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Problem/goal: bumabalik nanaman sakin ang ex boyfriend ko dahil ayaw sakanya nung babaeng gusto nya talaga.

Context: Naging kami ng ex-boyfriend ko for 5 years, and first relationship namin ang isa’t isa. Nag-break kami kasi pareho na kaming drained sa relationship. Weeks after our breakup, may mga babae na agad siyang nakakausap hanggang sa may nakilala siyang girl na sobrang type niya. Ilang days pa lang silang nag-uusap, binigyan na niya agad ng bouquet of flowers, something na never niyang ginawa for me kahit 5 years kaming magkasama. Nung nalaman ko ’yon, medyo nasaktan ako kasi I realized na kaya naman pala niyang gawin ’yon, hindi lang talaga niya ginawa para sa akin. Kaya binlock ko siya sa lahat ng socials ko para wala na akong malaman tungkol sa kanya. Pero kahit binlock ko siya, naghahanap pa rin siya ng ways para i-contact ako, even through my number and other accounts. Nagtaka ako kasi alam ko namang may gusto na siyang iba. Eventually, nalaman ko na ayaw sa kanya nung girl at hindi na siya masyadong nirereplyan. Doon ko rin nalaman na marami pa pala siyang ibang babae na kinakausap, pero parang bumabalik lang siya sa akin ngayon kasi hindi siya nabigyan ng chance nung girl na talagang gusto niya. Honestly, I don’t know what to think anymore, pero I can’t help but feel like he’s only coming back because things didn’t work out with the girl he wanted, and I don’t want to be someone’s second choice. thoughts po?

Problem/Goal:

My boyfriend wants to have sex every day, sometimes multiple times a day, and I’m getting so exhausted na hindi na kaya ng katawan ko. I’ve already communicated this to him before, pero bumabalik at bumabalik lang kami sa ganitong routine. Recently, things got worse when he tried forcing me even though I kept saying no. I honestly don’t know what to do anymore, especially since ayaw niya rin makipag-cool off or magstay muna kami separately.

Context:

I (21F) am a graduating college student, and my boyfriend (20M) and I have been living together for almost a year na.

Nung bago pa lang kami nagli-live in, okay and exciting naman yung idea of having sex every day. I enjoy sex, too, pero habang tumatagal, nakakapagod na talaga, especially after long days of school and duty. Minsan, gusto ko na lang humiga at magpahinga kasi wala na talaga akong energy.

There was one time na we had sex for almost two hours, and sobrang pagod ko the next day to the point na I failed a major quiz. I told him about it, and he stopped initiating sex for about two weeks. Akala ko magiging okay na, pero after that, bumalik na naman kami sa dati.

We can have sex up to three times a day, and halos walang palya araw-araw. Lately, I'm experiencing pain down there every time we have sex. Sumasakit na rin hips and lower back ko kasi he likes it rough and fast. Sometimes, he initiates sex kahit tulog ako, habang nakahiga lang ako sa bed scrolling through my phone, or even habang naliligo ako.

My libido has been really low lately, and I'm not sure if may effect ba yung contraceptive implant ko or if it's because I'm just physically exhausted. At this point, parang ayoko na munang makipag-sex kasi pagod na pagod na talaga ako.

Yesterday, I didn't want to have sex, and thankfully, he respected my decision. Pero today, mas naging aggressive siya than usual. He kept asking for sex kahit paulit-ulit akong nagsasabi ng no, and he was pinning me down. He only stopped trying when I started crying.

Honestly, hindi ko na alam gagawin ko. Parang mas nanggigigil siya kapag may isang araw na walang sex. Ngayon na dalawang araw na kaming walang sex, I don't even know what to expect. I'm starting to feel anxious about saying no because I don't know how he'll react.

I also suggested na mag-cool off muna kami or magstay muna kami sa respective parents namin para magkaroon kami ng space from each other, pero ayaw niya.

Previous Attempts:

1. I talked to him about how exhausted I was. I explained how having sex for long periods was affecting my physical condition and even my academics. He stopped initiating for two weeks, pero bumalik din sa dati.

2. I tried saying no when I didn't feel like having sex. Yesterday, he respected my decision, pero today, he became aggressive, kept insisting kahit ilang beses na akong tumanggi, and pinned me down until I cried.

3. I suggested na mag-cool off muna or magstay kami separately. I thought having some space would help me rest and think things through, pero ayaw niya.

Problem/Goal: Hello! Ask ko lang sana kung ano kayang magandang gawin instead na magregalo sa mga pinsan ko this Christmas🎄.

