I'm on a mission to find a porn movie with a plot .My wife, level 37, has never watched adult films. I've been trying to convince and I finally succeeded. I just need to find a film with a normal plot.So all the "oh my stepbrother, why are you masturbating? Give me a hand and I'll help you" movies are out.

Last year, me (m35) and my friend (f31) (of 10+ years) got super drunk and had some unexpected fun. She went home with me to stay and when we got in bed we both started jokingly teasing each other. The thing is that everything was perfect, we had like 2 hours foreplay and it was so much fun, but as soon as i penetrated her it became kinda boring (i know it sounds weird) and after we orgasmed, both of us had some kind of a post nut clarity and just went to sleep without touching each other.

After some days she was feeling horny and sent me some nudes, we both started dirty talking, jerking off and then we came. After that we decided to have sex again but the same thing happened, the foreplay was amazing and super hot but sex itself was not. So we decided not to have classic sex but keep having fun, exploring kinks and fantasies.

The first thing we tried was a "blowjob call", like i had to write to her one code word and wherever she was she had to come to where i was and give me a bj. We both loved it, she LOVES giving it and i love receiving it. Also this has to happen without anyone realising.

The thing is that we are not the most creative people in the world, so I would really appreciate if you gave us some ideas about more ways to have kinky fun! (i read about the bj call on reddit too, so even that was not my idea :D )

Hello, fairly new here. My girlfriend just asked me to wear gloves going forward whenever I am to finger. She does have germaphobia and maybe OCD but that is unconfirmed at this moment. We have done this without gloves numerous times before with no reported cuts or infections. Her reasoning are the many germs that may be on my hand. I honestly do not blame her but I do think that this specific situation is one where the phobia is going too far. We are exclusive partners and do not have STIs or anything like that

I have promised to make sure wash my hands and use sanitizer beforehand as I do believe in a basic level of cleanliness. I just think that the gloves are not needed.

Edit: This is a quote from my girlfriend that she wanted to share “I don’t believe I have OCD but I do think I am more cognizant of the fact that germs can harm me. I have to be cautious about hygiene. Certain bacterias can cause infections”

I watch a lot of porn with blowjobs, I also give many blowjobs and am always looking to improve and learn new tricks.

Though definitely not a new development in the porn world, I’ve become aware in a lot of the videos I watch that during a BJ scene, the guy or even the woman will push the penis into the cheek and rub it there rather than get deeper, like just positioning the penis against the inside of the cheek and rutting into it if that makes sense.

Is this a common thing in actual sex that would feel good/better than the typical maneuvers?

First of all his hygiene is absolutely okay, he works out and eats healthy and nutritious food, he doesn’t smoke and he drinks only 2-3 times a month.

I love giving him a blowjob, hear him moan and giving him an amazing orgasm. I love his body and everything about him. But as much as I try I hate to swallow his cum even though I want to. It’s just the texture not the taste. Sticky and weird it makes my sensory issues go craaazy.

I would really like to get over this :/

I feel like my partner needs to have sex or more accurately let one out every night, if he doesn’t he’ll jerk off in the bathroom.
Now normally, it’s great that he wants to have sex every night but nowadays it just feels like an obligation like he just wants to have an orgasm and that’s it.
But I just get the ick that when i refuse him, or if i happen to fall asleep early, he’ll end up watching porn and jack off in the bathroom.

Is it normal for guys wanting to just “let one out” every night. Or does my partner have extremely high libido?

So if I'm going down on somebody and fingering them at the same time, I tend to put all of the weight on my left shoulder for leverage. This gets uncomfortable after a few minutes, and I always push through, but it can get exhausting, and if I'm trying to make them cum before PIV, I need to take some time to get comfortable again. Edge of the bed helps with that a little, but it can be a weird angle sometimes, especially if the bed's higher off the ground. Anybody know of any comfortable positions where I can eat out and finger someone for prolonged periods?

