Problem/Goal:

My boyfriend wants to have sex every day, sometimes multiple times a day, and I’m getting so exhausted na hindi na kaya ng katawan ko. I’ve already communicated this to him before, pero bumabalik at bumabalik lang kami sa ganitong routine. Recently, things got worse when he tried forcing me even though I kept saying no. I honestly don’t know what to do anymore, especially since ayaw niya rin makipag-cool off or magstay muna kami separately.

Context:

I (21F) am a graduating college student, and my boyfriend (20M) and I have been living together for almost a year na.

Nung bago pa lang kami nagli-live in, okay and exciting naman yung idea of having sex every day. I enjoy sex, too, pero habang tumatagal, nakakapagod na talaga, especially after long days of school and duty. Minsan, gusto ko na lang humiga at magpahinga kasi wala na talaga akong energy.

There was one time na we had sex for almost two hours, and sobrang pagod ko the next day to the point na I failed a major quiz. I told him about it, and he stopped initiating sex for about two weeks. Akala ko magiging okay na, pero after that, bumalik na naman kami sa dati.

We can have sex up to three times a day, and halos walang palya araw-araw. Lately, I'm experiencing pain down there every time we have sex. Sumasakit na rin hips and lower back ko kasi he likes it rough and fast. Sometimes, he initiates sex kahit tulog ako, habang nakahiga lang ako sa bed scrolling through my phone, or even habang naliligo ako.

My libido has been really low lately, and I'm not sure if may effect ba yung contraceptive implant ko or if it's because I'm just physically exhausted. At this point, parang ayoko na munang makipag-sex kasi pagod na pagod na talaga ako.

Yesterday, I didn't want to have sex, and thankfully, he respected my decision. Pero today, mas naging aggressive siya than usual. He kept asking for sex kahit paulit-ulit akong nagsasabi ng no, and he was pinning me down. He only stopped trying when I started crying.

Honestly, hindi ko na alam gagawin ko. Parang mas nanggigigil siya kapag may isang araw na walang sex. Ngayon na dalawang araw na kaming walang sex, I don't even know what to expect. I'm starting to feel anxious about saying no because I don't know how he'll react.

I also suggested na mag-cool off muna kami or magstay muna kami sa respective parents namin para magkaroon kami ng space from each other, pero ayaw niya.

Previous Attempts:

1. I talked to him about how exhausted I was. I explained how having sex for long periods was affecting my physical condition and even my academics. He stopped initiating for two weeks, pero bumalik din sa dati.

2. I tried saying no when I didn't feel like having sex. Yesterday, he respected my decision, pero today, he became aggressive, kept insisting kahit ilang beses na akong tumanggi, and pinned me down until I cried.

3. I suggested na mag-cool off muna or magstay kami separately. I thought having some space would help me rest and think things through, pero ayaw niya.

Problem/Goal: I am 33. I quit my call center job, no family, no children, no partner. My mom said I should just continue studying, since I haven't completed my degree yet. She is also asking me for a grandchild, and I don't know how. I don't know what to do.

Before, I look forward to playing games or watching some anime, but now, I just feel nothing. I don't have any goals in life anymore.

I kept on being sad, to the point of becoming lost. Hoping it's not depr*ssion. This isn't the first time that it happened. Every few years, this happens. I used to excel at school and sports when I was younger, but now, it's all gone. I don't know what to do anymore. Please give me some advice.

Problem/Goal: TagaSamar ako at TagaCavite boyfriend ko. 32 age ako 35 siya. Nagbabalak na kami bumukod sakanila next year para makapagsimula na rin ako sa lahat lalo na sa trabaho. Para maexperience ko na ang buhay. Dito sa Samar, kasama ko parents ko. Mama ko paralyzed na dahil sa stroke 15 years ago. Parents ko both seniors na. Tatlo lang kami dito sa bahay. Yan ang struggle ko ngayon. Nahihirapan akong iwan sila kasi siguro attached na ko dito sa bahay at sa parents ko malala, walang buhay outside of this house, introvert, yung iilang friends ko nasa malalayo na rin at minsan na lang nagkakausap din. Pero need ko na rin naman talaga to eh to step up or step out and experience life and adulting stuffs together with my boyfriend. Tutulungan naman nya ako mula sa simula talaga. Siguro itong overthinking/anxiety ko lang talaga leaving my parents.

