problem/goal: ano pwedeng maging reason para makipag break? religion? ldr?

context: dating for almost 5 years, and nagsawa nalang din ako every time na may pinag aawayan kami and na realized ko lang na hindi ko kayang maging asawa to in the future lol minsan naisip ko na magtrabaho nalang ako sa malayo, yung di ako kayang puntahan para lang mawalan ako ng time sakanya. kaso ayaw ko naman mahiwalay sa pamilya ko

previous attempts: sinubukan ko naman makipaghiwalay pero ayaw niya e. hirap kumawala

Problem/goal: parang cycle ko to, minsan okay ako minsan hindi but these past few days na naman ata im not sure. feel ko parang super tamad kong tao like wala akong gana sa lahat ng bagay to the point na tinatamad ako pumasok sa school huhu

context: 3rd yr college student ako na nag aaral sa hometown ko so nakatira parin ako sa house ng parents ko, ever since 1st yr ako hindi ko talaga makuha yung peace at tamang pahinga sa buhay ko, like lagi akong nagpupuyat kasi feel ko parang madaling araw na lang yung "ME TIME" ko plus tahimik. but kinabukasan ayan laban ulit and dagdag na rin yung problems ko financially like i cant even thought about dating someone sa kalagayan ng life ko rn :((

previous attempts: ive tried naman side hustling to help ease my mind pero di rin tumagal and rn incoming 4th yr na ako, gusto ko sana pagka graduate ko maghanap agad ng job so that i can make my own money na ayaw ko na maging tambay sa bahay

any advice what to do? pls be genuine

Problem/Goal: Find a shop to print photos for my custom locket.

Context: Wife passed away and I have her engagement and wedding rings. Naisip ko ipatunaw and gawing locket kung saan din namin pinagawa yung rings. Syempre, di kasama yung pagprint ng photo since hindi naman nila forte yun.

Previous attempts:
1. Nagtry ako magpaprint sa random printing shop then sakin galing yung photo paper and sila ang nagedit ng photo. Di maganda yung quality.
2. Nagtanong tanong ako sa mga photo studio/printing sa malls pero gusto nila ako ang magreresize ng photo since custom size sya. I tried pero ang low quality kapag ineexport ko na kahit high quality yung photo.

Problem/Goal:

Hi,

Im 29M and may ka relationship na 28F and 3yrs na rin kami and planning to settle na kami by next year and ang kaso si gf nasakanya yung lola na whichs is bed ridden na and tatlo nyang nakababatang kapatid which is siya na rin ang nagpoprovide sakanila at nagpapaaral at medicine ni lola nya since yung parents niya is hindi na sla naalalayan and hindi na nag poprovide sa mga batang kapatid niya kahit baon simulat sapul walang binibigay.

Medyo na cuculture shock lang ako since hindi ako since hindi ako sanay na may ganung parents pala madalas pag pumupunta ako sa nirerentahan ni partner ako na nag aasikaso sakanila wala naman sakin yun and nasanay na rin ako ang hindi ko lang din ma isip nung sinabi ng partner ko na isasama parin nla sla pag nag sama na kami next year. By the way may 8 years pa para makapag tapos yubg mga bata nyang kapatid. Wala naman din sakin ang problem lang minsan namomoblema na si partner na sya na lang ang nag poprovide and galit sya sa parents nya ni sinko walang inaabot.

Nag hehelpt na rin ako katulad ng mga foods and etc.

Any tips guys ang pwedeng gawin since naka sandal na rin talaga sa partner ko yung mga kapatid nya.

Thanks!

Problem/Goal:

I'm experiencing itchiness and a burning sensation inside my vagina after sex. It seems to happen whenever we use condoms and lubricant, but when we tried having sex without a condom, I didn't experience the same irritation afterward. I'm wondering if I could be allergic or sensitive to latex or the lubricant, or if it could be a UTI or another vaginal infection. Minsan, nilalagnat din ako kapag nararamdaman ko yung symptoms, kaya nag-aalala na rin ako. I'm also scared to go to the doctor, but I want to understand what's happening and what I should do.

Context:

I'm F(28), and my boyfriend is 30. We're both in our first relationship, childhood best friends turned lovers lol.

It started last month when we had sex for the first time. We used condoms and lubricant for the first time, and we made sure to clean ourselves before and after. I also peed before and after sex.

The day after, I started experiencing itchiness and a burning sensation inside my vagina. It happened again after we had sex another time, so we decided to take a break. Eventually, we tried having sex without a condom, and I didn't experience the same irritation. However, when we tried again with a condom and lubricant, the itching and burning came back.

