My roommate started selling custom cakes about four months ago. She's actually pretty good at it, and I was happy for her when she started getting regular orders.

We share a two-bedroom apartment. At first she was making maybe one cake every other weekend, which was fine.

Now our kitchen is basically a bakery. There are cake boxes stacked on top of the microwave, frosting supplies everywhere, and usually half our fridge is occupied by orders.

We've had a few conversations about it. I don't mind her baking, but I told her I don't want strangers coming to our apartment for pickups, and I'm not comfortable being involved in her business.

She agreed.

Saturday morning, around 10:30, someone knocked on our door.

It was a woman picking up a birthday cake.

My roommate wasn't home. She'd gone to work at her regular job.

The woman showed me their messages. My roommate had sent her our address and written, "My roommate will be there, she'll give it to you."

Nobody had asked me.

I texted my roommate and she immediately called, telling me the cake was in the fridge and I just needed to give it to the customer.

Then she mentioned I was supposed to collect the remaining $45 in cash.

I said absolutely not. I'm not taking money from strangers, dealing with orders, or being responsible if something goes wrong with a cake I didn't make.

The customer looked genuinely upset. She'd driven about 35 minutes and needed the cake for her daughter's birthday party that afternoon.

I felt terrible for her, but I told her she'd have to arrange pickup directly with my roommate.

She left without the cake.

My roommate ended up leaving work early to meet her, and apparently the customer was furious. She demanded a partial refund for the wasted trip.

Now my roommate is saying I deliberately sabotaged her business over something that would've taken thirty seconds.

She's right about that part. The cake was sitting right there. I could've handed it over.

But I also feel like she deliberately put me in a position where saying no would make me look like an asshole.

We both pay rent, and I never agreed to turn our apartment into a place of business.

Am I wrong for refusing to help in that particular moment, knowing the customer was the one who'd suffer?

My boyfriend (28M) and I (26F) have been together for almost three years. We've been talking about moving in together for a while, and recently he suggested that I move into his apartment when my lease ends in two months.

The problem is that he currently lives with his best friend, who's also 28. They've been roommates for about four years, and my boyfriend thinks there's no reason to change that arrangement just because I'm moving in.

I actually like his friend. He's a nice guy, we get along well, and I've never had any serious issues with him. But I don't want to live with him. I want to live with my boyfriend, just the two of us. I want to be able to walk around in my pajamas, have private conversations, cook dinner together, or spend a lazy Sunday on the couch without feeling like there's always another person around.

When I explained this, my boyfriend said I was making things unnecessarily complicated. He pointed out that splitting rent three ways would allow us to save a lot more money, especially since we're hoping to buy a place eventually. And financially, he's not wrong. We'd definitely save more if we all lived together.

But for me, moving in together is supposed to be a step forward in our relationship. I don't really see the point of leaving my own apartment, where I have complete privacy, just to move into a place where I'd basically be joining two guys who've already established their own routine.

I told him I'd be happy to look for a new apartment together, or we could wait until his current lease ends and his friend finds another place. I'm not asking him to kick his friend out immediately. I just don't want to move in while he's still there.

My boyfriend got upset and said I was giving him an ultimatum. He also said it was unfair to expect his friend to move out when they've been living together perfectly fine for years. Apparently, his friend was excited about the idea of all three of us sharing the apartment, which honestly surprised me because nobody had even asked how I felt about it.

Now my boyfriend thinks I'm being stubborn and prioritizing my comfort over our financial future. He says plenty of couples live with roommates and that I'm making a big deal out of nothing.

I understand his point about saving money, but I also feel like I'm allowed to have preferences about my own living situation. I'm perfectly fine staying in my apartment until we can figure something out.

My husband (34M) and I (31F) have been married for five years. We own a three-bedroom house, and we don't have kids yet. One bedroom is ours, one is my husband's home office, and the third is a guest room.

My mother (59F) has been living alone since my parents divorced about eight years ago. She owned a house that was completely paid off, so she's never really had to worry about rent or a mortgage. We've always had a decent relationship, although she has a habit of making decisions and expecting everyone else to adjust to them.

