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Problem/Goal:

My boyfriend wants to have sex every day, sometimes multiple times a day, and I’m getting so exhausted na hindi na kaya ng katawan ko. I’ve already communicated this to him before, pero bumabalik at bumabalik lang kami sa ganitong routine. Recently, things got worse when he tried forcing me even though I kept saying no. I honestly don’t know what to do anymore, especially since ayaw niya rin makipag-cool off or magstay muna kami separately.

Context:

I (21F) am a graduating college student, and my boyfriend (20M) and I have been living together for almost a year na.

Nung bago pa lang kami nagli-live in, okay and exciting naman yung idea of having sex every day. I enjoy sex, too, pero habang tumatagal, nakakapagod na talaga, especially after long days of school and duty. Minsan, gusto ko na lang humiga at magpahinga kasi wala na talaga akong energy.

There was one time na we had sex for almost two hours, and sobrang pagod ko the next day to the point na I failed a major quiz. I told him about it, and he stopped initiating sex for about two weeks. Akala ko magiging okay na, pero after that, bumalik na naman kami sa dati.

We can have sex up to three times a day, and halos walang palya araw-araw. Lately, I'm experiencing pain down there every time we have sex. Sumasakit na rin hips and lower back ko kasi he likes it rough and fast. Sometimes, he initiates sex kahit tulog ako, habang nakahiga lang ako sa bed scrolling through my phone, or even habang naliligo ako.

My libido has been really low lately, and I'm not sure if may effect ba yung contraceptive implant ko or if it's because I'm just physically exhausted. At this point, parang ayoko na munang makipag-sex kasi pagod na pagod na talaga ako.

Yesterday, I didn't want to have sex, and thankfully, he respected my decision. Pero today, mas naging aggressive siya than usual. He kept asking for sex kahit paulit-ulit akong nagsasabi ng no, and he was pinning me down. He only stopped trying when I started crying.

Honestly, hindi ko na alam gagawin ko. Parang mas nanggigigil siya kapag may isang araw na walang sex. Ngayon na dalawang araw na kaming walang sex, I don't even know what to expect. I'm starting to feel anxious about saying no because I don't know how he'll react.

I also suggested na mag-cool off muna kami or magstay muna kami sa respective parents namin para magkaroon kami ng space from each other, pero ayaw niya.

Previous Attempts:

1. I talked to him about how exhausted I was. I explained how having sex for long periods was affecting my physical condition and even my academics. He stopped initiating for two weeks, pero bumalik din sa dati.

2. I tried saying no when I didn't feel like having sex. Yesterday, he respected my decision, pero today, he became aggressive, kept insisting kahit ilang beses na akong tumanggi, and pinned me down until I cried.

3. I suggested na mag-cool off muna or magstay kami separately. I thought having some space would help me rest and think things through, pero ayaw niya.

Problem/Goal:

Nag post narin ako before about sa situation ko. Hiwalay na kami ng ex ko, almost 7 months na. 4 years din naging relasyon namin pero parang ang dali niya lang naka move on.

Marami na akong na try na side quests, para sana makalimot narin at mag move on. Kaso ang hirap, maraming times na naiisip ko parin talaga siya. Ilang urge narin ang nilabanan ko para hindi mag contact sakanya.

After 2-3 weeks na hiwalay kami, nag pa-promise pa siya na babalik naman daw talaga siya. So nag wait naman ako (actually parang until now). Kaso parang pinalala niya, nag post siya ng fb story with someone (boy bestfriend), and magkayakap sila (and nasa bar silang dalawa lang). Wala naman sana sakin, kaso nakita ng family ko. Parang pumangit image niya sa parents at mga kapatid ko, akala nila bago niya. Then ayon, siniraan niya na ako sa friends niya after that.

Hinabol ko parin naman kahit papaano, kaso masyado narin ako napapahiya sa circle namin and friends niya. Kaya nag decide ako itigil nalang at sana ma-realize niya lahat.

Dumating sa point na nakita kong inopen niya FB account ko (nag change password ako after), binuksan niya rin 'yong IG account ng sports team ko (after 4 months na hiwalay kami), and nagpakita siya sa isang event na ako ang host (wala siyang kinalaman sa event).

Blocked naman ako sakanya sa lahat ng social platforms. Nitong friday lang, nakita ko siya sa mindanao ave. Nakasakay siya sa joyride, naka joyride din ako at that time. Feeling ko naman hindi niya ako nakita, pero I was sure na siya yon.

Nong Sunday, I was praying for discernment habang nasa church. While praying, tunog nang tunog phone ko. 'Yong ex ko tumatawag, pinipilit niya ako sagutin yong call. Ayaw niya daw mag type, sabi ko voice message niya nalang. Nag message nalang din siya, tinatanong niya if anong phone number ginamit ko sa paggawa ng apple account. Sabi ko phone number niya yong ginamit ko and sure ako. Sabi niya nalang, salamat at block niya nalang daw ako ulit after 48 hrs. Need niya daw kasi maaccess icloud niya e, and mukhang nakalimutan niya yong password.

