So i‘ve been pan for like a solid two or three years, and last year I socially transitioned from a girl to a boy. when I was identifying as a girl, I was largely attracted to girls and non-binary people with little to no interest in men, but I still knew I was attracted to them. since socially transitioning, i’m now attracted mostly to men and non-binary people, and not so much women, but I still know I’m attracted to them. has this happened to anyone else? ive been considering if it’s the spaces im in that are just less populated with women, but im really not sure. with my non women crushes, they’ve felt a lot more strong of an emotion than my women crushes, which I didn’t have many of in the first place now that im thinking about it. Maybe I always had a preference for men and didnt notice because I wasn’t in male dominated spaces or fandoms like I am now? Im not sure, what do y’all think.

do i look like a boy 🥹

Am I still pansexual or different label? I'm attracted to people regardless of their sex or gender, but I'd only date them if their personality is good or we have slight connection. (sorry if this sounds dumb.)

Hey everyone!

I've recently become interested in pansexual-coded, panromantic-coded, and demi-panromantic-coded male characters, and I'm curious whether anyone else enjoys exploring these kinds of characters in movies, television, books, or original stories.

One thing that interests me is the possibility of male characters who develop romantic feelings through a meaningful emotional connection. I also enjoy exploring men who have personalities that go beyond traditional stereotypes about masculinity and who can be caring, protective, funny, emotionally expressive, or simply interesting in their own unique ways.

I'm especially curious about characters whose identities aren't explicitly confirmed but whose personalities, relationships, or experiences might lead viewers or readers to interpret them as pansexual or demi-panromantic. I understand that being coded as something isn't the same as having a confirmed identity, and I'd love to hear how other people interpret these characters.

I'm also interested in creating my own original male characters inspired by these themes. I'd like to explore their personalities, relationships, emotional connections, and identities without making their sexuality or romantic orientation their entire personality.

So, I'd love to ask a few questions:

- Do you have any favorite pansexual, panromantic, or demi-panromantic male characters?

- Have you ever interpreted a male character as pan-coded or demi-panromantic-coded, even when it wasn't explicitly confirmed?

- Are there any books, movies, or television shows you'd recommend?

- Do you enjoy creating original characters with these identities or characteristics?

I'd love to hear your thoughts and recommendations! I'm looking forward to discovering characters and stories I might not have encountered before.

My darling pansexuals, please help. I am very confused. Most of my life I dated men, but a few years ago (after leaving a long term relationship) I realised I am pansexual. I’ve comfortably transformed into a version of myself that feels authentic - I am a butch, masc person with a larger body and a mullet. I feel true to myself and I felt like I was now mostly attracted to women. I was hardly interacting with men. Over the last year I’ve only dated women.
Fast forward to two weeks ago and I met a man in a game online. We’ve been playing together and talking every day since and I… I think I _like_ him. And I think he likes me too. I don’t understand how this had happened and I am baffled by this development.
Why do I need advice? Because I am confused. I feel like I’m undoing all my queer growth, I’m scared of being rejected by my queer community. I have had so many bad experiences with men that I honestly didn’t think I’d ever trust another. How do I balance who I am, and who I’ve become with what I now want? Am I betraying my community? Will I lose everything I have built if I keep going down this path?
The challenge of being pansexual is you just never know who you’ll be attracted to or how that will manifest itself.

Hello everyone, just joined this subreddit and looking for friends up in the State College area of PA. New to the area as well. I am 45 years old and into nerdy stuff... Video games, magic the gathering, one piece, minerals, going to the mountains with my side by side, hanging out watching TV, ect. This is the most public thing I have ever done involving my sexuality. Had to keep everything fairly repressed the last 20 years due to the military, and for years before that due to growing up in Texas in a Southern Baptist household with a very Republican family. Ready to get out there and be myself.

That I can experience same sex attraction and attraction towards everyone else,I love being pan

Lonely girl problems

I hope everyone's week is filled with support and kindness, and love.

So I'm new to dating ( my current bf being the only person I have ever dated, flirted with, kissed, etc)

And we do have a good relationship, yet I can't help but stress that he might not like me anymore or that if I stop looking good enough, he will break up with me. And I get scared he might bc I constantly need confirmation that he still want to be with me (the confirmation isn't that often it's mostly just I want him to text me back and say that he loves me)

So can anyone with actual experience tell me if I'm overthinking, or is this a normal thing to fear?

Hey..I'm a cd 25

Sometimes I feel caught between the life I'm expected to build and the life I secretly wish to explore. 💭

I'm at a stage where I have to make important career decisions, and I'm scared of choosing a path that gives me professional stability but leaves no room for my personal happiness, freedom, and identity.

This feminine side of me isn't something I want to keep fighting forever. At the same time, I'm still trying to understand myself, my feelings, and what kind of future would genuinely make me happy.

I don't have all the answers yet. I just don't want to wake up years later regretting that I sacrificed a part of myself out of fear, pressure, or the hope that these feelings would disappear.

