I'm a 25F, an I left islam 4 years ago and an atheist. My elder brother is also an atheist.

Here's what happened, I was planning to go out with my younger brother to hand over some clothes my mom had stitched for a friend's mother. But there was a religious dawat happening on the ground floor of our apartment, and several Muslim men dressed in religious attire were sitting around the parking area. My younger brother said he wasn't comfortable taking me out because of their presence. He told my mom, who immediately suggested that I share the location with him so he could go alone.

When I asked why I couldn't go, my mom said, "How can you walk in front of them wearing such short clothes?" I was wearing a nightshirt and pyjamas and was even willing to throw on a jacket and leave. My elder brother also intervened and agreed that my younger brother should go instead.

Honestly, I was so frustrated. Why should I have to change my plans and stay home just because a group of religious men are sitting outside? Why does their presence suddenly become my problem? Why are women always expected to adjust, cover up, or stay indoors instead of simply going about their lives? I've just lost my job due to a layoff and am trying to get back on my feet, and situations like these make me want to move out even fast.

How is it my problem if they're sitting in groups? All religions are patriarchal, but Islam is one of the most oppressive, worst religion for women. Being born into Islam and having your freedom, clothing, and choices constantly dictated by religious rules must be an absolute nightmare.

The way that dildos have been thrown into the games of female NBA players is fucking insane. They are probably not gonna stop so might as well hit them with the same to get the point across. I don't care how immature it is, I believe in equality. 

PS: I can't do shit, I don't live in America

None of his remotely new info but its been really bothering me lately how this site approaches misogyny, particularly within communities that seem to exist PRIMARILY to express hostility towards women. I would link them but I assume it might get this post removed...

Anyway like I'm sure many of you have I've come across some genuinely disturbing rhetoric on this platform, including users openly advocating sexual violence against women. Sometimes those comments get removed, which is obviously a good thing, but I find myself wondering whether simply removing the offending content is enough?

To be clear, I understand that moderators can ban users without that information being publicly visible, and that subreddit moderators don't have the authority to issue sitewide bans but I think this raises a much larger question about Reddit's responsibility as a platform because I have to ask at what point does misogyny stop being treated as a series of individual rule violations and start being recognised as a wider problem with the communities Reddit allows to operate?

I think there's a difference between a subreddit occasionally attracting misogynistic users and a subreddit developing a culture where hostility towards women is a central part of its identity and I think the latter deserves considerably more scrutiny.

What particularly concerns me is the apparent threshold for intervention. Why should we have to wait until someone explicitly threatens or advocates violence before taking seriously the kind of rhetoric that dehumanises women and creates an environment where that violence can be encouraged?

I'm NOT suggesting that every offensive opinion warrants a permanent ban. Just questioning whether Reddit does enough to address patterns of misogyny rather than responding to individual comments in isolation.

I also think it's worth examining how much responsibility gets placed on volunteer moderators compared with Reddit itself. Moderators are expected to maintain their communities, but surely the company operating the platform has a much greater responsibility to address harmful behaviour across it?

I'd be interested to hear other people's experiences with reporting misogynistic content on Reddit, particularly whether they feel the platform takes it seriously. I assume the short answer to that is no they don't...

Even though the majority of the population is muslim, they introduced a secular dress code policy in school. Still those women don't want a secular space even if the government wants change. I think every government and public office and school should be secular and should not accommodate any religion. I feel like at this point even if miraculously muslim men give freedom to these women they won't take it. I only feel very bad for a few women like rahaf muhammad who got struck with these kinds of women.

Sorry in advance for all the censoring that is necessary for Reddit. I’m talking about the words starting with B and C mainly, but a little bit D (lesbian) and F (fish/fishy) too.

B has been extremely normalized for my whole life. People say it all the time. Mostly women, but I hear a lot of queer AMAB people use it too, especially gay men. Even though the word has never been used to systematically degrade men or AMABs.

C has very recently been reinvented. It’s used in a very new way now, as a complimentary adjective. My experience has been that queer AMABs, mostly gay men, have driven this reinvention, even though the word has never been used to systematically degrade men or AMABs.

Fish/fishy was reinvented by trans women (and maybe spread into the drag world as well?) relatively recently too. For those not familiar, in this sense, it means someone is looking or giving very much biological female and is a compliment. It originates from the idea that the female anatomy smells like fish. Most of the people using this term were never the target of this misogynistic insult.

There’s a pretty widely accepted norm that derogatory words used to targets specific marginalized groups should only really be used and reclaimed by people within those groups. E.g., I would never say the other F word against gay men, or the T word against trans people, because even though I’m part of the broader LGBTQ community, I’m not a gay man or a trans person. I wouldn’t want anyone to feel that sting of a slur, feel unsafe, or disrespected, even if it’s unintentional / was meant in a playful way. And I would ofc never use any ethnic slurs as a white person. But in my experience, gay men will call me D, B, or will use C or F in convo with me without a second thought. Why are women the exception to that norm? Why is this the one group for which degrading language often becomes so widespread?

I’m personally not offended by it IRL. It’s usually all in good fun and well intended. I would not be mad at a friend for using them.

But it’s always irked me a bit because they don’t GET it. If you don’t get it, I feel you shouldn’t use it or be able to “reclaim” it. Have they been called B countless times (or a C less often) for rejecting the unwanted advances of a creepy man, or for simply asserting their viewpoint or boundaries, or just for not smiling? Have they ever been called D in an insulting way? Have they ever been made to feel so insecure about their female bodies as a CHILD because they frequently heard kids at school joking and snickering about “fishy” girls, or “fishy” smells? Has that language or idea ever resulted in an entire industry of “hygiene” products that target THEIR insecurities, reinforce completely unattainable expectations about THEIR bodies, and actually harm their bodies?