Hindi ako naging marupok at naging gentle sakanya nong mga oras na yon, pero sure akong may feelings pa ako sakanya right now. Tingin ko may boyfriend na siya. Wala akong balita pero dati may pinakita yong friend namin, fb story ng ex ko na may singsing at ka-holding hands (pero walang face ni guy).

Nag rant lang ako, hehe. Sana maka move on na ako.

Problem/Goal: I am 33. I quit my call center job, no family, no children, no partner. My mom said I should just continue studying, since I haven't completed my degree yet. She is also asking me for a grandchild, and I don't know how. I don't know what to do.

Before, I look forward to playing games or watching some anime, but now, I just feel nothing. I don't have any goals in life anymore.

I kept on being sad, to the point of becoming lost. Hoping it's not depr*ssion. This isn't the first time that it happened. Every few years, this happens. I used to excel at school and sports when I was younger, but now, it's all gone. I don't know what to do anymore. Please give me some advice.

Problem/Goal:

It’s been 7 months since my breakup, and I thought I was already healing. But after stalking my ex’s profile, I realized na galit pa rin pala ako. I don’t miss him or want him back, but I’m still angry about what he did. How do I let go of this resentment and finally find peace?

Context:

We lived together for 4 years, and our relationship ended because I caught him cheating twice. Since the breakup, we haven’t been mutuals on social media, so I haven’t seen anything about him. I’ve been focusing on my new job, keeping myself busy, and rebuilding my life.

I genuinely thought I was doing better until I stalked his profile. Seeing him again brought back all the anger and memories of what happened. I don’t want to hate him forever, and I want to forgive him eventually, but I’m starting to question whether I’m actually healing or just distracting myself with work and other things.

Previous Attempts:

I’ve been focusing on work, spending time with friends, and keeping myself busy. I haven’t been checking his social media for 7 months until recently.

I know healing isn’t linear, but I thought I’d be in a better place by now.

For those who’ve experienced something similar, is it normal to still feel this angry after 7 months? How did you know you were genuinely healing? And how did you finally let go of the resentment?

I don’t want him back. I just want to reach a point where what he did no longer hurts or makes me angry. Does it really get better?

Problem/Goal:

I'm experiencing itchiness and a burning sensation inside my vagina after sex. It seems to happen whenever we use condoms and lubricant, but when we tried having sex without a condom, I didn't experience the same irritation afterward. I'm wondering if I could be allergic or sensitive to latex or the lubricant, or if it could be a UTI or another vaginal infection. Minsan, nilalagnat din ako kapag nararamdaman ko yung symptoms, kaya nag-aalala na rin ako. I'm also scared to go to the doctor, but I want to understand what's happening and what I should do.

Context:

I'm F(28), and my boyfriend is 30. We're both in our first relationship, childhood best friends turned lovers lol.

It started last month when we had sex for the first time. We used condoms and lubricant for the first time, and we made sure to clean ourselves before and after. I also peed before and after sex.

The day after, I started experiencing itchiness and a burning sensation inside my vagina. It happened again after we had sex another time, so we decided to take a break. Eventually, we tried having sex without a condom, and I didn't experience the same irritation. However, when we tried again with a condom and lubricant, the itching and burning came back.

I also have a history of UTI, although the last time I got checked for it was when I was around 20 years old. My boyfriend is worried about me, too, and he suggested that we stop having sex until I get checked by a doctor.

Previous Attempts:

We showered and cleaned ourselves before and after sex. I peed before and after sex. We used condoms and lubricant, but the symptoms came back afterward. We tried having sex without a condom, and I didn't experience the same irritation. We took a break from sex when the symptoms first appeared.

I haven't consulted a doctor yet because I'm honestly scared and anxious about getting checked, especially since it's been years since my last checkup.

I'd really appreciate hearing from anyone who has experienced something similar. Possible bang allergy or sensitivity sa latex or lubricant ito, or could it be a UTI or another vaginal infection? What should I do, and how can I overcome my fear of getting checked by a doctor?

Thank you so much for any advice or insights! ❤️

('wag na po sana kayo magcomment here kapag wala kayong magandang sasabihin. thanks!)

Problem/Goal: Sobrang nag s-struggle ako sa thoughts ko ngayon na pigilan na makipag usap uli sa ex ko.

Context: My ex (27M) and I (27F) broke up after being in a relationship for four years. One week pa lang since our breakup, and naging kalmado naman talaga yung conversation namin about it. Malinaw naman sa akin kung bakit kailangan na naming maghiwalay since hindi na talaga kami nakakatulong sa isa’t isa.

Pero taena, grabe yung suffering ko after just one week. Hindi ako makakain, hindi ako makatulog, at nasusuka ako. We also lived together for three years, so now that I’m living alone again, pakiramdam ko mababaliw na talaga ako. Sobrang nasanay na ako sa presensya niya.

I badly want to reach out to him and ask if we can just get back together and try to fix everything. Hindi ko na kasi kinakaya yung nararamdaman ko.