Yung ate at kuya ko may mga sarili nang pamilya nasa Cebu na rin at Manila ang mga kanya kanya nilang pamilya. May kamag-anak naman kami dito na malapit nasa highway lang banda nakatira ang kaso magkaaway yung papa ko at ang pamangkin nya. So ayun walang kibuan sila ilang buwan na.

Ang isyu with my parents lalo na kay papa sinasabi nya sino mag aasikaso dito sa bahay? Sino mag aalaga samin dito mga ganun at ganun siya lagi. Di pa naman namin fully napapag-usapan ng boyfriend ko ang lahat pero nasa isip ko iwanan parents ko dito ng kasambahay na tagadito lang din samin baka nga kapitbahay lang namin ang kunin namin if ever.

It'e between staying here with my growing old parents but I'm growing old too and needs to experience life na rin outside of this house at putulin na rin ang mag 4 years na naming ldr ng boyfriend ko. Nagkita na kami ng boyfriend ko 3 times na siya pumupunta dito sakin sa Samar para makita at makasama ako. Di nya kaya yung siya yung tumira dito sakin/samin kasi maayos at matagal na rin naman siya sa work nya so it's me lang talaga and all of my issues.

Problem/Goal: Hi, everyone. Six months na kaming break ng ex ko, and I honestly thought na by this time, medyo okay na ako. Recently, nakikita ko yung mga TikTok posts niya kung saan-saan siya pumupunta. Mukhang nag-e-enjoy siya sa life niya, going to different places, and sometimes it even looks like he might be dating someone new. Hindi ko naman alam kung may bago na talaga siya, pero just seeing those things already hurts. Wala naman akong karapatang pigilan siya or diktahan kung paano niya gustong mabuhay. Pero kahit alam ko lahat ng iyon, hindi ko pa rin maiwasang masaktan. Sometimes, I wonder kung bakit parang ang dali niyang mag-enjoy at magpatuloy sa buhay niya habang ako, may mga araw pa ring nahihirapan. Siguro masakit lang tanggapin na someone who used to be such a big part of your life can eventually become someone you only watch from a distance.

For those who have experienced something similar, how did you deal with this feeling? Does it really get better with time, or do I need to do something different to finally move forward? Should I stop checking his social media completely, even if a part of me still wants to know how he's doing?

Problem/Goal: a friend of mine told me that one of our friends hasn't gotten their period in 3 months and refuses to take a test because they're in denial.

Context: habang tumatambay one of our friends seemed to be restless and agitated, di namin pinansin kasi parang ayaw niyang makipagusap at first. out of nowhere bigla niyan sinabi na may kwento siya na gusto niyang sabihin pero di niya masabi kasi di daw appropriate, so eto curious na kaming lahat kasi unprompted niya sinabi yun, we all thought mag jojoke lang siya ng malaswa kasi known siya na magkwento ng ganyan haha so ayun tawa tawa kami while sinasabihan namin siya na go na kwento lang. then suddenly parang nag change yung atmosphere at yun na nga.

one of our friends has been hiding the fact na di pa siya nadadatnan for 3 months and they're refusing to acknowledge it kasi they're hoping na wala lang yun kasi pre-cum lang daw yun.

we were all shocked because we were not expecting that at all, we pushed her for more details.

the guy isn't doing anything about it kasi ayaw ng girl, they're also not talking about it as a couple. they've done nothing. no yuzpe, no ginger tea, no nothing. just holding out as long as possible.

after our friend told us that we immediately started hatching a plan to make her take a test to finally confirm if she's pregnant or not. because 3 months is a long time to not do anything and we want to do something even if they dont want to.

but the thing is they dont know that we know, how do we approach this topic?

any tips on how to bring it up and comfort our friend? any advice would help 🙏

Previous Attempts: our friend that knew has been trying to force them to buy a pt, but nothing has come to it.

UPDATE: thank you for all your words of wisdom, i appreciate being able to vent.

for the people wondering, we were finally able to make her take multiple tests. NEGATIVE LAHAT thank you lord. we have heavily reprimanded them, i know that's all for nothing because they will do it again 🙄 anyway thanks and god bless everyone. KEEP SAFE

Problem/Goal: Sobrang nag s-struggle ako sa thoughts ko ngayon na pigilan na makipag usap uli sa ex ko.

Context: My ex (27M) and I (27F) broke up after being in a relationship for four years. One week pa lang since our breakup, and naging kalmado naman talaga yung conversation namin about it. Malinaw naman sa akin kung bakit kailangan na naming maghiwalay since hindi na talaga kami nakakatulong sa isa’t isa.

