r/predental • u/stonkstonkstonk___ • 3h ago
💡 Advice Almost 30, financially struggling, and seriously considering giving up on dental school. Has anyone been in my position?
I’m 29, married, and have been working as a dental assistant for almost 10 years. I’ve wanted to become a dentist for a long time, and I genuinely love dentistry, but I’m reaching a point where I don’t know if I can realistically keep pursuing this dream.
I’m currently finishing my bachelor’s degree while taking my science prerequisites at community college. Academically, things haven’t been going well. I’ve struggled with chemistry, and I’m now considering withdrawing from chemistry again. I know I’m capable of learning the material, but between work, financial stress, and trying to keep up with several classes, I feel like I’m constantly falling behind.
The biggest issue is money.
I work part-time at a warehouse because the schedule is flexible enough to accommodate my classes, but the pay barely covers my expenses. I’m living paycheck to paycheck, my credit cards are maxed out, and this month I couldn’t even afford to pay my full share of rent. Apart from being physically demanding.
I have nearly 10 years of experience as a registered dental assistant, including restorative dentistry, implants, and digital dentistry. I could probably find a better-paying full-time RDA position, but most dental offices need someone during normal business hours, which conflicts with my science classes.
I feel stuck. If I work more hours, I sacrifice time for school. If I prioritize school, I can’t make enough money to support myself. And the stress from both is affecting my academic performance.
I’ve considered learning a trade, finding a different career temporarily, starting a small business, or taking time off from prerequisites to work and save money. But every option seems to come with another setback or delay.
I’m not looking for someone to tell me that dental school is easy or that I just need to work harder. I know it’s difficult, and I’m willing to put in the work. I just don’t know how to make the financial side sustainable long enough to even get there.
The thought of giving up on dentistry after all these years honestly breaks my heart. But I’m also scared of spending another few years struggling financially and academically without making meaningful progress.
Has anyone here been in a similar position? Did you take time off to work full-time and save money? Did anyone struggle with multiple withdrawals or retakes and eventually make it into dental school? How did you financially support yourself while completing prerequisites?
I’d especially appreciate hearing from older or nontraditional predental students.
I’m just feeling pretty lost right now and could really use some perspective.