I also have a history of UTI, although the last time I got checked for it was when I was around 20 years old. My boyfriend is worried about me, too, and he suggested that we stop having sex until I get checked by a doctor.

Previous Attempts:

We showered and cleaned ourselves before and after sex. I peed before and after sex. We used condoms and lubricant, but the symptoms came back afterward. We tried having sex without a condom, and I didn't experience the same irritation. We took a break from sex when the symptoms first appeared.

I haven't consulted a doctor yet because I'm honestly scared and anxious about getting checked, especially since it's been years since my last checkup.

I'd really appreciate hearing from anyone who has experienced something similar. Possible bang allergy or sensitivity sa latex or lubricant ito, or could it be a UTI or another vaginal infection? What should I do, and how can I overcome my fear of getting checked by a doctor?

Thank you so much for any advice or insights! ❤️

('wag na po sana kayo magcomment here kapag wala kayong magandang sasabihin. thanks!)

Problem/Goal: LCD broken and needs fix. Nadrop ko po kasi tong phone (Oppo A78 5G) ko and dead pixels daw from my research. And lumalaki na siya almost every hour, Im scared na mas lala pa siya and masira na completely ung lcd ng phone. Im college and almost lifeblood ko tong phone ko. Are there any affordable repair shops na marerecomend kau? And if so ano po typical price point ng lcd and service?

Problem/Goal:
Meron ba dito na nasa relasyon or naexperience na hindi romantic yung lovelife niya? Like tinry lang kasi magkajowa and now youre like stuck? Di talaga ito inexpect ko na maging lovestory. I want that classmate/schoolmate type of love but I ended up with a guy who likes me pero ibang university and now I am already a graduate. Di ko na maexperience yon hahaha btw 1st boyfriend ko ito. I mean I can experience pa rin naman na naging schoolmate maging bf if may makausap pa ako sakanila in the future… pero ackkk haha introvert kasi ako so di talaga keri lumandi and napunta nalang sa guy na may gusto sakin

Problem/Goal:

Problem: May nakuha kaming dalawang all-around kasambahay kaso problematic at pasaway sila pareho habang nasa 15-day probationary period.

Goal: Gusto ko malaman kung dapat ko pa ba bigyan ng chance o i-cut na ang losses namin. I also want to know what we're doing wrong here.

Context:

Growing up, we had a revolving door of relatives that would come and live with us for free lodgings or mga pinsan ko na "aampunin" ng Mom ko para pag aralin so they can have a better future. Dahil kami kami lang sa bahay, binibigyan na lang sila ni Mama ng allowance dahil sila din naman ang nakilos sa bahay. In the end, we decided to cut (most of) them off kasi mga abusado and walang respeto na. 3 na lang kami sa bahay. Mom, myself, and my uncle (Mom's BIL) who's basically an all-around house boy/gardener/etc.

To lessen his workload, napag desisyunan namin na mag hire na lang ng 2 kasambahay na stay-in, para din laging may kasama si Mama (she has a lot of chronic health issues) sa bahay in case may lakad ako.

• Helper A: Masipag at malinis sa bahay pero may pagkaintrimitida (sumasabat sa usapan ng mga bisita ni Mama). Ang pinakamalaking red flag ay ang sunod-sunod na bale (mahigit ₱3,500+ sa loob ng wala pang isang linggo) dahil sa iba't ibang emergency sa pamilya. After 3 days of working, hiningi agad yung sahod niya kasi wala na daw silang pang bili ng bigas. Pinagbigyan namin kasi baka kailangang kailangan nila. Kinabukasan, bumale na naman ng 500 kasi nakagat daw ng aso ang mama niya kailangan daw magpa injection. Nung sunod na bukas naman, nadulas daw sa cr ang mama niya. Na stroke at nabagok kaya 50/50 na daw dahil may previous episode of stroke na nung Sept. Bumale ulit ng 3k kasi may kailangan daw bilihin na gamot. A few days after, pina tanggal na nila sa life support kasi tinapat na sila ng Doctor na mababa na daw ang chance.

Dahil sa lamay, umaalis siya gabi-gabi at bumabalik kinaumagahan. Kanina, nag sabi siya sa akin na sisilipin lang daw niya saglit ang anak niya (13 y/o) dahil natatakot daw kasi mag isa na lang sa bahay. Sabi pa niya ay magpapaalam siya kay Mama. Ang ending, hindi nag paalam kaya ako pa ang nag sabi kay Mama na umalis siya. Tapos maya maya ay nag chat sa akin na bukas ng umaga na lang daw siya babalik.

