The longer you are with the narcissist, the deeper the damage of the psychological pain from their manipulation, devaluation, and gaslighting. Don't ignore the red flags. Narcissists don't change, they mislead you to feel you are the one who needs to change.

Do narcissist spouse not know that they are being manipulated every minute? Dont they feel exhuasted by constant highs and lows, push and pull and insecurities, stress? How does a narcissist spouse remain in relationship knowing that spouse has habit of cheating and hooking up with many female outside of their marriage?

I want to so badly. But I’d be doing it out of spite, not out of care.

Should I do it? They would see the absolute shit show my ex lives in. She’s disgusting and a hoarder. She bartends so she always has a babysitter with her son.

For context — we were living together 2 years, found out she was cheating, I moved out immediately. No contact from her since Aug 13. Saw her once in public and she went the opposite direction. I was helping raise her son who is now 5. She is an awful human being and I truly hope we stay no contact forever

But I do want her to suffer because to me it looks like she won — she had a new guy already, she was extremely callous when I found out, she was an asshole to me the last three weeks. I feel like she should pay (I know I know, she will pay by being an empty shell of a person)