About two weeks ago, she casually mentioned during dinner that she'd sold her house. I was shocked because she'd never said anything about wanting to move. When I asked where she was planning to live, she smiled and said she'd figured she could stay with us for a while until she decided what to do next.

I honestly thought she was joking.

She wasn't.

Apparently, she'd already accepted an offer, signed the paperwork, and agreed to move out within six weeks. She assumed we'd let her use our guest bedroom because we have plenty of space and, in her words, "It's not like you're using it for anything important."

I told her she should've discussed this with us before selling her house. She got offended and said she didn't realize she needed permission from her own daughter to stay for a few months. I explained that my husband works from home, we both value our privacy, and having another person living with us indefinitely wasn't something we'd agreed to.

That's when she admitted she didn't actually have a timeline for moving out. She wants to take her time looking for a smaller place and doesn't see the point of wasting money on rent when she could stay with family for free.

My husband was pretty upset when I told him. He gets along with my mother, but he's not comfortable with her moving in, especially without being asked. We talked about it and agreed that we weren't going to let her stay with us. I offered to help her find a short-term rental or look at apartments, but she refused.

Now my aunt and older brother are involved. My brother called me selfish and said I should be grateful that our mother raised us and gave us everything she could. My aunt said it was cruel to make a 59-year-old woman pay rent when her own daughter has an empty bedroom.

I asked my brother why he couldn't take her in, and he said his apartment was too small. Apparently, that means the responsibility automatically falls on me.

My mother has barely spoken to me since. She keeps saying she never imagined her own daughter would turn her away, and that she would've done anything for me when I was younger.

I do feel guilty. She's my mother, and I love her. If she'd lost her home unexpectedly or was struggling financially, I'd probably feel very differently. But she chose to sell a perfectly good house without making any arrangements because she assumed we'd accommodate her.

My husband thinks we need to stand our ground or she'll keep making decisions like this. Part of me agrees, but another part wonders whether I'm being too harsh over something that might only last a few months.

Am I wrong for refusing to let her move in?

Everyone in my family is treating me like an unhinged villain right now, so please give me a reality check because I feel like I'm taking crazy pills.

We rented a lake house for a four-day holiday weekend. I (26M) drove up in my car—a 2022 Mazda I spent the last three years working overtime to pay off. Yesterday afternoon I woke up from a nap, looked out teh second-floor window, and saw my car jerking violently down the gravel driveway. My 21-year-old brother had taken my keys off the kitchen counter and was letting his girlfriend drive it.

She doesn't even have a driver's license. She was laughing while scraping the undercarriage over ditch rocks and almost backed into a wooden fence. when I ran outside barefoot and demanded the keys, my brother rolled his eyes and told me to 'chill out, she's just practicing parking.' He didn't even apologize.

I was so furious my hands were shaking. I packed my duffel, got in my car, and drove the three hours back home. Now my parents are blowing up my phone saying I ruined the whole trip because they needed my car for groceries, and that I'm prioritizing metal over family. Am I actually wrong here? I dont know anymore.

I, 27f, babysit my two nephews, 4&5, every Friday afternoon - Saturday evening. They sleep in my room as there was nowhere else for them, but we now have an empty bedroom and we’re doing it up for them so they can have their own room but it won’t be done until after Christmas as money is tight. I love having my nephews every week, we have a lot of fun together and they are genuinely just the best kids in the world.

Last week my 4yo nephew wet the bed. I wasn’t annoyed or anything of course, he’s just a little kid and it was an accident while he was asleep. I cleaned him up, put fresh pjs on him, changed the bed and put one of those potty training pads on the bed I had left over from potty training him last year.

I let my sister know and she told me he’s been doing it several times a week for a few weeks now. I said to her she should have told me about that so I could’ve taken precautions. I’d stopped using the bed pad things because he’s had dry nights since the first night with no nappy (the kid practically potty trained himself!). I said to her if she can provide some more of the pads as I can’t afford to buy them (signed off work while I wait for surgery) I would really appreciate it as if this is an ongoing issue I don’t want my mattress to get ruined.

