but are heading into Philadelphia for some weekend festivities. Looking for chill, easy going people that wanna hang out. We can be as discreet or open for you comfort level.

Let me know!


r/ABDLPersonals • • 4h ago

F4A 21f4a lil girl lookin to chat for tn!! NSFW

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Not a whole lot goin on, still not able to get diapered, but that's ok! Come say hi!


r/ABDLPersonals • • 15h ago

T4F 38tF4F/T Accidently adopted a little NSFW

6 Upvotes

Hello lovely little

Second time trying this (please don't remove my post again 🙏)

So long story short, I have accidentally adopted a little over Snapchat and thought it would be fun to start a gc with littles (CG's welcome too) for a crèche sort of thing. Where the littles can play and I can learn more about my CG side.

We are looking for femmes and trans folk for now but may consider changing once we get going.

Not sure if I've missed anything but let me know if I have.

🩷🩷


r/ABDLPersonals • • 8h ago

M4A 23m4a Tx/dfw looking for friends NSFW

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Tx/dfw looking for friends preferably in the DFW area to chat. I’m down to hangout irl also only if I get to know you and feel comfortable. In my free time, I'm into biking, gaming, fitness, sports cars, and sci-fi/thriller movies and tv series. On the non-vanilla side, I'm asexual and mostly DL with some AB side.


r/ABDLPersonals • • 8h ago

M4A 24 M4A #Las Vegas NSFW

2 Upvotes

Looking for little friends, daddies, mommies!
I would love to get to know you :p shoot me a message or leave a comment!


r/ABDLPersonals • • 5h ago

NB4A 19 FemBoy4A #Netherlands looking for a friend or an cg or another switch NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hiii, im a femboy from the netherlands, I like wearing and using diapers. Im open to chat with anyone who is around my age

A little about me:

-Im a little over 6 feet (182cm)

-long blonde hair and blue eyes

-I can go fem or boy mode depending on the day

-I use diapers for both

-some other kinks I'm into: bondage, anal, etc

-some non kink stuff I like: cozy building games, board games, roleplay(dnd, role-playing events)

-I'm a sub leaning switch and swing al directions(pan)

Just send me a dm, with who you are and what you whould like :3


r/ABDLPersonals • • 5h ago

NB4A 21 [NB4A] Online Genderfluid ABDL happy with any of chats, friends, teasing, humiliation, switch-y shenanigans, or doting NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hi! :3 I'm from the USA (New England) but can only really do online stuff. I'm AMAB, but I mostly present feminine for kink stuff. (though I'm happy being either a boy or a girl if someone else wants me to! :3)

I'm really into both the AB and DL sides, both wetting and messing, as well as both sexual and nonsexual aspects. I wear diapers a lot (mostly at night), and I also love gaming, programming, and a bunch of other nerd stuff.

Kink-wise I'm into most things I find either gross or cute. Big stinky diaper messes, hypno, and forcefem are some of my favorites, but I like a wide variety of things. I also have only a few limits, so I'd love to talk nearly anything kinky!

If any of this sounds interesting to you, hit me up. I love talking to all sorts of different people!


r/ABDLPersonals • • 9h ago

M4A M4a 21dl looking for others Hey just looking to chat a bit to others like me NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hi 21m just wanted to try and find other people like and and talk a bit