I (25f) slept with a guy a while ago, and I think it was a nice experience. But after going home and sitting with my thoughts, all the questions and insecurities started flooding... i felt i did everything wrong or weird... like why did it take so long for him to come? did he even come? Did i make stupid noises? Did he have sex with me because he felt bad for me? BLAH BLAH, ALL THAT........

Anyways, my question is for the boys, mostly...

So i went down on him and i think i know how do do it and i think he enjoyed it. But i was also sucking on his balls because i think guys like that, but i actually don't know... so afterwards i felt really stupid, imagine i was laying there, sucking his balls and he hated it....

Do guys like that?? Or is it weird??

Thats all

ELI5: I was at a Canadian Salvation Army and I was buying for $2.99 the book The Satanic Verses by Rushdie which i need for class as im a broke student. I got to checkout and the lady says "we cant sell this to you" and takes it away. I explained politely that it is not anti-christian, and showed her online that it is not "satanic" in the way she may be thinking (I'm agnostic so its not of concern to me)..... now my book was taken away AND I was told to leave the store. Can someon explain who is more informed, maybe if you have worked at thrift stores.. what did i do wrong? Are thrift stores only for Christians? I'm just bummed because this book is 17 dollars used online.

I dont know where my mom is. Nobody has heard from her in years. Shes unstable and frankly my life has been a lot easier without her.

She will eventually die, one way or the other. What Im wondering is, will someone like the police inform me when it happens? Assuming shes identifiable.

I do a google search every once in a while and theres no online presence or announcement of her death.

Whenever I go and buy donuts from a local shop (which isn’t often), I’m always amazed that not only are they still in business, but that everything is so cheap. And it seems like there’s a donut shop every other street too! I understand it’s volume-based but when donuts are like 2 or 3 bucks, how is it even possible to keep their bills paid??

I’m one of those people that basically just want to go and take a shower first thing after having sex. Part of the reason why is because I’ve always been pretty adamant about hygiene, after I finish inside my gf I do have an urge to just relax and cuddle with her but my instinct tells me “dude go and clean yourself you just had sex” and so thats the first thing I do. My gf thinks it’s weird but I just can’t feel satisfied until I have my shower.

Is this a common reaction?

Been scrolling through a list of providers covered by my insurance since mine is retiring, it's all NP's and PA's now. Someone made a post in one of my local subs earlier looking for a psychiatrist and they mentioned having a preference for MD/DO. Plenty of comments agreeing that there's not many in the area anymore.

Growing up I always heard being a doctor is like the #1 way to success. I figured there'd be more of them, doesn't seem like an oversaturated market.

Where'd they all go? Covid burnout get them maybe?

something that happened just an hour ago. i was getting some cold sore patches and motor oil (latter because my dad forgot his wallet) at Walgreens, and the clerk up front asked for an ID or birth day. the dude was pretty chill, but did mention that the kids up here were using the cold sore stuff for something other than cold sores. i never really got a specific answer, and never pressed any further because i was in a rush.

granted, it could've been the motor oil that he was talking about, but still. google is of no help here, so....what the hell are kids getting up to?

I’m white. Is is racist if I’m describing someone to someone and I say they are black, or Asian, or Mexican etc. Especially in a corporate setting.

Another example is pointing someone out in a crowded room. I always feel weird saying “that black guy over there” but saying “that guy in the red shirt and black hat” feels like I’m avoiding a key characteristic that would make finding the person much easier.

I’m probably over thinking it but I always want to be sensitive and professional depending on the circumstances.

To preface this, I’m aromantic so my view of romance is very different than someone who isn’t. I’ve done character role play since I was a teenager so I’m very experienced with it. The very few partners that I’ve been with were also role players themselves, so them doing non-nsfw rp and nsfw rp with others has never been a problem for me.

I ask this question because I’ve seen a spike in couples joining group role play servers and only rping romance and nsfw plots with their partner. That itself isn’t a problem, but I have seen people get jealous if their partner’s character deviates from theirs and have even witnessed a few breakups due to that. I’ve also had role play partners suddenly drop out of plots because their partners found out that they were doing nsfw role play with me.

I personally don’t see why it needs to affect your irl relationships because we are just creating a story using fictional characters. However, I do acknowledge that being aromantic, coupled with the fact that I’ve been roleplaying for so long, has undoubtedly influenced my perception of the matter, which is why I’m asking.

Not sure how being overpriced helps their business model back then it was affordable and quick. What is going on?

From what I gather the 2008 crash was effectively a real estate crash, right ? At least that’s what everyone talks about regarding it.

But if you weren’t in the market for real estate, did it even have an impact?

For example… you own a house, but you’re not selling, so who cares if the price drops? It’s not for sale anyway

It sounds kind of like having a bad stock market run, but if you’re not buying or selling stocks and it’s all just unrealized gains or losses, it doesn’t actually affect your everyday life ?

You can go to the store and see prices on jackets are up 10,000% but if your not there to buy a jacket then who cares

Just now I parked my own car and an electrical car drove by making these wooshy sounds as if it was hovering. I’ve heard it before, what is that?
Can they turn it off? It sounds like an unnecessary function.

I commissioned this artist, because she was young and having issues with living expenses.

Pay up front, tip 50%, because I’ve been young and broke before too

She sends me this really cute banner, honestly adorable. Giant watermark that takes up 1/3rd of the banner.