So as some background, my boyfriend was with his ex for about two years, and it was very much a dead bedroom from what he's described. He hasn't divulged much about it since he doesn't like talking about anything sexual that involves someone other than me (which is just his ex), but from the tibits he's dropped, I've gathered that they would have sex on average once every three months or so, and he also would constantly get rejected for sex to the point where he simply stopped trying and she would make him feel like a creep for making any sort of sexual advance or comment (such as calling her hot and stuff)

Lots of this came up because, throughout our relationship, I've noticed that he refuses to make any sort of sexual advances whatsoever towards me. I'd walk around the apartment naked or get changed in front of him and stuff like that and he'd always leave the room or pay no mind to it, and since I've asked him he's said that he's basically been holding back from making advances even though he wants to because he feels like it's wrong.

How can I help him here? I understand why he acts like this and I don't take it personally, but I would like to get him to a point where he feels comfortable being the sexual initiator and not deliberately shutting himself down out of fear that he thinks I'll be grossed out over the fact that he's sexually attracted to me.

So I told my girlfriend a few years back after being asked what my top sexual fantasy js that it’s to have my dick sucked by 2 girls at the same time. She told me today after not talking about it for over two years that her roommate would be down and she thinks it would be hot.

I’ve read some posts about 3 ways fucking relationships up and I want to marry this girl so was looking to get advice on if this is a bad idea? Since I wouldn’t be fucking anyone I could see how it might be less risky but wondering if anyone has experience with this lol?

Not interested in fucking anyone else tbh and for whatever reason I personally kinda just think it would be weird even though I’m benefiting from it. I’m down to get head though and don’t think it’s something that would fuck our relationship up but maybe I just really like head so need someone to confirm I’m not being biased here lmao.

My girlfriend is the one who brought it up so curious what people’s thoughts are on going through with it.

Thanks!

(im a guy btw) my girlfriend was talking about how she had one of her best orgasms recently while masterbaiting with her old vibrator and she was shaking and just being real loud. im not upset she had a good time alone i just struggle with a lot of insecurity when it comes to sex and i honestly just wanted to talk about how i feel really bad since she had one of her best without me. i feel like i just weigh her down and cant ever satisfy her. now granted she does also always talk about how much she desires sexual intimacy with me and how she'll masterbait to the thought of me but anytime im fingering her i always struggle to make her finish which really upsets me. I just feel like if im not in the equation for one of her best orgasms maybe i shoudnt be there at all then because i just wont ever be good enough to equal the same if not better result.

I guess the reason for my post is that Im just begging for some slight consolation that I'm not worthless and that maybe theres X reason as to why it doesnt always work but that she'd still prefer me when it comes to sexual intimacy.

Whenever I (34m) am intimate with my partner (29F) no matter how long I last or how well I perform , she never seems to need or want more

Sometimes she’ll be more appreciative sometimes we’ll mutually agree it wasn’t the greatest but she’s always “done” when I’m “done”

For context she isn’t an orgasm first type of girl and never was, she’s more about the experience and such if that makes sense…however it doesn’t make sense that my finish is always hers in over 10 years

Please do not assume she’s always satisfied because I promise I am quite average in that regard

Any/all input is well appreciated !

Hi, F29. I have an issue that keeps coming up: I don’t seem comfortable before or during sex.
Sometimes, I’ve even had a partner ask me if I had very little experience (I’ve pretty much)… and it’s becoming frustrating.
I was in a relationship for a year and a half with an ex with whom I experimented a LOT of things. Before the end of our relationship, he would sometimes tell me that I didn’t seem comfortable during sex.
And honestly, he wasn’t wrong. I’m never completely comfortable, even after having sex multiple times with the same partner, and I’d really like to change that.

