Ok, just a pad?

Well, a tampon and a pad, they are in the other bathroom (I know).

I love how self assured and secure kids feel these days to get what they need. Growing up my sister would have never dared discuss her period with our dad.

Kids these days are amazing.

I saw this advice given on an Instagram reel. You’re supposed to ask your kid this question. So I asked my 8 year old at bedtime and she said with a straight face, “A garbage can full of garbage.” Now I really regret following this stupid Instagram advice. I put my entire soul into parenting and my kid is an angel. Just griping here. Thanks for reading

Hey everyone looking for advice on disciplining my daughter, she’s 8. As she gets older the more she simply doesn’t listen. She’s constantly throwing water bottles, snack wrappers, dirty pull-ups, etc on the floor on a daily basis despite me telling her not to. We have a rabbit who freeroams our one room and I constantly tell her not to give him things besides his food, she throws toys, my lint roller just last night, parts of my vacuum she threw in there - and i tell her almost daily not to throw anything in there. Her attitude is off the charts anymore to top it off. She just does not listen. She’s a great sweet kid but the above is impossible to manage.

We do time out, and take the pad away but honestly these punishments aren’t doing much at this point it’s almost comical to her. I don’t know what else to do and what may work. We’ve tried reward charts previously and that didn’t do a damn thing. Is this normal 8 year old behavior or disciplining error on my end? Love all tips, thanks everyone!

My daughter ( 10 ) is a wonderful little girl . She has ADHD and with it comes some challenges she is In resource room at school ( both push in and pull out) as well as OT and in school counseling . The start of school is often difficult for her but after a few weeks we are typically good . This year is totally different, she is failing tests left and right and blames everyone but herself.

Just today she got a 60 on a science quiz , typically something she would not fail. Her answers made no sense and she told me it was because we didn’t study enough. I asked her to study multiple times a day for the last week we have known about the quiz and she refused . She has a horrible habit of not being able to take responsibility for her actions and instead blaming everyone else.

I have taken away her iPad , TV , Toys , and now her beloved squishy collection. I have tried talking to her but she just cries and throws a tantrum that you would expect a toddler to throw . Her teacher has spoken to her , the school psychologist , every adult in her life and she insists nothing is going on . She has become so mean to me , telling me she hates me and i am the worst mom for taking her things away . She screams and yells and stomps her feet, my two toddlers don’t even act this way .

I think it is important to note that we are only met with this behavior when she is being requested to do something related to school . I am burnt out , i have fought so hard to get her all of the accommodations she has in school, to make sure her ADHD medication is correct ( looking into a change but wont see the doctor for a few weeks) trying everything to set her up for success and she has put zero effort in for herself. My husband says i should just let her face the natural consequences of her actions, if she chooses to not study and fails tests and assignments thats on her . But it feels so wrong to do that . I am trying to find an outside therapist, but even with excellent insurance finding mental healthcare that is covered is extremely difficult , and in the past she has not participated in therapy enough to benefit from it .

What would you do ? Continue to fight ( both for and with you child ) or let them learn naturally that actions have consequences and not intervene any longer ?

I have a 3 year old and a almost 1 year old. All I want to know is what your target bedtime is. I do not want to give any context. I understand everyones situation is different. I just want to see what other people think what bedtime should be for toddlers.

My 14 year old son loves chatting with me before school, usually right after he wakes up. He comes downstairs in his PJs with messy bedhead and sleepy eyes, and just talks to me about whatever is on his mind for the day. It’s really sweet ❤️

But he has pretty strong morning breath and is a close talker lol! He faces directly to me when he talks which makes his morning breath really noticeable 😂. Overall though his oral hygiene is good, and his breath is fine after brushing. So it’s just a first thing in the morning thing.