She’s now saying I’m selfish for thinking about my mattress and humiliating my nephew and making him ashamed for wetting the bed… I comforted my nephew when it happened, told him it’s ok and just cleaned everything up so I’m confused. I also had a bed wetting/bladder issues my entire childhood until I was 17/18 that I had to be medicated for, so I would never embarrass my nephew or try to make him feel bad for something he couldn’t control or even knew was happening. We did everything right, took him to the toilet before, leave the landing light on in case he needs to get to the bathroom before I’ve come to bed etc. it was just an accident. She should’ve told me it was a frequent issue surely? I’m providing regular childcare (I have them even more during school holidays and will be having them for 2 weeks in December when my sister gives birth again). My youngest sister says I shouldn’t be annoyed with her reaction as it’s probably just stress with the pregnancy but I don’t see how that justifies this reaction, so am I wrong?

so this started a couple weeks ago when my parent showed up at my place without calling first. it was the third time in a month and i was in the middle of something that needed focus. i explained that i really need a heads up before visits so i can plan around them. my parent seemed fine at the time but then the rest of the family started weighing in and now everyone's saying i am making things awkward for no reason. i get that they are coming from a good place and just want to stay close, but having my time respected feels pretty important too. i have tried offering regular calls and scheduled dinners instead, yet that apparently doesn't count. the comments keep coming and honestly i am starting to second guess myself. am i wrong for putting that boundary up?

I’m 18M and live at home with my family. I want some honest opinions because I genuinely don’t know whether I’m overly sensitive or whether other people would feel the same way living in my situation.

There are several things my family does that genuinely disgust me, and over time I’ve developed a lot of resentment, particularly towards my mum.

The biggest issue is our dog. My mum regularly lets him lick the plates we’ve eaten off, sometimes even letting him eat food directly off them at the dinner table. My brother also has this thing where he lets the dog lick his teeth and mouth, which I find absolutely disgusting.

I’ve repeatedly said that I don’t want the dog licking my plate, but I’m either dismissed, spoken to rudely or ignored completely. They let him do it anyway, as though my opinion doesn’t matter. I understand that plates can be washed afterwards, but I don’t think it’s unreasonable to not want a dog licking something I’ve eaten off.

There’s also the way my mum expects me to interact with the dog. Whenever I get home, the dog is persistent about getting attention and licking my face, and my mum seems to get annoyed with me if I don’t make enough effort with him. I feel like I’m expected to show affection towards him on demand, even when I don’t want to.

When I’m eating, my mum also puts on a baby voice as if she’s speaking for the dog and asks me, pretending to be him, whether he can have some of my food. It irritates me enormously. I just want to eat my meal without being pestered, and the fact that this happens alongside the other things I’ve mentioned makes it even more frustrating.
But the dog isn’t the only issue.

My mum regularly leaves the bathroom door open while she’s using the toilet, including when she’s having a poo or doing a wee. I can hear her using the toilet and farting, particularly in the mornings, and I find it genuinely revolting. It’s not something I want to hear or be exposed to in my own home.

She also smokes and coughs constantly. Every morning, she has these incredibly loud coughing fits that I can hear throughout the house. Between the coughing, the farting and hearing her use the toilet with the door open, mornings have become something I actively dread. I know coughing can be a consequence of smoking and that bodily functions are normal, but the constant noise and lack of privacy make me feel incredibly uncomfortable.I

I know some of these things might sound relatively minor individually. People fart, people cough, and everyone needs to use the toilet. But it’s the combination of everything, the frequency of it and how little consideration I feel is shown for other people in the house that gets to me.

I’ve reached a point where I feel genuinely disgusted by my mum. Sometimes even thinking about her makes me feel physically sick. I realise that’s an extreme reaction, and I don’t particularly like feeling that way about my own mother, but I can’t pretend the feeling isn’t there.

What makes it worse is that when I raise concerns, particularly about the dog licking my plate, I’m dismissed rather than listened to. I feel like I have no control over my own environment, even when I’m asking for what I consider basic consideration.