To those who've balanced a demanding career with crossdressing, gender exploration, or a private side of themselves: how did you find that balance?

Did you manage to build a career without losing yourself along the way? What do you wish you'd understood earlier?

I'd genuinely appreciate hearing your experiences. 🩷

\#Crossdresser #SelfDiscovery #WorkLifeBalance #GenderExpression #FindingMyself🏳️‍🌈

I can show love to anybody no matter what your gender.. I don't view one gender is better than the other to me they're equal

Proud Pansexual Maverique 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ and this is my ceiling (haha and yes, both my daughter and my artwork surrounds it).

But like many of us here, I have a rough “family situation” (where they are abusive and so I haven’t contacted them in years.) And for my fellow Canadians, it’s Thanksgiving 🍂🎃🍁 weekend for us!

But because of my family situation, honestly, I really don’t have any “Thanksgiving plans” this weekend.

But when I look up and see my beautiful Pan flag on the ceiling, it reminds me of one of the many things that I’m extremely thankful for!!

I’m thankful that we have this wonderful community online where we can all just be our fabulously Queer selves, even if there aren’t people in our own lives who support us or our beautiful 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ fabulousness.

So, for any fellow Canadians, Happy Thanksgiving! 🍁🎃🍂 (hahaha or “Pansgiving” for us 🏳️‍🌈)

Ok all.. well I'm back in the dating pool, and wow do I not know how to do this!

Been on the apps and that's just been sheer garbage. Where to start? I'm in CO, Denver is my nearest LGBTQ+ hub that's viable. 39, transmasc, mono, childfree (often mistaken as cis-male, but I'm sapphic as hell) Into femmes who are bi, pan, lesbians - I'm open, I just don't know how to meet you in the wild!

I get a lot of sneers from lesbian/sapphic spots, but that's been my whole world for over 25 years until I started T & got married - that didn't work out unfortunately. So now.. I'm on my own & don't really have much of a social circle, most friends are married, far away (I was military so I have friends in other states) or painfully very introverted & don't go out.

I'm neurospicy, so I do have a shorter social battery sometimes, but I miss living life more vibrantly! I would love to make friends, but also.. really would love to meet a wonderful woman.

Truly missing how sapphic relationships connect, the intensity of communication, the sincerity, the softness, the emotional intimacy, unspoken understanding of queer culture, the beauty of the everyday and the magical moments - whether that be experiencing a literal fantasy ball or something else.

Thank you for the kind words, support & love

Though the subreddit is very specific I’d thought I’d come out on this app.

Hello, I am 23 years old and I am pansexual. I go by she/her pronouns. In my small town I do not know many other pansexuals like myself nor many queer people either. Majority of my exes have been male coincidentally, therefore not many people know I am open minded. I guess never judge a book by its cover, but you guys already knew that.

Hello fellow panoramas!!

I’m looking to see how people approach potential romantic partners. I like the advice that I should aim for conversation not with the expectation of an action.

I also am fully aware it’s just a skill that needs to be developed. Currently I compliment and then falter — making my intentions unknown. I want to put myself in more positions of rejection to try!

Also I consider myself a baby queer. still developing parts of my sexual identity. Feeling alittle out of place with people so set in their identity. However I wanna flirt while I still have the rights to do so 😭

Give this gal advice. What is a great smooth entry? What should I avoid? How have you found success?

I had never actually dated anyone and I don't have a preference for any gender, but it was still fun!!
Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/pansexual/s/92qRLHCmOj

I've been thinking about this for quite a while, and I was wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar.

For some reason, I've always been really drawn to panromantic and pansexual men, as well as male characters who feel pan-coded, even if it isn't officially confirmed. I also find myself admiring panromantic and pansexual male models because of the confidence, warmth, authenticity, and openness they often project.

Sometimes it's their voice.

Sometimes it's their personality.

Sometimes it's simply the way they carry themselves.

I also notice that I develop what I can only describe as "man crushes" on certain characters or celebrities. A few examples for me include characters like Spider-Man, Grant Gustin's portrayal of The Flash, Andrew Garfield, and other fictional or real people who give me what I can only describe as "pan energy," even if that's just my own interpretation.

What's interesting is that these feelings don't always make sense to me. Sometimes they feel like admiration. Other times they feel like attraction. Sometimes they're somewhere in between, and I'm still trying to understand where the line is.

Another thing I've noticed is that confidence is incredibly attractive to me. Seeing someone who is comfortable with themselves and authentic can leave a really strong impression.

At the same time, some of these feelings make me uncomfortable because they raise questions about myself that I'm still exploring. I don't necessarily have all the answers yet, but I'm trying to understand my reactions instead of ignoring them.

Has anyone else experienced something like this? How did you distinguish admiration, aesthetic appreciation, emotional attraction, and romantic or sexual attraction?

I'd really like to hear other people's perspectives.