I matched with a girl on Hinge last month. We talked to each other for somedays, exchanged our socials, chatted about our movies and other things. Everything was so going good.

After a couple of weeks she invited me to a pizza place near her place for a date. I was quite happy and went. We ordered nice pizzas, had spent nice time. And the bill came. She received the bill and made some incomprehensible expression and handed it over to me without saying anything.

I was clueless and anyway looked into the bill. I casually asked her "wanna split it?". She didn't speak for some seconds and she just took her bag and left the place.

I was like wtff why was she leaving suddenly. The waiter was looking at me and I paid the bill. By the time I went out to look for her, she was already vanished. I tried to call and after some serious time, I realised I got blocked everwhere.

Is asking for a split a crime?

I had to look back at the women I've dated, and I could only think of one instance. This woman was set to inherit 10-20 million dollars through her parents. I didn't really see her as a meal ticket or a ticket to wealth though, as I'm doing quite well for myself, living quite comfortably in a VHCOL city. We eventually broke up, I started dating other people, but no where in my mind did I think I have to find someone as rich or her or even richer.

It made me think, how often do women date men who are less successful or even as succesful as them. In my dating experience, pretty much all of the women I've dated have made less than me, and have been either less educated or as educated.

I don't think my female counterpart when it comes to career success would give me a chance. This is just from my experiences, and also taking a look at the women I know. Their partners are usually making more money than them by a pretty significant margin.

So, men of this forum, have you ever dated a woman who was more successful than you? And knowing that it is rare, what do you think made her fall for you?

Sooo… I’ve been texting this guy for 2 months now and we have been intimate on multiple occasions. We recently discussed how we feel about each other and I told him I’m not looking for anything serious but I really do like him. I recently got his full name ( I know smh ) I only knew his first name I want to mention we met on tinder and he has never asked for my socials…i actually deleted on my socials so even if he asked he wouldn’t get any…anyways. After learning his full name I looked him up and I found a facebook acc….its an active account from what it seems and I’ve seen Facebook on his phone. He follows 574 people and I’d say about 400 are woman. ** **THESE R NOT JUST GIRLS HES FOLLOWING THEY ARE FRIENDS ON FB SO THEY R FOLLOWING HIM BACK*\\*Heres another thing he has a 1 yearold daughter and his bm lives out of state. Almost every other girls pf I click into is a younger woman 21-28 who have children……I find that odd and extremely interesting. What does this mean? Why does he follow over 400 woman and PLUS I would say at least 300 are pregnant or have children. Hears another thing doesn’t seem like the type to be a player he’s very quiet but I also can’t forget he has a child and now follow a bunch of woman who also have children..?

I F(22) went on a date yesterday with this guy. He was really great, we had a lot of fun, he was easy to talk to, respectful, just a great person. But as the date kept going and as soon as I got home from it I realised I really don't want to date someone and don't want to committ. I'd rather focus on my studies and work, especially because I'm not willing to spend my time with someone else right now and that's not fair on anyone. I don't want to be with someone and maybe I never will.

I don't want to lead him on so I'd rather tell him the truth but I don't know how to. Any tips on what I could say?

I am south asian 34F recently moved to USA and started dating. I have met people from different ethnicity and all. So far there is a white American guy I can really connect with. Went on 4 dates in 3 weeks and things are pretty consistent.

Now my goal for dating is to marry. I want to get married in 1.2 - 2 year ish. Recently I had a conversation regarding this guy with my fellow South asian male friend who is living in usa more than a decade now. He specifically mentioned white guy above 35 who was never married before will never marry. I can either enjoy few years with him or move on.

Is it a thing? The guy i am seeing is 38. Never married before. He is a professor at a prestigious university. So it made me think twice why he is not married yet. He told me eventually he wants a family and so far he had few long term relationship which didn't work out as the other person had to move to other part of the country.

I hope to get some insight here. Sorry for the bad English.