I want to make it clear that I’m not expecting my family to be perfect or to behave exactly how I would. I just want some privacy, basic consideration around hygiene, the ability to eat without being pestered, and the freedom to decide whether I want the dog licking my face.

Am I being overly sensitive, or would other people also struggle with this? And, more importantly, is it normal for resentment to build up to the point where you start feeling physically disgusted by a family member?
I’m genuinely looking for honest opinions, including if people think my reaction has become disproportionate.

I’ve been watching my close friend’s 2 dogs for the past week. I’m staying at her house.

I ordered things from Sephora and told them to deliver it to my friend’s house, since I’ve been staying here all week.

Well the package was delayed. I texted my friend “Hey my package was package was delayed. It’s scheduled to be here when you return home, and I’ll be back home. I can pick it up whenever we’re both free.”

She said “Why would you have packages delivered to my house?”

And I said “Well, I figured since I won’t be at my apartment all week, I’d have them delivered here. I didn’t want it sitting on my front porch all week.”

I was afraid of it being swiped by porch pirates.

To which she replied “Ok. A little odd still”.

Maybe I’m wrong…but what’s so odd about that? I’ve been here all week. Why is it wrong to be delivered here?

I replied “Lol if you want, I could have them not deliver it, and just drive into the city and pick it up at the post office.” I said that like 4 or 5 hours ago. She hasn’t replied.

Is this wrong? I didn’t think it would be such a big deal…

Hi everyone. I wanted honest opinions because I'm torn.

I stayed at my cousin's house for about 3 months with my husband and daughter. During that time, I LENT her my Louis Vuitton bag (verbal, nothing in writing, my mistake). My husband heard me say "I only lent it" at the time.

I moved out and left some suitcases there. In October I went to pick them up with my aunt: she returned everything except the LV.

Then it started: first she said the bag was with her sister. Then she started saying I GAVE her the bag as a gift. In voice messages, she was explicit: "I'm not giving it back" and told me to "go to the police." She blocked me on WhatsApp.

I sent a warning through her husband: return it by October 14 or I'll file a police report for misappropriation. He replied admitting they have the bag ("I'll give it back to you"), but conditioned the return on payment of ~3 months of stay/food expenses, which were NEVER agreed as charges. The deadline passed and nothing was returned.

What I have: photos with the bag since 2023, the voice messages of refusal, screenshots of conversations, my husband as witness, and her husband's message admitting possession.
What I DON'T have: the receipt (lost in the move) and nothing in writing about the loan.

The question: do I file the police report or let it go? On one hand, it's my bag, I've tried resolving it through dialogue several times, and she herself told me to go to the police. On the other, I'm afraid of family judgment and it turning into an even bigger war.

What would you do?

One more thing: I also lent her my credit card for a specific one-time use (a party), but she kept using it afterward and split purchases into installments without telling me. The bill came to $135, which I ended up paying myself to protect my credit. She had committed over WhatsApp to pay it by the due date, then didn't. I sent her the bill plus a reimbursement demand with a deadline (also October 14) she read it, ignored it, left our shared expense group chat, and blocked me everywhere. For this one I'm planning small claims court. Should I do that too?

EDIT: she returned the bag with my other cousin, her sister. But she still hasn’t paid the credit card

So I had plans with a friend for weeks. We were supposed to meet up and do something small, nothing huge, but I was really looking forward to it. The day before they texted and said something came up and they had to cancel. It was frustrating, and I felt kind of brushed off. I told them it was fine and we could reschedule, but honestly I was annoyed. A couple days later they apologized again and explained what happened, and it seemed pretty reasonable. Since then we've been texting like normal. I haven't brought it up again, and they haven't either. Part of me feels like maybe I should have said something more at the time, but another part of me is just relieved that we're still on good terms. I don't have a ton of close friends, so letting this slide feels easier than turning it into a bigger deal. At the same time I'm wondering if I'm being too quick to move on. Is it wrong to just keep the friendship going like nothing happened, or should I have been more direct about how it bothered me?

so our little group has this tradition of grabbing dinner every couple of weeks and then heading out for something else. i always invite my partner, but lately it feels like every time i bring them up the plans suddenly change or people stop replying in the group chat. the last two times we ended up at a bar with only half the crew, and no one told us the rest had gone elsewhere. when i asked what happened i got the usual "oh we lost track of time" answers. it is starting to feel deliberate, like they are okay with me showing up but not okay with my partner coming along. i have tried to brush it off, but honestly it is starting to make me dread these nights instead of looking forward to them. am i reading too much into this, or should i just stop bringing it up?

