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Problem/goal: bumabalik nanaman sakin ang ex boyfriend ko dahil ayaw sakanya nung babaeng gusto nya talaga.

Context: Naging kami ng ex-boyfriend ko for 5 years, and first relationship namin ang isa’t isa. Nag-break kami kasi pareho na kaming drained sa relationship. Weeks after our breakup, may mga babae na agad siyang nakakausap hanggang sa may nakilala siyang girl na sobrang type niya. Ilang days pa lang silang nag-uusap, binigyan na niya agad ng bouquet of flowers, something na never niyang ginawa for me kahit 5 years kaming magkasama. Nung nalaman ko ’yon, medyo nasaktan ako kasi I realized na kaya naman pala niyang gawin ’yon, hindi lang talaga niya ginawa para sa akin. Kaya binlock ko siya sa lahat ng socials ko para wala na akong malaman tungkol sa kanya. Pero kahit binlock ko siya, naghahanap pa rin siya ng ways para i-contact ako, even through my number and other accounts. Nagtaka ako kasi alam ko namang may gusto na siyang iba. Eventually, nalaman ko na ayaw sa kanya nung girl at hindi na siya masyadong nirereplyan. Doon ko rin nalaman na marami pa pala siyang ibang babae na kinakausap, pero parang bumabalik lang siya sa akin ngayon kasi hindi siya nabigyan ng chance nung girl na talagang gusto niya. Honestly, I don’t know what to think anymore, pero I can’t help but feel like he’s only coming back because things didn’t work out with the girl he wanted, and I don’t want to be someone’s second choice. thoughts po?

Problem/Goal: My bf have a lot of pictures of his ex on his social media. She was his longest relationship, so they have a lot of pictures together, to the point that when you search for his name, pics of him with his ex come up.

Context: We're only a few months in and we haven't posted about each other on social media. For me, it's mainly because everytime I tell my friends/family about him and his name, when they search him up, photos of him with his ex come up. So I'm afraid that if I post him and tag him, all they will see is his social history full of his ex. While dating, he told me he rarely deletes/blocks anything, so almost all of his soc med history is shared on public.

Previous attempt/s: None, but I did bring this up to him before and he assured me that he has moved on from his ex. I didn't request for any of the photos to be deleted or removed, however. I'm not sure if I have the right to request that and I don't want to either.

Problem/Goal:

Any tips paano niyo pinapadali yung paglalaba pag ang dami na talaga?

Context:

Sinusubukan ko naman na mag-iba-ibang araw nang paglalaba para hindi isahan na sobrang dami.

Previous attempts:

Segregate muna, tapos Surf ang gamit ko for less soaking, mas mabilis matanggal yung dumi.

Baka may mas magaling pa kayong paraan, anong ginagawa niyo para hindi kayo ma-overwhelm sa paglalaba?

Share niyo naman. 🙏

Problem/Goal:

My boyfriend wants to have sex every day, sometimes multiple times a day, and I’m getting so exhausted na hindi na kaya ng katawan ko. I’ve already communicated this to him before, pero bumabalik at bumabalik lang kami sa ganitong routine. Recently, things got worse when he tried forcing me even though I kept saying no. I honestly don’t know what to do anymore, especially since ayaw niya rin makipag-cool off or magstay muna kami separately.

Context:

I (21F) am a graduating college student, and my boyfriend (20M) and I have been living together for almost a year na.

Nung bago pa lang kami nagli-live in, okay and exciting naman yung idea of having sex every day. I enjoy sex, too, pero habang tumatagal, nakakapagod na talaga, especially after long days of school and duty. Minsan, gusto ko na lang humiga at magpahinga kasi wala na talaga akong energy.

There was one time na we had sex for almost two hours, and sobrang pagod ko the next day to the point na I failed a major quiz. I told him about it, and he stopped initiating sex for about two weeks. Akala ko magiging okay na, pero after that, bumalik na naman kami sa dati.

We can have sex up to three times a day, and halos walang palya araw-araw. Lately, I'm experiencing pain down there every time we have sex. Sumasakit na rin hips and lower back ko kasi he likes it rough and fast. Sometimes, he initiates sex kahit tulog ako, habang nakahiga lang ako sa bed scrolling through my phone, or even habang naliligo ako.

My libido has been really low lately, and I'm not sure if may effect ba yung contraceptive implant ko or if it's because I'm just physically exhausted. At this point, parang ayoko na munang makipag-sex kasi pagod na pagod na talaga ako.

Yesterday, I didn't want to have sex, and thankfully, he respected my decision. Pero today, mas naging aggressive siya than usual. He kept asking for sex kahit paulit-ulit akong nagsasabi ng no, and he was pinning me down. He only stopped trying when I started crying.

Honestly, hindi ko na alam gagawin ko. Parang mas nanggigigil siya kapag may isang araw na walang sex. Ngayon na dalawang araw na kaming walang sex, I don't even know what to expect. I'm starting to feel anxious about saying no because I don't know how he'll react.