It doesn’t really bother me, but I feel like he has no idea lol. But would you mention it so he knows, especially for sleepovers or anytime he might chat with other people first thing in the morning? I don’t want to make him self conscious, but I wonder if he should be aware. Would you say something or leave it alone?

when I’m by myself with her I work to correct it and ask her to say it differently. however sometimes she’ll call out to retired neighbor after running into him and chatting at his mailbox come meet me outside everyday at 3 pm (like when she’s walking home from the bus). would you correct her? or is that just a cute/silly kid thing to say or do?

he just jokingly said I’ll add it to my schedule or I’ll try some of the days and bye sweetie.

then I overthink that I’m rude by not correcting?? just curious would you do anything to correct? she just likes saying hello but then illthink I’m a weirdo/rude for not saying he can’t do that or that’s not neecesssary

Hi
I love and enjoy my now toodler. But no one warned me about their attitudes at this age?? LOL is it just my son?? I get it, at this stage is hard to communicate for them but he just complains about everything and it’s hard to know what they want? I don’t do screens and try my best to have a clam daily routine but he’s all over complaining and idk, should I be doing something different . Is this normal? Will he be like this for a long time. When does it get a bit better ? Is discipline at thing at this age??

Open to any advice or anything you do at this age to teach them good things?

Halp!!

I’ve now not been punched, kicked or bitten for four weeks!

My 6 year old really struggles with anger. To the point he would throw things, trash his room, bite, kick, scream, and so on.

This is more prevalent during school holidays as he likes routine.

School suggest GP (no problems in school), GP suggest school and around I went.

Well, today he was angry. Usual sibling stuff. But he took himself to his room. He told me he was angry, he used his words. He asked for space.

It was glorious! I am so pleased with him.

I know a 6yo shouldn’t hit. It’s probably the passage of time but it has been such a struggle that no one understood

Tell me what I'm doing wrong. My twins are 7 years old and are taking *hours* to fall asleep most nights.

Dinner around 6pm. We generally don't do bedtime snacks. No screen time on weekdays, and its early in the day on weekends.

Most days of the week someone has an extra curricular, but at worst it throws off the following schedule by 15ish minutes:

We start the bedtime routine around 7:45. They get into PJs, brush their teeth, we floss them, then they come downstairs for some family reading. We tuck them in around 8:15, and they get 15 minutes to do a quiet activity in bed under the glow of a red light before lights out.

One has a night light, and often listens to a meditation or story after lights out.

The others' room is pitch black and silent, but they will often sing or talk to themselves.

They're in separate rooms, but can hear each other.

They wake up without alarms around 8am, plus or minus 30 minutes. Their school starts late, so this is okay with our family.

They take forever to fall asleep - some nights they'll lie in bed quietly for over 2 hours. Eventually someone will pipe up and tell me they're having trouble sleeping, and every time I'm shocked to find out they're even awake.

What can I change to better support their sleep?

I have a 3yo and a 3mo and right now bedtime takes forever trying to get them both to sleep one at a time. At some point, i would hope they need the same things to fall asleep - stories, a song, a hug? Bedtime has become a special space where my toddler and I get to bond with no distractions. Just wondering what your bedtime rituals are and how did you handle it with multiple kids. When did you do it all together?

I’ll preface this by saying that I care about courtesy and optics a lot, and I’m probably in my head way too much about this.

We’re having a birthday party for my kid soon and invited their classmates, along with a few kids from another class at the same childcare (we’re friends with the parents). The venue has a cap on how many kids we can invite, and we’ve already hit that limit.

Recently, a mom from childcare invited us to her kid’s birthday party. It’s the same weekend as ours, but on a different day, so we’d be free to go. Our kids are in different classrooms now, but they used to be in the same room when they were younger and still sometimes play together during outside time. When this mom asked her kid who else they wanted to invite from outside their class, my kid’s name came up.

Would it be in poor taste to accept the invitation and go to their party, but not invite them to my kid’s party because we’ve already hit our venue’s guest limit?

Guess I’m just concerned about the optics of it since we’d have some guest list overlap. I don’t think it would be a big deal, especially since my child was invited in the “second tier”, haha. But curious about what might the appropriate thing to do here.

I’m about three weeks postpartum with my first baby and I have no idea what to do throughout the day partially because my baby is so young and they’re feeding so often that I feel like I really can’t get out of the house but I want to. Even if it’s something small but I am also terrified to take them out of the house because of seasonal 🦠 (apparently I can’t say R S V without getting flagged I don’t know ). I just would love some input from parents who have been through this. What are some things I can do maybe places I can go that aren’t gonna put my baby at risk but also will give me an excuse to do something besides sitting on the couch and nursing and changing diapers all day? (Besides going on a walk)

My wife and I have one amazing 2 year old son. He's the light in both of our lives and we love him more than anything. For about a year now we tossed around the idea of having another child. I have always wanted 2 kids. I grew up with 2 other siblings and my wife has a twin sister. Before our son was born, we were in agreement that we both wanted multiple kids.

