I’m a girl and me and my friends have noticed one of our guy friend that acts insanely different in text, irl, and in group settings.

He’ll be pretty chill over text during the day, acts super super sweet at 1-2AM, is a pretty caring guy to be around in real life (one on one or small group), but when it’s a mixed gender group, there’s a complete switch up and ignores us, is dismissive, or just has a different vibe.

Why is that?

so my boyfriend and I have been together for three years I’m very anxious attachment and he is very avoidant attachment, so I know that this man loves me, but he’s not one with words and I like reassurance. I guess my question is it like how does the male brain work versus like my female brain I like reassurance I like to talk about things I like affection but then I guess because my past I’ve been cheated on so many times I have trust issues like even though this man consistently shows up for me since he doesn’t tell me how he feels 24/7 or wants to day dream about the future with me it makes me a little insecure and it does hurt my relationship a little bit so I’m thinking maybe if I understood the male brain a little bit more when it comes to relationships it could help me understand more from his point of view versus like these men that have cheated on me in my past I just feel like no man actually is capable of loving a woman if that makes sense

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So I found out my gf had a crush on her former coworker last year. We weren't dating back then. They went on two dates. He rejected her and she was upset and said via text "working meant more to me than you probably realized."

Now 10 months later they reconnected and had a friendly chit chat back and forth via text. Not any flirting but she sends long detailed paragraphs. Her and I have been dating for months at this point. The former coworker then asked her in the text message "we should hangout sometime if you want". Her response was "i would like to do that for sure 👌 ".

Then a couple of messages later, she mentions me (her bf) and about our upcoming vacation next week. Did she set a boundary by mentioning me and our vacation to let him know that their hangout is strictly platonic? Should I be worried? I have a feeling this guy may have 2nd thoughts and trying to make a move on her.

I'm genuinely curious to hear about men's personal experiences with this, especially from those who consider themselves emotionally reserved, fiercely independent, or avoidantly attached. Your perspectives are particularly welcome!

When you really, genuinely like a woman, how does that show up in your behavior? Do you naturally become more attentive, affectionate, communicative, and eager to spend time with her? Or have you experienced situations where your feelings were much stronger than your outward behavior suggested?

I'm also interested in what happens once the initial excitement and pursuit settle down.

Have you ever become noticeably less affectionate, attentive, or communicative toward a woman while still feeling just as strongly about her? Or have you experienced that same shift in behavior because your feelings genuinely started fading?

If you've experienced both, what was different for you internally? Did your behavior look similar on the outside even though your feelings were completely different?

And for men who consider themselves avoidant, emotionally guarded, or highly independent, I'd especially appreciate your perspective. Have you ever found yourself pulling away from someone even as your feelings for her were growing stronger? If so, what was going on for you emotionally?

I'm interested in the distinction between becoming comfortable and secure enough to stop actively pursuing or impressing someone, needing distance despite strong feelings, and genuinely losing romantic interest.

No judgment, and no right or wrong answers. I'm not asking for advice about a specific relationship or for anyone to speak on behalf of all men. I'm interested in your own experiences, including the ones that might seem contradictory from the outside.

I'd really appreciate thoughtful, candid answers.

My partner recently went through a massive restructuring at his job, where mass layoffs happened and he was left with only one team member and an increased workload, in addition to lots of travel and pre-committed-to social commitments. As a result, I noticed his way of coping was to withdraw and get into a mentality of just handling it on his own. I know that his preferred coping style is to retreat into his cave until things start to get better. I’m trying to respect his boundaries by giving him space, but we at this point, we are at 1 full month of greatly decreased communication and only seeing each other once a week or less. I’ve made a point over the last week to initiate conversations and organize a date for us to spend time together, but it felt clear that if I hadn’t been the one to initiate, he would not have done so himself. For any man here who have similar coping mechanisms under extreme stress, would you prefer if you are partner continued to gently pursue dates in the midst of an extremely busy period in your life? Or would you rather they give you space until you can get your head above water?

During intimacy, he told me “it’s real” and I’m not too sure what he meant? We’re supposed to be best friends but I caught feelings way too fast and I’m afraid I ruined the relationship we could’ve had. I’m super sad about it but what does him saying that mean to you guys? I think I talk too much but I talk about the truth and what hurts me. I fear I lost my best friend but, yea.