• Helper B: Si Helper A ang nagpasok sa kanya. Napapansin namin na kailangan pa siyang i guide o utusan ni A. Walang sariling kusa sa trabaho at hindi marunong magluto (sinunog ang fishball, nagpiprito sa malamig na mantika). May severe health issue rin siya na hindi nabanggit sa interview. Mataas ang sugar at nag-iinsulin na dati pero itinigil niya dahil nanghihina raw siya, at ayaw uminom ng Metformin dahil sa maling akala na nakakasira daw 'yon ng kidney. May time na nahilo at nanghina siya sa trabaho kaya si Helper A ay pinapag pahinga na lang at siya ang sumasalo ng mga gawain.

Previous Attempts:

Pinagbigyan at pina bale namin si Helper A dahil inisip namin na kailangan talaga nila ng pera at okay lang muna kahit hindi nasusunod ang pagiging stay-in niya out of consideration sa pagkamatay ng Mama niya. Kaso ay baka mamihasa naman na ganitong magdadahilan para lumabas ng gabi tapos babanatan ako sa chat ng excuses para bukas na lang bumalik. Kay B naman, wala namang issue yung choice ni A na pag pahingahin siya at akuin ang trabaho, kaso lang ay hindi feasible in the long run ang ganitong set up at dahil nga hindi managed properly ang sugar niya ay baka kung ano pa ang mangyari sa kanya dito.

Si B ay nag day off kanina. Parang ayaw na namin pabalikin. Ito namang si A ang problema dahil nga over pa sa bale. Kaso kung ganito lang din naman lagi ay iniisip ko kung i let go na namin at hayaan na ang bale niya.

Ano ba ang magandang gawin sa mga 'to? Are we being unreasonable especially with Helper A? Please let me know your advices/opinions.

Problem/Goal: See below

Context: Voluntary ninongs and ninangs for my baby

Previous Attempts: None

Isa ako sa last sa group of friends/circle of cousins na huling nagkaanak. 30 lang naman ako and have a relatively good job. Same case w fiance.

When we announced that we were pregnant, everyone was ecstatic. We felt the love everywhere at super lucky namin dun. However, then came more of that love. 😂 Imbis na kami ang maghanap ng mga ninong at ninang ay ang friends na namin ang mismong nag-volunteer 😅

Thing is, wala pa kami dinedecide talaga ni hubby. Ako kasi ay ninang to over 30 kids (kuya ko over 60 jusko), and I am grateful kasi ang saya palagi ng Pasko ko. Love language ko ay gifting at ang sarap makakita ng ngiti ng mga bata. Thankful din ako tuwing kukunin akong ninang talaga at never tumatanggi. Malas daw kasi haha tsaka wala naman kaso sakin dahil wala din naman entitled sa lahat ng inaanak ko. Talagang kinukuha ako ng parents nila kasi alam nilang malapit ako sa bata. Sweet lahat ng inaanak ko, pero di mo maiiwasan yung tipong magpaparamdam lang magulang pag Pasko na pero dedma all year round. Sa dami ba naman nila eh 😂

So eto na ngaaaa. Ngayon ako naman ang buntis— ay naku nasa more or less 10 friends ko na agad nag-chachat sa akin na ninong/ninang sila 🥹 as in pinipiem ako out of the blue. Or after ng congrats ay nagtatanong na agad sila kung pwede ba silang ninong o ninang. Kaka-third trimester ko pa lang, sandaleeee!!! Hahahaha.

Grateful ako na ang dami agad nagmamahal sa baby namin ha, don't get me wrong! But my introverted self is kinda not into the idea of having so much ninongs and ninangs for my baby. Iniisip ko nga eh parang sa western values na 1-2 sets of godparents lang. My fiance naman is supportive kahit saan ako sasaya. I have my one and only SIL na sure na kukunin, and kay fiance ay may napupusuan na din siyang kunin sa isa sa mga kapatid niya. Yun lang talaga. Ultimo sa binyag gusto ko intimate lang at immediate fam lang sana namin... pero ayun since may mga nagvovolunteer, the former people pleaser inside of me is rethinking things.