I also suggested na mag-cool off muna kami or magstay muna kami sa respective parents namin para magkaroon kami ng space from each other, pero ayaw niya.

Previous Attempts:

1. I talked to him about how exhausted I was. I explained how having sex for long periods was affecting my physical condition and even my academics. He stopped initiating for two weeks, pero bumalik din sa dati.

2. I tried saying no when I didn't feel like having sex. Yesterday, he respected my decision, pero today, he became aggressive, kept insisting kahit ilang beses na akong tumanggi, and pinned me down until I cried.

3. I suggested na mag-cool off muna or magstay kami separately. I thought having some space would help me rest and think things through, pero ayaw niya.

Problem/Goal: Hello! Ask ko lang sana kung ano kayang magandang gawin instead na magregalo sa mga pinsan ko this Christmas🎄.

Context: Mga 13 sila, kasama na yung kapatid ko, and most likely teenagers na rin sila. Ako ang oldest na apo 27F sa side ng mama ko. Every year kasi, simula noong nag work ako nag bibigay ako sa kanila ng gift, hinihingi ko wishlist nila. Kaso magre-resign na ako sa 4 years toxic work ko🤣, and baka next year wala pa akong work, so hindi ko rin alam kung may budget pa ako para sa gifts.

I'm thinking na instead na bumili ng kanya-kanyang regalo, ano kayang pwedeng gawin? something na maeenjoy naming lahat. or kung gift man something memorable sana.

Problem/Goal: So yung mama ko plano pumanta sa resident ni papa ngayon without his knowledge and she explicitly told na wag daw ipaalam sakanya

Context: So my parents have been practically separated since elementary palang ako kasi nagcheat si papa. Grabe pa naman yung away nila na to the point halos every time magkita or magusap sila nahahantong sa away. Nagbabato ng mga gamit (plato, baso anything na nababasag XD) tas palitan ng mga salita.

There's one time na kumain kami sa Andoks then naisipan ni mama na iwanan si papa habang natutulog siya sa table kasi napagod sa trabaho. Ayun naglakad kami pauwi sa gitna ng gabi, mind you yung lugar na kinainan namin 8km away from home. Then nagising si papa sakay motor para habulin kami tas pinasakay kmi para makauwi na kami, nagaaway pa yan sila ha. Pero yung mas malala na naalala ko yung sa gitna ng away nila nawitness ko talaga na magbibigti si mama dahil sa lala na ng problema nila, Grade 1 palang ako nun.

Fast forward to the present day, college na ako and nasa manila na ako nagaaral, nakatira ako right kay kina papa kasama yung babae niya. Okay naman yung pakikitungo nila sakin pero I'm still putting some boundaries kasi sa lala ng pinagdaanan ko. So pupunta daw si mama dito para icheck ako, kaso I'm hesitant baka magaway or kaya ako yung naman ang awayin dito sa tinitirhan kong bahay. Paghinde ko naman masunod gusto sasabihin na nahilo na nila ako or whatever.

Idk talaga kung saan ako lulugar hayop tong buhay na to, bat kasi ito yung naibigay sakin.

Edit: So far okay na naman yung parents ko di na masyado nagaaway pero bruh, yung nga natatakot ako na baka magaway sila dito especially sa babae ni papa or ako awayin nila papa after neto. Bago lang ko dito sa manila natira kela papa 4months palang to be exact.

Problem/Goal: Whenever I go out or do travelling with my Dad, I just can’t seem to enjoy it fully. Especially when it’s just the two of us, I always feel somewhat awkward or kaya lacking the hyper energy that I usually have with my friends or other family members and parang nagiging boring tuloy yung overall trip to the point na iniisip ko mas maeenjoy ko pa ito siguro kung ako nalang mag-isa. Am I being selfish?

Context: I(19F) am an only daughter living with my single father. My mother passed away when I was younger so kami lang talaga ng dad ko ang magkasama most of the time. Being an only child has affected me in lots of different ways such as sanay ako parati mag-isa, very individualistic, not that talkative, introverted, and so on. I also think I got it from my dad eh he’s also individualistic in a sense that he doesn’t bother to ask much about my day or my friends, maybe a little “kamusta naman school mo anak?”, “sino kasama most gumala” and all those little checkups but that’s about it. I wouldn’t say na neglectful siya saken, it’s more of walang siyang reason to since he trusts me with my own thing or di lang talaga siya pala kwento in general, and I understand that.

Anyways my issue is that as I grew up, I noticed a subtle but drastic changes sa relationship namin now that I’m an adult. I can’t seem to enjoy his company lalo na pag kaming dalawa lang sa gala, instead of having lighthearted conversations, tawanan, kakulitan, we’re mostly just silent. Not that I have any issues with that pero hindi naman kasi ako ganun with friends or other members of my family, in fact ako pa nga minsan pinaka maingay at makulit eh, so why can’t I have that same energy with my dad?