This may be a weird thing to ask, but are men completely turned off by weird noses? I (25f) have always had a bigger nose(not huge but not the little petite noses). I needed a septoplasty due to a previous injury and messed up the septum. Due to that, I have a mild saddle deformity, which isn't huge but is definitely noticeable. It makes my bridge look wider, and the middle of my nose looks like it's a bit flat. It looks like I have a weird slope, and one side looks slightly puffier because it's mainly one side that saddled. It has ruined my confidence, and revising isn't an option because insurance won't cover it, and the surgeon estimated a 21k revision with no insurance. I had just started wanting to date again, and then this all happened, and now I feel embarrassed about it and wanted to see if this type of thing would deter you from dating someone.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 5 years I’m (29) he’s (31) we have a daughter together she’s 3. Besides the point but just wanted to give a little background.
I’m beginning to feel over the course of a few years that I’m reaching a point where I no longer understand him. I don’t think I ever did. I tried and I’ve tried and somehow he never fails to let me know how badly I suck as a girlfriend. He works nights 3pm-5am I stay up all night and basically I’m on the same schedule as him. I stay home all day I cook I clean I take care of our daughter and I don’t leave the house or go anywhere I feel like I’ve coerced myself into believing this is normal behavior he never outright tells me I have to do any of these things but if I don’t there’s a shift in energy and stonewalling and coldness from him. He tells me I don’t reassure him and my problem is I feel I do I’ve tried all different ways and nothing seems to work it makes me feel like 1. Either I’m getting reassurance wrong or 2. He doesn’t even know what reassurance really is or 3. He’s a self loathing energy sucking vampire.
For example: I have no social media because he didn’t feel comfortable with me having it because before we met I was a dancer and it made him feel uncomfortable and insecure so I deleted it immediately. He kept his. I also told him he’d never have to worry about me ever cheating or stepping out of our relationship because I’m so in love with him. He ignored me and just said I don’t believe you or responds sure.
Another instance was super recent he asked why we have had sexual occurrences as often. I told him I think it’s hormonal related I’m just not horny or thinking about sex all day. I still am super attracted to you I think your hot as hell and I’m definitely not cheating I think I’m just constantly on mom mode and I’m by myself all day and I don’t do anything but look at the 4 walls of the house all day 6 days a week I feel insane and just low libido I guess I’m not sure. But I did say that I do feel a desire when he touches me at night after our baby is asleep and we have time to act on it. I also told him that I don’t like that the pressure is always on me if you feel the need for sex then act on it I’ll never deny you (I never have) I just don’t like that I have to be the one to wait up till the baby goes to sleep I turn around and he’s snoring but I have to go under the sheets to get him hard but nobody’s putting me in the mood I just have it in my head either I do this or my husband is miserable and may cheat not really because I’m horny and want him and he’s failing to understand that part. He says I’m supposed to be horny for him all day that’s what a girlfriend who’s obsessed with her boyfriend is supposed to be like. Idk I feel like I’m going insane.

I don’t know why but the fact that my girl has a body count of 2 is driving me nuts. I’ll be honest I have had 5 different woman touch me(3 of which where escorts so in reality Ive only laid with 3 people) and I’m more experienced yet I can’t get passed it. And before you call me immature please know that I’m aware. Just want tips from people going through similar situations to get passed it. This girl is awesome in with all honesty she’s so innocent somehow. I mean before me she didn’t really make out with her boyfriends or go raw and from what I get she also didn’t explore any other sexual positions apart from missionary but she did give head w/o protection where as I only did that with my first girl and after that it was with protection. Idk, yes I know I’m nuts but I really like this girl so much and my jealousy or retroactive jealousy or idk wtf is driving me crazy.
Any tips to get past it?