Context: Mga 13 sila, kasama na yung kapatid ko, and most likely teenagers na rin sila. Ako ang oldest na apo 27F sa side ng mama ko. Every year kasi, simula noong nag work ako nag bibigay ako sa kanila ng gift, hinihingi ko wishlist nila. Kaso magre-resign na ako sa 4 years toxic work ko🤣, and baka next year wala pa akong work, so hindi ko rin alam kung may budget pa ako para sa gifts.

I'm thinking na instead na bumili ng kanya-kanyang regalo, ano kayang pwedeng gawin? something na maeenjoy naming lahat. or kung gift man something memorable sana.

Problem/Goal: So yung mama ko plano pumanta sa resident ni papa ngayon without his knowledge and she explicitly told na wag daw ipaalam sakanya

Context: So my parents have been practically separated since elementary palang ako kasi nagcheat si papa. Grabe pa naman yung away nila na to the point halos every time magkita or magusap sila nahahantong sa away. Nagbabato ng mga gamit (plato, baso anything na nababasag XD) tas palitan ng mga salita.

There's one time na kumain kami sa Andoks then naisipan ni mama na iwanan si papa habang natutulog siya sa table kasi napagod sa trabaho. Ayun naglakad kami pauwi sa gitna ng gabi, mind you yung lugar na kinainan namin 8km away from home. Then nagising si papa sakay motor para habulin kami tas pinasakay kmi para makauwi na kami, nagaaway pa yan sila ha. Pero yung mas malala na naalala ko yung sa gitna ng away nila nawitness ko talaga na magbibigti si mama dahil sa lala na ng problema nila, Grade 1 palang ako nun.

Fast forward to the present day, college na ako and nasa manila na ako nagaaral, nakatira ako right kay kina papa kasama yung babae niya. Okay naman yung pakikitungo nila sakin pero I'm still putting some boundaries kasi sa lala ng pinagdaanan ko. So pupunta daw si mama dito para icheck ako, kaso I'm hesitant baka magaway or kaya ako yung naman ang awayin dito sa tinitirhan kong bahay. Paghinde ko naman masunod gusto sasabihin na nahilo na nila ako or whatever.

Idk talaga kung saan ako lulugar hayop tong buhay na to, bat kasi ito yung naibigay sakin.

Edit: So far okay na naman yung parents ko di na masyado nagaaway pero bruh, yung nga natatakot ako na baka magaway sila dito especially sa babae ni papa or ako awayin nila papa after neto. Bago lang ko dito sa manila natira kela papa 4months palang to be exact.

Problem/Goal:

I'm a compulsive cheater, I need an advice on how to break the cycle.

Context:

I'm not here to justify my actions or play the victim. I know that what I've done is wrong, and I know that being hurt in the past doesn't excuse hurting other people now. I just really need to get this off my chest. Maybe putting everything into words and sharing it with strangers will help me understand myself better and finally break this cycle. Maybe I'm looking for advice, or maybe I need to hear some hard truths. I'll read your comments.

I know therapy would probably help me understand and work through this, but I can't afford it right now.

I think this started when I was 16. My first girlfriend cheated on me, and I cheated on her back to get even. I don't know if that was the beginning of everything, but I think that's when I first learned to use cheating as a way to deal with being hurt. It became a habit. I managed to keep it under control for a while during my second relationship, but then I got cheated on again. Somehow, that experience reinforced the behavior instead of making me want to stop. I'm 23 now, and this has been going on for years.

Whenever I'm in a relationship, I tend to seek attention from other people, especially when something triggers my insecurities. It could be doubt, jealousy, fear of being cheated on, or just the feeling that something isn't right. Instead of dealing with those feelings, I look for people to talk to.

And when I say people, I mean a LOT of people at the same time.

I'll create accounts and talk to different people until my mind feels overstimulated by all the conversations, attention, and new connections. I can be whoever I want to be with them. I can flirt, rant about my problems, be sexual, have deep conversations, or talk about things I wouldn't normally share with anyone. For a while, I get this rush from all the attention and novelty. It makes me feel numb to whatever is bothering me in my actual relationship.

It's like I don't have to feel the fear, insecurity, or jealousy anymore because my mind is too occupied with something else.

And then, once I get tired of it, I disappear. I block people, cut off conversations, and sometimes delete the accounts entirely. Some interactions last days, some hours, and others barely a few minutes. It doesn't even seem to matter who these people are or whether I genuinely like them. Sometimes, it feels like I'm more interested in the rush than the actual people.

The worst part is that I keep going back to it, even when I'm in relationships with people I genuinely care about.