It feels odd when I think of acting that way with him, parang I physically can’t bring myself in sharing that same energy with my friends and I get really conscious about it. There are times that I tried, but it feels forced and I don’t like doing something unauthentic especially sa dad ko. Don’t get me wrong I love my dad with my whole heart but then again growing up as an only child and a single father who is awkward and introverted in general, its as if nagraradiate yung energy namin sa isa’t isa eh, kung hindi magsasalita yung isa walang magsasalita, nakatutok nalang sa cellphone, it kind of feels disregarding pag nakababa na cellphone ng lahat pero nags-scroll lang siya.

Going back sa travelling part, again I enjoy going mostly solo kasi I got used to my own presence and enjoy my own company in general, but I don’t mind sharing it with my family, but with my dad? I’d rather go on my own. And that’s what’s causing me this conflict, two voices in my head going “That’s your father, why would you say that?” and the other “Sana ako nalang magisa, mas maeenjoy ko pa siguro”. To be honest? feel ko parang bato kasama ko eh, he’s so stiff, silent, let’s me do most of the work(restaurants, places, navigation etc) I don’t mind doing those of course, but it gets tiring den sa totoo lang lalo na medyo tumatanda na rin si father so siyempre I have to do it, kaming dalawa lang eh kanino paba aasa dad ko?

Right now parang may balak ulet kasi dad ko mag travel sa korea, kaming dalawa lang. Parang nawalan ako ng gana bigla, which is ironic kasi korea is one of the places that I wanted to visit. Ang naiisip kong solution for now is yayain ibang family ko na sumama samin kasi I swear I feel like di ko kakayanin pag kaming dalawa nanaman ng dad ko, especially sa foreign country so that’s that. There’s no issue sa aming dalawa, we’re happy so what do you guys think?

Problem/Goal:

I want to take ownership of my life again after hitting rock bottom and losing myself for years. I have been trying but to not much success, and I guess I'm losing hope

Context:

About 3 yrs ago, I had all the things I wanted: the partner who I thought was the real deal, a good stable job and found opportunities easily, I was okay financially (on my own i was comfortable and can easily do whatever i want), had new found friends who blended well with my long term friends. I was pretty successful and happy. And then it all went upside down.

Left my good stable job cause i was aiming for growth I guess. Then I found out my partner was cheating on me, even during the time of our 3rd year anniversary. My friends were very supportive but it got too loud na din especially in social media and although they were on my side, I was uncomfortable na ang daming taong na involve and ang daming outside opinion when it shouldve only been me and my ex na nagaayos ng situation namin. I also spent all my savings cause I stopped working for a few months and because ang gulo na din ng buhay ko ng mga panahon na yan gusto ko nalang magtago.

Eventually I had a job offer and took it kasi wa na nga pera, little did I know na hindi pala kami mababayaran ng tama doon. When I arrived, may delay na sa payout that I didnt mind at first 2-3 days delay lang naman. But then it got worse to the point na ssweldo nalang kami enough para lang makapasok ng office. I stayed here for a year, ang ending wala paring savings + I started relying on loans para lang mabuhay. So nadagdagan pa mga utang ko.

Also met my partner, na medyo struggle din at first because he has bipolar disorder (which.took some time for me to understand and get used to), and he went through a similar phase at work na shitty company hindi nagbabayad ng maayos. So both of us were struggling. Plus theres the fact na first time ko makipag live in and I had to adjust my ways na hindi lang sarili ko kailangan ko atupagin

While all of this was happening, nawala din pala sakin yung 2 cats ko, my babies in this world—1 of them di na umuwi, and the other 1 escaped nung naglipat ako ng bahay. So just imagine everything from my life before walang natira at all. .

Now, after how many years of pure struggle, I am slowly (trying to) reclaim ownership with myself, my money, my work and my relationships. I am slowly paying off my debts, slowly trying to redeem myself, setting dates with my friends after being MIA.

But honestly, having went through all of that and having to take it one day at a time, I just feel lost most of the time. I feel like di ako naiintindihan ng mga tao cause they expect me to be okay na after all that time. And I feel like I am in a phase na I no longer resonate with my old self but I also don't know who this version of me is. So parang, how can i work towards something kung di ko naman din alam kung saan ako papunta.

Some days I can feel my spark back in my life but most days it's confusion, grief and the feeling of defeat.

Previous attempt/s:

- Forcing myself to get back out there and do things i once loved doing

- Forcing myself to go out at least 2x a week to do physical activities

- Applying to more jobs to get addtl income

Problem/Goal:

It’s been 7 months since my breakup, and I thought I was already healing. But after stalking my ex’s profile, I realized na galit pa rin pala ako. I don’t miss him or want him back, but I’m still angry about what he did. How do I let go of this resentment and finally find peace?

Context:

We lived together for 4 years, and our relationship ended because I caught him cheating twice. Since the breakup, we haven’t been mutuals on social media, so I haven’t seen anything about him. I’ve been focusing on my new job, keeping myself busy, and rebuilding my life.

I genuinely thought I was doing better until I stalked his profile. Seeing him again brought back all the anger and memories of what happened. I don’t want to hate him forever, and I want to forgive him eventually, but I’m starting to question whether I’m actually healing or just distracting myself with work and other things.