Pero taena, grabe yung suffering ko after just one week. Hindi ako makakain, hindi ako makatulog, at nasusuka ako. We also lived together for three years, so now that I’m living alone again, pakiramdam ko mababaliw na talaga ako. Sobrang nasanay na ako sa presensya niya.

I badly want to reach out to him and ask if we can just get back together and try to fix everything. Hindi ko na kasi kinakaya yung nararamdaman ko.

Previous attempts: Blocked naman na siya sa lahat ng socials ko. Kaso di parin enough huhu.

Please, realtalk-in niyo ako. Sobrang nakakasuka (literal) yung feeling na nag lalaban yung utak mo na wag na, while yung puso mo niroromanticize parin yung memories niyo. Please, ayoko naaaaaa

Problem/Goal: I can’t get into a long term relationship. Whenever I find a connection with someone, it only last about a month or so. It’s always sex after the first date, pure excitement, and then they become distant, and then I’m alone again.

Context: I’m working both as a commercial actor and a corporate worker. There, I meet a lot of people. I started to notice patterns in how this things work. They’d show up very interested, full of energy, I’d take them out on a date, we’d start making out in private, we’d go to my place or theirs, have sex, then it’ll last about a month or so, then they disappear.

I have friends, I’m very hygienic. I am often told that I’m a reserved person. I’m not nonchalant, I actually like surprising my ex partners with gifts, handmade crafts, cooking for them, acts of service and all that jazz.

Honestly, I just want to pour all this love I have to this one person, but at this rate, I’m scared of falling in love again and lose them after a month.

I’m tired, and I feel like I can never have a proper relationship.

It’s not that they ghosted me or anything, we talked about why they don’t see themselves in a relationship. What they say in common is that, they realize they’re either not yet ready to have a serious relationship, or they can’t reciprocate my love and it would feel unfair to them, and they’d feel bad.

I’m not even asking for much in a relationship, I’m okay with bare minimum, even let me do all the hardworking while you just stay by my side as my princess.

My dream is to be the best husband a wife can ever ask for. I love serving my partner, it makes me feel like the happiest person when I am.

Previous attempts:

I tried not having sex in the first month, but I’m scared that if I do, I lose them right away. I notice that most of the women I end up dating have avoidant attachment style, or at least that’s what Tiktok thinks.

I also tried to prolong the talking stage, but they end up getting bored or think that I’m talking to a lot of women or that I’m just playing around, and not taking them seriously. So it doesn’t last long or the pattern just repeats itself.

Problem/Goal: I recently graduated from college. and my parents wanted to give me one last grand gift before I go out there. I found a really good paying job in Manila as a fresh grad (non licensed) engineer. Im from Cavite and work is near SM Manila

Context: Here is the deal, I'd choose between these 2

1. they will buy me a motorcycle worth 200k and they dgaf after that
2. They will rent a 1 bedroom, kitchen, cr apartment na solo ko for 6 months

The thing is i am planning to pagsabay yung study ko sa boards while working. The reason I also chose this job is because it is a really well known company and i know that my growth and the knowledge id gain here is top tier. I also plan to leave the country after 3 years once my career is stable and nakapagipon na.

if motor, i can go places. and uwian ako sa bahay which i dont have to pay for any bills. downside is id have to sacrifice 2 hrs every day to get back home through and forth.

if place, i can rest immediately and study. however 6 months lang to. whether i fail or pass, 6 months would be the limit. food, water, electricity, wifi would be on me.

my review will be purely online lang naman. 3hrs MWF. 2 days off ko sa work so im planning to watch the 3hrs once im home, and then dedicate 1 dayoff on studying it all. (im fairly smart)

My plan is to get the motor, then after 3 months id get my own place. what do you guys think?

and since im here, id also like to ask na, are these percentages good sa magiging salary ko

gas 5%
MP2 10%
emergency savings 15%
bank reserve 30%
fun 10%
needs 10%
investment/trading 10%
allowance for my sis 5%

Problem/Goal:

I'm experiencing itchiness and a burning sensation inside my vagina after sex. It seems to happen whenever we use condoms and lubricant, but when we tried having sex without a condom, I didn't experience the same irritation afterward. I'm wondering if I could be allergic or sensitive to latex or the lubricant, or if it could be a UTI or another vaginal infection. Minsan, nilalagnat din ako kapag nararamdaman ko yung symptoms, kaya nag-aalala na rin ako. I'm also scared to go to the doctor, but I want to understand what's happening and what I should do.