Previous attempts: Blocked naman na siya sa lahat ng socials ko. Kaso di parin enough huhu.

Please, realtalk-in niyo ako. Sobrang nakakasuka (literal) yung feeling na nag lalaban yung utak mo na wag na, while yung puso mo niroromanticize parin yung memories niyo. Please, ayoko naaaaaa

Problem/Goal: I can’t get into a long term relationship. Whenever I find a connection with someone, it only last about a month or so. It’s always sex after the first date, pure excitement, and then they become distant, and then I’m alone again.

Context: I’m working both as a commercial actor and a corporate worker. There, I meet a lot of people. I started to notice patterns in how this things work. They’d show up very interested, full of energy, I’d take them out on a date, we’d start making out in private, we’d go to my place or theirs, have sex, then it’ll last about a month or so, then they disappear.

I have friends, I’m very hygienic. I am often told that I’m a reserved person. I’m not nonchalant, I actually like surprising my ex partners with gifts, handmade crafts, cooking for them, acts of service and all that jazz.

Honestly, I just want to pour all this love I have to this one person, but at this rate, I’m scared of falling in love again and lose them after a month.

I’m tired, and I feel like I can never have a proper relationship.

It’s not that they ghosted me or anything, we talked about why they don’t see themselves in a relationship. What they say in common is that, they realize they’re either not yet ready to have a serious relationship, or they can’t reciprocate my love and it would feel unfair to them, and they’d feel bad.

I’m not even asking for much in a relationship, I’m okay with bare minimum, even let me do all the hardworking while you just stay by my side as my princess.

My dream is to be the best husband a wife can ever ask for. I love serving my partner, it makes me feel like the happiest person when I am.

Previous attempts:

I tried not having sex in the first month, but I’m scared that if I do, I lose them right away. I notice that most of the women I end up dating have avoidant attachment style, or at least that’s what Tiktok thinks.

I also tried to prolong the talking stage, but they end up getting bored or think that I’m talking to a lot of women or that I’m just playing around, and not taking them seriously. So it doesn’t last long or the pattern just repeats itself.

Problem/Goal: 24F, how do you make friends at work as an adult? 3 months na ako sa new workplace ko pero wala pa rin akong kaclose. Gusto ko sana maging friends yung coworkers ko pero nahihiya akong mag-initiate kasi baka magmukha akong FC or desperada.

Context: I recently shifted industries and now work at a construction firm. Admin side yung role ko while most of my coworkers are architects, so minsan nahihirapan akong makarelate sa conversations nila. Same age range naman kami and they seem like fun people to be around, kaya gusto ko sana silang makaclose.

I know it’s not right to compare but sa previous companies ko (bpo industry), naging genuine friends ko talaga yung coworkers ko. We hung out outside work and shared personal stuff. I’m actually bubbly and makwela once comfortable na ako sa tao, but idk bakit ba sobrang tahimik ko ngayon.

Previous Attempts: I’ve been trying to familiarize myself with them, pero nahihiya akong biglang makisali sa conversations or mag-message out of nowhere. Part of me wants to make an extra effort, pero part of me also wants to let friendships happen naturally.

For those who’ve experienced this, paano kayo naging close sa coworkers niyo? Do you actively initiate conversations or just let things happen naturally? How do you get past the awkward stage without feeling like you’re forcing yourself into their circle?

Problem/Goal:

Problem: May nakuha kaming dalawang all-around kasambahay kaso problematic at pasaway sila pareho habang nasa 15-day probationary period.

Goal: Gusto ko malaman kung dapat ko pa ba bigyan ng chance o i-cut na ang losses namin. I also want to know what we're doing wrong here.

Context:

Growing up, we had a revolving door of relatives that would come and live with us for free lodgings or mga pinsan ko na "aampunin" ng Mom ko para pag aralin so they can have a better future. Dahil kami kami lang sa bahay, binibigyan na lang sila ni Mama ng allowance dahil sila din naman ang nakilos sa bahay. In the end, we decided to cut (most of) them off kasi mga abusado and walang respeto na. 3 na lang kami sa bahay. Mom, myself, and my uncle (Mom's BIL) who's basically an all-around house boy/gardener/etc.

To lessen his workload, napag desisyunan namin na mag hire na lang ng 2 kasambahay na stay-in, para din laging may kasama si Mama (she has a lot of chronic health issues) sa bahay in case may lakad ako.

• Helper A: Masipag at malinis sa bahay pero may pagkaintrimitida (sumasabat sa usapan ng mga bisita ni Mama). Ang pinakamalaking red flag ay ang sunod-sunod na bale (mahigit ₱3,500+ sa loob ng wala pang isang linggo) dahil sa iba't ibang emergency sa pamilya. After 3 days of working, hiningi agad yung sahod niya kasi wala na daw silang pang bili ng bigas. Pinagbigyan namin kasi baka kailangang kailangan nila. Kinabukasan, bumale na naman ng 500 kasi nakagat daw ng aso ang mama niya kailangan daw magpa injection. Nung sunod na bukas naman, nadulas daw sa cr ang mama niya. Na stroke at nabagok kaya 50/50 na daw dahil may previous episode of stroke na nung Sept. Bumale ulit ng 3k kasi may kailangan daw bilihin na gamot. A few days after, pina tanggal na nila sa life support kasi tinapat na sila ng Doctor na mababa na daw ang chance.