For years, I kept doing this without getting caught. And because there were no immediate consequences, I think I stopped taking my own behavior seriously. I would tell myself I could stop whenever I wanted, but I never really addressed the reasons behind it. Eventually, I stopped trying altogether.

I'm currently dating someone who's genuinely amazing. I've never felt this loved by anyone before. She makes me feel things I haven't experienced in my previous relationships, and I know how lucky I am to have her.

But even with all that love, whenever I feel insecure about our relationship, I still fall back into the same behavior. I create other accounts, talk to people, flirt with them, and eventually delete everything as if none of it ever happened.

For the first time in years, though, I got caught.

She found out, and she still gave me another chance. She forgave me, and I promised her I would change. And I genuinely tried. For a couple of months, I didn't do it. I thought maybe I was finally getting better.

But recently, something triggered her memories of what I had done. I saw how much I had hurt her, how much damage I had caused, and how difficult it was for her to trust me again.

I don't know how to explain what happened next without sounding like I'm making excuses.

A part of me felt like I didn't deserve her. A part of me thought she was right about me all along, that I was someone who couldn't be trusted. And instead of proving that I could change, I almost felt compelled to prove that she was right.

So I did it again.

I created another account and started talking to people. But afterward, I came to my senses. I remember thinking, What the hell am I doing?

She's out here trying her best to give me another chance. She even sought therapy because she wanted to work through the pain and rebuild her trust in me. And I repaid her by doing the exact thing I promised I wouldn't do again.

I deleted the account. I wanted to tell her what happened, but I was too afraid. I couldn't bring myself to confess, hoping, I guess, that I could somehow keep it from hurting her again. But she eventually found out when she checked my phone.

Now, she's devastated. And seeing her hurt because of something I did makes me feel awful. I know I caused this. I know that she didn't deserve any of it.

I'm struggling because I genuinely want to change, but I keep repeating the same behavior even when I know the consequences. I don't want to keep hurting the people I love. I don't want to keep making promises I can't seem to uphold. And I don't want to become someone who only stops when they get caught.

I also know that wanting to change doesn't mean much if my actions keep proving otherwise.

I don't know if this is a coping mechanism I've developed, a need for validation, self-sabotage, an addiction to the attention and novelty, or some combination of these things. I don't want to self-diagnose, but I want to understand why I keep doing this even when I know it's wrong and even when I have so much to lose.

For those who have struggled with compulsive cheating, infidelity, or similar self-destructive patterns, were you ever able to stop? What actually helped you break the cycle? What did you have to confront about yourself to change?

I'm open to honest answers, even if they're harsh. I know I can't undo what I've done, and I know that my girlfriend has every right to decide she's had enough. I'm not asking how to convince her to stay or how to get her to trust me again.

I just want to understand myself, take responsibility for my actions, and figure out how to stop repeating this pattern.

I'm tired of being this person, and I genuinely want to change.

problem/goal: i got laid off work right in the middle of paying bills

context: i work at a us-based company and they laid me off with no warnings. i was "informed" last monday by my manager na we should expect the worse. that was a subtle sign to look for work because the company was struggling. tapos by tuesday, i was already terminated. wala man lang notice and although i understand the situation of the company, para kong nassuffocate kasi i have bills to pay. my payables monthly is roughly 15k, i'm living paycheck to paycheck recently kasi naguubos ako ng mga utang. i started paying off my debts second half of this year tas biglang nawalan ng income so now idk what to do. i still have my last paycheck but that will barely cover my bills until november.

have been applying nonstop since monday tapos nagcconsider na rin ako ng options to loan ulit. sobrang labag sa loob ko patungan nang utang yung utang, pero if it comes to it and wala talaga kong makuha na work agad, baka meron kayong idea where to loan with longer payment terms? though nakakapanghina ng loob kasi i would need to loan at least 40k to live through the end of the year. san pa ko kukuha nung pangbayad dun sa loan na yun, di ko na rin alam.

baka may alam din kayong hiring diyan pls kahit hourly or mga survey kukunin ko na 😓

previous attempts: none

Problem/Goal:

It’s been 7 months since my breakup, and I thought I was already healing. But after stalking my ex’s profile, I realized na galit pa rin pala ako. I don’t miss him or want him back, but I’m still angry about what he did. How do I let go of this resentment and finally find peace?

Context:

We lived together for 4 years, and our relationship ended because I caught him cheating twice. Since the breakup, we haven’t been mutuals on social media, so I haven’t seen anything about him. I’ve been focusing on my new job, keeping myself busy, and rebuilding my life.

