might be the dumbest question here but I need to know, so many times that I’ve asked for input or advice or just venting I’m told I need a therapist and I genuinely wonder is this like just a reddit thing or is it a “you are horribly screwed up oh my god“ thing

I don’t have any journalism background but I am a writer and a history enthusiast. The town I live in has become the go to place to move and there seems to be more transplants than people actually from here and the place I grew up in is becoming shadows of what it used to be.

I want to know people’s story. I want to know what it was like even before I was born and what is being forgotten. Especially from a personal point of view.

The worst people could say is no (and most probably will if I decide to start asking) to conduct a formal interview; what would I need ask? What should I ask? My mind goes a mile a minute so the questions are there just too jumbled up to put it down.

As someone who has a hard time decoding other people’s intentions and reasonings, why is my close guy friend acting this way.. I’m not super upset by it, but curious. Here’s what happened: about four months ago an older classmate (university student) of ours sent me unwanted inappropriate messages, which then I told him not to and it ended there. I told my guy friend about this and although I never really bring it up anymore he always comments about the older guy: when we were watching a movie the couple was making out and he mentioned the older guy during that scene, he would ask me if that guy still messages me, says it makes him depressed to think about that guy (I told him not to worry about it), randomly brings him up when we’re out shopping or whatever saying that he hope we don’t bump into him, if a car looks like that guys car he would point it out), he would say “he was probably down bad for you.” I know my guy friend sees me as a only friend because he says so, but then why someone act like this. Bringing it up at least every week. Is he that worried.. I don’t know if it’s the right thing to get upset about just confused and don’t know if I’m thinking it too deeply lol. Is it worth it to ask?

I (26F) met a guy (37M) online a year ago. We met in person in December 2025 and were intimate. Since then, we've talked almost daily, sometimes for hours. He's affectionate, shares everything with me, and there's still sexual tension. He started all of this with good morning's every day and goodnight's, and texting me non stop. Like literally. Calling me sweet names and stuff.

Initially, he talked about our future and me moving to his country. Three months after meeting, he said he didn't want a relationship and needed to work on himself. Since then, he's repeatedly postponed meeting and says, "We'll see." Everytime I ask. I travelled to him first time. And he always says "I don't know" "We will see" "in two weeks"

Recently, I bought a ticket to visit him because things seemed to be going well. He exploded, screamed that I couldn't come, said he never wanted to see me again, and threatened to block me. A few hours later, he apologized, saying he values me, enjoys talking to me, and doesn't want to lose our friendship, but doesn't know what he wants. He admitted he can be selfish and treat me badly when overwhelmed. He refunded my ticket when I asked next day.

His message:

I want to apologize to you, and I really appreciate the fact that you always have time for me, that you always care about me, and honestly, it’s really rare to meet someone like that. I’m aware of that. Whatever the reason for it might be, it’s hard to find someone who will listen to your bullshit for 8 hours. I don’t want to end our friendship, that’s not what this is about. To be honest, I don’t even know what to do with my life at this point. When you put pressure on me like that, some kind of defense mechanism kicks in or something, I don’t know. Afterwards I feel guilty about the way I talk to you, because you don’t deserve that. I don’t want to behave like that, because afterwards I feel really bad about it.

I like talking to you. Not always — sometimes I shut myself off, I have my own stuff going on in my head. I know that sometimes I’m selfish and only think about myself. If you’re able to accept our relationship the way it was, and it gives you something too, then we can obviously keep talking the way we used to. But I don’t know what’s going to happen. It’s not about what you think, whether I’ll meet someone or I won’t — that’s not what this is about. And it’s not like you’re...

You’re not nobody to me, you know a lot about me, I tell you a lot. I treat you like a friend, even though I guess I behave differently — but you noticed that at some point. I don’t know, I just wanted to write you a little bit about what I think. I don’t know if it makes sense, but there’s always something you can take from it. 😅 I think I owe you that, because I’m always shouting at you whenever you ask me about something, so I thought that today I’d give you a little bit of my time and actually open up.

You can see how I get when I’m in a certain state — I sing, I talk haha, but afterwards it can also get pretty difficult, like today. Honestly, I was just crying over all of this. But it’s probably the after-effects of the weekend. I haven’t been drinking since I got back, and I don’t want to for now, or anything else either. I’m finding it harder and harder to deal with sometimes.

Sometimes I think it would be best to isolate from everyone and just live like that, because relationships with people affect me pretty strongly. But on the other hand, the thought of being completely alone, not having someone who knows you and all that, scares me. I think about that sometimes, which is why, when it comes to taking care of valuable relationships, I think I know what you mean. One day they might be priceless.