After my son was born though, things changed. We realized how much money goes into raising a kid. How much time and energy. Not saying our son is a difficult kid, but he hasn't made things easy lol. My wife also had a hard time with post partum. Her mental health was on the decline and she's been dealing with some physical issues from the birth that still persist today. It was hard for both of us, but I hated watching my wife go through those things when there is only so much I can do to help her.

A few months ago we came to the decision that we were ultimately happy with the way our family is now and we decided we were going to be one and done. It was a hard decision for me to make, since for as long as I can remember I always wanted 2 kids, but I didn't want to see my wife go through the same things with another birth, or maybe something even worse. I would much rather have one amazing kid and my wife happy and healthy, than 2 kids and a wife who is struggling with things again, or may not even be there anymore.

We also realized that financially, we would not be able to support another kid properly without needing to completely uproot the life we have now. With daycare costs being outrageous, inflation on the rise, interest rates through the roof, we wouldn't be able to give our kids the lives they deserve. My wife and I both grew up not super well-off and we don't want to have our kids go through that the same way we did.

When we made the decision and started to tell people, our family and friends were always super supportive. They always gave us the reassurance that they supported our decision and were happy that we took our time to think things through and didn't just have another kid because society says you need to have multiple.

People outside our close family and friends, however, have not been supportive. We've heard comments like "He's going to grow up being the weird only child" and "Just have another kid so he won't get lonely and has someone else to play with". Do people think that everyone is just able to have multiple kids and will deal with the consequences and financial burdens? Most people don't know the whole picture, but we don't think we need to explain ourselves to others who aren't in our situation.

People and their comments like that have made me second guess our decision at times, but I love my family the way it is and I'm not going to be shamed into having another kid just to appease others. I recently saw a TikTok about a couple being one and done, and most people in the comments were going on about how that's selfish of the parents and that when the parents are gone they will be all alone. Or those comments talking about how the kid will grow up lonely because they have no one else to play with. My son will have cousins to grow up with. He already has a very outgoing personality and I don't think he will have issues making friends growing up. There are also a lot of kids his age in our neighborhood that he will be able to play with. Yes, he might get lonely at times, but my wife and I plan to do as much as we can to give him the best childhood possible.

A friend couple of ours a little while ago talked about their financial struggles on Facebook, talking about how expensive things are and how they were looking for more work to make some extra money. They already have daughter, who was actually born just a few days after our son, and just recently had another kid. Why do people in that situation do that to themselves? Would people much rather have multiple kids and then struggle to make ends meet instead of living comfortably with less kids?

I know society says that people need to have multiple kids, but that's not always in the stars for every couple. Some people are lucky to even have one kid. My wife and I will not be shamed into have multiple kids just because other people have multiple. There are valid pros and cons to each scenario, but the way people live their lives is up to them and them alone.

To the others that are struggling with the decision to be one and done, just know that behind the very vocal majority that are against it, there are plenty of people out there who understand and support your decision. A lot of people will disagree, but it's not up to you to appease others if it is a detriment to you and your family. Love your child with all of your heart and do everything in your power to give them the best childhood you can.

Your kid makes a friend and becomes really good friends but you don’t get along with the parent as they are passive aggressive and kinda rude and that parent starts taking pictures of them together at school and you don’t know how to approach it? People say I’m being over the top but they never asked me if they could take pictures of my kid with their kid.

Hello all! I need help making and sticking to a routine for a 31 month and almost 7 month old. We seem to have trouble sticking to a routine (probably because I have ADHD) and I think it’s affecting my kids negatively.
Do you have kids at this age and/or age gap? Do you have tips? What did your routine look like?

My oldest is 6. I feel like I am constantly telling him to please think before you do something. For example, the reason why I’m finally reaching out for help, I told him please go to the playroom right now, you and brother are being quite loud, I’m trying to get the baby asleep. He took a loud toy from the playroom, and started playing with it right by my door.

