They then say how important honesty is in a relationship.

Why do people do this.

This I haven’t accepted to meet her yet.
Feel bad for the husband..
Are these people disturbed?

This happens quite often, and I just can't understand the rationale behind it. It's especially confusing when the person the profile belongs to is in the background of the picture, so you naturally assume at first that someone else is the profile's owner. But scrolling through the profile soon makes it obvious that's not the case. I'm personally quite put off by that because it feels like they're trying to trick me. Plus, the direct comparison makes it feel like they're basically sabotaging themselves.

Just curious, though, could just be my impression, and attractiveness is obviously subjective!

I know I've seen this bio before and not from this guy. It wasn't even funny the first time and borders on cringe. And I just know he sat back with a smug look on his face after pressing upload.

I matched with this nice lady a few years back. I regretfully did not save the rest of our delightful conversation, but I appreciated the responses that were more than two words.

Too many times I'll match with a girl, we'll click in conversation and then boom, she reveals to me that she has a baby.

There was even a woman who waited until after already exchanged numbers, been talking and FaceTimeing to reveal that information.

Like why hide that? I'm not against single mothers, I've even dated one before, but she upfront about that.

I just wish there were more up-front about that on their profile.

Too much, too soon. It gives clingy, lovebombing vibes. And, yes, I know it's a quote from a song, but some of y'all need to scale it back. No one wants to hear that on a date.

I don’t know where to post this but omg it’s so frustrating being a 25 year old virgin in this day and age. I’m usually pretty straight forward with the guys I talk to that I am looking for a partner and marriage, AND that I’m a virgin. I just would rather wait till I’m in a relationship to have sex and that I’m 100% comfortable with the person. Now most of the guys I’ve talked to claim that they don’t care or I will ask a billion questions why haven’t I had sex, or say I’m too pretty to be a virgin (whatever that means).Anyways it’s just frustrating when we haven’t even gone on a date and you are concerned if we can have sex or not. LIKE SIR YOU ARE STILL BASICALLY A STRANGER TO ME. So what should I do? Maybe the dating apps aren’t meant for me, I have yet to actually meet a guy that hasn’t straight up love bomb into attempt fornication.

I get a fairly average number of matches and conversations, and I do have months of lull when I do not get anything, so I am looking for suggestions to improve what I currently have (criticism is always welcome).

Gents.. have you ever started planning a casual coffee date and had the woman try to change it to a dinner date at an expensive restaurant?

While this is rare, it has happened to me a few times. I always refused and quickly got ghosted or unmatched lol.

Thank God I've been with women who were just naturally into me before and thought I was hot. And those women didn't care if we just walked around in a park or "hung out". Time together was what mattered.

Just putting it out there. Never let someone raise the price on you. They are doing that because they don't actually like you 💯

EDIT: If you need the "situation" to make the date fun.. you are with the wrong person. There's just no getting around it people 😄

I’ll go first… I chose the wrong color of hand towel.

Why do you guys say that it’s more complicated for you to date than us girls? I’ve gone out with 7 guys in total and 5 of them friendzoned me or ended things with me, it’s hard for us too, let alone talking stages, I’ve been unmatched and ghosted plenty of times, it’s not just a “guys” thing. What am I doing for these guys not to choose me? I feel like I’m a pretty okay being with any guy as long as they’re respectful and are willing to take things slow, I’ve been really attracted to all these guys, but they seem just not to like me 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m getting kinda tired of playing games, any advice? 😩

So I matched with this woman on the dating app.

The conversation was going well, until she told me she works in Human Resources.

I made a dumb joke saying, and I quote, "Oh you work for HR? I better watch what I say, because I know this being documented 😂 "

She immediately unmatched me with no explanation. Did that joke cross the line?

I had bumble a few years ago. I actually met one of my exes on here and made a few friends.