Every day on here is another post that reads something like: “we made eye contact from across the room,” “she said hi when she walked past me” “I asked her to hang out and she said sure,” “we exchanged numbers but she says she had a boyfriend?”

These are all normal things that FRIENDS do. She wants to be your FRIEND if she’s doing these things. Men have so few friends they have forgotten what a friendship looks like, so they interpret ANY interaction as romantic interest.

Replace any of these interactions with if a man did them, they don’t indicate romantic interest, dork they? Believe me, when a woman is interested in you, you’ll know.

Precisely what title says. And the worst thing is, the vast majority of women I find myself attracted or talking to on a even semi-serious level share this common denominator. I’ve always been drawn to women that are natural seducers and I have zero reason to believe the other men that gravitate around them are not fascinated by this peculiarity just as much, regardless of any scenario disguised as platonic friendship or dynamics of that nature. This being said, the solution to this would be easily deductible: don’t date them. I just always go back. The emotional animosity I feel when I talk to this type of women on a romantic level is just irreplicable. How do I sort this out?

I just matched with a guy & he seems great so far (too soon to have a strong opinion but the messages are flowing)

He said he’s been hesitant to get another cat since his breakup because he’s read that women find single men with cats weird. Is this true?!

In my opinion, a single man with cats is a green flag at best, beige at worst. Cats require an understanding of boundaries & consent.

Reddit what is your opinion? I was so mind blown by this that I had to ask a general audience 😂

ETA: I do not view this as a red flag or really even use it as a dating filter; it’s a bonus green flag if they happen to have cats. This post was just for a fun discussion

I'm 29M, she's 27F and we've been dating for about 7 weeks. Things have been going great so far.

She recently invited me on a 4 day trip to Quebec City next month. Sounded fun until she explained it was originally booked for her anniversary with her ex. They broke up in August and most of the reservations are nonrefundable.

She had booked and paid for the hotel and a couples massage as a gift for him, while he was supposed to cover transportation and meals. Everything is still in her name and she'd rather use the reservations than let them go to waste. I'd just have to pay for my own transportation and meals, which I've already budgeted for.

The weird part is she wants to keep the exact itinerary they planned together, including the couples massage and a pretty expensive romantic dinner.

I suggested we just go somewhere else for a weekend, but she thinks that's pointless when everything is already arranged.

I do like her, but the idea of basically replacing another guy on his anniversary trip feels strange. Would you go or is this moving way too fast?

Okay okay so I (30F) met a guy on reddit (38M). He and I got along pretty well and have chatted and called for about 13 days straight. Now, then he went suddenly MIA for this one day so I decided to google his username lol. Turns out he was actively dating other people when he told me he isn’t at the moment and wasn’t actively looking for anyone before I came into the picture. Like I would understand he told me the truth as we just met! But to see on another post that he was proud that he got a date for the week. At this time I even asked him why he was missing for the day and then no response. So I just decided to delete the app where we were talking to as I didn’t want to invest more time on someone who triggers my detective mode. I just want consistency and honesty at this point. Is that so hard to find?

I (34M) have a 6 year old daughter, she lives with me half the week. I've been divorced for two years and only recently started dating again. I met a woman (31F) through a friend's pottery class and we've had two dates so far, both went really well.

My dating profile on apps always said I have a kid, so it was never a question there. But this time we met in person and it just hasn't come up yet. On the first date we talked about work and travel, on the second about books and our families in general. I mentioned my parents and my sister but somehow skipped my daughter, and Ive been feeling weird about that since.

I'm not hiding her at all, I'm proud of her. It's more that I didn't want the first date to turn into "so tell me about your divorce" right away. But now I'm worried that if I tell her on the third date, she'll wonder why I didn't say it earlier.

For people who've dated a single parent or are one: when would you want to know? Should I just bring it up casually next time, like mentioning something funny my daughter said, or is it better to say it directly before the next date so she can decide if it's something she's ok with? I'd rather know early if it's a dealbreaker than get attached.