Dahil sa lamay, umaalis siya gabi-gabi at bumabalik kinaumagahan. Kanina, nag sabi siya sa akin na sisilipin lang daw niya saglit ang anak niya (13 y/o) dahil natatakot daw kasi mag isa na lang sa bahay. Sabi pa niya ay magpapaalam siya kay Mama. Ang ending, hindi nag paalam kaya ako pa ang nag sabi kay Mama na umalis siya. Tapos maya maya ay nag chat sa akin na bukas ng umaga na lang daw siya babalik.

• Helper B: Si Helper A ang nagpasok sa kanya. Napapansin namin na kailangan pa siyang i guide o utusan ni A. Walang sariling kusa sa trabaho at hindi marunong magluto (sinunog ang fishball, nagpiprito sa malamig na mantika). May severe health issue rin siya na hindi nabanggit sa interview. Mataas ang sugar at nag-iinsulin na dati pero itinigil niya dahil nanghihina raw siya, at ayaw uminom ng Metformin dahil sa maling akala na nakakasira daw 'yon ng kidney. May time na nahilo at nanghina siya sa trabaho kaya si Helper A ay pinapag pahinga na lang at siya ang sumasalo ng mga gawain.

Previous Attempts:

Pinagbigyan at pina bale namin si Helper A dahil inisip namin na kailangan talaga nila ng pera at okay lang muna kahit hindi nasusunod ang pagiging stay-in niya out of consideration sa pagkamatay ng Mama niya. Kaso ay baka mamihasa naman na ganitong magdadahilan para lumabas ng gabi tapos babanatan ako sa chat ng excuses para bukas na lang bumalik. Kay B naman, wala namang issue yung choice ni A na pag pahingahin siya at akuin ang trabaho, kaso lang ay hindi feasible in the long run ang ganitong set up at dahil nga hindi managed properly ang sugar niya ay baka kung ano pa ang mangyari sa kanya dito.

Si B ay nag day off kanina. Parang ayaw na namin pabalikin. Ito namang si A ang problema dahil nga over pa sa bale. Kaso kung ganito lang din naman lagi ay iniisip ko kung i let go na namin at hayaan na ang bale niya.

Ano ba ang magandang gawin sa mga 'to? Are we being unreasonable especially with Helper A? Please let me know your advices/opinions.

Problem/Goal: So yung mama ko plano pumanta sa resident ni papa ngayon without his knowledge and she explicitly told na wag daw ipaalam sakanya

Context: So my parents have been practically separated since elementary palang ako kasi nagcheat si papa. Grabe pa naman yung away nila na to the point halos every time magkita or magusap sila nahahantong sa away. Nagbabato ng mga gamit (plato, baso anything na nababasag XD) tas palitan ng mga salita.

There's one time na kumain kami sa Andoks then naisipan ni mama na iwanan si papa habang natutulog siya sa table kasi napagod sa trabaho. Ayun naglakad kami pauwi sa gitna ng gabi, mind you yung lugar na kinainan namin 8km away from home. Then nagising si papa sakay motor para habulin kami tas pinasakay kmi para makauwi na kami, nagaaway pa yan sila ha. Pero yung mas malala na naalala ko yung sa gitna ng away nila nawitness ko talaga na magbibigti si mama dahil sa lala na ng problema nila, Grade 1 palang ako nun.

Fast forward to the present day, college na ako and nasa manila na ako nagaaral, nakatira ako right kay kina papa kasama yung babae niya. Okay naman yung pakikitungo nila sakin pero I'm still putting some boundaries kasi sa lala ng pinagdaanan ko. So pupunta daw si mama dito para icheck ako, kaso I'm hesitant baka magaway of kaya ako yung naman ang awayin dito sa tinitirhan kong bahay. Paghinde ko naman masunod gusto sasabihin na nahilo na nila ako or whatever.

Idk talaga kung saan ako lulugar hayop tong buhay na to, bat kasi ito yung naibigay sakin.