I’ll try and keep this short and simple. This post will be vague on details to protect everyone anonymity.

I (46) have been with my partner (41m) for 19 years. We have 3 children.

18 months ago we went through a particularly rough patch and separated for a short period.

My partner, let’s call him John. Has worked in the same place for 7 years. He is well liked and very good at his job and I have always been very proud of him. My biggest issue is that I don’t particularly like his choice of friends. They tend to be quite toxic, love drama and will often be very two faced. One in particularly, I’ve always had some issue with. A woman who he works with, let’s call her Claire (26f) works in the same company as him. She’s quite immature and very selfish. Previously she had an affair with a married man who turned out to be very abusive and manipulative to her. I felt some sympathy cause she genuinely was manipulated by him into an abusive relationship. But I had severe with the fact that during this, she was friends with the man’s wife whilst she was pregnant and even spent time at their house. This made me extremely wary around her and distrustful. But as she works in the same company as my partner I was cordial and polite with her.

When my partner and I were apart, it was maybe a couple months. After we decided we did very much love eachother and decided to try again. Things have been good. We got married 10 months ago.

Since we got back together though, Claire has been around a lot, amongst many other friends. My partner always said he saw her as like a little sister even said how he could never find her attractive, how she sometimes got on his nerves and they had various arguments at work. He knew I had reservations about their friendship but with the age difference and the fact they both insisted it was platonic. I had even asked them both if anything had ever happened between them or if they had a thing for eachother to which both insisted no. I let it go and have never had any reason to be uncomfortable.

We became more friendly, she helped organise my bachelorette party and even attended my wedding.
But a month ago, someone in the company told me that something had happened between them whilst we were apart. As it turned out, they had shared a drunken kiss on night out whilst we were apart.

I felt angry. Hurt and a bit betrayed. Whilst I understand we weren’t together and bid no control over what he did in the time we were apart. The fact she was apart of our shared lives since we got back together, and the fact they both told me nothing has ever happened between them. I’m
Struggling with a lot. Cause if it truly was nothing, why lie about it right?

Since then, I’ve said I’m uncomfortable with their friendship. Her history, coupled with their lie. Makes me distrustful. Would I be the Ahole if I asked him to go no contact outside of work with her? To not socialise with her? To put in strong boundaries with a woman he clearly didn’t fully see platonic.

EDIT…. I’ll also add that I’m hurt that she attended our wedding. I loved my wedding day. It was perfect. We had a small intimate wedding. We only invited a few friends and their partners. But my husband wanted to invite her too. And I now feel like my wedding day is tarnished cause I feel like it was inappropriate she was even there. She came alone.

a few weeks ago a friend and i decided to keep this big plant together. we had a simple plan: they would water it on their days and i would handle it on mine. pretty straightforward. lately though they've started bringing it over to their place more than we talked about, and when i mentioned it they brushed it off like it wasn't a big deal. i let it go in the moment but it's been sitting with me. i keep thinking about whether i should bring it up again or if i'm making something small into more than it needs to be. we never had any drama before so maybe i'm reading into it, but it's been a few days and it's still on my mind. am i wrong for feeling like the original agreement should still count?

When I got married, my cousin's boyfriend decided that our wedding would be the perfect place to propose to her, even though I'd specifically asked him not to. My cousin and I have always been pretty close, so of course she and her boyfriend were invited. A couple of weeks before the wedding, he messaged me privately and asked if I'd be okay with him proposing during the reception. He explained that having the whole family together would make it extra special and that he wanted to surprise her. I politely told him no. My husband and I had spent months planning everything, and I wanted our wedding day to be about us. I even suggested he could propose the following day since most of our relatives would still be around. He said he understood, and I genuinely thought we'd settled it.