Context:

I'm F(28), and my boyfriend is 30. We're both in our first relationship, childhood best friends turned lovers lol.

It started last month when we had sex for the first time. We used condoms and lubricant for the first time, and we made sure to clean ourselves before and after. I also peed before and after sex.

The day after, I started experiencing itchiness and a burning sensation inside my vagina. It happened again after we had sex another time, so we decided to take a break. Eventually, we tried having sex without a condom, and I didn't experience the same irritation. However, when we tried again with a condom and lubricant, the itching and burning came back.

I also have a history of UTI, although the last time I got checked for it was when I was around 20 years old. My boyfriend is worried about me, too, and he suggested that we stop having sex until I get checked by a doctor.

Previous Attempts:

We showered and cleaned ourselves before and after sex. I peed before and after sex. We used condoms and lubricant, but the symptoms came back afterward. We tried having sex without a condom, and I didn't experience the same irritation. We took a break from sex when the symptoms first appeared.

I haven't consulted a doctor yet because I'm honestly scared and anxious about getting checked, especially since it's been years since my last checkup.

I'd really appreciate hearing from anyone who has experienced something similar. Possible bang allergy or sensitivity sa latex or lubricant ito, or could it be a UTI or another vaginal infection? What should I do, and how can I overcome my fear of getting checked by a doctor?

Thank you so much for any advice or insights! ❤️

('wag na po sana kayo magcomment here kapag wala kayong magandang sasabihin. thanks!)

Problem/Goal:

Palagi ko po syang nahuhuling nagloloko, sobrang daming beses na at ang pinakamalala ay yung nakipagsex sya sa kawork nya habang buntis ako tapos sinapak nya ko kasi nagalit ako. Reason nya: nasaktan sya sa mga sinabi ko. Cheating and physical abuse continued to happen until late 2025. I really need to get out

Context:

Hi! Kailangan ko (27F) po ng lakas ng loob at support. I have been with this man (30M) for 6 years already and we have 2 children. 4YO and 2MO. It hurts so much na I am running to strangers for this pero wala talaga akong ibang malalapitan.

Previous Attempts:

I did try leaving na noong 2025 but our son got sick and eventually needed help from him kasi I can't do it on my own dahil dependent ako sa kanya sa housing, finance, and child care. Kaya nagkabalikan kami.

few months after namin magkabalikan, I caught him inquiring sa mga girls for hire and binugbog nya na naman ako kasi I confronted him when I saw that.

Nagkabrgyan na kami, unfortunately, it is in his hometown and the brgy officials are his relatives kaya pinagsulat lng nila ako sa notebook and then wala na nangyari :((

I tried to leave again and went back home to my grandparents (wala na po akong parents, estranged and both have different fams) but they just kept pressuring me kailangan ako makakahanap ng place to move to kasi hindi raw kami kasya sa bahay. 💔 I had no choice but to go back again kasi iyak ng iyak yung 4YO dahil laging pinapagalitan. :((

I got pregnant again.. and now im 2MO PP, nahuli ko na naman sya looking for "companion" and eventually met that girl. I just thought nagbago na sya :((

Alam kong tanga tanga ako to keep coming back. I dont have anyone else to turn back to and I cant afford to go and rent on my own kasi hindi enough sahod ko and childcare pa. I know im so stupid dinagdagan ko pa.

Natatauhan na ako dahil kahit hindi kami nagaaway sa harap ng mga bata, palagi akong nahuhuli ng anak ko na umiiyak and he will cry too kahit hindi nya alam why.

Wala akong pera ngayon kasi naka maternity leave pa ako and pabalik pa lang ako in 2 months.