To give you more context on how introverted I am, I mostly interact with my friends online lang. But I am very present kahit ganoon. I have not hung out with any of them for years na, dahil laging ang kasama ko ay si fiance. We just do our normal things like going on dates and our travels. We mind our business and don't engage in drama as trentahins na focused na sa goal lol. I post a lot on socials so updated din ang friends ko. My presence is like, maffeel nila ko kahit wala sila sa tabi ko kasi interactive pa rin ako sa kanila kahit online lang. Hindi kaya ng bandwidth ko or my social anxiety to hang out w friends irl since nag-pandemic, ewan ko ba.

I kinda feel bad like pano ko idedecline ang mga taong genuinely gusto maging part ng buhay ng anak ko? Will it be awkward if I tell them our decision? Like ofc hindi ko sila icucut off but also ayoko lang din kunin sila out of obligation. I don't mind being the bad guy, but also don't wanna push away my village. I wanna be firm with my decision, but right know I feel like I don't know what I really want. For real.

Hindi ko sure kung pregnancy hormones lang ba ito bc it kinda feels intrusive for them to assume, or baka maclear pa utak ko when things calm down after a few months with my baby, at baka mas maappreciate ko pa ang offer nila. Wala naman kasi silang hinihingi sa amin kundi maging parte ng buhay ng anak namin, and possibly spoil her, too. Sino naman ang hindi gugustuhin yon diba? Ang sarap sa pakiramdam. Pero kasi naniniwala ako na hindi mo naman kailangan maging ninong o ninang para gawin yon kung gusto mo talaga.

I'm at my wit's end and I think I need other perspectives at kung ano gagawin niyo if you were in our situation. There is no right or wrong here. Either way, we are grateful.

Problem/Goal:
How do I stop feeling guilty for expressing my emotions when my husband feels bad whenever I’m upset?

Context:
I’m 31F, and my husband is 34M. We’ve been together for 12 years and married for 5 years.
My husband is a loving, patient person who takes care of everything around the house. He’s currently unemployed and looking for work, while I’m the one earning money. I work long hours, sometimes from 6 AM to noon and then again from 6 PM to 11 PM, including weekends. I know we’re both dealing with our own pressures, and I genuinely appreciate everything he does for our household.

The problem is how we handle situations when I’m upset.

Whenever something upsets me, he apologizes repeatedly. Sometimes it becomes an endless cycle of “sorry, sorry, sorry.” However, I don’t feel like he understands why I’m hurt. When I try to explain further, he says things like, “It’s hard to be perfect.”

I know he can’t be perfect, and I’m not expecting him to be. I just want to feel heard and understood.

When he says things like that, though, I start feeling guilty. I wonder if I’m asking for too much or making him feel like he’s never good enough. Eventually, I suppress my feelings, move on, and act happy again. Things return to normal, but I don’t think the underlying issue is ever resolved.

He has also told me that when I’m sad, he feels sad too. I understand that he loves me and doesn’t want to see me unhappy, but sometimes this makes me feel like I can’t express negative emotions around him. Instead of being able to process my own feelings, I end up feeling responsible for making him feel better, even when I’m the one who’s hurting.

Over time, I’ve started feeling like I have to choose between expressing my feelings and protecting his. I don’t want him to feel like a failure, but I also don’t want to keep swallowing my emotions just to restore peace.

Tonight, I wasn’t even particularly angry. I was mostly sad and wanted some space. Yet, when this pattern happens again, I find myself wondering whether I should just give up on expecting him to understand me emotionally.

Part of me wants to focus on work, sleep, exercise, and repeat. I need to keep earning money, and honestly, I don’t have much energy left for anything else.

I love my husband, and I don’t think he’s a bad person. He contributes a lot to our household, and I don’t want to dismiss that. I just feel lonely in this particular part of our relationship.
I don’t want to reach a point where I stop sharing my feelings because I’ve convinced myself that it’s easier not to.

Previous Attempts:
I’ve tried explaining why I’m upset, hoping he’ll understand what hurt me rather than just apologize for it. But the conversation often turns into him apologizing repeatedly or saying that he can’t be perfect.

I end up feeling guilty, reassuring him, and eventually putting my feelings aside. We move on without really resolving the issue, and the same pattern happens again.

I’m not sure how to break this cycle without making him feel inadequate or making myself feel like a burden.

My question is: Has anyone experienced this dynamic in their marriage? How did you learn to express your feelings without feeling responsible for your partner’s emotional reaction? Is there a way for both partners to feel heard without one person having to suppress their emotions to keep the peace?

Problem/Goal: 2 months into talking, all he said was he wants this to lead on to something.

