Chat I added Pepe, what do you think?

Hi. As per title. I always read women's comments like "Men have to impress me" etc. I would like to ask if you think you should do the same with men or not.

I’m sure it’s women too but I’m a woman so I only see men’s. Most of them don’t have a bio, don’t fill out prompts and some barely have any pictures. I understand some don’t put in effort because they just want to hookup but I still won’t swipe right for a hookup if there’s no info or pictures lol

Wanted to see how bad it was after only having 1 match, worse than I expected 😭 is the "yes" stat likes? If so I cant see them in the app, says I have none

I've gotten zero matches. I know it's hard for men my age (21) but I feel I'm missing something.

I'm straight and looking for a long term partner.

I matched with this nice lady a few years back. I regretfully did not save the rest of our delightful conversation, but I appreciated the responses that were more than two words.

I tried the paid version for 1 week and not a single like. Do you think I look awkward in my photos?

Also, I find it difficult to write about myself and set up a good dating profile.

Edit: Thank you all for your feedback. I’ll read all your comments when I have time. I just wanted to clarify something that came up in a few comments. I’m not specifically looking for someone who shares my religion. One of my longest relationships was with an atheist who was raised Christian. I’m simply looking for someone who is comfortable with my religion.

Why do you guys say that it’s more complicated for you to date than us girls? I’ve gone out with 7 guys in total and 5 of them friendzoned me or ended things with me, it’s hard for us too, let alone talking stages, I’ve been unmatched and ghosted plenty of times, it’s not just a “guys” thing. What am I doing for these guys not to choose me? I feel like I’m a pretty okay being with any guy as long as they’re respectful and are willing to take things slow, I’ve been really attracted to all these guys, but they seem just not to like me 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m getting kinda tired of playing games, any advice? 😩

I 36M match with a gorgeous 27F on Bumble. I was even further surprised that she messaged me first quickly. Conversation was going great, consistent texting, and after a few days we go on a date. I take her to a nice café followed by a walk along the waterfront. The date is going so well that while on the first date we plan for date #2 at a fancier restaurant. As I'm walking her to the car, I was just planning to hug her goodbye but I can see her leaning in for a kiss. We make out for awhile.

She plans date #3 and wants me to go over to her house. She is planning to cook for me. I bring a nice bottle of wine. We have dinner, lots of laughter, great vibes all around. We settle in to watch a movie and I see her getting closer to me. Eventually this leads to kissing, we go upstairs to her bedroom, she gives me amazing oral, we have sex. We end up talking the night away after.

In my mind I'm thinking this is amazing. Everything clicks so easily, we have so much in common, and the conversations flow like a clear mountain stream in spring. Next day she makes me breakfast and we just chill some more. Before I know it, she's giving me oral again. At this point in my head I'm thinking this has to be to good to be true. Seeing how she has been so generous I decide it's my turn to reciprocate. One thing my older brother told me when I was a teen and I first started dating is to get good at oral and always give back. It was advice that has served me well over the years. Yet she freaked out. The mood instantly died. After that she was more reserved, everything felt kind of awkward and she said she has to go help her mom with something later and that I should go.

Didn't text me the rest of the day. Nothing the next. I text her after 2 days and her responses were dry and brief, as if she was no longer interested. Then I asked her if something is wrong or if I did something to upset her. She basically gave me the "your a nice guy but I don't think this is going to work" speech. I pushed a little bit more and then she said "your into some weird shit" and then blocked. Before I tried to give her oral everything was going great, after that everything changed. I'm sad to lose her because I genuinely felt we had a connection and I thought there was potential for a serious relationship to develop.

I’ll go first… I chose the wrong color of hand towel.

Soo my profile is mostly intentional, imma be honest I really don’t know how to take pics by myself buuutttt I think I may sell it soo go ahead :))

I used to screen share while swiping on the apps with friends and I feel like that would be fun to do with people from this sub.

Men need to see other men profiles and women need to see other womens. I think there would be more understanding and empathy for the opposite gender.

So I matched with this woman on the dating app.

The conversation was going well, until she told me she works in Human Resources.

I made a dumb joke saying, and I quote, "Oh you work for HR? I better watch what I say, because I know this being documented 😂 "

She immediately unmatched me with no explanation. Did that joke cross the line?

I have been on dating apps for almost three months now and have had over 100 matches as a normal guy.

It has been more frustrating than I expected. It is hard to find someone who is attracted to you, looking for the same thing, and has the qualities you are looking for in a partner. Most conversations go nowhere, and I have only clicked with a handful of women where we were attracted to each other, showed genuine interest, and made an effort to get to know each other.

After a while, I started getting burnt out. I was even losing the motivation to message women I found attractive, so I stopped taking the apps so seriously and just treated them as something to do in my spare time.

Then.... I met someone who was a nice surprise. She is cute, thoughtful, polite, and considerate. She even suggested moving off the app, asked me out, and is willing to travel to meet me. I really appreciate that kind of effort. We went on a date recently, and I think it went pretty well!

It is still early days, so I do not want to get ahead of myself, but it is nice to feel excited about someone again.

For anyone else who is feeling burnt out, hang in there. I know how frustrating it can be when things go nowhere despite putting in the effort. Hopefully, we all find someone we genuinely click with eventually. Sometimes, all it takes is meeting the right person...

41M, DFW TX, leftist
Women on Bumble, help me out.
We all know what “moderate” means for men, especially where I’m at.
I see a lot of promising women’s profiles that say they’re “moderate”. But also interested in “human rights, disability rights, LGBTQ rights”.
The neurodivergent part of my brain itches to be scratched with a “what in the world are you moderate about??”
I know I should just move along but I’m wondering if I should be giving the benefit of the doubt more often. Even as someone for whom the national Dem party is far too conservative.

ETA: “just ask them”: I should have clarified, I’m very very choosy with my likes; these are conversations I’m having with myself after carefully reading their entire profile and deciding whether to indicate interest or not. I have a decently good match rate for a guy, and am intentional, so I treat every like as a potential match. I don’t want to match with connections that will be DOA (ex: if a gal wants children).

Too many times I'll match with a girl, we'll click in conversation and then boom, she reveals to me that she has a baby.

There was even a woman who waited until after already exchanged numbers, been talking and FaceTimeing to reveal that information.

Like why hide that? I'm not against single mothers, I've even dated one before, but she upfront about that.

I just wish there were more up-front about that on their profile.

Not a single like in over a week of premium and then it expires and now in two days without premium I get a like but can’t see it without premium…

I 32F had this chat with 35M on Tuesday afternoon(scheduling a first date). Date is on Friday evening. It is Thursday evening now and there hasn’t been any chat since Tuesday. Whose turn is it to text now ideally?

Also, is it weird that we scheduled and just didn’t talk after that? How is this generally perceived?