I think I’ve gone crazy haha. I did smoke, to be fair, but I don’t think I wrote anything stupid. I just wanted to explain a little bit — what I think and what’s going on in my head. Maybe it’s a little chaotic, but there’s probably something to take from it. 😅

And I don’t want you to take this message as me saying, “We can talk, but we’re never going to meet.” That’s not what I’m saying — who knows. 😅

I explained that his affection and past promises gave me hope, but it's good to know where I'm standing on. I told him it's weird because even if he was slightly interested, he would meet with me. He said he didn't want to discuss it yet. The next morning, he sent playful voice messages saying, "You don't like me anymore!" and kept seeking reassurance that I still liked him.

He called me twice this week and continues texting, but I'm no longer showing much affection. I don't want late-night conversations or to fall asleep on the phone anymore.

He often, nonstop, talks about himself, his life, and his problems without asking about me, my life, or my needs. He also used to mention women staring at or flirting with him on the train. He displays what I perceive as narcissistic traits, although I can't know whether he has any disorder.

He uses drugs, sometimes drinks heavily, struggles mentally, calls himself worthless, and says he feels unworthy of love. He's also still in contact with his ex, who moved abroad to live with him after knowing him for only a month. I sometimes wonder whether I'm a rebound or filling the emotional void she left. They broke up 4 years ago.

He's planning to visit my country because his family lives here and dental treatment is cheaper. He mentioned wanting to visit more often but never suggested seeing me. I sarcastically replied, "Cool, meet your friends and family," and he laughed because he understood the irony. Instead, he made vague comments about how we might smoke weed together in person someday, adding, "Who knows?"

I feel like his unpaid therapist: I provide emotional support, companionship, affection, and reassurance, while he avoids commitment and concrete plans. He says I'm valuable to him but only sees me as a friend, yet continues acting affectionate and seeking validation.

He is divorced for years, has kids at my country. He had an ex I mentioned after that. He doesn't live with anyone, he sends me voice messages / picks up when I call in the evenings. So he is either still having feelings for his ex (well he said she wanted to get back together but he didn't want to) or waiting for better option.

Why does he want my attention and reassurance if he doesn't want a relationship?

I was scrolling through the comments on a video of one of my fandoms and one of them was like, 'they were all just running around undiagnosed'. I see it sometimes with real people too.

I know it's probably about mental conditions, but is it anything specific?

i’ve practiced and practiced but i’m still really uncoordinated. i’ve been trying for over a year

I went to a gaming club and I of course didn't know how to play the game well at first.

My teammate told me to just sit there and do and say nothing. Then she gave me one of those disappointed looks like "I hate that we have you on our team"

I was pretty offended ngl. Is this normal? Am I being too sensitive?

Almost every day I find a woman PROUD that she stole another man's clothing artifact, discussing it on the internet with a group of women proud of her. Hoodies are most common.

Just... WHY?

I want to make an alt, but there are a few subs I am banned from. Just wondering if making an alt just for fun will cause me to be banned on my IP address? thanks!

EDIT: I will still be staying away from those subs on my alt, just want to make another account for fun

My friend is a classroom aid and just texted me “In my classroom of 25 6th graders, 3 have chronic tailbone pain, and for 2 of them it significantly impedes and distracts from their performance at school. I recently started having lumbar back pain that includes spasming right at my tailbone. Is it possible my classroom is cursed?” Or is this a known phenomenon with gen alpha?

How did your version of this go?

I grew up in southern Nevada in the early 2000s. It was:

eeny meeny miny moe

Catch a tiger by the toe

If he hollers make him pay

Fifty dollars every day

i’m curious like I’m not a professional in making especially with the editing, so I’m curious on how with how you make the puppets stand on their own without the puppeteers next to them I the green screening and everything

(24M) I was an immature and shy kid who tried sooo hard to fit in. Oh boy, heaven knows the bullying and the gaslighting i faced, and from my own friend group. Nowadays, after tons of disappointments, i don't care at all. The more i enjoy my own company, the less i tolerate other people.

I don't think i'm bitter, because there is some people i enjoy talking to, and i still have a lot of fun, at least when i'm alone. I don't hate them, i try to be fair and mantain at least a superficial interaction with them. But the fact is that i'm intolerant. If someone makes me something i don't like, it activates my fight or flight response, and i abandon the person. Example: if someone calls me dumb, or mocks me too much, or gaslight me. The problem is, i may end up alone hahahahahaha

I'm very hard on myself, and i end up being very hard on others too. I don't want to get along with people, for example, that does drugs, who smoke, drink too much, or are utterly irresponsible in general (and call their irresponsability "Radical"). I know i'm a stubborn person, and that's why i'm trying to be more tolerant. I'm still my priority, and i don't want someone bring their gigantic problems to my life.

Dont know if this is the right subreddit, it would be much appreciated if you could guide me to the right one.

Bf got a DS from a friend but has no plug to charge it, it’s a blocky shape and oddly narrow. Would like to surprise him with one. charger port

Idk how to link, hope it works :0

The person is fine, I'm just kinda losing interest in talking. Would be ghosting be acceptable at this point? The messaging has been engaging but slow. They seem interested though. I could send polite message but might feel awkward randomly sending it. They also implied that aren't free for weeks, but would want to meet up. Decision kinda stressing me out. I sent like for more context. (haven't moved off app)

Thanks.