Previous Attempts:

I’ve been focusing on work, spending time with friends, and keeping myself busy. I haven’t been checking his social media for 7 months until recently.

I know healing isn’t linear, but I thought I’d be in a better place by now.

For those who’ve experienced something similar, is it normal to still feel this angry after 7 months? How did you know you were genuinely healing? And how did you finally let go of the resentment?

I don’t want him back. I just want to reach a point where what he did no longer hurts or makes me angry. Does it really get better?

Problem/Goal:

Red flag ba if medyo na-offend yung boyfriend ko regarding sa finances ko?

Context:

Hi! I am a student (F), so he is, and I am very vocal sa bf ko regarding sa financial status ko. For context, nireveal ko kasi yung naipon ko and kitang-kita ko yung gulat sa mukha niya. Alam niya kasi struggling ang family ko financially and lagi ko sinasabi na itlog lang ang nakakain ko for my meals, with mixed veggies (always akong ganito for the past weeks kasi fluctuating ang allowances na bigay sa akin ng parents ko). He knows na around 4 digits yung ipon ko and he is willing to help sa akin if need ko raw ng money, magsabi lang ako sa kaniya. But, I did not attempt to make utang kasi ayoko talaga nangungutang.

Fast forward, sinabi ko na around 5-digit na yung ipon ko and nagulat sya. Instead na yung mukha na happy and proud, parang naging baliktad pa yung nangyari. Nagets ko sya sa point na nagsinungaling ako kasi ayaw ko talagang may nakaka-alam sa naitabi kong pera and nagsabi na lang ako noon ng small amount para hindi na rin siya magdoubt sa akin.

Tapos nung nalaman nya nga na malaki sa ineexpect niya, may mga side comments na sya regarding sa mga nagastos niya sa akin. Dapat uuwi ako sa hometown ko and plan namin kumain ng Mang Inasal, sabi niya sa akin magpares na lang daw kami huhu.

Did I hurt his ego?

Previous Attempts:

Akala ko kasi tapos na yung conflict ng financials sa rs namin since dati ko pa ito dinideal na kapag malaki yung hawak ko na money, nag-eexpect sya na gagastusan ko sya (which is hindi ko priority kasi mas mahalaga na may emergency funds ako bago ko sya magastusan). Kaya naffeel bad ako na ginagastusan niya ako nang malaki (even tho I tried to advice him na sakto lang ay okay na sa akin) kasi baka he's doing it for the sake of his ego than spending for me genuinely.

Problem/Goal:

My friends are criticizing me for not having an active social media presence. Is it weird to prefer a life without social media?

Context:

I only have Facebook and Messenger, and I regularly deactivate both. I reactivate Messenger when something important comes up, so my friends sometimes struggle to contact me or tag me in their photos. I also rarely take pictures, even selfies, and sometimes delete the ones I have. I've been living this way for a while, and I honestly find it peaceful. I don't feel like I'm missing much, but my friends seem to disagree.

Previous Attempts:

I've continued living the way I'm comfortable with, but I'm starting to wonder whether this is unusual or a red flag.

Problem/Goal: Should I leave the job of which took me around 9 years to finish and try to go into BPO? Or am I too late to get in?

Context: My family has a debt that's almost enough to buy a Subaru Forester. It accumulated over the years, from tuition fees (two are still ongoing rn), COVID, unforeseen medical bills, and other emergency expenses that pop-up like pimples during my tweens.

I'm currently 27 this year. The oldest and semi-breadwinner, since it's my dad and I who earns. The course I was in was notorious for delaying you a year or two if you're not careful, but then COVID happened. So it added my already long course to a longer course. Luckily, I graduated and passed the boards around 3 years ago.

Fast forward to today, thanks to the current price inflation and barely sustainable salary (~35k for me and ~36k from dad, both gross). I barely have enough to save for myself since I'm the one giving allowances to my siblings and we both currently have loans from the bank and family friends (the monthly interests are horrible as always).

I've been hearing stories on Socmed that BPO may be hard, but professional growth is present and, if I'm lucky, within the next 10 years I may be able to get x3 of my current salary that would, hopefully, alleviate the debts.

My problems are:

a) I feel my parents would be horribly disappointed. I spent a lot of my time, sweat and tears on this course and just dropped it off like a hat for a better pay (The Philippines isn't the best place for professionals unless you're in a high position in the government but even then that could also be bought off).

b) Salary security. I have 2 younger siblings still studying, one in highschool and the other is a 2nd year. If I stop doing this job to get into a lower one (since I'm a beginner, I would definitely get a salary of around 15k (21k if I'm lucky)), that would further burden my dad for the bills. My mom can't work because she's currently bedridden (the unforeseen medical expense) and I don't want her to be stressed more than she already may be.

c) Almost all the accounts I've read are those who've started after highschool internship or were in college with a profession that somewhat matches one where they'll be going into (In my mind, courses inclined to the usage of digital software usage like Office, AI softwares, and others that's needed by a lot of companies). My resume/CV would also not match these desk professions at all since it's an entire different college course. It's bad enough I was those loners in college who apparently dodged chances of getting connections because my main goal was to graduate and earn (which I am, just not enough).

c) Am I still capable of learning? The answer, of course, is yes. However, I have that mindset where "I need to earn" is stronger than "I need to learn." It'll be hard to shift since I've already experienced earning.

d) I have my own personal problems since I used to gamble. I've already self-excluded and do attend meetings to help assuage my urges but one could never know when the next big trigger would come out (I gambled to try getting more money but ended losing more I could lose).