Please please im sorry alam kong tanga ako. alam kong ginawa ko to sa sarili ko. but i need help kung paano ko didiskartehan makaalis at mapanindigan ito. I have no money and I am still healing from the emergency cs. Paano ko kakayanin to magisa? I am on the verge of killing myself pero kinakapitan ko nalang ang mga anak ko. I dont want them to grow up with a miserable mom.

problem/goal:

hello po, student here and i need advice if may kailangan ba akong gawin or what?

i am a college graduating student sa isang tesda training center and we have a 6000+ graduation fee (total po siya ng mga diff packages such as credentials, pictures and per head since sa isang event venue gaganapin)

context:

but due to financial problem po, hindi ko po kayang bayaran yung 6k even tho may mga palugid sila like half payment (hirap hingian ng parents ko and wala akong mapasukan na extra since 8am to 5pm po yung pasok namin monday to saturday)

action:

kahapon, kinausap ko po yung acting president ng school namin and i tell her na hindi ako makakapunta and ang sagot po niya is, "magbabayad ka pa rin" meaning even tho hindi ako aattend, need ko pa rin magbayad ng full payment.

tas hinabol ko po na bayaran ko na lang yung credentials since may allocated package inclusion sila ron na even tho yun lang babayaran ko, hindi ako malulugi— kaso hindi raw pwede, dapat full payment, aattend man or hindi.

feel ko sobrang unfair nung ganon so i need ur opinion and insights about this matter lalo na sa mga legal advisers. mali ba yung ganto or ganon po talaga sa college?

Problem/Goal: What do you do when the only person you want to spend your life with is the person you can no longer be with?

Context: I've been wanting to share this because it's been bothering me lately, and I think I need some advice from people who might understand what I'm going through.

My friends have been encouraging me to talk to other guys or meet someone new, and I've tried. I've chatted with a few people, but I always end up losing interest. It's not that there's anything wrong with them. I just don't feel interested in getting to know anyone else.

The truth is, I was with someone I genuinely thought I would spend the rest of my life with. He was the person I imagined growing old with, staying beside until our hair turned white, and being with until our last breath. I had so many things I wanted to experience in life, and whenever I thought about doing those things, he was always the person I imagined doing them with.

Even now, when I think about the things I want to do, he's still the person I want beside me. He's the person I want to share those experiences with. I don't find myself imagining those moments with anyone else.

And honestly, if it can't be him, I'd rather be alone. I'd rather spend the rest of my life on my own than try to find someone else just for the sake of having someone. I don't want to force myself to entertain other people when, deep down, he's still the person I want.

Writing this makes me cry because I know how much I'm still hurting. I don't know if this is just because I'm still healing or if a part of me will always feel this way. I just know that I can't imagine wanting someone else the way I want him.

For those who have experienced something similar, how did you deal with this? Did you eventually reach a point where you wanted to open your heart to someone else, or did you learn to be content with being alone?

I don't want to force myself to move on just because other people think I should be ready. But at the same time, I wonder how I'm supposed to move forward when the future I wanted is still the future I want, and he's still the person I want to share it with.

I'd really appreciate hearing your thoughts and experiences.

Problem/Goal: I'm currently 19 years old, and this all started when I was around 12. Back then, pinapatulog ako sa bahay ng lola ko every single night. Doon, araw-araw akong binabangungot. As in every single day, walang sablay.

Ganto lagi yung scenario:
• Mananaginip ako ng demonyong nagagalit sa akin kapag binabanggit ko si Lord.
• Magigising ako at EXACTLY 3:00 AM, 3:30 AM, or 3:33 AM.
When I say exact, I mean EXACT.
• Umalis lang ako sa bahay ng lola ko after a few years nung lumala na talaga. The breaking point was when I woke up and naramdaman at nakita ko mismo na may bumubuhat sa akin, a shadowy male figure (lalaking itim) lifting me up while I was lying down. I don't remember what happened right after, but l vividly remember na alas-tres din yun nangyari.

Fast forward to now: I'm 19 and nakalipat na kami ng tinitirhan. Akala ko matatapos na kasi nakaalis na ako sa lola ko, pero mag-iisang taon na ako rito sa bagong bahay and ganun pa rin. Binabangungot pa rin ako at nagigising sa madaling araw.
What's worse now is nagigising ako sa pakiramdam na:
May sumasakal sa akin
May nakadagan / kinakapos ng hininga
Kagabi malala ulit-nagising ako na hindi talaga makahinga and feeling ko napapanood ko sarili ko habang natutulog.
Sinubukan ko na magpatawas before and ang sabi lang
"namatanda" raw ako, pero wala namang nagbago after. I also pray every day before sleeping. Wala rin akong tinatake na kahit anong gamot or medications. I'm really exhausted and scared. Has anyone experienced something like this? Is this purely medical/sleep paralysis, or something spiritual?
What steps should I take next? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

Problem/Goal: Find a shop to print photos for my custom locket.