The wedding itself was going great until the reception. We'd finished dinner, and it was almost time for our first dance, something I'd been looking forward to for months. The DJ was preparing to announce us when my cousin's boyfriend suddenly asked for the microphone. At first, I thought he wanted to give a toast or something, but then he started talking about how much he loved my cousin and how our wedding had made him realize he wanted to marry her. Before I could process what was happening, he got down on one knee and pulled out a ring. She obviously said yes, and everyone started cheering and clapping. People immediately gathered around them, taking pictures, hugging them, and asking to see the ring. Meanwhile, I was standing there wondering why he'd even bothered asking for my permission if he was going to ignore my answer anyway.

It took about fifteen minutes before everyone finally settled down and the DJ could announce our first dance. I know fifteen minutes doesn't sound like a lot, but the atmosphere had completely changed. Some guests were still talking about the proposal, and I noticed people looking at pictures they'd just taken instead of paying attention to us. I tried to enjoy the dance because I knew I wasn't going to get another chance to experience that moment, but I was honestly so upset. My husband could tell something was wrong and kept trying to reassure me. I didn't want to make a scene, especially in front of our families, so I kept quiet and tried to enjoy the rest of the evening. But I couldn't stop thinking about how disrespectful the whole thing was.

The next day, I called my cousin's now-fiancé and told him how I felt. I explained that I wasn't upset about them getting engaged and that I was genuinely happy for them. What bothered me was that he'd asked for permission, I'd clearly said no, and he'd gone ahead with it anyway. He apologized, but then said he hadn't expected me to be so upset because the proposal only took a few minutes and everyone seemed happy. That honestly made me even more frustrated because he was acting like the problem was my reaction rather than his decision to ignore what I'd told him.

Later that day, my cousin called me, and she was furious. Apparently, her fiancé had told her about our conversation, and she thought I was being incredibly selfish. She said I should be happy that something wonderful happened to her instead of making her engagement about myself. When I explained that he'd proposed right before our first dance, she said it was only fifteen minutes and the wedding continued afterward, so she didn't understand what the big deal was. She even accused me of being jealous because people had paid attention to her for a little while. I told her I wasn't jealous of her engagement, I was upset that someone had deliberately ignored a boundary I'd set for my own wedding. She didn't agree and said I was ruining what should've been a happy memory for her.

Now things are awkward between us, and some relatives think I should just forget about it because there's nothing I can do to change what happened. My husband agrees that her fiancé was out of line, but he also thinks continuing to argue about it will only make things worse. I understand that our entire wedding wasn't ruined, and there were still plenty of beautiful moments that day. But I can't pretend that what happened didn't hurt me, especially knowing it could've been avoided so easily. I also don't think I should have to apologize for expressing my feelings the next day rather than causing a scene at the reception.

Am I wrong for confronting my cousin's fiancé about proposing at my wedding, or should I have just let it go?

my family is split on this and i honestly don't know where i stand. we got the notice last week, and while everyone else seems set on going, i don't feel any real connection. my aunt lived out of state and we only met a handful of times when i was a kid. i sent flowers and a card, but the travel costs and time off work add up fast, and the thought of sitting through a service with distant relatives i haven't spoken to in years makes me anxious. my parents keep saying it's about respect and showing support for my cousins, yet they haven't really explained why my absence would matter that much. i offered to call my cousins afterward to check in, but that didn't go over well. part of me feels like i'm being selfish, but another part thinks grief doesn't require attendance at every event. it's been quiet tension ever since i said no, and now i'm second guessing whether i made the right call or if i'm missing something bigger about family duty.

I’m (f22) my mom (42) called me crying begging me to co-sign for a loan. I’m feeling guilty and trying to understand if I’m wrong.

Recently the transmission on her car she cannot sell the car so she has to fix it. She trades and got the money to fix it then lost it after I advised her not to continue trading and to just fix it.