However recently I tried it again, and honestly everyone's the same, dry at texting. They make me ask all of the questions and initiate the conversation. They only seem to want to talk about themselves. Honestly it gets very boring and no one seems like they actually want to meet up. Also half of the profiles I've seen have been the same dead ones from when I used to have the app.

Is this just how dating apps are now?

I am unsure if I am wording this correctly. Please bear with me.

Do you ever feel like you put up with conversations either where the person never asks questions back, or they give short/dry replies, or there is no real banter or rapport being built, or they even make comments that are explicit, not because you enjoy these conversations or even because you like the person, but because you think "beggars can't be choosers" and you feel like you have to try to make every match you get work because you get so few to begin with? Holy run-on sentence, batman!

I feel like I end up doing this. I am on the autism spectrum, too, so I cannot always read between the lines. I have had situations where I am bored with the conversation and I am the only one asking questions, and I just put up with it because I want to go on a date and there is nobody else in my queue waiting to talk. But recently, I have just stopped replying when it appears the conversation is not going anywhere. It took me a long time to get to that point, though. Does anyone else have this issue?

Just to add: I am actually a fairly confident person, but I feel like my autism and my lack of matches hinders me.

I've gotten zero matches. I know it's hard for men my age (21) but I feel I'm missing something.

I'm straight and looking for a long term partner.

At any particular time, around half the women in my beeline are living in Africa and using travel mode (I live in London). Most of them are also half my age. It's pretty annoying that Bumble doesn't give me any way to exclude travel mode in my preferences.

I'm curious if anyone has ever actually tried to match and talk to these people. Are any of them remotely genuine, or are they all basically scammers? What's their actual plan?

I assume they must get some matches, otherwise there wouldn't be so many of them trying.

She doesn't even provide a lot of information in the rest of her profile give people a better idea of who they're trying to get to know.

I’ve been scrolling a lot of threads and everyone gets told to lose weight. I’m 39.

I understand the whole health thing, but I wonder if my weight is blocking me from finding a relationship? It feels weird to ask that because I genuinely love myself and feel happy and healthy but based on a lot of opinions here I’m feeling like maybe I have a little bit of body dysmorphia, in the wrong direction lol

These are the pictures from my profile and I welcome honest feedback. I’m looking for a serious relationship and live on an island so water photos are pretty common. With these pictures, make you more curious about me. Would you be willing to send me a message if you saw me on an app?

UPDATE: i’m getting rid of photo too, I’m definitely gonna work on my response to the prompts so that I showcase more of my personality and I’m overall optimistic. Thanks for all of the direct feedback.

The bio definitely took me by surprise at the end lol

Who would actually meet a person in real life and then give them their dating profile handle? This has got to be the dumbest shit Bumble has come up with.

Edit: I just noticed someone else posted this. Sorry for the repeat (though this is a different pic than the other post).

I have been on dating apps for almost three months now and have had over 100 matches as a normal guy.

It has been more frustrating than I expected. It is hard to find someone who is attracted to you, looking for the same thing, and has the qualities you are looking for in a partner. Most conversations go nowhere, and I have only clicked with a handful of women where we were attracted to each other, showed genuine interest, and made an effort to get to know each other.

After a while, I started getting burnt out. I was even losing the motivation to message women I found attractive, so I stopped taking the apps so seriously and just treated them as something to do in my spare time.

Then.... I met someone who was a nice surprise. She is cute, thoughtful, polite, and considerate. She even suggested moving off the app, asked me out, and is willing to travel to meet me. I really appreciate that kind of effort. We went on a date recently, and I think it went pretty well!

It is still early days, so I do not want to get ahead of myself, but it is nice to feel excited about someone again.

For anyone else who is feeling burnt out, hang in there. I know how frustrating it can be when things go nowhere despite putting in the effort. Hopefully, we all find someone we genuinely click with eventually. Sometimes, all it takes is meeting the right person...

I used to screen share while swiping on the apps with friends and I feel like that would be fun to do with people from this sub.

Men need to see other men profiles and women need to see other womens. I think there would be more understanding and empathy for the opposite gender.