What make me think about it’s :
A few days ago, I went on a date with a guy I really liked. I was very attracted to him, and I told him beforehand that I was shy. He was really nice and did everything he could to make me feel comfortable.
Our second date was at his place. We talked for about an hour, and I was very nervous. I didn’t approach him, although I had already told him that I’m not usually the type to make the first move.
He told me he understood, but that my shyness made things a little complicated because he didn’t want to pressure me or come across as inappropriate. I assured him that he wouldn’t.
He eventually made a move.
But during sex (while he was inside lol) he suddenly stopped and said, “I still don’t feel like you’re completely comfortable.”
Then, at another point, he stopped again and said, “I feel like you’re somewhere else mentally.”
That really made me think, because even though I was shy, I actually felt pretty comfortable with him. And this isn’t the first time this has happened.
My last three partners have said similar things, and so have partners before them: “You don’t let yourself go,” “You think too much,” and they often even ask me if I’m in pain, even though I genuinely enjoy the moments I spend with them. (I might scream weirdly or make weird face lmao)
However I genuinely want to change this.
It’s true that before sex, I’m extremely tense. I’m afraid of getting physically close to the person, and I never make the first move because I’m scared of doing something that might make the other person uncomfortable.
If the person I’m with doesn’t make a move, I could literally stay like that for hours, even if I really want them.
I think about silly things like, “Does my stomach look too big?” I have some skin issues (psoriasis), and I start thinking about that, whether I shaved properly, whether I smell okay, etc. And all of that can occupy my mind.
I almost never make eye contact when I’m talking to people in general, and even less so during sex. It’s honestly exhausting.
And I think it shows and can be felt by the other person because I don’t fully allow myself to be present in the moment. Sometimes I even restrict myself to cum or squirt because I don’t want to look too weird….

I actually want to touch them first, flirt with them, take the lead a little, or turn them on. I’d like to feel more “sexy” and confident in my behavior.

I’d really appreciate any advice.

P.S. I’m neurodivergent, if that could be relevant.

Hi everyone, I’m a woman looking for tips on how to enjoy giving head to my boyfriend.

The reasons I don’t enjoy giving head to him is because 1. My face always gets so messy, which I don’t mind the sweat because obviously that’s going to happen but my nose gets really runny which makes me so grossed out. And 2. I just cannot breathe when I’m doing it.

Those both make it feel like a chore so every time I’m doing it I’m just thinking about when it can be over, rather than what can I do to make my partner feel good. I’ve given head to women and I love doing that because I don’t feel like I’m being suffocated and I can get comfortable while the other person also gets comfortable. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Any tips on sex in general would be greatly appreciated to be honest. TIA.

Hey y'all,

I'm a 33-year-old woman, and I'm feeling desperate. Most of the time, my orgasms feel shallow and not very intense, and they're over quickly. It's so underwhelming and disappointing.

I've tried to figure out why and learned some stuff, e.g. that although I really enjoy the feel of a vibrator, it becomes too intense when I orgasm, which ends the orgasm early. The only time I get a more intense orgasm is with deep, very slow thrusting while I come. "Normal" pace isn't really working either.

I'm looking for ideas on what else I could try. Has anyone had a similar problem and found something that helped?

So my boyfriend really likes eating out but I just found out he can't stand the way I taste like. He ate me out a bunch of times but was never able to do it for too long cuz of this.

I'm not really sure if I taste wrong or not and if it's a problem with me. I think I drink enough water so I'm not sure what else it could've. I have good hygiene and he never complained about anything else other than this.

I hooked up with a super cute guy who lost his virginity pretty young and had a body count of 35+ when I met him (early 20s).

However, I (30F) am a virgin and had very clearly relayed my boundaries of keeping it that way. I finished him multiple times throughout the night and he was extremely respectful, sweet and kept checking on me if I was okay.

I was telling my friend about the night and she seemed shocked. She is also not a virgin, and said, “He didn’t ask to go further during intimacy even once? That’s not possible.”

That made me start overthinking and spiralling a little bit. Is it hard for men who knows what sex feels like to not cross that boundary with a girl? I am overthinking now because was he not attracted to me enough to feel the “urge” or do non-virgin men genuinely enjoy engaging in sexual activities apart from sex?

I [25M] and my gf [25F] have been together for 8 years already, 3 of which in a long-distance relationship. She has always been a little more vanilla than me, but I thought it was normal since we are each other's first sexual experience.