21F] with [19M] — I’m not doing enough
I have two children, both under the age of five, and my boyfriend works while I’m a stay-at-home mom. We currently live with his parents.
I recently found out that I have ovarian cysts and endometriosis. I’ve been in a lot of pain, and lately, I haven’t been keeping up with household chores like dishes, laundry, and cleaning while he’s at work.
I understand that he wants things done around the house, and I know I can have mood swings and sometimes act rude toward him. I’m not saying I’m perfect, and I know my behavior can affect our relationship.
However, I feel like he doesn’t fully consider how I’m feeling or what I’m going through physically. I’ve tried asking him to look into the side effects of my conditions, but I feel like he dismisses my pain because I experience it so often. I’ve even stopped telling him when I’m hurting because I feel like he doesn’t take it seriously.
He can also be sarcastic and say things that hurt my feelings. I understand that being responsible for the household can be frustrating, but I feel like I’m struggling physically and emotionally, and I don’t feel supported.
I spend my days taking care of two young children, which is a responsibility in itself, even when I’m not able to get other things done. I want to do my part, but I also wish he would try to understand my situation instead of focusing only on what I haven’t done.
Am I wrong for not keeping up with the housework right now? Am I being unfair to him, or is it reasonable for me to expect more understanding and support while dealing with these health issues?TL;DR: I’m a stay-at-home mom of two young children, and I’ve recently been diagnosed with ovarian cysts and endometriosis. I’ve been in a lot of pain and haven’t been able to keep up with housework. My boyfriend seems to dismiss my pain and gets upset about chores not being done. I know I can have mood swings and sometimes act rudely, but I feel unsupported. Am I wrong for struggling to keep up with housework while dealing with my health issues?

Sooo I was here a few days ago asking for help bc I caught my husband of 9 years sharing nude photos of me without my consent and I ended up having to delete my account. But I’m back and the story only gets crazier! So as I’m trying to figure out what I’m going to do I keep getting this feeling in the pit of my stomach that something is just not adding up there has to be more. He is adamant that this was the first time blah blah. I’m getting mad bc I don’t believe him. But he sticks to his story. I’m not having it so I’m reaching not even sure what I’m looking for but I come across a website that you can put a username into and it will show you all the sites that username is currently using. I’m like okay maybe I’ll try his tik tok username maybe I’ll get a couple hits. Within maybe 10 seconds 500 hits !!!! And I’m dying ! I do what girls do best go straight for the sexual ones figure out the log in and password and here we go for a ride ! Not only is he talking to every girl ever but more men than I can count I’ve never so many dick pics in my life ! I’m in complete shock was not expecting the men at all. So now he’s doubled down and I’m like wtf did I do to deserve this! So at this point im just in so much shock I don’t move for hours it turns out that he has been sharing nudes and cheating our entire 9 year relationship and I’ll never be the same person again.

I’m from Japan and came to Germany for my master 2.5y ago. I’ve been dating with a German guy for 8 months.

He graduated from his bachelor this May and has been doing job search. So far he got invited to three interviews. He proceeded to the final interview for one of them but he failed.

He’s like this:
work experience:
He worked as a working student and thesis internship for 2 years and did some temporary job before but never worked full time.

Degree:
He changed his major one time around 2018, his uni changed the schedule during the Corona and he sometimes took only one or two courses for one semester, which are the reasons why he took so long to complete his degree (he explained to me.)

And he’s the only child and lives with his parents for 30y. He still has money and sometimes even pay for me or buy me a small gift. He always tries to make me happy, fulfill my request, and solve a problem that I have together.

I graduated from my bachelor at the age of 22 and directly started working full time. Then I worked 3y and came to Germany 2.5y ago. I started working student 1y ago, completed my thesis last month and got the full time offer and will start full time soon.

I’ve been concerning about his career when I started dating already(at that time he was doing internship and had not started his thesis yet. I asked him what he would do after his bachelor but he had not clearly decided whether he would do master or work.), but I didn’t really care because I had not really planned when I would finish my thesis and I had never expected that I could receive the full time offer directly.

But last month I got the offer a bit unexpectedly and I’m nearly ready to settle down and make forward my life.
Then my concern is getting bigger.

I cannot accept if he is unemployed for a long time and we stuck in the same place. But I don’t know how long I should wait because now German economy is not in a good situation and in general German application process takes unbelievably long compared to Japan. I told him I can wait within this year but I cannot wait forever. But how long is the proper waiting time? It’s not what he can fully control so idk how I should judge.
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And there’s another point.

in general Japanese society doesn’t really allow delay for study and career, and we all tend to follow social timeline. Especially me, personally, I was unconsciously so afraid of taking delay and have been feeling so much pressure to meet social requirement and sometimes made decisions based on social requirement rather than my own desire.
I mean I’m the type of the person who is always working so hard sometimes even unnecessarily.
I think this effort has helped a lot but I’d rather like to take my own pace in upcoming my life and especially I don’t want my life to be controlled by my job. This is one of the biggest reasons why I live in Germany.