I ask her to remove it, because I already paid in full. It’s 75% extra to ask her to remove the watermark, and she rounded up the total from the decimal point and wouldn’t accept anything else.

She also sent my FINISHED commision in jpeg and not png so I wouldn’t be able to edit it.

Man I’m so torn. It is really cute but I’m kind of just mad on principle. She’s young and her full artist name is in the watermark so I won’t post the art here, but if anyone wants to see it I will show it privately.

EDIT: enough people asked, here’s the banner (pink is her name/signature) (https://postimg.cc/8fPwM3mv)

Is this standard? Am I getting scammed?

Heres the link to her TOS

And here’s a link confirming that the DO NOT USE COMMISION is part of her watermark, not a signature or something. Sigh. https://postimg.cc/w7b674Kc

I've been seeing recently on Instagram that as people get older (talking like 40s here not 80s) they can no longer jump and that retaining your ability to jump is an important health marker/measure (like doing dead hangs or walking x amount).

I'm completely baffled by the idea that some people (thinking of otherwise healthy people here, not those with disabilities or health complications) wouldn't be able to jump. I'm trying to find out if there's some qualifier like being able to jump a certain height or distance. Does jumping just refer to both feet leaving the ground at the same time? Are there people who can't do this?

Maybe I'm just totally oblivious/ignorant of all the people around me who can't jump because it's not like it comes up in ordinary life as an adult.

like what about it in particular?

i heard even saudi princes with billions of dollars will fly to minnesota to get the healthcare there.

Like, is a hospital in europe really not as good? what makes it so exceptional?

My partner took a letter to the post office for me this morning. I had put it in a ziploc, to protect it while in their backpack. They dropped the whole damned ziploc in the mail slot. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Will a forever (if that makes a difference) stamped and addressed envelope inside a clear ziploc bag make it through the USPS mail? Partner is going back on their lunch break to try and get it back, but I do not have high hopes. Should I just resend what I was sending, and hope the original somehow eventually makes it back to me?

I found answers for a stamped bag, and for bags inside envelopes, but nothing for a stamped envelope inside a bag.

TYIA 💜

UPDATE: as soon as I was like AAAA WTF DID YOU DO, my partner popped out of work and ran up the street to the post office, and miraculously USPS had set it aside and found it quickly. Ziploc was removed and letter mailed, crisis averted. (this contained a money order 🥴)

However, for SCIENCE, I am going to mail myself a random card in a Ziploc and see if it gets to me, and if it's delayed or arrives on time. I can't be the only person this has happened to, so I'm gonna get the answer. I'm also going to mail a friend in another city, in case local vs non local makes a difference 😂 will report back with results 💌 📬

Dogs are pretty smart. Some could open doors. I'm not saying turnable doorknobs but the ones where you just press down and pull. If a dog were to do that. Would it be legal for the police to come in and search your home?

I heard people just dont act like them selves

Every single time. I walk into a Barnes & Noble perfectly fine, and within 10 minutes I’m speed-walking to the bathroom.

It doesn’t happen at the grocery store. It doesn’t happen at Target. Only around books. I’ve tested this. I went in last week specifically to see if it would happen, and it did. I didn’t even buy anything.

Is it the smell of the paper? Is it because I’m relaxed? Does my colon just really respect literature?

So I’ve been seeing this guy for just under 2 months. Things are actually great. I think we are a good match. But again less than 2 months so it’s very early.

He invited me to go on vacation with him to Cancun in 2 weeks. He is going with his family. He said I would only have to cover my flight but otherwise it’s all on him (he has a room booked already).

I thought it sounded awesome and I was excited since I’ve never been there and it looks beautiful.

I told my sister who said it would be very weird for me to go as I just met him and have never met his family. She also said he’s weird for offering it and shows he doesn’t have the right boundaries. I didn’t think of that way but my sister is convinced and now im starting to second guess it.

I've been working at a small, local store for only a few weeks now, and when i walked in for my last shift, my manager sat me down privately and said i was terminated effective immediately. After being given a few seconds to process it, I was told that I could inquire WHY i was being fired after a month had passed. Then I was ushered out of the store fairly quickly.

I've worked a few other jobs before and something like this has never happened to me before. At least when I got let go in the past, i was given a reason why and closure in the moment. I also have things of my own that are still in the store that I need to pick up at some point, but there is currently no date set for that.

When I got home, I checked my new employee training packet and it did disclose that the company can terminate without warning at any time, but isn't there some kind of rule about providing a reason as to why an employee was terminated? Maybe I'm missing something. As far as I know, i was an alright employee who was kind to customers and my coworkers and made a lot of sales. Genuinely been wracking my brain trying to think about what I could have done wrong, and it doesn't seem like I will have another answer until a month has passed.

Any insight?

EDIT: I am less looking for answers as to "do they have to tell me why i've been fired" and more on "is them asking me to wait a month before i can ask why i've been let go normal?" thanks to those who have mostly answered that question by conceding it doesn't seem normal.

for those who are curious, I am in texas, i'm not planning on filing for unemployment right now and just on the search for a new job. its a shame im back in the frustrating grind of the job search and am upset that i got let go so suddenly from a job that i really really initially liked, but it is what it is i suppose.