Problem/goal: parang cycle ko to, minsan okay ako minsan hindi but these past few days na naman ata im not sure. feel ko parang super tamad kong tao like wala akong gana sa lahat ng bagay to the point na tinatamad ako pumasok sa school huhu

context: 3rd yr college student ako na nag aaral sa hometown ko so nakatira parin ako sa house ng parents ko, ever since 1st yr ako hindi ko talaga makuha yung peace at tamang pahinga sa buhay ko, like lagi akong nagpupuyat kasi feel ko parang madaling araw na lang yung "ME TIME" ko plus tahimik. but kinabukasan ayan laban ulit and dagdag na rin yung problems ko financially like i cant even thought about dating someone sa kalagayan ng life ko rn :((

previous attempts: ive tried naman side hustling to help ease my mind pero di rin tumagal and rn incoming 4th yr na ako, gusto ko sana pagka graduate ko maghanap agad ng job so that i can make my own money na ayaw ko na maging tambay sa bahay

any advice what to do? pls be genuine

Problem/Goal:

I am 25F, and I’m planning to get my 46-year-old father an insurance policy. However, I was diagnosed with SLE (Systemic Lupus Erythematosus), and lately, I’ve been having second thoughts about this decision. Since I’ll be the one paying for my father’s insurance, I can’t help but think, what if I’m the one who passes away first? My siblings are still minors, and we no longer have our mom. I’m worried about what would happen to them and to the insurance policy if I were no longer around to pay the premiums.

Context:
I genuinely want to secure my father’s future, but I’m also afraid that all the money I’ve invested in the policy might go to waste if it lapses because I can no longer maintain the payments.

For those who have experience with insurance or have been in a similar situation, would you still recommend getting my father insured, or should I consider other options? Are there insurance policies that could remain in force or provide some protection if the person paying the premiums passes away?

I know this is a difficult thing to think about, especially at my age, but having SLE has made me more aware of my own mortality and the uncertainty of the future. I just want to make a wise decision for my family, especially for my younger siblings, who still depend on me.

I would really appreciate any advice or insights. Thank you!

Previous Attempt: Already talked to an agent, and sabi niya na ma la-lapse raw yung policy if hindi tuloy tuloy nabayaran. With this, she advised me na encourage my Tita na tumutulong samin na sabihan about sa policy.

Problem/Goal: Hiwalay na kami almost 1 week. Pero nakafollow at meron parin kami photos sa mga socials namin. Ayaw niya ipabura kaya umaasa parin ako na baka pwede pa.

Context: Hiwalay na kami. Pero kase nakafollow parin kami sa socials and ung mga pictures namin nakaupload parin. 7 years kami. Sabi ko sa kanya after namin mag hiwalay. Mag bubura na ko ng mga pictures namin. Baka mag unfollow na din ako. Pero siya ang sabi niya hindi niya buburahin yung amin. Bat din daw mag unfollow? Kung may pinagsamahan kami. Bahagi na daw ako ng buhay at puso niya dahil sa tagal namin.
Pero depende din naman daw sakin. Pero ung sa kanya daw hindi niya buburahin.

Dahil dun araw araw ko binibisita ung profile niya. Kahit repost niya, liked niya. Hindi lanh araw araw. Kundi pras oras.

1. Paano ba tigilan yung pag stalk sa kanya?
   
2. Mag bubura na ba ako ng photos namin kahit kakahiwalay lang namin?

Problem/Goal: kapareho kami ng surname at nag aalala ako sa future namin, oky lang sa side ko kasi kaya ko naman 'to ipaglaban nag alala ako yung sa kanya kasi strict parents nya at same surname pa kami

Context: Nung nag ka kilala kami mga bata pa kami nun nag ka gustuhay na kami pero di namin inabala yung surname namin at umabot sa punto na nalaman namin na mag cousin kami kaya nag hiwalay. Fastforward nag ka chat uli kami at nag kausapan na pag desisyonan naming mag bff nalang kasi cousin kami e at nag pa reto siya sakin kaya ibinigay ko yung kaibigan ko nag kaka ngitian sila pero bakit ang sakit? bakit parang gusto ko sha? kaya napag desiyunan ko na umamin ako at umiwas nalang pero ang nangyari gusto din nya ako naabala lang sha kasi mag cousin kami pero nung nag kaaminay kami yung nereto kong kaibigan ko nag uusap pasila kaya napag pasyahan namin na wag na mag usap pati yung kaibigan ko so walana diba pero di pa tapos year later nag usap na naman kami ggreet lang kasi birthday pero humaba at umabot na naman na mag ka ibigan kami pero dun iba na ako kahit masakit di ko nainaamin kaya tumagal kaming mag bff kami pero ayun nga masakit nga na titipohan sha sa isa kong kaibigan at subrang bigat yung dibdib ko hindi ko alam gusto ko sha iba sha sa lahat nag try ako nung di kami nag uusap mga ka talking stage ganun pero wala e siya talaga gusto ko tapos yun napansin na nya na distant ako pag na ttopic namin yung kaibigan ko at umabot sa punto na hindi ko sha nireplayan sinabi ko sa sarili ko na i gghost ko nalang pero hindi ko nakaya kaya umamin ulit ako pero this time di ko naman sha nireto kaya wa lang nakakasagabal at umamin rin sha na gusto pa nya ako actually nireto nya din ako pero sabi nya umamin sha na nasasaktan din sha dun nireto nya ako para daw mawala feelings nya pero wala kaya napag pasyahan namin na i try ulit so dun na nag nag imbistiga ako sa surname namin at nalaman ko na malayo dugo namin mga 3rd or 4th cousin kami pero di pa ako sure kasi yung side lang nya na lalaman namin mahirap kasi sa side ko di kami close ng papa ko at nag research din ako pwede naman pala basta hindi 1st cousin nag woworry lang ako sa future namin baka pag hiwalayin kami

Previous Attempt: Sinabihan ko sya kung ano ikina woworry ko sabi nya oky lang daw kasi di naman daw nag tatanong side nya apelyido ko at napag pasyahan namin na umamin saka nila pagkatapos naming mag aral para mas maipag laban namin yung relasyon namin pero di ko alam nag woworry padin ako ano satingin nyo? hihiwalayin koba? pero mahal ko talaga iba sha sa lahat at same din yung sa kanya

Problem/Goal: Find a shop to print photos for my custom locket.