Context: F23 here, in a situationship with a guy I met online. Luzon ako, Mindanao sya but we're seeing each other in a few days for the first time. Healthy naman kaya lang parang we don’t talk often about our emotional shiz, paano na, ano tayo, manliligaw ba sya, magtatanong ba sya, idk. Calls, VCs, updates and kwentuhan are constant yes hands down dun. But how do I know if this is genuine?

Previous Attempts: Curious lang ano signs or ano ginagawa ng guys if genuinely nyo gusto ang girl? If genuinely you fall inlove na at hindi lang lust ang habol? What are the signs I should watch out for? Or literal na.. how do I know?

Problem/Goal: To understand myself better and what I've been experiencing

Context:

I (18M) was lying in my bed after I just woke up from a siesta and had this moment of sudden out-of-body thinking, feeling like I was imagining or even seeing my life in like a 3rd-person point of view, and it was quite eerie, unsettling, and uncomfortable.

Is there a moment you realize, "I don't know who I am today, and I've come so far," and there is like a moment of, "Wait, am I remembering the place right?" It's like a different outlook or perspective, like I was out of my body and I cannot believe I was in that situation.

And also, while I am experiencing it, there is like a question in myself: "Am I remembering what happened yesterday right? Yep, that place."

And there was a sort of feeling that I quite made it this far. It's like my self (old self, maybe???) realizing that it's like I wasn't in control during those days; it's like I am not the one making the decisions, but it is aligned with my views and goals, though. It's like I felt, "Woah! Did I just do those things?" It seems I was not in control during those times, and I have come far in life.

It's like a bittersweet and discomforting feeling of realizing that I quite made it what I had just imagined before, but discomforting due to the fact that my mind just sees it in a third POV vividly, but some things are not remembered right

I don't know if my mind is just playing with me or not.
Previous attempts: None. I just want to understand myself better and whether someone has experienced this type of thing.

Problem/Goal: I'm politely asking po if paano yung process nung replacement para sa lost TNT sim na prepaid? I admit na nawala ko sya due to my carelessness pero I'm quite worried kasi naka connect yung sim number ko na yon sa halos lahat ng accounts ko and even sa g cash. I already did my research regarding the process pero I want some answers na naka based sa experiences.

Note: I'm a minor po so please enlighten me if may iba pa pong requirements na need pag minor.

Thank you po sa mga sasagot^^!

Problem/Goal: I am 33. I quit my call center job, no family, no children, no partner. My mom said I should just continue studying, since I haven't completed my degree yet. She is also asking me for a grandchild, and I don't know how. I don't know what to do.

Before, I look forward to playing games or watching some anime, but now, I just feel nothing. I don't have any goals in life anymore.

I kept on being sad, to the point of becoming lost. Hoping it's not depr*ssion. This isn't the first time that it happened. Every few years, this happens. I used to excel at school and sports when I was younger, but now, it's all gone. I don't know what to do anymore. Please give me some advice.

problem/goal: currently in my lowest point sa life

context: f24, since july this year may emptiness akong naffeel (first time sa tanang buhay ko). nagkasabay sabay lahat ng prob. breakup, financial, employment. currently staying sa city mag isa kasi dito ako nagwwork.

sobrang tagal nang down ako guys 🥹 need ko lang ng someone na makakausap talaga if kaya maging friend na rin. i really need someone rn 🥹 pls pls

previous attempts: none

Problem/Goal: Sobrang nag s-struggle ako sa thoughts ko ngayon na pigilan na makipag usap uli sa ex ko.

Context: My ex (27M) and I (27F) broke up after being in a relationship for four years. One week pa lang since our breakup, and naging kalmado naman talaga yung conversation namin about it. Malinaw naman sa akin kung bakit kailangan na naming maghiwalay since hindi na talaga kami nakakatulong sa isa’t isa.

Pero taena, grabe yung suffering ko after just one week. Hindi ako makakain, hindi ako makatulog, at nasusuka ako. We also lived together for three years, so now that I’m living alone again, pakiramdam ko mababaliw na talaga ako. Sobrang nasanay na ako sa presensya niya.

I badly want to reach out to him and ask if we can just get back together and try to fix everything. Hindi ko na kasi kinakaya yung nararamdaman ko.

Previous attempts: Blocked naman na siya sa lahat ng socials ko. Kaso di parin enough huhu.