I genuinely thought I was doing better until I stalked his profile. Seeing him again brought back all the anger and memories of what happened. I don’t want to hate him forever, and I want to forgive him eventually, but I’m starting to question whether I’m actually healing or just distracting myself with work and other things.

Previous Attempts:

I’ve been focusing on work, spending time with friends, and keeping myself busy. I haven’t been checking his social media for 7 months until recently.

I know healing isn’t linear, but I thought I’d be in a better place by now.

For those who’ve experienced something similar, is it normal to still feel this angry after 7 months? How did you know you were genuinely healing? And how did you finally let go of the resentment?

I don’t want him back. I just want to reach a point where what he did no longer hurts or makes me angry. Does it really get better?

Problem/Goal: I am 33. I quit my call center job, no family, no children, no partner. My mom said I should just continue studying, since I haven't completed my degree yet. She is also asking me for a grandchild, and I don't know how. I don't know what to do.

Before, I look forward to playing games or watching some anime, but now, I just feel nothing. I don't have any goals in life anymore.

I kept on being sad, to the point of becoming lost. Hoping it's not depr*ssion. This isn't the first time that it happened. Every few years, this happens. I used to excel at school and sports when I was younger, but now, it's all gone. I don't know what to do anymore. Please give me some advice.

Problem/Goal: 2023 palang nagstart ko na nakitaan phone niya ng emails and ads abt “live chat”. Meron din naman syang history ng porn, like almost everyday pero dahil nacacallout ko siya doon tinatago nalang niya. It’s not like porn is bad or what, nagiging mali lang pag I think sobra na and despite opening up that you’re not comfortable with it, gagawin padin at mas itatago.

Context: We have been together since 2023, meron na din kaming baby. Nag LDR kami before and everytime uuwi siya, yung phone nya bawat scroll mo puro ads ng babaeng nakahubad. Spam emails are also filled with the same context. “Live Chat” I do watch porn pero not that often tsaka even if I do open some sites, hindi naman nagkakaganon algo ko unless I’m clicking it multiple times or maybe I will try to log in (my theory)

Meron din siyang gambling addiction. So I do believe na kakambal ng pagsusugal ang pagsisinungaling, pagnanakaw at pananraydor. It’s just so hard to leave kahit ginagawa nyang impyerno buhay namin.

Previous Attempts:
Yes I have talked to him not just once, twice or thrice. More than na. Ilang beses na din may kapatawaran and agreement to stop doing it but ayon nga lately those emails and ads started to pop out again and he was just like “hindi ko alam yan” So I’m just wondering since this time I can’t show any proof, does he really surf those sites?

Nakakapagod maging tanga para sa anak.

Problem/Goal: My ex and her new partner (who came from cheating) keeps on stalking me and It's ruining me mentally.

Context: If anyone remembers me, I was the guy who had posted about being problematic about intimacy and how it was ruining me mentally because I could'nt stop looking for my ex sexually towards other people, this would be considered a part two of my story I guess. My ex and the person she cheated on me with keeps on stalking me through the means of dumps, other's social accounts, or even old ones I forgot to block throughout various social media platforms and even in my online game accounts. It had been mentally exhausting seeing my ex and her new partner browsing through my accounts and it's making me think They're flourishing on my despair, I had been deeply inlove with my ex and she was my everything so yeah that break up was really depressing, I had been reposting relatable reels or videos that goes through my fyp and now I feel like that's a bad thing, I had been expressing myself through poetry also and had been posting it too. I feel even more down thinking about how They're laughing at how sad I am and how they're happy together now. I have been able to restrict myself from reaching out or stalking my ex even though my heart still misses her, I'd die before I decide to get back with her lol. If possible I'd like to hear everyone's experience or advice towards my situation because it have been a really heavy baggage on myself mentally and I just want it to stop. I'd also appreciate any messages anyone could give that could help me move forward from this relationship.

If anyone is curious about my last post, here is the linkPart 1

Problem/Goal:

I'm experiencing itchiness and a burning sensation inside my vagina after sex. It seems to happen whenever we use condoms and lubricant, but when we tried having sex without a condom, I didn't experience the same irritation afterward. I'm wondering if I could be allergic or sensitive to latex or the lubricant, or if it could be a UTI or another vaginal infection. Minsan, nilalagnat din ako kapag nararamdaman ko yung symptoms, kaya nag-aalala na rin ako. I'm also scared to go to the doctor, but I want to understand what's happening and what I should do.

Context:

I'm F(28), and my boyfriend is 30. We're both in our first relationship, childhood best friends turned lovers lol.