The big issue is that she is extremely ticklish. On her feet, on her neck, and on her vagina and groin area. Because of that, I don't give oral to her because just me breathing near it makes her ticklish. To be honest, just that makes me a bit sad. I've never given oral to a woman, and I have no idea if I'm even any good at it, but well, she's the one losing out, I guess.

The real problem is that lately, it's been causing issues during sex. The other day we were doing missionary, and I know I can't kiss her neck in the beginning, but during sex it's usually fine, so I kissed her as I always do. She told me to stop because it was tickling. I said fine, although I've done it a hundred times before, and kept going.

Next day we were having sex again, this time I didn't kiss her neck at all. I just kissed her cheek. And at the end, she told me it was distracting her because I was just kissing her cheek and it was annoying. I was like: wtf do you want me to do? I can't kiss you on the neck, I can't touch your armpits, I can't touch your feet, I stick with a safe place that I know, and it was distracting you too?!

She said just kiss my neck as you used to do. And that was it, but it really annoyed me. I just want to express my love, to feel her, to kiss her. But sometimes I feel like I can't touch her. And I feel like she is not focused on enjoying the sex because every touch or move I make makes her ticklish, and in the end, she can't enjoy it 100%.

Maybe it is worse now since we were in a long distance relationship, but I don't know.

Has anyone dealt with this?

I think my boyfriends getting visibly sick and tired of me not wanting to do anything with him. We’ve had sex quite a few times, and we do other stuff, but it gets excessive when he asks for it all the time. Sometimes he’ll whip his dick out and expect me to just want to do things with him without even attempting to turn me on.

He also puts in barely any effort when he touches me (eats me out/fingers me) it’s always around 20 seconds and he asks if I came. That’s not the reason I don’t want to do anything with him, that’s just how I am. I have no interest in having sex every single time I see him!

He brings it up everytime we see eachother and says things like “ik u want to kiss me” or “are u gonna do anything” or “do whatever u want to me” or even “can we makeout” and he’ll go for it anyways even if I say no to making out? It makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me for not wanting to do anything!! I’ve told him so many times that couples don’t have to kiss 24/7 or do things every day!

I’ve noticed recently ASWELL when he whips his dick out, (I enjoy a bit of throat grabbing) it’ll get a bit aggressive, he’ll hold my throat very tight, and if I push him off, he grabs me again. He also asks me to call him daddy, and I’ve expressed multiple times I don’t want to call him that. I’m just a little confused on what to do, because without all the sexual stuff, he’s genuinely a good soul. The second things turn sexual, it goes downhill

Is there genuinely anything I can do that’s not breaking up with him? Would saying no sex at all until he sorts it out be a good option?

Hi ladies, I’m looking for some advice or to see if anyone else has gone through this because it’s driving me a bit crazy (in a good way, but also very distracting!).

I am 41 and I came off birth control in early August. By the end of August, my sex drive completely sky-rocketed, and it hasn’t calmed down since! It has never been this high before in my life. I honestly feel like a puppy sometimes! I find everything exciting and arousing, and I literally want to jump on my husband all the time!

My mind is constantly looping back to the bedroom, even when I'm at work or trying to get things done at home. I am constantly daydreaming about him, his body, and specific intimate things we do.

Don't get me wrong, it has been amazing for our marriage and we've unlocked a whole new level of passion lately. I absolutely love feeling like this and I don't want it to go away! But I'm just wondering where this has suddenly come from? Could this be my body finally waking up and my natural hormones surging after years of birth control? Or could it be an early sign of perimenopause?

Has anyone else experienced this sudden, crazy high drive after stopping birth control in their 40s? How do you manage the constant distraction when you just want your husband all day long?

Would love to hear your thoughts! xx

I (30M) was always curious about giving a blowjob. Considered myself straight/bicurious for years but now single I'd want to experiment.

I am not attracted towards men but really curious about the blowjob itself.

The thing, I want to keep it safe.

I have the feeling that meeting someone at a party and using a condom is not both safe & fun. It's hard to ask for a std test haha

Maybe online dating with test proof beforehand is safer? (+ With condom?)