On the other hand, as far as I know in Germany many students take their own pace and start their job at the age of 25-28, which feels already really slow to me. Also especially my boyfriend has been taking his own pace.

So I mean I might receive some advice that it would be better to find someone who has similar level ambition. I agree with that. But at the same time I sometimes don’t like my working-hard spirit and maybe someone like him will ease some pressure that I feel.
I don’t know how i should treat this situation …

Men, what are things or qualities in a woman that make you obsessed over her? Specifically during the beginning phase of talking/ dating.

I don’t think I am gay. And I don’t want to be rude to women here. But recently I did realize that pussy was just terrible, it’s not really esthetic, and the in depth anatomy of it sounds disgusting a bit like it’s a literal insect with all the parts, also, I am a circumcised guy so I don’t worry about this that much for myself but apparently even without having foreskin women can get smegma inside their pussy if they don’t wash for some time, that absolutely grossed me out.

But technically I would be straight, so I wonder if that’s normal to find genuine disgust for the female genitalia to the point of being grossed out by attractive women or if I am just a weird guy.

My (18F) LDR bf (18M) and I have been dating for 5 months now, he's all the way in Dubai. He does a lot for me, finding jobs to pay for flights to see me since he's a struggling student, have me on all his wallpapers, passwords, etc. Tell every girl about me and everyone he talks to at uni.

However, I found him on reddit on an alt account after he replied to me by mistake on his alt account. It had him one week texting things like 'so beautiful' and 'so hot' and '🥵🥵🥵'

When i confronted him about it, he denied the account, and said it was satirical. Eventually I got it out of him. He has sent so many long messages apologising and begging and crying on voice message, but I don't get it. Was I not enough? Those girls look the complete opp of me (they're pretty ofc but different to me, they have dark skin and softer features). I'm not even his type prolly.

Today, he admitted he lied about it being satirical and that he was in denial. He said he was super insecure since he went to a foreign uni and was looking down on himself in fear. What should I do? I put him on a one week break. He's a really good guy and i love him, so I'm scared to leave.

Hi, be prepared for a big train of thought and text/mixed up writing as i am currently just calming down from a panic attack. I ‘25F’have been dating my partner ‘28M’ for 5 years. over the past few months it has been rough as he is going through a financial issues, like a lot of financial issues. he still lives with his mom, which is completely okay, and he and his family pay for rent together. For context, my background is upper middle

class, and i have never, ever once put that on him, or said that i expected “extravagant things” from him. i get we come from completely different financial backgrounds.

Last winter I was dealing with some pretty bad depression, and was not out of the house as often as I should have been. he felt neglected that way, and still came to see me after his work and after my lectures (i am currently getting my masters). I can see that this put a strain on the relationship, and i take full responsibility for that. this past summer, he gave me a script to help out with getting sales for his lawn maintenance business. I tried multiple times, but no bites, which i felt badly about as i really wanted to help out. (all of this is necessary for background context.

We have been having pretty bad fights, for the past few months, with him calling me lazy, a cunt, and that i’ve had everything handed to me and that i would never get how it is hard for him. the thing is, i do get how it is hard, he is in debt, like a lot of debt. He said i wasn’t helping him win, as I didn’t get sales, and that it was so easy to get sales.

Flash forward to today, i took an uber/bus to see him after my placement. he got back home from work super late, so i just did some of his laundry from his room (it’s really messy, but i don’t mind helping out even if it’s a little bit). When he got home, i knew that he immediately had to go somewhere else that was about an hour away, and that i wanted to go with him as well, but the thing is , tomorow is a family members graduation, and i needed to be up early. so i said i may need to uber home, and jokingly said maybe he cld drive me home and we can take a shower together before he headed out. (this was the wrong thing to say). after about five minutes, he got up and said “why am i even waiting for you to get the uber? just call it already!” so i did call it. then, while i was outside waiting, he implied that i should have come with him, and that he always would do small sacrifices like staying up late for me (he has, to be frank, in the past, which i always told him i was greatful for). i offered to cancel the uber, and he said no don’t wait your money. i then got home, and we called, and it was an hour of him yelling at me over the phone, saying how he needs someone to help him win, and i can’t do that. and he broke down crying saying how he is so stressed, and i said i understand, and he said that he can’t be in a relationship right now. he also was calling me a bunch of rude names that i really don’t want to repeat. i cried obviously, but the thing is, in the past he had done this but then we would get back together after. i don’t know, i feel like i am going insane. i really love this person. i don’t know if this is necessary to say, but i am neurodivergent as well.