I live with her while I finish college and I work, I do not currently pay money for rent. Though I’ve offered during arguments with the stipulation that I’m more of a roommate than a child (we both clean after ourselves etc.) She calls me today crying asking me to sign for a loan for her I told her no because she doesn’t even pay back the loans/ credit cards she already has. She got upset and said this is just “one thing” she’s asking me for and I can’t even do that. My thing is she’s borrowed north of 2k from me etc and she always has an excuse why she can’t /shouldn’t pay me back. I’m upset mainly bc it’s never really “one thing” she’s asking me for and then she acts like I never do anything for her until the next time she needs help.

Am I wrong for not co-signing?

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My bf is great! But. (23m) is always late. Not by hours! That's hella rude and would be a dealbreaker. But just like 5-20 minutes usually. This time it was 45 minutes to my dad's birthday which kind of felt embarassing? I dont know why, lol. I felt judged on his behalf. He said he got busy mid video game and he couldn't abandon his raid team. I said to him, "Hey, I'd really appreciate if you could try to be on time, today yup but just in general". He told me - I was making a mountain out of a molehill and that expecting him to value my dad's birthday when I had plans with my friends on his dad's birthday is a double standard. I can kind of see this? I feel a bit guilty, I am not sure. - that bringing up that he's usually 5 to 20 (by saying in general) is nitpicking. Ik it isn't that big a deal.

Aita for a) expecting him to go to my dad's bday b) bringing up the other times given it's usually under 20 min.

A friend (31F) is going on a three week trip in November and asked me if I could take care of her two cats while she's away. She lives about 25 minutes from me by bus. The plan she suggested is that I come by every day to feed them, clean the litter boxes and spend some time with them because one of them gets anxious when alone.

I love her cats and I've done a few days here and there before, always for free, which was totally fine. But three weeks of going there every single day, after work, is a lot. That's roughly an hour of travel plus time with the cats, every day including weekends.

I told her I could do it if she covered my bus fare and maybe paid a bit for my time, or alternatively I could do every other day if she found someone for the other days. She seemed surprised and said a pet sitter would charge "a fortune" and that she thought friends do this kind of thing for each other.

Now I feel akward. I don't want to make money off a friend, but this feels like a real job for three weeks. She hasn't replied since yesterday. Am I wrong for asking for something in return, or should I have just said yes or no without bringing money into it?

I'm 18 and I have younger brother. Our mom recently told us that she and our stepdad are planning to have a baby. She's 46, and honestly, neither of us reacted the way she expected. My brother immediately asked if she was serious, and I just sat there trying to understand why she'd want to start raising another child when we're both almost grown up. She seemed genuinely excited about the idea, but when she noticed we weren't happy, the conversation turned into an argument pretty quickly.

For some context, we're not exactly a wealthy family. We're doing okay, but money has always been something we have to think about. My mom complains about grocery prices, unexpected bills, and how expensive everything has become. I'm supposed to start college next year, and we've already had several conversations about how much financial help she can realistically give me. I know I'm not entitled to having my education paid for, and I've been looking into scholarships and part-time jobs. But it's frustrating to hear that we can't afford certain things and then suddenly find out they're planning to have another baby, which obviously isn't cheap either.

My brother is even more upset than I am. He said he doesn't want to spend the rest of high school living with a crying baby and being expected to babysit whenever our parents are busy. I understand where he's coming from because when he was little, I was often the one watching him while our mom worked. It wasn't terrible, but I definitely missed out on things because someone had to stay home with him. I don't want that happening to my brother, especially since he's just starting to have more independence and spend time with his friends.

When I brought up our financial situation, my mom got defensive and said that having another child was a decision between her and our stepdad. She told us we were entitled to our feelings, but we didn't get a vote. I understand that technically she's right. It's her life, her body, and her marriage. But I also think having another child affects everyone living in the house, not just the parents. I asked whether they'd actually thought about how things would work financially, especially with me going to college soon. She said they'd figure it out like they always have, which wasn't exactly reassuring.