Context: Wife passed away and I have her engagement and wedding rings. Naisip ko ipatunaw and gawing locket kung saan din namin pinagawa yung rings. Syempre, di kasama yung pagprint ng photo since hindi naman nila forte yun.

Previous attempts:
1. Nagtry ako magpaprint sa random printing shop then sakin galing yung photo paper and sila ang nagedit ng photo. Di maganda yung quality.
2. Nagtanong tanong ako sa mga photo studio/printing sa malls pero gusto nila ako ang magreresize ng photo since custom size sya. I tried pero ang low quality kapag ineexport ko na kahit high quality yung photo.

problem/goal: I’m someone who isn’t aiming for the “high-paying job” life, i just need enough for daily life and some savings.

context:
I’m not maluho, I’m okay with a lifestyle na once a year gumala. Kahit matcha or other drinks na 100+ pesos nga isang beses ko lang natry, and i’m okay with it. My clothes are mostly from 7 years ago pa and di pa ko nakakabili ng bago.

its been 10 months since i took a break from school and im still unsure kung ano talaga kukunin ko, i think i need an “adult” to guide me (my parents arent exactly updated sa mga ganto)

context ab me: im good at memorization, i have a curious mind, and basically i have more of a “humss” brain i find science fun though (when numbers arent involved). we aren’t rich, kaya i can’t freely choose, but im not pressured to be the “breadwinner”. in short stable life lang talaga gusto ko.

im considering BS psych and then take the corporate/HR path, but im open to suggestions.

prev attempts: i enrolled in computer engineering and realized its not worth it and its not for me

edit: im not planning to stay in one path naman po, i plan to be flexible bale yung degree or yung main career is like the main credential ko lang but i plan to have other skills/credentials or certifications

Problem/Goal: I have a girlfriend that's too friendly with anyone and I get easily jealous.

Context:

When we had our first times, we spent all our time together. But then, suddenly changed, I saw a pictures of her and her partner they got from a photobooth, They are both in the same dance troupe.

That's when I got jealous for the first time and became an overthinking guy.

Lately, she also had a male bestfriend, which she met just last July. The guy had already got his own family and he's the one giving sympathy to my girlfriend. But, I think my girlfriend did wrong is, she is accepting that. She also told her bestfriend who was I am upset in their COF.

She's always friendly with anyone to the point that even tho I am with her, she let other man touches her hair and head. Am I just being sensitive or overthinking?

Previous attempts:

I did told her about these, but she answered, I am the one that is upset with them why not the one to confront them.

I also did asked her if she was just being pushed to stay away from them, but it takes time to her to answer.

Please kindly give me some advice.

Problem/Goal: I need inputs on getting a condo unit.
Context: I earn 120k monthly and would like to get a condo unit around Alabang or Santa Rosa area. I was originally planning to do rent to own but I saw posts na hindi daw advisable. I have limited funds for upfront cash payment kaya hindi ko afford yung outright purchase. What other options do I have apart from saving money for an outright purchase. Please be kind as I really have 0 knowledge in this matter.

Problem/goal: parang cycle ko to, minsan okay ako minsan hindi but these past few days na naman ata im not sure. feel ko parang super tamad kong tao like wala akong gana sa lahat ng bagay to the point na tinatamad ako pumasok sa school huhu

context: 3rd yr college student ako na nag aaral sa hometown ko so nakatira parin ako sa house ng parents ko, ever since 1st yr ako hindi ko talaga makuha yung peace at tamang pahinga sa buhay ko, like lagi akong nagpupuyat kasi feel ko parang madaling araw na lang yung "ME TIME" ko plus tahimik. but kinabukasan ayan laban ulit and dagdag na rin yung problems ko financially like i cant even thought about dating someone sa kalagayan ng life ko rn :((

previous attempts: ive tried naman side hustling to help ease my mind pero di rin tumagal and rn incoming 4th yr na ako, gusto ko sana pagka graduate ko maghanap agad ng job so that i can make my own money na ayaw ko na maging tambay sa bahay

any advice what to do? pls be genuine

Problem/Goal:

Hi,

Im 29M and may ka relationship na 28F and 3yrs na rin kami and planning to settle na kami by next year and ang kaso si gf nasakanya yung lola na whichs is bed ridden na and tatlo nyang nakababatang kapatid which is siya na rin ang nagpoprovide sakanila at nagpapaaral at medicine ni lola nya since yung parents niya is hindi na sla naalalayan and hindi na nag poprovide sa mga batang kapatid niya kahit baon simulat sapul walang binibigay.