I need some advice on this because one of my dreams/goals was to have a family outing abroad where we could enjoy without much expense. My parents aren't getting younger and the debt seems to be growing by the months. The expenses WILL continue to rise (as projected on the current currency exchange and climate shifts) and the government is not helping at all.

This is a long read but to whoever who reads to this point, I appreciate you doing so and apologize in advance for taking so much of your time.

Problem/Goal: I am 33. I quit my call center job, no family, no children, no partner. My mom said I should just continue studying, since I haven't completed my degree yet. She is also asking me for a grandchild, and I don't know how. I don't know what to do.

Before, I look forward to playing games or watching some anime, but now, I just feel nothing. I don't have any goals in life anymore.

I kept on being sad, to the point of becoming lost. Hoping it's not depr*ssion. This isn't the first time that it happened. Every few years, this happens. I used to excel at school and sports when I was younger, but now, it's all gone. I don't know what to do anymore. Please give me some advice.

Problem/Goal: 2023 palang nagstart ko na nakitaan phone niya ng emails and ads abt “live chat”. Meron din naman syang history ng porn, like almost everyday pero dahil nacacallout ko siya doon tinatago nalang niya. It’s not like porn is bad or what, nagiging mali lang pag I think sobra na and despite opening up that you’re not comfortable with it, gagawin padin at mas itatago.

Context: We have been together since 2023, meron na din kaming baby. Nag LDR kami before and everytime uuwi siya, yung phone nya bawat scroll mo puro ads ng babaeng nakahubad. Spam emails are also filled with the same context. “Live Chat” I do watch porn pero not that often tsaka even if I do open some sites, hindi naman nagkakaganon algo ko unless I’m clicking it multiple times or maybe I will try to log in (my theory)

Meron din siyang gambling addiction. So I do believe na kakambal ng pagsusugal ang pagsisinungaling, pagnanakaw at pananraydor. It’s just so hard to leave kahit ginagawa nyang impyerno buhay namin.

Previous Attempts:
Yes I have talked to him not just once, twice or thrice. More than na. Ilang beses na din may kapatawaran and agreement to stop doing it but ayon nga lately those emails and ads started to pop out again and he was just like “hindi ko alam yan” So I’m just wondering since this time I can’t show any proof, does he really surf those sites?

Nakakapagod maging tanga para sa anak.

Problem/Goal: My ex and her new partner (who came from cheating) keeps on stalking me and It's ruining me mentally.

Context: If anyone remembers me, I was the guy who had posted about being problematic about intimacy and how it was ruining me mentally because I could'nt stop looking for my ex sexually towards other people, this would be considered a part two of my story I guess. My ex and the person she cheated on me with keeps on stalking me through the means of dumps, other's social accounts, or even old ones I forgot to block throughout various social media platforms and even in my online game accounts. It had been mentally exhausting seeing my ex and her new partner browsing through my accounts and it's making me think They're flourishing on my despair, I had been deeply inlove with my ex and she was my everything so yeah that break up was really depressing, I had been reposting relatable reels or videos that goes through my fyp and now I feel like that's a bad thing, I had been expressing myself through poetry also and had been posting it too. I feel even more down thinking about how They're laughing at how sad I am and how they're happy together now. I have been able to restrict myself from reaching out or stalking my ex even though my heart still misses her, I'd die before I decide to get back with her lol. If possible I'd like to hear everyone's experience or advice towards my situation because it have been a really heavy baggage on myself mentally and I just want it to stop. I'd also appreciate any messages anyone could give that could help me move forward from this relationship.

If anyone is curious about my last post, here is the linkPart 1

Problem/Goal: makausad sa hirap

Context: We are struggling financially. Pero hindi naman totally na wala na kami makain. Sadyang sapat lang ang sahod para sa bills at sapat lang ang natitira hanggang sa susunod na sahod. I live with my family. 3 kami may work (Me, sumunod sakin at father ko) at dalawang studyante isang college na may tuition at isang high school student. Pero sobrang tight pa rin ng budget. Sakto nalang hanggang sa susunod na sahod.

Nag decide kami ng kapatid ko na ipush ang pagbili ng ref na 2nd hand, may naka usap na ako na worth 10k at 1 year palang nagagamit, gusto kong ipush kasi malapit lang din yung naka usap ko. Wala kasi kaming ref. Wala akong hawak na cash ngayon pero meron akong 10k na credit sa SLoan. Balak ko na yun ang gamitin ko. Paghahatian rin namin yung ibabayad sa SLoan.