Context: Wife passed away and I have her engagement and wedding rings. Naisip ko ipatunaw and gawing locket kung saan din namin pinagawa yung rings. Syempre, di kasama yung pagprint ng photo since hindi naman nila forte yun.

Previous attempts:
1. Nagtry ako magpaprint sa random printing shop then sakin galing yung photo paper and sila ang nagedit ng photo. Di maganda yung quality.
2. Nagtanong tanong ako sa mga photo studio/printing sa malls pero gusto nila ako ang magreresize ng photo since custom size sya. I tried pero ang low quality kapag ineexport ko na kahit high quality yung photo.

Problem/Goal: Help me po, how do I make my father accept God's gifts and blessings for him? 🥺

Context: Just wanna get some opinions po on how to deal with this case. My father's birthday is next month pero kahit ano wala siyang gusto po. Mas gusto niya mag-ipon kami which I appreciate but at the same time while there is time, we want to spoil him and let him realize na marami namang blessings si Lord. I don't know how to let him appreciate the things we are trying to give back to him as a very hardworking father. He's already a senior (turning 64 this year) still working kasi ayaw niya maging burden samin. Medyo nahihirapan kami even my sister got mad before kasi whenever we buy good food parang for him pwede namang tipid nalang. Note that all of us already finished school tho hindi kami mayaman, gusto lang naman namin to gladly cherish God's blessings despite everything.

Problem/Goal: I recently graduated from college. and my parents wanted to give me one last grand gift before I go out there. I found a really good paying job in Manila as a fresh grad (non licensed) engineer. Im from Cavite and work is near SM Manila

Context: Here is the deal, I'd choose between these 2

1. they will buy me a motorcycle worth 200k and they dgaf after that
2. They will rent a 1 bedroom, kitchen, cr apartment na solo ko for 6 months

The thing is i am planning to pagsabay yung study ko sa boards while working. The reason I also chose this job is because it is a really well known company and i know that my growth and the knowledge id gain here is top tier. I also plan to leave the country after 3 years once my career is stable and nakapagipon na.

if motor, i can go places. and uwian ako sa bahay which i dont have to pay for any bills. downside is id have to sacrifice 2 hrs every day to get back home through and forth.

if place, i can rest immediately and study. however 6 months lang to. whether i fail or pass, 6 months would be the limit. food, water, electricity, wifi would be on me.

my review will be purely online lang naman. 3hrs MWF. 2 days off ko sa work so im planning to watch the 3hrs once im home, and then dedicate 1 dayoff on studying it all. (im fairly smart)

My plan is to get the motor, then after 3 months id get my own place. what do you guys think?

and since im here, id also like to ask na, are these percentages good sa magiging salary ko

gas 5%
MP2 10%
emergency savings 15%
bank reserve 30%
fun 10%
needs 10%
investment/trading 10%
allowance for my sis 5%

Problem/Goal:

Palagi ko po syang nahuhuling nagloloko, sobrang daming beses na at ang pinakamalala ay yung nakipagsex sya sa kawork nya habang buntis ako tapos sinapak nya ko kasi nagalit ako. Reason nya: nasaktan sya sa mga sinabi ko. Cheating and physical abuse continued to happen until late 2025. I really need to get out

Context:

Hi! Kailangan ko (27F) po ng lakas ng loob at support. I have been with this man (30M) for 6 years already and we have 2 children. 4YO and 2MO. It hurts so much na I am running to strangers for this pero wala talaga akong ibang malalapitan.

Previous Attempts:

I did try leaving na noong 2025 but our son got sick and eventually needed help from him kasi I can't do it on my own dahil dependent ako sa kanya sa housing, finance, and child care. Kaya nagkabalikan kami.

few months after namin magkabalikan, I caught him inquiring sa mga girls for hire and binugbog nya na naman ako kasi I confronted him when I saw that.