Please, realtalk-in niyo ako. Sobrang nakakasuka (literal) yung feeling na nag lalaban yung utak mo na wag na, while yung puso mo niroromanticize parin yung memories niyo. Please, ayoko naaaaaa

Problem/Goal: I can’t get into a long term relationship. Whenever I find a connection with someone, it only last about a month or so. It’s always sex after the first date, pure excitement, and then they become distant, and then I’m alone again.

Context: I’m working both as a commercial actor and a corporate worker. There, I meet a lot of people. I started to notice patterns in how this things work. They’d show up very interested, full of energy, I’d take them out on a date, we’d start making out in private, we’d go to my place or theirs, have sex, then it’ll last about a month or so, then they disappear.

I have friends, I’m very hygienic. I am often told that I’m a reserved person. I’m not nonchalant, I actually like surprising my ex partners with gifts, handmade crafts, cooking for them, acts of service and all that jazz.

Honestly, I just want to pour all this love I have to this one person, but at this rate, I’m scared of falling in love again and lose them after a month.

I’m tired, and I feel like I can never have a proper relationship.

It’s not that they ghosted me or anything, we talked about why they don’t see themselves in a relationship. What they say in common is that, they realize they’re either not yet ready to have a serious relationship, or they can’t reciprocate my love and it would feel unfair to them, and they’d feel bad.

I’m not even asking for much in a relationship, I’m okay with bare minimum, even let me do all the hardworking while you just stay by my side as my princess.

My dream is to be the best husband a wife can ever ask for. I love serving my partner, it makes me feel like the happiest person when I am.

Previous attempts:

I tried not having sex in the first month, but I’m scared that if I do, I lose them right away. I notice that most of the women I end up dating have avoidant attachment style, or at least that’s what Tiktok thinks.

I also tried to prolong the talking stage, but they end up getting bored or think that I’m talking to a lot of women or that I’m just playing around, and not taking them seriously. So it doesn’t last long or the pattern just repeats itself.

Problem/Goal: Di ako makaalis sa relasyon na toxic na dahil aa utang

Context: Bago ako grumaduate may 3h-6h akong di ko nabayaran sa shopee at lazada ko nun pero bayad na yun that yr din. 2023, don nagsimula na hindi na ako maapprove sa iba. kaya naging dependent ako sa lip ko, sa lahat ng pay later. kaya kahit sobrang toxic namin, di ako makaalis kasi ayaw nya ako paalisin gat di nababayaran utang ko. which is di ko naman kaya bayaran talaga ng buo. pero may work naman ako kaso sobrang hirap pag sunod sunod yung due tapos monthly sahod ko tas may plus 15 days pa bago makuha sahod talagang no choice kundi maipon, tapal tapal. ano ba magandang gawin? :((((

previous attempt: none

Problem/Goal: What do you do when the only person you want to spend your life with is the person you can no longer be with?

Context: I've been wanting to share this because it's been bothering me lately, and I think I need some advice from people who might understand what I'm going through.

My friends have been encouraging me to talk to other guys or meet someone new, and I've tried. I've chatted with a few people, but I always end up losing interest. It's not that there's anything wrong with them. I just don't feel interested in getting to know anyone else.

The truth is, I was with someone I genuinely thought I would spend the rest of my life with. He was the person I imagined growing old with, staying beside until our hair turned white, and being with until our last breath. I had so many things I wanted to experience in life, and whenever I thought about doing those things, he was always the person I imagined doing them with.

Even now, when I think about the things I want to do, he's still the person I want beside me. He's the person I want to share those experiences with. I don't find myself imagining those moments with anyone else.

And honestly, if it can't be him, I'd rather be alone. I'd rather spend the rest of my life on my own than try to find someone else just for the sake of having someone. I don't want to force myself to entertain other people when, deep down, he's still the person I want.

Writing this makes me cry because I know how much I'm still hurting. I don't know if this is just because I'm still healing or if a part of me will always feel this way. I just know that I can't imagine wanting someone else the way I want him.

For those who have experienced something similar, how did you deal with this? Did you eventually reach a point where you wanted to open your heart to someone else, or did you learn to be content with being alone?

I don't want to force myself to move on just because other people think I should be ready. But at the same time, I wonder how I'm supposed to move forward when the future I wanted is still the future I want, and he's still the person I want to share it with.

I'd really appreciate hearing your thoughts and experiences.

Problem/Goal:

Palagi ko po syang nahuhuling nagloloko, sobrang daming beses na at ang pinakamalala ay yung nakipagsex sya sa kawork nya habang buntis ako tapos sinapak nya ko kasi nagalit ako. Reason nya: nasaktan sya sa mga sinabi ko. Cheating and physical abuse continued to happen until late 2025. I really need to get out

Context:

Hi! Kailangan ko (27F) po ng lakas ng loob at support. I have been with this man (30M) for 6 years already and we have 2 children. 4YO and 2MO. It hurts so much na I am running to strangers for this pero wala talaga akong ibang malalapitan.