I am a 35 year old female and I have a type. The reserved book nerd, who I can talk literature and history with. If you can talk to me about Georgian architecture, you have my heart. Or Grimoire tales omg yes. If you can appreciate the flavor and simplicity of a real cup of hot coffee with no crazy added flavors or toppings, it’s a yes. If you are this type, there are girls out here that want you!!

Hi, I’m a 25 year old, 5’7, MAYBE 100lbs man. I just wanted to vent/possibly relate to someone here. Despite all my efforts I seem to attract only the extremely overweight women. I don’t have an issue with bigger girls but lately it’s been quite literally OBESE women, like easily over 140lbs heavier than me. I don’t have anything against obese women but it’s a bit disheartening when I’m not physically compatible with a good 90% of the women that match with me. I try to get a bit heavier to even it out but with possible thyroid issues weight has always been a struggle with me. What should I do?

heyy people, this is really random but i know that at least someone shares the same insecurity as me lol
i’m dating a guy and we want to start being a bit more touchy etc but i’m super insecure because of my flatness lmao
it maybe sounds funny to someone but this is genuinely keeping me up at night sometimes, is he gonna be disappointed when he touches my boobs and feels nothing? did anyone have a similar experience before ?
thank u in advance❤️

So I(20m) matched with this girl(22f) on tinder almost 2 weeks ago, we have a ton of things in common, conversation was going great, we agreed to go see a movie tomorrow after work and have been talking about other things we could get together and do in the near future that cater to our hobbies and interests.

We were supposed to go out last Sunday but she had mentioned she was sick and I said we could reschedule so she could actually have fun. So we rescheduled for tomorrow.

Well yesterday she didn't respond to me at all and she just sent me a text saying "sorry I got assaulted and don't feel like talking to anyone"

Like what? I mean if she's being honest and something terrible happened in the last few days that's awful and mostly understandable, but what do I do in this situation? Normally I would just be like damn I'm really sorry that happened, hope you never have to deal with that again; or something like that and move on. But this isn't the first time something just like this has happened to me, is it really that common, or is it something with me and this is normal escape card, or is this some kind of test to see what I say?

So I (18f - almost 19) got asked out by a grad student (22m). He’s a really nice guy and we have a lot in common, but I’m wondering if it’s too big of an age gap? For context I’m a freshman. Also, he’s a TA, but not for a course I’m currently taking (but does that make it weird if I agree to go on a date?) I’d love some advice, I haven’t really dated many people and especially not people that aren’t the same age as me, so I’m struggling a little here

I'm 5'6", and my girlfriend is around 5'11". Before me, she's only dated guys taller than her, so I'm her first shorter boyfriend.

She mentioned that she generally prefers guys taller than her, but she made it clear that height isn't a dealbreaker. To her, having a taller boyfriend is more of a bonus than a requirement.

I appreciate her honesty, and I don't think there's anything wrong with having preferences. After all, she's dating me despite me not fitting her usual height preference.

Still, I'm curious whether others would consider this a red flag, especially early in a relationship.

Personally, I'd like to believe that for most women who prefer taller men, height is simply a preference rather than an absolute requirement.

What do you think?

Men genuinely do you ever just hang out with women cause you want to be friends or is there an underlying attraction?

Is it really that easy to get a boyfriend/girlfriend in high school nowadays? Is it because they are clueless and its just puppy love that will not last long past 25?

I know some people who had something serious from the ages of 18-25 only to break up in the end and are now single in their late 20’s.

I’m looking at these high schoolers like wow, thats great that they have social skills and all but c’mon -who knows what will happen? They might someone else they like better later-for those who go to college and some want to be the party guy with side chicks.