Nagkabrgyan na kami, unfortunately, it is in his hometown and the brgy officials are his relatives kaya pinagsulat lng nila ako sa notebook and then wala na nangyari :((

I tried to leave again and went back home to my grandparents (wala na po akong parents, estranged and both have different fams) but they just kept pressuring me kailangan ako makakahanap ng place to move to kasi hindi raw kami kasya sa bahay. 💔 I had no choice but to go back again kasi iyak ng iyak yung 4YO dahil laging pinapagalitan. :((

I got pregnant again.. and now im 2MO PP, nahuli ko na naman sya looking for "companion" and eventually met that girl. I just thought nagbago na sya :((

Alam kong tanga tanga ako to keep coming back. I dont have anyone else to turn back to and I cant afford to go and rent on my own kasi hindi enough sahod ko and childcare pa. I know im so stupid dinagdagan ko pa.

Natatauhan na ako dahil kahit hindi kami nagaaway sa harap ng mga bata, palagi akong nahuhuli ng anak ko na umiiyak and he will cry too kahit hindi nya alam why.

Wala akong pera ngayon kasi naka maternity leave pa ako and pabalik pa lang ako in 2 months.

Please please im sorry alam kong tanga ako. alam kong ginawa ko to sa sarili ko. but i need help kung paano ko didiskartehan makaalis at mapanindigan ito. I have no money and I am still healing from the emergency cs. Paano ko kakayanin to magisa? I am on the verge of killing myself pero kinakapitan ko nalang ang mga anak ko. I dont want them to grow up with a miserable mom.

Problem/Goal: What do you do when the only person you want to spend your life with is the person you can no longer be with?

Context: I've been wanting to share this because it's been bothering me lately, and I think I need some advice from people who might understand what I'm going through.

My friends have been encouraging me to talk to other guys or meet someone new, and I've tried. I've chatted with a few people, but I always end up losing interest. It's not that there's anything wrong with them. I just don't feel interested in getting to know anyone else.

The truth is, I was with someone I genuinely thought I would spend the rest of my life with. He was the person I imagined growing old with, staying beside until our hair turned white, and being with until our last breath. I had so many things I wanted to experience in life, and whenever I thought about doing those things, he was always the person I imagined doing them with.

Even now, when I think about the things I want to do, he's still the person I want beside me. He's the person I want to share those experiences with. I don't find myself imagining those moments with anyone else.

And honestly, if it can't be him, I'd rather be alone. I'd rather spend the rest of my life on my own than try to find someone else just for the sake of having someone. I don't want to force myself to entertain other people when, deep down, he's still the person I want.

Writing this makes me cry because I know how much I'm still hurting. I don't know if this is just because I'm still healing or if a part of me will always feel this way. I just know that I can't imagine wanting someone else the way I want him.

For those who have experienced something similar, how did you deal with this? Did you eventually reach a point where you wanted to open your heart to someone else, or did you learn to be content with being alone?

I don't want to force myself to move on just because other people think I should be ready. But at the same time, I wonder how I'm supposed to move forward when the future I wanted is still the future I want, and he's still the person I want to share it with.

I'd really appreciate hearing your thoughts and experiences.

Problem/Goal: TagaSamar ako at TagaCavite boyfriend ko. 32 age ako 35 siya. Nagbabalak na kami bumukod sakanila next year para makapagsimula na rin ako sa lahat lalo na sa trabaho. Para maexperience ko na ang buhay. Dito sa Samar, kasama ko parents ko. Mama ko paralyzed na dahil sa stroke 15 years ago. Parents ko both seniors na. Tatlo lang kami dito sa bahay. Yan ang struggle ko ngayon. Nahihirapan akong iwan sila kasi siguro attached na ko dito sa bahay at sa parents ko malala, walang buhay outside of this house, introvert, yung iilang friends ko nasa malalayo na rin at minsan na lang nagkakausap din. Pero need ko na rin naman talaga to eh to step up or step out and experience life and adulting stuffs together with my boyfriend. Tutulungan naman nya ako mula sa simula talaga. Siguro itong overthinking/anxiety ko lang talaga leaving my parents.

Yung ate at kuya ko may mga sarili nang pamilya nasa Cebu na rin at Manila ang mga kanya kanya nilang pamilya. May kamag-anak naman kami dito na malapit nasa highway lang banda nakatira ang kaso magkaaway yung papa ko at ang pamangkin nya. So ayun walang kibuan sila ilang buwan na.

Ang isyu with my parents lalo na kay papa sinasabi nya sino mag aasikaso dito sa bahay? Sino mag aalaga samin dito mga ganun at ganun siya lagi. Di pa naman namin fully napapag-usapan ng boyfriend ko ang lahat pero nasa isip ko iwanan parents ko dito ng kasambahay na tagadito lang din samin baka nga kapitbahay lang namin ang kunin namin if ever.

It'e between staying here with my growing old parents but I'm growing old too and needs to experience life na rin outside of this house at putulin na rin ang mag 4 years na naming ldr ng boyfriend ko. Nagkita na kami ng boyfriend ko 3 times na siya pumupunta dito sakin sa Samar para makita at makasama ako. Di nya kaya yung siya yung tumira dito sakin/samin kasi maayos at matagal na rin naman siya sa work nya so it's me lang talaga and all of my issues.

problem/goal: ano pwedeng maging reason para makipag break? religion? ldr?

context: dating for almost 5 years, and nagsawa nalang din ako every time na may pinag aawayan kami and na realized ko lang na hindi ko kayang maging asawa to in the future lol minsan naisip ko na magtrabaho nalang ako sa malayo, yung di ako kayang puntahan para lang mawalan ako ng time sakanya. kaso ayaw ko naman mahiwalay sa pamilya ko

previous attempts: sinubukan ko naman makipaghiwalay pero ayaw niya e. hirap kumawala

Problem/Goal:
How do I stop feeling guilty for expressing my emotions when my husband feels bad whenever I’m upset?