No, I don’t think this is him acting out because of a new baby brother. He did this well before I got pregnant with the third and he made choices like this before he even had a second brother.

Is there any games or a conversation that I can have with him that worked for your kids? I do understand how at this age he is still learning the ins and outs of pushing boundary, but he does start learning that he needs to listen the first time. And I feel like this falls underneath some sort of category of teaching consent as in ‘no means no’

My 6 month old uses the shnuggle infant tub currently for bath time. Once she outgrows it and can sit up on her own or even crawl, I’m considering whether to buy the shnuggle toddler tub or just put her in the regular bath tub. What did you do?

I'm planning to redo my bathroom and would love to install an Italian/walk-in shower. However, I’m hesitating because I have two young kids (4.5 and 1.5) who really enjoy playing in the bath.

I know portable or foldable tubs exist, and kids can still have fun playing in a walk-in shower, but I'm on the fence—it feels like it would really disrupt our evening routine.

What do you guys think? Has anyone made this transition with toddlers? Any regrets or tips?

So my baby is 6 months and is starting solids. Are we good to introduce berries? With all the recalls I can’t keep up. I wanted to give her strawberries. Maybe cooking them?

In the USA so many many food recalls

Coming up in a few months I plan to fly home out of state with my daughter who will be 11 months at the time. Any advice for flying with a baby?

Is it better to do a direct flight or fly for a few hours and then have a layover? What do you guys usually bring for something like that?

I’ll admit some of my anxiety is just that, mine and not my daughters’s. But I could use advice or feedback.

I am a divorced dad of 3 grade school kids and promised each that they can have a friend birthday party when they turn 8. My oldest turns 8 in 3 1/2 weeks and she wanted a roller skating party. I got the invitations filled out and sent her to school with them a week and a half ago. She handed out about 25 there and maybe 5 more at Girl Scouts to any of the scouts who didn’t get one at school. Her brother and sister each handed out one invitation to a friend of their choice.

The party is 3 1/2 weeks out but I’m growing nervous that the turnout will be disappointing. Only two parents have confirmed their child would like to come. Two have already declined. Leaving maybe 20 to 30 who haven’t responded.

My daughter is extremely polite, well behaved, vibrant and is excelling at school. But I’ve noticed she hasn’t made any close female friends and tends to stick to playing and socializing with the boys. I’m worried that this may be disincentivizing some of the kids from coming.

My daughter is mostly oblivious to the RSVP situation but it’s stressful for me. I want my kids to be happy, make friends, have fun. I wasn’t a very outgoing kid at this age but I remember my McDonald’s birthday in 1984 had a number of classmates (I was only allowed to invite a set number). I also make sure we attend parties that they’re invited to whenever possible and am pretty on top of it when it comes to RSVPing. I wouldn’t want one of their classmates to be disappointed on their birthday. This makes it more concerning that several of these same kids’ parents haven’t responded to the invitation.

Am I expecting too much hoping that 20 to 30 parents would have RDVPd “yes” or “no” by now? To me, success would be maybe 6 classmates attending. A head count is also important for planning and I still have no idea how many kids to expect.

If your friend or family member has a downright annoying, attention seeking, or disruptive kid - how do you as the adult behave when their focus is on you? How do you respond when that behavior is focused on your child?

All ive ever heard is that is frowned upon and pointless to parent someone elses kid.

My toddler (20 months old) has started tapping on the TV.

The TV is secured to the TV unit, and it does look pretty solid… but it’s something I bought off Amazon and I’m not 100% sure how secure it is. (It’s something you stick to the TV and to the TV unit, with a sturdy cable in between. So it’s not screwed in but stuck on.)

So I’ve been thinking maybe we should buy a higher TV unit, something more like a sideboard, so he can’t reach the TV. But it’s pretty pricey, and I don’t want to do that unless I need to.

In your experience, how long was your toddler doing stuff like that, and when where they able to understand that they shouldn’t and stopped ?

(For info : the Tv isn’t even necessarily on, and mostly he ignores it. But sometimes I play music on it so it’s just a static picture. Or he just likes to see his own reflection in it even when it’s off.)