Previous Attempts:

I did try leaving na noong 2025 but our son got sick and eventually needed help from him kasi I can't do it on my own dahil dependent ako sa kanya sa housing, finance, and child care. Kaya nagkabalikan kami.

few months after namin magkabalikan, I caught him inquiring sa mga girls for hire and binugbog nya na naman ako kasi I confronted him when I saw that.

Nagkabrgyan na kami, unfortunately, it is in his hometown and the brgy officials are his relatives kaya pinagsulat lng nila ako sa notebook and then wala na nangyari :((

I tried to leave again and went back home to my grandparents (wala na po akong parents, estranged and both have different fams) but they just kept pressuring me kailangan ako makakahanap ng place to move to kasi hindi raw kami kasya sa bahay. 💔 I had no choice but to go back again kasi iyak ng iyak yung 4YO dahil laging pinapagalitan. :((

I got pregnant again.. and now im 2MO PP, nahuli ko na naman sya looking for "companion" and eventually met that girl. I just thought nagbago na sya :((

Alam kong tanga tanga ako to keep coming back. I dont have anyone else to turn back to and I cant afford to go and rent on my own kasi hindi enough sahod ko and childcare pa. I know im so stupid dinagdagan ko pa.

Natatauhan na ako dahil kahit hindi kami nagaaway sa harap ng mga bata, palagi akong nahuhuli ng anak ko na umiiyak and he will cry too kahit hindi nya alam why.

Wala akong pera ngayon kasi naka maternity leave pa ako and pabalik pa lang ako in 2 months.

Please please im sorry alam kong tanga ako. alam kong ginawa ko to sa sarili ko. but i need help kung paano ko didiskartehan makaalis at mapanindigan ito. I have no money and I am still healing from the emergency cs. Paano ko kakayanin to magisa? I am on the verge of killing myself pero kinakapitan ko nalang ang mga anak ko. I dont want them to grow up with a miserable mom.

problem/goal: i (M22) want to reco my parents to couples therapy (meron ba non?). they used to fight a lot about things, and ang daming nadadamay, even cousins/relatives na walang ginagawa. sobrang hirap nila mag communicate nang maayos nang hindi nag aaway at hindi nagpapadala sa emotions nila. pwede naman mag usap nang maayos, diba? ‘di ata nila kaya lol.

context: matagal na silang nag aaway, bata pa lang kami, sa harap pa mismo namin. they fight a lot about different stuff, most of which pwedeng daanin sa normal na usapan pero ‘di nila magawa nang walang nadadamay or mag usap nang maayos. umabot pa sa point na nung bata ako, binigyan ko sila ng kutsilyo para tumigil.

medyo umokay na kami these past few years, pero lumalala na naman ata ngayon. sobrang avoidant din nila minsan, kaya i need help kung meron bang couples therapy for them.

previous attempt: few years ago, sinabi ko sa kanila na mag couples therapy sila, and if hindi mag stop yung pag aaway nila, titigil ako sa pag aaral. ‘di nila ginawa (stop ako ngayon haha).

tbh gusto ko lang naman matuto silang mag communicate nang maayos without everything turning into an argument. i’m not expecting them to be perfect, pero sana matuto silang mag usap without letting their emotions get the best of them or dragging other people into their problems.

Problem/Goal: I recently graduated from college. and my parents wanted to give me one last grand gift before I go out there. I found a really good paying job in Manila as a fresh grad (non licensed) engineer. Im from Cavite and work is near SM Manila

Context: Here is the deal, I'd choose between these 2

1. they will buy me a motorcycle worth 200k and they dgaf after that
2. They will rent a 1 bedroom, kitchen, cr apartment na solo ko for 6 months

The thing is i am planning to pagsabay yung study ko sa boards while working. The reason I also chose this job is because it is a really well known company and i know that my growth and the knowledge id gain here is top tier. I also plan to leave the country after 3 years once my career is stable and nakapagipon na.

if motor, i can go places. and uwian ako sa bahay which i dont have to pay for any bills. downside is id have to sacrifice 2 hrs every day to get back home through and forth.

if place, i can rest immediately and study. however 6 months lang to. whether i fail or pass, 6 months would be the limit. food, water, electricity, wifi would be on me.

my review will be purely online lang naman. 3hrs MWF. 2 days off ko sa work so im planning to watch the 3hrs once im home, and then dedicate 1 dayoff on studying it all. (im fairly smart)

My plan is to get the motor, then after 3 months id get my own place. what do you guys think?

and since im here, id also like to ask na, are these percentages good sa magiging salary ko

gas 5%
MP2 10%
emergency savings 15%
bank reserve 30%
fun 10%
needs 10%
investment/trading 10%
allowance for my sis 5%

Problem/Goal: My step father cheated on my mom, and left us for days. His reason was napapagod na raw siya.