It started last month when we had sex for the first time. We used condoms and lubricant for the first time, and we made sure to clean ourselves before and after. I also peed before and after sex.

The day after, I started experiencing itchiness and a burning sensation inside my vagina. It happened again after we had sex another time, so we decided to take a break. Eventually, we tried having sex without a condom, and I didn't experience the same irritation. However, when we tried again with a condom and lubricant, the itching and burning came back.

I also have a history of UTI, although the last time I got checked for it was when I was around 20 years old. My boyfriend is worried about me, too, and he suggested that we stop having sex until I get checked by a doctor.

Previous Attempts:

We showered and cleaned ourselves before and after sex. I peed before and after sex. We used condoms and lubricant, but the symptoms came back afterward. We tried having sex without a condom, and I didn't experience the same irritation. We took a break from sex when the symptoms first appeared.

I haven't consulted a doctor yet because I'm honestly scared and anxious about getting checked, especially since it's been years since my last checkup.

I'd really appreciate hearing from anyone who has experienced something similar. Possible bang allergy or sensitivity sa latex or lubricant ito, or could it be a UTI or another vaginal infection? What should I do, and how can I overcome my fear of getting checked by a doctor?

Thank you so much for any advice or insights! ❤️

('wag na po sana kayo magcomment here kapag wala kayong magandang sasabihin. thanks!)

Problem/Goal: I can’t get into a long term relationship. Whenever I find a connection with someone, it only last about a month or so. It’s always sex after the first date, pure excitement, and then they become distant, and then I’m alone again.

Context: I’m working both as a commercial actor and a corporate worker. There, I meet a lot of people. I started to notice patterns in how this things work. They’d show up very interested, full of energy, I’d take them out on a date, we’d start making out in private, we’d go to my place or theirs, have sex, then it’ll last about a month or so, then they disappear.

I have friends, I’m very hygienic. I am often told that I’m a reserved person. I’m not nonchalant, I actually like surprising my ex partners with gifts, handmade crafts, cooking for them, acts of service and all that jazz.

Honestly, I just want to pour all this love I have to this one person, but at this rate, I’m scared of falling in love again and lose them after a month.

I’m tired, and I feel like I can never have a proper relationship.

It’s not that they ghosted me or anything, we talked about why they don’t see themselves in a relationship. What they say in common is that, they realize they’re either not yet ready to have a serious relationship, or they can’t reciprocate my love and it would feel unfair to them, and they’d feel bad.

I’m not even asking for much in a relationship, I’m okay with bare minimum, even let me do all the hardworking while you just stay by my side as my princess.

My dream is to be the best husband a wife can ever ask for. I love serving my partner, it makes me feel like the happiest person when I am.

Previous attempts:

I tried not having sex in the first month, but I’m scared that if I do, I lose them right away. I notice that most of the women I end up dating have avoidant attachment style, or at least that’s what Tiktok thinks.

I also tried to prolong the talking stage, but they end up getting bored or think that I’m talking to a lot of women or that I’m just playing around, and not taking them seriously. So it doesn’t last long or the pattern just repeats itself.

Problem/Goal: Sobrang nag s-struggle ako sa thoughts ko ngayon na pigilan na makipag usap uli sa ex ko.

Context: My ex (27M) and I (27F) broke up after being in a relationship for four years. One week pa lang since our breakup, and naging kalmado naman talaga yung conversation namin about it. Malinaw naman sa akin kung bakit kailangan na naming maghiwalay since hindi na talaga kami nakakatulong sa isa’t isa.

Pero taena, grabe yung suffering ko after just one week. Hindi ako makakain, hindi ako makatulog, at nasusuka ako. We also lived together for three years, so now that I’m living alone again, pakiramdam ko mababaliw na talaga ako. Sobrang nasanay na ako sa presensya niya.

I badly want to reach out to him and ask if we can just get back together and try to fix everything. Hindi ko na kasi kinakaya yung nararamdaman ko.

Previous attempts: Blocked naman na siya sa lahat ng socials ko. Kaso di parin enough huhu.

Please, realtalk-in niyo ako. Sobrang nakakasuka (literal) yung feeling na nag lalaban yung utak mo na wag na, while yung puso mo niroromanticize parin yung memories niyo. Please, ayoko naaaaaa

Problem/Goal: Hello everyone, I'm currently looking for a bank na may investment for 100k (this is my hard earned money for 1 year po from my current 1st job). Gusto ko po sana magka bank where my 100k will grow (mas prefer ko po sana short term na mabilis/mataas ang interest - if ever meron)

Past Attempt: I tried searching and asking. Una ko nilapitan is BPI, sabi nila meron silang Short bond Fund ata tawag doon, then 3% daily interest daw if 100k ang i invest ko. (Hindi ko pa ito na cla clarify since magsasara na si bank nung ako na yung asa counter kaya medyo minadali nila explanation and tinipid).