Medyo na cuculture shock lang ako since hindi ako since hindi ako sanay na may ganung parents pala madalas pag pumupunta ako sa nirerentahan ni partner ako na nag aasikaso sakanila wala naman sakin yun and nasanay na rin ako ang hindi ko lang din ma isip nung sinabi ng partner ko na isasama parin nla sla pag nag sama na kami next year. By the way may 8 years pa para makapag tapos yubg mga bata nyang kapatid. Wala naman din sakin ang problem lang minsan namomoblema na si partner na sya na lang ang nag poprovide and galit sya sa parents nya ni sinko walang inaabot.

Nag hehelpt na rin ako katulad ng mga foods and etc.

Any tips guys ang pwedeng gawin since naka sandal na rin talaga sa partner ko yung mga kapatid nya.

Thanks!

Problem/Goal:

Problem: May nakuha kaming dalawang all-around kasambahay kaso problematic at pasaway sila pareho habang nasa 15-day probationary period.

Goal: Gusto ko malaman kung dapat ko pa ba bigyan ng chance o i-cut na ang losses namin. I also want to know what we're doing wrong here.

Context:

Growing up, we had a revolving door of relatives that would come and live with us for free lodgings or mga pinsan ko na "aampunin" ng Mom ko para pag aralin so they can have a better future. Dahil kami kami lang sa bahay, binibigyan na lang sila ni Mama ng allowance dahil sila din naman ang nakilos sa bahay. In the end, we decided to cut (most of) them off kasi mga abusado and walang respeto na. 3 na lang kami sa bahay. Mom, myself, and my uncle (Mom's BIL) who's basically an all-around house boy/gardener/etc.

To lessen his workload, napag desisyunan namin na mag hire na lang ng 2 kasambahay na stay-in, para din laging may kasama si Mama (she has a lot of chronic health issues) sa bahay in case may lakad ako.

• Helper A: Masipag at malinis sa bahay pero may pagkaintrimitida (sumasabat sa usapan ng mga bisita ni Mama). Ang pinakamalaking red flag ay ang sunod-sunod na bale (mahigit ₱3,500+ sa loob ng wala pang isang linggo) dahil sa iba't ibang emergency sa pamilya. After 3 days of working, hiningi agad yung sahod niya kasi wala na daw silang pang bili ng bigas. Pinagbigyan namin kasi baka kailangang kailangan nila. Kinabukasan, bumale na naman ng 500 kasi nakagat daw ng aso ang mama niya kailangan daw magpa injection. Nung sunod na bukas naman, nadulas daw sa cr ang mama niya. Na stroke at nabagok kaya 50/50 na daw dahil may previous episode of stroke na nung Sept. Bumale ulit ng 3k kasi may kailangan daw bilihin na gamot. A few days after, pina tanggal na nila sa life support kasi tinapat na sila ng Doctor na mababa na daw ang chance.

Dahil sa lamay, umaalis siya gabi-gabi at bumabalik kinaumagahan. Kanina, nag sabi siya sa akin na sisilipin lang daw niya saglit ang anak niya (13 y/o) dahil natatakot daw kasi mag isa na lang sa bahay. Sabi pa niya ay magpapaalam siya kay Mama. Ang ending, hindi nag paalam kaya ako pa ang nag sabi kay Mama na umalis siya. Tapos maya maya ay nag chat sa akin na bukas ng umaga na lang daw siya babalik.

• Helper B: Si Helper A ang nagpasok sa kanya. Napapansin namin na kailangan pa siyang i guide o utusan ni A. Walang sariling kusa sa trabaho at hindi marunong magluto (sinunog ang fishball, nagpiprito sa malamig na mantika). May severe health issue rin siya na hindi nabanggit sa interview. Mataas ang sugar at nag-iinsulin na dati pero itinigil niya dahil nanghihina raw siya, at ayaw uminom ng Metformin dahil sa maling akala na nakakasira daw 'yon ng kidney. May time na nahilo at nanghina siya sa trabaho kaya si Helper A ay pinapag pahinga na lang at siya ang sumasalo ng mga gawain.