I don’t think so. I don’t think they’ve ever felt the sting of these words in their ‘original’ sense. Why is it that this is considered okay, particularly in the queer community? These are just my thoughts, but I am open minded and want to hear others’ perspectives.

So I’m gonna try this here because I’m so sick of people still trying to soften our feminine rage. It was deleted by moderators because it supposedly caused “member conflict” (it absolutely did not, the post was up all of ten minutes and everyone was commiserating together) and it got “political” (I mean, someone mentioned how Mamdani is one of the good guys, and I mentioned Trump and Epstein in a comment).

Does anyone else feel like they’re going a little insane? Feminist rant ahead.

I know our collective female rage has been building for a while now, especially since the Me Too movement. Over the last year or so, things just feel overwhelmingly HEAVY. Like I can’t handle one more story on the scale.

Gisèle Pelicot. The Epstein Files. Cornell 7. Brock Turner. Online r@pe academies with millions of hits all over the world (men trading how to tutorials for drugging and r@ping their own wives). AI nudification of photos (of CHILDREN being tossed around as a debate?). Countless stories of men in positions of power assaulting women—politics, pastors, etc.

My mental space feels at capacity for all of this. I love the men in my life, but they are silent. Unaware. Not paying attention. I’m raising two daughters in a world that feels stacked against them. I’m raising them to literally not care about what boys think of them…the opposite of the Disney prince world I was raised in.

I feel rage on a level never felt before, and it feels like a lot of us are waking up. I look at men as a population differently. Everyone seems suspect. I don’t trust men as born leaders like I used to think. Every time I hear a story about war I think “this would’ve never happened in a matriarchy.”

Does anyone else feel this way??? I’m determined to elevate women only at this point. There ARE good men but we never truly know who they are. It sucks.

Kelly asked women to share their first experiences of sexual assault. She went first: she was 12 years old, on a city bus.

By the next morning, Kelly said she was receiving at least 50 stories per minute. By Monday afternoon, the New York Times reported that nearly 27 million people had responded to or visited her Twitter page. Kelly sparked #NotOkay, a viral movement that made the scale of sexual assault impossible to ignore.

This was a full year before #MeToo became a global hashtag. But “me too” already existed as a movement. A decade earlier, activist Tarana Burke had founded it to support survivors of sexual violence, particularly Black women and girls.

What followed Kelly’s post took something we’d become used to discussing as a statistic and made it overwhelmingly personal: women sharing their experiences, in their own words, one after another after another. NPR called it a “collective unburdening.”

Read more: https://www.playboy.com/read/politics/before-metoo-went-viral-kelly-oxford-said-ill-go-first

I’m talking about people using it as a complimentary adjective now, like “that’s so c—t”, “the outfit is c—ty!!”. In my experience this ‘reclamation’ of the word has been primarily driven by gay men and LGBTQ AMABs but is now used pretty widely across queer communities and even often by straight women, less commonly straight men (but I have heard it!)

It was, and still is to a lot of people, a very misogynistic slur. It’s used against women. So the idea of men (mainly gay men) “reclaiming” or normalizing this and other derogatory words against women is questionable to me, but I’m curious to hear your thoughts.

Honestly I love that it’s being reclaimed, just not sure I agree with who’s doing it. It’s clear to me that a lot of the men using it have never had this word used against them and don’t understand the weight of it. (Probably partly because it was considered so offensive that it became extremely uncommon to hear when our generation was growing up.) That’s the part that sorta annoys me, not that I’m offended by the word personally - It is being used in a very different way. But I can just tell they don’t understand, if that makes sense. It feels like minimizing the historical impact and harm of this word. (I say historical, but it was not very long ago at all… THAT episode of curb your enthusiasm aired in 2001!)

Also don’t love them using the word bitch tbh!

There’s a pretty clear and well-followed norm that slurs or curse words that have been used to degrade specific marginalized groups should only really be said by people in those groups. It seems this norm does not apply when the group in question is women. Whether or not you agree with that “rule”, you know what I’m talking about and there seems to be some interesting exceptions.

As a lesbian I wouldn’t say the f slur, as a cis girl I’d never say the tr—y slur, even though it’s been reclaimed to some extent and I am part of the larger queer community. As a white person I would never use the n slur or other various ethnic slurs. But gay men will call me a d*ke, a bitch, or use the c word without thinking twice. It’s almost always good natured but the audacity is crazy lol, it really makes me feel that language degrading women is not taken seriously.

and I have to mention fishy. I know this is a more controversial one… Trans women are women!!! But I will bet a lottt of money that no one EVER used that kind of language against most of the trans women who are using this word. They were never made to feel deeply insecure of having an AFAB body because of this idea. so why are they “reclaiming” it? Love my trans sisters but I’m sorry, but how can you as a trans woman really understand how it feels?

These are just my thoughts but I am open-minded and want to hear others’ opinions. It’s not just about the C word or any other specific word, but about the way derogatory language against women becomes much more widely normalized than derogatory language against any other marginalized group. It’s odd to me.

Hi I am looking for book about feminism and disability both invisible disability's and visible and intersectional issues regarding this. Does anybody have any good books they have read or seen about these issues.

My heart is breaking watching this. They have a TikTok insta and YouTube it just started so I’m assuming more will follow. But my lord I know I’ve experienced this in the healthcare system and so many other women not just in USA. It’s a problem globally. Anxiety is a symptom not a cause! Our daughters deserve a better future and they deserve to be heard. I recorded a small screen recording of the first couple minutes. I’m so glad we are finally talking about it on larger platforms the comments just break my heart.

Video credit - https://youtu.be/lsOeyQsSX2o?is=QKyYG-pZrvidt_uj

Tracy Rodriguez on YouTube

Their TikTok and insta I think is “the people that medicine forgot”