Then may nakita ako sa reddit regarding Banko? (I think under sya ng program ni BPI rin pero wala pa ako depth regarding dito. Nabasa ko lang is 5% interest ang kaya ibigay and maganda daw siya for money to grow.

2nd na pinuntahan or ininquire ko is BDO, meron silang offer na yung investment + death insurance siya na kasama. Every 2 years tutubo yung hinulog mo, for ex 50k sa 2 years madadagdagan sya ng 14k gano'n. (Pero di rin masyado malinaw ito if need ko ba hulugan till 8 years ito or kung pwedeng isang bagsakan like yung 50k hanggang 8 years na sana hahaha - so icla clarify ko ulit ito sa kanila).

Kung sino po sa inyo yung may mga alam na magandang investment sa bank, baka po pwede makahingi advice? This is my first hard earned money po and gusto ko pa po siya palakihin. I already have High yield savings/digital savings & MP2. Ang target ko na lang po talaga is yung bank investment and stocks. Baka po meron sa inyo may idea sa nabanggit ko or may other suggestions po kayo based sa mga experience nyo po.

Thank you po inyo.

Problem/Goal: Vacuum sealed rice or oxygen absorber?

Context: Hello Everyone! So naghahanap ako ng way para magaya yung vacuum sealed rice tulad sa DSWD. May alam ba kayong nag seservice ng ganon? Meron din naman akong nahanap sa shopee for DIY pero hindi tugma ang 5 kilos packaging sa mga vacuum sealed machine below 8,000 pesos ang worth. This is for Christmas this year and hindi ko afford yung mga industrial machine na malalaki.

Ang nasa isip ko nalang ngayon is DIY rice packaging but with oxygen absorber para hindi magkaroon ng bukbok or mag try ako ng vacuum sealed rice but in smaller portion which is below 5 kg.

Baka may advice kayo diyan maliban sa packaging na nabanggit ko po or may other way para mas mapadali po. If may nag seservice po ng ganito mas maganda po para hindi na hassle sa side ko.

Previous Attempt: Still looking sa facebook and other social media for this one.

Problem/Goal:

Problem: May nakuha kaming dalawang all-around kasambahay kaso problematic at pasaway sila pareho habang nasa 15-day probationary period.

Goal: Gusto ko malaman kung dapat ko pa ba bigyan ng chance o i-cut na ang losses namin. I also want to know what we're doing wrong here.

Context:

Growing up, we had a revolving door of relatives that would come and live with us for free lodgings or mga pinsan ko na "aampunin" ng Mom ko para pag aralin so they can have a better future. Dahil kami kami lang sa bahay, binibigyan na lang sila ni Mama ng allowance dahil sila din naman ang nakilos sa bahay. In the end, we decided to cut (most of) them off kasi mga abusado and walang respeto na. 3 na lang kami sa bahay. Mom, myself, and my uncle (Mom's BIL) who's basically an all-around house boy/gardener/etc.

To lessen his workload, napag desisyunan namin na mag hire na lang ng 2 kasambahay na stay-in, para din laging may kasama si Mama (she has a lot of chronic health issues) sa bahay in case may lakad ako.

• Helper A: Masipag at malinis sa bahay pero may pagkaintrimitida (sumasabat sa usapan ng mga bisita ni Mama). Ang pinakamalaking red flag ay ang sunod-sunod na bale (mahigit ₱3,500+ sa loob ng wala pang isang linggo) dahil sa iba't ibang emergency sa pamilya. After 3 days of working, hiningi agad yung sahod niya kasi wala na daw silang pang bili ng bigas. Pinagbigyan namin kasi baka kailangang kailangan nila. Kinabukasan, bumale na naman ng 500 kasi nakagat daw ng aso ang mama niya kailangan daw magpa injection. Nung sunod na bukas naman, nadulas daw sa cr ang mama niya. Na stroke at nabagok kaya 50/50 na daw dahil may previous episode of stroke na nung Sept. Bumale ulit ng 3k kasi may kailangan daw bilihin na gamot. A few days after, pina tanggal na nila sa life support kasi tinapat na sila ng Doctor na mababa na daw ang chance.