Things like income, jobs, compromise -something that high schoolers haven’t had any life experience yet, all those factors come in, something outside their “hometown” bubble that they don’t realize is to come

From the post you guys can probably tell i don't have much experience with girls. But like i took a girl out yesterday for a second date and we had a good talk and like i mean she stayed in my car for a little longer so thinking back i should've made a move physically.

However tbh i just had no idea how to initiate any kind of touch without accidentally committing any assault for touching her if she didn't want me too or something.

Can any experienced guys weigh in and tell me how they initiated physical touch without getting accused of anything, and stuff like do you ask beforehand or do light contact first just lmk

Ive been on dating apps for maybe a week or two now and had some awful dates. a guy threw up on me and another one tried to inject me with peptides… just overall very bad luck with the dating scene. I deleted tinder and got on hinge and it was sliightly better but still no luck and i havent gone on a date from hinge yet but i met this very handsome man thats 6’4 with a mustache, good music taste, very very funny and kind and hes a therapist so extremely emotionally intelligent. We have our date today and im really really looking forward to it. (we are young im 18 and hes 22) im very excited for this date though and we discussed having a sleepover sometime this upcoming week if the date goes well! ive never been this excited for a date. ive only ever had one boyfriend and have little to no experience dating so any advice would be helpful. (I also did make sure we are on the same page about wanting a longterm relationship and we are )

I'll try to sum up super quick. I(32f) love him(35m), im a widow of 4. We love each other. I have 4 kids he has 2 that he currently not in contact with and he is a felon(assault charge) and my family isn't excited about it. He isn't where he needs to be financially to maintain both of our lifestyles(he has child support and making 40-50k a yr) i make 50k a yr. I am attractive, have had men as recently as 2 weeks ago trying to purchase me items asking me out staring me down etc. Anyways my family isn't happy about the relationship and he knows that and still shows up for me and he knows how much I love him and he loves me in spite of various obstacles we have overcome last 11 months. Anyways he comes over Monday night, drives 2 hrs after work to come spend time with me just to be super cold, quiet and not talk to me entire time...when I ask what do you want need he says peace and quiet and falls asleep. Im really putting my reputation and everything on the line to be with him in spite of his felony charge. Have been trudged through the mud with family and friends because of our relationship, everyone saying same sentiment. Well he left for the week and now otp he keep calling me by my first name instead of baby, sweetie etc like usual and tonight and also earlier today on the phone he keeps reiterating there's someone out there better for me and he is waiting on you. He knows bcuz of the kids I have and being a widow I have to remain at home. I have life insurance thankfully so im not in a desperate position financially and get paid monthly but if he and I moved in today I would still be having to foot 50-70% of costs. I have deferred alot of my non negotiable to be with him because I love him so much but he keeps saying I find someone better on the phone even when I told him its not funny. By the end of our conversation he says goodnight x(my real name) and hangs uo abruptly and he is still planning to come over for next 5 days. I just dont understand and hes a quiet and doesn't really open up his heart to me and is a man of few words. He is renting a room in sobriety home currently and starting his life from scratch after bad breakup. Hes very masculine and provides for me best he can but saying this over and over to me is really bothering me especially with how much I've put on the back burner for our relationship.. please help. Thx

Ladies, one thing I wish more people talked about is the difference between genuine interest and love-bombing.

Some men come into your life seemingly out of nowhere. They're confident, funny, charming, and incredibly attentive. They seem to share all your interests, make you feel understood, and prioritize you in a way you may not be used to. Everything feels exciting, and you start wondering whether you've finally met someone who's genuinely right for you.

You might even think:

"I'm not used to receiving this much attention. I haven't noticed any major red flags, so why not give it a chance?"

And there's nothing wrong with giving someone a chance. The important thing is to pay attention to whether their actions are consistent with their words.

How well does he actually know you? Is he genuinely curious about your personality, values, boundaries, and experiences? Or does it feel like he's more interested in winning you over than understanding who you are?

Does he respect your pace, or does he push for intense emotional commitment before you've had time to build trust? Can he handle you having your own life, friendships, and priorities without making you feel guilty?