But then I miss the fun parts I guess somehow... Swallowing and feeling it for real, without condoms.

Ofc it sounds stupid to do without condoms (tests can be faked, or they could have had sex in between, etc)

I was thinking that a recent STDs test (1 week) could be safe enough...?

What happened when you were in a similar situation?

My boyfriend and I live in a pretty expensive city. We’re both pursuing our education at a local college and have a long way to go before being independent.

My thing is, we can never find the right moment to have sex. If we’re at my house, my mom is constantly passing by my room and it’s just too awkward. His house has a lot of people living in it and it’s also just too inconvenient.

We end up resorting to having sex only once a week, whenever we have at least 30 minutes alone at someone’s house (which is RARE). Car sex terrifies me because of the potential issues with cops. Getting a hotel every other day is extremely inconvenient. How on earth do couples our age do this??

Hi there!

I don’t know how to start this, but for a bit of context I (F21) have always had quite a low sex drive, I’ve never really had a very high libido and am pretty much a virgin because of it. I was always fairly content with this and was considering that maybe I was just asexual.

But I do still get urges to get off sometimes, and the other day I did all that as usual, nothing really out of the ordinary. Expect for the fact it’s kicked off some sort of mental spiral to do with obsessively thinking about sex and being horny.

It’s all I’ve been able to think about or focus on for the last few days, I haven’t been able to focus on my work, on sleeping, on eating because my brain is completely fogged thinking about sex. I feel constantly at a fever pitch horny to the point it’s making me uncomfortable and quite upset, it’s all really overwhelming me and starting to stress me out.

I keep obsessively replaying any film with sexual themes in my head despite the fact I’m not even that into films like that, I keep obsessively looking up and reading things about sex and kinks and whatever because I’ve always had an interest in it but now it just stresses me out further and adds to the feeling of being overwhelmed.

I’ve worked myself up to the point of actual tears a few times because it’s all just upsetting and stressing me out and o don’t know what kicked it off or how to make it stop. It’s stressing me out to the point I can’t get into the right headspace to touch myself or anything and the idea of doing anything physical just adds to the stress of the whole ordeal.

I’ve never experienced anything like this before, and don’t have anyone in my personal life that I can ask about it. And when I’ve looked it up online I mostly get redirected to posts about how stress can affect sex lives rather than the other way around, like my issue.

Has anyone else gone through this and do you know what helps?? Or just know about it in general because I just feel totally lost, I really just want to get back on track with focusing on normal life again.

I am out of a longer relationship and now am slowly (re-)discovering my sexual side. I really want to use this time of being single to make expiriences and push my boundries and find fun connections with other humans (aka live my slut era haha). I have downloaded feeld and I have started to make some really gooood experiences. But now my problem: all my friends (I am F28) are very very vanilla. They dont judge me and i can def share "hey i had a stranger come over last night to fuck me" but then they also dont really understand it and are all in happy cosy cute relationships. I really want people to share this crazy expierence with, who might go trough something similar or who wnt to share their own gossip. Any ideas where to find that either online, here on reddit or in person?

Edit because I should have been more specific haha: its mostly women I am looking for. As a straight women myself, its not horny men I am lacking :D

Partner (m) used to go down on me (f) every time. I also give him head every time. But last 3 times together he only fingered me, no oral. I am very hygienic and shower before our encounters.

Also he never lets me finish him with oral. He wants to finish with PIV. I think my oral is ok, because he says I have to stop because he’s about to cum. Why won’t he let me finish him with oral?

Hey everyone, I wanted to share a few things I’ve noticed about how my dick works, and I’m really curious whether yours works the same way.

My ability to get an erection depends on how stressed I am and how long it’s been since I last ejaculated.

When I’m alone or with a partner I feel really comfortable with, there’s no stress, and getting hard is easy—even if I’ve ejaculated recently.

With a new partner, I’m more stressed, so I need to have gone a little longer without ejaculating and feel a bit more sexually pent up.

Keeping that in mind, I’ve been able to make sure I’m ready whenever I need to be. I don’t have any physical issues in that department.