Context: My step father and my brother don't really get along, lagi silang nag aaway at nag babangayan. According to my step dad, may resemblance raw kasi yung kapatid ko sa tatay ko, at mainit talaga dugo niya rito.

Ever since it happened, nag hanap na ako ng work and is planning na bumukod na dahil ayoko nang umasa sakanila. I got a job in a bpo company at sinabi ni mama na siguradurin ko raw na kaya ko at ako na may hawak ng future ko.

Nung sinabi niya yon, bigla akong nag doubt sa sarili ko kung kakayanin ko ba i juggle ang work at studies since I'm currently 3rd year student. Pero if I'll stay, I'll have to deal with them and the 6 hours travel from school to our house everyday.

Please help me decide.

Problem/Goal:

Worth it ba mag-add ng ₱4,500 para i-swap ang HONOR Pad 10 ko sa iPad A16?

Context:

Nakuha ko ang HONOR Pad 10 ko through swap, kasama ang original pen and keyboard. Halos brand new pa, walang issues, pero sobrang disappointed ako sa palm rejection. Sanay kasi ako sa iPad 7th gen dati, and sobrang seamless ng palm rejection niya kahit cheap stylus lang.
Student and content creator ako, may iPhone 14 din. Gusto ko sana ng tablet for note-taking, digital art, content creation, and gaming. Hindi ko rin masyadong nagagamit keyboard ng HONOR kasi may laptop naman ako.

Previous attempts:

Sinubukan ko nang gamitin ang HONOR pen sa ibis Paint, notes apps, at Good Pizza, Great Pizza, pero nahihirapan ako dahil nadedetect pa rin ang palm ko.

May nag-offer na i-swap ang iPad A16 niya sa HONOR Pad 10 ko, plus ₱4,500. Halos brand new din daw, 100% battery health, around 40 cycles, at under warranty until January 2027.

Questions:
Worth it ba ang swap? Okay na ba ang ₱4,500 na dagdag, considering my needs? Ano ang dapat kong i-check bago makipag-meet this Saturday?
Ayoko lang magsisi after ng swap. Any advice is appreciated! Thank you!

Problem/Goal: I'm currently 19 years old, and this all started when I was around 12. Back then, pinapatulog ako sa bahay ng lola ko every single night. Doon, araw-araw akong binabangungot. As in every single day, walang sablay.

Ganto lagi yung scenario:
• Mananaginip ako ng demonyong nagagalit sa akin kapag binabanggit ko si Lord.
• Magigising ako at EXACTLY 3:00 AM, 3:30 AM, or 3:33 AM.
When I say exact, I mean EXACT.
• Umalis lang ako sa bahay ng lola ko after a few years nung lumala na talaga. The breaking point was when I woke up and naramdaman at nakita ko mismo na may bumubuhat sa akin, a shadowy male figure (lalaking itim) lifting me up while I was lying down. I don't remember what happened right after, but l vividly remember na alas-tres din yun nangyari.

Fast forward to now: I'm 19 and nakalipat na kami ng tinitirhan. Akala ko matatapos na kasi nakaalis na ako sa lola ko, pero mag-iisang taon na ako rito sa bagong bahay and ganun pa rin. Binabangungot pa rin ako at nagigising sa madaling araw.
What's worse now is nagigising ako sa pakiramdam na:
May sumasakal sa akin
May nakadagan / kinakapos ng hininga
Kagabi malala ulit-nagising ako na hindi talaga makahinga and feeling ko napapanood ko sarili ko habang natutulog.
Sinubukan ko na magpatawas before and ang sabi lang
"namatanda" raw ako, pero wala namang nagbago after. I also pray every day before sleeping. Wala rin akong tinatake na kahit anong gamot or medications. I'm really exhausted and scared. Has anyone experienced something like this? Is this purely medical/sleep paralysis, or something spiritual?
What steps should I take next? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!