The argument got worse when my brother said he wasn't going to babysit. Mom told him nobody had asked him to, but then added that family members should help each other when needed. That immediately made me suspicious because I've heard that exact sentence before. I told her it wasn't fair to expect us to be excited about something that could make our lives harder. She said we were both being selfish and acting like a new baby would somehow take something away from us. I got angry and told her that, financially, it probably would. She looked really hurt and ended the conversation.

We haven't talked much about it since. My stepdad thinks we should apologize for upsetting her because this is something she's wanted for a long time. He also said we're old enough to understand that parents have lives and dreams outside their children. I get that, and I don't want to control what my mom does. I'm also aware that at 18, I probably don't understand everything about their finances or relationship. But I can't pretend I'm excited when I'm genuinely worried about what this means for our family.

I love my mom, and if they do have another baby, I'm not going to hate my little sibling or treat them badly. That's not what this is about. I'm just frustrated that we're expected to celebrate a decision that could seriously affect our lives without being allowed to express any concerns. My mom keeps saying we're making everything about ourselves, but I feel like she's refusing to acknowledge that this decision involves more than just her and my stepdad.

A friend of mine kept making little digs at another person we hang with and it was starting to feel uncomfortable. I figured I'd keep it low key so I just said hey maybe dial it down a bit. The person who was getting teased actually thanked me but my friend got super defensive and everyone else in the chat kind of went quiet. Now I keep second guessing whether I should have said anything at all or if I made it weird for no reason. On one hand it feels like I just didn't want the negativity to keep going but on the other I can't help wondering if speaking up escalated the tension instead of helping. Not sure if I crossed a line by getting involved or if I should have left it alone. Would love some outside thoughts on whether I overstepped.

my fiancee already bought us plane tickets to and from japan this past summer and paid for our Airbnbs which was nice but for my birthday i got surprised with tickets to italy with more airbnb paid for, made reservation for a nice restaurant for valentine’s day too at vegan restaurant cause we are vegan

my fiancee makes a lot more money than me so it feels a bit annoying cuz i talked about how ive been wanting a wii and instead i get more travel tickets, and yes we have been talking about wantjng to go to italy and i did really love japan but i didnt really want this for my birthday

but i feel rude to not want, but i haven’t been talking that much to my fiancee

i wasn’t too insistent on the wii but i have mentioned a few times i want a wii. didn’t specify i wanted for birthday so just clarifying. maybe i didn’t communicate that well but i thought maybe cuz we already traveled this year it would be assumed i want something different that ive talked about wanting (the wii)

So I have an older sister who wants to switch rooms with me (mine is upstairs,hers is downstairs), and she wanted to switch rooms in April when her boyfriend is moving in, and it was phrased as optional, only if I wanted to, she's never complained about her room or it's placement, thing is lately it keeps getting brought up and it's just making me very anxious, I'm autistic, I'm tired, anxious, and overstimulated 24/7, so my room being quiet and separate from everyone else is the only thing that lets me decompress, and I know the moment I have to switch rooms to downstairs, it won't be quiet which means it won't be peaceful anymore, I had mentioned to my mom who brought up switching sooner that I don't know if I want to switch anymore, and she seemed upset by it, I don't know if I'm being an asshole here, because my sister was phrasing it as optional, I thought that meant it's okay if it doesn't happen, but with the way my mom got mad I don't know if it's actually optional, I'm scared that if I say no, I'll just be continuously asked and pressured until they get a yes again. I don't know, it's just making me really anxious

I apologize if this is hard to understand, I'm very anxious about this at the moment so it might not be as coherent

Edit: okay, I realized I forgot to mention, I did say that I was willing to switch months ago, it isn't until recently that I'm realizing this isn't what I want, which is where I may be in the wrong for backing out months later after promising I would

Hey, all, I’m a 24-year-old woman and this happened today. I booked a 30-minute full body oil massage and expected a female therapist. Instead, a man came in, pulled my underwear down until my butt was exposed without asking. He didn’t touch my vagina, but I felt uncomfortable and violated. He touched my legs maybe once or twice, it felt like it was a back and butt massage, not full body. I’m not sure if I’m overreacting, but I didn’t consent to that. Has anyone experienced something similar?