Previous Attempts:

Pinagbigyan at pina bale namin si Helper A dahil inisip namin na kailangan talaga nila ng pera at okay lang muna kahit hindi nasusunod ang pagiging stay-in niya out of consideration sa pagkamatay ng Mama niya. Kaso ay baka mamihasa naman na ganitong magdadahilan para lumabas ng gabi tapos babanatan ako sa chat ng excuses para bukas na lang bumalik. Kay B naman, wala namang issue yung choice ni A na pag pahingahin siya at akuin ang trabaho, kaso lang ay hindi feasible in the long run ang ganitong set up at dahil nga hindi managed properly ang sugar niya ay baka kung ano pa ang mangyari sa kanya dito.

Si B ay nag day off kanina. Parang ayaw na namin pabalikin. Ito namang si A ang problema dahil nga over pa sa bale. Kaso kung ganito lang din naman lagi ay iniisip ko kung i let go na namin at hayaan na ang bale niya.

Ano ba ang magandang gawin sa mga 'to? Are we being unreasonable especially with Helper A? Please let me know your advices/opinions.

Problem/Goal: I'm politely asking po if paano yung process nung replacement para sa lost TNT sim na prepaid? I admit na nawala ko sya due to my carelessness pero I'm quite worried kasi naka connect yung sim number ko na yon sa halos lahat ng accounts ko and even sa g cash. I already did my research regarding the process pero I want some answers na naka based sa experiences.

Note: I'm a minor po so please enlighten me if may iba pa pong requirements na need pag minor.

Thank you po sa mga sasagot^^!

Problem/Goal: Di ako makaalis sa relasyon na toxic na dahil aa utang

Context: Bago ako grumaduate may 3h-6h akong di ko nabayaran sa shopee at lazada ko nun pero bayad na yun that yr din. 2023, don nagsimula na hindi na ako maapprove sa iba. kaya naging dependent ako sa lip ko, sa lahat ng pay later. kaya kahit sobrang toxic namin, di ako makaalis kasi ayaw nya ako paalisin gat di nababayaran utang ko. which is di ko naman kaya bayaran talaga ng buo. pero may work naman ako kaso sobrang hirap pag sunod sunod yung due tapos monthly sahod ko tas may plus 15 days pa bago makuha sahod talagang no choice kundi maipon, tapal tapal. ano ba magandang gawin? :((((

previous attempt: none

Problem/Goal: Hindi ko alam paano mag rereact to what just had happen to us.

I’m M21 first time witnessing my mom bursting out of anger. Nahuli kasi ng nanay ko yung father ko doing something immoral (cheating issues). Ngayon lang sila nag-away sa harap namin dahil may isip naman na raw kami at alam na namin ang tama at mali. Turns out my father has recurring issue of cheating bata pa lang kami. Madalas nilang lag-awayan ‘yun pero hindi na pinapakita saamin.

nakakawindang witnessing it kasi hindi ko alam how to react. Hindi kami confrontational family at tahimik lang din akong anak. Habang sumisigaw nanay ko, alll in my mind was like: Why i am so nonchalant about this? I don’t know how to handle the situation. I feel like may responsibilidad ako to do something pero hindi ko alam kung ano.

Problem/Goal: I have been applying online for almost 4 months, but I still have not received any replies.

Context: Hi! 25F, I consider myself far from being tenured in VA industry but I am not a complete beginner. Tingin ko ang problema ng CV ko is nakalagay pa rin yung non-VA experience ko sa "Additional Experience". Grabe kase, wala ako as in natanggap na replies sa OLJ for the past 4 months. Mali ko, pero di ko alam bat nilalagay ko. Ang niche ko ay data scraping and data entry, lead generation, moderate to little experience in email outreach, and social media management through post scheduling.

Previous Attempts: Ittry ko ulit irevise yung CV ko but this time aalisin ko na yung non-VA experiences ko. Gusto ko lang sana malaman anong usually format niyo sa CV niyo (lalo na sa mga may same niche)? Also, if okay lang, pwede bang makita kung paano ayos ng portfolio niyo po? Just so I could have some basis. Maraming salamat!

problem/goal: ano pwedeng maging reason para makipag break? religion? ldr?

context: dating for almost 5 years, and nagsawa nalang din ako every time na may pinag aawayan kami and na realized ko lang na hindi ko kayang maging asawa to in the future lol minsan naisip ko na magtrabaho nalang ako sa malayo, yung di ako kayang puntahan para lang mawalan ako ng time sakanya. kaso ayaw ko naman mahiwalay sa pamilya ko

previous attempts: sinubukan ko naman makipaghiwalay pero ayaw niya e. hirap kumawala