Ngayon, kaya ko gustong ipush yung ref na yun dahil gusto ko mag benta samin (Coffee Jelly, Graham ball, home made siomai, isaw). Madalang lang kasi may mag benta dito dahil bago palang itong subdivision na nalipatan namin (hindi purket naka subdivision ay mayaman na ah).

Since sa Tuesday ang sahod ko, naka budget na yung pang puhunan ko (1500 na puhunan, home made siomai muna ang gagawin ko). Dahil may work naman kami ng kapatid ko pati yung mga partner namin, balak namin ialok yun lahat sa workmates namin, kapag nabawi na ang puhunan, saka ako mag dagdag ng iba pa.

Sa tingin nyo po ba worth it ang plano ko na yun? Wala ako ibang loan, kahit sa work ko wala akong loan. First time ko gagamitin ang SLoan kapag nagkataon for sure kaya ko naman bayaran yun basta mag separate na ako agad ng pambayad per cut-off namin.

Ang day off ng kapatid ko ay fri-sat, ako naman at ang partner ko ay sat-sun, plano ko maglako kami ng partner ko tuwing day off namin.

Another context: next year naman ay mag aapply kami sa abroad ng partner ko, may inaayos lang kami sa docs namin, kaya habang wala pa ito muna plano ko.

Cheer nyo nga po ako huhu need ko motivation po, or baka may suggestion po kayo na pwede pang gawin? More on foods po talaga ang gusto kong ibenta since na coconsume siya ng tao.

Previous Attempts: None.

Problem/Goal:

I'm experiencing itchiness and a burning sensation inside my vagina after sex. It seems to happen whenever we use condoms and lubricant, but when we tried having sex without a condom, I didn't experience the same irritation afterward. I'm wondering if I could be allergic or sensitive to latex or the lubricant, or if it could be a UTI or another vaginal infection. Minsan, nilalagnat din ako kapag nararamdaman ko yung symptoms, kaya nag-aalala na rin ako. I'm also scared to go to the doctor, but I want to understand what's happening and what I should do.

Context:

I'm F(28), and my boyfriend is 30. We're both in our first relationship, childhood best friends turned lovers lol.

It started last month when we had sex for the first time. We used condoms and lubricant for the first time, and we made sure to clean ourselves before and after. I also peed before and after sex.

The day after, I started experiencing itchiness and a burning sensation inside my vagina. It happened again after we had sex another time, so we decided to take a break. Eventually, we tried having sex without a condom, and I didn't experience the same irritation. However, when we tried again with a condom and lubricant, the itching and burning came back.

I also have a history of UTI, although the last time I got checked for it was when I was around 20 years old. My boyfriend is worried about me, too, and he suggested that we stop having sex until I get checked by a doctor.

Previous Attempts:

We showered and cleaned ourselves before and after sex. I peed before and after sex. We used condoms and lubricant, but the symptoms came back afterward. We tried having sex without a condom, and I didn't experience the same irritation. We took a break from sex when the symptoms first appeared.

I haven't consulted a doctor yet because I'm honestly scared and anxious about getting checked, especially since it's been years since my last checkup.

I'd really appreciate hearing from anyone who has experienced something similar. Possible bang allergy or sensitivity sa latex or lubricant ito, or could it be a UTI or another vaginal infection? What should I do, and how can I overcome my fear of getting checked by a doctor?

Thank you so much for any advice or insights! ❤️

('wag na po sana kayo magcomment here kapag wala kayong magandang sasabihin. thanks!)

Problem/Goal: I can’t get into a long term relationship. Whenever I find a connection with someone, it only last about a month or so. It’s always sex after the first date, pure excitement, and then they become distant, and then I’m alone again.

Context: I’m working both as a commercial actor and a corporate worker. There, I meet a lot of people. I started to notice patterns in how this things work. They’d show up very interested, full of energy, I’d take them out on a date, we’d start making out in private, we’d go to my place or theirs, have sex, then it’ll last about a month or so, then they disappear.

I have friends, I’m very hygienic. I am often told that I’m a reserved person. I’m not nonchalant, I actually like surprising my ex partners with gifts, handmade crafts, cooking for them, acts of service and all that jazz.

Honestly, I just want to pour all this love I have to this one person, but at this rate, I’m scared of falling in love again and lose them after a month.

I’m tired, and I feel like I can never have a proper relationship.

It’s not that they ghosted me or anything, we talked about why they don’t see themselves in a relationship. What they say in common is that, they realize they’re either not yet ready to have a serious relationship, or they can’t reciprocate my love and it would feel unfair to them, and they’d feel bad.

I’m not even asking for much in a relationship, I’m okay with bare minimum, even let me do all the hardworking while you just stay by my side as my princess.

My dream is to be the best husband a wife can ever ask for. I love serving my partner, it makes me feel like the happiest person when I am.

Previous attempts:

I tried not having sex in the first month, but I’m scared that if I do, I lose them right away. I notice that most of the women I end up dating have avoidant attachment style, or at least that’s what Tiktok thinks.