Dahil sa lamay, umaalis siya gabi-gabi at bumabalik kinaumagahan. Kanina, nag sabi siya sa akin na sisilipin lang daw niya saglit ang anak niya (13 y/o) dahil natatakot daw kasi mag isa na lang sa bahay. Sabi pa niya ay magpapaalam siya kay Mama. Ang ending, hindi nag paalam kaya ako pa ang nag sabi kay Mama na umalis siya. Tapos maya maya ay nag chat sa akin na bukas ng umaga na lang daw siya babalik.

• Helper B: Si Helper A ang nagpasok sa kanya. Napapansin namin na kailangan pa siyang i guide o utusan ni A. Walang sariling kusa sa trabaho at hindi marunong magluto (sinunog ang fishball, nagpiprito sa malamig na mantika). May severe health issue rin siya na hindi nabanggit sa interview. Mataas ang sugar at nag-iinsulin na dati pero itinigil niya dahil nanghihina raw siya, at ayaw uminom ng Metformin dahil sa maling akala na nakakasira daw 'yon ng kidney. May time na nahilo at nanghina siya sa trabaho kaya si Helper A ay pinapag pahinga na lang at siya ang sumasalo ng mga gawain.

Previous Attempts:

Pinagbigyan at pina bale namin si Helper A dahil inisip namin na kailangan talaga nila ng pera at okay lang muna kahit hindi nasusunod ang pagiging stay-in niya out of consideration sa pagkamatay ng Mama niya. Kaso ay baka mamihasa naman na ganitong magdadahilan para lumabas ng gabi tapos babanatan ako sa chat ng excuses para bukas na lang bumalik. Kay B naman, wala namang issue yung choice ni A na pag pahingahin siya at akuin ang trabaho, kaso lang ay hindi feasible in the long run ang ganitong set up at dahil nga hindi managed properly ang sugar niya ay baka kung ano pa ang mangyari sa kanya dito.

Si B ay nag day off kanina. Parang ayaw na namin pabalikin. Ito namang si A ang problema dahil nga over pa sa bale. Kaso kung ganito lang din naman lagi ay iniisip ko kung i let go na namin at hayaan na ang bale niya.

Ano ba ang magandang gawin sa mga 'to? Are we being unreasonable especially with Helper A? Please let me know your advices/opinions.

Problem/Goal: 24F, how do you make friends at work as an adult? 3 months na ako sa new workplace ko pero wala pa rin akong kaclose. Gusto ko sana maging friends yung coworkers ko pero nahihiya akong mag-initiate kasi baka magmukha akong FC or desperada.

Context: I recently shifted industries and now work at a construction firm. Admin side yung role ko while most of my coworkers are architects, so minsan nahihirapan akong makarelate sa conversations nila. Same age range naman kami and they seem like fun people to be around, kaya gusto ko sana silang makaclose.

I know it’s not right to compare but sa previous companies ko (bpo industry), naging genuine friends ko talaga yung coworkers ko. We hung out outside work and shared personal stuff. I’m actually bubbly and makwela once comfortable na ako sa tao, but idk bakit ba sobrang tahimik ko ngayon.

Previous Attempts: I’ve been trying to familiarize myself with them, pero nahihiya akong biglang makisali sa conversations or mag-message out of nowhere. Part of me wants to make an extra effort, pero part of me also wants to let friendships happen naturally.

For those who’ve experienced this, paano kayo naging close sa coworkers niyo? Do you actively initiate conversations or just let things happen naturally? How do you get past the awkward stage without feeling like you’re forcing yourself into their circle?

Problem/Goal: Life Dilemma/Stable Career and Future

Hello, (25) M here, naapprove na yung petition namin to USA for my parents although kaming magkakapatid not sure pa since we are past the age of 21. Our finances here are pretty good na tas RCE na ako working for 1 year in a okay job. Sa totoo lang, ayaw ko umalis if I do not have to. Andaming icconsider: Parents ko malakas pa pero I ayaw na nila siguro magwork ng physically demanding job. I'd probably have to work 2 jobs doon. Also, hinde ko alam kung gaano katagal lalabas ang citizenship after ko magreen card. Edi, during that time LDR kami ng gf ko. Plus the fact na, wala kaming permanent home sa US unlike dito.

In short, blessed na buhay namin here sa PH. Pero I know for a fact na andaming nangangarap sa abroad, nagaalala ako if pinapalagpas ko yung opportunity nato or am I just being smart? Para saakin kasi ang pag abroad ay case to case basis e. Ang nakikita kong path sa US ay working student (obviously through student debt), I am not sure what type of career na kasi the threat of AI taking your job dun is much more likely. If I truly see it logical and worth it, okay lang kahit mahirap e. Pero if mas malaki ang potential ko dito, kaya bang talunin talaga ng US society and economy ang possible quality of life na pwede kong maachieve dito? I am honestly lost, gaya ng lahat gusto ko ang best para saamin lahat. Maappreciate ko mga mag aadvice here thanks! Godbless sainyo!