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just wanted to say thank you everyone who has said kind words or just in general advice. it means a lot to hear that i’m not crazy to think that this behavior is not normal

Vs just being friendly

I 21F had met 23M 8 months ago at the Uni gym for the first time. We started messaging everyday and he would initiate hang outs, by inviting me to go skating with him and paying for our skates, lunch at his residence cafeteria, and working out with him. At the end of the semester right before he left to go back to his home country for summer, he invited me to the movie theatre with him. I jokingly ask over text if I could use his arm as a pillow. And somehow we ended up full on spooning in the recliner chairs at movie theatre. He even asked to put his hands under my bra. So I thought he liked me but was going back to his home country anyways. We did flirted over text as penpals but overall still friends. 

In June after our fight over something, I ask him to be honest so I don't waste my time. He said he rejects me as he wants kids and I don't, but doesn't mind keeping it casual. I said I don't do casual. but later on in July, he would breadcrumb me by sending me a meme photo of cats cuddling while watching a movie, asking "could this be us?" with pleading emoji. I said, but you wanted to keep it casual. He said that he was thinking of bringing me gifts from his home country in sept when he gets back, but doesn't think it's appropriate because I wouldn't do bf/gf experience. 

When he got back, he brought me special gifts from his home country for me. We even went to the movies again, where we spooned again with heavy petting and our legs intertwined. Then last week, his roommate was gone for a week, so twice he invited me over to his dorm where he took his shirt of and we "watched" a movie, but the whole time we cuddled in his bed, sat on his lap, laid on top of him, made out for the first time. 

Then the next day, I didn't feel well after that and he apologize for things progressing and how he just wants to be friends instead and keep things platonic. He also told me, how throughout the summer he never even wanted anything more but how I kept on thinking that this whole entire time.

I've been in such agonizing emotional pain to the point of almost taking myself to the crisis centre as I've literally spent the past 8 months, especially summer wasting my time, and thinking that this could potentially turn into something more. I've been so delusional over this guy and it just hurts to have memory of me wrapped up in his arm and cuddling with him, just for it to not mean anything and for him to have the ability to flip the switch to platonic after. 

From a man’s perspective on this, If you were in this situation where they reject you but still desire to be your friend, would you still keep the connection and be friends with them, or is this something that should be cut out of my life?

Idk what to flair this so I just went with dating lol

Long story short, I recently had a medical event that my boyfriend had to take leave from work for to support me and we were staying at his house, it was late at night and i wanted to search something on reddit for advice, my phone was charging on the floor and him and i have an open phone policy and have eachothers passwords so I used his phone to search my question

When I opened reddit, I saw two recent searches, one was basically asking how to dump someone for no reason, and the other was that he loved me but lusted for sexier women. His words

I immediately woke him up to ask him about it, I gave him an opportunity to be honest and said that it was okay if he was thinking about breaking up and I just wanted to talk about it. He assured me those searches were not recent, which I dont believe as it was on his porn account and i think he uses it pretty often.

He told me that he loved me and that he was all in our relationship, we have been planning for our future together and he said he couldn’t imagine his life without me etc.

I do believe that, and I know he loves me, but this is his first serious relationship, we are both early-mid twenties and I have been burned before so my walls are definitely up

Im trying to move past it but I am really struggling because I just dont trust him anymore, we go out and im watching to see if hes looking at other women, i dont want to go near his phone because im scared of what I will see/find.