I also tried to prolong the talking stage, but they end up getting bored or think that I’m talking to a lot of women or that I’m just playing around, and not taking them seriously. So it doesn’t last long or the pattern just repeats itself.

Problem/Goal: Sobrang nag s-struggle ako sa thoughts ko ngayon na pigilan na makipag usap uli sa ex ko.

Context: My ex (27M) and I (27F) broke up after being in a relationship for four years. One week pa lang since our breakup, and naging kalmado naman talaga yung conversation namin about it. Malinaw naman sa akin kung bakit kailangan na naming maghiwalay since hindi na talaga kami nakakatulong sa isa’t isa.

Pero taena, grabe yung suffering ko after just one week. Hindi ako makakain, hindi ako makatulog, at nasusuka ako. We also lived together for three years, so now that I’m living alone again, pakiramdam ko mababaliw na talaga ako. Sobrang nasanay na ako sa presensya niya.

I badly want to reach out to him and ask if we can just get back together and try to fix everything. Hindi ko na kasi kinakaya yung nararamdaman ko.

Previous attempts: Blocked naman na siya sa lahat ng socials ko. Kaso di parin enough huhu.

Please, realtalk-in niyo ako. Sobrang nakakasuka (literal) yung feeling na nag lalaban yung utak mo na wag na, while yung puso mo niroromanticize parin yung memories niyo. Please, ayoko naaaaaa

Problem/Goal: Hello everyone, I'm currently looking for a bank na may investment for 100k (this is my hard earned money for 1 year po from my current 1st job). Gusto ko po sana magka bank where my 100k will grow (mas prefer ko po sana short term na mabilis/mataas ang interest - if ever meron)

Past Attempt: I tried searching and asking. Una ko nilapitan is BPI, sabi nila meron silang Short bond Fund ata tawag doon, then 3% daily interest daw if 100k ang i invest ko. (Hindi ko pa ito na cla clarify since magsasara na si bank nung ako na yung asa counter kaya medyo minadali nila explanation and tinipid).

Then may nakita ako sa reddit regarding Banko? (I think under sya ng program ni BPI rin pero wala pa ako depth regarding dito. Nabasa ko lang is 5% interest ang kaya ibigay and maganda daw siya for money to grow.

2nd na pinuntahan or ininquire ko is BDO, meron silang offer na yung investment + death insurance siya na kasama. Every 2 years tutubo yung hinulog mo, for ex 50k sa 2 years madadagdagan sya ng 14k gano'n. (Pero di rin masyado malinaw ito if need ko ba hulugan till 8 years ito or kung pwedeng isang bagsakan like yung 50k hanggang 8 years na sana hahaha - so icla clarify ko ulit ito sa kanila).

Kung sino po sa inyo yung may mga alam na magandang investment sa bank, baka po pwede makahingi advice? This is my first hard earned money po and gusto ko pa po siya palakihin. I already have High yield savings/digital savings & MP2. Ang target ko na lang po talaga is yung bank investment and stocks. Baka po meron sa inyo may idea sa nabanggit ko or may other suggestions po kayo based sa mga experience nyo po.

Thank you po inyo.

Problem/Goal:

I'm a compulsive cheater, I need an advice on how to break the cycle.

Context:

I'm not here to justify my actions or play the victim. I know that what I've done is wrong, and I know that being hurt in the past doesn't excuse hurting other people now. I just really need to get this off my chest. Maybe putting everything into words and sharing it with strangers will help me understand myself better and finally break this cycle. Maybe I'm looking for advice, or maybe I need to hear some hard truths. I'll read your comments.

I know therapy would probably help me understand and work through this, but I can't afford it right now.

I think this started when I was 16. My first girlfriend cheated on me, and I cheated on her back to get even. I don't know if that was the beginning of everything, but I think that's when I first learned to use cheating as a way to deal with being hurt. It became a habit. I managed to keep it under control for a while during my second relationship, but then I got cheated on again. Somehow, that experience reinforced the behavior instead of making me want to stop. I'm 23 now, and this has been going on for years.

Whenever I'm in a relationship, I tend to seek attention from other people, especially when something triggers my insecurities. It could be doubt, jealousy, fear of being cheated on, or just the feeling that something isn't right. Instead of dealing with those feelings, I look for people to talk to.

And when I say people, I mean a LOT of people at the same time.

I'll create accounts and talk to different people until my mind feels overstimulated by all the conversations, attention, and new connections. I can be whoever I want to be with them. I can flirt, rant about my problems, be sexual, have deep conversations, or talk about things I wouldn't normally share with anyone. For a while, I get this rush from all the attention and novelty. It makes me feel numb to whatever is bothering me in my actual relationship.

It's like I don't have to feel the fear, insecurity, or jealousy anymore because my mind is too occupied with something else.

And then, once I get tired of it, I disappear. I block people, cut off conversations, and sometimes delete the accounts entirely. Some interactions last days, some hours, and others barely a few minutes. It doesn't even seem to matter who these people are or whether I genuinely like them. Sometimes, it feels like I'm more interested in the rush than the actual people.