Problem/Goal: Maghanap na lang ba ako ng sugar mommy? Mang scam na lang din ba ako? Magloan sa mga lending apps na malapit na maraid sabay wag na bayaran?

Context: Yung mga nag iillegal laging nasa travel, laging may bagong gamit, may dalawang kotse o motor, tapos yung mga lumalaban nang patas nakikipagsapalaran pa rin sa commuting, living paycheck to paycheck lang. My friend got scammed last Monday. He was a nice guy, he didnt deserve that. Why do those scammers and people doing illegal get to enjoy and live their life while us r stucked surviving?Ang hirap mabuhay nang marangal at mabuti kung nakikita mong mas nakikinabang at masaya yung mga illegal ang ginagawa. Halos lahat ng problema ko, pera ang sagot.

Problem/Goal: Hi! I'm having a hard time with my career right now. The problem is idk how should I shift my career right now since the market is over saturated. Kung makahanap man ako client grabe super lowball. I don't wanna go back sa hospitality/F&B Industry cause I've been there and I know how it is. Any advice for me 🥹

Context: I graduated with the course in Hospitality Management Majoring in Cruise Line Operations. Naging barista ako for 1 year but nung nag pandemic most of my years onwards what I did for work was video editing and admin support for international clients since I had the passion + hobby to edit videos naman.

Problem/goal: parang cycle ko to, minsan okay ako minsan hindi but these past few days na naman ata im not sure. feel ko parang super tamad kong tao like wala akong gana sa lahat ng bagay to the point na tinatamad ako pumasok sa school huhu

context: 3rd yr college student ako na nag aaral sa hometown ko so nakatira parin ako sa house ng parents ko, ever since 1st yr ako hindi ko talaga makuha yung peace at tamang pahinga sa buhay ko, like lagi akong nagpupuyat kasi feel ko parang madaling araw na lang yung "ME TIME" ko plus tahimik. but kinabukasan ayan laban ulit and dagdag na rin yung problems ko financially like i cant even thought about dating someone sa kalagayan ng life ko rn :((

previous attempts: ive tried naman side hustling to help ease my mind pero di rin tumagal and rn incoming 4th yr na ako, gusto ko sana pagka graduate ko maghanap agad ng job so that i can make my own money na ayaw ko na maging tambay sa bahay

any advice what to do? pls be genuine

Problem/Goal:

I am 25F, and I’m planning to get my 46-year-old father an insurance policy. However, I was diagnosed with SLE (Systemic Lupus Erythematosus), and lately, I’ve been having second thoughts about this decision. Since I’ll be the one paying for my father’s insurance, I can’t help but think, what if I’m the one who passes away first? My siblings are still minors, and we no longer have our mom. I’m worried about what would happen to them and to the insurance policy if I were no longer around to pay the premiums.

Context:
I genuinely want to secure my father’s future, but I’m also afraid that all the money I’ve invested in the policy might go to waste if it lapses because I can no longer maintain the payments.

For those who have experience with insurance or have been in a similar situation, would you still recommend getting my father insured, or should I consider other options? Are there insurance policies that could remain in force or provide some protection if the person paying the premiums passes away?

I know this is a difficult thing to think about, especially at my age, but having SLE has made me more aware of my own mortality and the uncertainty of the future. I just want to make a wise decision for my family, especially for my younger siblings, who still depend on me.

I would really appreciate any advice or insights. Thank you!

Previous Attempt: Already talked to an agent, and sabi niya na ma la-lapse raw yung policy if hindi tuloy tuloy nabayaran. With this, she advised me na encourage my Tita na tumutulong samin na sabihan about sa policy.

Problem/Goal: Find a shop to print photos for my custom locket.

Context: Wife passed away and I have her engagement and wedding rings. Naisip ko ipatunaw and gawing locket kung saan din namin pinagawa yung rings. Syempre, di kasama yung pagprint ng photo since hindi naman nila forte yun.

Previous attempts:
1. Nagtry ako magpaprint sa random printing shop then sakin galing yung photo paper and sila ang nagedit ng photo. Di maganda yung quality.
2. Nagtanong tanong ako sa mga photo studio/printing sa malls pero gusto nila ako ang magreresize ng photo since custom size sya. I tried pero ang low quality kapag ineexport ko na kahit high quality yung photo.