We are very sexually active and he always talks about how great our sex life is, its so hard for me to comprehend that he is drawn to other women because he has grown up around men who have all had long term girlfriends/wives, and i love him so much and i dont feel this way towards other men at all

I feel insecure and unworthy and like there is something wrong with me, like im not good enough for him. I feel like this might be something that cant be fixed but I dont want to accept that, I love him more than anyone and this is the best relationship I have ever been in

I also feel guilty bringing it up to him because i know he feels bad, he has apologised many times and said he hates that hes made me feel this way

So I guess I am just posting this for advice, if any of you have experienced something like this from the male side, is there any way to fix this or am i prolonging the inevitable here

I’m 29F, and my boyfriend is 22M. We’ve been together for 6 years. We’ve struggled with trust issues and intimacy for years. Recently, I discovered something that deeply hurt me and changed how I see our relationship. I keep replaying things in my mind, and it’s affecting my sleep and peace of mind. I still have feelings for him, but I’m emotionally exhausted. How can I manage these thoughts and focus on healing?
TL;DR: I’m 29F in a 6-year relationship with a 22M. Recent relationship problems have left me emotionally exhausted and struggling with overthinking. How can I heal?

The guy I like (31M) makes 80-90k, and I will be making 800k. Is that attractive or unattractive? He also seems like a bit of a player and doesn’t seem to want to settle down at this point in time. Struggling to get commitment and consistency from him right now. Wondering if this disparity may affect how he sees longterm potential. Also my career is as a doctor so I wonder if this would be perceived negatively or positively as well given that I’ve heard mixed reviews on this. Some say that career is a turn on because it’s useful and it shows intelligence and empathy, others say it’s a turn off if it’s time-consuming. For context, he also has advanced degrees.

Long term relationship. He cheated (both to blame here since I guess I had emotionally been distant), we’ve been broken up for 4 months and he’s allegedly still seeing the girl he cheated with.

Last week my ex ended up seeing a really hot picture I had posted (not sure how since blocked on socials) and reached out after a month or so of full no contact (that he forced to have, we had some loose ends so contact was very low before this).

We end up having a 5 hour long phone call just catching up really, the whole vibe felt warm and fuzzy and nostalgic I guess. I could tell he kind of missed me and our connection. We end up talking for the next 4 days, and during this time he mentions twice that he’s feeling conflicted but wouldn’t disclose anything else other than “conflicted”. Obviously I assume about me.

We even end up meeting for coffee and potentially planning to go to a concert a few days later. The next day he doesn’t talk to me and then he kind of fell off and has been really distant with very short communication every couple days. I have asked him if he has resolved whatever he was “conflicted” about and he said no and when I asked why he said he just kicked it down the line.

I guess I’m not sure if he is breadcrumbing me, or if he really is conflicted and since he’s an avoidant this is how he acts. I’ve stopped reaching out but part of me wanted him to at least attempt to come back and at least show me he is remorseful. Just not sure what to think of the whole thing.

I feel like I've been too emotionally vulnerable with someone who is much more reserved

I recently became official with my boyfriend, and I'm struggling with some feelings that I feel guilty admitting.

He's a genuinely sweet guy, and there are things I really like about him. He makes an effort to see me, treats me well, and I know he cares about me. However, I've been having doubts about our compatibility, particularly when it comes to finances and stability.

He recently lost his accounting job, and he's had some employment struggles in the past. He also has a consumer proposal from a previous business he had with his ex. Now, he recently got into a car accident and is driving a rental car that, honestly, I find myself feeling embarrassed about.

I know how that sounds, and I feel shallow even writing it. I don't want to judge someone based on their current circumstances, especially when some things are outside their control. I understand that anyone can lose their job or get into an accident.
At the same time, financial stability, ambition, and being able to build a comfortable life together are important to me. I'm worried about whether he'll be able to provide the kind of future I envision for myself. I also realize that I have certain expectations in a relationship, and I'm used to a different dynamic financially.

What's confusing is that I do like him, but these things are affecting my attraction to him. Part of me wonders if I'm being superficial and focusing too much on money and appearances. Another part of me worries that I'm ignoring legitimate concerns about long-term compatibility.

I don't expect a partner to be rich or have everything figured out, but I do want someone who is financially responsible, motivated, and stable. I don't know whether I'm reacting unfairly to a difficult period in his life or recognizing that we might want different things.

**Am I being shallow, or are these valid reasons to reconsider a relationship? How do you distinguish between someone going through a temporary rough patch and someone whose circumstances might reflect a longer-term pattern?**

Hi, I am 21 and my bf is 25. He has is own apartment and l live with my parent for college. I want to move out but the job l have wouldn’t financially support me and if l move out with my bf, my parents wouldn’t let me come back home if we broke up. Will a relationship last if say in 3 years we still together, can it still survive without living together. Or sex at a hotel is norm ?
Thank you.