Every time my pot holders touch a hot pan for too long I'm suddenly taken back 25 years to walking around Video Plus. Was it all the lights combined with all the plastic tape cases? Or is this too specific of a memory that maybe just that one video store was always making pop corn or something to get people to buy popcorn, therefore always having a burning fabric/plastic smell?

Most discussions about housing markets seem to focus on countries where housing is becoming increasingly unaffordable.

I'm curious whether there are any countries where the housing market is actually working reasonably well for the average person.

I'm 28. 5'6. I see lots of tall guys around me and they have girlfriends and seem to get them quite easily. I feel like I have a decent face, and I work out. I'm also polite and get tolf i'm funny supposedly. Online Dating wasn't a success for me for years

Can women really be attracted to guys my height?

Just saw posts that said Japan, all of Europe, major US cities, etc. all had tourism problems. Is it just easier to travel? Are people more protective of their country? Surely it can’t be as bad as people say everywhere.

And where are the people that are complaining about tourists going on holidays? The middle of the desert?

Hey everyone. I just needed some insight. Our house is cockroach infested to the brim. Its been like that for about 3 years now. It has been that way since before we moved in and we tried to get rid of them a bunch of times but i swear they just come back bigger. Anyway after a while we gave up and made friends with them. I don't know if it is obvious but we are dirt broke. We still live in a decent house by luck but its not like we can afford to move out.

The house is clean. There is a helper that cleans it as well everyday. we also clean up after ourselves. But i also understand that cockroachs are associated with dirt and stuff so we will be throwing a party and i wanted to know how icked out the guests would be.

For context most of these people have been in our house many times but not for a long time. The cockroachs aren't big or have wings. also none of the guests have a fear of cockroachs as far as i know. Usually the cockroaches are well behaved and dont come out much when guests are around but since this will last a while i dont know what the worst that can happen is. Any insight will be helpful because we are desensitised

i was thinking about this recently, does it count as abuse or no

I live across the street from an old Elks club that was torn down yesterday. They had a really cool, old Elks Lodge sign that I had asked my neighbor about it about a year ago. He said he knows the builder and would ask. Well it finally came down and now it’s in my backyard. What I didn’t know is that the sign has significance in this historically black neighborhood. I am a white man. It apparently got around that I have it and a different neighbor called asking if I could please “donate it to the neighborhood” to “keep the historical society current”. I was planning on selling it, given I found several places that estimated it around $800-$1500. Do I say no and start a literal race war with my neighbors or avoid the headache and just donate.

help me out

i 18F started talking to this guy about 4-5 months ago, tho we met on hinge i was about to start my first year of college and he was starting his 2nd yr, we never had any romantic or flirtatious conversations or intentions, ever we've only had casual conversations about life, college or general stuff and ive always been chill w that cs hes a nice friend to have, met him a few times always fun

recently we went on a party together w a group of my friends tho i only knew 2 ppl there and he knew no body.

It was very chill we planned to prebooze before we went to the event, he had brought alcohol for me n him only so when everyone else went to drink, me n him had about 3 shots of vodka he prolly had more, and then later i had 4 more and no clue ab him then as we reached the venue, i started to feel it n asked him to stay w me as i might pass out and he said dont worry

he held onto my hand and as soon as we entered and all throughout, i have zero alcohol tolerence so i was fucked over, couldn't see or feel anything neither could i stand straight i was all over him, i hugged him and we danced tg too he brushed my hair off my face, patted my head, and caressed my face and kept asking me if im okay these are the instants that i remember, now we also

made out

we were kissing very passionatly is what i was told my by sober friends

i wasnt conscious enough for a conversation so he was the one calling my friends, texting my mom and all of that, WHILE handling me.

he took me back home too..

and the next day everyone came up to me n told me u guys were so cute tg and what not

now,

he acted very normal next day and i asked him if he remembers anything, and he said no

and i told him that we made out and he said he doesnt remember and apologised n said sorry for being so drunk

hes been v distant and not texting me as much as we used to, i mean it wasn't regular js sending posts back n fourth sometimes not talking at all for days n sometimes regular

buutttttttttt

i asked him to meet me n he said he was busy, which he was technically.

cs hes in this college event something so he has to be there till 10pm but texting doesnt take too long no?

now.

i have caught feelings for him unfortunately and can not get over this idk what to do i wanna talk more about this every thing to him but he doesnt and idk has this ruined our everything we had??

does this clearly mean he doesnt like me??

how does he not remember it if he could walk around talk normally stand still and do every thing normally????

its driving me INSANE

DOES HE LIKE ME AT ALL?

SHOULD I TRY TALKING TO HIM AB IT?