Intense attention isn't automatically a red flag. Some people are naturally expressive and enthusiastic when they meet someone they like. The concern is when that intensity comes with pressure, unrealistic promises, possessiveness, or a lack of respect for your boundaries.

In some unhealthy relationships, the dynamic eventually changes. The person who once made you feel like their entire world becomes distant, critical, jealous, or controlling. You may find yourself constantly adjusting your behavior to keep the peace, wondering what happened to the person you first met.

You might even start believing that if you just try harder, become more accommodating, or give them more attention, the loving version of them will come back.

But you shouldn't have to work to earn basic kindness and respect.

Sometimes, the intense affection at the beginning is part of a pattern of manipulation. The attention creates a strong emotional attachment, and once you're invested, the relationship starts operating on very different terms. Whether or not the person is consciously doing this, the impact on you can still be damaging.

I'd encourage anyone who recognizes this pattern to learn about love-bombing, emotional manipulation, and controlling behavior. You don't need to diagnose someone as a narcissist to recognize that their behavior is unhealthy. What matters is how they treat you, especially when you set boundaries, disagree with them, or stop giving them the constant attention they want.

Don't fall in love with someone's potential at the expense of accepting their present behavior. If the relationship repeatedly leaves you anxious, confused, or feeling like you're never enough, give yourself permission to step back. You don't have to wait for things to get worse to decide that a relationship isn't right for you.

And to be clear, this isn't about avoiding men who are exciting, confident, affectionate, or enthusiastic about you. You can absolutely have chemistry, passion, and romance with someone who is emotionally healthy.

The difference is consistency.

A healthy partner doesn't just make you feel special when they're trying to win you over. They continue to respect you when the initial excitement settles, when you disagree, and when life gets difficult. They want to know you as a person, not just enjoy the feeling of being wanted by you.

You deserve a relationship that feels exciting without making you feel unsafe, and loving without making you question your worth.

Took a day off work to meet a girl.

Every time I asked about her hobbies, interests, or life, she steered the topic straight to her credit card bills EMI and rent. 40 minutes in, she casually asks: "Can you GPay me 4k? My EMI bounces tonight.

First date X Loan lenders correct

I paid the bill, made an excuse, and left. Regretting my wasted sick leave now.

So should I move with her or just block her n move on

29M Fit/consistent gym Good job (200k+) Dress well Social and charismatic Hobbies Travel a lot NYC (Manhattan)

To date I am single. Within the span of the last year and a half:

• I’ve matched with 700 people on hinge and have been on dozens of dates. I have spent at least $10,000 on dating (I almost never let the woman pay).

• I go out on average every other weekend at popular bars and restaurants in Manhattan and Brooklyn and have gotten dozens of numbers, none of which ever resulted in a date.

• 3 exclusive relationships which all lasted almost exactly 3 months ended by the woman. In all three cases they came back from (Miami/Europe) vacations and completely ended things. It caught me off guard all 3 times, and in at least 2 of the cases I’m confident they cheated while away. All 3 relationships were strong, intimate, great sex, great conversation and connection, hung out with each others friends, etc.

• Catfished at least 5 times from hinge. I do my due diligence and try and request instagram or FaceTime before but I suspect a significant portions of dating profiles are now AI edited.

• Most recently (this one is bizarre), I hit it off with someone and we’ve been calling/facetiming everyday leading up to our first date. I was excited as it was some real organic chemistry before a first date in a long time and she was the one initiating all the communication. I liked that and it’s rare. Midway through our FaceTime, as we were discussing the time of the date the next day, she pauses her camera then straight up ends the call while I’m speaking, then ghosted me. I called her back and texted her, no response. The date never happened.

Idk if it’s just NYC or this generation or what it is but I cannot for the life of me properly date a real person. I am at the point where I am just going to focus on work and travel and ignore dating completely.

What the fuck am I doing wrong?