The worst part is that I keep going back to it, even when I'm in relationships with people I genuinely care about.

For years, I kept doing this without getting caught. And because there were no immediate consequences, I think I stopped taking my own behavior seriously. I would tell myself I could stop whenever I wanted, but I never really addressed the reasons behind it. Eventually, I stopped trying altogether.

I'm currently dating someone who's genuinely amazing. I've never felt this loved by anyone before. She makes me feel things I haven't experienced in my previous relationships, and I know how lucky I am to have her.

But even with all that love, whenever I feel insecure about our relationship, I still fall back into the same behavior. I create other accounts, talk to people, flirt with them, and eventually delete everything as if none of it ever happened.

For the first time in years, though, I got caught.

She found out, and she still gave me another chance. She forgave me, and I promised her I would change. And I genuinely tried. For a couple of months, I didn't do it. I thought maybe I was finally getting better.

But recently, something triggered her memories of what I had done. I saw how much I had hurt her, how much damage I had caused, and how difficult it was for her to trust me again.

I don't know how to explain what happened next without sounding like I'm making excuses.

A part of me felt like I didn't deserve her. A part of me thought she was right about me all along, that I was someone who couldn't be trusted. And instead of proving that I could change, I almost felt compelled to prove that she was right.

So I did it again.

I created another account and started talking to people. But afterward, I came to my senses. I remember thinking, What the hell am I doing?

She's out here trying her best to give me another chance. She even sought therapy because she wanted to work through the pain and rebuild her trust in me. And I repaid her by doing the exact thing I promised I wouldn't do again.

I deleted the account. I wanted to tell her what happened, but I was too afraid. I couldn't bring myself to confess, hoping, I guess, that I could somehow keep it from hurting her again. But she eventually found out when she checked my phone.

Now, she's devastated. And seeing her hurt because of something I did makes me feel awful. I know I caused this. I know that she didn't deserve any of it.

I'm struggling because I genuinely want to change, but I keep repeating the same behavior even when I know the consequences. I don't want to keep hurting the people I love. I don't want to keep making promises I can't seem to uphold. And I don't want to become someone who only stops when they get caught.

I also know that wanting to change doesn't mean much if my actions keep proving otherwise.

I don't know if this is a coping mechanism I've developed, a need for validation, self-sabotage, an addiction to the attention and novelty, or some combination of these things. I don't want to self-diagnose, but I want to understand why I keep doing this even when I know it's wrong and even when I have so much to lose.

For those who have struggled with compulsive cheating, infidelity, or similar self-destructive patterns, were you ever able to stop? What actually helped you break the cycle? What did you have to confront about yourself to change?

I'm open to honest answers, even if they're harsh. I know I can't undo what I've done, and I know that my girlfriend has every right to decide she's had enough. I'm not asking how to convince her to stay or how to get her to trust me again.

I just want to understand myself, take responsibility for my actions, and figure out how to stop repeating this pattern.

I'm tired of being this person, and I genuinely want to change.

Problem/Goal: Vacuum sealed rice or oxygen absorber?

Context: Hello Everyone! So naghahanap ako ng way para magaya yung vacuum sealed rice tulad sa DSWD. May alam ba kayong nag seservice ng ganon? Meron din naman akong nahanap sa shopee for DIY pero hindi tugma ang 5 kilos packaging sa mga vacuum sealed machine below 8,000 pesos ang worth. This is for Christmas this year and hindi ko afford yung mga industrial machine na malalaki.

Ang nasa isip ko nalang ngayon is DIY rice packaging but with oxygen absorber para hindi magkaroon ng bukbok or mag try ako ng vacuum sealed rice but in smaller portion which is below 5 kg.

Baka may advice kayo diyan maliban sa packaging na nabanggit ko po or may other way para mas mapadali po. If may nag seservice po ng ganito mas maganda po para hindi na hassle sa side ko.

Previous Attempt: Still looking sa facebook and other social media for this one.

problem/goal: i got laid off work right in the middle of paying bills

context: i work at a us-based company and they laid me off with no warnings. i was "informed" last monday by my manager na we should expect the worse. that was a subtle sign to look for work because the company was struggling. tapos by tuesday, i was already terminated. wala man lang notice and although i understand the situation of the company, para kong nassuffocate kasi i have bills to pay. my payables monthly is roughly 15k, i'm living paycheck to paycheck recently kasi naguubos ako ng mga utang. i started paying off my debts second half of this year tas biglang nawalan ng income so now idk what to do. i still have my last paycheck but that will barely cover my bills until november.

have been applying nonstop since monday tapos nagcconsider na rin ako ng options to loan ulit. sobrang labag sa loob ko patungan nang utang yung utang, pero if it comes to it and wala talaga kong makuha na work agad, baka meron kayong idea where to loan with longer payment terms? though nakakapanghina ng loob kasi i would need to loan at least 40k to live through the end of the year. san pa ko kukuha nung pangbayad dun sa loan na yun, di ko na rin alam.

baka may alam din kayong hiring diyan pls kahit hourly or mga survey kukunin ko na 😓

previous attempts: none