Context:
I’m 31F, and my husband is 34M. We’ve been together for 12 years and married for 5 years.
My husband is a loving, patient person who takes care of everything around the house. He’s currently unemployed and looking for work, while I’m the one earning money. I work long hours, sometimes from 6 AM to noon and then again from 6 PM to 11 PM, including weekends. I know we’re both dealing with our own pressures, and I genuinely appreciate everything he does for our household.

The problem is how we handle situations when I’m upset.

Whenever something upsets me, he apologizes repeatedly. Sometimes it becomes an endless cycle of “sorry, sorry, sorry.” However, I don’t feel like he understands why I’m hurt. When I try to explain further, he says things like, “It’s hard to be perfect.”

I know he can’t be perfect, and I’m not expecting him to be. I just want to feel heard and understood.

When he says things like that, though, I start feeling guilty. I wonder if I’m asking for too much or making him feel like he’s never good enough. Eventually, I suppress my feelings, move on, and act happy again. Things return to normal, but I don’t think the underlying issue is ever resolved.

He has also told me that when I’m sad, he feels sad too. I understand that he loves me and doesn’t want to see me unhappy, but sometimes this makes me feel like I can’t express negative emotions around him. Instead of being able to process my own feelings, I end up feeling responsible for making him feel better, even when I’m the one who’s hurting.

Over time, I’ve started feeling like I have to choose between expressing my feelings and protecting his. I don’t want him to feel like a failure, but I also don’t want to keep swallowing my emotions just to restore peace.

Tonight, I wasn’t even particularly angry. I was mostly sad and wanted some space. Yet, when this pattern happens again, I find myself wondering whether I should just give up on expecting him to understand me emotionally.

Part of me wants to focus on work, sleep, exercise, and repeat. I need to keep earning money, and honestly, I don’t have much energy left for anything else.

I love my husband, and I don’t think he’s a bad person. He contributes a lot to our household, and I don’t want to dismiss that. I just feel lonely in this particular part of our relationship.
I don’t want to reach a point where I stop sharing my feelings because I’ve convinced myself that it’s easier not to.

Previous Attempts:
I’ve tried explaining why I’m upset, hoping he’ll understand what hurt me rather than just apologize for it. But the conversation often turns into him apologizing repeatedly or saying that he can’t be perfect.

I end up feeling guilty, reassuring him, and eventually putting my feelings aside. We move on without really resolving the issue, and the same pattern happens again.

I’m not sure how to break this cycle without making him feel inadequate or making myself feel like a burden.

My question is: Has anyone experienced this dynamic in their marriage? How did you learn to express your feelings without feeling responsible for your partner’s emotional reaction? Is there a way for both partners to feel heard without one person having to suppress their emotions to keep the peace?

Problem/Goal: I'm currently 19 years old, and this all started when I was around 12. Back then, pinapatulog ako sa bahay ng lola ko every single night. Doon, araw-araw akong binabangungot. As in every single day, walang sablay.

Ganto lagi yung scenario:
• Mananaginip ako ng demonyong nagagalit sa akin kapag binabanggit ko si Lord.
• Magigising ako at EXACTLY 3:00 AM, 3:30 AM, or 3:33 AM.
When I say exact, I mean EXACT.
• Umalis lang ako sa bahay ng lola ko after a few years nung lumala na talaga. The breaking point was when I woke up and naramdaman at nakita ko mismo na may bumubuhat sa akin, a shadowy male figure (lalaking itim) lifting me up while I was lying down. I don't remember what happened right after, but l vividly remember na alas-tres din yun nangyari.

Fast forward to now: I'm 19 and nakalipat na kami ng tinitirhan. Akala ko matatapos na kasi nakaalis na ako sa lola ko, pero mag-iisang taon na ako rito sa bagong bahay and ganun pa rin. Binabangungot pa rin ako at nagigising sa madaling araw.
What's worse now is nagigising ako sa pakiramdam na:
May sumasakal sa akin
May nakadagan / kinakapos ng hininga
Kagabi malala ulit-nagising ako na hindi talaga makahinga and feeling ko napapanood ko sarili ko habang natutulog.
Sinubukan ko na magpatawas before and ang sabi lang
"namatanda" raw ako, pero wala namang nagbago after. I also pray every day before sleeping. Wala rin akong tinatake na kahit anong gamot or medications. I'm really exhausted and scared. Has anyone experienced something like this? Is this purely medical/sleep paralysis, or something spiritual?
What steps should I take next? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!